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35 Women’s Behaviors That Females Of This Online Group Can’t Stand And Want Them To Stop
It's no secret that sometimes we find someone very annoying because of weird or disgusting things that they do. Reddit user @u/amethyst015 decided to focus on women only and ask them online what are some of the things that other females do that they find so irritating that they want them to stop doing it. The question that received almost 12k answers had both some very relatable and unexpected responses.
Some of the things mentioned included some practical topics such as leaving a mess in a public toilet. A lot of things noticed were focused on behavioral issues: being rude to your daughter-in-law, faking friendliness, and creating gossip about other women. This thread also showed that some problems have been rooted in our society for quite some time, because some women still mentioned that the thing they wish other women would finally ditch is dieting and creating unrealistic beauty standards.
What were some of the more concerning answers? Users online revealed that they still see other females joining MLM scams and trying to get others involved. But one of the answers that started a whole discussion was about some women who dare to send admiration and even love letters to convicted felons, thinking that they are innocent.
Which one of these things scares you the most? Or maybe you haven’t found the worthy answer to the question “What is something you wish other women would stop doing?” Then don’t forget to leave your answer in the comments down below!
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Shame me for not believing in their own beliefs and look at me weird.
I live in Iran and I'm honestly disgusted to see how some religious females tend to shame other women and accuse them of being s***s. If you think your husband, brother or son may be seduced by seeing my ears and hair **they** are the problem.
I feel this in my bones! I've been shamed my whole life for the way men behave around me. It finally took my husband saying that I could wear a burlap sack and still look sexy for me to realize that I will NEVER be able to control the thought/begaviors/feelings of those around me, so why worry about it. We really need a cultural shift to start teaching our boys/men how to control their own thoughts/behavious/feelings and stop relying on women to do it for them!
Photoshoping their photos to the oblivion thus reinforcing the unrealistic beauty standards. You know skin texture exists, why do you pretend it doesn't??
This is going to get lost in the shuffle but moms who ask their daughters to do more than their fair share of the household chores while the boys skate because they’re “immature.”
**STOP IT**
This is particularly bad among immigrant communities that hail from countries with more…traditional gender roles (basically the Far East, the Mid East, Eastern Europe, Africa and South America) but I know it happens in American households too.
The daughters are fed this garbage about being more mature/responsible so they have to help pick up the slack while the sons are frequently coddled and babied.
It’s infuriating and it’s almost never talked about.
Teenage girls in the US average 8 hours a week more of care taker and household duties than teenage boys. And then those girls grow into women who shoulder the lion share of it in a M/F relationship even when both people work full time outside the home. It's also currently the number 1 reason why women eventually file for divorce in the US. Parents have got to both teach and expect their sons to run households, do chores, etc.
Nobody cares how they got the baby out of the woman - cease this nonsense. You are a parent if you are the primary guardian of a child; gatekeeping based on pain relief, caesareans, adoption, whether you gave birth on dry land or in a pond, honestly, nobody cares. Is the baby ok? Yes. Is the mom ok? Yes. Then it's ok. It's fine. F**k off about breastfeeding too, just feed the kid. Got milk? Fab. Got formula? Fab. Feed the kid.
I don't have children so maybe I am missing out on why women make such a big deal out of this. I have seen my cousins' wives berate another one and say she isn't a "real mom" because she didn't deliver naturally and doesn't breastfeed. I just don't get it. I really thought the only things I needed to care about were these: 1.) is baby healthy; 2.) is momma healthy, and; 3.) when do I get to squeeze the baby? Am I supposed to care about how the baby got to me?
"oh you want kids but your man's not ready yet? Just secretly come off the pill and say it was an accident. It's your body, I did it with my kids". I can't count how many times I've heard this and it's disgusting behaviour
Yes. They do. I knew one, she's a *&$^$#. Lost contact thank goodness.
Load More Replies...And when he leaves or isn't a very enthusiastic dad he's the bad guy...
It's not appropriate to do on either side; whether its a woman secretly coming off the pill or a man coercing her into getting pregnant (or either sabotaging prophylactics). It's wrong and shītty to force your partner into being a parent. If someone doesn't want or is not ready for kids then all your doing then is making your partner resent you and potentially sabotaging your relationship
And a resentful parent is not a good one. Why would you even want to raise your kid in that type of environment?
Load More Replies...There was a fad going around where a woman would sleep with a high profile or rich man. The man would wear a condom, the man would throw the condom away in the restroom, then the woman would go to the bathroom after take the condom and put the sperm in her. Guys have started putting tobasco sauce in the condoms. Crazy behavior. There was a pro basketball player that this happened to. He found out what the girl did because she screamed in the bathroom from putting sperm with tobasco sauce in her vagina.
Load More Replies...This is why it would be nice if there were birth control pills available to guys. They can be in control of their fertility and won't have to worry about their partners trying to baby-trap them.
There was male birth control actually being tested for market release, but then the manufacturers deemed it had too many side effects (read: many of the same side effects women on BC have to deal with) so they pulled it from production. Agggh!
Load More Replies...This is the equivalent of a person secretly removing a condom (which is assault where I live), they both have the potential for life altering consequences. Not cool babes, not cool.
This is brutal, and horrible. It's the female equivalent of stealthing, and stealthing is considered by most women to be rape. It's reproductive coercion, and it's abuse. Yes, it's not his body getting pregnant, but it is his life, as well as hers, that is going to be completely changed. If you want a baby and he doesn't, be honest, and talk it through together. If you break up, better to do it without kids involved. If you want a baby on your own, get a sperm donation.
I've never heard anyone say that, but if anyone does that that's disgusting and unethical. Side note, I just looked up to see if there's a term for that. It's called "Spurgling" which I think is a fun word to say. Has anyone here been spurgled or know someone that has?
my girlfriend in high school got off the pill without telling me. no pg. someone i am close to surprised me that she had poked holes in her (then) husbands' condoms. funy: instead of one hole she poked a bunch and it exploded when he was putting it on. i love this person but it changed the way i see her in some way.
Load More Replies...I'm ashamed of women who would do such a deceitful, selfish thing. How would they feel if their mother did this with their father? Stop using a baby for your nefarious tricks.
To me that's a divorceable offense and if you were explicit about not wanting kids, leaving them doesn't make for a deadbeat dad
Then they come crying when their boyfriend leaves 'Because it's his baby and he should care'. B*tch this is entirely your fault. He didn't want kids, you forced him into it. He has a choice here. Some people don't get that *cough cough* roe v wade *cough cough*
It's rape. Consent has to be informed. If you tell someone you are on BC and then come off of it without telling them, that is not consensual sex.
If I was a man and a woman did this to me she's gone! Pregnant or not!
If a guy did this to his gf/wife he'd be charged for stealthing (which is a form of sexual assault) but someone no one talks about it when woman get pregnant by aCcIdEnt
I do agree this is a very despicable behavior and I do not condone it; HOWEVER men can use birth control methods instead or in addition. The idea that birth control is only the woman's responsibility is equally despicable.
Pute evil AND it hardly ever works.....so that innocent child is the one paying because the mother was selfish
I say this as a woman and a lawyer, but if secretly removing the control can be classed as sexual assault (and is now in some states), I honestly think this should be as well. Not birth control failure, but deliberate misleading people about “I’m on the pill” and you’re not.
This. I've known too many ex friends who've done this. Knock it the fluff off!
Applause for "ex friends". thats so deceitful. Lets you know they would lie and deceive to get what they want.
Load More Replies...This rationale has caused the most crimes against the man, woman, and children, involved.
OK, but isn't this a double standard? I mean, if the woman wants an abortion, her man isn't supposed to get a say in that bc it's her body. But if she wants a child, she can't have one without the permission of her man? What if she dumped him and took up with a man who wants a child? Would that be better?
had one of those girlfriends, used to flush them condoms in toilet ...
I seriously want to hunt down this stupid c*nt and punch her in the face - with a brick.
2 ex friends got pregnant on 2nd kids and both husbands left because both girls found it 2 difficult looking after 2 kids 🙈
That's disgusting. What a betrayal of trust. Anybody that would do that is despicable.
Ummmm. No. Find a partner who is as reasy as one can be for parenthood.
It's rare to say it. Doing it, however, is a long and venerable tradition with no end in sight. There's no excuse for the fact that vasectomy isn't reliably reversible, and freely available to every male at puberty. There are, however, many reasons, none of them admirable. Women using sex to control and manipulate men is the norm, not the exception. Ironically, the price women pay for being cast as the gatekeepers of heterosexuality is considerable.
I personally knew two women who got pregnant "accidentally on purpose". First one was the mother of my neice whom I met once as a baby - she knew the council would house her, she never lived with my brother. The second trapped my flatmate 3 months into their relationship, he told me they wouldn't still be together if she wasn't pregnant. But he was a good guy and did the honourable thing, stood by the woman, moved to her home country after the birth. Unfortunately for him it didn't last and she is now married to a woman.
my sister did this and i applaud her husband for not losing his mind
The men have feelings and thoughts and they should be considered when weighing the major pros and cons if they want to father a child, if they can financially and emotionally handle a child, and if they feel like they are ready.
Going through this now with my son... Ex-GF said she was pregnant. I offered to pay for the abortion (late 2021). She claimed she had a miscarriage. Lost contact with her. Showed up last week 8 months pregnant. (sigh)...
I found this out I'd be well, enjoy being a single Mother, Adios! (yes i would support the kid, assuming there was one, just not HER!)
In '65 my brother was born. My parents were utterly broke at the time. Even then, babies cost a lot. Mom wanted a girl, and Dad said no, because they couldn't afford another child. In '67, Mom went off the pill without telling Dad. I was born in '68. Dad and I never had a good relationship, partly because he hadn't even wanted me. He manned up and took care of me to the best of his ability, but the break was always there.
They might look similar to you but it's a pregnancy test
Load More Replies...Telling other women that they should have kids, to have a fulfilled life.
Blaming other women for their cheating boyfriend/husband's behavior.
Yeah seriously. It's the cheating partners fault and they deserve all the blame especially if the other person didn't even know they were the other person. I mean yeah it's crappy if they did know but your partner gets the main bulk of the blame still because they made the decision to cheat on you.
Just because you had a hard time climbing up the corporate ladder or getting into a good position, you do not need to make other women suffer the same. I cannot emphasize it enough: hold the door open for the next one. Coach young female leaders. Help each other out
Absolutely yes! Sometimes words of encouragement makes a world of difference. You got this! You can do it! Don't give up!
Teaching their daughters that it's okay to be with an abusive man
This starts when kids are small! When I was in 1st-3rd grade of school there was this boy who would repeatedly kick my over my shins while we were in class and he would "accidently" bump into me pretty violently during recess. When I asked teachers and other adults what I should do they would just smile and tell me that little boys don't understand their feelings so when they like a girl they often behave badly towards her... so yeah. For a while I was led to believe that affection could be shown with violence. Imagine telling that to a victim of domestic violence???? And can you imagine the girls who were told this lie from childhood and who continued to believe it.... can you imagine what sort of love lofe they will accept as adults? Please stop teaching girls that ppl who hurt them do it because they like them. It is NOT ok!!!
Make nice with your daughter in law. Stop being s**tty about her “taking” your son and you’ll be asked to be a part of more that they do.
HAHAHAHAHA! My mother gladly welcomed all of my sisters-in-law and my brother-in-law into the family with open arms. She was practically giddy when the boys said they were getting married. She goes out of her way to make sure that they are welcome and included in all aspects of the family. I think that it is mostly because she had 12 boys and me and she was tired and wanted rid of all of us.
Everything for their sons. Teach them how to do their own laundry. Teach them to cook, give them a night they make dinner for the family. Have them do chores. Make them understand that doing anything less than their share is not enough. Model partnership, not servitude. This simple thing could change the world.
Ugh! I hate this idea that the kitchen is the woman's place and not the man's!!! Since 75% of all chefs are male, why is it OK for a man to cook dinner outside the home but not in it????
Constantly saying/posting “If you can’t handle me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best”. People shouldn’t have to endure you treating them like s**t to earn you treating them nicely. If you need to be “handled” at your worst, you have some self work to do.
Yep. I'll admit that I can be a bit much sometimes, but I am actively working on it. I'm in therapy and it is slowly working, but I would need someone who can be patient with me at times. Not ALL the time and I'm not saying that I would push the envelope, but just don't be like my ex who called me a narcissist because we were arguing and I mentioned my own needs, which he always and consistently put last. THAT, I definitely don't need again.
Stop dating idiot guys when you have kids. Stop putting your love lives before your kids. Put your kids first.
Asking if/when a woman is getting engaged / getting married / having a baby / having another baby / getting back to work after having a baby.
Especially from older female relatives. It just doesn't end.
Being mean to other women in the workplace. Even if we dislike someone, no excuse to go out of your way to be rude and nasty to someone.
“Someone else’s shine does not dim yours”
Faking orgasms! Teaching men false sense of what is good!
Just tell him what you like it's time people accept that penetration doesn't do the trick for most women
Flushing tampons and other period products
Yeah,Ive seen WAY to many of these things and they always muck up the works. Had one clog an air relief valve today.
Fake friendliness. If I don't like you, I won't pretend to like you. Not gonna be a d**k or anything, I'll still be cordial. But I've had women rush up to me all smiles and hugs like "oh my goood you came, I'm SO glad you're here!!" And then find out sometime later that Audrey really does not like me *at ALL*
Keep popping kids with a s***ty partner hoping the babies will fix the relationship
Acting like fellow mothers are the only people who could possibly understand unconditional love, selflessness or sacrifice, work/life balance challenges, the list goes on…
Using their own issues to invalidate other’s issues.
Yeah but my life is sooo much worse so your problems don't matter (§) I hate people who do this; everyone's problems and issues are valid
Taking the criticism of one person as license to stop doing what they love.
"My teacher said my painting was awful, so I swore then and there never to paint again."
"My mom said I was fat, so I have never worn a bikini."
"My boyfriend said my story was stupid, so I quit writing."
You're only hurting yourself. Twirl on the haters.
Hitler had an art teacher that said he couldn't paint .. and look how that turned out ..
Peeing on public toilet seats. Put some TP on the seat if you’re that worried about germs.
Where I work, office full of women and men. The cleaner, a woman, has stated on more than one occasion that the women's toilets are far worse than the men's. One time a nugget of poo was left lying on the floor of a cubicle. Jam rags have also been left on the side in plain sight, no attempt to get rid of them. Even though bins are provided.
Thinking it’s cute & quirky to label themselves as a married man’s “work wife.” My fiancé has been put in several uncomfy situations where he doesn’t want to be mean or deal with an HR blowup, but also doesn’t want to be flirted with in his place of employment. We don’t want men to do it to us, so let’s not do it to uninterested men.
Ugh! We have a woman in my workplace that does this and refers to one particular guy as "Hubby." It is cringey and the guy hates it so much, you can see it on his face every time she walks into the same room as him.
Speaking on behalf of all women. It’s absurd and wildly egotistical.
Workplace toxicity. I have had two women, separate occasions, try to get me fired. The lies and gossip they spread and the accusations were insane. Empathy should be easy for us to have toward one another and I don’t know how a person can do those things to another person, let alone women to women.
Oh Been there and wearing the tee shirt, the best one was telling my very Christian Boss that I was a witch, he made my life hell ...literally.
Targeting married men exclusively. And this is just a small percentage of women but I mean why?
Cheating husbands are trash no exceptions but for some women to not take no as an answer from a happily married man is just sickening.
Protecting abusive and toxic men. Heck even helping them do the awful things they do.
I say light them on fire. I mean, they’re wearing flammable clothing, plus I saw one with a lighter once. It’s like they’re asking for it….
Weird intense dieting.
To be clear, I'm not talking about trying to eat healthier or even trying to lose weight in a healthy way.
I'm talking about the overwhelming number of women I know who go on these bizarre diets with fasts and cleanses and they don't eat carrots or they count how often they poop or ... I dunno. Weird s**t. Then it becomes their entire personality for a while and it's all they talk about.
It always gives me strong vibes of a person who feels out of control in some aspect of their life trying to regain that control in another, and it makes me horribly sad.
Sabotaging other women. Many women are insecure and they’re happy to be friends with another woman AS LONG AS she is not better than them in their opinion. I’m tired of women sabotaging other women they think are more beautiful, successful, and happier than they are. Ladies, we’re all in this together. No one’s life is perfect and we can all help each other be better if we just all stick together.
We should not allow ourselves to indulge in this s**t. Ever heard the words “divide and conquer”? Until we can come together we will not continue to make inroads into all the goodies in life that men have always enjoyed.
Bringing each other down
that applies to everyone, not just women. Actually, most of these do.
Comparing themselves to women in magazines, social media etc. and thinking they really look that way in person.
Saying, "well I'm okay with [sexist thing] so everyone else should be too."
like amber heard wich this comment could be intepted two ways amber being sexist and pepol saying that since she is a woman she was inccent
Stepping down on other women at the workplace, and not letting them advance in their careers, based on rumours you started.
- needing to bring someone else down to lift you up
- actively going after men in relationships (ya I get it takes 2 to tango, hate the player, etc - but why are you even doing it?)
- mom shaming other moms
- believing their MLM isnt a giant scam for 90% of the people involved
purposely trying to get someone else's boyfriend's attention when they know they're taken
Currently in a situation kind of like this. Taken but someone keeps trying to get in a relationship with me even though I have stated that I’m taken.
i work on cars and am involved in the car scene and i also play a lot of video games. something i can’t stand that women do is gatekeep/ immediately get so defensive or insecure when another woman comes around. especially when their guy friends are around. it drives me insane. they act like other women can’t have the same interests when really they’re not actually in it for the cars or games, they’re only there for the guys. this kind of goes along with putting other women down.
Often these women are not conventionally attractive or feel that way so they try to be special and cool instead to get attention from guys and they see other women as nothing but competition
Waiting for Prince Charming to rescue them.
And the men who think they ARE Prince Charming and need to "rescue" a woman! I had a guy actually tell me that "men don't want to date women like you" just because I have a good income and can pay all my own bills. Idiot.
Insulting themselves/appearance all the time. If you wouldn’t say it to your best friend, don’t say it to yourself!
Deliberately excluding other women from friendship or social bonding at work etc.
I'm overweight and women don't even see me. (I don't exist because I'm fat.)
Holding each other to higher standards than their man or men in general
i feel like a lot of these go for all the genders, not just women
How about using the term "females" in a title about things women find annoying. Oh the irony...
Making their opinions on reproductive choices into mandatory decisions for every other woman. I don’t care that you think IUDs cause terminations, you’re perfectly in your rights to decide not to use them or get an actual termination yourself. I’m going to support your choice! But taking my choices away because you don’t approve of them is bad.
It is scary how early some of these behaviors start, as low as age 8 from what I have seen.
I am a woman in a group of friends with all males. Happened cause i joined the boy scouts cause there were no other girls. Now years and years later were not boy scouts anymore but stayed very close. Im married. Still everytime one of the guys gets a girlfriend theyre weirded out that im with them a lot. Ffs we're all around 30. This got blown up so often. Im not some kind of alien or murderer. Im a female friend....
STOP SHAMING WOMEN FOR USING PADS!!! SORRY I DONT WANT TO SHOVE A A STICK OF COTTON UP MY COOCH!!!
Wishing for another woman's life and even telling her so. That is not flattering. It means you need to get your s**t straight. You want to be like me because I am "strong, independent, and happy" okay so be your version of that. Don't model yourself after someone else because you never know how hard the person works to make their life what it is.
Why would I want to read a list of women hating on other women (none of whom should be referred to as "females")?
This is my grief. Please just because you're also female does not mean I want to know about your cycle or it's grossness. Yeah when I had them if a woman needed a tampon or pad I'd help out. But I don't need to know the status of the flow or cramps or any of it. I got my own body to deal with. And also grief is clean up after yourself in stores. Stop making messes for the staff. You don't treat your home like a trash pile don't do it in public. Thankfully someone mentioned the pee all over the toilet because squatters can't sit correctly.
Projecting their own insecurities onto other women. For example, women who struggle with their body image issues are more likely to shame other women for being overweight or too skinny. Also, considering every woman their rival, especially when it comes to their relationship with men. I don't want your mangy boyfriend, calm down.
i feel like a lot of these go for all the genders, not just women
How about using the term "females" in a title about things women find annoying. Oh the irony...
Making their opinions on reproductive choices into mandatory decisions for every other woman. I don’t care that you think IUDs cause terminations, you’re perfectly in your rights to decide not to use them or get an actual termination yourself. I’m going to support your choice! But taking my choices away because you don’t approve of them is bad.
It is scary how early some of these behaviors start, as low as age 8 from what I have seen.
I am a woman in a group of friends with all males. Happened cause i joined the boy scouts cause there were no other girls. Now years and years later were not boy scouts anymore but stayed very close. Im married. Still everytime one of the guys gets a girlfriend theyre weirded out that im with them a lot. Ffs we're all around 30. This got blown up so often. Im not some kind of alien or murderer. Im a female friend....
STOP SHAMING WOMEN FOR USING PADS!!! SORRY I DONT WANT TO SHOVE A A STICK OF COTTON UP MY COOCH!!!
Wishing for another woman's life and even telling her so. That is not flattering. It means you need to get your s**t straight. You want to be like me because I am "strong, independent, and happy" okay so be your version of that. Don't model yourself after someone else because you never know how hard the person works to make their life what it is.
Why would I want to read a list of women hating on other women (none of whom should be referred to as "females")?
This is my grief. Please just because you're also female does not mean I want to know about your cycle or it's grossness. Yeah when I had them if a woman needed a tampon or pad I'd help out. But I don't need to know the status of the flow or cramps or any of it. I got my own body to deal with. And also grief is clean up after yourself in stores. Stop making messes for the staff. You don't treat your home like a trash pile don't do it in public. Thankfully someone mentioned the pee all over the toilet because squatters can't sit correctly.
Projecting their own insecurities onto other women. For example, women who struggle with their body image issues are more likely to shame other women for being overweight or too skinny. Also, considering every woman their rival, especially when it comes to their relationship with men. I don't want your mangy boyfriend, calm down.