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Viral Thread Has Adults Listing Various Things Modern-Day Teenagers Are Not Ready To Hear (40 Things)
One of the wise people of antiquity once said that everyday experience is a collection of mistakes accumulated by a person throughout their life. A person learns from some mistakes, some they simply try not to repeat, and some of these mistakes they alas repeat all throughout their life.
Recently, the so-called "Letters to Myself" genre has been very popular on the internet, where famous and not-so-famous people describe different mistakes they made at a young age and tell what they would do differently taking into account the knowledge that they have now. Unfortunately, in one's teen years, it is difficult to believe and accept some of the life facts that seem so obvious later.
A few days ago, a question was asked in the AskReddit community directly on this topic: "What are teens today not ready to hear?" As of today, the resulting thread has about 44.2K upvotes and over 26.7K various comments, where people in adulthood and older tell which life lessons the youth should definitely learn.
Yes, the thread looks a bit boomerish, but the ancients didn't say in vain: "Forewarned is forearmed." Bored Panda has put together a list of the most popular comments from the original thread for you, so please feel free to scroll to the very end, mark the submissions you like the most and of course share your own life lessons in the comments.
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#1
Being controversial isn't the same as being interesting.
Headless Roach 3 years ago
Meh, they will not be controversial enough if they listen to reason
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Tim 3 years ago
This is not a "those wacky kids" phenomenon. Being edgy for the sake of being edgy was a big thing when I was a teen in the 90s.
Question everything 3 years ago (edited)
It's a thing for most teenagers, no matter the decade. They want to stand out in a crowd, they are still finding themselves. The majority grow out if it. When I see an "edgy" or "controversial" young person, I just knowingly smile to myself. Sometimes even laugh inside.
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cathy hurd 3 years ago
My husband with his famous "I'm being the devil's advocate." No, I'm sorry but you're being a douchebag.
Cassi Lyris 3 years ago
It's so not a replacement for having a personality. You're not interesting or thought provoking, you're an a$$hole.
Fishbear 3 years ago
Like all the people who get offended when other people exercise their rights? "Your religion/relationship offends me so you can't do that!" ...who sounds like they need special treatment now?
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RandomPanda 3 years ago
But also, voicing your opinions, even if they are a bit controversial, is not the same as being an a*****e unless you're a b***h about it.
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You’re not edgy, you’re not a gigachad, you’re just an asshoIe.
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#2
Playing music on your speakers in public areas makes you look like a complete douchebag. Nobody likes it but you.
Frando Bone 3 years ago
And talking on your phone on speaker in public falls in the same category.
sturmwesen 3 years ago
We have 30-60 year olds playing their "music" loud in public. This is not an age but and consideration (?) issue.
Ozacoter 3 years ago
I feel that before perhaps it was an age issue but for sure now i see a lot of old people with the sound on. I dont understand it. But then again my upstairs neighbor was just doing a extremely loud karaoke in her terrace...
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Wysteria_Rose 3 years ago
And having your car's speakers so loud that you can be heard from a mile away, ESPECIALLY in neighborhood/complex parking lots. We do not care what your car sound system sounds like or what you play on it. If I can hear it in my living room, I will hate you.
Bobby 3 years ago
I have a buddy that is a cop and this one of his biggest pet peeves. Your base loud enough to rattle his windows? Your getting pulled over and ticketed. And he makes sure to show up for every court date so they can't get out of it
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The girl who wore glasses 3 years ago
Add to that the bass line that makes your car bounce is not what everyone else wants to hear.
Richard Ross 3 years ago
Unfortunately some idiots need to draw attention to themselves and making lots of noise is one of the ways they do it.
Alex Freetime 3 years ago
So true, no one is thinking "oh my, he/she has great taste in music!"
Marlowe Fitzpatrik 3 years ago
Well ... not true for everyone. I had a kid drive past me on his bike, listening to "Godzilla". I was pretty tickled that this kid (about maybe... 12?) had such refined taste in music.
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It’s okay to be a virgin at 18
Nathan Wolfe 3 years ago
*regardless of your sexuality*. Fixed it for you. Doesnt matter what your sexuality is, its fine to be a virgin at any age.
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Sent From The Slytherin House 3 years ago
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M 3 years ago
Right on! I got married at 22 and my first ob checkup the nurse couldn't belive i was a virgin, actually wanted to know if my mom needed to step out so we could talk. I was like no! I have not had sex and don't intend to until my wedding night. My love was my first and only and we have been together 26years, Married 24 of them. No regrets in waiting at all!
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Sapna Sarfare 3 years ago
or at any age... life is a bag of different things. And each bag is different for different people.
BadCat 3 years ago
I couldn't even date much in Junior High and High school. One guy I had a crush on, managed to ask him for his number. The first thing he wanted to do was phone sex. I hadn't even had sex at the time at all, and I wasn't comfortable with getting that intimate with someone. But apparently it's a requirement if you're 15+ with guys. It was okay that I stayed single after that, and the guy I once had a crush on seemed like an ugly a*****e after.
#4
Just because you f****d up does NOT mean you’re a f**kup
TheAquarius1978 3 years ago
No not really, some yes you might be a f**k up, but some Times its just life f*****g you Over.
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Anthony W. Pierson 3 years ago
My dad always told me if you are going to do something do a great and grand and the best you can and when you f#$@ up u make sure that you do it so big and grand that nobody ever forgets
#5
There are decades when nothing happens and there are weeks when decades happen.
Headless Roach 3 years ago
Oh dear, so true. It may not happen to everyone equally, but man... when it does...it's a rollercoaster from hell.
AmmoniteCat 3 years ago
Yeah, okay. Where is my share of weeks? All I've been getting are the decades.
Riley Quinn 3 years ago
Since the rise of far-right/fascism globally, the last several years have felt like a millennia.
#6
In the adult world, getting into fights doesn’t make you look cool, it just makes you look stupid.
TheAquarius1978 3 years ago
And always remember lol, no matter how much of a badass you think you are, there is always someone that is either more of a badass than you, or some One that might not be a badass but uses its head and it Will knock you the f**k out.
Headless Roach 3 years ago
I'm staring at the two cute goats now, trying to figure out which one is more badass
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Lisa H 3 years ago
YES!!! Had to drop a friend a few years back because she cannot fathom the fact that I hate fighting. She actually likes fighting and one (very) drunken night, we ended up in fisticuffs. She was proud of herself (don't know why, it ended with her in a headlock) and I hated myself and her after. We never found common ground and thus was the end of a toxic friendship.
Brandon Herrin 3 years ago
But never be afraid to fight for em what’s right. If you see someone being bullied or harassed or attacked, be willing to step up and step in. The world doesn’t need aggressive behavior, but being passive won’t squash it when it happens.
Robert Beveridge 3 years ago
This was just as true in high school, and most of us understood that.
Riley Quinn 3 years ago
Stupid and time-consuming! My ex decided to get into it with a drunk half his age who insulted his manhood. I ended up in the ER for hours with this middle-aged idiot.
#7
To the ones who ride the public bus in my city, specifically: nobody else wants to hear whatever TikTok you’re watching. Buy some headphones.
Amanda Trent 3 years ago
Ughhhhhhh TikTok the same snippet of a song over, and over, and over. Drives me NUTS! 😑
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BadCat 3 years ago
It sounds better with headphones. You get more of an oomf on the bass without the annoying high treble.
cathy hurd 3 years ago (edited)
Some woman while I was waiting for my granddaughter at a doctor's appointment. I had to keep hearing "BOOP BOOP DEE DOOP" very loudly. That was her texting notification. Then playing her videos. The receptionist finally told her to turn it down and she had no clue she was disturbing anyone. Some people are clueless.
cadena kuhn 3 years ago
Got my daughter a beenie that is also blue tooth headphones. Total game changer
Judah Phelps 3 years ago
At school too. But it's mainly chick doing those stupid dances that take no talent and have a load of sh*tty hip-hop/rap songs in them.... If you can even call those songs.
#8
It's not your duty to judge others. Just take care of your own s**t.
Riley Quinn 3 years ago
We all judge one another. Some of us are just better at keeping it to ourselves.
Eliza 3 years ago
Yeah this does seem to be a case of the pot calling the kettle black
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Cory Willson 3 years ago
Everyone constantly judge each other its a part of life. A "first impression" is your initial judgement of something. Whats important is to not base your actions soley on quick judgement.
Nathan Wolfe 3 years ago
I'm atheist, but I really try to live by "let he without sin cast the first stone". The issue isn't that I "cast stones" at others, but that I never stop "casting stones" at myself, if you'll pardon the turn of phrase.
Calvin Bure 3 years ago
Ok here's how this works, you're allowed to judge the actions of other people but you have to remember that you can't see the full picture.
Tigara Akimoto 3 years ago
"Remove the plank from your own eye before trying to remove the speck from your neighbor's eye"
#9
You won't 'feel' different when you're older, or have kids. You'll just be you, it's weird.
Jo Gabriel 3 years ago
Yes!! I'm 51, but still feel like tgat awkward teenager, it's just that now, SOMEHOW, I've managed to hold down a respectable job since i graduated, and have a house and mortgage and husband and kids. I don't know how that happened! I'm still that nerdy kid! It's just, my knees hurt now.
Wysteria_Rose 3 years ago
I don't know why but when I was younger I thought there was just an age where you wake up and you feel like an adult but now I'm just like pretending I know what I'm doing every single day.
Dre Mosley 3 years ago
At 47, I'm still the same socially awkward introvert I was when I was 15.
BoredMan 3 years ago
45 yrs old still haven't grown out of my metal phase, still skate and love horror movies. Yes i have a great job a great family and support system. But deep down inside I'm still that weird kid that did all the things I still do now. Yet I've grown wise and I'm completely comfortable with the person that I am today
#10
as much as you want to be unique, outspoken and be able to be you 100%, its just not that realistic.
as a queer poc millennial it took me a long time to learn that you gotta learn to pick your battles, read the room, and know that not every space is a space thats made for you.
Justin Haskell 3 years ago
I disagree. I don't know you but I know there're certain crowds and/or personalities you're not into. Nobody fits in everywhere and nobody wants to.
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Ambry Petersen 3 years ago
And realizing the world does not revolve around you, and no matter what you do not everyone one in the world is going to like you and agree with you, after all everyone else is an indulividual too.
Alex Freetime 3 years ago
Oh this is good, especially the "not every space is made for you", but also "stop trying to push your agenda down the throat of others"
Nathan Wolfe 3 years ago
That, and nobody cares about how unique you are, except those that already know and love you. No random person on the street is just *dying* to know what your sexuality is, or how you identify yourself. Theyd care more that you like a genre of book, or that you enjoy horror movies, or that your a gamer. Nobody cares that you're lgbtq+, nobody cares what your skin color is, and nobody cares what parts you've got. Unless and until it comes time to USE those parts. But until then, keep it to yourself.
Brandon Herrin 3 years ago
Thing is, no one is unique. 9 billion people on the planet. There is not only someone out there just like you, there is someone who looks just like you too. Instead of trying to be unique, why not just work to exist with everyone else.
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Reddog McGraw 3 years ago
It's more like, no one who has real sh*t is even going to notice or care how "Special and Unique" you are; but if you insist on ensuring everyone notices, you prolly are going to get negative reactions, because you're being fu*king annoying and taking up their bandwidth. Just do you and quit being a douchebag spectacle.
Paul Greer 3 years ago
Not everything you want is good for you our all around you. Sometimes going without is the best medicine
Bubbles and sparks 3 years ago
I think we're all unique in one way or another... Yes, reading a room is something that comes in quite handy, but even if you missed it, it's not about being a queer poc millenial, it just a "S**t happens sometimes"-moment, we all have those once in a while. Just be you, don't label yourself or allow anybody to label you because it's easier that way, being your own person and getting along with other people is more then enough.. I hope that the day will come where color or labels will not be an issue anymore, but then we have to work at that ourselves as well. I was called hetero, then lesbian and then bi-sexual, all nice but I just call myself a person that is capable of loving humans, no matter balls high or low ;) I judge character, not color and try to be a nice and friendly person and it seems to be working, because it rubs of on the people I meet.
Colleen Glim 3 years ago
Just don’t be a d**k. It’s not a difficult concept
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Phryne 3 years ago
I'd say ESPECIALLY non-queer non-POC and non-millenials.
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DragonflyGreen 3 years ago
Disagree on the 100% me part. Gen X here. I'm ALWAYS 100% me. Always. Even when the a*s-kissing commences. I just do it in a way that doesn't jeopardize my true self, and no one is the wiser.
censorshipsucks 3 years ago
I find if you enter a room and mostly listen, people like you more, and you get more chance to ID the assholes before engaging with them. I also assume every room is full of conservative christians, that helps.
Angela Bannerman 3 years ago
Agreed except for the conservative Christian part. I'm both of those things. However, long ago mastered the art of coming into a room, engaging in some conversation, as well as quietly listening and observing. Have learned a lot from the folk around me (sometimes TOO much!😁)
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Putting every aspect of yourself online is unsafe. Nobody needs to know your list of triggers or your address or your blood type
TheAquarius1978 3 years ago
Nothing in my social media is relevant, my adress is wrong, my phone Number os wrong, i don't have any pictures of me or my family, my académic level is wrong and só is my job, you want to " know " who i am, meet me or PM me, my life is mine Alone and i only Share what i think its relevant in a certain context.
Headless Roach 3 years ago
We know "you are constantly fighting a war with your autocorrect, and most of the time you lose..." No more secrets left 😎
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Cecily Holland 3 years ago
And not everyone wants to know your blood type, neuroses, breakfast cereal ect
Gladys Hayes Southerland 3 years ago
Anything that l put in my social media is already public knowledge... What's private stays private.
Dre Mosley 3 years ago
I'm intentionally vague in social media and every Facebook friend is someone I actually know.
Leanne Hailes 3 years ago (edited)
...or even worse - having your sweet innocent little kiddo hold up a sign on there first day of school that tells EVERYONE EVERYTHING about your child 🙁 Some people's don't have a clue; so so so sad 😥
the versifier 3 years ago
List of triggers is excellent for a serial killer who wants to play first
#12
The older you get the faster it goes.
Bubbles and sparks 3 years ago
That sure is true, my dearest son got 30 last week and t feels like only a short time ;)
Living Example 3 years ago
I think part of it is that each passing year is a smaller percentage of your life experience. When you're 1, a year is 100% of your life. At age 70, it's 1.4% Just seems to me that this must have some influence on how you see a year.
LapCat 3 years ago (edited)
I read a very similar (if not same) scientific theory. Time seems to move faster the more experience we have. With new experiences, the neurons in the brain take longer to process them. Which is why time seems to slow down in certain scenarios i.e, going on vacation to a new place.
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This makes sense. 5 years is 1/3rd of the life of a 15-year-old, but just 1/10th of the life of a 50-year-old. So, time will be perceived differently by both.
Ash 3 years ago
As someone who was born in the 80s, and who is now realizing how very fast time goes, this effect is even starting to work retroactively: I'm beginning to realize how very recent the 60s and 70s were, too!! (I watched all of Columbo recently and was marveling over the fact that digital watches were clearly the New and Expensive Thing in an early episode. Time sure does fly! [pun unintended])
Riley Quinn 3 years ago
OP should ask elderly people if this is true. For those spending each day alone, time slows to a crawl.
AbbyNormal 3 years ago
Age is like a toilet paper roll, the closer to the end, the faster it goes.
#13
One day you too will be old and uncool.
And it'll happen faster than you think.
cadena kuhn 3 years ago
40 yr old goth. I wasn't cool as a teen. But my 17 yr olds friends think I'm a legend
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Torza 3 years ago
I used to be with it. Then they changed what 'it' was. Now what I'm with isn't 'it' anymore and what's 'it' seems weird and scary to me. IT WILL HAPPEN TO YOU
Daniel Atkins 3 years ago
I was going to post that great Abe Simpson quote.
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They should also mention that the older you get, the less you care about being "cool"!
Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago (edited)
I never cared what anyone thought about me, so someone else thinking I’m cool or uncool doesn’t matter a damn to me. I am myself, and I’m the only person exactly like me. You don’t think I’m cool? You’re entitled to that. I like myself very much, and pursue my own interests and talents, and unlike so many other people these days, am quite content with myself. Which I happen to think is very cool.(To clarify, I am not OTT uncool or weird, just my own person. I am perfectly able to adjust to the etiquette required in certain social situations, and have learned how to do that without having to put on an act that’s unnatural for me.)
Kat Min 3 years ago
One day you'll be old and not give sh!t abotu whether or not you are cool.
Jeanne Tarver 3 years ago
The other day I fell down unexpectedly when my leg collapsed from under me. A N D I couldn't get up. I remember thinking, "I thought I'd be much older when that started happening to me". But I got help standing up and hobbled to the nearby Walgreens and bought a cane. There was a time when falling down would have shamed me to no end.
Load More Replies... Austin Starr 3 years ago
You can also be old AND cool. Why is it ok to say ugly stuff about old people as a "joke." But no other demographic. The alternative is being dead in case you didn't know.
#14
Social media will give you too much of a superiority complex and hanging around people who enable you will f**k you up later in life.
Bubbles and sparks 3 years ago
not just later in life, they will f*ck your life up in the now as well...
Subconscious Dreams Studios 3 years ago
It’s much too easy to pick a fight when you have a screen protecting you…
Martina Moreau 3 years ago
OMG needed this when I was younger (the part about enablers) I really wish that I chose who I hung around with a little more carefully but I figured that people just come into your life and you don't have control over it. Picked the weeds, kept the flowers. All good now.
Meat Shield 3 years ago (edited)
Don’t know about the first part of this one. I think it makes you more self absorbed and self centered. Vain and desensitized. Definitely vapid when everybody is trying to outdo each other. But it easily makes you feel inferior just as much as superior. The one thing it does regardless is it addicts you to others validating you and that’s a very empty hole that can never be filled that way.
#15
Just because it's new to you doesn't mean it's new.
Bubbles and sparks 3 years ago
Haha, we "oldies" here and see things happen again that pretend to be all new, but actually have happened decades ago and we know XD
Babsevs 3 years ago
The fun comes from watching new people/new generation making these discoveries
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And just because you've never experienced a thing, it doesn't invalidate others experiences
Martina Moreau 3 years ago
It happens with music too!! "Hey mom, have you ever heard of the band (insert band name here)? They're new and they're awesome" Meanwhile you've been listening to them for 20 years...
J O 3 years ago
All the time w my 3 boys over the years... Also "mom, how do you know this song?!!!?"
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Brandy P 3 years ago
I love seeing a kid in a Nirvana shirt or a pair of 80s mom jeans! It's so neat to see what was cool to me is now cool to them!
New Everywhere 3 years ago
I have to contain my excitement though so they still think it's cool because I'm AuNtiE LeVeL now (in my 30s)
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v 3 years ago
I have to check a lot of my frustration with people younger than me regarding this one. Even though it may not be new to the world it may very well be new for them and me being a grumpy bastard about them being so excited about that new thing doesn't do anything to keep the world spinning in the right direction.
Meat Shield 3 years ago
Just because something happened a long time ago doesn’t mean it didn’t happen. That’s in this same vein. The joy of discovering things lasts your whole life. It is an important revelation to realize the world existed before you were born and those that came before were pretty brilliant. More so in many ways than we are today. But the real danger is judging the past with today’s eyes. Like we’re so superior and would NEVER make those choices, when in actuality we are making equally as bad choices that the future will judge us very harshly on as well. Best to respect those who have come before and appreciate what they were dealing with.
Malina TinyKittenTitan 3 years ago
And on that note I'll add what I constantly tell my teen...Whatever you're thinking of doing, I've already done it or thought it so lying to me about it is futile.
Jaime Blackwater 3 years ago
Hm. Maybe that's why they insist on trying to rewrite classics to be more "modern". It passes for making something "new" without actually putting in any real work.
#16
Not everybody can be an internet sensation, somebody has to drive the dump truck
Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago
And driving a dump truck is steady work and steady pay. Trying to be an “influencer” is a huge risk that could turn out to be a total waste of time and money—-YOUR time and money.
Katie Lutesinger 3 years ago
And a lot of people will automatically dislike you. Whereas nobody resents the nice person who comes and takes the garbage away.
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ArodTheHorrible 3 years ago
How many contributors does YouTube have? How many actually make a living doing it?
PattyK 3 years ago
The most important people in our society are the ones who get the least respect. Imagine what life would be like with no garbage collectors (“sanitation engineers”) or janitors or other people who take care of our waste.
Argle Bargle 3 years ago
Well, that's our society. Were so spoiled we take all that for granted except when it stops, then all you hear is whining.
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cathy hurd 3 years ago
I've spent 36 years trying to get it through my mother-in-law's head that not everyone has to go to college. What would happen to the trades? I'm proud to say my grandson is training to become a plumber, my son was an auto mechanic.
Argle Bargle 3 years ago
Apparently you're not good enough for her daughter, or she's afraid you won't be able to afford to build her an in-law suite so she can make your life even more hell in future.
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Bacon Bit 3 years ago
Frankly, I have more respect for the public sanitisation workers. If all the influencers went on strike tomorrow and stopped working, no one would even notice. If the public sanitisation workers did that, we'd be in some serious trouble.
Charlie Simpson 3 years ago
I work for a property management company and we control a bunch of frats and other campus properties and they get super piled with trash in front of the dumpsters so it gets difficult for the dumpster trucks to dump them and it's cheaper for us to haul the excess off than it is to have them bring in a rear loader and do it by hand so we often work side by side with the sanitation workers trying to coordinate getting all of the garbage gone. I have a lot of respect for those guys, they have a hard and gross job but they should be proud of what they do.
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I vastly prefer the "influencers" who are helping to maintain and run my city.
Krzysztof Ziętek 3 years ago
I have a huge respect for people who clean things be it city streets or office spaces. It's an important job, it's essential. Thank you for doing that!
#17
It is perfectly fine to not know something. It’s OKAY to not know! Stop shaming and bullying people because you learned about something before they did. Social media is not the real world and acting like it is will only make people not want to be around you.
EDIT: I am not talking about ignorance. I’m talking about laughing when people ask a question in class, the “How do you not know that?” crowd, the mocking of people into never asking another question out of fear of ridicule and humiliation.
Fishbear 3 years ago
Or just someone with extreme anxiety (for asking questions in classroom or public settings)
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Gabby Ghoul 3 years ago
There is no shame in ignorance--one can't know everything. There is--or should be--shame in willful ignorance, though.
Michael Largey 3 years ago
"Everybody's ignorant - just on different topics." - Will Rogers
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Cassi Lyris 3 years ago
You should applaud people trying to fill their knowledge gaps. It's the fool who thinks he knows everything already.
Pg130 3 years ago
I always asked questions in class. I did not give a rat's a*s what anyone thought. The only dumb question is the one not asked. And besides, in all likelihood there are others that want to ask the same question but are too scared to. No one person ever said a word to me from grade school through university. And had they had the guts to I would have embarrassed them.
Malina TinyKittenTitan 3 years ago
I literally asked questions that I knew the answer to just because I knew there were people too scared to ask...
RandomPanda 3 years ago
In the words of my 10th grade math teacher, "Stupidity isn't the lack of knowledge, It's the unwillingness to learn."
#18
You guys know how the attractive and wealthy kids at school seem to just get life handed to them on a silver platter?
Get used to it.
Frando Bone 3 years ago
Yep! Focus on you rather than putting energy into being angry because someone has it better than you do...because someone ALWAYS will have it better than you.
sofacushionfort 3 years ago
It’s natural to envy the privileged, but true admiration is for those who get back up after being knocked down.
Wysteria_Rose 3 years ago
And remember: no one chooses the life they're born into. Don't dislike people who were born lucky any more than you would want them to dislike you for being born in a less wealthy situation.
Lovemyisland ️ 3 years ago
This is so true! I have a friend, since elementary school, and she always talk about how difficult some choices are, about why poor people don't just get a job, about how government help is a waste and they should struggle. I was like, first of all they do have jobs but the pay is not good enough while they already struggle because they have mouths to feed. Not everyone is like you're mom who got pregnant so she got help from your wealthy grandma who still helps her to pay her mortgage, paid her car, bills, and for you and your brother. Not everybody has a wealthy grandma. She has two lol
Riley Quinn 3 years ago
The dumbest thing a human can say is, "It's not fair". That's correct Sweet Cheeks. Now, go stand on the lawn, look to the sky, and recognize the universe is chaos. Your pathetic, insignificant existence is part of this cosmic chaos. The sooner you acknowledge your place in this soup, the sooner you'll get on with your life.
Maybesylvia 3 years ago
Same here. I never really cared, I did me and they did them
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Britches are for everyone 3 years ago
No, DON'T get used to it! Cooperate with others who want to make sure that privilege gets eradicated and all of the ugly, poor, weird kids get a chance.
Calvin Bure 3 years ago
Surprise! You're never going to eradicate privilege, that's just how the world works and you can't change that. This kind of idea is exactly what happened in Soviet Union and let's try not to repeat the mistakes in the past.
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Meat Shield 3 years ago
It is equally eye opening when somebody thinks that of YOU when you have some successes. You never know what a person is going through or how hard they work when nobody is watching. Best to respect each other and celebrate people’s success.
#19
Jobs aren’t meant to always be fun/your dream, sometimes you have to work a job you hate to stay afloat.
TheAquarius1978 3 years ago (edited)
And try them out i was a " puddle jumper " when it come to jobs, i tried a lot of stuff untill i finally found something i loved to do, and get ready to be shocked i love to work " retail "
Bubbles and sparks 3 years ago
Retail can be so much fun, my most enjoyed jobs were indeed also retail ;)
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Mosheh Wolf 3 years ago
On the other hand, despite what employers try to sell you, jobs aren't supposed to be your life - they're paying for the 8 hours that you are working, not for your life and soul.
InvincibleRodent 3 years ago
This. I like to conceptualize it as my job essentially renting me for 8 hours a day.
Load More Replies... Sapna Sarfare 3 years ago
Yes... exactly. And if you gives you food and gets you money to buy things you love, it is good
Lissa Wattenbarger 3 years ago
I could not get my lazy a*s ex-husband to understand this. I didn't like my job either but someone had to feed us and our children. Geez
Riley Quinn 3 years ago
If I had a nickel for every job change or school course change I would've been able to retire at 35. But this "hands-on" approach confidently led me to where I needed to go.
Michael Largey 3 years ago
And even when you do, it will be a lot of pain and turmoil to keep it that way.
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Mama Penguin 3 years ago
That is true. A lot of times we have to keep an open mind and willing to bend to a degree. I'm not saying be a doormat. But a lot of times we have to be realistic.
Christopher Gravelyn 3 years ago
I had the highest college entrance exams in my graduating class. I never found anything to pique my interested, so I've been in kitchens my whole life. It took me so long to understand that cooking in a crazy kitchen was the real mental challenge that I craved, and computer programming would've sucked out my soul. Whatever it is your do, that is your contribution to the life and prosperity of your fellow human being. Everything you create or do puts a little piece of you out in the world. The quality of your work is a reflection of who you are, hour much you respect yourself, regardless of where, what, or what anyone else is doing.
#20
Social media is not reality and your entire life should not revolve around it.
Tams21 3 years ago (edited)
When I was younger (the earlier days of Facebook), I quit my job and spent two years traveling around the world. I shared lots on social media. Obviously, everyone I knew on FB thought it was amazing and it was amazing. But the pictures didn't tell them about the many times I felt lonely or scared, about the nights in a bed half a planet from home, wishing to see somebody that knows me. It wasn't specifically my goal to just share the good bits, but it's a lot easier to take photos of them.
Sans Serif 3 years ago
Sooo LoL! Your entire life should revolve around something "sans" a keyboard/keypad.
Moose 3 years ago
So your saying as someone who builds software my life and work is meaningless?
Load More Replies... Meat Shield 3 years ago (edited)
I think it is as much reality as anything else that’s “entertainment”. This is a perspective thing. I agree it isn’t healthy and can give somebody a complex. It can make people superficial and judgmental. But to say it isn’t reality I think misses the mark.
#21
Please shower.
Cassi Lyris 3 years ago
And maybe install a bidet at home...after you live in a country with them for awhile and then come back to America you realize REAL fast that alot of people smell like wee really bad. It's like we tune the scent out in school. And for the love of all that is good and holy it does not make you "gay" to clean yourself in any way. Please, clean your bum...and maybe talk to someone...
Benita Valdez 3 years ago (edited)
Yeah there's natural musk which is fine and then there's pit stank which is great for bacterial growth and worsening the scent, as well as bodily yeast growth (cheese funk scent).
Joshua Moore 3 years ago
Sweet baby jebus, why does this even need to be on the list??? Oh that's right, people are disgusting.
Kim W 3 years ago
I know right.but it's the comments that actually don't see a problem with it most gross 🤢..
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Moth Rivers 3 years ago
Fun fact: there's a huge mental health crisis in teenagers rn and sometimes not showering is because of depression not uncleanness in general
#22
School has a system in place to keep you from falling behind, life doesn’t
ArodTheHorrible 3 years ago
Also, you can't ace life without effort even if you could do so with school
Jeanne Tarver 3 years ago
Riley Q: I am laughing so hard at your comment! I didn't attend that miracle school either.
Load More Replies... Greg Williams 3 years ago
It also has a system in place to chop the legs off at the knees of intelligent children
Cassi Lyris 3 years ago
It also has a very well placed system to shove the bright down...hard...
Nolgoth 3 years ago
Society is only as good as the weakest/most vulnerable among us. It isnt holding anyone back if everyone works together to lift each other up.
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Solidhog 3 years ago
Coming from the education system, I feel that we pamper children too much in education. There is too much effort to try and make everybody equal and shield them from failing. I think this just makes harder for them to handle when they leave school and enter the real world.
Michael Largey 3 years ago
Finding out you're really lousy at something is sometimes the best education possible.
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Selma Ferris 3 years ago
If one feels like school is hard, the adult world with its responsibilities is going to be a real shock.
#23
You need to learn the difference between normal teenage neuroses and mental illness.
Katie Lutesinger 3 years ago
I used to get so depressed when I was a teenager. But now I've reached adulthood I- wait, never mind.
Asif 3 years ago
Yeah. "Anxiety" is something we all feel before public speaking, etc. It's normal. Anxiety that means you can't leave your house without a panic attack is not.
HyperSwag506 3 years ago
Agoraphobia and anxiety are different. Agoraphobia is the unreasonable, uncontrollable fear of the outdoors. Anxiety is constantly creating fictional stories in your head about what people say and think, and constantly dreaming up the worse case scenarios. I know, because I have clinical anxiety.
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HyperSwag506 3 years ago
All you idiots (I apologize but I suffer from problems so I am very invested) agreeing with this… it is always better to TELL OTHERS IF YOU THINK YOU HAVE A PROBLEM THEN TO LET IT GO!!! TALK TO AN EXPERT!!! DON’T IGNORE IT!!! If you think you may be suffering from a mental illness, just like a physical one, talk to loved ones and a doctor. Always better to let people know and be wrong then to not let anyone know and be right.
Question everything 3 years ago
I agree, even teenage depression, anxiety, stress etc are valid. We have too many teenage suicides to ignore or brush it aside. Take your kids seriously, people.
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Briana Landers 3 years ago
I see so many teenage girls like "OMG IM SO BIPOLARRR BECKYYY" And I'm just over here like "no your brain is developing and therefore thinking primarily with your frontal cortex" (emotion driven thought process, major or minimal reactions, harder to control trigger reactions) but it's not just kids. Some PARENTS AND ADULTS need to know this too
️sHeS rEaLLy gOoD️ (They/Them) 3 years ago
It sucks cause then teen girls who actually are bipolar get treated like liars and dumb teens :(
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DancingPanda 3 years ago
This sucks cause I’m in my late teens and have been diagnosed by therapists and MEDICAL PROFESSIONALS and I’m like “I have clinical depression, bipolar disorder, and cptsd” cause it somehow came up I didn’t just randomly say it it was relevant, and someone else said “don’t we all” and another person said “I got my diagnosis from a website that was built by someone who goes to therapy and was told symptoms by their therapist” and then it’s downsized and when I have genuine manic episodes or my medication causes drowsiness or side effects, I’m “Lazy, stay up too late, moody, dramatic”
Amanda Trent 3 years ago
Just bcuz everyone else is a cutter, doesn't mean you should be too! I know some of them are for real, the ones that cut deep enough to need stitches and in places where nobody else can see on your body. But there's just too damn many copycats! It's atrocious, honestly.
piruoztek 3 years ago
But adults should learn that difference too, too many of them think teenagers/children can't have mental health problems, even if that child literally ask for help, they just laugh that they dOn'T hAvE rEaSoN to have problems or that it's not serious enough, because sOmE pEoPlE hAvE iT wOrSe.
piruoztek 3 years ago
And even if that is just being teenager, it doesn't mean they can't get some professional help if they feel they need it!
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angry_waffle 3 years ago
If you aren't sure, better to talk to a mental health professional if available. But also, you can be mentally unwell without being mentally ill.
#24
You're not "mature for your age." Anyone who says that to justify wanting to be with you is a creep.
Aaron Matye 3 years ago
Yup, that's me. I've always been "mature for my age," but it was all due to trauma.
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Rachel Smith 3 years ago
I mean I use to get that all the time but not from creepy men. I just was shy and smart, had a large vocabulary so I would get called "an old soul" which basically just means I wasn't doing all the stupid s**t teenagers normally do because I never felt the need to go to parties, get drunk and do random drugs
Cecily Holland 3 years ago
And that old Creep chestnut has been around for a long time and is going nowhere so be careful what you post on social media
Duane Ringlein 3 years ago
I'm 70 and sometimes I'm not mature for my age, and love being that way. You just have to find some way to have a little fun in your life no matter how old you are.
HyperSwag506 3 years ago (edited)
I’ve was called mature for my age because I never got into trouble and was always responsible. Nothing creepy or se*usl about it.
Riley Quinn 3 years ago
Yes, yes I am. And my maturity is telling me that you're a creep and to avoid you.
Cassi Lyris 3 years ago
Run. Run. Run. Run. A truly mature person is happy by themselves. That's a hard lesson, I know, but it's true. Now, once you're of legal age and happy with who you are and you find you like older partners that's completely different.
Malina TinyKittenTitan 3 years ago
If you were mature for your age you wouldn't fall for that line, mature breasts doesn't mean mature woman.
#25
As you get older you just keep realizing how dumb you were last year.
Headless Roach 3 years ago
You might like to know that trying to fall asleep while browsing BP is not so easy. Don't worry tho' - you'll learn that by next year 🙃
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Bonesko 3 years ago
This is why I am up at 3am thinking about stupid things I've done years ago.
Reddog McGraw 3 years ago
I once read, " You will realize how Wise your father was after all, just about the time your own son will consider you a doddering fool, as you did your own father at your son's age.
Bubbles and sparks 3 years ago
Lol, or just the other day ;p It's called life-experience, so we f*ck up and then the next time try a different approach ;)
Justin Haskell 3 years ago
I knew everything when I was I teen, so I thought. Now the more I know the more I realize how much I don't know.
#26
10 years from now, no one will care about how many viewers you had on tiktok
Miles Mawyer 3 years ago
I laughed out loud at some kids this weekend standing outside a bar. I was walking by and they were fighting, and I heard "Why would anyone listen to you? You only have 50 followers." The girl who said this heard me laughing and said "I know right!" so I stopped, and informed her that "No, I was laughing at you! The person that values people based on their social media presence." I got a "Whatever, dude" and an eyeroll. Why is that even a thing?!
Riley Quinn 3 years ago
I honestly don't know how many followers I have on any platform. And you know what? I don't give a fig!
Mama Penguin 3 years ago
10 years from now, you won't give a fug about social media and how many likes you got.
#27
Today's eyebrows are yesterday's clown makeup and tomorrow's regret fodder
sturmwesen 3 years ago (edited)
Ok, hands up every woman that never dyed, plucked, permed or whatevered her brows? *up*
hanginwithmygnomies 3 years ago
Meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee *raises hands, fingers, feet, toes, legs, arms, throws all caution to the wind and raises entire body*
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BadCat 3 years ago
I pluck my eyebrows clean them up because the hairs grow thinly and spread out down to my eyelid crease. It makes me feel frumpy, messy and tired. When I clean them up my eyes look lifted, brightened and cleaner. That's all I feel like I need to do. That and take care of my skin. Marks, freckles, sunspots, lines, uneven tones makes for interesting features.
Bubbles and sparks 3 years ago
I just never understood that idea.... shave them off to draw them back on and then have the face of Fido looking very surprised back at you in the mirror and then thinking "There now, that looks better." No no no no no, it doesn't look better, it almost never does.
Cassi Lyris 3 years ago
And that's perfectly fine. You should still experiment with things if it makes you happy. All trends come and go and come back again. 2030's clown makeup is 2055's newest retro trend.
Argle Bargle 3 years ago
Same as fake eyelashes. They look pathetic. The amount of people that walk around looking like a caricature of something people would laugh at on tv is legion.
BluEyedSeoulite 3 years ago
If anyone was wondering what the fluffed eyebrow trend reminds them of: Klingons. Especially half Klingons like K'Ehleyr. It took me months to realize it
Charlie Simpson 3 years ago
To be fair, if I don't pluck I grow a unibrow. I ain't about that life.
#28
Stop self-diagnosing yourselves with mental illnesses
KDav 3 years ago
Um, ok, but what about the kids who are literally barely hanging in there and no one is listening when they need help because they're being "dramatic" and "over-reacting"?
Nolgoth 3 years ago
Self diagnosis can be valid. Especially if you cannot afford to go see a professional or you are under age and no one believes in your struggles. Of course, as soon as you can, go speak with a professional and get evaluated.
BadCat 3 years ago
It's one thing if you really feel like something is off and you're looking for possible answers. It's quite another to purposely taken on the stereotypical traits of a mental disorder and go around claiming that's what you have.
Headless Roach 3 years ago (edited)
*slowly closing 14 browser tabs of Google search results for "why am i sad today?"*
Cecily Holland 3 years ago
Oh definitely this. It’s a competitive sport online with those guys
Pumpkin Spice 3 years ago
Self-diagnosis is valid. Adopting traits of mental illnesses and flaunting them to get attention is not good.
Rachel Smith 3 years ago
I agree to a certain extent. But if you think you may have a mental illness its worth talking to a doctor and then following up with a psychologist or therapist. Anxiety and depression is handed down through genetics in my family, I was extremely agoraphobic for many years and still find it hard to be outside my house.
#29
You didn’t invent that style
Justin Haskell 3 years ago
I hate this thing people say these days "oh that's not in style right now". Who tf gets to decide that. I was recently told rollerblading wasn't in style. Wtf, it's not a f*****g style it's fun/exercise. What you can't wear/do something till someone "famous" does it. Then suddenly it hip. F**k that.
Rachel Smith 3 years ago
Hahaha so many gen Z thinks this nowadays. It's kinda funny watching them wear all the old styles from 70s, 80s and 90s and they think they're so cool and unique.
Moth Rivers 3 years ago
Holy s**t I never would've guessed I never invented the alternative style that I wear 🙄
#30
We adults are mostly just winging it, hopefully learning from the TONS of mistakes we make, but still winging it.
Sans Serif 3 years ago
When the nurses handed me my first child (as we left the hospital), I said "Are you serious?""
Robert Trebor 3 years ago
"Where's the instruction manual for this thing?"
Load More Replies... Riley Quinn 3 years ago
Every day any number of random events can occur in your little world. Take a left or a right? That simple decision could have magnificent or tragic results. So, yeah, we're winging it every minute of every day.
Katie Lutesinger 3 years ago
I have two degrees and a management position at work and I'm *still* making it up as I go along.
Joseph King 3 years ago
Learn from the mistakes of others... You won't live long enough to make them all yourself 😜
Christina Hill 3 years ago
Regularly tell my coworkers "i don't know I'm just making this s**t up as I go.
Laura Brown 3 years ago
Adults just do the best they can with the tools they have...well, not all Adults...
#31
Someone somewhere cares about you deeply and loves to see you to be happy
N Gregory 3 years ago
Which is important to remember considering that 99% of the world population couldn't give a c**p about you, or even know you exist. And that is not a bad thing.
Rod McCabe 3 years ago
Actually in my circumstance, divorced at 54, noone anywhere cares. I've no family, friends, work associates, social media "friends", etc. Not "oh woe is me" by any means. I'm just saying that the original statement is not accurate for some of us.
N Gregory 3 years ago
At 54 you have at least *had* someone who cared about you deeply. These are messages to teens. And it should be accurate for most 14 year olds that someone cares about them, even if it's only a social worker in the system. No teen should feel so isolated so early in life.
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WordiGirl 3 years ago
I'm an internet stranger, but I love you and Jesus does too, even if you don't believe. Sending prayers and hugs.
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lhemilie202 3 years ago
Not true for everyone ...adult life can be a very lonely place to exist.
Sans Serif 3 years ago
One... can only hope! It's always best to work at deserving this rather than hoping it happens and, suddenly finding out... it didn't!
WordiGirl 3 years ago
For anyone saying this is not true, please know that it is. I'm an internet stranger, but I literally love every single person in the world, past, present, and future. I wish the best for them and pray for them daily. This even includes you. Yes. YOU. Reading this right now. I'm sending all the hugs your way. You may not believe, but Jesus loves you also. God bless you all. 🫂💛🙏
#32
Condoms are for stds too even tho there are other ways to avoid pregnancy.
Cecily Holland 3 years ago
Australia is having a Syphillis outbreak in under 25 s at the moment who don’t seem to know what they are for
Benita Valdez 3 years ago
In the US we've had "historic rates" of STDs in retirement homes. Yeah so doesn't matter what your age is, wear protection because STDs are not kept at bay by age or any form of birth control. Condoms may "not feel the same" or "reduce sensation" but they're probably a hell of a lot more comfortable than crotch rot.
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Riley Quinn 3 years ago
After living thru the Sex, Drugs, and Rock 'n Roll craze, then making it thru the AIDs pandemic, I'm truly set back on my heels to hear how STDs are still making the rounds. I have so much admiration and respect for our youth, but this is one area where they are being absolute and complete dumbasses.
Michael Rowe 3 years ago
I think the problem is there's no condom in most romantic movies so folks think it will kill the mood. If that kills the mood, you were already playing razor-thin margins that could result in regret/"maybe that was rape" feelings later.
Bubbles and sparks 3 years ago
use them, prevent unwanted pregnacies and stds and noadays there are so many different condoms to choose from, there is one for every d*ck and every situation ;)
Cassi Lyris 3 years ago
You sleep with everyone else your partner has slept with, and vice versa. Protect both of you.
Paul Greer 3 years ago
I married at 24 too another virgin. I highly recommend it. It requires only a little self control
Christina Hallauer 3 years ago
I don't know why they don't promote condom use more often. It really needs to be addressed more.
Justin Haskell 3 years ago
They're not 100% for pregnancy or std's. Watch your back and be careful who your with.
#33
In 15 years you’re going to think the kids have gone too far and they’re going to think you’re old-fashioned.
Sans Serif 3 years ago
Might have been fair warning 15 years ago, I'd be better prepared now...
Unknown oblivion 3 years ago (edited)
I’m from the current generation you call “kids” and I honestly think the same as you too, these kids /youth of todays age have seriously gone too far, we’ll a good majority of them the ones who make noise on platforms if any sort, if it’s this bad now then only god knows what’ll happen when I have my own kids, I fear for them People are becoming degenerate and ridiculous by the day (well the teens in TikTok and other things)
#34
Everything you do as a teenager will be cringe to your children
AnnaPanda 3 years ago
I love them and still wear them. Platform's are in fashion
Load More Replies... Cassi Lyris 3 years ago
Everything you do all the time is cringe to your children, which is fine as long as they know you love them.
Riley Quinn 3 years ago
All depends on your backstory. With a decent enough spin, you just might impress the little buggers.
Edward Treen 3 years ago
Some things maybe - but not all things. I'm in my eighth decade, and some things I got up to in the late 60s & 70s make me and my contemporaries absolute legends in the eyes of my son (he's almost 40).
#35
You're closer to being the "older" person in any given setting than you think. And by "old" I mean like 30. Got nieces and nephews just starting kindergarten? Haha. Blink and they're starting college.
FuzzyThinker 3 years ago (edited)
When I was 8 I called my 16 year old cousin old. One of my uncles asked what I had said so I repeated it. My uncles and my dad just looked at each other and smiled. I'm now 71.
Anne Roberts 3 years ago
Most of my co-workers are younger than my children. I am definitely the "old lady" at work. That's ok though. I learn a lot from them and enjoy it.
Laura Brown 3 years ago
My niece is 7, I'm in my mid-forties and my youngest daughter is now 18...you'll be that person before you know it.
#36
That heartache you're going through? It consumes everything now but it will be nothing but a footnote in the future. You'll rarely think about it later - & when you do, it won't hurt you.
It's hard to hear that your pain isn't the worst in the world when you're feeling it. But it does help to know that it won't mean as much as it does in this moment.
Rod McCabe 3 years ago
At 54, I've had more than "my share of GF" but, unlike some, I've only had 2 heartbrakes. I remember them as if they were yesterday. Heartaches of other kinds, maybe you can mediate them to a soft roar but they're there.
Dani Pret 3 years ago
I'm 41 and have a deep pain over one of my bf from 20 years ago. I'm happily married but it rears its ugly head when I remember. Some songs still hurt. My advice DON'T GIVE YOURSELF FULLY UNTIL MARRIED
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the versifier 3 years ago
This is a false platitude. None of it goes away, each person who dies or leaves also leaves a hole that will never be filled again. As you get older you spend your life trying to protect your children from feeling the same way when they grow up
Jennifer Shaw 3 years ago
I don’t think this is meant to refer to someone dying. I think it’s more aimed at break-ups.
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Riley Quinn 3 years ago
Heartache in the form of a death of a loved one never goes away. It might shift to being a dull ache at some point, but it never goes away.
Jonahs Mrs 3 years ago
I utterly believed that i would never get over or get past my first adult relationship breaking up....and now married to the absolute love of my life I cannot credit what I saw in my cruel, manipulative and abusive first "grown up" boyfriend. I was 18 they were 24 and yes they loved bombed me first and told me the age gap would be a no no with anyone else but me y'all know the script. Complete honesty if I saw them for the first time again now, they wouldn't even register on my radar Know. Your. Worth. Parents make sure your children know they are loved and respected from day one and should expect the same from anyone wanting to be in their lives x Here endeth my lesson x
Meat Shield 3 years ago
This is very true. Impossible to grasp when you’re in the middle of it. Best advice I ever got was don’t make decisions when things are too good or too bad. Give it time and distance then make your decisions.
Shreeky 3 years ago
My heartbreak was when I found my ex-husband boinking our friend in the cemetery when they thought I passed out drunk just like her husband. I should had left him them but I was afraid of being alone and losing our kids so I dealt with him for 6 more years of hell before I realized he has never loved me or he would had never verbally abused me and our oldest daughter or had never gotten me drunk just to sneak out and boink our so called "friends" or threatened to report me for kidnapping if I ever leave him and took the kids(which I found out that he couldn't do that, being married it's not illegal to leave your spouse and take the kids especially if they are abusing you or their own kids including verbally abusing) Not knowing what love really is coming from a man it took me awhile to figure out just because someone actually cares about you doesn't mean they are in love with you. I learned that cple yrs ago finally my ex-husband and I were married from 2001 and left him in 2017.
Steven Mankey 3 years ago
Kinda disagree.....PISD and PTSD with depression won't let me forget the pain
#37
Things will likely take significantly longer to achieve than you think
Riley Quinn 3 years ago
This is so painfully true, no matter how many times I've had to have this pointed out to me.
Subconscious Dreams Studios 3 years ago
Bro that’s my whole life story right there! From the moment I was born I was trying to do stuff that I couldn’t physically do yet and I would pitch a fit in frustration!!!
All's Gravy 3 years ago
That's because capitalism lies. Then you find out and it lies again saying your share will be along shortly - it never will.
#38
An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. Cut back on the sugary s**t now. Take care of your teeth now. Start working out now. You don’t have to be a bodybuilder and look like Arnold Schwarzenegger, just be active. Now is the time to get out and do a bunch of crazy s**t but at the same time remember that whatever you do now you pay for 20 years later somehow someway. And this can be taken in a good way or a bad way. Don’t want to take care of your teeth now? Have fun dropping $30,000 on your teeth like I had to. Not exercising or eating right? Have fun with that quadruple bypass that my father just had. My girlfriend’s parents are older than my parents but because they do those things they haven’t had nearly as much hospital visits as my parents have. By comparison my parents are falling apart and they’re only in the 50s. My girlfriend’s parents are in their 70s and objectively are healthier. The big difference? Early in the morning, every morning those two are downstairs working out hitting the weights and machines for a solid hour or two. Do you want to speed and act a damn fool on the road? Have fun when you have to pay for your own insurance and nobody wants to ensure you to drive a f*****g Honda Civic for no less than $350, like me. Even my f*****g car, it was my dream car and it still is the car I would be driving today had just taken care of the goddamn thing. But no it started leaking oil and I didn’t keep up with it or take it in and now I have to drive a goddamn Civic when I used to drive a Lexus. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.
Sans Serif 3 years ago
Most often, being naturally proactive is a healthy approach to life. I have, however, encountered a number of people who have so "prevention'd" themselves out of their life experience that makes me sad. Be aware, cautious but... always curious...
Unknown oblivion 3 years ago
In Islam there’s a saying “prevention is better than cure” and I totally belligerent that and it’s frustrating when people overlook things that’ll just snowball effect to a problem eventually, so why are they acting oblivious and carefree now as if what they’re doing now won’t effect their future or future of their loved ones around them, it’s a frustrating sight for me sometimes as I feel like I can’t intervene and If I do they’ll either brush me off or say I’m too serious or thinking too much into it etc :// Oh well I guess I’ll just work on me and my own imitate responsibilities and future care (kids, finances, faith:hereafter, health,living and security) It’s hard to turn a blind eye on something you know will happen and see others falling into an avoidable problem is one of the most frustrating and upsetting things to me, especially when it’s family or ppl I care for. I wish they’d come and talk about it to me first and maybe give them some perspective or something
L̸1̶z̵ 3 years ago (edited)
I think you meant 'believe' instead of 'belligerent', but I don't know what you meant instead of 'imitate'. Anyway, have an upvote 🙂
Load More Replies... BadCat 3 years ago
#4 is advice my ex could use. Still drives like an idiot and claims it's okay because he's a "professional driver". Yet, he's always racking up speeding tickets, DUIs for driving high, and some blame for a couple accidents. People have choices in life and this is one of them.
Justin Haskell 3 years ago
A body in motion stays in motion, a body at rest stays at rest. Most times aches and pains will only go away if you get up and go. Resting aches and pains usually just makes them worse.
cathy hurd 3 years ago (edited)
Being in shape and not overweight, not drinking or smoking hasn't prevented my high blood pressure, 3 back surgeries or bowel resection. I should have had fun while I could.
Riley Quinn 3 years ago
Now, if OP could convince our world governments of this prevention stuff, we might have a future.
Meat Shield 3 years ago (edited)
Don’t put garbage in your mouth, ears, and eyes and you’ll have a much happier life.
#39
Not everyone needs to go to college. High school is probably the easiest thing you'll do.
Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago (edited)
Follow your particular talents instead of letting someone else dictate what you should do for a living. Were you always the kid who could take broken things apart, fix them, and put them back together? There are countless types of jobs where people do just that. Were you the kid who was always building stuff? There are jobs for that too. Same goes for every talent and ability a person could have. Just take a moment to think about it, and figure out what you’re really good at, then research the variety of jobs requiring it. If you’re a total whiz at math and want to have a career where all you do is math, but your parents want you to be a doctor, sit them down and outline just how important and respectable, as well as lucrative, your chosen career is. Could change their minds, and stop the pressure they’ve been putting on you to go to med school.
setsuriseikou 3 years ago
So much this! I went to uni because it was mandatory for my dream job, but my SO, who's been really good with computers since his childhood, is now highly valued in his field and makes 3 to 4 times more than I do without any kind of higher education.
Load More Replies... Benita Valdez 3 years ago
You don't have to go to college; a trade or program or specialty school is just as good. And even if you don't go to anything, get those jobs, gain that experience and then one day you could potentially get a really good job or a job that's ok but you actually like
Mousey 3 years ago
And If you don't know what you want to do with the rest if your life, ITS OK! I am doing a job I never even knew existed when I graduated high school and am making 3 times what I would have if I had graduated with the degree I was chasing at 18. (Took "a break" from college 22 years ago and never looked back!)
Robert Trebor 3 years ago
The next generation of plumbers and electricians is still in doubt. All that I know are in their 50's.
FuzzyThinker 3 years ago
Hard work is a good thing. As Mike Rowe said, "Work smarter, not harder. Do something you really enjoy doing and you will be happy in your life.
Shreeky 3 years ago
My ex sister in law never went to college due to lack of funds and where she grew up at was in a rural area in TN back in the late 70s 80s and 90s there was no middle schools(and they still don't to this day my kids went to school in the same county as my ex SIL). But she was really smart when it came to Language Arts and math... but couldn't afford college... Before she was 30 she was an Assistant Store Manager at her job She loved her salary and her job and for her never going to college she did really good.(until she did something stupid and lost it all but that's another story) You can have a really GOOD job without taking out student loans and s**t just to go to college when you are NOT guaranteed to get your dream job🤔
Shreeky 3 years ago
Fyi she started out as a "cake decorator" at 18yrs old.. Then team leader then manager to salary paid assistant store manager. Her cake decorating was really really good and could do freehand ... And that's how she became assistant store manager
Load More Replies... Christina Hallauer 3 years ago
I think there should be more vo-Tech options. Learning life skills because not everybody is cut out for "book smarts".
#40
Your metabolism won't last forever. Practice and develop healthy exercise and diet habits now before it gets harder and with more consequences later. I'm just about to turn 30 in a couple weeks. I am 100 lbs heavier than I was in high school (to be fair I was super tall and skinny to the point of slightly underweight), and that's after losing 25 lbs since the start of July. I have high blood pressure and elevated cholesterol. I am a father of a 2 year old that doesn't want to die in the 40-60 range. I also want to live as a good example to her. Another 35 lbs and I'll reevaluate what my body type is like and reset my goals from there. That would be 240 lbs, which I was about 4 years ago...but it would also be a more muscular/trimmed 240. I'll determine where in the 210-240 range I want to end up and what my body and lifestyle will be like. Running is still hard, but using the elliptical is easier on the knees than it was 25 lbs ago. I want to eventually be able to do the Broad Street Run (10 miles through Philadelphia) even though I hate running. If my knees don't like it, I'll do something else as an equivalent. As an added bonus, my sex drive I think is improving but nowhere near what it was when I was in the 220-250 range. I don't think it's 100% related, but maybe it's more than 50%.
Bubbles and sparks 3 years ago
Good for you you want to take care of your body to hopefully have a more healthier body and thus time to spend with your kiddo, you're still so young, you should be able to achieve your goals and even if you have to adjust your plans a little, that's okay too ;) And about your sex drive, honey, having a todler in the house, doing the job and family thing, those are the things that are all of influence on anybodies sexdrive, not just yours... Being tired and having a lot on your mind are also factors. Now that you are working out, your endorfinlevels go up and thus...so will your sexdrive, so go and enjoy it with your SO ;)
BadCat 3 years ago
One of the many reasons I left my desk job was this reason. All day, Mon-Fri, was sitting. I gained a lot of weight. Once I was working at home I gained even more and started sagging in embarrassing areas. I saw obituary notices in the company newsletters of all the employees that died. I noticed their ages were mostly under 70 and according to the pictures, they didn't look healthy and fit. I was observing the other employees at least 10 of them were morbidly obese, and a few had declining mobility and health over the years I had been there. One lady used to be able to walk around okay with no aid. Then she started using a cane. Then a walker with great difficulty. No one was losing weight or getting healthier, despite changing their diets or sticking to a green, leafy diet. I didn't want to end up like that. This is not to shame anyone. It's just something I noticed unique to that company.
Jennifer Shaw 3 years ago
I got a standing desk because of this, best investment ever. It allows me to move around while working. I don’t know how I lasted so long without it. I also take mini exercise breaks where i just do squats or jumping jacks or something. Definitely helped with weight and mental health.
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Justin Haskell 3 years ago
Omg, in gym you run. As a kid you run, tag, man hunt etc. It's just normal. Then you get a license and have no more gym. I couldn't believe how stupid I felt running after years of not. Wtf, I forgot how to run.
Kay Mackenzie 3 years ago
Seriously, take care of your health. I'm 27, and just got out of the hospital for TWO blood clots in one lung. I'm not overweight, but I do smoke and Ive never considered cholesterol. It was a hard rude awakening
#41
They’re most likely not going to be the one.
Bubbles and sparks 3 years ago
yup, most likely not and that's okay too.... nothing wrong with having some or a lot of test drives before you stick to "the one", and yes, girls/women are allowed to take a lot of test drives too, that doesn't make them bad drivers if you know what I mean ;)
setsuriseikou 3 years ago
And there might be no "the one" at all. Even if you fit each other perfectly now, it does not guarantee that you will not grow apart in the future. And it won't necessarily be someone's fault, because we all change as we live, and some of these changes will bring us closer together, while others might lead us away from each other.
BadCat 3 years ago
You will never know who "the one" is until you've been living with them for 20 years, and you end up retiring with each other, going through a ton of rough patches. Then one day you're having a golden anniversary and you realize how long you've been with each other and it's then you know you snagged "the one". But you're not going to know before the proposal, after the wedding, after the first few years.
Leoninus Fate 3 years ago
this is a lie, you will always be the one to someone, the most likely part is, you may never meet them
#42
You know nothing and it's okay.
Kelly Taylor 3 years ago
This is the least true of all of these statements. A lot of them seem degrading in their ignorance or arrogance but this one takes the cake. You know what you know and that's okay but go find out more!
L̸1̶z̵ 3 years ago (edited)
The point is that there is so much more that we don't know. It's not a lie to say it's ok not to know. If you're asked a question, there should never be pressure on anyone to HAVE TO KNOW THE ANSWER; if you don't know, then you don't know. The whole reason for science is to explore what we don't know. I'm not arrogant enough to say that I know everything about what I know because there is plenty more that I don't know. Riley Quinn below has it right, that what we know can easily fit on the head of a pin, but I'll add that this is in relation to what we don't know, which is as large as the entire universe. EDIT TO ADD: It's a hyperbole to say we know "nothing" though, because we do know SOME things.
Load More Replies... Riley Quinn 3 years ago
Not quite true. In reality, what you know can easily fit on the head of a pin.
censorshipsucks 3 years ago
actually no, it depends on what kind of knowledge you're talking about. As a teen in the 80s I could explain nuclear physics and computer motherboards. I knew SOMETHING. Just not much about life beyond facts.
#43
Their children will blame their generation for all their problems
Headless Roach 3 years ago
Isn't that a bit fair, though? The next generation will live in a world we leave for them. All of our f*ups included.
Gini Sarver 3 years ago
in some ways i agree, but, we have to keep in mind that they too inherited a not so perfect world too
Load More Replies... Riley Quinn 3 years ago
The Baby Boomers' unprecedented greed and gross procrastination will have Gen X/Z talking about us for a long time. And rightfully so.
#44
Those are probably not friends for life - ok, slim chances for some.
K- THULU 3 years ago
Its like a graph....big on one side, then tapers away the older you get....
WonderWoman 3 years ago
Stop keeping people who treat you crappy around just to say you have been friends forever! Evolve, grow, and be you. Friends don't drag friends down.
Gini Sarver 3 years ago
my BFF passed away last october, we’d been besties since the age of 5…. my gosh i miss her, i feel so alone w/out her, i hope their who will/have experience the same type of friendship jalissa & i shared 💚
#45
High school won’t last forever
tl gmc 3 years ago
No it's 1000s times better middle and high school are way worse than real life
Load More Replies... Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago (edited)
That was the greatest information my oldest brother ever gave me. I was having a hard time in high school (not scholasticly, but socially), and was pretty down about it. Talked to my oldest brother about it, and he told me that high school is incredibly temporary, and I’ll be out in the world before I know it. He said high school is a tiny social microcosm that doesn’t matter a damn, and also doesn’t mirror the real world. He said to go on being myself, regardless of what other kids might say. There’s going to be a huge number of people I’ll end up meeting later in life who will love and accept me just the way I am, and the memories of kids in high school making me feel weird and awkward will fade fast. He was right. I have found my niche and my friends, and am accepted for myself, as myself. High school is now such a distant memory that I haven’t gone to any reunions, or even thought very much of it, until someone asks about it. Granted, it is a part of my past, but it’s not one I dwell on much at all, and I certainly never let my experiences there affect the rest of my life.
Phoenix Connor 3 years ago
I'm a sophomore and Im already freaking out about graduating. It feels like a pit stop in time rn and I never want it to end. Anyone feel or felt like that?
Hypoxia Smurf 3 years ago
When my divorced parents moved locally, and I was bounced between them, I attended three public high schools, spent a semester in a juvenile hall HS, then finally graduated from an adult HS far away. No high school lasted very long.
Kurtis Wethington 3 years ago
Even a year after high school, it was something of a black comedy of how much/hard life was kicking former classmates (that expected to be the next big shot) in the teeth.
#46
Early successes at this stage in your life won’t necessarily give you an advantage later, but early failures will likely hold you back significantly. Basically getting straight As in high school will leave you closer to the mean than failing a number of classes.
Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago (edited)
Just sit up and listen in class now. Even if you don’t go to college right away, or at all, just knowing that, if you wanted to go, your high school GPA will not stand in your way of getting accepted to the university or college you want to go to (or can afford to go to). I didn’t go to college at 18, but when I later decided to go, my GPA from high school led to an immediate acceptance from the school I applied to, without having to take any refresher courses.
L̸1̶z̵ 3 years ago
Failures also make for good life lessons though and can actually give someone an advantage when they are older. School is not everything and there are other ways/places to learn. I did awful in high school (50's in almost everything except Phys Ed and cooking) but when I went to university I had high 80's and 90's throughout both my degrees because I had learned how I learn best, and could implement my learning styles better. Life is a better teacher than school will ever be.
#47
The price of rent and housing they will have to deal with in a few years
L̸1̶z̵ 3 years ago (edited)
My rent for my 2-br house is only $25 more than shown in the pic 😂😂
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Upper Enchilada 3 years ago (edited)
How about “Your parents shop at Walmart, not because they don’t care about employee treatment, but because it’s practical. Chances are, you’ll give up more and more ideals as you get older for practicality, so hold back your judgements”.
AmmoniteCat 3 years ago
This post...felt sorta hateful. Like the whole world is against teenagers. All of us can't be grouped into a single category. We're still different people. And we don't have it as easy as you'd think.
censorshipsucks 3 years ago
not really, it's just giving advice we ourselves ignored as teens and now see the point of.
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$cagsy 3 years ago
Some good tips there for everyone, I think. Also, I'm of the opinion that teenagers generally, are underestimated. Obviously they don't know everything but they might surprise you if you give them the chance. In my limited experience, a constant stream of advice is worth much less than a lesson learned firsthand.
angry_waffle 3 years ago
A lot of these give off the idea of "You kids and your mental struggles /derogatory". So sorry that a lot of us are self-diagnosing, it's just that therapy is hundreds of dollars. Sorry that everyone reacts to heartbreak severely in the moment, a lot of us are hanging on by threads and every little thing can be the thing to make us give up. Sorry that everything is so much harder for you as adults, but if you keep complaining to us, some of us might end up thinking that it's not worth living to adulthood.
Shoshana Sherrington 3 years ago
The fact that this post makes you angry is your problem, most of this is ppls reflections on their own lives. And don't you dare try to tell people in any kind of veiled or open way that if you do something drastic it's their fault BC they offered some constructive criticism. Find an adult in your life you can talk to and I wish you the best. Just remember that this phase of life is incredibly short, the ball keeps rolling
Load More Replies... Moth Rivers 3 years ago
Most of this article wasn't even helpful, just telling kids to get their heads out of their a*s. It felt spiteful and hateful. I thought it was going to be more stuff like the heartbreak one that can ACTUALLY HELP or the condom one that can ACTUALLY HELP
Angel Silhouette 3 years ago
At some point after hitting 30, you'll realize that your 20s was just your late childhood. It's a shame we realize that so late.
Shoshana Sherrington 3 years ago
Any person who breaks up with you isn't the only one you could ever love and now your life is over. To the opposite extreme, dropping a good relationship to chase a new flame is stupid and selfish. Consider that you don't necessarily know what it is to be in love and it's not infatuation. That does. Love lasts. Two opposite tips here. Don't despair from heartbreak but don't steal someone else's spouse or ditch your own BC so and so is so attractive to you and you're sure you love them. You don't.
Charlie Simpson 3 years ago
Come back in 15 years and tell me you still feel the same way. While not everyone can be lumped into any one category, the best advice given is straight and to the point. Often times teens think they have a firm grasp on life and while some have a better grasp than others and don't need this advice nearly as much, some will hear this advice with good intention to follow and still have to find these things out the hard way. The life experience just isn't there and unsolicited advice will always come across as this person thinks they know me, thinks they know better than me. They don't know you, by they do mostly know better because they've lived it. Either way, like someone above said, you either get it already or you have to live it and find out for yourself. If any of it doesn't seem to apply to you, it probably doesn't.
Upper Enchilada 3 years ago (edited)
How about “Your parents shop at Walmart, not because they don’t care about employee treatment, but because it’s practical. Chances are, you’ll give up more and more ideals as you get older for practicality, so hold back your judgements”.
AmmoniteCat 3 years ago
This post...felt sorta hateful. Like the whole world is against teenagers. All of us can't be grouped into a single category. We're still different people. And we don't have it as easy as you'd think.
censorshipsucks 3 years ago
not really, it's just giving advice we ourselves ignored as teens and now see the point of.
Load More Replies... $cagsy 3 years ago
Some good tips there for everyone, I think. Also, I'm of the opinion that teenagers generally, are underestimated. Obviously they don't know everything but they might surprise you if you give them the chance. In my limited experience, a constant stream of advice is worth much less than a lesson learned firsthand.
angry_waffle 3 years ago
A lot of these give off the idea of "You kids and your mental struggles /derogatory". So sorry that a lot of us are self-diagnosing, it's just that therapy is hundreds of dollars. Sorry that everyone reacts to heartbreak severely in the moment, a lot of us are hanging on by threads and every little thing can be the thing to make us give up. Sorry that everything is so much harder for you as adults, but if you keep complaining to us, some of us might end up thinking that it's not worth living to adulthood.
Shoshana Sherrington 3 years ago
The fact that this post makes you angry is your problem, most of this is ppls reflections on their own lives. And don't you dare try to tell people in any kind of veiled or open way that if you do something drastic it's their fault BC they offered some constructive criticism. Find an adult in your life you can talk to and I wish you the best. Just remember that this phase of life is incredibly short, the ball keeps rolling
Load More Replies... Moth Rivers 3 years ago
Most of this article wasn't even helpful, just telling kids to get their heads out of their a*s. It felt spiteful and hateful. I thought it was going to be more stuff like the heartbreak one that can ACTUALLY HELP or the condom one that can ACTUALLY HELP
Angel Silhouette 3 years ago
At some point after hitting 30, you'll realize that your 20s was just your late childhood. It's a shame we realize that so late.
Shoshana Sherrington 3 years ago
Any person who breaks up with you isn't the only one you could ever love and now your life is over. To the opposite extreme, dropping a good relationship to chase a new flame is stupid and selfish. Consider that you don't necessarily know what it is to be in love and it's not infatuation. That does. Love lasts. Two opposite tips here. Don't despair from heartbreak but don't steal someone else's spouse or ditch your own BC so and so is so attractive to you and you're sure you love them. You don't.
Charlie Simpson 3 years ago
Come back in 15 years and tell me you still feel the same way. While not everyone can be lumped into any one category, the best advice given is straight and to the point. Often times teens think they have a firm grasp on life and while some have a better grasp than others and don't need this advice nearly as much, some will hear this advice with good intention to follow and still have to find these things out the hard way. The life experience just isn't there and unsolicited advice will always come across as this person thinks they know me, thinks they know better than me. They don't know you, by they do mostly know better because they've lived it. Either way, like someone above said, you either get it already or you have to live it and find out for yourself. If any of it doesn't seem to apply to you, it probably doesn't.
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