Folks Online Think People Who Weren’t Raised Right Show Clear Signs Of It With These 30 Behaviors
Being a human is hard. There are so many physiological, psychological, social and cultural things that are in play all the time, there's bound to be hiccups every once in a while, if not more often.
And it's even more so a problem when a very complicated you have to pass on your worldly knowledge and skill on to your kids so that they won't make the same mistakes. But they're as complicated as everyone else!
And the vicious cycle keeps on perpetuating itself because of this, leading some to wonder about it. And much of today's wondering is done on Reddit, among other places, where, incidentally, we have one user asking folks what’s a sign that somebody wasn’t raised right?
Bored Panda collected the top answers to the now-viral thread, and has glued together the macaroni-art piece you can see below. So, upvote, comment, and discuss these and other signs someone wasn't raised right in the comment section below!
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If you go to someone's house, and they cook for you, you eat it with a big smile and lots of thanks, even if it was garbage.
My wife brought her friend over for lunch, I made pierogies, she goes "that's not a meal, that's a side" and goes to get Quiznos. Blew me away.
Someone's hospitality is the deepest respect they can show you. You have to give it back. How conscientious you are of that scenario is a good sign on how you were raised
Yes, if you don't like the food, keep it to yourself. Act gracious. Act kind.
Even if you’re not very hungry, just take a dab of everything on the table—-barring allergies and conditions, of course, which your host should understand and respect as well. Then at least TRY some of every dab of food you’ve taken. No need to insult your host.
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I was raised that when someone invites you to their home, you eat whatever they give you with a smile on your face, even if you don't like it. I can't count how many times growing up that I choked down food I disliked to be polite.
OMG I could never be that rude to someone even out in public, let alone that rude to someone in their own home and compounding it with the fact they cooked for you?!?! I have to wonder what, if any, manners they were taught about/shown an example of. How anyone can miss the mark that much baffles me. We're they even taught anything?
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I once had to eat some lemon pie with meringue on it, the food I hate most in the world. But it was made with love by my parents' dear friend, a WWII veteran and the sweetest person I have ever met. I even had extra and told him how delicious it was and seeing his huge smile was well worth the torture.
As someone who absolutely loves lemon pie (the, I would have happily helped you eat a few more slices! I can imagine his smile though!
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Making homemade pierogis IS a meal ! Wow, unreal. I would’ve been so hurt …I mean that is a lot of work.
I totally get what you're saying and I agree that you should never, ever be rude, there are just certain things I would not be able to eat. I would just be gracious and eat sides or if there's bread. I would never make a stink or complain. I'm just a super picky eater and, in fact, I almost never agree to have dinner at someone's house because of that. I always prefer a restaurant and I offer to pay. Some people just have stomachs and taste buds of steel and can eat anything but I have literally thrown up eating food I don't like. I just react differently and it's been a problem my whole life. And I'm not the only person. But I know this which is why I offer other things or I let them know ahead of time...hey I'm sorry I'm a super picky eater so please don't make a lot or go to a lot of trouble. I've heard of people who are a vegetarian/vegan who go to someone's house and get butthurt because there aren't options for them as if people should have psychically known ahead of time. Just be upfront if someone invites you over for dinner. Just say 'I'm sorry but I'm vegan and I don't want you to go to a bunch of trouble for me so how about we all go out to dinner instead?' Choose a restaurant that has vegan options. Offer to pay. Just be nice about it. Most people wouldn't care.
It's fine to decline food that you truly can't eat for whatever reason. It's how you say "no" that matters. And of course, polite people will always respect a polite "no thank you."
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Let's add entitled eaters too! These are people who are "picky eaters" and were always catered to by their parents. They were never pushed to try stuff, and always got the one or two things that they would eat in a any situation. These are the ones who will leave and come back with their own plain buttered noodles to your dinner party, where you went out of your way to make them some plain buttered noodles because they won't eat anything that has mushrooms, onion, garlic, any cheese other that mild cheddar, any veggies other than corn (which I consider a starch) , any meat other than chicken nuggets and no sauces. But the noodles made where not the right kind, they have to be either fettuccine or spaghetti, and then comment on how everything looks or smells gross. They also are the ones who go and buy a plain hambberger at a fast food place and bring into a wedding reception because they couldn't find anything to there liking in a very expensive buffet.
I'm a picky eater and I was never catered to by my parents. I literally can't eat some things and I have diverticulitis as well so, sorry, but I'm not going to eat something that is going to give me pain in order to satisfy someone else's need to make me eat their food. I understand that if someone has an issue, it's their issue and they shouldn't be rude and make rude comments and I certainly wouldn't bring food to a wedding, lol. I would just decline to eat or eat what I could. But I'm not going to eat spicy food or mac and cheese, oysters, sushi or anything else that i truly don't like just because someone else doesn't like that I'm not eating the food. Expensive/inexpensive doesn't have anything to do with it.
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In highschool we could go out for lunch our senior year. I went to 1 of the few fast food options we had. I bought a girl a sandwich because she didn't have money. I had her order it so she could get what she wanted. When she got it, she looked at it and said, 'ugh actually I don't want this..' she threw it away without asking me if I wanted it or something. We weren't friends for much longer. To this day, I still don't understand why she threw it away. Eat your food. Don't have to eat all of it but each your food lol
So wasteful of your money and the food especially since she ordered it
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Wow... That friend sounds absolutely delightful... I've accidentally committed this faux pas before though, sort of. When my kids were little they had a birthday party at a pizza place. The girl's dad bought a bunch of pizzas for all the kids. I was on a medical exclusion diet at the time, so I went up to order my own food because I thought it would be inappropriate to expect them to purchase me custom food. The dad LOST HIS MIND. Even after I explained myself he shouted at me and banned my kids from any future parties. That didn't stand though, since he got caught cheating on his wife with a coworker when she wound up pregnant and they got divorced. My kids are still friends with her, and she turns 20 next month. Oh, more tea? Sure. The dad had two more kids with that baby mama on top of the four he had had with his first wife and then he got another coworker at his new job knocked up. His eldest kids have chosen to be essentially no contact with him. Just, don't be a dìck. Simple.
I once went to a family friends house for supper. They were having fish chowder. I'm not a fan of fish really, but I ate it. Turns out, it was actually pretty good.
I know I will sound the a*****e, but I have some friends who let their cats roam free on every surface in their houses, including the dinner table (set table) and kitchen counters. They invite me for dinner. I politely decline. They force the issue, I go. But, I eat before I go. I will not eat anything prepared in their house because I don't do cat seasoning.
I have plenty of animals and they are absolutely not allowed on the counters! Sometimes hair can still end up in the food but we'll replace it if a guest got it or something, which has never happened
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I have a date tonight and I'm making the guy dinner and I'm nervous as hell cause I want it to go perfect. I agree when showing hospitality it's immense respect, I don't make dinner for just anyone!
If he knows you are cooking, ask if there's anything he likes especially, and anything you should probably leave out. Probably best to fix something traditionally moderate that most don't dislike. Meat, starch, veggie and a salad/fruit buffet. Or pasta with two different sauces. Creme or Tomato. A street taco bar. Fantastic first meal date. And so long as you leave the spices and topping to your guest there's little chance he won't be thrilled with your efforts. Even if you're a master chef, there's always more dinner dates down the road to gauge the temperature of his tastes.
Load More Replies... When i was like 8 i had a babysitter who could NOT cook. An older lady. Her scrambled eggs were runny, everything else was bland and somehow under and over cooked at the same time. A potato salad with ham that i was pretty sure was raw and potatoes still crunchy. I choked it down or waited until she left the room and threw it out quick. Several times i threw up after eating but never let on, I'd just ask to use restroom. You always smile and say thank you! One thing she did instill in me was a love of beets, it was the only thing i remember being cooked all the way. I can't believe the lack of manners some people show at family dinners or stranger gatherings. If you have an allergy or sensory issue let host know quietly instead of bellowing that you can't eat anything they slaved over. Picky eaters? Try something new, throwing up won't kill you. I guess I'm an old person in a young body, allowing kids to grow up eating only mac n cheese is wild to me. If i didn't like something in public i had to scrape off the offending parts. As a result i like varied foods.
I remember going to Edinburgh years ago and visiting my great aunt, who in her youth was a cook in the great houses of Scotland and once made breakfast for the young princesses Elizabeth and Margaret, I was told. Well she made me a lunch plate one day with tomatoes and hard boiled eggs, both of which I don’t really like, with some suspect ham, and I think there was a hair or two from her wildish cats, but I sure was respectful and ate what was put in front of me, with gratitude.
To be fair, you can't expect much from a British breakfast. Some or all will be boiled, and all of it will be bland, but often some of it will be suspect 😹
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I think u cab politely turn the food Down if it’s not something u like surely? Or ask for a small portion so u try some but I mean as a adult u don’t need to be forced to eat something u don’t want to…
I find it's good practice to at least find something on the table to compliment sincerely, and do it with enthusiasm.
OMG Mrs Jones. This is the finest Salt I've ever tasted. Tell me, is it locally sourced. LMAO
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I mean, it is possible to convey a personal dislike without being rude! But some people behave as if their preferences or opinions are universal truths everyone must adhere to and that's the problem. You can be appreciative and kind and still not like something. In this case though she shouldn't have said anything. She should have eaten some and then she could still go and get some more food if it wasn't enough. But I've told friends that I didn't like something without being rude. For example, I can't stand fish. One bite, and the meal is over because I get nauseous from the taste. It's not an allergy, I just can't stand the taste. So when someone tries to feed me fish I apologize and explain gently. No one ever took offense because my friends are reasonable people who understand that not everyone likes everything. I usually then feast on the side dishes.
This applies to ANYTHING someone does foryou that's nice. The first thing you do is acknowledge the kindness, and then discuss whatever else. My bf gets nothing done by me because he is so picky all he does is complain, without ever acknowledging the kindness it took for me to do the chore.. I'm always telling him his mother didn't teach him properly. I still hear my mother's voice in my ear telling me how to be have properly.
My cousin, & his friend Lynn went to my daughter & SIL home for Easter brunch. Lynn loved the cold salad, that was served, & she asked for the recipe. My low life, SIL who believes that he is better than anyone else said “I won’t waste my time making this kind of salad, for brunch, we purchased it and the rest of the food from The ***** Market!” At that point I wanted to crawl under the table or leave because my SIL obviously did not appreciate hosting anyone in his home, or sharing their food. This baby man is in his 40s & weighs 360lbs, neither of them have ever offered any senior or someone who lives alone, a take home container of food from these events, even if they brought a covered dish!
I mean, you can explain dietary restrictions. You are allowed to politely decline food. I can't do a lot of processed sugars or I get intestinal spasms, and it's incredibly painful. I can't eat dessert. But I can do a bite and I'm always certain to be very thankful for the effort!!!
I did something similar to the friend. It wasn't the food was bad it was delicious but there some foods I don't eat and let my host know so the food wasn't wasted (like the veggies he was serving.). One of our friends said I should have just thrown it away after finishing the meal which I thought would be an insult. Instead my host was insulted by letting him know so the food wasn't wasted.
If you were raised in a Ukrainian home, pierogies (vareneki in Ukrainian) we’re definitely a meal…every Friday!
I was working 2 jobs & raising kids. Ordered a catered Thanksgiving dinner from a small, local food prep business (it was delicious) because I had to work the day before Thanksgiving (I did make the pies from scratch). I Invited my single 4th cousin who has no family in the area. Mid-meal she learns that the lovely dinner she was enjoying was catered. She stands up and says "If I knew it wasn't going to be homemade I never would have come!" Ugh. Gratitude.
I was once invited for fondue and it tasted terrible, but the herb butter that was also available was really good so I kept eating that on my bread instead. The host noticed and asked if I didn't like it, and trying to be polite I said that wasn't it I just really love the herb butter. He accepted that, but then when he offered me some wine, I declined the bottle of extra dry white wine because I don't like dry wine, in favor of the red. He laughed and exclaimed that's why I didn't like the fondue, he put some of that dry wine in the fondue! He wasn't offended, but then I also wasn't acting rude either.
Free food is always good! Be grateful someone cares for you enough to share their food.
You know why people act like they’re entitled is because almost everyone has taken God out of the picture. And once you take God out you roll out that red carpet for satan and his evil ways!! PERIOD. I’m
Seriously horse manure. There's literally dozens of reasons why people eat what they like to eat and why they don't eat what you may have served. If someone clocked me for eating half the roast but only a bite of the buttery biscuits and potatoes and string beans, I'd serve them raw monkey brains (faces of death) style to help them down from that high horse they're on.
Everyone I know refuses to even try any of my food when they come over. They think Im gonna poison them or something
Do you have cats on the counter? A history of pests? Any digestive disorders you routinely discuss? Lolol
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Unless it’s an allergy that hopefully was made clear before hand, no reason not to eat it.
Yes, that's the way I was raised. My mother always said eat, what's put in front of you even if it's s**t and Thank the host.
Just for the record, I love pierogis and have eaten them as a meal. So there. Also, there are foods I just don't care for but if I'm not allergic, I'm going to eat it because I'm always grateful for the hospitality. The one time I did refuse food was the time my aunt served shrimp. I'm allergic and told her I could't eat it. She offered to make me something else but my dad said no, I was to eat it because she prepared it. Needless to say, I had a reaction. When my mom found out, she nearly tore him a new one.
Don't go out for fast food after someone has gone to the trouble of cooking for you.
Had an old friend stay with me, my husband and infant daughter. Said to me that he was a race traitor for staying with Chicanos. I threw him out.
My husband's friend and wife came over for a few days. I made a complex Asian meal. Wife says "that's ok,I'll have water and a bagel". Told my hubby I am never cooking for them again.
Eastern European dough ball rolled then filled with (insert mystery ingredients*) and boiled. Basically ravioli filled with *cheesy potatoes and onion.
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Gyoza dumplings is a side, but Polish pierogi are a full meal. Try to eat 12 of them. You will not need anything more.
I love pierogies for dinner, lunch and breakfast :-) I would've loved coming over to a pierogi meal!
I'm a picky eater, but I do try to taste the common things I don't like once a year or more to see if things have changed. Most of the stuff comes from getting overstuffed with it when I was little, so it sucks as it's things like (shell)fish, tomatoes, mushrooms and strawberries and I remember them tasting good, but now it just tastes and smells awful for me. So if that get's served, I will try to eat around it, but I know I won't like it, so I won't force myself.
Yumm! What kind of pierogis? (btw since the war, we stopped calling them Russian pierogis and now proudly call them Ukrainian pierogis :) )
Agreed, I once had a friend that came over for curry - it was japanese curry so no coconut and she complained the entire meal how she was really hoping for that coconut flavor and was sooo disappointed. Then the b!t€h went back for 2nds
I love Japanese curry. I would have been in heaven.
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I've eaten things that I would never eat out of respect of the person who made it for me.
Yes. Be gracious and kind to your host. They've likely spent a lot of time preparing that meal. Also, just because someone has grown up preparing food differently, doesn't make it bad. Just because it doesn't taste like yours, it doesn't mean it's not good, MOM. My mom has passed away now, so I can say that. She was so critical of other people's food. If it wasn't just like hers, it wasn't any good. And she always seemed to forget her own cooking failures. She was a good cook tho. Lol.
Wooow, how extremely rude. Unless you're allergic keep it to yourself have your "snack" and politely get something later.
She goes to Quiznos afterwards? That is almost as bad as saying your host served food worse than McDonalds!
Also don't take foood without permission. My sister had a friend over after school for a bit, I had finished shed making dinner, she grabbed a plate and helped herself without asking if it was okay. It would have been different if she was an overnight guest, but she wasn't. I had only planned for my family to eat. She has also done the same with snacks.
The last time I did something like that, I was 3, and my parents never let me forget it.
The exception is if you have an allergy or dietary need. Let your host know ahead of time, and if they forget, politely remind them while complimenting how amazing and well made the food looks and how you wish you could eat it.
I knew someone that I stopped inviting over. This person would complain about the food if I served anything but burritos. Didn’t matter that most people think I’m a good cook or that I had done a lot of work. Weird.
This would depend on where you are in the world, since different cultures have different etiquettes they follow.
Then you eat the pierogies with a f*****g smile on your face and get something later... not that hard. I don't like eating other people's food - really bad food poisoning (twice!), but I still make a small plate, eat what looks safe and push the rest around. 10+ years and no one has caught on.
If They Ask How Every Thing Was.... Tell Them Very Filling.... Even Tho You Don't Like It
My friends grandmother fixed me a plate once with something on it I didn't really like but I ate it anyway so as not to hurt her feelings.
As a kid I was allowed to say ''no thank you'', when someone wanted to put something of my plate, but if it was already there, I had to eat at least some of it and not tell them if it was revolting. Which makes me laugh now, but back then, it was rough.
IF you are *still* hungry on the way home, because you are an arsehole, then buy some Macca's!
Brought someone to a friend’s house for lunch and they made fish. She covered her nose and said stinky and didn’t eat. It was my daughter. She’s 3. 😆
I once made ham and cheese pinwheels for my husband's coworkers. I made the dough from scratch too. He told me many didn't eat them because of the bread, they were trying to diet. It took me over 8 hours y'all and they were damned delicious!! A couple of weeks later another co-worker's wife slapped together some kimbap for everyone one morning and she was raved about. "Oh, she had to wake up early to make all of this!" I've made kimbap and it's sweet she did that. But it was just straight rude
I should add, at my husband's new workplace, I made some cheesecake swirl brownies as a treat for people. My husband's current workplace LOVES them and evidently no one cares they will give you diabetes 😂😂 We are now in a Southern hospitality food war with containers with 2 people
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I had to look up what pierogies were and they look like a fantastic lunch for sure! I’d chose these over Quiznos any day.
Who does this? I will be seriously glad someone is inviting me for a meal.
Nope, sorry not going to lie to please someone else. I will thank you for the food, eat it, but not keep my opinions to myself to keep someone else happy. I would expect the same from others, why eat my food it's not to your taste? It's meant to be a meal, not an ordeal.
If I do effort to cook and someone hates it, I rather have that they say so and don't eat it. A pity of all the effort. I'd rather put it in the fridge for the next day, that is, if I would even cook for someone. I cook for my dad, cause he's so happy with it. No way I'd do effort for someone who's not old or something.
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Hospitable Borat offers you traditional cheese then says it is made of his wife breastmilk. Wawa wuwa
They always portray themselves as a victim. Nothing is ever their fault and somebody is always out to get them.
I’m a victim minded person. Each time something happens, I blame the other person and hold a grudge against them. Now I’m doing much better and have started owning up to my mistakes without unfairly blaming someone
If they make messes in public areas and just wander off (leaving trash in the theater, not flushing, leaving the cart in a parking space).
Edit: forgot the theater thing is the norm in Britain! I meant in general, leaving a mess where it's not supposed to be.
They act like mental illness is something you can just get over.
How they treat people from whom they have nothing to gain.
How they act as a boss when their employee messes up.
Yelling and belittling shouldn’t be your first option.
Someone that does things to intentionally hurt another persons feelings after they’ve expressed that, that certain thing hurts their feelings.
Not respecting personal boundaries.
If you're wondering why someone has these sorts of issues, take a look at their parents.
I love my fur baby, but why why why must his comfy spot be 1 inch from my face? We've established your ownership of me 8,364 times already. get-off-me...c4e626.jpg 
They whistle, snap their fingers, or make that "pspsps" sound to get their server's attention in a restaurant.
We lost a beloved pet today, one of our friends said "time to get another". This happened today! I'm not sure if he's stupid, insensitive or just an a*s know we're not friends anymore.
I've learned over the years that as much as the people I care about love their pets, it's wrong for me to assume they even want another pet after having to put one down. I've had to put 3 pets down in the past 15 years sooner than I had hoped due to undiagnosed medical issues. I now have an almost 14 year old beagle mix girl (Ziggy). When she goes, I will likely be unconsolable and if anyone tells me (that doesn't understand the bond between a pet and owner) to "just get another one", I will likely remove said person from my life. I don't even know if I would WANT another pet after Ziggy goes, and my husband may not want another one either. It's just simply insensitive and uncalled for to a grieving pet parent.
You give them a lift and they leave rubbish in your car.
Yep but I rather they leave the trash in the car than throw it out the window...that's an absolute no-no.
Who are the guys who spit out their chewing gum into urinals? I see this all the time at work and I work in a high end corporate place. Do they think it disolves and goes down the pipe? The janitor has to pick that out.
The word "no" just means throw a fit and be as obnoxious as you can be until you get your way. "No" does not mean that rules are rules or someone's job might be on the line, they're the important one, not anyone else.
They one-up you *all the time*.
Pfft! Those trophies are weaksauce compared to my collection. Why, did you know I was the 1977 world pickleball champion? All of these new players need to know who’s boss.
I know a few of these types of people, and they tend to have one or more of the following traits:
* They are disrespectful to everyone, not just authority figures. Watch how they treat customer service or retail staff.
* They have no manners in general, or only use manners when they absolutely have to in order to preserve their own interests.
* They are cruel to people and/or animals, and laugh at the suffering of others.
* They are selfish.
* They destroy things, steal, and cheat. Some also commit more serious crime.
* They expect handouts from everyone.
* They shirk hard work and responsibility whenever they can.
* They complain a lot, and constantly act like they are a victim.
* They are terrible parents to their own children.
Treatment of servers, retail workers, etc - that's the key. If they pick on someone that can't fight back, that is beyond a red flag. You are officially a complete b a s t a r d.
They gossip about others and will be vindictive behinds people’s backs, but pretend to be sweet to their face.
Not putting the cart back at the grocery store.
So piling them up on your truck and driving away is cool? TIL
Turning conversation back to themselves at all cost.
Being a good listener is a sign of a person raised well.
Edit: to clarify, I don’t mean quiet or a doormat. I mean generous, empathetic, supportive and curious. Good follow-up questions without making it about oneself, etc.
This one usually doesn't go alone. Such people are also narcissistic and emotionally abusive, extracting validation from humiliating and belittling others. They know everything, they give unsolicited lessons and advice, the world revolves around them. If you lost somebody for example, your grief is nothing as compared to what they had suffered in a similar situation. If you're planning to do something, they've already done it ahead of you. If you wish to visit a place, they've already been there before you. I had such a "friend". Avoid them like plague.
People who don’t offer to help you clean up when they are visiting you.
Like having friends over and them leaving you with all the beer bottles, bowls and glasses on the table. I don’t mind cleaning up, but I always offer when at someone else house. You make the mess together.
I'm never sure if the protocol on this. I would always offer, but it does depend on how well you know people and some people seem genuinely offended if you try to help out, like they want to act as the hosts and treat you like guests.
They don't know how to do normal household stuff. I've seen people that don't even know how to make their own coffee or clean a toilet.
Edit: I only mentioned making coffee as an example. If you don't know how to make coffee because you don't drink it, that's fine.
I don't know how to clean a house very well, because my mother did all of it. Her reasoning.....me, my sister, and my dad won't do it right. It's not like I don't do my best to keep a clean home, but it's not a very good job.
They apologize for every little thing. Probably a sign that they grew up with abusive parents that got mad over anything and everything.
They will never try to defend something they believe using logical reasons.
How be be a good neighbor: never bring up religion or politics when talking with neighbors.
I'm gonna answer this literally.
As a teacher, I see there's a lot of different values that go into parenting styles, some that aren't my values but still raise a productive, responsible, and successful child. But there is evidence of bad parenting from a child development point-of-view.
-Is extra clingy and implies or outright states your their sole custodian for their well-being.
-Is incredibly aggressive about getting their way or being correct all the time.
-Responds to slights or inconveniences violently.
-Is extremely withdrawn and doesn't care for self.
-On the flip side, is very self-sufficient from a very young age and also has anxiety and/or depression.
-Seeks attention constantly. Not just a lot, but *constantly.*
Obviously, the child abuse signs are indicators of not being raise right, and only apply here to actual children, but it never hurts to remind people of them:
-Has suspicious bruising/injuries on body where it's not normal to have injuries (ex. bruised forehead and skinned knees are normal on toddlers, black eyes are not)
-Carefully covers parts of the body that would not normally be covered (Ex. Won't roll up sleeves even a little on hot days which, bonus, is also a sign of self-harm)
-Is inappropriately sexual and/or knowledgable about sexuality for age group
-Is weirdly afraid to be alone with another person. Not just, I dont want to go home because my dad's gonna give me a whuppin for starting a fight at school, but something like finding a lot of excuses to not hang out with an older cousin ever
-Is often dirty, stinky, soiled
-Is often underfed
-Tells you they are being abused
I took this way too seriously, but there you go!
EDIT: People are commenting with personal situations that involve the warning signs of child abuse I mentioned, but aren't child abuse in their case. This is what makes it so hard to detect. Kids are always bruised, stinky, and secretive. What's important is to keep an open mind, and sort of observe a pattern of signs and behaviors. If alarm bells go off, our first impulse is to explain it away, but making an anonymous tip is not as harmful as people believe. In my experience, nothing is even investigated until the reports pile up unless you physically witness the abuse.
EDIT 2: Just to be clear, the first list just means the parents or household should be better to optimally encourage the wellness of a child. The second is of warning signs of abuse.
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No one mentioned the person who never stops talking so you can’t get a word in. Makes you wonder when that talker even breathes.
Could mean a few different things: narcissism or some other ego issue, or someone overcompensating their shyness, someone on the autism spectrum, just to name three. I'm fairly certain you're referring to narcissism most likely though.
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When they're overly judgemental and cling to perceived 'general opinions ' instead of voicing their own opinions as such. And when they belittle your preferences or hobbies as childish and try to talk over you if someone asks you about them to 'explain' them before you can so everyone can see they are childish.
Someone who 'mansplains'. Please, I probably know more about engineering, cars, or livestock than you. So back off. I will ask questions if I want to know something. But don't mansplain to me.
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Some of these are so inconsequential. I would go with greed, ruthlessness, inability to be emotionally present. Just three of many. These are underlying personality defects, not just behaviors that result.
And then you get people raised right, but still doing this kind of thing. You only have to look at their siblings and parents to start wondering what's wrong with them.
Republicans, on the other hand, don't need to do anything. They can p**s people off just by existing.
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Well so far we know you have been raised right when you check grammar rather than content...kids can be raised right if the people raising them act right...it isn't what you say, it's what you do.
No one mentioned the person who never stops talking so you can’t get a word in. Makes you wonder when that talker even breathes.
Could mean a few different things: narcissism or some other ego issue, or someone overcompensating their shyness, someone on the autism spectrum, just to name three. I'm fairly certain you're referring to narcissism most likely though.
Load More Replies... When they're overly judgemental and cling to perceived 'general opinions ' instead of voicing their own opinions as such. And when they belittle your preferences or hobbies as childish and try to talk over you if someone asks you about them to 'explain' them before you can so everyone can see they are childish.
Someone who 'mansplains'. Please, I probably know more about engineering, cars, or livestock than you. So back off. I will ask questions if I want to know something. But don't mansplain to me.
Load More Replies... Some of these are so inconsequential. I would go with greed, ruthlessness, inability to be emotionally present. Just three of many. These are underlying personality defects, not just behaviors that result.
And then you get people raised right, but still doing this kind of thing. You only have to look at their siblings and parents to start wondering what's wrong with them.
Republicans, on the other hand, don't need to do anything. They can p**s people off just by existing.
Load More Replies... Well so far we know you have been raised right when you check grammar rather than content...kids can be raised right if the people raising them act right...it isn't what you say, it's what you do.
