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40 Nurses Joined This Viral Twitter Thread Sharing What Their Older Patients Have Confessed To Them
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Very often, we see people working in the retail industry telling horror stories about clients who demand the most ridiculous things. How they cannot explain to people that things cannot be done as they wish and how they get yelled at for things that don't depend on a simple worker.
There are many other professions where workers have to deal with people, like the medicine field, and they also have some stories to tell. Twitter user zorn put out a thought into the world that nursing school didn't prepare him for the awful things he would be hearing while caring for his patients, and others were quick to share their own stories.
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And those stories aren't funny, but quite serious: they were told by elderly people with illnesses that might have had some effect on their brains, but you never know, and it's chilling how many people have pretty dark secrets.
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Zophra 4 years ago
Its sad that that is what it takes to shut hateful speech up - not just common decency. :(
Shahzad Ahmad Shahzad Ahmad 4 years ago
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Miss Frankfurter 4 years ago
At one hospital i worked at in the US I worked with some of the most brilliant MDs in their specialties in the entire country. I do mean BRILLIANT. Some had actually made medical history that benefits the world to this day. This particular cardiologist is one of them. I went into the patient's room with this MD while he spoke with the patient. I stayed in the room after he left. The patient then said "He sure is a good doctor for a black man" 😡 I informed him that he is a brilliant doctor PEROID. One of the most brilliant cardiologists in the country and you are very fortunate to have him for your doctor. PERIOD. Don't let me hear you say something like that again. Apologies were the only thing he was saying at that point.
Bex 4 years ago
I used to be an EMT a million years ago. I was caring for a patient who happened to be an elderly white woman. She looked at me as we were loading up, and said: "The coloreds go in the back." I hopped in, smiled at her and said "Darling, we're both in the back!" She literally clutched her pearls and asked my white partner to keep her bag in the front seat. I just smiled and provided my patient with top-notch care. I might have been a little extra nice to her, I'll admit. Just because :)
Cheri Aline Sydney 4 years ago
Bex, I admire your grace! I hope your kindness comes back to you hundreds of times over ~ You have earned respect!
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Bama Belle 4 years ago
Reminds me of that old country song by Tanya Tucker, No Man's Land. If you're not familiar with it, look up the lyrics. Great story.
Moxxidude 4 years ago
True story: Older white guy (about 75) comes up to me in a mall parking lot. Asks if I could help him out and give him a boost. I say “Yeah sure” and then out of nowhere says “I’m in the K-K-K…” and I immediately said “You can f**k off and boost your own car.” And he says, “K-K-K-Mart p-p-parking lot.” I held it together long enough to help him out and then almost literally cried laughing for a week.
It seems that Twitter user zorn really said what a lot of people were wondering about, or genuinely related to, as his tweet amassed 371k likes and got nearly 2k responses, which included just surprised-Pikachu-face reactions or people’s own stories of hearing or witnessing some awful things.
The user zorn whose tweet went viral has been a nurse for three years and worked on a med surg floor for the whole of his career. When Bored Panda reached out to him, he said that he loves working there. He said they "see patients of all ages with a huge variety of backgrounds and diagnoses." Some personal facts about zorn are that he lives with his wonderful girlfriend and they have "three perfect cats."
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lazy panda 4 years ago (edited)
I need Jack Nicholson to be the mobster and Morgan Freeman to be the FBI agent. That is all.
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Katinka Min 4 years ago
This give me a weird feeling. In the end, all our life struggles are pretty much in vain and forgotten.
Samantha Lomb 4 years ago
Sadly its likely because they were respectively the only people they recognized/ remembered in the ward.
Vicky Zar 4 years ago
And/ or because Alzheimer patients often completely change their personality
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Al Christensen 4 years ago
Lock down Alzheimer unit? Is that so they can't wander off? Or were they incarcerated?
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lara 4 years ago
I remember a "House" episode, where this young couple wanted to be together and his dad was so opposed. They assumed it was because his dad was a racist and didn't want a mixed race daughter in law. Nope, not the reason. Seems that dad had an affair with the girl's mom and the girl was HIS daughter. They had already had sex. That was probably the single most heartbreaking episode I saw, except for the ones about Huntington's and whathisname's cancer diagnosis, the last show.
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Zophra 4 years ago
How sad that the hate for another race wins over love for their son's happiness.
Vicky Zar 4 years ago
Yes, but back then life was different, too. Their son might have been in danger if he married a black girl, so they did want "what's best for him"... in a way. I'm not excusing them, I just think that one should take society into account
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Sofie 4 years ago
This is so sad. My story doesn't beat this, but when I worked at a home for the elderly a man moved in. He suffered from dementia. When I visited him in his room for the first time he had a picture on the wall, it was his late wife. She looked eerily like me, and he got teary eyed and asked me my name, where I came from and so on. Poor man must've thought he had lost his mind completely and traveled back in time or something.
Nannerdog 4 years ago
At the same time, Sofie, maybe it was theaputic for him to see you. :) Maybe you brought him a little spark of joy, seeing her in you. In any case, you have beautiful empathy, especially taking care of the elderly.
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Rose the Cook 4 years ago
It is often not just about race but also nationality. My first husband's family hated and abused me because I was not one of them although we were all Caucasian. I know many people whose parents insisted they marry Italians, Greeks or whatever.
We asked if zorn was surprised to see how much attention his tweet received and his response was "Not at all! I talk about work fairly often on Twitter, and have definitely never had any response of close to this magnitude. I always do my best to avoid any patient identifiers and to maintain patient privacy and adhere to HIPAA."
He puts out the tweets witjout having any malicious intents, "It's important to have somewhere to vent about work and kind of shout into the void. It's a hard job. And it's hard to talk to people in my real life about it."
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M O'Connell 4 years ago
That's tragic. I cannot comprehend how abusive people don't realize that their horrible actions will absolutely have life-long effects.
Paul Mitchell 4 years ago
This type of violence by women is pushed under the carpet because 'women are oppressed'. It needs to be brought into the open so it can be stopped.
John C 4 years ago
I won't wish that, because I strongly suspect those misogynistic "values" were instilled in her by HER parents. And the poor woman never managed to break those chains.
Load More Replies... Watching 4 years ago
We can only pray to God. That he loved her like she deserved.
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Happi doggi 4 years ago
I got really confused as to why the sergeant had to stop him. Like dude, don’t drop grenades on babies.
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deanna woods 4 years ago
He probably never changed his opinion on that subject either. Most of the people like this never change.
Vicky Zar 4 years ago
Maybe, maybe not. I like to think that he regrets his actions. Otherwise: why speak about this particular incident?
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Franc Esca 4 years ago
What's wrong is people who want to "go back to the old days." You want even more inequality, world war and segregation? Idiots.
Everything_Fubar 4 years ago
Obviously when people say that they are referring to the positive aspects
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Azure Adams 4 years ago
should have killed that guy then quit immediately. Some don't deserve mercy
There were a lot of people responding to zorn's tweet with their own stories and the author of the original tweet says, "I think nurses are in a unique position. We are one of the most trusted professionals. And we build relationships with patients when we care for them multiple shifts. We're some of the only people they see while they're in the hospital, sometimes. And they're in a sort of vulnerable position that I feel like makes confessions more likely. Plus, nurses are more likely than a lot of professions to be around people when they're altered in some way or another-- delirious, or coming out of anesthesia, or suffering from dementia, or on certain medications."
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F. H. 4 years ago
That's just one side of the story, though. You don't know how other people of his unit thought about it.
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Kona Pake 4 years ago
Unfortunately, too many good people die because of ego and bad leadership.
M O'Connell 4 years ago
Especially in the First World War. So many officers came ill-prepared for the tactics and weapons of a modern war, trying to lead 19th Century infantry charges into 20th Century machine guns.
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Watching 4 years ago
Sort of like the "sheep" crap being pimped by the Trump Trash.
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Beatrice Multhaupt 4 years ago
My father was a German medic during WWII . He told me it was common to see officers with fatal gunshot wounds entering the back. Such injuries never occurred in enlisted soldiers: they were shot from the front by the enemy lines.
Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago
That’s part of the origin story for why we call abusive commanding officers “martinets”. (Google it.)
Valerie Anne 4 years ago
That is nothing to be ashamed about. Bravo to your grandfather for doing the right thing and saving people's lives.
AspieGirl88 4 years ago
I think if the grandfather had shot his commanding officer out of nothing but malice, he would’ve confessed to it (because that’s a hard thing to live with & I'm sure he wouldn’t want to die with that on his conscience). This seems like a truthful post, though that’s just my opinion. I personally think if it was done with the best intentions (to save innocent lives), then there’s no real point in punishing him for it. Let him live the rest of his days in peace. If there’s anything to judge, it’ll happen on the other side of life... 🤷♀️
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Valerie Anne 4 years ago
I flat out told my now fiance that if I was that sick, with no hope of recovery, I would want to go out on my own terms. After watching Lewy Body dementia make my dad a prisoner in his own body and not being able to do anything when he begged me to end his suffering, I will not put my soon to be husband through that.
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13 4 years ago
I love living in a country where euthanasia is legal. It's absolutely brilliant to realise NO ONE has to suffer needlessly anymore. And no, it does not get taken advantage of.
Celtic Pirate Queen 4 years ago
I've never understood why it's anyone's business if you want to end your own life. My Dad & I discussed this when he was diagnosed with cancer. I told him straight up that I'd make him a "special" tea if he ever asked. Luckily, it wasn't necessary - but I would have to end his suffering.
Apachebathmat 4 years ago
I work as an undertaker and see so many loved ones arrive into my care that have just been ravaged by disease, 90% of the time, the last memory their family has is of them being in dire pain and are pleased to see them looking so rested, it breaks my heart every time. Euthanasia really is the kinder way.
HammerzToe 4 years ago
We will give our beloved pets a way to escape pain and the horrors that old age can sometimes have by giving them euthanasia, why can't we do that for people? Do we really hate each other so much that we can't give our fellow man an out? Do we really have to make a wife and nurse help a person in pain by stuffing a pillow over that persons head. How tragic
If you’re not in the field, you wouldn’t think that people become so talkative and spill all their secrets that are really serious and you don’t even know if they are for real or just messing with you.
zorn guesses why nurses sometimes become confessors, "I do feel like there's a trust and intimacy in the patient/nurse relationship that makes confessions of one nature another more likely. In cases where patients are talking about relationships, or traumas they've experienced, it's a privilege to be able to help them carry that burden. Being trusted like that is an honor."
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May 4 years ago
I used to work with cancer patients (now I teach others how to do that) but never once did anyone confess to a crime. Mind you we get like one unsolved murder per decade in Norway, so that wasn't likely to happen, but not even a confession of theft or embezzlement or anything.
Hotrobot 4 years ago
If I could afford it, I would move to your country, the US is hell. I am genuinely curious as to why you think Norway is just nicer to its people and its people nicer to each other. Because the hate here is easy to understand economic depression, willfully under educating the masses and just good ol' founded by white supremacists. But it's like trying to imagine a world of color when everything is black and white. I just want to hear about the colors and hope for a better future.
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Ladedah 4 years ago
I once had a frail little old lady with dementia describe - in detail (and in a very creepy, matter-of-fact, yet hushed, tone) - how she killed her brother and got away with it. Note to self: Never do anything that you might not want anyone to ever know... you might one day find yourself with dementia and telling random people.
AspieGirl88 4 years ago (edited)
You shouldn’t take everything as truth, considering dementia involves the mind deteriorating. I only know this because my (half) sister’s dad had Alzheimer’s & some of the things he would say were shocking & definitely weren’t like him at all ... like when he once eerily told my older sis “I promise I’m not going to hurt you”. Thankfully, my sister did her research since he was diagnosed & already knew it was the result of his deteriorating brain & not something that he himself was saying. At one point he had to be hospitalised, as he became disturbed & literally chased our mum down a main street in nothing but his underwear (he thought he & my mum were still together & lost it when he realised my mum had moved on, as the Alzheimer’s made him forget) ... so they had to heavily sedate him. It was so heartbreaking to watch him fade away like that & my sister confessed that she was relieved when he died, as she could no longer watch him suffer. Sorry to ramble on, BTW. 😥
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Flavia Slag 4 years ago
Had an old woman patient who told about shooting "Them Revenuers" because they got to close to the "still." We thought she was confused. Come to find out her obituary said she indeed did shoot "Them Revenuers" and was put in jail for it.
Sarah Kathrin Matsoukis 4 years ago
guilt fascinates me, how some people have it, other don't and everything inbetween.
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M O'Connell 4 years ago
Dementia does strange things to a person. Near the end of my grandmother's life, she conveyed information that was probably a latent memory of a movie she had seen or a book she had read. As her mind was going, she could no longer differentiate between real experiential memories, and things she had read, or simply imagined. Like my father being in a major car wreck that never happened.
Seabeast 4 years ago
One of my husband's relatives went around telling people she'd won the lottery and met an American millionaire on a ship crossing the ocean in her last year of life. It definitely sounded like the plot of an old movie.
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Nannychachi 4 years ago
Nurse here. I had an elderly lady who cried for her baby. I was told by family that the lady was abused by her husband and sons and when she gave birth to a girl he immediately buried it in their backyard because a girl was worthless to him. He blamed her for the baby being a girl. We all know that the father determines the sex not the mother.
J. Normal 4 years ago
Many women have been murdered because they did not produce an "heir".
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Suzanne Clark 4 years ago
Dementia alters a person's reality. My husband keeps telling me about living in tents in the jungle during the Vietnam war and shooting people--he was in the navy, stationed on a destroyer escort and was never in the jungle, nor was he shot, as he claims. Reality takes a holiday, and these are the good stories.
Yvonda Marie Levings 4 years ago
My grandma has always lived with us So when she got diagnosed with Alzheimers we took care of her for 7 years before she died at home Grandma lived a wild life(born 1914)when she started getting Sundowners she would have me and my sister get on our(her old 1s)bonnets and go pick cotton she had cotton w/boils that she had from picking cotton as a child so when we finished "field work" we would hand her the cotton and she would settle down It was a hard 7 years but I wouldn't change a thing btw we still have her cotton Everyone have a great weekend and be safe
Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago
Miscarriages? Stillbirths? Was it during the Great Depression, and they couldn’t afford to pay for a death certificate and burial?
AspieGirl88 4 years ago
Please don’t think of this as a literal memory. She could’ve been remembering a scene from a book she’d read long ago, a movie she’s seen or perhaps even something that she’s overheard in conversation (whether serious or enacted from fiction). I’ve no doubt that such a crime would’ve been found out already, as there’s no way missing children would be ignored or placed on the back-burner, even if it happened so many years ago. I only know because my half-sister’s dad had Alzheimer’s & some of the things he said, as well as the way he acted made him look like a totally different person. Such a horrible, heartbreaking disease & no one deserves to go out like that... 🥺💔🧠
Nurses working with elderly people shared how they confessed to them of love affairs and abuse, whether they were the abuser or were being abused, and surprisingly, a lot of people wanted to clear their conscience of murders.
Surely some of them will be just the brain playing tricks on older people as the mind becomes not as sharp as it used to be. Illnesses like dementia and Alzheimer’s damage memories to the point that people will not feel the distinction between reality and movies they’ve seen.
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NsG 4 years ago
What dreadful people. I wish she'd had the stubbornness to keep going, just to spite them! (Although not if she was in pain, obviously).
Kiss Army 4 years ago
Too bad she didn't keep going long enough to change her will!
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Just saying 4 years ago
We need to get away from the idea that our parents' money is anything other than our parents' money.
alwaysMispelled 4 years ago
Sometimes the families are the hardest/saddest things about our patients.
deanna woods 4 years ago
This is what you call demon people. A decent person doesn't act like this.
matilda 4 years ago
I hope she is in a Better place now, and reading about her family,I'm sure she is
Luke Oakridge 4 years ago
Unfortunately people don't go anywhere after death except into the ground.
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Kyle D 4 years ago (edited)
That's a VERY specific scenario ... how many African children DID Finnish mercenaries kill?
May 4 years ago
How many Finnish men were mercenaries in Africa? Had no idea that was a thing.
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kim morris 4 years ago
I'm surprised this isn't Belgian men. Belgium was the worst colonist nation in Africa. The most brutal.
Burs 4 years ago
I would be surprised if there were many ex Belgian soldiers in Finland.
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Hugh Cookson 4 years ago
I have several friends who are ex mercenaries in different conflicts over decades - they deal with it by meeting up every couple of years or so at a very remote place in France that one of the guys owns and basically talk through what they did all those years ago ; apparently this is what keeps most of them both sane and alive ....
John C 4 years ago
My father was a paratrooper in WWII - jumped on D-day, Battle of the Bulge, etc... he saw real action. I say that because he surprised me when he told me he really feels sorry for current solders in places like Afghanistan. He said that at least he knew who his enemy was - but these current-day troops don't know if the woman/child approaching them is sincere or a suicide bomber, and they have to err on the side of caution... I can't even imagine.
SoulSurfer 4 years ago
I know one Finnish ex-mercenary, used to serve in French Legion. Time clearly had a take on him....never turned my back when talking with him
PauPain 4 years ago
Also how is this Twitter handle supposed to be "a nurse"? 😂 Why is this even included here? We know some Finns served in the foreign legion - some even wrote books about it. Also in the modern times now for private contractors all over the world, but this claim is kind of outrageous. Fact checking also kinda difficult.
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I should think the same applies to ALL soldiers (& even police) who have been forced to shoot at whoever they felt didn’t deserve to die like that. Hence why they always pay attention to mental health in that line of work. I’m sure it isn’t easy to take a persons life, even during conflict. Also, what you can mentally handle in your youth might affect you a lot deeper when you’re getting closer to death yourself... 🤷♀️
According to zorn, most of the confessions are not that serious, but "the confessions of a more violent nature are definitely more shocking, but at the same time, I kind of just have to carry on with my day, so these shocking things sort of fall in with everything else and get filed away in my brain. All of the patients that have talked about harm to another person either have dementia, or for one reason or another it's impossible to verify, or they already went to trial and were unable to be prosecuted for one reason or another. That sort of thing. If people ever confess to wanting to harm to themselves or others, I have to report that, and I have have report any suspected child or elder abuse."
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Mazer 4 years ago
The amount of women incarcerated for standing up to their abusers is staggering, as is the amount of abusers getting away with horrible acts of abuse is equally staggering
OhForSmegSake 4 years ago
I live next door to a horribly abusive man. Many times the police and child services have been called but nothing has come from it bc they question the wife with him standing next to her. One day one of them is going to die at the other's hand. If she kills him ill be happy to stand up for her
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Klas Klättermus 4 years ago
In Sweden we have the tradition to let criminals go free and then punish their victims in court
Amina Hays 4 years ago
I don't think I understand this correctly but are you saying that it's "traditional" for criminals to go free and their victims are then taken to court? Why does that happen? Why do the victims have to go to court instead and what even is this "tradition"? Where does it stem from? I think I'm missing something here, can anyone explain it to me?
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RedOphelia 13 4 years ago
Abusive spouses all deserve to be abused right back by having an elephant sit on them.
Lynn Morello 4 years ago
Many women are under the delusion, that when a Husband is abusive, they deserve that treatment, because they are married to that individual.
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Hugh Cookson 4 years ago
11 years ago, 2 days after my Mum died, I was taken into hospital with double Pneumonia - collapsed lung, ICU, the whole shebang (and to top it all I'd broken my heel bone 2 weeks earlier, so they suspected I might have had a clot circulating) ; on the same day, I had my then Wife, my ex Wife and an old girlfriend visit me ; thankfully, they were quite grown up about it although the then Wife became the second ex Wife and the ex girlfriend became my current Wife - bloody confusing I tellsya !!
CultOfBambi 4 years ago
LOL! Sounds like your life is interesting and full of drama! Hope you're all better now.
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Carol Emory 4 years ago
It's funny you should mention that because I worked at a heart clinic for a while and overheard a patient asking the doctor if he could take Viagra because, in his words, "My girlfriend is wearing me out and I can't get it up for my wife." I was think..."if your wife finds out, you won't need the little blue pill again after she gets through with you."
Luke Oakridge 4 years ago
If it was a woman cheating, would you joke about her husband cutting off part of her body?
Load More Replies... Kay blue 4 years ago
It sounds like the plot of so many detective shows, they always have the wife and the mistress teaming up to do away with their husband/lover.
Night Owl 4 years ago (edited)
Yes; Are we sure the wife and mistress didn't already know about each other and somehow caused the heart problems? Sounds like the plot of an episode
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Claire 4 years ago
I was involved in the same thing when I worked in ICU once. Had to keep the wife and kids separated from the mistress. It wasn't a daily thing, just a one off so the mistress could see the pt. He wasn't doing well, so he had a right to potential say goodbye to the people he loved without causing more stress. I don't know if he lived or if the family ever found out.
Soleil SanMao 4 years ago
I can't even count how many husbands bring their wives to the first physical therapy appointment. And the GFs come with them to the other visits. smh.
The nurse couldn't say which story shocked him the most, but what he got from this exerience was feeling a sense of community. He remarked, "It was really cool while reading responses. I was glad I wasn't alone in this."
The last thing that he would like to add was "I do want to say that vaccines are safe and effective, and COVID-19 has devastating short term and long term effects in people of all ages, so if more folks could get vaccinated, that would make me sleep easier."
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Miss Frankfurter 4 years ago
We had a man say to one of our patient care aids ( one of the sweetest people I've ever known and in another time in another place would have been a fantastic nurse) "Get outta here "n" word" and then called the charge nurse in and said he didn't want any "n" word in his room. Ok. That can be arranged. All of our patient care aids were African American. So, no patient care aid for you. Never piss off the nurses! PCAs (patients care aids) do sooo very much and hospital units can't function without them. Well mister, you need something a PCA would normally do for you and I'm busy? Your out of luck. I'll be there when I can get there. And depending on what I'm doing, you might have quite a wait. Don't yell at me because of that. Your the one who banished very important staff from your room. Deal.
LuckyL 4 years ago
If it's old persons they sometimes just come from a different time when things where seen differently. And they fall back to these times and forget the things that changed
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Eppe 4 years ago
This is how ingrained racism can be. They thought they were complimenting her. I had the same thing with an elderly neighbour. She told me the previous tenant of my appartment was a black man, BUT he was very nice. And if 'they' were all like that they could be shipped over by the boatload (to the Netherlands from Surinam/Dutch Antilles). She honestly thought she was being nice.
Soleil SanMao 4 years ago
I had a client tell me that his family member would be coming to the office for treatment but the family member was racist. Like, he apologized to be in advance because he knew it wasn't going to go well for me. Well, he was right. After the first treatment, he came to the office with a newspaper and held it right up close to his face so that he wouldn't have to look at me or talk to me. I took my sweet time until is arm started to shake from holding the newspaper up so long. I think he only came to 3-4 visits. I tell you, hate takes a lot of energy, lol.
Cheri Aline Sydney 4 years ago
Soleil, I hope that for every dispicable individual you care for, I hope you have hundreds that show you their appreciation!
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Cameron Jacobs 4 years ago
Let's remind ourselves that these are elderly people and literally grew up in a society where racism was not just tolerated, but encouraged. As was segregation. We have evolved, thank God.
Cheri Aline Sydney 4 years ago
Cameron, this comment excuses the behavior. I don't agree with the premise of your defense of the behavior, but I agree that things are evolving; may faith and hope prevail!
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Nancy Edwards 4 years ago
*sigh* it is so awful that people talk/think like this. Thank you for being a nurse and caring for people who are awful anyway...
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M M 4 years ago
My grandma was telling stories how she hid medicine from Nazis together with her mother. She was cooperating with the "rebells". Was never cought.
Load More Replies... deanna woods 4 years ago
People did what they had to do. I don't think that it's a crime either. Prohibition was a stupid idea in the first place.
Raven DeathShade 4 years ago
Indeed. You forbid something, more people want to do it. We should forbid gender and racial equality -_-.
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LH25 4 years ago
I was in my late teens and early 20s when my Grandma told her stories. She also used to try to get me take her downtown so we could find men. She had dementia, but from what she said she had a wild youth. This is in the 1980s, she was born in 1900
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lil_gremlin 4 years ago
if anyone is like "WhY ArE YoU SaYiNg ThiS Is CoOl?!" R. Carson was saying it was twisted/disgusting sick, not cool sick.
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Wyn Williams 4 years ago
Should of injected him in his stomach with acid let the SOB scream his way into death
Eppe 4 years ago
The idea of vigilante justice can feel good doesn't it? Even if it means inflicting inhuman amounts of pain. But what if, say, he was suffering from dementia? Recalling the past wrong? Maybe even because he was the victim, not the perpetrator, but changed the role in his recollection because the memory was still to painful? You would torture this man to death without further thought. This is why we have a justice system, flawed as it may sometimes be, to try and establish actual facts best we can. And not to punish too inhumanely because we might still be wrong, and we're not barbarians.
Load More Replies... deanna woods 4 years ago
This story makes me want to puke the most because my mom was molested when she was younger and I just can't imagine coming face to face with the man who did it.
KT 4 years ago
not sure i believe this. A nurse would report this to the police, it is legal obligation
Dawn Adams 4 years ago
Report molestations whose victims are probably dead by now?.
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Mazer 4 years ago
Hard to shake those moments. BTW - Sam I Am, if you ever get the opportunity to read this…extra milk and cookies on milk and cookie day for Volunteering. I personally love to volunteer, as everyone involved wins!! Seriously, if you are having a crappy day and have some spare time, please consider volunteering. It can brighten the day for most.
Tarryn Louise 4 years ago
Hi, I work in aged care. Dementia will have you remembering stuff from 50 years ago like it was yesterday, but you can't remember what you had for dinner yesterday. The likelihood of her remembering murdering people and it being true would not surprise me at all.
AspieGirl88 4 years ago
Not if they have the tests to prove that she has dementia, as it’s gonna show on an MRI scan (only way it wouldn’t show is if it’s at the earliest stage or if something else is obscuring it)... 🤷♀️
katboxjanitor 4 years ago
At the least law enforcement should be the ones to determine if there is a need to investigate in order to give closure to a family.
Sue Clasen 4 years ago
Another case that should be investigated, maybe they could shut cold cases
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Devil's Advocate 4 years ago
Sounds like something that he didn't want, and that haunted him his whole life
Shell O 4 years ago
Can I ask how you came to this conclusion? I have just read her case after you gave her name and it doesn't add up? She had a younger brother who was 1 years old. I'm not having a go at all... just intrigued
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Maddie Star ⭐ 4 years ago
just because they have dementia doesn't mean they shouldn't be prosecuted.
Vicky Zar 4 years ago
Only if they did anything. Pedophilia is like a disease. If he did not act on his urges, he did not do anything wrong.
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Vicky Zar 4 years ago
Unpopular opinion: as long as he did not give in to his urges, he does not deserve censure. I admire everyone who can withstand that.
noralin 4 years ago
It is also criminal and wrong to watch child porn which most pedos have done.
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Tarryn Louise 4 years ago
I would have stop caring for him and turned off his f*****g machines. I would have whispered as he struggled for oxygen that he didn't deserve it as he died. Filthy dog.
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deanna woods 4 years ago
That used to be a fairly common practice in marriages. The wife was seen as his property and if she failed to do her "wifely duties" no one saw anything wrong with him just taking it.
Caro Caro 4 years ago
Those days you couldn't just leave, call the police (or stab him with a kitchen knife). It was always the woman's fault. SH!T
Lunaofthenest 4 years ago
And likely during a time where forced marital sex wasn't "rape" We, as a society have a long way to go, for sure but we've also come a long way in a lot of aspects. What was once considered acceptable behind closed doors makes my heart ache.
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Tweetysvoice 4 years ago
I bet that some of them probably didn't have anybody to talk to, so they talked to whomever would listen.
Samantha Lomb 4 years ago
Also murder confessions tend to land you in jail if you are young and healthy
Load More Replies... Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago
I think maybe they mean exactly how they killed their abusive husbands. Women had no choice back then, as police were trained not to interfere in family cases, unless the abuse was obvious, or of children.
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Hugh Cookson 4 years ago
I worked as a catering manager for a couple of care homes (Long since gone, thank Dog), and we had 3 ladies who had worked the Liverpool dock area back in the day as prostitutes - they were bloody hilarious, shameless, embarrassing, funny, quick witted and sharp tongued ; got the local priest sacked (and more), because he was getting blowjobs with communion ..... he was a spineless, hateful little nobody, they were delightful.
Paddling Panda 4 years ago
I'd have loved to sit with them and listen to their stories, compiled them (with their permission), and published them (with proceeds going to their care, comfort, and welll-being).
Load More Replies... Johnny Apples 4 years ago
I had a neighbor who had 3 husbands during her lifetime , she poisoned every one of them, we found out when she offered her "herb recipe" to my mom to deal with my azzhole dad
Luke Oakridge 4 years ago
You need to tell the police about her. She deserves to be punished for murder.
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I had a cousin who was the first of my family born in the USA after everyone came over from Italy. I got engaged in my 20s and she said, "If he ever raises a hand to you, come tell me. I will give you a recipe to die for. He'll never bother you, or anyone else, again." I didn't marry the guy. He was not a good man. I just didn't let my cousin know.
Luke Oakridge 4 years ago
If a wife hits her husband and he poisoned her to death, I don't think people would support it. We shouldn't treat the reverse any differently.
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Dónal Ó Murchadha 4 years ago
I dont know whats more sinister, the granny's suggestion or how casual Laura tells it!?
Nicole Weymann 3 years ago
"For a gallon of elderberry wine, I take one teaspoon full of arsenic, then add half a teaspoon full of strychnine, and then just a pinch of cyanide." ☝️
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Lunaofthenest 4 years ago
Seriously. I'm sure a lot of people have a "one that got away."
Load More Replies... lara 4 years ago
A friend of mine died. I was devastated, as was her husband. He was 81. They were married since 1960. [This was in 2005.] Beth and I went to lunch every week and shopped and spent a lot of time together. She really loved Bill. After she died, I took Bill to lunch. He told me that Beth had been his second "great love." His first was his "First Cousin" but they couldn't marry. So they went off in different directions. Now his first love was a widow and he was a widower and he asked me what Beth would think if he married again. And I said she would be thrilled. So he did. They had one fantastic year together and then she died of cancer. He died some months later. But I am so glad that they found their way back to each other.
julie son 4 years ago
It's easy to idealize somebody that you loved, but never really had a life with: you never see their shortcomings, theirs downs, their irritating habits...Your imagination keeps them perfect: "the amazing one that got away"! It's sad both for the ones who actually go through life with you, and for the one doing the longing, not realizing that they are regretting a make-belief...
Bama Belle 4 years ago
Even sadder for the wife. "You never were enough, but thank you.", from a movie I saw years ago. It was the last thing a dying man said to his wife.
Katinka Min 4 years ago
Well, if he had married his first love, he might have regretted not looking further. marraige is really more than the initial falling in love phase.
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Marco Conti 4 years ago
"registered sex offender" in some places is not a good indicator of a person's actual crimes. If I can't tell the difference between a rapist and someone that took a piss in an alley while drunk, that list is useless.
Jupittance 4 years ago
That's a commonly told but never supported story. People don't get on the registry for taking a piss in an alley. Most registries also tell you what they were arrested for.
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GoddessOdd 4 years ago
Depending on the location, sex offender can be a very easy list to get on, and almost impossible to be removed from. I had a neighbor who was constantly being harassed by other neighbors for being on the sex offender registry. I spoke with him (which made many of my neighbors furious btw). Turns out he was on the registry because at 18 he had sex with his 16 year old girlfriend, who is now his wife. Her father found out and had him busted, even thought the girlfriend begged her father not to. Be careful about jumping to conclusions about offenders... it might be nbd
Allen Lavine 4 years ago
The bad thing is it's easy to get on that list and when you hear sex offender list you think child abuse or rape but you can get on it for peeing in public taking nude picture of yourself as a minor in six states soliciting prostitution it's right and not right
Virgil Blue 4 years ago
The "you get on a sex offender list because you were young and stupid enough to make nude selfies" thing is just so wrong.
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Stacey Montebello 4 years ago
https://www.google.com/amp/s/kutv.com/amp/news/local/judge-deals-blow-to-utah-woman-charged-for-being-topless-at-home-in-front-of-stepchildren Stepmom and dad were topless in garage hanging drywall, kids saw and ex-wife found out and brought charges. The step mom my have to register as a sex offender for being topless inside her own home. Dad was not charged b/c Utah law only penalizes women for being topless.
Katherine Boag 4 years ago
Bearing in mind Marco's comments about the range of crimes that can be registered, even rapists need care as they age.
May 4 years ago
Depends what they did. One of those priests that molested all those altar boys? Yeah I don't have an issue with them being denied any kind of care.
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Sherie Newman 4 years ago
Being a sex offender and being born a different gender than what you feel you should have been having nothing at all to do with the other.
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F. H. 4 years ago
Nursing school should prepare you for that. It's common that dementia patients lose their inhibitions.
Marie 4 years ago
Dementia is a lot like alcohol, it makes naturally nice people nicer, and jerks jerkier. At least from my experience driving 100's of them around.
F. H. 4 years ago
Generally, maybe. But I've seen many cases where close relatives say that the person was always kind and did get very mean when dementia set in. I don't know if that's credible or just self-deception.
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bdunbar@kcls.org 4 years ago
I had a grandfather like that.......He wasn't that old and I was only 7-8. I'm so very glad he's not here to further pollute our planet.
Faith Hurst 4 years ago
What age did you think these guys would outgrow it? Being a grandpa doesn't change a thing there.
Lynn Morello 4 years ago
I was a volunteer at a nursing home, Chatting to one of the Nurses in regards to a patients reading preferences, an elderly man passed us, stopped and turned to me ang drabbed both boobs. I pulled his hands away and said to him, that is rude and did your mum tell you never to do that to ladies. The nurse had a chuckle, he was famous for doing that to visitors. he never did it again after that day.
Kitty Fenerty 4 years ago
Very common, sadly in dementia sufferers. As well as violence, swearing etc.
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Mazer 4 years ago
Of course. My reply would be, “it’s against company policy for a woman to help a man with that task, let me call the male nurse.” I bet agility comes back fast
Just saying 4 years ago
I was washing and old man and apparently 'down there' wasn't clean enough yet.
Nannychachi 4 years ago
Had an old guy who thought he'd get away with needing lotion on his lower region. He was a pig. I told my cna staff that if he asked to come and get me. He did ask. I went. He didn't ask again.
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Nandina 4 years ago
My mother was in a very nice nursing home for almost 7 years with dementia. She was not nice. Would tell anyone exactly what she thought of them. I was constantly saying how sorry I was for her behavior. Like I always say, If you are a jerk when you're young, you're a bigger jerk when you get old.
Samantha Lomb 4 years ago
My grandma has always gone through phases where she hates people for literally no reason other than something she made up in her head. It's not worth trying to figure out why some people are like that
Daniel Marsh 4 years ago
Nah. Senile people get inflamed with hate for weird reasons, including paranoia... it might even have been you she actually hated for some strange reason you shouldn't take personally. And don't underestimate how much people are restrained from murder by their own instincts, fear of earthly justice, fear of divine justice, fear of what they'll be able to tell themselves, etc.
Cheri Aline Sydney 4 years ago
Mystical Fishie, I am sorry you had to endure that harassment .... It is difficult to not want to retaliate, or see the person punished, but maintaining your grace and dignity still makes you victorious!
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Laurie 4 years ago
I think they did sparkle for right reasons. Perhaps a little bit of humanity in him...im glad she was kind. Karma hit him hard and then some....
Tweetysvoice 4 years ago
I'm not condoning him or his behavior because it's absolutely disgusting, but he did do his time...
Dirk Daring 4 years ago
"OK, I've finally paid my debt to society" God: "Not yet you ain't." *BONK*
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wifeofweasley 4 years ago
or he! Male SA or r*pe victims tend to not or even never talk about what happend to them out of fear that no one believes them or getting told to man up. I wish there would be more help for male victims. There are so many focal points for female victims but close to none for males
Load More Replies... Paddling Panda 4 years ago
I was molested a few months ago by the same man who molested me 40 years ago. He's disabled and cognitively impaired because of the major stroke he had six years ago. I haven't told my family and I won't tell them. They have a hard enough time processing the abuse he inflicted on me when I was younger; telling them he did it again will just make things worse. I have an excellent counsellor and some close friends I can talk to and they've helped me tonnes.
Jenny 4 years ago
I’m so glad you have loving, supportive people around you.
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wifeofweasley 4 years ago
what the actual f**k is wrong with you? I'm 110% sure he didn't enjoy getting raped for YEARS
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Ellie Rosser 4 years ago
Yeah, like we’re supposed to be surprised by that somehow?
Load More Replies... Steve Wilson 4 years ago
Nobody protects perverts better than the Catholic Church. Wanna get away with being a pedo? Become a priest. Wanna kill people without punishment? Be a cop. What a society.
Cheri Aline Sydney 4 years ago
Want to generlize, as if groups are monolithic, be Steve Wilson and followers..... There are good and bad in every group!
Load More Replies... Devil's Advocate 4 years ago
Catholics: The religion where the oldest and creepiest becomes leader
MIA J RODRIGUEZ 4 years ago
My family used to be catholic. I'm a atheist now.
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marianne eliza 4 years ago
My now 90 yo mom was always very limber. As kids we used to ask her to show us things, like putting her feet behind her head. Never anything sexual about it at all, just a limber woman who could do things us kids couldn't. Last time mom showed us was at age 87.
Dodie Rippentrop 3 years ago
My FAVORITE resident I took care of once told me and a handful of (f) coworkers that when she was younger, she had a threesome with her best friend, and her bestie's husband. The husband even went out and bought her "sexy black bra and panties" for the encounter. Our jaws hit the floor and she answered all of our questions proudly. Betty, I adore you and I miss you every day :' ))
Bonnie Edwards 4 years ago
I used to work in a factory with 8 other women and about 20 men. One of the favourite drinking party activities was who; had sex in the strangest places, or best scar, or other one-up-manship... the men lost the taste for it when innocent-looking me won a few too many of them, hands down. Mwahahaha!
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Zophra 4 years ago
"Oh look, I missed the vein again." "I can't believe the catheter isn't going in..." I know it would never be done , but personally, I would be thinking it.
Devil's Advocate 4 years ago
No point continuing the hate, otherwise you're no better than them
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Kiran 4 years ago
But no matter how horrible a patient or a resident is, if your passion is in healthcare accountability and duty comes above disdain. This I learned from experience. Many times there are horrible residents who are choke risks that we could have turned a blind eye on but we can’t. For some reason, value on life and compassion will kick in.
M Calad 4 years ago
I think that is very professional. Super-naive me thinks is best to teach by example that by revenge or violence.
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Demongrrrrl 4 years ago
Do what the nurse up in the first post did: suggest that it might be a bad idea to insult the person keeping them alive.
Steve Wilson 4 years ago
But you had to feel good knowing they’d be dead soon, huh? Makes you forget to give them their pain pills. Oops!
BorPand8 4 years ago
Ku Klux Klan -- white supremacist group in the US that used to lynch black people (and would still be doing it if they thought they could get away with it).
Load More Replies... Zophra 4 years ago
Or they could be just reliving their glory days. Without any additional context, its hard to know.
Load More Replies... Samantha Lomb 4 years ago
Actual KKK members. They are often proud of it and will tell you they are members
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Devil's Advocate 4 years ago
Some people felt extreme guilt over this even when they weren't actually involved, they just felt that they should have stopped it even though that would have probably meant them joining the dead
Dave P 4 years ago
but many collaborated as well, look at what happened at Kaunas or outside of Vilnius
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lara 4 years ago
Easy. Dilute his pain meds with saline. 10 parts saline to one part pain med.
Jan Feline 4 years ago
I'm Jewish. I still have mixed feelings about punishing someone for something they did 70 years ago.
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AzKhaleesi 4 years ago
So you were told..... *cue dramatic music. lol J/K
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Carol Emory 4 years ago
Depends on who you're marrying. I heard the story of one girl that would marry lonely old men that were terminally ill so they'd have a little companionship before passing away.
Luke Oakridge 4 years ago
More likely she wanted to get their money after they died.
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Tinykame 4 years ago
My aunt had 9 husbands die, one she shot because he was abusive and was going to kill her son. Mammie was her name
Cheri Aline Sydney 4 years ago
Tinykame.... Your aunt Mammie's, husbands' dying words.. "She didn't mame me, she killed me"....!
Load More Replies... Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago
Someone who’s attracted to people who have dangerous jobs or hobbies, like cops and soldiers, and skydivers and bungee jumpers.
lazy panda 4 years ago
My "step-grandmother" was this way. She had 3 husband's I think and they all passed away "naturally" and of course she came out with a boat load of cash from each one. She almost took everything from my mom and her siblings.
Luke Oakridge 4 years ago
She should definitely be investigated by the police.
Load More Replies... Vicky Zar 4 years ago
Maybe they were. How do you know? Maybe they were do obviously naturell that there was no need. Stop judging
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Lady Cadaver 3 years ago
My great-aunt is about 80 and has outlived 4 husbands and is currently living cushy in Cyprus with the money she inherited from all 4 of them and is still flirting up a storm with the old men there. lol
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Zenozenobee 4 years ago (edited)
My father's family is disfonctionnal AF. My grand father was an alcoholic and a domestic abuser. Fell once while he was drunk and had to get a hip prosthesis. Being obese+medical complications, my grand mother took the power. She became the only income, the only master on board and was the new tyrant in the house. Not only her husband but the seven kids (that she obviously never wanted and making paid for being born) became the new punching balls...and she had a lot of frustratiosn to be brought out. My father cut ties when we were kids, no regret
Vicky Zar 4 years ago
To whoever downvoted me: so you think the wife is justified in beating her disabled husband just because he cheated on her some years before?
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Daphne Williams 4 years ago
There probably aren't. Dementia patients have a hard time distinguishing between things they heard/imagined and actual reality.
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Dónal Ó Murchadha 4 years ago
If the police followed up all reports from dementia patients they'd be looking for bodies on Mars.
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Nathan Pogorzala 4 years ago
That s**t sticks with you your whole life. It creates a film over your every waking thought. You see everything through the tint of your parent lovelessly beating the hell out of you.
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Kristin Ingersoll 4 years ago
Not sure what's funny enough to laugh one's own a$$ off over the misery of women forced, for any number of societal reasons, to remain in miserable marriages. Yes, yes. Hysterical.
Caro Caro 4 years ago
This drives me nuts. Some sad story and then lol at the end. Really? Are you actually laughing out loud because I don't do that much when typing !
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Kona Pake 4 years ago
If you think that’s funny, look in the mirror in 20 years when you’re in the same situation.
Zophra 4 years ago
Did they change the title? I don't see anything about funny here.
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Kat Zwingle 4 years ago
I'm with the rest of the commenters here. cmeo would be better (crying my eyes out).
Paddling Panda 4 years ago
CMEO = The new, better, acronym for expressing sadness. I see LOL and LMAO in so many inappropriate contexts I wonder if the posters even know what it means anymore. Anyway, thank you, Kat, for "CMEO"; it's perfect.
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Ryukei Panda 4 years ago (edited)
I was volunteering to visit isolated elderly - this old lady who was 101 yo told me how her then-future-husband forced himself into her bed one night and basically raped her... and that's why they got married, because well, "they had already consumed the wedding"... It was only logical to her. And of course, she had a miserable life with him afterwards, with physical, verbal and emotional abuse. The good news is that she managed to get a divorce when she was ~50 yo which, at the time, was rather unthinkable for a woman. It completely ruined her to get a lawyer and prove he was guilty of adultery, so that she could obtain the divorce. Crazy times...
deanna woods 4 years ago
Sadly these ladies got married at a time that if a woman was single for too long, people thought there was something wrong with her. I hate that these ladies felt that way.
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KimberG 4 years ago
I worked with a women with Dementia, her husband lived in a nursing home for blind people. For some reason she was always bullying him. She called him and hung up laughing when he finally found the phone. When he came to visit her she hit him knowing he wasn't familiar with the space in her room so he couldn't get away. She was verry sweet but to him she was an evil women.
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alwaysMispelled 4 years ago
If I was in the hospital after just birthing a goddamn baby I would NOT be sucking my man's d**k
Marie 4 years ago
A friend's mom was overly concerned about her daughter's husband's sexual needs after giving premature birth to a baby with Downs syndrome. As if he was concerned about sex while his baby girl clung to life (of course he wasnt). Made me wonder about her husband.
J. Normal 4 years ago
These are women who have been convinced that if they don't "take care" of him, he has the right to cheat.
Luke Oakridge 4 years ago
Usually in culture, people are more understanding of women who cheat because their husband doesn't have sex with them than they are men who do the same thing.
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Mazer 4 years ago
The word N*gger is also derived from the Latin word for the color black, n***r. It also morphed into a racial slur.
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Kisses4Katie 4 years ago
That showed up in a clip in Pink Floyd The Wall and we couldn’t believe dogs were named that. But totally not surprised.
Samantha Lomb 4 years ago
If you think it wasn't racist I got a bridge to sell you
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Hogswallop 4 years ago
It's the opposite for me. A little bit of midazolam is like truth syrum and I can't seem to stop talking. Found this out after having a small procedure at the place I worked. Thankfully the doctor refused to repeat what I was saying.
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Isabel Care 4 years ago
Was awake but drugged for my colonoscopy. Got to watch the whole thing. Doc said "Oh, thank God. I was about to lose the controls. You have a really long colon"
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Luke Oakridge 4 years ago
It's sad, because when the wife is the lower earner, people generally don't offer to kill her in a divorce.
HammerzToe 4 years ago
My ex's friend told him he would kill me for $1000 during our custody battle. This man was also a friend of my now husband and when I found this out I exiled him from our home, my husband just didn't see why I was upset. Go figure!
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May 4 years ago
I know some places have a lot more crime than we do in Scandinavia, but that's surely still unlikely? I mean most people aren't killers - they're pretty rare.
Assaj Ventress 4 years ago
Probably not serial killers but I wouldn’t be surprised given domestic assault which is absolutely heartbreaking
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I certainly have with many killers so likely some others who I wasn't aware are.
Mazer 4 years ago
Doubtful. Murder is the lowest of crimes committed. Unless you are referring to the Wild West days of the Gold Rush and prior to that. You are more likely to have shaken hands with a rapist, pedophile or physically abusive person. The DOJ (Department of Justice) in America keeps stats on crimes since the early 1600’s.
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LH25 4 years ago
60 year olds? I'm turning 58 tomorrow, and I still have my filters. Most people my age I know do, unless there are serious medical/mental issues.
Dolores Đenadija 4 years ago
It's possible she means they no longer give a damn about being appropriate after 60. 😀
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Rukkia 4 years ago
I’ve seen this a few times now. When I went to school they definitely did teach you this. Especially since one UTI can turn sweet grandma/grandpa into a completely different person. Other medical issues as well. Had one of my favorite patients turn into a complete pervert in less than two weeks due to this. The old him never came back.
J. Normal 4 years ago
I am watching this happen slowly to my husband, he is a stroke and cancer survivor. Not perverse, but not the man I married.
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Nikole 4 years ago
I think those guys were like that before the dementia. My dad is 74 and would NEVER act that way.
Vivian Orr 4 years ago
Well if they truly don’t have a filter anymore and it’s related to their medical condition, how can you blame them.
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Seabeast 4 years ago
If there is one thing this thread illustrates, it's that the "good old days" weren't necessarily all that good.
Daniel Marsh 4 years ago
When you find out how explicitly Satanic the KKK was, then see how known members were welcomed into churches, you realize that old-time American was so often more afraid of what the neighbors would think than their own virtue or even fear of God. At the same time, senility makes people say or do things that would never otherwise do, and claim things that are just preposterous.
Load More Replies... Carol Emory 4 years ago
Let me tell you one thing though. There's a reason why some of them are in a nursing home. It's called they were so horrible to the people around them that no one wanted to take care of them when they could no longer take care of themselves. My FIL is facing that. 50 years of beating his wives and children. He's looking at a lonely existence now.
Eslamala 4 years ago
I've alwaays thought so. Believe me, I would've sent my father to a shïthole facility without even thinking about it, had he not (thankfully) killed himself. Some people just love to assume all elderly people are sweet and deserve love. And no. A lot of them should die a slow painful death.
Load More Replies... GoddessOdd 4 years ago
My friend was a nurse in a big hospital in Chicago. She told me about a patient who kind of gave off creepy vibes, she didn't know why, he seemed like a nice, older guy... He wasn't regularly under her care, but one weekend, he took a very bad turn, and she was with him. When they were alone, he said "the first person I ever killed was my brother when I was 8" and described how he lured him to the rooftop and threw him over. Then he said "I am what they call a psychopath, I guess" She didn't know what to do, but took him seriously, especially that he said "the FIRST person I killed". She called for a psych consult, and I guess they took him seriously too. He died before the police came, so I don't know how it ended, but apparently he did cop to at least a couple more murders.
AzKhaleesi 4 years ago
Why is there a lot of "TMI" comments on this thread? It's confessions, so therefore yes, it's much information lol if you're that offended don't read it?
Cosmetica Solist 4 years ago (edited)
When I was a student I worked at something like a nursing home (buts it's a bit different in my country). I loved it, because the residents where just wonderful - from the severely ill, Alzheimer and dementia patients, to those who were disabled some way and needed daily help with everything. No one ever 'confessed' anything, but hearing stories from the women was eye-opening to the way our society has developed (again, not the US). One woman had a horrible upbringing simply because she was a girl. But, she told me, she had the most wonderful husband because he never beat her and once the refrigerator was invented he allowed her to make his lunch in advance, so she didn't have to get up extra early each day. Mind you, she also had a full time job as a washer woman.
marianne eliza 4 years ago
please remember that patients suffering from dementia, Alzheimer's, or other brain related illness may not have actually done what they are confessing. Old memories of movies, books, newspaper stories, can resurface incompletely. But if the patient doesn't have that excuse and it's deathbed guilt, a call to authorities may help close the book on old crimes and relieve the pain of victim's families.
Huddo's sister 3 years ago
What you say is true. My grandad began hallucinating at the end, that he was actually his great great grandfather and that he had stolen a bible from someone in England (we are Australian). Then he apparently met his future wife but then got caught and transported to Australia where the wife met him as she was also sent to Aus due to the potato famine. He had some stories in his head from writing his family history and they mixed up. His ancestor was never transported for a crime (as far as we are aware) just migrated by choice and he didn't meet his wife until they were both in Australia.
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Unaffected 4 years ago (edited)
One of my patients told me he was involved in a massacre in my home town during WWII. My father was a child hiding in neighbour's basement with his whole family during that massacre. Fortunately they all survived Another patient told me she lived in an isolated island and both her brothers raped her when they were young.She even justified their actions "because, you know,there was no one else and they didn't mean any harm".I needed counselling after doing that patient's assessment
Seabeast 4 years ago
If there is one thing this thread illustrates, it's that the "good old days" weren't necessarily all that good.
Daniel Marsh 4 years ago
When you find out how explicitly Satanic the KKK was, then see how known members were welcomed into churches, you realize that old-time American was so often more afraid of what the neighbors would think than their own virtue or even fear of God. At the same time, senility makes people say or do things that would never otherwise do, and claim things that are just preposterous.
Load More Replies... Carol Emory 4 years ago
Let me tell you one thing though. There's a reason why some of them are in a nursing home. It's called they were so horrible to the people around them that no one wanted to take care of them when they could no longer take care of themselves. My FIL is facing that. 50 years of beating his wives and children. He's looking at a lonely existence now.
Eslamala 4 years ago
I've alwaays thought so. Believe me, I would've sent my father to a shïthole facility without even thinking about it, had he not (thankfully) killed himself. Some people just love to assume all elderly people are sweet and deserve love. And no. A lot of them should die a slow painful death.
Load More Replies... GoddessOdd 4 years ago
My friend was a nurse in a big hospital in Chicago. She told me about a patient who kind of gave off creepy vibes, she didn't know why, he seemed like a nice, older guy... He wasn't regularly under her care, but one weekend, he took a very bad turn, and she was with him. When they were alone, he said "the first person I ever killed was my brother when I was 8" and described how he lured him to the rooftop and threw him over. Then he said "I am what they call a psychopath, I guess" She didn't know what to do, but took him seriously, especially that he said "the FIRST person I killed". She called for a psych consult, and I guess they took him seriously too. He died before the police came, so I don't know how it ended, but apparently he did cop to at least a couple more murders.
AzKhaleesi 4 years ago
Why is there a lot of "TMI" comments on this thread? It's confessions, so therefore yes, it's much information lol if you're that offended don't read it?
Cosmetica Solist 4 years ago (edited)
When I was a student I worked at something like a nursing home (buts it's a bit different in my country). I loved it, because the residents where just wonderful - from the severely ill, Alzheimer and dementia patients, to those who were disabled some way and needed daily help with everything. No one ever 'confessed' anything, but hearing stories from the women was eye-opening to the way our society has developed (again, not the US). One woman had a horrible upbringing simply because she was a girl. But, she told me, she had the most wonderful husband because he never beat her and once the refrigerator was invented he allowed her to make his lunch in advance, so she didn't have to get up extra early each day. Mind you, she also had a full time job as a washer woman.
marianne eliza 4 years ago
please remember that patients suffering from dementia, Alzheimer's, or other brain related illness may not have actually done what they are confessing. Old memories of movies, books, newspaper stories, can resurface incompletely. But if the patient doesn't have that excuse and it's deathbed guilt, a call to authorities may help close the book on old crimes and relieve the pain of victim's families.
Huddo's sister 3 years ago
What you say is true. My grandad began hallucinating at the end, that he was actually his great great grandfather and that he had stolen a bible from someone in England (we are Australian). Then he apparently met his future wife but then got caught and transported to Australia where the wife met him as she was also sent to Aus due to the potato famine. He had some stories in his head from writing his family history and they mixed up. His ancestor was never transported for a crime (as far as we are aware) just migrated by choice and he didn't meet his wife until they were both in Australia.
Load More Replies... Unaffected 4 years ago (edited)
One of my patients told me he was involved in a massacre in my home town during WWII. My father was a child hiding in neighbour's basement with his whole family during that massacre. Fortunately they all survived Another patient told me she lived in an isolated island and both her brothers raped her when they were young.She even justified their actions "because, you know,there was no one else and they didn't mean any harm".I needed counselling after doing that patient's assessment
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