"You live and you learn" — can't really argue with that one. And while the older we get, the more knowledge we acquire, some lessons just manage to get past us for way too long. But there's no shame in learning anything at any age! (Well, maybe a little).
One Reddit user wanted to know what people learned just recently that they should've already known years ago. The answers varied from silly to serious, with some people dipping deep into self-discovery, which could've saved them a lot of tears and confusion in the past. From Froot Loops all being the same flavor to mourning relationships with your friends, folks were eager to share their newfound knowledge with others.
Bored Panda selected the most interesting answers for this list, so scroll down, and maybe you'll also learn something new today. After all, we're not aware that we don't know something, until we learn of its existence. Don't forget to upvote your favorites, and if there's anything you learned 'too late' in life that you think others might not know about yet, be sure to share it in the comments!
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« Everything worth doing is worth doing half-a*s ». You can do a part of something it doesn’t have to be all or nothing. You can clean a room and not the whole house. You can eat a salad with your burger. We have a tendency to be « everything has to be done 110% » or it’s not worth it. I think about people who laugh at people taking a diet soda with a burger: well why the hell not? You don’t have to be all in 100% and that makes the pressure more bearable sometimes!
Friend breakups can hurt just as much, if not more, than romantic ones.
Quality matters more than quantity when it comes to friends.
I started to notice that most of my friends weren’t really my friends, only drinking buddies, and it hindered my process of getting sober for awhile. i didn’t want to lose them. but then i realized that if they couldn’t be with me in my sobriety journey, they couldn’t be in my life at all.
I’m 67 days into cutting back, and twelve days into not touching alcohol at all. my life is better without those people. i only have three friends now but it’s worth it. the support and encouragement i get from them outweighs the sadness of losing everyone else.
I send hugs! I have alot of friends, but few very close ones. I am glad you cut the negative people out of your life!
It's better to be alone than in an unfulfilling/abusive relationship.
Don't continue dating someone if you constantly think "give it time, things might get better". That puts you in a never ending loop that becomes more difficult to get out of as time goes on.
Contrary to what you may hope, generally people don't change. So get out before the going gets really bad.
I didn’t learn it recently but I learned it earlier in life, don’t share stuff with your coworkers. Just mind your own business.
Other women know how to clasp their bra behind their back. As a teen I learned to clasp it in front of me then twist it around awkwardly... and then never stopped doing that
I can somewhat do it from the back, but I put it on front, then shift it around and put on the straps! Easy-Peasy!
Doves are literally just white pigeons.
Not similar, or related to, the exact same bird.
Pigeons with white privilege
Don't compare yourself with someone else. You are not them and you do not have their abilities or weaknesses. Use your yardstick on you. Compare yourself in terms of how you have done in the past. It is more accurate. And be kind to yourself if you are making strides and mistakes.
Not recently, but I learned that being your own friend is one of the best things you can do for yourself. The only time in my life I started making friends was when I started being my own friend first, taking care of my health, going to the gym, taking myself out, exploring on my own, and learning on my own. Not only did it help me make friends, but it also helped me feel less lonely, as I really started enjoying my own company! I became an interesting person to be
That the morning after pill has weight restrictions and if you are over a certain weight they will probably not work on you.
Also, more women and children get killed in car accidents because the airbag is not meant for women, it is made for a man.
Products made by men does not always work on women. Just saying.
I read somewhere, I think on bored-panda, that they finally used a female crash test dummy, and got highly different results.
That if I am unfulfilled as an individual my partner will never be able to fulfill me either. Similar to if you don’t love yourself you can’t unconditionally love others.
I never really vibed with the idea that you have to love yourself first to love others. To me it plants the idea that we are unworthy of love because of our own struggle. Allow yourself to love others and to receive their love in return while you are still working on loving yourself ❤️
A consistent sleep schedule and plenty of sleep every night actually works. It won’t cure your depression/chronic illness/various maladies, but it makes it much easier to face them in the morning. And when I say morning, I mean it: even if you’re semi-nocturnal like me, it is so much easier to get important stuff done during the day.
This is the most annoying realisation I’ve had all year, but brains simply work better when they are rested and refreshed.
Exercising does actually feel good and it’s not just pretentious claims made by fit af influencers!
Tall, white, loud men get more respect than anyone, no matter how stupid they are.
Warranted or not, yes respect. It's why a white man driving drunk goes to jail and a POC driving drunk gets shot.
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If that was true i would be a God amoung men, Im tall, Im white, and sometimes Im really loud and i don't even notice ( untill One of my friends Tells me to lower my volume )
I was just going to say that. White people make up roughly 8 or 9% of the population here. Probably about 250000 white men, possibly one out of every 20 hits the 6ft mark. I don't know how many are loud. I never hear loud sober men. Prime drinking nights are Friday or Saturday. This means that on average, on any night, you are not likely to encounter any tall white loud men.
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They only get respect from other tall, white, loud men. They’re too stupidly self-absorbed to realize that just because you shouted someone else down doesn’t mean you won the argument. It just means you’re a loud, obnoxious, abusive a*****e who can’t defend your position so you just get loud and angry—-and generally end up verbally attacking the other person on a personal level, instead of sticking to the goddamned subject.
I had to take a quick poll around the office. I'm not the only one who sees these people as insecure and childlike. These people are often embellishing their stories and accomplishments and I've never taken them seriously
I must confess that I am downright *appalled* by tall, white, loud men. Whenever I meet one of them, all my “inner barriers” go up immediately. Can’t truss ‘em; this kind of obnoxious guys makes me instantly feel *very* uncomfortable. Why? Because their kind of behavior is capable to ruin *any* peaceful scenario that they step into. It’s their loudness that ruins everything. Take any tall, white male in a social situation – if he’s a kind, maybe even soft-spoken guy, everything can be just fine. Add loudness and it spoils the picture.
Generally from other loud, white men. Tallness need not apply at all...
Not as racist at some loud white men. I could name names.
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Yeah attention is different from respect let's not go down that race line for that goes for all loud people. So nice try =:p
Have you ever noticed that when the goings get tough, when the sh*t really hits the fan, that there’s a sudden silence in the loudmouth compartment?
I get this post, I really do. But somehow it’s become acceptable to be racist against white men, yet complain if anything is said against another race. Imagine the comments if this post said something obnoxious about tall, (insert non-white skin color here), loud men no matter how stupid they are? THAT would never be tolerated. Yet it’s ok to racially slur tall, white men. Or….. we could just stop ALL racial slurs???
Gospel truth there. I’ve seen it in action. The man is highly intelligent but hides it. All he needs to be is 6’5”, blond, loud, friendly, and the world is his oyster. I can’t get arrested and he gets medals.
Not respect, necessarily. Bullies are protected and rewarded in our culture (USA). I imagine we're not alone in that.
Stupid loud men and women of any colour do not get respect. They are dismissed for being confidently wrong
Actually in the U.S. women of color are discredited as crazy or ignorant while stupid loud white (or orange) men get elected president.
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This works the other way, too. There was a study many years ago. The same man was introduced to groups of college students. He was introduced to each group as either "Bill," "Bill Smith," "Mr. Bill Smith," "Dr. Bill Smith," or "the distinguished professor, Dr. Bill Smith." No other information was given, and he stayed in the room for about one minute. After the man left the room the students were asked to write down how tall he was. His height went up significantly with the formality of his title. (BTW, I don't recall what name was actually used, but you get the idea.)
Honestly, I love making fools out of those kinds of men. Nothing makes me happier than when they're being rude and misogynistic and see my confidence as "arrogance" like, I'm sorry my strong personality intimidates a whiny, oversized, spoilt brat with Mummy issues like you. Verbally grinding them to dust and send them crying to their Mamas is the highlight of my day. When someone's self-esteem is low, I raise them up. But when someone is on a high horse, I break the horse's legs and put them in their place. This is how I maintain balance in life.
Not respect. They get noticed. Maybe humored. But have seen many variants of this outside of a white only group. The behavior may be a little different for each subculture or group.
I know. There’s a lot of very, very racist folk in this comment section.
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Most males don't get custody because most males don't want custody.
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Idk what's up with this but just because you're tall, white, and a man, doesn't mean you are a cruel and horrible person. Sure sometimes it's frustrating that immediately they get more attention, especially if they're dumb, buuut it's not really they're fault that they were born that way, the only thing they get to choose is how they use the respect they're given. In fact, if you lable all white men as racist and sexist or whatever the left uses, that in and of itself is racism (and sexism), racism isnt only directed at black, hispanic, and asian people, you just see it more towards those races. My dad is a tall, white, loud southern man, but he's awesome, and respects everyone. -from, a short latinx woman
Replace your pillows every 1–2 years. Lots of mold and allergens get stuck in there. I finally stopped feeling sick when I changed them out.
That cows only produce milk after they've had a baby. Farmers forcibly impregnate them and take their calves away so they can sell the milk to humans. I always thought they just made milk all the time, which seems stupid in retrospect.
My grandparents run a small dairy farm, and they do not forcibly impregnate their cows or take the calves away. Unfortunately, the reason many other farms don't follow their method is capitalism and the fervent obsession with making money. There are humane ways to get milk, and it is very unfortunate that it is not the mainstream. We need to remember that cows (and all other animals) are also sentient beings who deserve as much love, respect and gentleness as we do.
If you're going to take inappropriate selfies, disable the photo sync to your mom's icloud first.
Or don't take "inappropriate" selfies. Never could understand that trend.
I recently started dating someone about a week and a half ago and he seems so healthy. Everything he says is with intention and it seems so out of this world to me. I've had so many bad relationships and friendships and people just mistreating me that I almost don't know what to do with myself.
I learned that it's okay to trust what someone is saying and forgiving people that hurt you in the past (WITHOUT giving them too much energy, aka. Having to look past them, etc.) Is so healing. I hope this relationship really is healthy and I'm hoping for a better future with him by my side. Yes I know this is super early but I finally understand the phrase. "When you know, you know" I'm 30 btw.
Even if the relationship doesn't work out, these are valuable insights!!
What getting tires rotated actually means.
Also that the line in Billy Joel's "We didn't start the fire" is "trouble in the Suez" not "trouble in the sewers."
How to budget my money.... I've cycled in and out of debt for years, could have been really ahead, never knew. Someone taught me and I'm blown away at how remarkably "easy" it is now that I know.
I have a checking account and a savings account. I put $200 into my checking with every paycheck and the rest into savings. That $200 is all the money I allow myself to spend for two weeks apart from basic necessities like rent and bills. It's a very austere existence, but I need to make sure I have enough in savings for a rainy day.
I didn’t know how much of an impact making my bed in the morning had on me.
No, no, no. Airing the bed by pulling the covers down gives all that night-time sweat a chance to evaporate and keeps your whole bed and mattress fresher for longer.
Not to mess with my birth control, the hormone unbalance was a unpleasant experience.
my blood type
I'm AB+, so in 3% of the population. It's so nice to be 'rare' and special in one way. Lol!
I thought you could only put one thing in the oven at a time.
That depends. You may not want to put a chocolate cake together with a dish that has garlic or something in it. (experience lol)
Babies can’t drink water before 6months old
Since they are on an all liquid diet, they won't dehydrate, and since their stomachs only hold anywhere from 2.7 to 5 ounces at 1 month old, they need every ounce of fluid to contain nutrients for growing, which they get from breast milk or formula. Giving babies only water also can cause hyponatremia - the body has too much water in it, which dilutes electrolyte concentrations in the blood and can cause a whole host of issues. It's the same thing that happens when athletes sweat and chug water instead of electrolyte formulas...
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That many educational institutions don't really test for knowledge, but their tests are made for those people who can best learn by heart. The questions they give you could often be answered in more than one way, and the answer you give could very well be correct and factually right, but because it's not in the syllabus or on the checking sheet, it's marked wrong. So people who understand the subject, think about their answers and give an adequate answer but have difficulties to remember the exact wording used in the book or materials, will get sorted out while people who don't really understand the topic but are epic in regurgitating the contents they've learned by heart get through swimmingly. And I'm not talking about using correct termini or technical terms, but using the right terms but answering the question in a way that's factually correct, but just not worded exactly as the teacher wanted it to be.
This has wasted so much time and nerves in my life! In uni I almost failed an important examn. Worst possiböe grade without failing. I was able to get a verbal post-examn to improve the grade an aced it - including an invitation to do my thesis in their institute. Why? Because the subjust was too intersting to me to focus on the learning-for-the-test.
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That’s a reason I didn’t go to university to get my bachelor’s in nursing. I want to learn what makes me an even better nurse at the bedside. That’s what I do best. I stick with that. But I get told I should go because I’m so smart. Not in the way they want me to be. I looked at the syllabus and most of it was irrelevant to what I needed to know. Then there’s the part where all your essays etc were just spitting back what you’ve read in the many text books. String a line of quotes together and put your source in a footnote. What? I don’t go to memorize. I go to learn. Apparently I’m not aloud to have an original thought in my head, or put down a result of my processing of the info (as in I really thought it out) and write it in a way the professor sees I understand the material, not just spit it back. Never went. Perfectly happy I didn’t.
I'm my own worst enemy. Took many years to figure out. AND, I can't do anything without procrastinating. At least I can admit that stuff now.
That many educational institutions don't really test for knowledge, but their tests are made for those people who can best learn by heart. The questions they give you could often be answered in more than one way, and the answer you give could very well be correct and factually right, but because it's not in the syllabus or on the checking sheet, it's marked wrong. So people who understand the subject, think about their answers and give an adequate answer but have difficulties to remember the exact wording used in the book or materials, will get sorted out while people who don't really understand the topic but are epic in regurgitating the contents they've learned by heart get through swimmingly. And I'm not talking about using correct termini or technical terms, but using the right terms but answering the question in a way that's factually correct, but just not worded exactly as the teacher wanted it to be.
This has wasted so much time and nerves in my life! In uni I almost failed an important examn. Worst possiböe grade without failing. I was able to get a verbal post-examn to improve the grade an aced it - including an invitation to do my thesis in their institute. Why? Because the subjust was too intersting to me to focus on the learning-for-the-test.
Load More Replies... That’s a reason I didn’t go to university to get my bachelor’s in nursing. I want to learn what makes me an even better nurse at the bedside. That’s what I do best. I stick with that. But I get told I should go because I’m so smart. Not in the way they want me to be. I looked at the syllabus and most of it was irrelevant to what I needed to know. Then there’s the part where all your essays etc were just spitting back what you’ve read in the many text books. String a line of quotes together and put your source in a footnote. What? I don’t go to memorize. I go to learn. Apparently I’m not aloud to have an original thought in my head, or put down a result of my processing of the info (as in I really thought it out) and write it in a way the professor sees I understand the material, not just spit it back. Never went. Perfectly happy I didn’t.
I'm my own worst enemy. Took many years to figure out. AND, I can't do anything without procrastinating. At least I can admit that stuff now.
