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This Instagram Page Is Dedicated To Memes That Should Probably Be Discussed With A Therapist (50 Pics)
When you’re in that miserable state of mind, sometimes a single meme can put a smile on your face. Luckily, one Austin, Texas-based non-profit community outreach organization is notorious for making hilarious memes out of relatable, often not too bright moments of our lives. So welcome to the safe place to talk about hard things, quoting our beloved Dr. Phil.
Known as “A Safe Place Inside your Head,” this Instagram page is “meeting people where they are at” and making them feel less lonely. It covers anything from mood swings and depression to social anxiety and past trauma, which no one is probably immune to. Today, we selected some of the funniest and, for that matter, most soul-soothing memes because laughter is the best medicine, even if you don’t feel like taking it.
And please know that no matter what you or your loved one is facing right now, you deserve to be connected to help. Browse here to connect to resources and here for a list of suicide hotlines available in your country.
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DUN DUN (she/her) 3 years ago
I'mma have to ask everyone to take this to the top. Rain upvotes! Please. Thank you.
Donkey boi 3 years ago
I'm with you on the first. But making jokes about the racists, sexists and homophobes themselves, helps spread awareness and build strength against it. And lets us all laugh at them.
Queen Metapha 3 years ago
Too bad - that's exactly the problem. There should be no such thing as censoring humour. Laughing about something (in a clever satiric way of course - nobody needs bad jokes, neither about racisms nor puppies...) is the best way to make people think about something !
C.Douglas 3 years ago
I agrer it is good to get people thinking. BUT, who exactly is doing the censoring? In the US, you can make all the jokes you want about any topic you want. However, you are not entitled to be paid for them, you are not entitled to a platform and if you cross a line with the wrong crowd you may get whooped. Bunch of people in US claiming censorship just ain't that funny
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Jenny K Anderson 3 years ago
I hear lots of kids at my daughter’s high school use the word “rape” in a joking context…. Um, gee kiddies, I hope you don’t have to find out the hard way how NOT funny rape is.
DennyS (denzoren) 3 years ago
Some people try to use that to cover up the fact that they aren't funny.
Nadine G 3 years ago
No, most people who are humane and have the s**t screwed on right wont laugh at jokes told at the expense of a rape victim, or victims of racism, homophobia, etc. If you think laughing at those people is funny, I've got bad news for ya..
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Deanna Crichley 3 years ago
How old is Kyle Rittenhouse? There are plenty of violent, racist, misogynistic people in this country under the age of 20. The weren't raised by the 60 year old people. They have been raised by your late 30 and 40 year old people. I am so sick of the boomer bashing.
Huddo's sister 3 years ago
Who said it was boomers. They don't even identify who 'our' generation is- they could be gen x, y, z...
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Raphael Biock 3 years ago
You dont have to laugh and can dislike the joke, but censoring free speech and jokes is the wrong way.
Marlowe Fitzpatrik 3 years ago
Agree, but within limits. Free speech can only go as far as it doesn't impede on the personal safety and freedom of individuals. So if someone would use their free speech and 'jokes' to incite a violence-prepared group into going to someone else's house and set it on fire, that's clearly not what free speech was for.
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TmKhr 3 years ago
In the case of toxic people, family or not, cutting them out of your life really makes a difference.
Ellis Tamura 3 years ago
I am planning to cut off my brother soon. I just feel so GUILTY, even though he's never done anything but hurt me. That and my family has been forcing us to "love" each other since we were kids.
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Steve Riddle 3 years ago
I finally had to cut my passive aggressive 54 year old son out of my life. His mom & and brother did it decades ago.
Mir Adwari 3 years ago
Sorry you had to do that, can't have been easy. We all have our own personalities from a very young age and parents can only have so much influence on that. After all, someone has to give birth to the arseholes of the world! I so dislike the tendency of people seeing children doing good to just say 'there's someone raised right'. It's a lazy assumption to make and they have no way of knowing that's the case. Some children have terrible childhoods and yet are great people. Bound to get the reverse as well unfortunately.
Load More Replies... Donkey boi 3 years ago
You've got 2 families! The one you only have a genetic connection with, and they one you make for yourself! The second one is the most important.
Who the What 3 years ago
I'd compare family to one of your kidneys. It's better to have it with you, but if it starts hurting you...
Clearly sunny 3 years ago
I keep somewhat in contact with those people, but I keep my child away from them almost 99.9% of the time.
Tracy Wallick 3 years ago
Yeah, you only got one family, and mine elected to treat me and my sister like dogshit. F**k em.
#3
Emmydearest 3 years ago
That's why I love the internet. You can ask the stupidest or most inappropriate questions and it's more than likely that : 1- someone has already asked the same question or 2- someone will gladly give you an answer. At the same time there will always be that someone who will bash you for anything you might say or do (too ugly, too pretty, too fat, too skinny, etc).
DUN DUN (she/her) 3 years ago
YESSSSS!!!!!!!!! Love Reddit for that reason too!!
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DennyS (denzoren) 3 years ago
This is similar to why I've quickly grown to really like BP. Sure you have some trolls but in general everyone is very helpful and understanding. It's like a place where my people exist.
Hseed 3 years ago
BP is a really nice platform with really nice people. There's always a troll or two, but mostly normal people that struggles with normal things in life. Hugs to everyone of you, mates!!!
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Cee Mor 3 years ago
I avoided hot school lunch my entire life because I tried once in first grade and did it wrong. The lunch lady said to me 'don't you even know how to order lunch' . I was mortified and never did it again until collage.
Ryan Edwards 3 years ago
Yup, same here. Was always a lunchbox kid. Don't recall the reason, but in 2nd grade, I had to buy lunch one day and had no idea what I was doing, it was loud, it was chaotic, the servers were (in my scared kind) intimidating. When I got to the register lady, i had only a chocolate milk carton on my tray and tears welling up in my eyes. The register lady "saw me" and asked me something like "are you ok, son? You need more than that for lunch". Then proceeded to ask me if I liked grilled cheese or goulash, corn or carrots, etc ... and got me a full lunch. Lovely woman, but, I did not buy school lunch again until 10th grade.
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Dog Fanatic 3 years ago
This made me feel good. I hate it when I'm made fun of for my anxiety and depression. I. CAN'T. CHANGE. IT. If I could, I would've never even struggled through everything and grown from the experience. I'm doing much better with my therapy and meds. Please don't be rude and judgmental when you have no idea what the person you are bullying is going through.
Corey Adams 3 years ago
actually come to think of it how do you order at subway its all quite convoluted, no shame to this guy
IDK_Something 3 years ago
I've found the app to be the absolute best in helping to order at Subway. There is every available option you can customize for that location, in a user-friendly interface. Bonus for not stumbling over words in face to face interactions! However... 1) State what kind of sandwich style you want 2) Choose your bread and length 3) Type of cheese 4) Toasted or not 5) Choose available toppings they have on display *be careful, some like avocado, will cost extra!* 6) Condiment(s) of choice including salt and/or pepper 7) Enjoy!
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Anne Edwards 3 years ago
It seems like such a simple thing until you are at the front of the line. They no longer have your long time favourite and your second choice has changed. Now you can't remember which bread they have or which one you hated. They asked you something but they mumbled, perhaps on purpose. You just choose something, anything and it's really awful. You know you won't ever go back.
Louise B 3 years ago
I can relate to this so much. I recently bought my first subway, at 46 years old. I was crushed! I felt like such a fool because I didn't understand the whole complex process of ordering a sandwich. Every question I asked was met with an eye roll and a loud exasperated tut. Obviously I'm getting old. It's Gen X's version of Logan's run (Oh No! That's a really old reference!)
Erica Cochrane 3 years ago
i work in a coffee shop, and often see people who have never been there before, who are intimidated by the choices. so i will always offer to help them, say i'll explain anything they aren't sure about, but also, if they need space to decide, i will give them that space, instead of hovering over them (i'll finish an order for someone else, put some dishes away etc), because there is nothing worse than being in a stressful situation and having someone hovering over you demanding you make a decision asap.
LaToya Mack 3 years ago
I don’t know what’s going on but all of these posts are pulling at my heart strings and I like it.
To find out more about the internet’s beloved project A Safe Place Inside your Head, which currently has 773k followers on Instagram, we reached out to the creators behind it. We spoke with Tanner Hamilton, the CEO at A Safe Place Inside Your Head, who said that he and his mom Joanne “created this non profit in honor of my brother who passed away from suicide.”
Hamilton added that “We wanted to raise awareness around his death and for his memory to live on through helping others.” He is the original founder of the non-profit and brought Joanne into the project later on.
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Nathaniel 3 years ago
This. i am fed up of people who have never suffered from depression but declare suicides as cowards.
Jenny K Anderson 3 years ago
Because really, it takes GUTS to actually end one’s own life by one’s own hands…. however, it is not an act to be glorified, denounced, or judged. Their pain is too much.
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Grace Barclay 3 years ago
I'm suicide survivor. I took an entire month's sleeping tablets. I WhatsApped my sister to say goodbye. After that I remember only that my year old cat was sitting on my chest, purring. I believe that she, more than doctors and therapists, saved my life. I am in a good place now, coping with very good anti-deppression and bi-polar meds. My cat Iris sleeps every night next to to my head,
Gigi 3 years ago
I'm so glad. For your being here, for your cat.. and for all the meds!!!! (They keep me here, too)
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Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago
The thing is generally people who attempt/commit suicide believe they are doing it to protect others from us hurting them or being a burden. We believe the world is better off without us. So in a sense our depression makes us think we are selfish for living.
Serial pacifist 3 years ago
Foxxy I honestly and sincerely hope you don't mean it in the first person as you wrote it, at least not in the present tense. If it means anything to you, I, a stranger, love reading your comments and it makes my every morning at least a bit more colorful. Let us be selfish for wanting you to stick around for us.
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Katie Lutesinger 3 years ago
Can report that when I was in the depths of the worst depression I've ever suffered, I thought my existence was so worthless that no-one would miss me anyway. I never actually considered suicide, but I didn't think it would be much of a big deal if I died. I think it's called passive suicidal ideation or something like that.
Agnes Jekyll 3 years ago
At my friend's funeral, the priest said he was a victim of suicide--he spoke for a long time about mental health and how suicide happens. He also was very careful to say that suicide is not about cowardice
Ellie Rosser 3 years ago
If death from liver/kidney/breast/prostate/heart/lung etc disease isn't selfish then why the f**k should death from mental disease be??
Raven DeathShade 3 years ago (edited)
The thing I hate most in this world is when entitled young kids, or reqlly anyone at all, says things like "I would kill myself if such and such happened". "I would kill myself if you don't let me do such and such." No, you wouldn't. Because it takes so much suffering, so much hurt, to consider that. Not because Mummy got you an iPhone 12 instead of a 13. Whenever I see or hear anyone saying things like that, it just takes me back to a 16 year old girl, crying alone in her room at 3 in the morning because her suffering was too much to bear, trying to hide her pain from everyone around her because she knew that it would hurt them. It brings to mind how I had to maintain this facade, this image of being happy because I knew my mother would blame herself. I remember going to bed every night, wishing to not wake up the next day, but knowing that it would just make it worse for everyone else. I remember a time when I couldn't look at the kitchen knives without mapping out places in a human body that were most vulnerable. You do not understand suffering if what you think is the worst thing in the world is that you got something slightly different than what you wanted.
Meme Kitty 3 years ago
I agree with you on this suicide is not something you say you'll do if you don't get your way, people who are suicidal feel the only way to relieve the pain, the only way to let go of their problems is to take their own life i had been in those shoes, and i ended up in an inpatient unit for a week and afterwards i decided to take some day treatment originally because i was told that i would be there for only a few weeks and to skip a week long trip to camp Oakley in Utah, but i am glad those were in my head when i decided to take day treatment because i had TONS of support and i was there for 3 months but i started to gain skills for when i fell down. Suicide can be caused by thousands of things and one of my sisters old friends back at the east coast had Actually committed suicide and we have no idea why i also had a nightmare about my sister committing suicide once and i decided to talk to her about it. suicide is an extremely heavy topic that can shake up even the brightest.
Load More Replies... DennyS (denzoren) 3 years ago
I think many people still see depression as some sort of "emo" phase and not a serious condition. Being there but not actually being present. Wanting and waiting for the day to end so you can try to find some solace in sleep. Smiling with others but feeling no joy, only dread. It truly is unbearable.
Francis 3 years ago
as someone who thought more than once to end my own life, i think there are cowardly/bad ways to end it. Like jumping in front of a train/lieing on the tracks. it's quite easy, just one step, just lie down. but it is horrible for the train driver and bystander (i once witnessed a man who made the last step.) but suicide as act itself is not selfish!
Donkey boi 3 years ago
I can't even comprehend the idea of suicide. It's such an alien concept to me, I can't even begin to understand it. I'm the complete opposite end of the scale. My sociopathic tendencies lead me to believe that the world would be much worse off without me. I've never seen suicide as something selfish or cowardly, in my mind it must take great courage to do something like that. But I do see it as a waste, you never know what someone will become or the impact they have one other peoples lives. If they are unable to see how much (even if it's just one person) they are needed, perhaps we should make it our duty to show it more.
Raven DeathShade 3 years ago
I agree, at least mostly. Idk about your sociopathic tendencies XD.
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Katie Lutesinger 3 years ago
Going through hard times definitely didn't make me stronger. It made me sadder and a lot more fragile and took away a lot of my faith in things.
J. F. 3 years ago
Being f***ed up by other people my whole life didn't make me stronger - it just made me not trusting anyone and learning different skills to look out for myself
Littlemiss 3 years ago
A-f*****g-men! I learned that everyone I trusted I wasn't worth it. I was a p**n in their games to be played with at will and discarded unless of use.
Load More Replies... Nadine G 3 years ago
Going through trauma taught me a lot. About myself, my boundaries and limits. About what I expect from others and myself. That's how trauma made me stronger, because I decided to take the lessons from it. None of it was easy, and it still isnt. I still fight my past and hate myself a lot. But I also choose to learn and grow from it. THAT is the difference.
Coffee_nut45? 3 years ago
I'm tired of people telling me I'm strong. I'm not strong, I just put on my armour at the beginning of each day and make sure that my mask is firmly in place. No sees me when I get home, take it off and cry myself to sleep.
Lola 3 years ago
I don’t know if this is any comfort to you, but a lot of us do the same. Sometimes putting on survival mode, is the only way to cope.
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Luther von Wolfen 3 years ago
The only possible benefit is that you are able to understand, relate to and help other people who have gone through similar things.
Hseed 3 years ago
True! What doesn't kill you doesn't make you stronger. It always kills pieces inside. It's because of you that you overcome f..Ed up situations in life. Kudos to the people that suffered and learned how to live a happy life, and lots of hugs to the people who struggle. Surround your lives with nice things and nice people, life is deserved to be lived.
Sasquatch The Almighty 3 years ago
Surviving trauma doesn't make you stronger, but it sure can give you the perspective to see how strong you really are.
lazy panda 3 years ago
If I hear "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" one more time, I will flip my lid.
Laura Mende (Human) 3 years ago
Thank you! 😭 These are the things one should hear everyday but never happens. Thank you very much!
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Laura Mende (Human) 3 years ago
I had severe trust issues about people my age while growing up. Been bullied for years. Even today, years after it stopped (i changed schools at age 14, so now ten years later) it's like I'm still waiting for people to hurt, beat and harras me. But it don't happen and that's good. But the people who did this to me will never know how deep they have frighten me.
Carrie Laughs 3 years ago
I feel for you. These people don't deserve to have had such a profound affect on you, yet it's what happens. Those of us who have been bullied know and understand.
Load More Replies... Huddo's sister 3 years ago
Or they say 'I did this because you...' Justification rather than remorse
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Raven DeathShade 3 years ago (edited)
I wish I could send this to my parents, but I don't need the whole "we're trying so hard to change, stop comparing us to the past " conversation right now.
Mir Adwari 3 years ago
If they are genuinely trying to change, great but please bear this in mind; trying is not doing. Trying contains a built-in excuse that allows failure. 'I tried' makes it sound okay because it implies some kind of effort that might not truly exist. I hope it's not the case but forewarned is forearmed. It is always better to brace for the worse, even while hoping for the best.
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Fred Burrows 3 years ago
Years later they have successfully convinced themselves of an alternate reality. Even if you were there and saw what they did they will act hurt and offended that you made up such a thing. Even when you show them the scar.
When asked how the creator of A Safe Place Inside Your Head would best describe the audience who follows their page, Tanner said: “it is a group of like-minded people who want a community where they do not feel alone in their thoughts. We talk about the ugly side of mental health in a relatable way.”
The success of A Safe Place Inside Your Head has to do with relatable memes that hit close to home for many people browsing online. “We make some, we get some from the internet and meme publishers who want to support the cause,” Tanner said when asked how they select content to share on the page, “It is a group effort,” he added.
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readingthequibbler 3 years ago
Always know you have this option. I've done it before and honestly its the best thing you can do at the time.
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TrickQuestion 3 years ago
X here and way to polite to leave when i want to. Please younger gens, do it. DO IT. Your mental health is more important than being rude. Just be rude to the right people.
Mer☕️🧭☕️ 3 years ago
Yup, I was raised to be "polite" and never felt I had permission to leave or to do something about the problem, but the day I realized that I'm not being paid to accept disrespect/abuse/etc was the day I knew my time (and self) was worth more than that. Leaving is ok.
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Leslie Crittenden 3 years ago
Never worry about making a scene. Other people will think what they want anyway, so you might as well do what you need to for your own peace, safety and happiness. Screw all those people who judge.
Samuel Pelatan 3 years ago
I'd love to be able to leave in the middle of the doctor appointment, but my life depend on their signature on a paper, and they know it
AliJanx 3 years ago
Hayes, that's true - but you can either switch docs or get a 2nd opinion...,
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Monday 3 years ago
Eh...I'm paying for the doctor though so I'm gonna try and get my money's worth even if they're an a*****e.
Bender Bending Rodríguez 3 years ago
I think this tweet is for when you suspect of sexual abuse. Leave, don't wait to find out.
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Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago (edited)
I will admit that when my depression was at its lowest (besides suicide attempt). I didn't brush my teeth, brush my hair or showered in over 2 weeks. It was all just too hard.
NsG 3 years ago
Brushing my teeth is sometimes the only thing I'm capable of doing. I've been in the same PJs for three days and I'm out of clean plates, but my teeth are clean. And that feels like an achievement.
Dog Fanatic 3 years ago
I didn't shower, hardly ate, didn't brush my teeth, cried myself to sleep, shut out my family and friends, did work in robot mode, almost didn't make it. The only reason I'm still here is my mom finally convincing me to break down and tell her. Depression is serious. There are some ignorant idiots in the world who don't go through it and automatically assume depressed people are retards or something. LEAVE US ALONE. It's hard enough to make it through each day, but at the end, you are strong and brave to have made it through.
Coffee_nut45? 3 years ago
My teeth got so bad I now wear dentures. The dentist was very understanding. He didn't lecture me about it. He just asked how he could help.
Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago
What a great dentist. I too told my dentist about my dental hygiene struggles from my depression and whilst he didn't ask how he could help, he wasn't judgemental and just had a lovely bedside manner.
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KiwiBubbles 3 years ago
Hygiene was one of the hardest things for me when my depression was really bad, and even now it's still hard. Getting the motivation and/or energy to do things like shower, brush my teeth, comb my hair, basically take care of myself was so difficult when I believed everything would be miserable forever and I hated myself.
Lawrence Thatcher 3 years ago
Letting some things slide when life is already overwhelming is OK. If worrying about brushing my teeth (yes, worrying. anxiety is weird, okay?) means that I have less mental energy to take care of my family, then I am perfectly fine with my teeth being my future-self's problem (presumably also a future self that has dental insurance)
LaToya Mack 3 years ago
The first thing that goes is self-care…. Having had a lifetime of coping with depression I can tell you it makeS me really appreciate godliness and cleanliness. And just how disgusting the human body is without regular two times a day care. We are pretty disgusting meat suits…
#9
DennyS (denzoren) 3 years ago
Why does his expression match that statement perfectly. Lol. Good on you eagle.
YHZ 3 years ago
Why does the statement match his expression perfectly? Because the writer saw the picture and then wrote the statement.
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Sasquatch The Almighty 3 years ago
I have recently started doing this, exactly this, and to my bewilderment and joy I'm actually starting to enjoy it. Exercise can't cure depression, but it sure can help with treating it.
Marlowe Fitzpatrik 3 years ago
My friend was tasked by her therapist with daily "exercise", which is basically going for a longer walk. She said, too, that it really helps her. I know a lot of people get upset when people say depressed people need to go out more and I get it. But being outside DOES help. Especially if you go into nature. It is a proven fact that it helps the mood and lowers stress-levels so it's not *just* said out of ignorance but also out of the genuine desire to at least somehow help a little bit. It probably isn't as helpful to the depressed person right at the moment, but that doesn't mean it's not at least sometimes meant to be helpful.
Load More Replies... LaToya Mack 3 years ago
Walking is magical… therapist should be required by law to recommend daily walking before any drugs are even considered. Don’t be an overachiever and get a pet…. BuhBYE long term ruts - hello bright side😎 🐶 🐱 🐎
Davo gifman 3 years ago
Ya kinda see it in the eyes...an the slumped head...oh yeah an in the gait too. I believe that's me as a eagle.
Huddo's sister 3 years ago
I wish the anxiety didn't stop me from going for a walk around the block even. I need the exercise for my fibromyalgia as well as mental health but my anxiety makes me feel paranoid about what people might think when I go walking 'without a purpose'/task attached. I have done it a couple of times if I've woken up really early but just don't feel comfortable doing it in the middle of the day.
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Mere Cat 3 years ago
Yes! As a person with ADD, I feel this on a personal level. There is also a part about being an introvert - I like being around people and get excited, until I get drained out of energy and just want to crawl in a deep hole to be by myself and rest...
Load More Replies... Nadine G 3 years ago
Please dont try and diagnose (oh! That sounds like bipolar/mania/etc). We all have access to the internet and DSM5, but only some have taken the time to go through university and gotten degrees. This is 1 symptom that fits literally a LIST of possible issues.
madbakes 3 years ago
THANK YOU. only a professional who has met the patient can diagnose.
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Pungent Sauce 3 years ago
I remember mom picking me up early from school in 4th grade to go see the 1st Star Trek movie. Still one of the best school memories, ever.
RafCo 3 years ago
My dad told me, no school today, we're going to the beach. Handed me the map, and had me navigate. I barely remember the beach, but the trip is one of my best memories.
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Debb 3 years ago
There might be more going on here than the need for a break. Parent needs to investigate any problems at school, e.g., bullying or learning issues.
BWC 3 years ago
Exactly my first thought. After the bullying began around 5th grade, the morning dread was terrible. I developed an eating disorder. Decades later when finally telling my parents about it they were stunning as to why I didn't say anything. The answer? Because I was ashamed. I felt I was supposed to be strong, not cry or complain, be a man and deal with things.
Load More Replies... Tracy 3 years ago
I'm so glad the parent recognizes that mental health days are important. A lot of people don't.
Nela Rothenbach 3 years ago (edited)
Just the other day I told my friend that it's ok for her daughter to have a "tummy ache" and stay home and watch Harry Potter for one day. Hell, I'm a teacher and some days I wish I could just tell my head master my tummy aches and I'm staying at home 😂
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Rick Seiden 3 years ago
My mom always let us have one or two mental health days a quarter. All we had to do was say we needed a mental health day, and no questions asked, she'd call us in and write the note the next day.
Lola 3 years ago
As a teacher I always encourage parents to take their kids on day trips here and there without feeling guilty for having to miss school. We encourage adults to take mental health days, but never the kids. We all need it once in a while. Some experiences are simply irreplaceable.
Teresa Stabler 3 years ago
I did a research paper for a psych class I had. I interviewed a young boy (I think under 10yo) because he had thought about suicide. Thankfully his mom was able to intervene before it was too late.
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Chris O'Keeffe 3 years ago
How does teaching a kid to cope by isolating and stuffing themselves full of fatty, sugary food help prepare them for anything but a life of social anxiety, depression and obesity? These exact behaviors are typically red flags.....
Littlebunnyfufu 3 years ago
For all the problems Oregon has in their educational system, Oregon still managed to pass a law in 2019 that allows for k-12 students to take mental health days as an excused absence. If you take more than 5 per quarter (3 month period) it then takes a drs. note. That feels like a good balance between educational needs and mental health needs with options for more time if it's needed.
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DennyS (denzoren) 3 years ago
I wish social anxiety was an excuse. It has ruined so much of my life.
Ellis Tamura 3 years ago
I'm constantly terrified about talking TO PEOPLE I HAVE BEEN FRIENDS WITH FOR MY WHOLE LIFE! I can't knock on doors without having a panic attack. I hate social anxiety.
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Raven DeathShade 3 years ago
You hid in the fricking walls for 10 years because you were trying to protect your niece, Bruno. You couldn't say anything without being attacked in some way because people were afraid of you. No s**t. (Username aside, I know how you feel.)
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Black Pearl 🇺🇦 3 years ago (edited)
Social anxiety can actually be crippling. I can't talk to new people. Literally. 9 out of 10 times the words will get stuck in my throat and I can't speak. I'm self conscious about making noises in a quiet environment. I always worry about what I wear and how my hair looks because I feel like people will laugh if I look bad. It's completely destroyed my mental health and I don't know if I will ever be able to fully bounce back.
Leslie Crittenden 3 years ago
For what it's worth, here is someone who loves you. Just the way you are, without even knowing you, I love you. I'd hug you if I could. I wish you joy, peace and happiness, now and always.
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Sheila Stamey 3 years ago
Being afraid to eat in public because you are chonky and people are looking at you so you have to have such good manners, and while eating pizza with a knife and fork, you drio it down the from of your white shirt. I'm 54. I've learned better, and blue feel much better about it, but it still bugs me.
Lawrence Thatcher 3 years ago
Sometimes it helps me to feel less self-conscious by having a sarcastic comment prepared for people offering up their unsolicited opinions. My personal favorite: "fun fact - people who comment on others' eating habits are less likely to die of natural causes"
Load More Replies... Ellie Rosser 3 years ago
The fact that you think we NEED an excuse to avoid being out and about with dickwads like you is actually pretty damn near the CAUSE of the problem Jim.
Dana Ondráčková 3 years ago
I sometimes get such anxiety I hear laughter of my coworkers And I Want to explode in rage fit to stop them because I think they discuss me And it feels u fair but deep down There is my sober adult self holding the chain of my emotions And desperatelly trying to hold it down because it knows its Just in my brain, its nothing to be stressed about, I am awesome and it Will pass And mosty I Will make fool of myself And feel Shame if I blew out for nothing
Leslie Burleson 3 years ago
My life got a lot easier when I realized making mistakes is ok. Making goofy mistakes that are obvious to most people is sort of my thing. I embrace it because I know I'm not stupid , I just know my brain works differently and I will make mistakes. I just laugh it off and chalk it up to nothing . I am who I am , and I'm ok with that.
Vision Jinx 3 years ago
I needed to hear this! Thank you! Going through this right now.
Load More Replies... Erica Cochrane 3 years ago
i have a customer at work that wont let anyone but me serve him (my coworkers are lovely people) because he's known me for years, and i know exactly how to treat him. he needs extra time to tell you his order, he cannot be rushed, otherwise he freaks out and walks away. you need to give him his own time and space. i'm sure my coworkers would do great with him, but he knows me, so i think it's just easier for him to wait for me to serve him
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DennyS (denzoren) 3 years ago (edited)
Believe in me? I know better than to make that mistake.
Riley Quinn 3 years ago
I may not be all that self-confident, but I know exactly who's at fault. And, it ain't me. Every single adult, from relatives to teachers to priests, who knew I was being abused and didn't do a damn thing to intervene are at fault.
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Partsqueen 3 years ago
Wow. This hit me hard. I've always had problems with anxiety, but I didn't realize that's why I do this.
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Scagsy 3 years ago
I have 7-8 movies from the eighties that I watch over and over. And now I know why. Thanks BP.
Corey Adams 3 years ago (edited)
I love rewatching tv shows because I know what will happen, you sort of feel nervous and uncomfortable watching a show for the first time (edit: just realised this was a bit misleading, I do not struggle with anxiety I just like rewatching tv)
Leslie Crittenden 3 years ago (edited)
This is also why toddlers need the same rituals repeated every night at bed time or at meal time. It helps them (and us) feel safer in a world that looks pretty scary from their point of view.
Wendy Melissa 3 years ago
This explains why I continually watch Friends all 10 seasons and can never find anything else on TV or all my subscription platforms.
Faster, Pussycat! Kill! Kill! 3 years ago
Andy Griffith reruns. Only the black and white ones.
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Mohsie Supposie 3 years ago (edited)
"You need to work harder". "You need to give up on the lattes". "You need to .............."
Katie Lutesinger 3 years ago
"Millennials can't afford housing because they eat smashed avocado on toast!"
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KAREN 3 years ago
Money can't buy happiness but it can buy me a house and a sense of security😵😍
Lightningstar 3 years ago
wrong. money can buy pets. as such money can buy happiness
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DennyS (denzoren) 3 years ago
I just want enough money so I can concentrate on the things that make me happy. That's all.
Hseed 3 years ago
The key to everything in life is balance. Enough money to provide safety, food and little pleasures. But it has to balance with time, and love and health. You don't need a lot of money if you earned it with endless shifts, or stress, or unhealthy jobs. You don't need money if you don't have time to enjoy it. Balance, my friends. That's all.
Soggy Crumpet 3 years ago
I agree with this. Money doesn’t buy happiness but it can provide comforts. Having money can also create other problems and issues in one’s life as well, particularly in relationships with people. Balance is key.
Load More Replies... Rick Seiden 3 years ago
Money can't buy happiness, but it can get rid of a lot of s**t that's in the way of your happiness!
Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago (edited)
100% this. I want enough money to be comfortable. I'm a simple kinda gal so I don't need/want a life of luxury.
Leslie Crittenden 3 years ago (edited)
Maybe money doesn't buy happiness but if I had it I could afford better medical care that would improve my quality of life and prolong my life. That's more valuable than happiness in my opinion.
Cydney Golden 3 years ago
Again, let's not generalize. Not fair to attribute selfishness to all boomers.
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Queen Shay 3 years ago
Why this make me cry. Why are you tired, you work from home you don’t do anything? Trying to explain to someone how much effort it takes to get out of bed in the morning, to log on to work, to pay bills when I feel like I’m drowning is exhausting to know I have to work because I have bills and have bills because I have to have a place to live and have to have a place to live or I’d be homeless. It feels like it’s a never ending cycle of trying to stay afloat. I’m fighting everyday and my opponent is my own emotions and brain. How can I beat myself?
My O My 3 years ago
I don't know. But I'm sending you energy to survive a little longer
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Leslie Crittenden 3 years ago
This honestly made me cry. Thank you for posting this. I have lived with those labels for so long and you just eased the burden. Thank you so much 💜
Riley Quinn 3 years ago
This is painfully true. Living your life in survival mode is holistic exhaustion - body, mind, and psyche. Have to admit, being holed up during the pandemic actually gave me a boost. It'll pass as soon as normalcy returns.
Nova Smith 3 years ago
Seeing these comments make me wonder... Was I the only one who got worse during the lockdowns?
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Black Pearl 🇺🇦 3 years ago (edited)
I needed people who actually cared about me and wouldn't ditch me on the playground for someone else and leave me alone without any friends for the rest of the year at the drop of a hat
Ellis Tamura 3 years ago
I needed someone who could protect me, not make me tough.
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Luther von Wolfen 3 years ago
People told me that picking up the baby as soon as she cried would make her feel dependent and I was "She can't lift her own head, Mom, she *is* dependent."
STAND WITH UKRAINE 3 years ago
Im crying reading this over and over again, it's so true- anyone reading my comment, I'm here with you and I understand, I've been through it
Suz66 3 years ago
Me too. Dad was 6'2" and I was 4, I was too young to be "strong" and all it gave me was PTSD, not strength.
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Mary Jeffries 3 years ago
I consider it my primary job as a mother to provide my young kids with a loving and safe home. Physically and emotionally with natural consequences the help them gain competence as they grow. I want to help them instill a deep sense of personal worth as children that will carry them through adulthood.
Mattewis88 3 years ago
My parents were great, I just ended up in some really awful situations (with/without) my parents. My childhood was one shitshow after the other but TBH I can 100% say it prepared me for what I was about to face as an adult. Because if you're in your early 20's and you think life is hard...trust me, you've only felt the tip.
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Hobby Hopper 3 years ago
I sometimes wonder if depression is sometimes not even obvious to the sufferer. Like, maybe they don't even think they're suffering from the condition or realize how bad they feel, but the symptoms are there. Maybe they just eat a lot of fast food because they can never be bothered to make meals, or they watch a lot of TV because doing anything else takes too much mental energy. Dishes pile up, relationships crumble, etc. If any mental health experts are reading this, is this a thing, this sneaky, low key form of depression?
Sam J 3 years ago
Definitely have those issues and I tend to skip meals because it's too much work to go down and make something. I'm also starting to lose motivation to do well in school, pretty much I'm just scared of failing but I've got a late assignment and I can't make myself do it. I really think I should go to the doctor to get diagnosed because this sucks.
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Vision Jinx 3 years ago (edited)
In my experience it has always been the seemingly happiness people that tend to suffer the most. Depression sufferer myself.
Alan Jay Weiner 3 years ago
Depressed people look like Robin Williams. The same brilliant, creative comic who made us laugh, was so depressed he killed himself.
Shelley 3 years ago
He was also diagnosed with a form of dementia and he didn't want to stick around for his eventual loss of memory. Lewy Body dementia.
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T. D. Bostick 3 years ago
So what I gleaned from this is that Michael Scott is really depressed.
Rose Button 🇺🇦 3 years ago
Yes. People are always saying it's in my head. Yes, it is. But only because I want to at least fake being happy. I don't want to be sad guys, this is the best I can do.
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Jaekry 3 years ago
I but I do. I'm a pleaser at my own costs. Then when I have to guts to finally say no, they tend to overrule me, and I give in. It's gutting me. I said no.
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Fried Mermaid 3 years ago
I finally understood this just a couple of months ago. Finally met in person a coworker who I made good friends with, he gave me the biggest hug and once we let go, he saw my face and asked if I didn't like to be hugged. I said no, I don't like to be touched unless a select group of people, but said that it was ok if he wanted to hug me. He said no, he said he'll never do it again, because although he cares a lot about me to want to hug me, he cares more about how I feel. And I'll never forget that moment
Claire Stanfield 3 years ago
Be very wary of people who override your boundaries. If someone says they don't like a food, a film, an activity, they don't like it. They're not asking to be talked into it, or ridiculed for their tastes.
VeninTheNonBinaryRogue 3 years ago
I typically don’t like being touched. I have a friend, she’s very close, but she’s also incredibly touchy. And most of the time I’m ok wiht it, but a few days ago I was very overwhelmed. We were at her moms school for a competition, and there was hundreds of people, I was overwhelmed, it was way to loud, I felt uncomfortable with what i was wearing etc, so I asked her to please not touch me. And she was just oh so your in that part of your life again in a sarcastic ish voice. Like just respect my boundaries pls and don’t do that :/
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DennyS (denzoren) 3 years ago (edited)
This post is about me and I accept it....it's true. P.S. I'm not a doctor, my parents are still disappointed.
Catmomma 3 years ago
Exactly same as me. Sometimes even i am disappointed in me
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katrina hunt 3 years ago
I think that's why the "new thing" I'd to tell kids they worked hard to achieve this or that vs they're 'so smart' so that they continue to work hard and don't just accept they're gifted and move on, but 🤷
Kate Jones 3 years ago
I agree. I was the kid who was always so 'smart' even though I really wasn't. I was just smarter than the kids in my grade level. School was easy for me but I didn't enjoy it. I was very bored. And instead of encouraging me to do other things or realizing I was very depressed (no friends, no activities, no relationships, gaining weight, drug addict in my house and dealing with crazy family stuff...), I was just 'smart' and they didn't have to 'worry' about me. But it made me lazy and I always just thought they were right and then I graduated top of my class but had no real world skills. It was such a struggle- and still is sometimes- to get myself out of that 'if its not easy I don't want to do it' kind of mindset.
Load More Replies... IzaCoder 3 years ago
Yeahhh I'm a 13yo "gifted" person (senior in HS) and well I'm screwed. The worst part is, my mom says I put all of the pressure on *myself*, and that she really doesn't care whether I get an A or a B as long as I understand it, but I can't stop :(
Carrie de Luka 3 years ago
You probably just don't know how to stop pressuring yourself. Maybe see if you could get some help with that? There are ways, tricks and techniques. It's finding what will work for you. It takes time but it's worth it. Good luck.
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SlothyK8 3 years ago
All of this. I grapple with this every day. Impostor syndrome. An inability to find joy in anything that doesn't meet my ridiculous standards. Terror of starting something for fear it won't be "good enough". I'm supposed to be so damned smart and I constantly feel so damned stupid.
Ephemeral Mochi 3 years ago
I'm an "academically gifted" 13 yo and I've already become the first option
IzaCoder 3 years ago
same. hopefully we can do not too bad (I'm not even going for good anymore lol)
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Dana Ondráčková 3 years ago
Gifted but heavily bullied, I am talking small steps to form myself to be a "normal" functional human but I still get those "I am such a shiz without any need to exist"
Teresa Taylor 3 years ago
YES. This is so freaking true!! I'm not a doctor, BTW. I am soooooo not a doctor.
this violent end (she/her) 3 years ago
was told (and am still told) that i was academically gifted. I’m already no. 1 in freshmen year.
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DennyS (denzoren) 3 years ago
I felt this to my very core. Not to mention the loss of sleep over the associate anxiety.
Elin Noller 3 years ago
BECAUSE! What if you get too distracted by what ever else you start doing and miss the appointment?
Monday 3 years ago
Exactly! There's only 7 and a half hours. That means in half an hour there will only be 7 hours and then half an hour later there will only be 6 and a half. I can't possibly do anything else in that time!
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Teresa Taylor 3 years ago
For the same reason mine interprets "get a good night's sleep so you are well rested" as watching the clock all night to see what time it is and how much longer I'm able to sleep before I have to tackle that thing I need to be well tested to accomplish...
Kate Jones 3 years ago
Lol I'm the same way. I can do nothing else that day if I have an appointment at 4pm.
S 3 years ago
Like when people ask me "what are you doing after work?" My reply is, "Well the day has already started so... nothing. You can ask me about tomorrow or any other future dates but today's window of opportunity is closed." I don't do same day plans. I'll cry. Trust me, I hate it too.
Nadine G 3 years ago
Executive disfunction isnt a disorder, it's a symptom of a few disorders.
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Sue Lynn Chan 3 years ago
Sometimes I question myself if I’m a toxic person. I may hurt others without realizing it. I really want to change to be a better person
Suz66 3 years ago
So true. When I first got sober (10 years now,) I was so vulnerable because I didn't have confidence and social skills. People took advantage of me and used me for everything. As I got healthier (due to recovery and spending time with people who built me up,) I now spot those people a mile away. When someone asks for something, I analyze if I would ask another person for that, or if that person would do the same for me. If yes, I would do it. Only people I trust can be in my life now.
Catie Marie 3 years ago
Ok but...isn't "letting them stay/f**k with you" just another way of saying you're broken bc you let this person stay in your life?
Suz66 3 years ago
That's why the therapist says leaving them in your life requires therapy to find out why.
Load More Replies... Dana Ondráčková 3 years ago
Me And my family are the exact opposites to broken. I say we are the mental glue, we calm people, they like to hrál on us, but it také toll on us too. And thats how I learned a out manipulators the Hard way
Riley Quinn 3 years ago
I still remember the day my therapist realized the abuse I suffered as a child was deeper than she surmised. It was the time she said I was addicted to chaos because it was so familiar.
EJN 3 years ago
Predators (animals and people) will go after the weak, troubled, or injured. Because we aren't animals in the wild, we can choose to push those predators out of our life if we can recognize them. First, just decide that you don't want to be anyone's prey and learn how to recognize the predators.
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Kimi Tomminello 3 years ago
One time when I was at my lowest I was driving around and contemplating where to park and potentially take my own life. An older gentleman was walking down the back road I was on with his wife and he turned and smiled at me with the most genuine smile I'd seen. His wife turned and did the same and they both waved. That couple saved my life by just showing me a moment of genuine humanity by smiling. Guilt was what drove me to want to die. This post made me remember this.
Kristin Ingersoll 3 years ago
I'm glad that couple was there for you. Amazing to think they don't even know. They were just being themselves. We never know how little moments of kindness might affect others. I'm glad you're still here, Kimi. I'm glad I'm still here too. I hope we're both able to remember how it feels to be up, when we're down. <3
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Rick Seiden 3 years ago
In my teenage years I thought a lot about suicide. The only reason I didn't do it was because I didn't want to make my parents bury their child.
Devil's Advocate 3 years ago
I don't like this message, because for many it's just not true. When you're THAT depressed, you don't care about staying alive or you, because you mean nothing to yourself, but the thought of upsetting others can be a huge slamming of the brakes. Not to say that's always the case either, you have to treat people as individuals and stop looking for a "solve-all" answer
Clare E 3 years ago
I'm suicide prevention trained and this is the first thing they teach you - do not guilt trip someone suicidal or ask them to imagine how their suicide will make other people feel. They are overwhelmed already and it is the wrong thing to do. It can push people further over the edge. So this message is correct.
Load More Replies... KiwiBubbles 3 years ago
Staying alive only for others isn't sustainable. That was what kept me here for so long, that was the only thing. Because my dearest wish for myself was to be gone, but I couldn't do that to my family. But it came to a point where I got so close to not being able to handle it, I was so close to making an attempt anyway. When you're feeling that much pain you can only bear it for so long and you need to get help, you can't live without hope that life will get better. Hope that I will have a happy life is the biggest, most important difference between before and after I got medication.
Himiko 3 years ago
I hate people who think people who commit suicide are going to hell ( or whatever punishment place they believe they in). People who are depressed or suicidal are just angels that are tired of their life on earth and most likely it's not their fault anyways.
Raven DeathShade 3 years ago (edited)
Just pointing out here that the main reason anyone believes that is because suicide, even if it's the murder of yourself, is still murder. And since you're dead, you can't seek forgiveness for it. Source: both the Catechism of the Catholic Church and someone who spent a lot of time thinking about it.
Load More Replies... Coffee_nut45? 3 years ago
If I could upvote this more than once I would upvote it a million times
Draga Millani 3 years ago
for me it went hand in hand. It was my brother A, loving me and telling me he would miss me AND B, me realizing how much it would hurt him if I did.
the electric frog 3 years ago
I’m sorry but… does anyone know what to tell them? I’ve had to talk people off the edge before and I may have to again. I just never know what to say.
Clare E 3 years ago
Yes, you can be suicide prevention trained - I am. The main thing is to ask them not to do it right now - to try and make them safe in that moment. Many suicides are impulsive. Ask if they've been in this position before and if so, how did they get through it? Is there a person that they feel safe with? Do they have a support worker or crisis team? Do they have a specific plan or the means to do it? Be open and willing to really listen and work with them to get them professional help.
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TopCat 3 years ago
True. Never really thought about that. Was relentlessly bullied as a child and teachers/parents always ignored and brushed under the carpet. I always bury problems deep now, work through in my own space and never tell anyone.
Cold Contagious 3 years ago
It's stunning how true these statements are. I had bullies as well in elementary and middle school. Unfortunately, most children think they'll be safe when they get home, but my step-dad was a bully too. I spent a lot of time in my closet and under my bed. It makes for a very tense home life and being very quiet and withdrawn.
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Got Myself 4 Pandas 3 years ago
Well, that makes sense now - she's says from her bedroom she's not left since Saturday
Luther von Wolfen 3 years ago
Is that why I'm never happier than when I'm home alone under a blanket?
Raven DeathShade 3 years ago
Logical, I mean, I grew up with the motto "if it's not life-threatening, don't bother the parents with it" regarding injuries and the like. My parents have too many kids without worrying about me all the time.
Nela Rothenbach 3 years ago
Moomin 😍 you just unlocked a childhood memory....I loved them soooo much.
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Camilo's Bestie 3 years ago
As if. My mom forced me to cry in the living room as a kid so I wouldn't think about "bad stuff". I can't cry now and I am emotionally messed up now so yay/s
Breezy 3 years ago
Unfortunately true! When you cant go to the adult because they are the ones making you feel alone and bullied, then who do you turn to other than yourself??
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Kate Jones 3 years ago
Not sure if I can explain this well but ...my anxiety stems from feeling like I'm wasting time a lot. I don't particularly love my work, so I always regretted not being able to find something I'm good at or love. I just didn't have that option. I didn't have someone's couch I could sleep on while I 'found' myself. I started working from home when covid hit and it's been so great because if I can get some housework done while working then I feel ahead of the game and my time once I'm off becomes mine again and I'm not just using the little time I have to complete chores. Anything I can do in that overnight time feels like a bonus because you're supposed to be sleeping anyway. I feel more creative in that time. I sleep better because I know I've already done some things so I don't have that overwhelming feeling of a list I have to do. It's quiet and I don't feel like I'm wasting time. (1)
Kate Jones 3 years ago
(2) It happens when I'm off work, too. I see people who are off and just hang around or slowly make there way out of the office. I will never understand that. I immediately want to leave and often have everything packed up and ready for the minute the I'm off. And I don't like to stop anywhere on the way home...I feel like anything and everything cuts into my 'off time'. It's a weird thing and I don't hear about other people feeling this way.
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HB 3 years ago
It feels like the entire world quiets down, and I finally have some space away from all the noise.
Teresa Stabler 3 years ago
To me it seems like this is my only "me" time even though I live alone and am unable to work right now. It is so quiet. I love it.
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Jeri Woodrow 3 years ago
OMG, this is the first time I have read this & I totally relate. I’m glad for the reason I stay up so late (depression/anxiety here).
Maim 3 years ago
I had a double mastectomy back in 2017. Uncomfortable, couldn't lay down in bed with my husband, etc so my recliner became my home. I'll tell you what - those hours were the best time of all. I watched movies, I didn't have to "try" to do things for myself, didn't feel guilty for not helping my husband do things (he never complained), it just felt so good to have the freedom of nothing but ME for those early hours in the middle of the night.
Chloe *Leah* Pheonix 3 years ago
Me and my cousin had this deep podcast worthy conversation at like 1 in the morning just last night and it was so peaceful
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DennyS (denzoren) 3 years ago
As though you had a choice to be depressed when in reality you were having very serious mental health issues.
AnxietyRiddenMom 3 years ago
This! My dog's neutering appointment just got cancelled because I no called/no showed for meet and greet appointments for my other dogs. Like, I'm trying. You have no idea how much anxiety I get when it comes to appointments. Then trying to get the nerve to call and cancel as I stare at my phone trying to call but just end up not going
LaToya Mack 3 years ago
I’m in the post phase of losing my only child and it’s been three years what really helped me get through it was telling everyone not to expect anything from me at all. I even stated I am tentative until walk through the door doesn’t matter we bought this trip three months ago and I lose a fortune because honestly it had nothing to do with Covid but I canceled more trips then I took. Birthday trips let’s meet up trips I just can’t be anything to anyone until I put myself back together. #NoApologies
Leslie Burleson 3 years ago
This is something you become a lot more ok doing as you get older. I used to torture myself with the guilt of it . Now I just try to accept it as a symptom of a condition that I have , and do my best to keep moving forward without guilt.
Riley Quinn 3 years ago
Ah, you're not alone. Manics have similar problems with maintaining social obligations and apology tours.
Lynn Morello 3 years ago
You don't have to do any apology tour with anyone. You don't have to explain anything to anyone.
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Kimi Tomminello 3 years ago
😥 I'm so sorry you've been through such a tough time 💖 *hugs* I hope you've gotten help and are in a better place now.
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Rick Seiden 3 years ago
I'm a man. I have mental health issues that make it difficult to navigate my day to day life, but not impossible. I've been down the dark path this poor man went a few times, but never took the last step. I'm in therapy now, and I'm working on constructive ways to get better. I am not ashamed to say that I need help, and that I'm getting help.
Joanie 3 years ago
It takes a strong man to be honest with himself. It takes a strong man to recognize that he needs help and actively seeks it. I send you hugs and wish you joy. Keep being brave. There is a better life waiting for you.
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redties_and_blackparades 3 years ago (edited)
This is so horrible. Our society is getting really f****d up. Pls if ur going through something talk to someone, i swear it may make you feel better. Who gives a s**t about being “manly” or “just grow up or be a man” YOUR MENTAL HEALTH COMES FIRST.♥️
And i was like WTF!! 3 years ago
How, when sometimes the safety net is the most abusive (family)
Nadine G 3 years ago
Crisis call centers are excellent starters, there are also a lot of community center therapy programs that are free and usually run by social workers and psychology students with their masters degrees(working towards PhDs). These kinds of programs are easy to find in local community centers, food banks will have the info and online of course. I hope you find the help you need
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Emily Phillips 3 years ago
My uncle committed suicide 5 years ago. If you ever talked to him you would have never known he was depressed. He always came off as one of the happiest guys I'd ever met. Miss you Uncle Harold
Trevor Nicholson 3 years ago
My friends joke about how I put my stream of consciousness on my Instagram stories but it's like yeah if I'm not ok I'm gonna let you all know that don't act so surprised
Marnie 3 years ago
My son's friend was hanging out with a group of people watching a movie. He got up at one point and said, "Thank you for everything." He walked into the bathroom and shot himself dead. Nobody really has a clue as to why. He struggled with some things, but it hadn't seemed like it was anything out of the ordinary. He wasn't a loner. He was gregarious and very well-loved. He had at least 30 people who would have talked with him, done anything to help him.
Nadine G 3 years ago
Dear men, and boys that will turn into men; Your trauma is valid. Your depression and mental health struggles are valid. Admitting you have these issues, and seeking help doesnt make you less manly, it makes you moreso. It makes you stronger and more able to take care of yourself and handle your life. Therapy is good for you, and will make you a much better boyfriend, lover, and in time(if you want it), father.
Abigail Coty 3 years ago
I always tell my friends I love them. Sure, some people say it’s weird, but you never really know what people are going through. So yeah, I always tell my friends I love them and try to be there as much as I can.
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Black Pearl 🇺🇦 3 years ago
My mom says she had anxiety but I don't think she understands how serious mine really is
3 years ago
Exactly. Me and my mom too. It's destroying our relationship.
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Lara Verne 3 years ago
"You're too young to be depressed/anxious. It's just a phase, you have nothing to be depressed about." Children and teenager's mental health issues are often dismissed.
Camilo's Bestie 3 years ago
100% I commented about this below but yes! My parents' excuse is hormones most of the time really.
Load More Replies... Camilo's Bestie 3 years ago
This is the same for me but my mom has diagnosed *deep breathe* OCD, ADHD, anxiety, depression, and dyslexia..? Also C-PTSD. 0-0 she says I can get better without seeing someone with a "piece of paper on the wall" ugh (I have anxiety and I am very likely to develop depression) :/ Thanks mom
Sasquatch The Almighty 3 years ago
The more I understand my mental health issues, the more I understand and "know" my parents. For me, it's really helping with forgiveness.
Paul Neff 3 years ago
Sometimes perspective from time condemns family, should you realize the choices they made. It seems selfish people are also able to have children.
Load More Replies... stressed momma panda 3 years ago
The worst one always repeated to me 'your a kid, what the hell do you have to be depressed about? your just trying to make us look bad when all your doing is making yourself look pathetic, GROW UP!''
Laura Mende (Human) 3 years ago
My mom had almost the same problems as me when she was young. So I can REALLY talk to her about the things that are important. And I wish everybody had someone like this to talk.
Raven DeathShade 3 years ago
My mother apparently went through the same severe depression to the point of considering suicide that I did, but she was shocked when I told her about it. She thought I would be able to get away unscathed :/.
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Raven DeathShade 3 years ago
Oh no. As soon as possible, leave. If they don't let you try to get help for yourself, then they're possibly endangering your life.
Load More Replies... Riley Quinn 3 years ago
My mother's mental illnesses were undiagnosed, untreated, and out of control. It wouldn't occur to me to tell her about my "trivial" struggles.
Meaghan Stewart 3 years ago
My mother making light of my Fibromyalgia and Bipolar Type 2. Pretty sure she has both.
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Katherine Boag 3 years ago
Trust me, in every country that ive heard a story from, you do NOT want to be involuntarily hospitalised for mental health reasons
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Tyranamar Seuss 3 years ago
Psychiatrist here. I don't know about in other states but here in California, Colorado, and Washington it's actually very hard to be involuntarily hospitalized. You will not be just for being suicidal or even having a plan. You must have intent. So if you think about hanging yourself sometimes but have no intention of actually doing it, it would be hard to hospitalize you against your will. We might try to get you to go in voluntarily depending on you, what we know about you, your experience with hospitals, our relationship etc. So be honest with your therapist. We really want to avoid doing anything against your will and you'd be surprised how common thoughts of suicide, without the intent to kill yourself, are. Especially when people are overwhelmed. Talking can help.
My O My 3 years ago
This is what I experiened. Glad a professional makes a statement here
Load More Replies... lazy panda 3 years ago
This is why I lie when they start asking mental health questions in the doctors office 🙃
D Peterson 3 years ago
I can remember fantasizing about the possibility of being hospitalized. Peaceful & quiet, weaving baskets.
TheVioletDragon 3 years ago
Me with my dietitian, haha. I almost had to be put on weight gainer shakes
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Sharron Lindsay 3 years ago
Pretending not to be depressed is exhausting and then one day the energy it takes isn't there
Laura 3 years ago
The worst is period days when your own body tries to make you crash and burn while you're trying so hard every day
Load More Replies... Black Pearl 🇺🇦 3 years ago
Fr. I'm pretty sure a couple of my friends aren't completely convinced I actually have anxiety because they've never seen me have an attack. Like, I have had attacks but not in front of people because it's embarrassing.
Raven DeathShade 3 years ago
I had one in front of my dad and he berated me for being 16 and crying on his lap like a baby. Apparently haunted houses give me bad anxiety. Fun.
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Aroace tiger (she/they/he) 3 years ago
And when you don't get breakdowns you feel like you "aren't bad enough" to consider yourself mentally ill
kath morgan 3 years ago
I feel that. If I’m coping, then it mustn’t be a problem. Most conditions, we understand to be a problem before they become terminal.
Alice Teasdale 3 years ago
"Oh, that suicide attempt wasn't SERIOUS, it was just a cry for help." No, peeps, that self harm was about making it PHYSICAL because physical injuries are taken seriously
Laura Capshaw 3 years ago
I have had several breakdowns. I can't stop crying, so I can't hide it.
B S 3 years ago
yeah wish i could afford to have a breakdown. i lost both my parents and my partner before covid hit. i have One local friend anymore. i've been on fumes for 4 years but have no support structure so i don't have the luxury of a breakdown if i want bills paid pets taken care of ect.
eyeless sans 3 years ago
EXACTLY! but when i do breakdown, people think i am trying to get sympathy when all i need is someone to understand.
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Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago
I'm so very appreciative and grateful that I have a hubby like that. He has dealt with so much with me and my depression. He has supported me and loved me throughout everything.
Kimi Tomminello 3 years ago (edited)
My hubby and I both have mental health issues that we help each other keep in check. It's wonderful when you find someone that honestly gets it. They can't fix you but they can help you by just being there.
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Tobias Reaper 3 years ago
reminds me of my favourite line from lord of the rings when Sam says to Frodo i cant carry it for you but i can carry you
TrickQuestion 3 years ago
Anxiety sometimes overtakes that and you get in a loop where you dread them dropping you at any second despite their reassurances.
Shelby Moonheart 3 years ago
I've learned that second-hand PTSD is a real thing. My husband went through a huge storm and we had to go through it together.
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Katie Lutesinger 3 years ago
I was at work one day and suddenly started feeling sad. During lunch break I told my co-worker "I'm feeling sad today, so I'm just going to sit here staring at this sandwich without actually eating much of it". And that's exactly what I did.
Felicia Dale 3 years ago
Every day of my life. And I’ve been otherwise very happy but still that sadness remains.
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Black Pearl 🇺🇦 3 years ago
Yeah I realized I burnt out at the beginning of the year but I'm still going and (sort of) fine!
Bexx 🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦 3 years ago (edited)
My check engine light is on too due to me putting low quality fuel in it when it’s clearly a premium body 🤷♀️ And my “low serotonin” light is on. And my “check dopamine levels” and “stomach is 1km to empty” and “stress fluids need to be exchanged” lights are on. Brakes are obviously worn cause my boundaries seem to need some work. Emissions suck too cause I’m nothing but a big ol doom and gloom storm cloud at work lately. “Your mileage may vary 😀”
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anonymousBee422 3 years ago
Especially when you just want a break from school for a day but you have to plan that out so you don’t miss too much
Kate Jones 3 years ago
Rent still needs to get paid. What else can you do? It's like, you're whole world is crumbling and the stress is through the roof and you feel like you're going to have a heart attack. But you can't stop or you'll be homeless. You can't stop or you'll make things so much worse for yourself- which seems crazy considering how bad it is but, yes, it can get worse. So you just stand in the middle of the battlefield and realize no help is coming and you just have to keep moving. We don't all have a person whose couch we can sleep on or know where to find help if you don't really have anybody.
Riley Quinn 3 years ago
Silly child. You put a piece of black electrical tape over the check engine light so as not to add to your impending mental implosion.
Mama Penguin 3 years ago
I think we realize it, but most of us have no choice but to keep moving.
Iris Engler 3 years ago
No idea since how long I feel burnt out and I think nobody has the slighst feeling what I do really mean when saying I am tired to the bones. But the engine still works somehow
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Sarah 3 years ago
My son says "Wait! I'm in the blender......" Thats his way of saying full stop and he will let us know when he feels OK to continue.
Coffee_nut45? 3 years ago
Your son is very smart and self-aware. you are an incredible parent to realize what this means and that he is asking for help.
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Mark Howell 3 years ago
I got this and recognised when I was young that I needed time out, so I read copiously in a quiet place. Even though a large number of my family, including my mom, are teachers; nobody realised anything. It wasn't till I was 52 that I was diagnosed with HFASD/Aspergers and my mind sort of went, Oh so that's why. I always though that I was odd because I occasionally had to leave a shop/crowded area because I just felt like I was drowning.
Cold Contagious 3 years ago
So glad you finally found a explanation and wasn't still left wondering why. I've had several experiences with this as well. My fibromyalgia also makes my body and skin too sensitive for touch. For my clothes, my cat hurting to get on my lap, a paw will feel like it's bruising my bones as well, and for a human to touch me or sit against me. It's horrifying at times to feel that what you need the most, is what hurts the most. Like snuggles with your cat or grandson. It's hard.
Load More Replies... 3 years ago
I got in a big fight with my parents over this. They didn't understand and I couldn't express it amidst the overload. Ended in a screaming match and some suicidal thoughts.
Bexx 🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦 3 years ago
I’m sorry to hear that :( we understand don’t worry, don’t let those thoughts get too loud. Need you here please and thank you 🧡
Load More Replies... Teresa Taylor 3 years ago
MUST YOU BREATHE SO LOUD? I live alone. I don't usually have the TV or radio on. I sit in silence and it is GLORIOUS. I have to listen to people and TVs and traffic and other stuff all day at work. I want my home to be a quiet sanctuary. I use ear plugs every night when I sleep. If I could live in a cave or under ground, I would.
Cold Contagious 3 years ago
Awe, bless. I understand. I have a feather pillow that feels cool and put it over my face, head, ears, with my nose sticking out, and try to sleep it off when it's really bad, in a cool dark room.
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Ana Filipa Barrocas 3 years ago
God... I'm allways on overload and counting the years until is ok to exit the world...
Claudia Coulson 3 years ago
I can really relate to that, my autism is something most people in my life don't know about/understand, so I have to try and act like a functioning person and do my schoolwork while not curling up into a ball and crying. Honestly, im lucky I don't live in a big city 😅
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Leslie Burleson 3 years ago
Anxiety and ADHD can cause you to do that. You never feel good enough or finished with anything. Always striving for perfection and "doing better"
Black Pearl 🇺🇦 3 years ago
Oh man. That was a punch to the gut. Now that I'm thinking about it though I was super excited about high school when I was younger. If only I could tell my younger self how draining it'll be on her mental health. Then maybe I would have been more prepared.
Riley Quinn 3 years ago
Not sure if this is a mental health issue or just a general human issue. We do tend to focus on the past and future instead of relishing the now.
Dana Ondráčková 3 years ago
I stressed about big changes at work so much it (And covid pandemic) took toll on my sanity but suddenly that time came And went And now I sit here year later like "what was I afraid about? It was nothing And I run through like Queen"
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TrickQuestion 3 years ago
I cope with my suicidal thoughts by planning out super elaborate suicide methods i could never possibly pull off.
Himiko 3 years ago
Is it bad that I found that kinda funny? I mean I don't want anyone to commit suicide but I have a pretty broken sense of humor.
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ohjojo (me/mine) 3 years ago
If I suddenly have suicidal thoughts I'm like wait, did I screw up my medicine again? Did I take too much of something because I haven't had this deep a suicidal thought in a while so I probably took too much of something. Yep. I did.
Keara Ritson 3 years ago
i cope with suicidal thoughts by thinking about how i would do it then i would think of who would miss me when i did it.
Riley Quinn 3 years ago
When your mental illness becomes tedious, it's best to laugh at the absurdity.
Lynn Morello 3 years ago
The difference between saying it to yourself and having someone else say it to you.
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Riley Quinn 3 years ago
Yeah, what you do on your own time is fine, just don't bring it out into the real world.
Destiny Shantel Mcdonnell 1 year ago
I really feel this I am an agoraphobic and today I had to go to the Dr my now ex started yelling at me because when I started to panic according to him "stop it you are embarrassing me you always make a scene everytime we go somewhere." He actually got so loud I had to leave the drs because of how bad my panic attack was.
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Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago
That's me at the moment. I'm also still trying to get into a good routine now I'm studying.
Winter Eleven 3 years ago
I don't feel like it = i don't have the energy for it (mostly chores, shopping,...) I don't feel like having an anxiety attack after buying enough groceries to last me a whole month.
the engineer 3 years ago
cant pour from an empty cup. lookin at you, schools. quit overworking students
Nadine Bamberger 3 years ago
I love that spoon theory thing, I often think "I just don't have the spoons left for that task" and it's so relieving when someone actually understands that.
Cydney Golden 3 years ago
Try to believe it's not always necessary to explain...you don't owe that to anyone.
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The Chosen One 3 years ago
See here's the thing, if they don't respond my brain is going to tell me that they are either mad at me or something bad happened to them. Logical explanations no longer even process through my brain, it's only those two options.
Mattewis88 3 years ago
I'm grateful that my mates are like this... I can respond 3 weeks too late to a "Pink or yellow?" text with 'Yellow' and they'll reply as if nothing happened.
Winter Eleven 3 years ago
Yeeesss that's why i don't mind being the annoying one when my best friend doesn't respond to my hilarious comments and GIFs 🤪
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Claudia Coulson 3 years ago
*morning sorry to be annoying but it would bug me for days if I didnt
Load More Replies... Riley Quinn 3 years ago
Sometimes, I experience physical anxiety symptoms without a worrying thought or fear. My breathing suddenly becomes rapid and shallow, my heart is racing, I want to flee, but all I've been doing is some benign activity.
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Hseed 3 years ago
Our generation is the one that's dealing with wake up calls for everything that has been wrong. We're fed up with toxic people, toxic masculinity, homophobia, gender discrimination, glass ceilings. I think it's a hard time to live but it's a historic time to watch and enjoy.
Auntriarch 3 years ago
I believe I'm what's known as a boomer, but believe me, I hoped we wouldn't still be fighting this by now
Load More Replies... KiwiBubbles 3 years ago
My grandma (baby boomer) has told us enough about her childhood that I know she grew up in an abusive home but she refuses to say it like that. Her father would beat her and her brother (not her sister who was the favorite child, which is a whole different aspect to it) and her mom would never stop him. Her mom was more emotionally abusive from what I can tell. My grandma got married very early in order to get out, and she felt guilty, like she had left her brother alone to deal with it all. Literally two days ago she was talking about this and said "My dad was so hard on [my brother]". This is the kind of thing she always says, even after my mom and I have tried to help her understand that her childhood environment was textbook abusive. I can sense in her that older generation attitude of "that's just the way it was and I dealt with it and pulled up my bootstraps" and I wish she could get over that and maybe go to therapy for help.
KiwiBubbles 3 years ago
I also wrote a whole second comment on how even though her father died several years ago, she has not cut her mother out of her life. I typed out all sorts of things about their relationship as of right now, and in that I realized oh my god she is still being emotionally abused. I don't wanna deal with the character limit explaining it, but I'm going to talk to my mom about all this and ask her for advice. IN CONCLUSION, No, our generation is not sensitive. The older generations are hurting and they put up with it more than they should rather that seeking help and happiness.
Load More Replies... Teresa Taylor 3 years ago
Yes. People today have finally found their voices and the courage to say, "No. This is wrong and I'm not going to take it."
Riley Quinn 3 years ago
I think the Boomers talked the talk (briefly), and left walking the walk to subsequent generations. I'm not kind to Boomers who denigrate the younger generations who are stuck cleaning up our messes while trying to live their own lives.
DC 3 years ago
We're the first generations to see the fallout of raging capitalism on the people who even are in a better place than the lowest ones in the hierarchy (that's why their problems are called "first world problems"), so we are the first that can decide somewhat informed. Our parents' generation didn't know what they were about to enter, or they still got to be on the winning side of it, poverty of the elderly is just approaching us, and a lot of these worked their asses off, during struggles of their own. Out of itself, it will just continue and eventually colllaps. We need to set boundaries what money can buy you, and we need to unify as the working class - now more than ever!
Keiome Nikke 1 year ago
*Someone* has to fall on their sword to make a better world for their children. Millennials just decided that if they're gonna fall on a sword, they might as well make as big as possible..
Nova Smith 3 years ago
I don't understand. It's now cool to get people fired over old tweets, but those same people still joke about emotionally abusive parents (or even validate those parents). This comes off as hypocritical to me.
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Jon Steensen 3 years ago
I guess it is result of how the autopilot is programmed. Doing something new always requires a lot of energy, whereas just doing as we normally do requires a lot less effort. Hence a loving gesture can become very confusion, if you have not had the proper training throughout your childhood. That can put your mind in overdrive, when you try to figure out how it works, and what the proper response to a kind gesture should be (why did she do that? What is she trying to achieve? Am I being manipulated? How far am I allowed to go here?...). When you are exhausted, comming up with the extra energy for that, can be so hard, that the easy way out can be to just put that task on halt, and do as you are used to. That way you can turn the situation into something you know how to handle and where you can control where you end up. Sometimes certaincy can be more important than a chance of happiness, and when in surviving mode you can only play on the short field.
Fried Mermaid 3 years ago
I'm in the middle of a cafe and this is making me cry, I've never thought about it. It hits so hard guys
AnxietyRiddenMom 3 years ago
What I did was pass a long line of mental illness on to my daughter, who is now a teenager and resents me completely while she's feeling feelings I can't help her with cause I can't help myself with the same feelings and it's torture. I want to wrap my arms around her and hug her and it never happens and I will always feel responsible for that
Nadine G 3 years ago
Family therapy. It will help you both. If you can swing it, do it. Otherwise start with a book, The Body Keeps The Score,it may help you work through that trauma and mental health issues.
Load More Replies... And i was like WTF!! 3 years ago
First 2 years of dating, i had a fear to even touch my gf becouse i thought she hated id. I also have when i was touched cuz i kinda flinch (my dad was sometimes physically abusive, now just verbaly), so that was so fun...
Riley Quinn 3 years ago
You are so wrong Alexis. I am normal... This is normal... Hey, seriously, I feel normal.
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DennyS (denzoren) 3 years ago
I'll also lose a lot of sleep...so its best we discuss it right now.
lazy panda 3 years ago (edited)
My boss figured out very quickly that if he wants to set up an appointment with me, he needs to come explain that A. I'm not in trouble and B. We're just going to discuss these few things so I don't immediately panic. Even with my annual review, he sent it to me a day early so their would be no surprises for me. Honestly, it's the sweetest damn thing basically anyone has ever done for my mental health.
Gretchen Esquilin 3 years ago
Ooooh! Or the infamous, "We need to talk...." via text or phone call. Just tell me so I can move on w/ my day & not agonize over it for the next 6.4 hrs until I see you again....
3 years ago
no but same. My one specific friend does this and it's hard to not become anxious over it
Donkey boi 3 years ago
My wife hates it when I do that. It's not intentional, I'm just busy. I had a massive disagreement with the directors, she called me towards the end of my lunch break, I told her a had a row and that I'd tell her about it when I got home. She spent 5 hours thinking I was getting the sack. I'm sorry, I had to go back to work.
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Fred Burrows 3 years ago
Don't try to fix me. Fix yourself so you don't break me.
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Busy Panda 3 years ago
No. The girl seems talking to an overbearing person. She just tells the person what it is.
Load More Replies... Riley Quinn 3 years ago
I'm going to assume he means a young woman rather than a girl, but quite an astute and self-loving young woman.
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Luther von Wolfen 3 years ago
I can't take a compliment because I don't believe them. I know criticism is the truth.
Miraculous Klutz 3 years ago
The only thing I can take is criticism. Someone asks me how I am? I just stand there, frozen, unsure how to proceed. A compliment? I will disprove it, and deny it. Criticism? Thank you, I will now do everything possible to fix it and gain approval.
Emmett O'Brian 3 years ago
I'm used to criticism. Can stand being complimented. Had too many people use it as a fake front to stab me after.
Lynn Morello 3 years ago
When giving you any opinions, start with, 'This is not meant to upset you, make your statement and tell you, you are still doing very well, then ask if they wish to talk about it. As for compliments, you don't have to do anything to accept a compliment, just nod.
Ghaniyah Verma 2 years ago
Say something that is neither a compliment nor an insult. Like a fact.
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Katie Lutesinger 3 years ago
This is what happens when you grow up being told to suppress your emotions and never to ask for help or let on that you're hurting because that's "weak". It's so bloody sad. :(
Hseed 3 years ago
I've couldn't said it with better words. We boys are strong, we don't cry, we don't suffer, we're not allowed to ask for help because we have to be alpha males. We have to provide, we have to protect, we are rocks, throw what you want at us, it won't hurt. That's all the BS we are told since we're kids. Thanks Katie.
Load More Replies... Got Myself 4 Pandas 3 years ago
More men commit suicide, but more women actually attempt suicide, the difference seems to be the method with which each chooses to do so, men tend to go for more violent methods that's are very unlikely to fail or be interrupted. I don't think it's helpful to separate men and women, there may be different reasons at the core but there is a huge mental health crisis across the board and everyone suffering needs help
lenka 3 years ago
Toxic masculinity is just as deadly for men as it is for women! All men should be feminists - even if this is the only reason they are!
Rose Button 🇺🇦 3 years ago
Yes! Feminism means equality for all genders, specifically against toxic masculinity and masognists to make this a reality. Everyone should be a feminist, men should be able to show emotion.
Load More Replies... Francis 3 years ago
if someone needs help, you can always write me :) it helps to talk to somebody who knows how you feel! i'm depressed, i thought about suicide, i struggle everyday. you're not alone and it is okay to feel the way you feel. there is no shame in getting help in whatever way! but get the help
Katherine Boag 3 years ago
Let boys cry, stop bullying them for having feelings other than anger, proactively talk to them about their feelings, model talking about your feelings and seeking support ESPECIALLY DADS OMG and other male role models in kids lives
JACKSON NIESE 3 years ago
And international Men's (suicide awareness) Day got cancelled out of the sky.
Tracy Wallick 3 years ago
Not trying to diminish the importance of supporting men, but women attempt suicide twice as often; the main reason male suicide attempts "succeed" more often is because of the methods they tend to choose.
Mark Howell 3 years ago
But in the UK, men are the last in line for help because children, old people then women in that order are priority. ((
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Cold Contagious 3 years ago
I don't think I ever realized that someone would feel exactly the same as I do. I experienced this as a child. The couple times that I became ill at school and called home. I was so upset for disappointing my dad and calling him at work, that I couldn't stop crying. I was still crying when he picked me up. I had strep,but still felt like it wasn't a good enough reason to call my dad and didn't want to let him down. I always worried about making him proud of me.
Load More Replies... Ann Dennis 3 years ago
Did s/he have any good ideas about how to deal with it? (asking for a friend)
Jane Petersen 3 years ago
I blame the religious abuse I suffered for this particular affliction. It will take the rest of my life to be logical about this.
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Tobias Reaper 3 years ago
who is to say whats weird what is normal apparently its not running down the street in a Chewbacca onsie with a rubber clove on your head yelling hi im a squid
Curtis Durrenberger 3 years ago
There is no such thing as normal. Normal is a social construct established by the average to separate them from those who are different
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DennyS (denzoren) 3 years ago
Lol I never thought about that before, good on you washing machine. Next time that'll surely make me chuckle.
Bella Jones 3 years ago
TIL I have the angriest washing machine in the world!
Load More Replies... Bruno Madrigal 3 years ago
My washing machine is just like "dunk da dunk da dunkdadunkdaduNKDADUNKDADUNK" and then it fades out and honestly I relate
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Monday 3 years ago
Why stop there? Get productive! Multitask overthinking and having anxiety at the same time!
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Queen Shay 3 years ago (edited)
Someone asked why are you so into teddy bears and boy bands? Because those are the last things I can remember that made truly happy so I surround myself with that now because I want what most people want. I want to be happy.
K- THULU 3 years ago
I'm past 50 and I've felt like s**t for most of it. The last decade has been the most bearable because I finally can be alone. My parents gone, no close friends for 20 years, dead wood cut away, it's been the fist time in my life I can just be me. Liberating really. As some philosopher once said( or was misquoted as saying) " Hell is other people"
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Black Pearl 🇺🇦 3 years ago
It's good to know I'm not the only one! I keep forgetting things so easily and it's pretty concerning.
redties_and_blackparades 3 years ago
Same. And my parents always get mad at me for it :(
Load More Replies... Rick Seiden 3 years ago
I actually went to a neurologist and had a complete workup done because my memory is so bad. He told me it's caused by my depression. My depression isn't based on any trauma or event in my life. It's based on the chemical makeup in my brain. I will always be depressed. There is no cure for my depression. That means that there is no cure for my memory loss. Which I think is getting worse every day. And that scares me.
Isabel Care 3 years ago
And the more you worry about it, the worse it gets. Chatting with friends (all of us with mental and physical illness) we can all mislay a word and know which word was meant. We also forget what we are talking about mid chat. Sometimes one remembers, sometimes not. We have learnt to chill and write things down as we remember them.
VeninTheNonBinaryRogue 3 years ago
I often don’t remember if I’ve told this person *insert really cool thing I wanted to tell them* so I end up telling them up to four or five times and then they get annoyed :(
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Sharron Lindsay 3 years ago
The human brain should come with a pause button so we can go off line until we're stronger to face life
Bob Bobbs 3 years ago
The world need to pause. Our brains are fine, just not meant to cope with the amount of stress of our modern world.
Load More Replies... Faster, Pussycat! Kill! Kill! 3 years ago
You don't want to die. You just want the pain to stop.
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WatermelonTheDutchie 3 years ago
when people ask me if im ok i say yeah, even though its a lie. ive noticed that people dont want the truth, they just want to hear that they dont have to worry about you.
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Bexx 🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦 3 years ago (edited)
Wow I just had a split second of imagining my internal anger being “on my side” and now I cant stop crying. It’s true.
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Cold Contagious 3 years ago
It's absolutely worth it. I always feel better after having ice cream for breakfast. I don't do it at that often but it's kinda like chicken soup or comfort foods, when you're feeling unwell.
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Black Pearl 🇺🇦 3 years ago
Everyone always says this s**t will make you stronger. I've been dealing with it for years. Why am I not stronger? It's been the same thing over and over again and I am waiting for the day when it's finally over but I don't know if it ever will be
Justreading 3 years ago
It may not make you stronger but hopefully you will learn where your boundaries are. Piece by piece you will create your own "toolbox" for dealing with the crap life keeps throwing at you. You will find your people, you will find what makes you tick. And you will also find you can cut out that awful grandma of yours you mentioned earlier and never look back. You are not obligated to keep people in your life just because they are family, only let those in your bubble who love and respect you!
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Black Pearl 🇺🇦 3 years ago
My mom grew up in a toxic family. My grandmother from her side is one of the worst people I've ever met or seen. She racist, homophobic, sexist, anti vax, and just horrible overall. I'm her least favorite grandchild because she likes young kids and boys, and I am neither. And she doesn't even try to hide it. If the other kids (little sister included) have 7 presents at Christmas, I get 4. She'll call a week after my birthday each year and claim she was sick or some other b******t. It's just horrible. She hates me because I remind her of my mom - who btw was apparently supposed to be a boy - and my mom actually resisted her and didn't put up with her s**t. I wish we would cut ties but we can't just tell my sister how horrible she is out of the blue. I just hate her. One day I'm gonna stand up to her if she keeps this s**t up, especially if she starts it up with my sister.
ohjojo (me/mine) 3 years ago
Hi Black Pearl, so you sound kind of young. But you seem to really really understand your grandma. She's not a good person. And you know it. So you don't have to have a relationship with her. So don't. Let your sister and let your other relatives have whatever kind of relationship with her that they want and you know your own truth. It's a good thing you can see it. Just you know go your own way with it. Eventually they'll see it too. You have strength. Use it.
Load More Replies... Kate Jones 3 years ago
Especially if you are the 'parent' for your parents. You end up taking care of them or dealing with their emotional issues instead of just being a kid. Or if it's a messy divorce. I was watching a court show and a woman was suing her ex-husband for money for competition dance classes for her daughter. He didn't give her his half or something. But she ended up had t-shirts made up saying 'my dad is a deadbeat and my mom pays for everything' and she made her daughter wear them to a dance class event they were all going to where her dad would see it. She's putting her daughter in the middle of this petty fight and the girl was so upset and the judge ended up yelling at the woman justifiably because you're literally ruining her relationship with not only her father but with her mother as well. And in the end it has nothing to do with the money it's because he cheated on you. It's just so horrible how the kids end up in the middle of their parent's childish s**t.
Donna Clanclan 3 years ago
And they don't see it! Like they meet your family and think the best of them and try to tell you your misinterpreting stuff. Don't yall know the 'stuff' doesn't happen out in the open?
Kimi Tomminello 3 years ago
My mom is the epitome of narcissistic toxicity. After having no contact with her after having to check in on her when my son couldn't get in contact with her after she threw homophobic rhetoric at my daughter for not hugging her she texts me a long message about my sons girlfriend being the one that texted me a bunch of homophobic and threatening messages and to not write off my son because I sent a christmas card with $20 to her and my son (he lives off of her in a very awkward co dependent relationship). Had to explain that that is what I do with households of adults (my son is 19). I only send separate cards to kids under 18 and that I didn't understand why I'm the one writing people off when she's the one that hasn't even texted a happy birthday or Merry Christmas to my daughter or me in 3 years. Her response was "Nobody respects you. Goodbye". Yup, passive-aggressive, yup projection. I didn't even say a dang thing to her, at all.
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DennyS (denzoren) 3 years ago
I literally got goosebumps. I really hope someone is having the absolutely best day today!
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Jo Johannsen 3 years ago
My mother had a similar attitude, but more like "so you're gonna struggle, too." She was a very bitter woman (justifiably so), but refused to accept help.
Isabel Care 3 years ago
There is also the "I'll never do that to my kids" part that start whole new ways of screwing up just to avoid one particular thing
Shelby P 3 years ago
I'm trying so hard to stop the cycle with my daughter. but If the problem is also very genetic (as in brain chemistry) and you still have trouble dealing with s**t so you don't know how to help your child deal with s**t.... the cycle goes on
Dee 3 years ago
My children are grown now but I remember this struggle Shelby, I see you and there is value in your effort. Cycles can and do change, genes turn on and off given the right circumstances. May your suffering be eased and may you find peace in this uncertain world.
Load More Replies... Katherine Boag 3 years ago
Dont you want to make the world better for your kids? Dont you want them to do better?
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Raven DeathShade 3 years ago
Yeah, I had to have my mom describe when my depression started to my doctor, since I have been living with it for so long I can't remember a time without it.
Nope 3 years ago
SAME I can't recall how life was before anxiety and depression started. I forgot what "normal" feels like
Load More Replies... Leslie Crittenden 3 years ago
Because we live in a dysfunctional world that actively works to prevent our well being and we haven't figured out how to change it for the better yet
Load More Replies... Cold Contagious 3 years ago
Also most people though, what do you have to feel anxious about??? 😟
kath morgan 3 years ago
Yes “what are you anxious about” is not always a question that makes sense.
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Black Pearl 🇺🇦 3 years ago
I used to be one of the smartest people in my classes, but I don't remember as much as easily and I've lost almost all work ethic. Of course my school doesn't give a s**t so I have to just power through it.
Sharron Lindsay 3 years ago
Keep going x Most of the stuff you can't remember probably isn't important anyway. Be kinder to yourself, you're doing the best you can day by day
Jeri Woodrow 3 years ago
I’ve lost my memory, too from depression. I am trying anything I can to make it better. Vitamin/mineral supplements and computer games that focus on brain power. I swear they help. Try them & see what happens. ❤️
Randolph Croft 3 years ago
I can't remember 95% of the first 25 years of my life. It's almost that bad for the middle 20 years. Since my late 40's I photograph almost everything I do - so I can remember doing things.
Jon Steensen 3 years ago
Many depressed people sleep very poorly, some can't even remember when they had a full night's sleep last time. You are constantly tired, but can't sleep it away. Given how important we know sleep to be in order to learn and rememember, no wonder why you feel that your mental capabilities suffer. Lack of energy and the feeling of being stupid then kills the initiative to get things done, and what little things you try you are likely to fail or only get half done due to exhaustion. That makes reaching the level beyond existing very hard, which furthermore worsens your living conditions, and that is causing more despair, which will sneak up on you at times where you cannot distract yourself, E.i. when you are alone with your own mind in the bed room trying to sleep. And round and round we go in the evil spiral.
lenka 3 years ago
I think there is actually neurological proof of this to some extent. I did a trauma course years (and years) ago and they were talking about how trauma and depression physically re-wires your brain. I dont remember the detail about how. What I do remember is that, in the same way the damage was caused, over time it can be corrected. Our capacity to heal is extraordinary. It might not be the same as it always was but it doesnt have to be broken anymore either.
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Aussie Mav 3 years ago
Is it wrong that I pissed myself laughing at this?? Black humour gets a lot of us through, I think
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Melissa Rodriguez 3 years ago
I can't sleep at night because I'm thinking of all the different things that I can't control or run from if I'm not awake. The roof might collapse on me, natural disasters, burglars, etc. My therapist basically says don't do that. I can't control my brain's broken worry button
Sylvia Schmitz 3 years ago
Or trying to not look foreward to something because the dissapointment would crush you!
Aisling Raye 3 years ago
Does anyone else live by the mantra of "hope for the best but prepare for the worst" bc this post screams that particular energy and I can feel it in my soul.
Kate Jones 3 years ago
I feel bad because I'm negative. I really don't feel like a negative person but anytime someone comes up with a new idea at work or I'm just talking about things in general, I'm always immediately thinking about what can go wrong. I don't want to feel this way but I just expect it because...mostly I'm proven to be right! But I have to feel bad about it because I'm not 'thinking positively.'
Ansi 3 years ago
I have a easy trick for this. When ever I get anxious I make a mind mapping tree. Start with the situation, what can go wrong and what could go right. Then with the wrong what could happen after that, pro and con, and what would happen after the thing got right, maybe nothing happened
Susan Green 3 years ago
I know how this feels. You want to stop thinking like this, but you can’t.
Dana Ondráčková 3 years ago
Aaand thats how I got gallbladder problem, diarrhea, blocked back And took some calm pills. Not in the same time but yeah I know even tho I am not obviously stress Ing, my body does And it shows
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malenchki 3 years ago
Yeah like just because you feel the need to brag about only getting two hours of sleep doesn’t mean I ament emotionally tired even after 14. It pisses me off because people I know do this and then my gf asks me how much sleep I got then if I got a decent amount for once she goes “no offence but like I think I’m wayyy more tired then you.” Like so what I’m wayyyyy more emotionally burnt out then you. I’m dealing with trying to keep my composure constantly I’m trying not to break down every morning SO WHAT IF YOU GOT MORE SLEEP IM STILL MORE TIRED
My O My 3 years ago
Emotionally tired is the worst kind of tired. Nothing helps
Load More Replies... RedMarbles 3 years ago
And that 5 hours may have taken up a greater proportion of what they had to give then the 7 hours did for the other person, so the other person may not even have had it worse.
Busy Panda 3 years ago (edited)
This is why I hate people who said "no live matters until black lives matter". Or people who dismiss Kim Kardashian's public abuse by Ye just because she's mega-rich.
Rick Seiden 3 years ago
Just because someone else has it worse doesn't mean I don't have it bad.
Dana Ondráčková 3 years ago
I had 6 days/8hour each, I was parched. My manager "But I go 6/12!" yeah so what? Am i supposed to congratulate you for overworking yourself And not seeing your baby daughter enough?
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malenchki 3 years ago
Sadly my mother has now decided that I just need to push through it. Whether I am sick dying or having a panic attack I just need to learn to manage it… I’m going to a doctor in a few days and plan on telling them everything maybe something might actually get done about my crippling anxiety… fingers crossed if not then I’ll just wallow in my pain and suffering until I’m 18 then run far far far away to the magical land of therapy
IDK_Something 3 years ago
Definitely tell them everything!! I am so sorry you're going through this. I can relate. I was told these were excuses and/or made up for laziness. It took us over 10 years, but she knows that mindset is wrong. Unfortunately, it's a generational casualty in my family.
Load More Replies... Jeri Woodrow 3 years ago
You just can’t let it get the best of you, though. People who are depressed sleep a lot already and find it hard to function throughout the day. Just limit yourself to one session of 24 hours, no more.
RedMarbles 3 years ago
If the one 24-hour session is sufficient, sure. If it isn't, seek further help and don't blame yourself for being unable to keep it from getting the best of you. It certainly appears that mental health issues are not often something that can be made to go away simply by deciding not to let it get the best of you.
Load More Replies... 𝙸'𝚖𝚊𝚗𝚘𝚘𝚋!(new account) 3 years ago
what about the people that have strict parents that won't even allow them to take a 5 minute nap? Cause that's me, I'm one of those people. I couldn't do half of the listed things above even if I wanted to with all my heart and soul.
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Randolph Croft 3 years ago
ELE. I'm convinced I'm witnessing the beginning of a genuine ELE. And no, I'm not kidding.
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Keara Ritson 3 years ago
omg one time a cashier saw me buying 9 bars of chocolate and said "hey is everything ok do you need a friend i am here if you need me!" i broke down crying
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the engineer 3 years ago
no. its at the end of the track and its somehow still goin'
Load More Replies... Isabel Care 3 years ago
I try to have at least one thing positive each day. Might be a couple of minutes watching squirrels, a few seconds relief that a fart was unaccompanied and lessened pain of trapped wind, listening to my fave music. Staying asleep for 34 hours straight (no longer possible due to having to wake for medication)
Keara Ritson 3 years ago
i have no doubt i wont live the life i want im always trying to be perfect all the time that i cry and have mental break down trying to be perfect and get a "im very proud of you" but it never happens
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Mega Gay 3 years ago
It hurts every time my Gma tells me I'm a ' stick' or I ' eat like a bird '. I know that, and I try to gain weight but it's hard. Overweight is not the only possible issue with weight, and I wish more people would understand that
Bexx 🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦 3 years ago (edited)
Mega I get you, I’m underweight and it’s so jarring to be having a normal conversation with someone and then suddenly they bring up your weight. It’s so rude to comment on how you personally think anyone’s body looks, I wish more people understood that too. I get a lot of comments at work and I’m getting tired of them and they’re starting to affect me, “haha she turned sideways where’d she go?” “Oh you’re eating a burger, did you offer Becki some cause she needs it!” Etc. I have enough issues with my body, thanks for reminding me how weird I still look.
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Ephemeral Mochi 3 years ago
This is me, except people treat me like a genius when they want work out of me, and like an idiot when I want a break
Jon Steensen 3 years ago
It is so common that it has gotten its own name: Imposter syndrom... when it happens it is important to remember that that is probably also the case for everybody else. We simply cannot master everything at once, and that is completely normal. Many people get a bit shocked when they get their first "real" job and realise that a lot of people around them does not really know what they are doing either, and hence they try stupid s**t in order to figure out what works. Furthermore, when you do not feel perfect, remember that you rarely get to see other people's dirty laundry, and that they may be wearing a mask as well.
Helen Haley 3 years ago
I know and can do boatloads of things. But I'm a jack of all trades in a world that wants specialists with degrees. So I'm almost unemployable
Benita Valdez 3 years ago
I hate this so much. I'm nearly 40 and I still try to argue with people that no, I'm not that smart I just know stuff and excel at randomness. I'm just average, don't expect more.
Nela Rothenbach 3 years ago
I get praised for my effectiveness a lot....I'm only trying to get as much time to myself as possible really
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MarmotArchivist 3 years ago
For me, I have a jolly old time after 9pm, but I wouldn't reflect on my life before 7am.
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Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago (edited)
I have apologised many times to my kids. I'm not perfect and have made many mistakes.
Justreading 3 years ago
Same. I'll never forget saying to one of my kids "I'm sorry I yelled at you, I was having a bad day and it was not fair of me to take it out on you." The hug I received from them after that was life changing. Never be too proud to admit when you're wrong!
Load More Replies... Chloe *Leah* Pheonix 3 years ago
A lot adults feel like they are bigger ad stronger and older and thereforethey dont have to apologize to kids and that mindset is disqusting
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Megzymonsta 3 years ago
This is so relatable. I never planned to live into my 20s and now I'm 31, my life never got any better and I've achieved literally nothing but life just keeps happening
Jeri Woodrow 3 years ago
I bet you have touched more lives than you know. In spite of having depression/anxiety, I still love ❤️ people (I just don’t socialize as much as I used to) I smile at everyone and I am very kind to others. It makes me feel good and I hope it makes the person on the receiving end feel good, too.
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angry_waffle 3 years ago
this is really relatable. i didn't plan to live until 13 and now i dont know what to do
Donna Clanclan 3 years ago
I did both at the same time. Neither happened. I've been now-what-ing for several decades.
Katharina Sit 3 years ago
I am 31 and I thought I wouldn't make it till 28. So now everyday is a wonderful surprise. I am now in a much better place ❤
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Kimi Tomminello 3 years ago
😉 start punching back. Tell people exactly that before telling them to eff off.
Bexx 🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦 3 years ago (edited)
When you’re exhausted by “strength”, that just sounds even more exhausting. I don’t want to punch back. I want softness. I want ease. I want to relax in the shade and know that no one is going to sneak up and punch me in the ribs while I’m not looking. I don’t want to be tough, I want to breathe.
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Jeri Woodrow 3 years ago
WOW 🤩 This was so powerful to me. I’ve always been considered the “strong” one, always helping others, never myself and I’m having a hard time with this one.
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Busy Panda 3 years ago (edited)
They might allow you to take sick leaves for your mental health. But the number of leaves you take, the amount of works you do, will be considered heavily for salary increase or promotion. And "unproductive" employees will be the first to go when they have to reduce work force.
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Jeri Woodrow 3 years ago
That’s a great affirmation, I’d like to start using it. Be patient with yourself. These things didn’t happen overnight and they take awhile to heal. Give yourself all the time you need.
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Ranger Kanootsen 3 years ago
Same. I grew to full maturity at around seven years old.
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Justreading 3 years ago
I seen this recently in two of my kid's classmates. They went from happy-go-lucky kids to mini adults in just a matter of months due to trauma, you can almost see the load they are carrying. My heart breaks for them. Please let kids to be kids!
UDERSERVELOVE! 3 years ago
Im thirteen. So many people have told me that I act like a twenty year old. Ya know why? Because I'm obsessive, compulsive, already planning my life. I have contemplate suicide multiple times. I have a therapist who helps but I was doing so good we went to once a month and I need her again. I can't not have someone to talk to and I'm reading this and sobing on the bathroom floor at 10:10 pm when I went to bed at six because I was tired and I realize I'm ranting and this post is already a month old so no one will probably see this and care but I need to say Smith.
Dee 3 years ago
I see and I care, offering virtual hugs and hoping things have gotten better for you. I think you deserve love too xx
Load More Replies... 𝙸'𝚖𝚊𝚗𝚘𝚘𝚋!(new account) 3 years ago
I don't know why, but when I read this I started crying...because this is soo me. It feels good to be seen
Isabel Care 3 years ago
I was one of those kids, now I'm a child like playful adult. Quite likely to blow raspberries when people are acting like Karens. I also shout "Charge" and pretend to aim at people who are too busy on their phones to not walk into me in my wheelchair
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Nope 3 years ago
I don't like saying "I'm good" since I'm not, so I reply with something that translates to "coping" and is kinda informal, literally means "pulling". I often get a "uh don't say that!" to what I reply "You asked, I'm just being honest." Most times they don't ask further, I hate that greeting because when you reply with your real feelings people get mad and really don't care about what you're going through. I'm tired of faking to be ok when I clearly am not.
Izzy 3 years ago
For me I've kinda just developed the reflex to say "I'm fine" I hate it
Load More Replies... Jon Steensen 3 years ago
I hate how that has become kind of a superficial greating. Just say hello, instead of pretending that you care for me. You should never ask that question, unless you are prepared to have you sweater soaked in snot and spend an hour doing some serious mental reparation work for another human being. It can be poking the dragon's tail, and most people don't even realise that that is what they are doing, but think that they are just being nice. It is question that some people cannot answer totally honest, as it is often asked at a time where an honnest answer, and the fall out of such a thing, will be totally inapropriate. So you risk putting someone in situation where they must choose between lying or making a scene, which is kind of a loose-loose situation. Asking people how they are doing is a far more personal question to some, than you might think.
Katherine Boag 3 years ago
YES THIS WAS ME AT WORK at the height of my depression. cause if I let my feelings in I'd have to have a big ol cry and maybe a breakdown
the engineer 3 years ago
this is why i just respond with: cant you see? CANT YOU SEE THAT IM SAD! IM HAVING A BAD DAY JUST LEAVE ME ALONE
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Katherine Boag 3 years ago
This is good actually, lets you get a bit of venting done while not overburdening your friends/letting them relax after with a meme
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Sharron Lindsay 3 years ago
I found lockdown and masks really difficult during covid because it sent my hyper-vigilance into hyper drive.
Scagsy 3 years ago (edited)
Understandable. What's weird is I went the opposite way. Lockdown felt like a weight being lifted because there were no longer the same social pressures to go out.
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Scagsy 3 years ago
I don't want to come across as a gatekeeper or anything, but the definition of having a breakdown is being unable to carry out normal tasks. You can't just 'put it off' until it's convenient. Can you?
Sabrina Fisher 3 years ago
Sometimes letting the breadown happen just ramps up the anxiety. The other night I was working and it was a horrendous night had a massive fight with my husband and I spiraling out of control but I had to finish my shift because I needed the pay for bills. So I worked for the next 3 hours then when I went home I locked myself away and cried/slept for 14 hours. Rescheduling sometimes has to happen
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Jeri Woodrow 3 years ago
OR have you rescheduled your life (doctor appointments, dentist appointments, lunch with friends, etc., etc., etc.) because your depression is so strong it prevents you from doing regular things??
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Bexx 🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦 3 years ago (edited)
SAME. I hope we can both find our true selves :) rooting for you.
Load More Replies... athornedrose 3 years ago
i vacillate between wanting to heal and feeling like the ability to heal would mean i was just being pathetic and should never have been affected by the trauma in the first place. i know too many people who see any form of healing as invalidating the trauma and i just don't know that i can handle that
Benita Valdez 3 years ago
Read these comments darling. They support you and healing. I completely understand what you're saying and it is tough. once you get over that hump and start healing you will see there is no shame feeling either way; its really hard to get over that stupid hump though. What can help is forums with others trying to heal; the anonymity really makes it easier. Whatever you need to heal from, having others to chat with or just reading their posts can help you see others struggle like you with the same thing. The other commentors here; support and compassion. No shame asking for help and no shame wanting to heal. Healing does not invalidate you or your trauma. Know that atleast this one stranger supports you and would never invalidate you or your trauma or your desire to heal.
Load More Replies... Kate Jones 3 years ago
It's very easy to give in to depression because it becomes this expected thing where you're almost surprised when you have moments of being happy. You think 'oh maybe I'm getting better. Maybe I'm not depressed. Maybe I'm just having a bad day.' But the happy never stays and it's worse when it goes. It's like if you're starving and someone gives you a tiny bit of something. You want more and know you can't have it and you almost wish you never got that bite because it made the hunger even worse. And that's how depression is, too. You get more comfortable in the grey space than the happy space because it's safer than hoping for the happy to stay.
Kimi Tomminello 3 years ago
As someone who has been on this side of the struggle and made it to the other side please use tools like therapy and help groups. Start journaling your therapy sessions as a memoir to keep from feeling like your trauma is becoming invalidated. Speak with your doctor or psychiatrist about whether medication would benefit you while you're going through the most intense therapy sessions. Don't be afraid to switch therapists if the one you're seeing is not on the same page as you. Most of all understand that there are those around you that want you to feel whole again, instead of a victim and they will help you if tu just teach out.
Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago
That would feel awful. I WANT to heal more than anything. I am really actually trying to make an effort and look at the positives. It's extremely difficult but my hope of healing is keeping me going.
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Katie Lutesinger 3 years ago
I remember being about four years old and crying in terror because I had just seen my first big waterfall and it was loud and scary. Everything is so big when you're that age, and so many things are confusing and intimidating, plus you're basically defenceless. When you keep that in mind, it makes sense that little kids scream and cry and get upset over things that seem trivial to you.
Keara Ritson 3 years ago
i remember one time being 6 and having a breakdown because i saw a turkey vulture land in my front yard while i was on the porch i thought it was huge and was gonna come inside pick up my dog and fly away and then it came closer and pecked my bare foot and i screamed bloody murder.
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Scagsy 3 years ago
I had a therapist that called it 'Pressing the 'fck it' button'. You know it's gonna end badly, but fck it anyway. Here I go.
Aroace tiger (she/they/he) 3 years ago
That's me and it doesn't give a good representation of me
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Damitria 3 years ago
Being a writer I get this. It means we reached someone and hopefully made some kind of difference
Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago (edited)
We also turned to Drs, Psychologists, Psychiatrists, Pharmacists, Chocolate suppliers etc lol. So I don't quite understand his point.
KiwiBubbles 3 years ago
This just made me burst into tears in a way I can't tell if it's sad or happy. For all of elementary school I wanted to be a teacher, because I was happy and teachers were the people who helped give me that through their profession. I kept that aspiration through middle school because I didn't know what else to do, even though middle school was pretty hard. When I reached high school my mom pointed out to me that maybe I shouldn't try to be a teacher because at that point I hated school. My struggle with depression in high school... Artists were the only people who kept me going and gave me happiness. And that has to be why I want to try to be an artist now. To help the people in their darkest times like others helped me. This is at least the second time bored panda has given me important realizations about my life so thank y'all
Isabel Care 3 years ago
I found that pictures of Stephen Lang in Avatar could derail a negative train of thought. The really surprising thing was finding myself wanting to sketch or sculpt him, not breed. I can't draw to save my life, but urge to draw has saved it. I could also go to Glen Coe to reset my brain, but it's a 12 hour drive. My nearest outdoor "recovery" place is no longer accessible as it's walking up steep slopes over very rough ground, not possible in my wheelchair (yet).
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Scagsy 3 years ago
'So, you have PTSD? You should come with me to Pilates and do some Hot Rock Therapy'. Yes. Yes I should. I had been wondering what the problem was and you seem to have found the solution. Thank-you Brian. I shall notify the NHS.
Mette Stenersen 3 years ago
THIS! And people who are just a bit tired mentally telling people (like me) that they know how it feels dealing with severe depression. Two completely different things!
PPPanda 3 years ago
You don’t know what they are privately dealing with, either. It might be best to not judge them and show the same compassion you would like to have.
Load More Replies... Bexx 🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦 3 years ago
Hey my coworkers were wondering where I was on Saturday and I missed work because I tried to kill myself. It didn’t work and I woke up in the corner of the room really f****d yo. Took a day and a half to put myself together and came back this Monday. “Where were you we were calling you?” How do you even explain that. Anyways I’ve told these guys nothing
Benita Valdez 3 years ago
It's very hard to get comfortable some times. One of the best ways to talk comfortably is online in a forum about mental health. You can feel secure with the anonymity which can possibly help you start feeling a little easier talking about more openly offline. If ever you feel you need to talk to someone, go and just let it out. You may get some trolls but you can find people like me and other commenters here who feel like you do, can relate and don't judge you.
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the engineer 3 years ago
i will always need more blankets. and pillows. and sweaters. and fluffy things. and fidgets. and.......................................
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DennyS (denzoren) 3 years ago
Only recently have I had to explain to someone why I leave gatherings early and undetected. I've run out of energy and I being to feel overwhelmed so I need to go home and sit in the dark, alone and listen to some tunes to feel better.
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Raven DeathShade 3 years ago
I am currently close to crying while on the couch with two very loving chihuahuas snuggling with me. They are not mine. I am not in my house XD.
Queen Shay 3 years ago
Yeah I’ve cried a couple time and I’m working lol I’ll read a post FEEL it, cry, take a call so I stop crying then come back and read a post and go thru it all over again. Snuggle those puppies!!
Load More Replies... Busy Panda 3 years ago
I am afraid to feel because it hurts. Liberation is not guaranteed, but the hurt sure is there waiting.
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Firstname Lastname 3 years ago
As messed up as it sounds, while I wouldn't be healed, I'd feel better knowing that her death meant that she couldn't cause future damage.
Raven DeathShade 3 years ago
Mine knows what she did, she feels guilt, she has changed, but now all I want to do sometimes is hurt her in revenge for how she hurt me. It's unfair, but I can't stop it. I can avoid hurting her, though.
Karen Lyon 3 years ago
I have an SIL who has to deal with this. The mother in question has three grown grandchildren and two great-grandchildren she has literally never seen. She will never take responsibility for the wrecked relationships and blames it all on my SIL and her siblings. Just thinking about it makes me angry.
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JACKSON NIESE 3 years ago
The top 2 are them when they're on camera, the bottom 2 are... well...
IzaCoder 3 years ago
I need to make one of those... except i have like 1 friend... yeah super large group XD
Load More Replies... Isabel Care 3 years ago
We text with no expectation of a quick reply. It's to let them know they are loved without any pressure. A reply will be sent when coherent thought is possible again
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the engineer 3 years ago
...thank you for understanding, machine. you have no idea how much i needed that.
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Jon Steensen 3 years ago
however many people who have not delt with a depression cannot relate to it, and hence they cannot understand what you are going through, and hence they can have a hard time accepting the limitions that it puts on people. Having to constantly hear bad advice like "chear up", "just put on a smile", "why don't you just run a mile -that always cheers me up" etc. can feel like such a big burden that many people find it easier to just stay away from the subject all togheter, in order to avoid the feeling of being so alone in their "wierdness".
Isabel Care 3 years ago
And you are not a burden for having to cancel at the last minute. I have told off my friends for constantly apologising for things out of their control. Their families' have berated them for it. We make plans knowing that we will check with each other on the day to make sure all is well, or reschedule as needed, no bitching about it. It is not something within anyone's control
LaToya Mack 3 years ago
Facts. AND i’m action oriented and results driven so don’t do me more than twice for the same issue, I’m not that type of support. Do indeed reach out to me when you’re ready to fix it though I got you
#100
3 years ago
I'm with ya on this one. "You're so good at making friends, don't worry!" - My mom. Um... no, I'm not actually. taking my anxiety, depression, ADD and ADHD, and introversion into account, I'm really not.
AnxietyRiddenMom 3 years ago
I had a best friend since I was 11. Long story short, she cut me off about five years or so ago for a dude. I watched her kids being born, she was literally more like a sister than my sister and now all that's gone and I cannot invest in another person and risk hurt like this again.
𝙸'𝚖𝚊𝚗𝚘𝚘𝚋!(new account) 3 years ago
Sometimes I like to do nothing with them and just hang out together in silence. Sometimes their presence is all I need. Sadly I haven't found someone like that...yet
#101
Jon Steensen 3 years ago
yes but sometimes you have to chill in order to be able to do just half of what is on there. Rest will have to come sooner or later no matter what you do, and it is better to do it in a controlled manor that e.g. falling asleep behind a steering wheel and crash into a young couple and their kids.
Bexx 🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦 3 years ago (edited)
Great idea but you completely missed the point of this post . The point was not being able to relax because you have too much to do as a parent. “Yeah but sometimes you have to chill” uhhh sounds great if you’re a teenager but for most of us, no we can’t because it’s a CONSTANT reminder that we might not be able to survive. We’re trying so hard to survive, it’s not as simple as Facebook. “Rest will have to come sooner or later”whoever came up with that line doesn’t have kids I guarantee. cause I see too many mothers struggling to get their groceries each day and they don’t get time to “rest.” Who has time for that? We can’t just “chill?” Like OP said. Resting is great in theory, sounds wonderful, but the point of the post loop was that, at least for most of us, the grind never ends. The “rest” part sounds dreamy 😂 But OP’s point is that the majority of us can’t just rest like that without there always being something that needs doing, something expected of you, one problem after another to fix. Rest sounds wonderful and a very good suggestion but wasn’t that the point of the problem? If all these exhausted mothers could just “rest” and not have to be the primary caregiver all the time I bet they’d be more relaxed too.
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Raven DeathShade 3 years ago
I do this, my sister copied me once to make fun of me and said "Oh wait, this actually helps". Yes, Sarah. That's why I do it.
Camilo's Bestie 3 years ago
I get in trouble for that with my parents :/ it is called "addittude"
Jo Johannsen 3 years ago (edited)
I'm not showing an exasperated attitude, I'm girding my loins for the next challenge.
#103
Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago (edited)
I am often told I'm too polite by quite a few people. This doesn't include my anger outbursts though. But I'm talking about politeness like letting people cut in front of me, open doors for people, always moving out the way for syndrome coming the opposite directing, use my manners, apologise for everything, asking are you sure all the time, asking someone a huge favour when in fact it's small etc.
Bexx 🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦 3 years ago
My coworker (in a different department that I cover in like twice a year) always says “you’re so polite on the phone can you just take all our phone calls lol” I wanna show him this meme
#104
𝙸'𝚖𝚊𝚗𝚘𝚘𝚋!(new account) 3 years ago
yea, my overthinking self saw that from a mile away. Started in middle school, still continues to this day. I always get sad that I have to be ok with people who will probably leave eventually
#105
Abha Srivastava 3 years ago
Precisely all the things I am constantly apologising for, then getting mad BECAUSE I am apologising, followed by deep doubts about whether I have it all wrong as usual, and those who want an apology are always right... sheesh...what a cycle.
Bexx 🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦 3 years ago
We like you just the way you are Abha 🧡 don’t you dare feel the need to apologize for anything
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#106
athornedrose 3 years ago
yeah but this is super high stress for those of us with toxic dependent parents who were expected to constantly feed our parents ego from the time we could talk. when people start expecting that when you're 4, it's easy to feel like the person you're talking to doesn't believe you or trust you, and that has an emotional cost.
Katherine Boag 3 years ago
Sometimes two people are not a good match because they have competing needs, so its ok if you cant be close to those people
Load More Replies... Busy Panda 3 years ago
I have literally pushed my ex away because I constantly tested his feeling and held my affection for him. I hope he found a better partner than I was. But I'm afraid to start a new relationship again, regardless how lonely I am sometimes.
#107
Jon Steensen 3 years ago
... and no one will understand it anyway, but will just give bad advice instead.
Raven DeathShade 3 years ago
I feel like a broken record sometimes, and others I feel like I'm hogging all the attention.
#108
Jon Steensen 3 years ago
or to each other for that matter. Thinking that your parents like/love one of your siblings more than you, can litterally ruin a life in a single sentence, requirering years of theraputic work to repair what was broken in seconds.
Kimi Tomminello 3 years ago
I will never take credit for my children's accomplishments. I will never deny my children mental health care. They sound like 2 completely different things but they are 100% in the same boat.
the engineer 3 years ago
i will never EVER just leave my children alone to "help get yourself together". you cant pick yourself up if youre already shattered.
TrickQuestion 3 years ago
I won't tell my child every day that they're worthless and that they'll never be loved.
Camilo's Bestie 3 years ago
If I have kids I won't shove everything on the oldest then guilt them into growing up then yell at them for not being like their siblings.
Isabel Care 3 years ago (edited)
Having kids at all. My siblings and I have decided that the bloodline ends with us. Cousins on one side have decided the same
Haley S 1 year ago
I'm ending the cycle of alcoholics on both sides of my bio-parents. No 5 year old girl should have to take care of their younger sibling and themselves because their mom is too drunk even to sit up. And no 13 year old girl should have to take care of their dad so he doesn't choke on their puke.
Busy Panda 3 years ago
I don't have children. My mom is toxic and my dad abandoned us since I was little. The cycle stops with me.
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Scagsy 3 years ago
That summed up this thread nicely, I think. Good luck and don't die, fellow pandas.
Queen Shay 3 years ago (edited)
It really does doesn’t it? this thread is a whole group therapy session.
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Lindsey Jonasen 3 years ago
The annoyances of being a highly sensitive person. It can be so hard to explain to people that don't have experience with it
DarkenedSoul36 2 years ago
I once noticed that a close friend of mine seemed to care a bit more AFTER I showed Him a personal Google doc I was using to vent, and I've felt guilty about it since.
#115
Donkey boi 3 years ago
I never understood why people ask that. It makes no logical sense. You can see that they're not ok. It make more sense to ask 'What's wrong', or 'Can I help', surely?
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DennyS (denzoren) 3 years ago
That's why the little "I'm glad you could make it" helps a lot. I don't get that but I've seen it happen. Lol
Donkey boi 3 years ago
Well I'm glad you made it onto here to share your comment/suggestion so that others (like myself) might learn.
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Black Pearl 🇺🇦 3 years ago
This was... I feel very called out. I've been having a lot of problems recently. Good to know I'm not alone I guess.
Nope 3 years ago
I relate to most of these, I'm more f'ed up than I thought, which was quite a lot. Virtual hugs to all of you, I'll go hug a plushie or something, I need some comfort...
Wonderful 3 years ago
What is that called when your sitting and everything’s normal and then all of a sudden everything is rushing at you. The noise, the colors the fan in the other room. Wind outside, dog sleeping next to me, everything is rushing at me and then the feeling goes away in around 5-10 minutes. But while it’s happening it feels like forever. Stop the rushing. Stop everything During the rush my heart feels like it wants to leave my body. Sound is waaay more acute. I get shakes and I can’t pay attention to anyth8ng because everything is rushing into me. It makes my arms and legs want to spaz out but also doing that might hurt so I don’t do it. But once it stops it’s like it never happened. I get these at least 3 times a week. It’s like in the movie jaws when he sees the shark attack and the camera pans into the main characters face while it pans out everything around him. Vertigo style filming but in me.
Black Pearl 🇺🇦 3 years ago
This was... I feel very called out. I've been having a lot of problems recently. Good to know I'm not alone I guess.
Nope 3 years ago
I relate to most of these, I'm more f'ed up than I thought, which was quite a lot. Virtual hugs to all of you, I'll go hug a plushie or something, I need some comfort...
Wonderful 3 years ago
What is that called when your sitting and everything’s normal and then all of a sudden everything is rushing at you. The noise, the colors the fan in the other room. Wind outside, dog sleeping next to me, everything is rushing at me and then the feeling goes away in around 5-10 minutes. But while it’s happening it feels like forever. Stop the rushing. Stop everything During the rush my heart feels like it wants to leave my body. Sound is waaay more acute. I get shakes and I can’t pay attention to anyth8ng because everything is rushing into me. It makes my arms and legs want to spaz out but also doing that might hurt so I don’t do it. But once it stops it’s like it never happened. I get these at least 3 times a week. It’s like in the movie jaws when he sees the shark attack and the camera pans into the main characters face while it pans out everything around him. Vertigo style filming but in me.
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