35 Women’s Behaviors That Females Of This Online Group Can’t Stand And Want Them To Stop

At my daughter's elementary school they called me to come change her clothes because she was wearing *gasp* a tank top. School starts in August here in Southern CA and it's freaking hot out. It wasn't even a spaghetti strap one!! I asked why and they said "they didn't allow them because they didn't want the boys giving them unwanted attention" They're little kids!! So I told her no... that maybe they should teach the boys to be less shitty instead of punishing the girls and not letting them dress weather appropriate. I refused to come with a change on principle.

Religion, in general, is more of a problem than a solution. Free yourself of the slavery of Jahwe, Allah and all the other man made, imaginary exhaust orifices and their ridiculius rules!

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Blaming women for the actions and choices of men has a long and venerable history. It's so ubiquitous in every aspect of life that it's difficult to imagine what a human culture would look like without it. That male arousal justifies sexual violence against women is just one example.

I just can't understand how one woman can shame another in a society where women already have next to no rights. I like to thing that would give the women an extra bond

Airbrushing and lighting has always existed for skin texture it's just now easy for the general masses to do because of smart phones. The skin texture thing doesn't bother me as much as the editing body parts and facial features and the cartoonish body style that has homogenized Instagram. That's just me though. As someone with rosacea I totally get wanting to even out skin.

What I can’t stop thinking about when I see people (women especially for some reason, possibly because that’s just what I most often see) who’s photoshopped themselves into an alien cartoon Barbie, is how they’re setting themselves up for guaranteed embarrassment outside of internet. I mean, people WILL be seeing them without a filter or photoshop, and what do the alien cartoon Barbies say then? “Yeah, I had this accident that left me with skin texture, a waist that leave room for organs and eyes that doesn’t cover half of my face”? It’s like they set themselves up, I don’t get it.

Women should stop giving in to this. Women have the power to stop. Why don’t they? You can’t blame industry if you’re the one giving in to industry.

In a way, I find it fun to do as a personal thing. I don't see it as setting some sort of standard in real life. More of an artistic thing. However, no one really bats an eye about using makeup. To me, beauty standards involving makeup has troubled me more. There is more pressure and expectations for a woman to cover up dark eye lids, contour to make round faces appear sharp and cheeks sunken in, lips looking bright and pouty. There are women who feel so ashamed of their natural face they won't step out to the store without a full face of makeup. If you do wear makeup, the one day you decide not to people ask if you're tired or sick, as if they're offended you didn't cover up your realness for them. On the contrary, I do makeup can be fun and a creative outlet. That's the only reason I have makeup at all. I'll take a liquid liner and make a little design around my eyes.

Advertising is the art of lies. The godlike wealth of a few requires mass production, which in turn requires the creation of mass markets. This involves duping individuals into wanting products that they don't need, including those that do harm. The large question is why we permit a billion-dollar industry whose sole purpose is to deceive and manipulate us into acting against our own self interest. That it does so by fomenting greed and creating a culture of fear and self loathing is a secondary issue.

And it does neither any good, the girls are parentified while the boys are unprepared for full adulthood and become a manchild. Age appropriate chores/responsibilities for all to teach life skills while still letting the child be a child.

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I had a therapist tell me once, "Mothers of your mother's generation are conditioned to love their sons and train their daughters." It has to do with preparing their daughters for what they might face in the world, but yet feeling no need to prepare their sons because "they are boys." After thinking on that, I see that is 100% correct. I see that dynamic a lot with women my age. Our mothers were on a mission to impart all of their wisdom and training to us.

Why not also teach the dads to do their share of the household chores? It's their house too!

You know what you get when you allow this? A son who can't wash a dish or pick up laundry.

Then the boys grow up not knowing how to do laundry or cook a meal and expect their wife to coddle them just like mommy did.

And maybe give us guardians a little respect too. I basically fill the entire roll of parent except I didn't give birth and he's my special needs brother. I've made all the sacrifices, live my life with him put first, I care and provide and teach but didn't give birth or even adopt so it's not the same to people. Yeah I'm not a real parent and it's my brother, "you're supposed to take care of family" ect.., but I still have to do everything a parent does so maybe don't brush me off as if I know nothing or my efforts are worth less. I'm doing the same thing as you

The breastfeeding thing. I took special medication and was on a breast pump EVERY 2 hours when I had a newborn. I have never tried so hard at anything in my entire life as I tried to get my milk to fully come in. So I had to use formula. I received filthy looks from other women at the supermarket when I was buying formula. It was crushing.

I had no idea how shitty and unsupportive women could be to each other until I had kids. I've been told I didn't "really" give birth because I had an emergency C-section, got shamed for working, bottle feeding, you name it.

As someone who has had both cs and vag both are difficult in their own ways. All 3 my kids had formula from birth until 1-2 months then 2 breastfeeding exclusively. Both are also difficult in both ways. Kudos to the low supply moms out there. Yes its a real thing all. No its not because I don't eat enough oatmeal and herbs.

This!

And when he leaves or isn't a very enthusiastic dad he's the bad guy...

Men should be using protection aswell

This is the equivalent of a person secretly removing a condom (which is assault where I live), they both have the potential for life altering consequences. Not cool babes, not cool.