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35 Things People Embody So Deeply That Their Entire Personality Revolves Around It, As Shared In This Online Group
Someone’s personality is formed by a lot of different things: their behavior, social attitudes, what they believe in and other things. It is influenced by our environment and how we react to it. Most often a personality is constant and we can even predict what a person would like or how they would react to an unknown thing because they follow a specific pattern.
Personality is a complex concept, however, some people tend to simplify it and choose one thing to base it on. It may become annoying, at least according to the experience of redditors who responded to Kandiblu’s question “What’s something that people turn into their whole personality?”
The thread became quite popular with over 58k people upvoting it and almost 44k of them joining in. These are some of the annoying personalities based on one thing that most people found very annoying. Do you agree with them? Which ones that you find unbearable weren’t in this list? Let us know in the comments!
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OCD.i dont know why many people in my lives believe they have OCD and they are proud about it. There is a difference between keeping everything organized and OCD.
Yes. I don't have OCD, but I like everything being organized, but at a certain point I just don't care...
While most people found these things they mentioned annoying and in some cases they even expressed fear seeing someone so obsessed about just one thing, the people who always bring up the same topic in every conversation might not be doing it on purpose.
Bored Panda reached out to Denise Marigold, an Associate Professor and Chair of Social Development Studies at the Renison University College in Waterloo, Canada to learn more about this.
I’m Norwegian. When I say that, a shocking amount of people assume that I’m American with Norwegian heritage. There are so many americans making their «viking heritage» their whole personality, butchering the norse faith and fighting with actual Norwegians over the correct way to make a traditional dish and the spelling and usage of «skål» (cheers).
It’s so f**king horrible to watch. It’s like being mocked.
I'm half Irish, and there's people I've spoke to that are in the US and found out they are maybe like.. one tenth Irish, but they make jokes like "haha us ginger leprechauns" .. I don't really mind, but please. You're American, not Irish. Same way that I wouldn't say I'm fully Irish or fully Romanian, I'm half and half, yes, but I'm British. Edit: I don't wanna say don't be proud of your heritages, I certainly am, I've been learning Romanian and Irish, make Irish and Romanian foods, etc. But I would never say I'm FROM those countries, just that my ancestors are.
Work. Some people just make it their whole life and I don't get it. Work to live, don't live to work. My workplace's normal business hours are 8:30 - 5:00, but I'm constantly hearing people say s**t like "when I was working on it this weekend" or talk about how they work so late, it makes me cringe.
It makes me wonder if they're avoiding something else in their life. Like being at the office is better than being at home.
She explained to us that it’s not unusual for people to focus their attention on one thing, like a goal or interest. The professor explains why it happens, “When you get absorbed in a goal, it can be like a flow state, where everything else can disappear while one becomes pleasantly engrossed in what they are doing.”
When you get into something with high concentration, “Other thoughts and feelings that are irrelevant to the topic get automatically inhibited. This can be adaptive because it facilitates goal progress and freedom from distractions and conflicts. When people do this well, they get a lot of enjoyment out of it.”
Astrology. The only full moon presiding over me is my own bare a**.
I find it fun but that's about it. Every personality can be associated to anyone born at any time of the year.
Brands. People think chosing a brand of clothing speaks lota about them.
Depending on the level of absorption, this kind of state may be either beneficial to a person or interfere with their normal life. Dr. Denise Marigold reveals what positive and negative results it can bring, “Absorption in a goal or interest may also serve as a way to get relief from unwanted thoughts and feelings. If people are doing this to block out awareness of unwanted thoughts and feelings, they also tend to lack awareness of the effects their behavior has on others around them (e.g., how boring and lonely it can be for others to be around them when they have gone to their obsessive ‘happy place’).“
Some fans are kinda scary. Their whole life becomes dedication to a celebrity’s. And it’s not just their personality, they make everything around them about that person. Posters, music, merchandise, weird things bought on the internet—supposedly with relation to the subject of their obsession—and so on.
I can’t imagine being close to somebody before and after their transition into that life. It seems like it’d be scary…
I think the title should really say "obsessive fans". You can be a fan of a celebrity without being frightening. I am a fan of David Tennant. I've never met the man, but I do enjoy whatever I see him in, and it will influence whether or not I watch something if he is one of the stars.
Being sick/ sickly. I've always had very poor health, and in high school and early college, as my conditions worsened, I didn't like that I couldn't live a "normal" life, so I kind of leaned into it. Always joked about how sickly I was while secretly hating myself for not being able to "keep up" with my peers. Some maturing and some guidance from my mother has helped me to learn that, yes, poor health sucks, and yes, I can't always do the things that healthy people can, but that doesn't have to control my identity. Doing far better now, learning what my true limits are and how to work with them!
Some people might get annoyed that there is nothing else to talk about with that person because they will force the same topic on you. You will have to deal with that by assessing the situation and your relationship with that person.
Dr. Denise Marigold suggests that “In some relationships you might feel comfortable being completely honest and direct and saying something like ‘It’s nice that you are enthusiastic about that! Unfortunately it’s not something I can really get into. Because it’s hard for me to engage in that topic and feel connected with you, I find myself losing interest quickly.’ If you feel the need to be less direct, you can still aim to validate their interest while steering the conversation towards other topics you can both engage in.”
Being a badass in school. Like giving teachers a day of hell just cuz they’re “real” and say what they think without filtering it
LOL This is such a phase. I was like this for a year in a Bart Simpson sort of way.
So if someone is really focused on a particular interest, it’s just their happy place and they feel comfortable and passionate talking about it. Also, if you get bored of talking about it or listening to it, there are nice ways to try and explain to the person without making them feel like they are a boring interlocutor.
HERBALIFE. having to literally explain to people that it’s an MLM is so frustrating. They prey on small towns, create “nutrition shops” that sell $9 shakes when it’s literally just Herbalife and is helping the owner barely break even.
Happened in my small town, then out of nowhere 3 other “branches” popped up in the revolving small towns. (Which basically means the owner conned 3 more into joining so that they can get their profit). There’s a documentary out there called like One in a Million or something that breaks down the pyramid and how little people at the bottom are actually making. They also show that the shakes are nothing more than liquid laxative, so of COURSE you’re losing weight.
Also, keto.
Herbalife is "nothing more than liquid laxative"? Which means, one is only losing water. That's not healthy - and, people still buy them.🙈
Political party
Imo out of all of them these are the worst no matter what side they're on.
My Texas high school had a British club. I'm actually a British citizen, so I tried to join.
Those people were nuts. They made Doctor Who and Sherlock their whole personalities.
Don't forget Harry Potter! I'm a fan of Dr Who, Sherlock and HP, but goddamn I don't make it my personality...
Drinking
I hate that people expect me to explain why I don't drink, like there is something fundamentally wrong with me!
Disliking something. Met someone the other day who hates avocados so damn much every conversation they’d have would come back to how different they were from most people cuz they hated avocados
" If you like/don't like what I like/don't like we can't be friends". This gets old real quick.
The generation they're born in
I feel closer to the mindset of gen X than millennials but I'm classified as millennial by when I was born. It's a novelty just like astrology.
Being in the army, military. Also gym
It might be a way of coping with the emotional pain though... (For army/military)
Their music taste. I am very much guilty of this.
I am exhausted by the thousands of different music genres now. People ask what kind of music I like.... the good kind.
Disliking something mainstream/popular/common
I can't stand this. Wonder how many people are out there missing out on things they might love because they feel like they need to keep up an image they fabricated of being too "edgy' "unique" "original" to like anything mainstream and popular.
Owning a tesla
DON'T NEED A TESLA TO IMPRESS HER, MY GIRL IS HAPPY ROLLIN ON A VESPA!
Vaping
Their vehicle
I love my mini. I don't really talk to others about it, though. It's private.
I’ve driven my 2001 Volkswagen Eurovan for 21 years. It’s covered in bumper stickers and vinyl decals that actually do kind of represent my personality. I’ll fight you XD
I appreciate them for being very utility-focused. They are practical and never really put on an act, such as trying to be imposing, extreme, luxurious or cutting-edge. It's just a decent, pragmatic car. Also, there's a stereotype about Subarus being the preferred car for lesbians and I don't know where that came from but it just really seems fitting.
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Its not a Mini, but i like my small car. I only wish for a little more HP for the German Autobahn, because we have in my country really short freeway ramps. Its really annoying when people ignore the speed limit near this ramps.
Muscle cars. My heart beats faster, my pupils dilate with excitement. Then the nostalgia is over.
I like cars, I talk about cars, sometimes my cars. But the ones that are annoying are people who talk about their car as a brag. Like their status symbol Tesla or their expensive BMW. I usually don't talk about cars to non car people anyways because most aren't into my specific like of s**t boxes.
My first night in LA, a guy kept me up for hours trying to explain to me who he was, based on the car he used to drive. It didn't have a luggage rack, and that was very important.
As I said in #22... Oh I am planning on identifying as a 2022 Ford Maverick Lariat owner by end of this month. And I'm going to run hard with it all year. Signed, Maverick owner, 🌵 Cactus Gray
I own three Geo Metros. There is a reason for that. I like a car that is cheap to buy, cheap to own, and cheap to fix. And I can easily get 50+ mpg without toxic batteries, electric motors, and miles of wiring and electronics. If something breaks on my car (IF, since all three cars have never failed me yet), I can easily fix it myself with basic hand tools. Why do I have three? No reason. Don't need any reason. If you enjoy driving a $130,000 battery-powered car or whatever, then that's fine. You do you, and I'll do me.
I just like laughing with people when I tell them that my used car has a bunch of awesome features but the seat adjustment is all manual. But, like, only after they mention my car first otherwise it's weird.
Hey now, hurting from this one xD I'm a 5'0 girl who loves my lifted f150
Coffee
I might be guilty of this one. I love a good coffee or tea far too much...
anime protagonists
Well. This one is funny, but also annoying. Like I have a friend who was OBSESSED with My hero acadamia, s/he would try to be as close as she could to be like the protagonist.. eventually she quit, but some of it still was habit.
Stocks/Trading/Investments
This isn’t Boiler Room or Wolf of Wall Street. You don’t need to convince me to get into trading as we talk over a food service counter.
I can’t help but think of people who move money to make money as parasites. I have more respect for any janitor or food service worker than I do an investor. No one mows a lawn or bandages a wound is going to ruin the whole economy.
I wanna say "memes" but that just makes me sad about myself
Redditors who act out their usernames.
I think their usernames are more of a reflection of their personalities.
Travel
I don't mind these types of people. They're living a life of adventure and exploration. I wish I could have that lifestyle.
I'm surprised smoking pot wasn't here. I'm for full legalization - do what ya want - but some people really go overboard. It's a recreational drug, not a lifestyle.
i’m sorry if this sounds offensive, because it’s not supposed to be and im bi myself, but, being lgbtq. i get that you should have pride in who you are, but making ur whole personality about being gay is really annoying to me, and it can be toxic to someone who is closeted and has homophobic parents/gaurdians
Thanks! My dad "suddenly" turned gay after 23 years of marriage and 7 kids. He was so over the top (gaining an accent, gay movies/stars, flashing pics of men kissing at an 8year old's birthday) it made me sick. I had to analyze was it the homosexual part (theiving and lying boyfriends), or just him. It was him... turns out I wasn't homophobic at all.
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Children-having them or not. Making everything about either is just annoying. You love your kids? Me, too! But I have a whole bunch of other things! And no one cares if you don't want to have kids. After an hour with you talking about how you don't have kids, we all agreed you shouldn't have them. Don't tell people their life is less because they do or do not have children (whichever matches your narrow view of the world).
If one person agreed with all 35 of these they'd probably be the most bitter m**o on Earth.
Most of these are phases that I went through during ages 13-23 approximately. Lol Most of us act pretty insufferable at least a few times throughout our lives.
They also forgot people.who treat owning or liking dogs as a literal lifestyle.
“Become who you are. Make what only you can make.” — Friedrich Nietzsche
I think you are confusing interest with personality. Personalities are more than your interest.
Add this to the list: complaining about people's life choices, passions, personalities etc.
So... You can't be what you want to be. This list is toxic. People who contribute to crap like this are usually guilty of the thing they're trying to vilify.
I know, this list made me pretty sad. People just want to find a place to belong. I don’t particularly care about any of this stuff but it makes me paranoid to care about anything.
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Anyone who gives off the perception they only have one dimension is going to come across as boring, I don't think it makes that much a difference what that one dimension is about, only that they don't have more than one of them.
I hate it when people also make their mental illnesses their personalities, or have a vague symptom of one and immediately jump to conclusions and make THAT their personality
There is also "guns/hunting". Some people just looooove to talk about killing machines and killing stuff. ugh.
theres also prepping, which our father is guilty of but is infact cutting down on it
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Rabid fandom. I love anime but no longer feel comfortable admitting it because of these incel douchebags who just watch shonen,get into hentai ,waifus , all that bs. I love japanese culture but not ninjas,samurai,swords ect. I love edo period art , poetry , architecture , folklore and shinto. But say I'm into Japan and the immediate assumption is the stereotypical otaku loser clichés
People with fursonas have a similar problem. Most folks seem to think that being a furry equals being a sexually active deviant. A lot of furries would prefer sexuality to not be part of the culture at all. Similar goes for some Christian's and vegetarians; they keep it to themselves because otherwise people make negative assumptions about them, based on the noisiest and judgiest. It sucks when you have to hide your likes and interests and beliefs because others make negative assumptions about you.
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People (mostly 10 year old girls on tiktok) making mental illnesses their entire personality :/. Now i'm a little guilty of this, as when i first found our system, we would tell everyone, but after a while it get really hard to life with voices in your head (106 for us). Same thing with tourettes fakers, as us being clinically diagnosed, it is really heartbreaking to see these little kids do it for attention.
Absolutely!! One thing I find even worse is when they self-diagnose because they think they show symptoms for certain illnesses just to justify their actions... It just makes me so angry to see people acting as if it is "trendy" to have a mental illness because they don't talk about the negative effects it can have on somebody's life
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Believing Facebook is real life, and I only say that because I know a couple people that feel that way.
No way, sick people don't have much of personality other than being sick when they basically can't do anything? So shocking, so weird! Most of my interests have faded away because I can't pursue them, I live in constant pain which messed up my mind. When people talk about things they're doing, I have nothing to say, my train left long ago leaving me behind.
I don't think I embody any of these things. Except that maybe people in Manhattan should realize they are in a state, not a, state
Ok, but in the title should be "some Americans" or "sime americanized west Europeans", because this has nothing ti do with "people" of this world.
One biggy not on the list is: Getting ones life information from Facebook only; never reading books, studies, experiencing life by experiencing it directly......
Or Vegan/Vegetarians-or they insist on calling Vegetarian foods 'bacon/hamburgers/sausages etc.. then of course the Oat/almond/rice "milk". It's NOT MILK! Just like people that buy those horrible dessert looking drinks from Starbucks and argue that's its their 'coffee'. No,.it's a dessert and most don't even contain coffee. Then of course gluten/dairy free cakes etc. They are not cakes by definition-no flour, eggs, sugar, milk.. Just because you shape something like a cake, doesn't mean it's a cake. By that definition every sandcastle would technically be a cake..amongst other things
So uh, a hot dog is a dog, right? And baby back ribs are from... babies? Right? Don't be a twat. They shoulda put triggered meat eaters on this list. You all sure are miserable. Don't worry your bacon or steak will be along shortly.
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Please try to remember that some of these can be autistic special interests or ADHD hyperfixations. Particularly fans of traditionally "nerdy" things like Dr. Who or Harry Potter. A lot of "horse girls" and "Disney adults" fall into this category. In my teens & early 20s I got made fun of A LOT for my hyperfixation. It really screwed up my self esteem.
I thought religion would be on this list for sure. I'm begging all of you...instead of constantly talking and posting about it just show us...by being a good and loving person.
you forgot audiophiles, high def video enthusiasts, sports/esports, orthorexics/vegans, bicyclists, BDSM carnies, folks who mistake gender/sexuality for personality and tattoo/piercing attention-whores. also i always use this old saying; "if you have to make yourself SEEM interesting, you aren't."
Based on your other comments as well as upvoting sexist, anti-LGBT comments on other bored panda pages, it sure looks like your dominant personality trait is misogyny & hating equality. Sad.
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Nobody's afraid to mention it. But you just told on yourself. Shoo fly.
Load More Replies... I'm surprised smoking pot wasn't here. I'm for full legalization - do what ya want - but some people really go overboard. It's a recreational drug, not a lifestyle.
i’m sorry if this sounds offensive, because it’s not supposed to be and im bi myself, but, being lgbtq. i get that you should have pride in who you are, but making ur whole personality about being gay is really annoying to me, and it can be toxic to someone who is closeted and has homophobic parents/gaurdians
Thanks! My dad "suddenly" turned gay after 23 years of marriage and 7 kids. He was so over the top (gaining an accent, gay movies/stars, flashing pics of men kissing at an 8year old's birthday) it made me sick. I had to analyze was it the homosexual part (theiving and lying boyfriends), or just him. It was him... turns out I wasn't homophobic at all.
Load More Replies... Children-having them or not. Making everything about either is just annoying. You love your kids? Me, too! But I have a whole bunch of other things! And no one cares if you don't want to have kids. After an hour with you talking about how you don't have kids, we all agreed you shouldn't have them. Don't tell people their life is less because they do or do not have children (whichever matches your narrow view of the world).
If one person agreed with all 35 of these they'd probably be the most bitter m**o on Earth.
Most of these are phases that I went through during ages 13-23 approximately. Lol Most of us act pretty insufferable at least a few times throughout our lives.
They also forgot people.who treat owning or liking dogs as a literal lifestyle.
“Become who you are. Make what only you can make.” — Friedrich Nietzsche
I think you are confusing interest with personality. Personalities are more than your interest.
Add this to the list: complaining about people's life choices, passions, personalities etc.
So... You can't be what you want to be. This list is toxic. People who contribute to crap like this are usually guilty of the thing they're trying to vilify.
I know, this list made me pretty sad. People just want to find a place to belong. I don’t particularly care about any of this stuff but it makes me paranoid to care about anything.
Load More Replies... Anyone who gives off the perception they only have one dimension is going to come across as boring, I don't think it makes that much a difference what that one dimension is about, only that they don't have more than one of them.
I hate it when people also make their mental illnesses their personalities, or have a vague symptom of one and immediately jump to conclusions and make THAT their personality
There is also "guns/hunting". Some people just looooove to talk about killing machines and killing stuff. ugh.
theres also prepping, which our father is guilty of but is infact cutting down on it
Load More Replies... Rabid fandom. I love anime but no longer feel comfortable admitting it because of these incel douchebags who just watch shonen,get into hentai ,waifus , all that bs. I love japanese culture but not ninjas,samurai,swords ect. I love edo period art , poetry , architecture , folklore and shinto. But say I'm into Japan and the immediate assumption is the stereotypical otaku loser clichés
People with fursonas have a similar problem. Most folks seem to think that being a furry equals being a sexually active deviant. A lot of furries would prefer sexuality to not be part of the culture at all. Similar goes for some Christian's and vegetarians; they keep it to themselves because otherwise people make negative assumptions about them, based on the noisiest and judgiest. It sucks when you have to hide your likes and interests and beliefs because others make negative assumptions about you.
Load More Replies... People (mostly 10 year old girls on tiktok) making mental illnesses their entire personality :/. Now i'm a little guilty of this, as when i first found our system, we would tell everyone, but after a while it get really hard to life with voices in your head (106 for us). Same thing with tourettes fakers, as us being clinically diagnosed, it is really heartbreaking to see these little kids do it for attention.
Absolutely!! One thing I find even worse is when they self-diagnose because they think they show symptoms for certain illnesses just to justify their actions... It just makes me so angry to see people acting as if it is "trendy" to have a mental illness because they don't talk about the negative effects it can have on somebody's life
Load More Replies... Believing Facebook is real life, and I only say that because I know a couple people that feel that way.
No way, sick people don't have much of personality other than being sick when they basically can't do anything? So shocking, so weird! Most of my interests have faded away because I can't pursue them, I live in constant pain which messed up my mind. When people talk about things they're doing, I have nothing to say, my train left long ago leaving me behind.
I don't think I embody any of these things. Except that maybe people in Manhattan should realize they are in a state, not a, state
Ok, but in the title should be "some Americans" or "sime americanized west Europeans", because this has nothing ti do with "people" of this world.
One biggy not on the list is: Getting ones life information from Facebook only; never reading books, studies, experiencing life by experiencing it directly......
Or Vegan/Vegetarians-or they insist on calling Vegetarian foods 'bacon/hamburgers/sausages etc.. then of course the Oat/almond/rice "milk". It's NOT MILK! Just like people that buy those horrible dessert looking drinks from Starbucks and argue that's its their 'coffee'. No,.it's a dessert and most don't even contain coffee. Then of course gluten/dairy free cakes etc. They are not cakes by definition-no flour, eggs, sugar, milk.. Just because you shape something like a cake, doesn't mean it's a cake. By that definition every sandcastle would technically be a cake..amongst other things
So uh, a hot dog is a dog, right? And baby back ribs are from... babies? Right? Don't be a twat. They shoulda put triggered meat eaters on this list. You all sure are miserable. Don't worry your bacon or steak will be along shortly.
Load More Replies... Please try to remember that some of these can be autistic special interests or ADHD hyperfixations. Particularly fans of traditionally "nerdy" things like Dr. Who or Harry Potter. A lot of "horse girls" and "Disney adults" fall into this category. In my teens & early 20s I got made fun of A LOT for my hyperfixation. It really screwed up my self esteem.
I thought religion would be on this list for sure. I'm begging all of you...instead of constantly talking and posting about it just show us...by being a good and loving person.
you forgot audiophiles, high def video enthusiasts, sports/esports, orthorexics/vegans, bicyclists, BDSM carnies, folks who mistake gender/sexuality for personality and tattoo/piercing attention-whores. also i always use this old saying; "if you have to make yourself SEEM interesting, you aren't."
Based on your other comments as well as upvoting sexist, anti-LGBT comments on other bored panda pages, it sure looks like your dominant personality trait is misogyny & hating equality. Sad.
Load More Replies... Nobody's afraid to mention it. But you just told on yourself. Shoo fly.
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