I realized I was getting old when I would get excited to purchase household items like a new vacuum cleaner, an air fryer, a nice blender and a food processor. If I have extra money to spend, I’m not going to blow it on a night out with friends (because I need to be home by my bedtime anyway). Instead, I’m focused on making my humble abode as cozy as possible because I love being there.
No matter how old you are, pandas, if you’ve noticed yourself becoming less interested in certain things you used to love, you’re not alone. Whether it’s attending music festivals or traveling on a tight budget, Redditors have recently been discussing the things that just don’t excite them as much as they used to. So enjoy scrolling through their replies, and be sure to upvote the ones that make you feel seen!
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Summer. I swear I used to be out in the sun like a cat every year. Now I just want to hide inside for the hours between 11/4pm. I can't handle the sun on my head/sweat, any of it.
Winter too if you live in AZ. Summer has always sucked here. It used to be less bad in Flagstaff but it's gotten hotter there.
Load More Replies...And my response to those who complain about hot, humid Michigan summers..."10 below zero"..I'll take heat every time.
Absolutely agree! I live in West Michigan and boy can we tell you about cold and snow. Lake effect snow is not a joke, then follow it up with bone chilling cold along with horrid wind chills. Give me May thru September along with the heat and rain.
Load More Replies...I found out myself that I don't enjoy the sun as much as I did in the past. Maybe because I know more about skin cancer. However, I still like summer as I enjoy any season
Honestly? People.
I used to be all about hanging out with friends and causing mischief all the time. Gradually with time, I realized most of them didn't really care for me much as a friend, rather a vehicle for a good time. I was no one's first choice.
Now I'm at a time in my life where I prefer peace and solace over pleasing other people, and I don't regret it one bit.
Hot_Satisfaction7378:
Totally get that. Prioritizing your own peace and well-being is so important as you get older. Quality over quantity with friendships for sure.
🤣🤣🤣🤣 I absolutely LOVE The IT Crowd!
Load More Replies...I was never a people's person. I never had more than 1 or 2 close friends. Now it is easier for me to say no to social gatherings. I am aspergers and if overstressed in a situation I may react badly
I've spent the better part of five decades trying to be nice to people and to just get along with everyone. I reckon we're all allocated a bag of phucks to give out when we're born - some people's bags are bigger than others - and mine have finally run out.
I say a field, and mine have all been harvested, they have all been used. My field is empty and I like it that way.
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Socialising and people in general. Love being at home pottering about.
Yeah, not sure if typo of "puttering" or if this is a phrase I'm unaware of.
Load More Replies...I hate small talk and all that. There's no more mentally challenging situation than trying to care about things people that you hardly or don't know talk about things you don't care about.
Not that I had interest but I have less and less patience for drama. I used to be that friend that listens to your problems but I'm so burned out that I can't even bother anymore.
Same. I have this friend I used to call once every day to chec on her because of her toxic family, but after too many years of this I decided my mental health is my priority and she kept making the same mistakes every time, so in reality I wasn't helping: I was enabling. About 8 months ago decided to distance my calls, like three times a week, then two, then one, now we talk one a month for an hour and she's way better. Again, I wasn't helping her besides giving advice she wouldn't follow or just vent. She needed to do it for herself.
When young I thought being a sympathetic listener to a woman's problem was what being a good man was supposed to do. Eventually I learned there are a lot of screwed up women in the world, maybe caused by their previous men, and learned how to spot them and avoid the stress.
I'll listen, but I never actively ask about people's issues. If people aren't concerned about what you're going through, there's no point in being concerned about what they're going through.
I just start laughing when I hear drama. People get angry and I say "sorry it is self-inflicted, really. You can hate me but ... if person X is hurting you, ditch them out your life instead of persisting." Same goes for myself. I tell everyone my drama but I open with "apparently I love drama or find it amusing so here's my latest.." and when people laugh at my drama and tell me to move on, I just say "absolutely right but apparently I love it too much to leave it so... yeah.".
Very true, why can't people just get over their dramas? They are not teenagers anymore...
Social media. I used to find myself posting all the time on Instagram and all that now I’m like posting every couple months. I honestly even get tired of scrolling on Instagram or TikTok. I feel like everyone is trying to be the same aesthetic and everything on socials nowadays seems unattainable.
Cucharamama:
I was looking for this. I used to be the annoying person filming their food before eating it. I’m so over social media.
I have a Facebook that I check once or twice a year. To keep up with old friends. I hate what social media has become, so I just don't use it much.
Social media has turned into a conglomerate of advertising and emotional people freaking out over nonsense.
I'm special! I'm doing it backwards? Never had any SoMe, except FB. And I created that account because a game required a FB account to create an account. I think I maybe post once every 2 years or so. And I got scared away from forums after a joke got misunderstood, resulting in me getting death threats. But in the last couple of days I've posted more than the last 5 years. And it's because of you lovely pandas! My first real comment (a jokey one) currently has 93 upvotes! You have awakened something in me, for better or worse :). You have been warned! But seriously I luv you all, platonically of course. Unless...
If a person doesn't have my direct phone number I don't want to be found, I'm over social media.
I used to check my FB everyday because that was how my family communicated most of the time, just so I can keep my Mom updated. Mom passed in December 2020 and I haven't been on FB since October 2021, which is right after I came home from the hospital after almost dying from Covid and Double Pneumonia. The only reason I got sick was because 2 members of my family lied about being tested and instead exposed me to Covid while they were sick and I was going through chemotherapy at the time. I had taken every single precaution that my Oncologist told me to do and I went NC with almost my entire family, because they thought it was no big deal and that I should get over it. I spent 34 days in the hospital and was on supplemental oxygen at home for 6 months while I recovered after being discharged from the hospital. They can all kiss my a*s and NO I will NOT forgive them any time soon.
I rarely check my social media because at one point I realized that almost everybody was just lying about their fabulous lives.
I see a lot of people saying they’re losing interest in TV and movies. I’ve had a theory for a while that TikTok and short form video content is turning everyone into gnats.
I admit I do enjoy shorts on YT and reels on FB, but they'll never replace tv shows or movies for me.
I've disliked TV (reality shows, sitcoms, etc..) for a long time....until Jim Parsons' "Young Sheldon". Well written, great cast. Not so much a fan of BBT, but YS? Classic! Even many "Christians" I know love it even though it calls religion into question.
Load More Replies...Part of the problem is that script writers are writing at a level to reach the lowest common denominator in the viewing audience. Dialogue is at an eight grade language level at best. Most humor is at the goofy and silly level. It is rarely at the clever witty level. The British shows are much higher though.
I've noticed this too. I have theories: 1) They all feel the same now. 2) I've seen a LOT more movies and shows so I know all the tropes and it feels predictable. 3) I'm more aware of the time that I could be spending doing other things, like crafting, or reading, or SLEEPING. 4) My attention span is different. 5) Maybe a combination of these?
I've blocked tiktok and youtube shorts because I think it teaches short attention spans.
I guess it depends what you mean by "watch". I'll have something on while I am cleaning, folding, cooking but Im always doing something
Load More Replies...Podcasts and audio books means I can work in the garden or sit outside in the summer working on my crafts.
Having lots of plans on a weekend. Seems like I need 1-2 weekends at home every month. Partially to catch up on home tasks and partially to relax. I don’t feel refreshed Monday AM if I spent the whole weekend out and about.
I could do with a three day weekend - 1 day for doing household chores, 1 day for for socialising/hobbies, and 1 day for doing absolutely nothing.
I worked four days a week for years and that's exactly how I did it. It was the perfect schedule.
Load More Replies...Recently, my weekends are just errands, sleep, read, home most of the time basically.
as I've gotten older, I've realized I need one day a week with just me. I can sit and read, watch TV, or work in the yard. No people.
Personally, Budget trips. I want convenience and comfort whenever I travel. I prefer hotels now over low budget ones.
Prestigious-Slide-73:
Agreed. We used to share rooms with friends when we were young, poor, and just starting out. The last straw was long after that period in our lives when we stayed in a shitty hotel room with said friends, and one single friend ended up on the floor on an air mattress.
I said never again. We can afford a real room of our own. There is no need to share anymore. So, if we travel with other people we always get our own room now.
I don't need top-of-the-line luxury, but I do want a proper, clean, working bathroom, working heat/AC, a comfortable bed, and not next to anyone but my husband.
Depends on what you call budget. I've always hated the idea of hostels, but I'm totally fine with a basic hotelroom (basic meaning: the shower works, I can go to the toilet and sleep without getting bedbugs) or camping with basic facilities (i.e. flush toilet). Nothing's as cheap as a hostel I presume, but camping can be pretty cheap, depending on where you are.
I was so over camping more than 30 years ago. It was fun when I was a kid, but not so much when I had my own kids. Can't stand the bugs or the repellent.
Load More Replies...I'm 59 years old and i have been working at least one job since I was 14. There is no way in hell I will fly in economy any more. Yes, I am fortunate to be able to pay extra to fly premium economy. It's worth the added expense to arrive at my destination in good shape.
I learned the hard way (by flying from the US to Athens) that I am now too old for economy (unless it's a short flight).
Load More Replies...At 58 I'm still flying Economy because I can't afford more. But I reserve a good seat in advance. Also I've stopped taking cheap a*s flights with horrible layovers. In the train I only travel 1st class. Camping, stopped that when I was 30. And IF I stay at an AirBnB I need to at least have a private WC.
Depends on the individual place. My brother used to have an Airbnb, it was nicer than my house, the bathroom was amazing.
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Big crowds, theme parks.... Use to love rides but hate the thought of standing in line for an hour in the hot sun, walking everywhere lol.
Used to LOVE roller coasters when I was a kid. Now at 48, they beat the s**t out of me
I used to love them too but my neck and back now strongly disagree.
Load More Replies...Friends last summer went to Washington DC and did the whole tourist thing. Crowd exposure everywhere. They both got COVID. It is still a highly transmittable virus. Even if it does not kill you, you will be laid up in bed for a month.
Last year the lines at canadas wonderland were super short one day because it was the hottest day of the year. It was so fun I almost got heatstroke though
O have a card now so I can go in the disability entrance, otherwise I would never ever go again and I enjoy it so much, together with a child.
I'm too overweight now for the safety bars to close. I also can't stand in those long lines. I do miss having the opportunity to scream as loud as I can and want.
Other people`s opinion about me.
What if they think you pedo? Just let it slide. Then get life ruined?
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Spending my time with people that are lukewarm about me.
Once you have good friends that you can count on, it is just not the right thing to do to hang out with flaky, disrespectful or fair weather people.
People are overrated. Since I don't have friends i just got used to mind my own business in peace and solitude. Society es a hell
I've never done that thankfully! There's only so much time in a day. You realize that more and more as you get older. Don't waste time on people who don't deserve it.
I've dealt with severe (!) separation anxiety almost all my life and this, or course, made me hold on to people that didn't even deserve to be spoken to. But something happened after a car accident with a moose right before Covid. Not sure exactly what happened but I no longer care! And I don't care about trying to impress people so that they stick around.
THIS. I've been so used to my tight group of friends that it's really hard to go on other groups where you can sense that they don't have respect for each other.
Yeah, im not big on people either. They get on my nerves so much. I have people that I know, but don't consider them as friends.
This describes nearly everyone I've ever encountered...including my own family. Dad and a few peeps from HS excluded.
It’s weird, but I have the hardest time maintaining interest in TV shows anymore. Like I can’t do it. I used to love so many shows and there are so many good looking shows out there, but I can’t sit and watch for more than 10 minutes without losing interest! Same thing is starting to happen with movies and it is making me so sad! Like, I can watch a movie in the theater, but at home forget it! I’ll turn something on for 20 minutes and I’m done — I’ll watch another 20 minutes tomorrow haha.
I have to agree with tis one - 20 minutes in and I'm on IMDB looking up one of the actors then before I know it the end credits are rolling while I'm watching a cat video...
I can't deal with series anymore at all. The never ending cliff hangers and the constant dragging things out so more episodes or introducing a new twist so that it's going to be another season. Then you never get all the answers, except a few rare examples where they actually finish the story they've been telling and properly end the story.
I feel like it's because the quality of the shows and movies has deteriorated. There is a particular crime drama TV show that I have loved for years and still enjoy the re-runs, but the new episodes don't grab me at all. The new characters are so bland, and the few remaining old characters have lost their edge. Many of the new movies seem to be the same old thing rehashed. It's sad.
It does feel like the writers are running out of ideas. I also think we have so many choices. There are dozens of streaming platforms and video sites, and with the prevalence of short-form content, our attention span is not what it used to be. We have a hard time getting engaged in anything that doesn't immediately grab us because there is an infinite quint of other content to watch.
Load More Replies...I find older movies get more my attention ; the plot, the rhythm, the details are different. 80's and 90's work best for me
I am doint the same for older tv shows. Love Boat 8s good to clean to ( dont miss much when you go out of room) .
Load More Replies...I'm the opposite. I rarely go see movies in the theater anymore. Tickets are too much, snacks are outrageous and
The crowds are too much, I'd rather watch at home, in my comfortable chair, my preferred snacks, pausing when I want/need to. It's so much better
Load More Replies...For me its thats I can't sit still doing nothing but watch tv. These days I have a serie/movie/youtuber playlist running while I play a game where I don't need to concentrate on the sound for clues. Really can't just hang on the couch having nothing to do but look at whats on the tv.
That's probably because a lot of those shows are predictable and repetitive
New hobbies-- I play an instrument, I knit, spin yarn, embroider, and do watercolours. I unsubscribed to several publications because they are always trying to get readers to see more of the latest trends and I am like, "I have more yarn than I will use before I die... I don't need new paints unless I need specific colors of the brands I presently use..." It isn't that I am "set in my ways," I just don't want more. I am happy with what I have.
In our American buy-buy-buy economy, this may sound awful, but it is a relief to be here.
I love to craft!! Making centerpieces, wreaths, bouquets with dollar store/thrifted/yard sale flowers. Using and/or reusing supplies/items cheaply found, trying new things but putting my own spin on it, etc. Who cares what's new & trendy (& usually expensive). I enjoy what I'm doing 😉
I have bags of yarn I'll never use. You wanna come by and pick up some?
I've purchased so many patterns, I can't die for at least 75 years. :D
Look for a fiber arts guild around you. I have friends that spin, and it's fascinating.
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Working hard.
Admittedly, I’m in a good place now and have things set up so I don’t have to work hard but if a project coming up is hard, I just don’t want to give it the energy anymore to try and do it.
I’d see a hard project previously and want to conquer it but now, that energy is for my wife and kids.
this, my boss doesn't understand why I don't want to take on project work anymore. I don't get paid extra for it, so no thanks. I'll save that extra time for my family.
Unfortunately the harder you work, the more you get dumped on by your employer. Pace yourself and don't kill yourself.
Hard work is cool, but the work-life-balance needs to be "there" sooner or later.
I was never into working hard trend, just doing my thing so everything is well, correct, yet done enough with nild effort. It's senseless to give all my energy to something that doesn't benefit me as much in the end. I rather save it up for things that I really enjoy.
Having a career and climbing the corporate ladder. I just want to make enough money to feel comfortable and don’t want work to rule my life anymore.
I love this attitude in the younger generations. It's way better than the 80-hour week it seems a lot of corporations want. Children were for weekends, during the week they were, eat dinner, do homework, and go to bed. I'm glad things are changing.
Competing against others.
FunnyNichefinder77:
I hear you. The older I get, the more I just don’t care about the whole 'competition thing.' Especially at work, the rat race feels totally pointless. It's just a way to dehumanize people and turn them into tools.
I've been offered several supervisorial roles and I've turned each one down. Those days are long gone and I just don't have the patience anymore.
They call it a promotion without telling you the things it will promote in your life.
Load More Replies...That's every workplace. Unfortunately if I say anything, it's ignored. Then someone will say the exact same thing I suggested and get the credit for it. My solution is to say nothing. Laugh when things don't work out.
Any and all celebrity content! I used to have a People magazine subscription, could tell you who was doing what. I consumed lots of celeb gossip, or “what perfume does Madonna use” garbage. Plus, I knew celeb names, what movies they were in, etc. Now? I know absolutely nothing. The best part though is that I DNGAF!!!
I don't know why people get caught up in the lives of celebrities. They're not our friends and it doesn't affect our lives at all. Unless they've done something absolutely heinous, who cares?
Most of them got rich with very little skill or talent. The only reason they are celebs is the media has such bad taste.
Load More Replies...I don't even know who most of the current music or celebrities are and don't really care.
I remember that when Meg Richardson (a character in a soap - Crossroads, yes I am that old) got married in the story line, viewers sent wedding congratulations cards....
But for some reason there are several BP writers who subject us to celebrity c**p daily. With all the constant downvotes you think they'd learn how to read the room.
Crowds. Constant socialization. Drinking. Working. Other people. The news.
Being forced to socialize with people I don't know, and likely have nothing in common with. Business social events are a breeze, because I know why I'm there and what I need to do.
AudleyTony:
Totally get that. It’s exhausting trying to make small talk with strangers who don’t share your interests.
I'm good for 5-10 minutes, and then I'm off home.
Load More Replies...True. I learned what doesn't benefit me is not worth my time. And forcing myselg to talk to people I'll probably never talk to again? Waste.
Going out. Meeting new people. FOMO is not a thing for me anymore.
I wish I could go out more often. I just don't think I'd like it. And I'm inside now with all my stuff, so...
I still make a point to go to events because you meet new people and may as a result get a new business opportunity. It's worth doing unless you're rich.
Career advancement. Ive peaked. I dont want or need anything else. In fact, I want less.
Friends. Need fewer.
Sports. Just takes up time and brings nothing in return.
phlame64:
I haven't peaked in my career, and I'm honestly thankful for the moment I realized I'll never do so. Life's too short for the rat race.
Career advancement is literally making friends, or pretending to be friends, with those in management. I have the misfortune of going to my job, doing it and not acting like I'm everyone's best friend. So guess who gets worked dumped on them while others get promoted?
I missed the boat for higher advancement ages ago. So now I really don't care and just do my 40 hours a week and get paid
I told my boss (who I was friendly with) that all I wanted to do was my job and go home, didn't want to manage anyone. At the time they agreed with me but then in my review wrote "lacks drive". Cool.
We have to set annual goals, my colleague has been in her job for 25 years, she; she is still pretty hardworking and passionate, but how much more developed do they think she is going to get?
Load More Replies...Yeah, I'm in no race to climb any corporate ladder. That just seems like a sure way to spend all your time getting there and no time to yourself.
The only way I can go higher in my particular field is to make components for spaceflight. Sounds cool till you talk to someone who does it. Pass.
I DO NOT like being in charge of other people; I'd rather mind my own thing at work :)
Holding on to people, things, and places that no longer align with the changing seasons of my life.
I love so many people. There are things I care a lot about. There are places that will forever pull at my mind, asking for me to return.
But I can't. And I can't take it all with me. I can't carry it all. I can't tend to it fairly, I can't give the attention needed. My season has changed.
Growth is sometimes a nod and a tear and a wave goodbye. It's discomfort. It's missing. It's letting go. It's moving on.
And, ya know, sometimes that's just for the best. It's life.
I'm losing interest in what isn't meant for me. I think it's a good thing.
"Losing interest in what isn't meant for me." Man that hits home so good.
Oh yes. I spent the past few months purging memories. Does my son REALLY need photos, letters, etc. that mean nothing to him upon my demise? It would be selfish on my part.
Thank you for reminding me, (been procrastinating here) I need to sort out the eaves. Ugghh....but I don't want to make the kids have to do it after we're gone.
Load More Replies...We all think we have the best stuff ever. Then we die and our kids get a dumpster...
Gadgets. I don’t wanna keep up with what’s new anymore..l’ll stick with what I have and use them until they break.
nightmareFluffy:
In the 2000s and before, it made sense to upgrade gadgets because of leaps in usability. Newer cell phones had better reception and quality and larger memory. Newer computers could play video and handle larger spreadsheets, etc.
Now, it's like the new phone has an extra camera and 10% more performance from something that already works perfectly for about $1000 out of my pocket. I'm still using my digital camera from 2013 because newer ones aren't all that better, and I'm still using my older flatscreen TV. There are just far fewer reasons to upgrade now.
All phones do basically the same thing. Why update your phone every year? Doesn't matter if you have Apple or Android.
I had to get a new phone a few months ago. They only reason I need to get a new phone was the battery wasn't keeping a charge. If I could have just change the battery I would have.
Load More Replies...All my electronics (mobile, laptop and TVs) are over 5 years old and I'm not going to replace them until they die. It's just a waste of money and resources to keep upgrading just to say I have the latest version? Pfft! Naw, I'm not adding to the problem.
I use stuff until it dies or falls apart, clothes, electronics, cars, appliances, etc. Why should I spend money on getting something new if what I have still works fine?
Most gadgets are obsolete by the time they're available to buy. They're no longer simple or straightforward to operate and they don't last for 5 minutes any more. If there's one thing that stresses me out it is having to set up a new device. Oh and absolutely nothing functions without the damned Internet any more. I wish we could go back at least 30 years.
I own my phone for 6 years already, I was actually considering getting "better" one, but realized I don't need it. The one I have still does work well, takes photos and videos that look good enough, etc. I doubt I'd do myself any service buying new one. The same goes for my PC. Does it still run all I need? No reason to upgrade.
As long as you are fine with getting hacked. No updated software is never good and vendors stop providing them after a certain period. Apple is an exception, they provide free updates until your device can’t handle them.
Load More Replies...Yes to this. I used to get a new laptop every three years. They're not advancing so fast or so much any more, so the one I'm using now is just fine. I have a new one that I bought more than a year ago, that is much smaller and lighter. I carry it when I travel, but have just never gotten around to migrating to it fully.
I've never had an IPhone. I have a laptop and remain perfectly happy.
The past.Letting go of the past was the best thing I've done .Letting go of most of my friends was not as hard as I thought.
We only spoke about stuff we did years ago.
What's the f*****g point?
Here's to whatever time I have left and the new stories.
In total agreement. Don't let past mistakes and foolishness weigh you down. Learn the lessons and move on. Everybody has baggage like this.
I've never been to a single school reunion. Sometimes you graduate from your school classmates as much as you do from your school.
I have always had incredible emotional constancy. If I was friends with you 20 years ago, I'll still be a friend now. However, I now accept that friendships sometimes have a best before date. I had a friend that I met in 1989. We lived for years in the same city and saw each other a lot. Then, she moved away and I moved away. A while ago, I sent her a message on Facebook. Instead of responding, she deleted our entire chat thread. I was surprised, but then remembered she always insisted on defining her own life completely and had obviously moved past me. And it didn't hurt. We are, apparently, no longer friends and I'm fine with that.
My career as a teacher.
I love helping and educating others.
However, lately a have been getting more and more disrespectful students. I want to help them to achieve their life goals! I put in the work so that they learn and stay engaged. But…they just want to be fed the answers and not learn to think for themselves.
The Google Generation. People think they can look everything up. We should be teaching critical thinking in school and not just facts.
I teach a course that was designed to encourage critical thinking, problem solving, and reasoning. Every semester I have students who complain that we aren't 'teaching' them (because we aren't feeding them the answers), then the teachers are in trouble because of the complaints and low pass rates, so we have to make it easier. It's really frustrating, I'm not allowed to hold students accountable
Load More Replies...I've been in classes where every single person was engaged, curious, asking questions, and sometimes so involved and excited they'd be spontaneously standing. Oh, and these were all adults.
“more and more disrespectful students “. I got so sick of it, I quit..
As a teacher, I found that one way to get students to be interested in the class was to be interested in them. People that age follow any discussion more closely if that discussion may suddenly be about them.
The whole party scene feels like a chore now and I'd rather just chill with friends at home.
There is no way I'm going in a place like this at my age lol I'll be home chilling.
Drinking. I feel so much better without it.
SubjectC:
I absolutely love how much the public sentiment on drinking is shifting. Alcohol use is down 20% amongst Gen Z, although I think it's probably because they don't socialize as much, which isn't good either, but even amongst millennials like me, I'm seeing more and more people giving up alcohol.
The whole drinking culture. That people have to go to pubs and bars and drink all night. Its so boring. After one drink, I've usually had enough, but I have gone off cola drinks as well. I'd rather have a cup of tea!
My nephews will not drink at all if they are driving, not even one glass with dinner. I'm so proud of them
My kids are both past the age (13) where I'd be sneaking cider and MD20:20 with friends and they're not even slightly curious. They think alcohol is for loosers as do most of their friends. Sadly though most Gen Z at my kids' school are vape addicts instead so that's another problem.
I never got the point of drinking outside getting drunk. Sure, there are people who like the taste of it, but is it really worth it? I don't think so. For me, alcohol is nasty, it mostly makes things go wrong and I find a little sad that some people cannot imagine having fun without drinking some. And the same people look at me like I was some anomaly when I say I can do all sorts of crazy things while being totally sober.
Alcohol is a known neuro toxin. One would think that the first time one gets drunk and the muscles lack coordination, the speech is slurred, the vision is fuzzy, that maybe drinking that junk is not such a good idea. Not any amount is healthy.
Smoking weed. It hasnt done anything positive for my mental health. It's just a distraction. When you stop smoking, all the issues are still there. It's just another expensive addiction/crutch.
I find it strange how commenters hate on cigarette smokers (it IS a nasty habit/addiction), but seem to be fine with consuming weed. I doubt "passive weeding" is that much healthier than passive smoking, and at least cigarettes don't inhibit the ability to safely operate a car afterwards.
Load More Replies...I recently learned that burning marijuana produces carbon monoxide. Just what we all need to inhale on a daily basis.
But that's what makes people cool! Especially if they make it their whole personality.
Wooo hooooo! They legalized weed! now....what was I going to say/ thinking???
Dealing with people. Don’t get me wrong I’m a nice person but the minute someone wants and yearns for drama and other things - I have nothing but indifference.
Trying to maintain friendships with people you don’t have anything in common with anymore. It’s sad to me that we drifted, but honestly the effort that goes into it is exhausting. I’m fine with one or two close friends who really get me. I don’t need to force a relationship with people I went to school with 25 yrs ago.
when personalities no longer align then the paths need to fork ,we all change and grow in different directions
I actually tried to get back in friendship with my childhood friend after more than 15 years not talking. We were really close, basically grew up together. It didn't go well. It was nice to talk to him after such long time, but our personalities and hobbies didn't align anymore.
People pleasing.
I really recommend mindfulness, really helpful, along with a confidence and self esteem courses with CBT (I'm not talking about crystal waving tree hugging stuff,not that there's anything wrong with that if it floats ya boat however it tends to be a sticking plaster that doesn't get to why the sticking plaster was needed in the first place) proper behavioural psychology is a great route (not Tiffany from tik tok or namaste Nathan from Instagram types either)
Long ago I decided not to worry whom I offend. This is not to say that I spew slurs all over the place, but I refuse to walk on eggs.
I will always listen if I offend. But I may not change. And I will not worry.
Load More Replies...I'm fine with me people pleasing. It's people who are dissatisfied with the results.
Relationships. Everyone around me is getting married and settling down, and I just don't care. A lot of the ones I see are in situations where the relationship is falling apart, and they keep it together with duct tape and a will. They're settling and think they're happy. Reminds me of a quote from Sóren Kierkegaard: "We settle for misery we can handle and call it happiness".
Hey, sometimes that "misery you handle" is a lot better than the alternative.
This one is more complex. In my case, I always wanted to have a relationship and live regular life others do. Unfortunately, didn't work for me and probably never will. On one side, I see all the people around me switching from relationship to relationship, encountering dramas, etc., that's not something I'd like to experience. On other side... Is it really all better without it? Closing your heart and drifting off to isolation might be not the best way of life too.
Working. I'm 28 now and when I first started in my sector as a 21 year old I was obsessed with climbing the ladder and being important in my organisation. I loved being in management meetings with senior people, I wanted to discuss ideas, create new processes. I wanted to be someone in the know that could lead and manage a team to a new direction. I would crave projects where I could show off my talent and put myself out there. I lived for people in important roles recognising my talents and saying nice things about my work.
But now? Meh. I've seen how management works and I'm sick of it, I'm sick of working towards something that really doesn't make much of a difference and mean anything at all. I'm sick of the endless Monday to Friday, 9-5 constant workload. I don't care about my organisation, I don't care about climbing the ladder and I don't care about impressing people. I really don't care about working my a*s off 9-5 all week for a brief respite over the weekend. It all just seems so small and unimportant, we work every single day for what? A bit of money that just goes on bills. I want to be out there living, seeing new things, I want to explore the world.
But because I can't do that I just want a job that pays well and isn't too boring.
Management is just a group of friends who fall into the same groupthink. They don't care about what's going on or listening to those doing actual work.
If you think about it, management today is simply plundering the company without adding value. I know this because I was a consultant engineer for many years and saw how mangers were only interested in their bonus which was paid out more or less automatically. The most successful companies were those without bonus schemes.
Load More Replies...You're over working at 28? I hate to tell you this but you've likely got 30 years plus still to go, so you'd better get used to it.
Find an apprenticeship while you're not too old. There are plenty of interesting and high paying ones. I'm a toolmaker but if I had it to do over again, I'd probably be a millwright or a watchmaker.
My friend group. As a girl in an all girls group, I realised it was becoming toxic. Everyone talks behind everyone's back and it's exhausting and fake. I wish I had made better friend choices when I was younger.
I had a friend group like this in highschool. I was no better than them to be honest with regards to the gossip. It became so tiring after a time. I'm glad I now have a friend group that just let's everyone be themselves. I never have to worry someone's been talking s**t or whatever, everyone's incredibly genuine.
Pretty natural to do this as you get into your 30’s. Interests mature and move around
Load More Replies...If someone gossips and talks badly about others to you , they will gossip and talk badly about you to others
Yep. I had a friend group of 5. As soon as one started talking s**t about another one, I dropped them. I have one great friend now. We trust each other with our lives.
I have a few friends that I've met and kept over the years. Those are enough.
I had a group of friends in my early 20s, I never gossiped or talked wrong about anyone, been all supportive and friendly. Then I learned how many people talked behind my back about me and probably even tried to indirectly cast me out, cause they felt I don't fit. It hurt me as I learned the truth from one of them, who was drunk enough to be exceptionally honest with me.
Video games, specifically MMORPGs. Was crazy about them when I was younger, now that I'm older, I just want to chill, and the thought of having to grind for hours upon hours is just exhausting.
Mitchel-256:
There are tons of chill games out there, let alone ones more focused on fun and experience than extreme time commitments and becoming a second full-time job.
I'm finally getting a Switch! It'll be here Tuesday. I can't buy any games until next month, but I'll have the Switch! First game? Little Kitty Big City. Second game? Stardew Valley.
Check out the cozygamers subreddit. So many beautiful, peaceful games suggested there. It's very friendly and supportive.
Load More Replies...I find myself going back to the easily accessible games of the past more and more. Huge complex games are great but sometimes mindless stuff like Tetris is thd way to go.
Focusing on starfield atm...I don't care for multi-player unless they're sitting next to me in a house lol.
Losing interest in consuming multiple modes of content. At any one point my brain can only do one book and one tv show. But not YouTube, tv show, book, instagram, podcast, etc.
Too much to watch to ever pay attention to, and I kind of lost interest. Bought up loads of old films and CDs and spend my time listening and watching nostalgic stuff mainly.
My dad let Mom and I know that a lot of old movies are on Youtube now, so we started watching the Charlie Chan movies. What a different world.
Load More Replies...I avoid Facebook like Chernobyl, I very rarely get on X anymore, I don't do Instagram or TikTok. I'll watch a few things on YouTube but am not glued to it.
YouTube videos make me crazy. I'll look up how to do something, and the person blabs for 10 minutes before the content. I have no patience. At least TikTok gets to the point.
One series at a time. In the past, I was consuming probably even 5 ongoing series at once. Today, I cannot, as I rather give my full attention to one.
Dogs. They're really annoying and needy. I don't hate them but I really don't want to own one ever.
That's why I prefer cats. Less in need of your love demonstrations. I like dogs, I enjoy dogsitting friend's dogs, but I don't want to own one.
True, they are questionable, but way more accurate is my 'rule' : I don't trust people that dogs don't like ( this never failed )
Load More Replies...If there are no dogs in heaven, I don't want to got there. A good dog is a better companion than any human. But dogs are like people. There are good natured ones and bad natured ones.
Video Games. Been slowly losing interest. Was a Mythic Raider in WoW for years, but after the s**t shows that were BFA and SL, I gave up on Blizzard. I even went and tried the “free trial” for DF and it screamed same old Blizzard. Since then it has been a steady decline, unable to find that spark in gaming. I’ve started working out instead and it’s done wonders for my anxiety and health problems. Go figure. The thing that used to help me get away from anxiety, was helping cause it.
When I was you ger I was somewhat into videos games, now that I am older and retired, even though I have the time I, just don't have the desire to play video games anymore.
Traveling. I use to be excited for cross country trips, trips abroad, or even road trips. I loved the journey and the entire process, but now I’m like gimme milligrams and wake me when we are there.
Lady_DreadStar:
Yeah, this. I took two loooong road trips out of state this past month. This is something that would have excited me 10 years ago, and I am now nursing an angry tailbone from all the sitting and road bumps. 😠
This one I don't agree with. We are almost retired and are travelling more. Now that we've done our part (raising kids and playing by the book), we can now spend the money and energy enjoying each other's company. We have a holiday booked for Rhodes in a couple of months and I haven't been this excited in years!
I've had it with flying. Long waits, liquid limits, unexpected fees. Airport security is necessary, but IMHO they go overboard - I had cuticle scissors confiscated once. When you're driving, 1) you are Large and In Charge, 2) you can make a spontaneous side trip, 3) no worries about losing luggage, 4) nobody confiscating your cuticle scissors.
Load More Replies...I still enjoy traveling, but now I do it at my own pace. If I don't want to visit that church or museum, then I don't feel obliged to any more.
I'm not even that old, but the thought of packing things up and driving on down the road or hopping on a flight is exhausting.
I love traveling but my limit on driving is 7hs. After that I'm booking a flight. Especially if it's under $200.
I can relate to this one. I used to want to see the world. Now it just seems like a lot of work.
Fashion (crocs and socks?) yeah I’m out!
"I base most of my fashion taste on what doesn't itch." - Gilda Radner
Load More Replies...Only very young and shallow people pay any attention to how people dress.
Oh geez, the drinking thing. I'm 57, and when I was in my teens I fell into a party crow and felt unfulfilled if I didn't get drunk three times in a week. And why? Booze tastes nasty and you have to deal with a hangover--or wonder what the hell you did to wake the next morning with you clothes on, sand in you bath tub and vomit on the dash of your car. (Yes, this happened to me.)
I bought my crocs for gardening, but they have been useful for other things as well. I'm pleasantly surprised.
Social get togethers of larger groups.
I got tired of people not wanting to have an exchange of ideas. They would go on and on about themselves, but when I tried to share what was going on in my life, I would be ignored. So why bother inviting me?
The latest Hits.
Sure, there can be that one newly released song I actually like, but I am not ashamed not knowing who (insert latest one hit wonder act) is.
I used to be music mad but these days I don't care much for any music.
As a jazz pianist and electronic music composer, I found Spotify to be the greatest invention for music lovers. The program makes suggestions based on what one has listened to. I have discovered hundreds of unknown artists who are fantastic musicians. It has reinvigorated my interest in listening to music. I had that excitement when I was young and first discovering music. It is nice to recapture that excitement about new music. One just needs to explore outside the pop music realm to find tons of interesting and challenging music to listen to.
I prefer the oldies. IMHO pop music started to decline in the 90s.
A few years ago, I was like "who the heck is some Post Malone"? Then I realized I'm not into latest hits anymore.
I've not enjoyed much new music since 2000,1997 was the last greatest year for me in terms of good tunes.... don't get me wrong there's been the odd tune thats got my feet tapping and my hips wiggling (please don't hold that image for the sake of your own sanity 😆😆😆) but very few
I’ve always prefer something like game nights/bonfires over partying. Idk I’ve never really partied, but just hearing stories about embarrassing yourself, getting taken advantage of, and your “friends” not having your back just throw me off. I’m sure it’s not all like that, but it’s not worth the risk for me. Anyway, the thing I’ve lost interest in is probs amusement parks. As a kid, I loved them. I’m still not afraid of roller coasters, but they make me feel sick now.
Trying to have a ton of friends.
I've struggled with that: why don't I have tons of friends the way other people have? Then I realised that actually, I don't want tons of friends, it's just that having them makes you seem 'succesful' in life apparently. Tons of friends would drain me to the point of extinction. I've 4 friends and that's enough. We talk and see each other regularly, sometimes with months in-between, but I'm never left feeling drained.
Wait until you are old and retired. At that point, no one is interested in making new friends. Conversation is hard as half the old people one meets needs hearing aids and refuses to wear them.
Load More Replies... Outcomes. I now do my best and then do my best to let go of the outcome.
Slow_Routine977:
Yesss!!! I also realized that the fun part of life is actually the 'bad' outcome or failure! Like, who cares, either way, I’m doing this because I want to.
You don't have control over everything, so you don't have complete control over the outcome. You can do everything right and still fail.
Anime. I've seen hundreds, loved it for a long time. I still enjoy manga because there's a bigger variety of cool philosophical or drama titles for adults but each year I feel like I'm more and more too old for anime and the things that anime fans find funny, which are mostly jokes about how one girl's boobies are smaller than the other's and that's comedy, apparently.
Losing interest in a website that’s a mess of pop-up ads, ads with teeny tiny close buttons, ads that freeze the page when you click the close button, integrated ads that make the page bounce around as they load, intrusive ads for other articles on this same website (I’m already here, okay?) etc. Eventually the juice ain’t worth the squeeze.
Already 10-15 years ago, when I saw friends using their computer without ad blocker, I was shocked. It's annoying to be overloaded like that. So now, I don't even dare to imagine. How can people stay and be interested in the internet with all these ads!?
Load More Replies...At 73, I agree with all of these. I still love life and am very happy. But I live it on my terms. If someone doesn't like me, so what? I always said I wanted to be an eccentric old lady. And I've achieved my goal!
... losing interest in 20-somethings saying they're "older now" and speaking of how much they've grown past a thing. Didn't they finish puberty not too long ago?
"Staying informed," because it's just people shoving bad news in my face to get my money or my votes. I'm not going to bury my head in the sand, but I'm much more selective about what I put my energy into.
Thank you! I already know who my measly vote is going to, all these lame ads that everyone is tossing around is just fluff. If someone hasn't already made the choice they aren't paying attention. I firmly believe that a silly @ssed ad put up by some idiot in a cowboy hat should not be the message that makes a difference, but who's to say.
Load More Replies...I've lost interest in tattoos. I'm covered and love the ones I have. I still have space and ideas, but I just don't want the commitment. I can't be bothered to sit for several hours, and deal with the healing. I have some that should be touched up and I don't even want to do that. I used to love getting new tattoos and touch-ups. Somewhere along the way I simply lost interest.
Losing interest in a website that’s a mess of pop-up ads, ads with teeny tiny close buttons, ads that freeze the page when you click the close button, integrated ads that make the page bounce around as they load, intrusive ads for other articles on this same website (I’m already here, okay?) etc. Eventually the juice ain’t worth the squeeze.
Already 10-15 years ago, when I saw friends using their computer without ad blocker, I was shocked. It's annoying to be overloaded like that. So now, I don't even dare to imagine. How can people stay and be interested in the internet with all these ads!?
Load More Replies...At 73, I agree with all of these. I still love life and am very happy. But I live it on my terms. If someone doesn't like me, so what? I always said I wanted to be an eccentric old lady. And I've achieved my goal!
... losing interest in 20-somethings saying they're "older now" and speaking of how much they've grown past a thing. Didn't they finish puberty not too long ago?
"Staying informed," because it's just people shoving bad news in my face to get my money or my votes. I'm not going to bury my head in the sand, but I'm much more selective about what I put my energy into.
Thank you! I already know who my measly vote is going to, all these lame ads that everyone is tossing around is just fluff. If someone hasn't already made the choice they aren't paying attention. I firmly believe that a silly @ssed ad put up by some idiot in a cowboy hat should not be the message that makes a difference, but who's to say.
Load More Replies...I've lost interest in tattoos. I'm covered and love the ones I have. I still have space and ideas, but I just don't want the commitment. I can't be bothered to sit for several hours, and deal with the healing. I have some that should be touched up and I don't even want to do that. I used to love getting new tattoos and touch-ups. Somewhere along the way I simply lost interest.
