Life is full of ups and downs. So when Reddit user Unorthodox69 made a post on the platform, asking its users "What's a sad truth you've come to accept?", many felt like sharing.
Whether we look at the answers about things outside of our control, like other people's thoughts, opinions, and behaviors, or our own mistakes, they serve as reminders that sometimes, no matter how good our intentions are, it just doesn't work out.
However, acceptance is genuinely an important first step in getting past uncomfortable situations. So at least they're not lying to themselves, right?
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The next generation is already set up for failure. Good and rational people are no longer having kids. Idiots and bigots are reproducing like anything.
Idiocracy used to be a dark comedy. Now it's a documentary.
Just because someone is family doesn't mean they have your best interest in heart.
No matter how good you are at your job, you are disposable and replaceable.
My ego was so big when I was younger I thought I could never be fired and the company would suffer if I were to quit. A friend of mine asked me "has a company ever gone out of business because you were gone??" Slapped me back to reality. Thank you Tom 😊
You can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped.
Sometimes people have to hit their rock bottom before they want help. For some, rock bottom becomes a comfort and they never will want to be helped. At that point, just accept that's how they want to live. Nothing much more you can do about it, other than leave.
Social media has destroyed our mental health and society, but it also is Pandora's Box. There's no putting this lid back on.
never fall in love with someone twice, the second time you'll be falling for the memories
Hard work does not equal success.
Moral of the story: don't work hard unless there's something in it for you. And don't expect others to work hard.
The narcissists in your family will never give you the apology you deserve.
They will sooner throw you under the bus and make you wish you were never born before they ever admit to doing you wrong.
Love isn’t enough to make a relationship work.
Yeah I think this is one of the saddest realizations, that love isn't enough. Really sucks to get there
Very few people in life will ever give a s**t about you.
That a few dozen people can destroy us all because they don't like each other.
Greed is the underlying cause of a lot of the world's suffering as it allows people to justify doing horrible things
"I'm paying for this..." Whenever I hear this, I think of manipulation and exploitation. Doesn't matter the context. When people say s**t like that all consideration for the human aspect has gone out the window.
The biggest pieces of s**t will usually get away with it.
Unless I win the lottery, I have no chance of retirement. When im too old to work, I'll have to choose between homelessness or a dignified exit
I really can't buy my old dog much more time. She's still happy and doing dog stuff, but she's losing weight and having a hard time getting around. I talked to a mobile vet about end of life planning for her but I really don't want to accept it. I love my doggo.
I am so very sorry and I wish you strength and peace. Doggos are truly the best.
My family was never close. I got more support from my service dog. When he died, I became suicidal. It was my current dog who saved my life. She's almost 14 and in poor health. I don't know what I'm going to do when she dies.
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I'm so sorry. I just went through that agony with my sidekick of 13 years Finster who died in March of congestive heart failure. I'll say what my vet said, monitor symptoms, keep up medications and if he appears distressed or lethargic bring him in. I made arrangements for euthanasia at the dog beach for when the time came. Finster was frisky as ever the night before he died. But I knew time was short. I cooked him chicken and rice. The next morning for the first time he was struggling. I tried to pick him up but as usual he refused and walked to the car on his own. I rushed to the vet a block away but he was gone before I pulled into the lot. The heartbreak was unimaginable, but I know he didn't suffer. HE squeezed out every minute, gave it his all and slipped away. no pain, no sound. In my lap, in the car, where he loved to be. and I was grateful for every second. I guess what I'm trying to say is Nothing will make it hurt less, but ensuring they go in peace gives some peace.
Many years ago a pregnant stray cat showed up on my doorstep. I named her Ragamuffin - being long-hair she was rather scruffy - and took her in. She had five kittens, all of which found good forever homes. I had Ragamuffin fixed, and she was my companion for 17 wonderful years before passing peacefully in her sleep. I will always miss her.
Load More Replies... Let her go. It's the most humane thing to do. My mom had recently put her ailing her horse down because she couldn't see him surviving another winter. Might not have lived to see fall, anyways. He lived a good, happy life. It was hard on my mom but it would have been harder seeing her horse suffer and that guilt would have stuck with her for the rest of her life.
When I went to the barn the day after my mare died - never in any pain - I came into the barn to find the manager standing by a stall. She looked at me and said, I wish I had more owners like you. This horse is sick and in pain and needs to be put down, but his owners "cant bear" to lose him. It broke my heart to lose my mare, but it was her time. Selfish owners.
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Letting her go when life is too painful is a great way to show your love. It means that you are selfless and caring, no matter how much it hurts you. Dogs' lives are far too short!
My lab is 14 and I don't know how I'm going to make it without him. He's been there since I was a child and has helped me through all of my struggles. I don't think I'm in a place where I can lose him, but I know his time is soon. I really wish dogs lived so much longer.
When the end comes, be with him, comfort him and give him all your love. After they, give yourself time to heal, and when you are ready give another dog the opportunity to live a wonderful life. Nothing will replace this dog, but you will find another good soul to give you more strength and love.
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When my chihuahua died I couldn’t bear it, she was one of my only friends, and when my cats and dog die I’ll have to go through it all over again
But you shared years of happiness and you gave them a beautiful life. Losing a dog/cat is sad, but it's the price we have to pay to enjoy their love and loyalty. When the time comes, set them free.
Load More Replies... In the end you will know when it's right. Our loved pets unlike humans with medical care, don't have to go through it all, we can set them free before the extreme end of life symptoms occur. The fact that you are talking with the vet about it is actually beautiful. Whether you can face it or not now, at the time you will because you are preparing. I'm so very sorry for your situation 💔❤️
We lost our beloved Husky fur baby Katy in December. We chose to have the vet come to the house so as a family we could love on her and be next to her right to the end. It was one of the best decisions I made, which was that it was so peaceful and private. We were able to comfort Katy in her favorite spot outside (she loved to sun bathe). The vet was compassionate and patient. I miss Kate, but I am glad she's not suffering 😔
Before we decided to put our horse down someone asked me, "Can you buy her (quality) time or just time?" This has stuck to me ever since and helped me through many decisions that had to be made for my animals. My horse had more and more trouble walking, getting up, standing on three legs for the ferrier. No medication did the trick. It was just time, not quality time.
Exactly. Quality of life, not quantity, that matters.
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I am in the same boat with my cat. We have been buddies for almost 20 years. He sleeps with me at night and he saved me from a depression so deep I didn't think I'd survive it. I work from home and take breaks just to lay down on the bed so we can cuttle. I know the day will come, and that dread is ruining these last few moments of happiness.
The pain from losing a dear family member (especially the pets) is always hard. The grief and heartache will be there. Nothing can replace them. The pain means you truly love them and they left an impact on you. It gets easier with time, and the pain is still real and the emotions are valid.
Nobody likes to let go BUT you don't want others to decide for you when it's your time, do you? When our pets suffer from age, it is time for us to carry them gently to the beginning of the rainbow bridge but they have to cross over alone and now......I gotta change my contact lenses, my fellow pandas...
If I didn't believe that my companions were waiting at the Bridge, I don't know what I'd do. Toby passed in 2009 and I still can't talk about him without crying.
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Sometimes just the knowledge that you did everything in your power to give your pet its best life is the only comfort you have in your time of grief.
I have always wished our pets lived longer. I have always had pets, and I love them all dearly, but watching them grow old and infirm, and then that last trip to the vet, even when I knew it was coming and even planned for it, still tears my heart to shreds, every single time. Yet, along comes another four-legged friend in need of rescue, and I start the whole process over again. I am such a sucker for punishment. But I would never not rescue and adopt an animal in need that crossed my path. I couldn’t bear knowing I might have been the only person who could’ve saved their life by rescuing them but didn’t do it, and maybe they died later that day. No, I just scoop them up and make them members of my family.
To ease her stiffness acupuncture is a great remedy. My vet offered this and it helped my cat so much. Loving thoughts to you both.
I have an old doggo that is having more trouble now. I know there will be a day, sooner rather than later that we will be dog-less. Trying not to get my keyboard wet now...
A friend once said to me: It is better to put a friend (dog, cat, horse...) down a day too early than a day to late! That has stuck with me!
Our senior cat had cancer and we spent 1-1/2 years in treatment for him, but it came back and had to make that heartbreaking decision. The vet came to our house and we sat on the back porch on a sunny afternoon and said goodbye. I miss him every day. Our furbabies are never with us long enough, but they remain in our hearts forever.
If she is eating and dinking water and not in pain, do nothing. My cat has lost 4 lbs. She weighed 11 and now 7, but she is still active, eating and drinking and not in pain, but she is 16 years old and I will not put her down until she tells me to, and she will. We communicate.
I love my cat too, and hopefully, she will die peacefully, to my regret.
I recently had to put my best friend down. He was a cat named Einstein and he was the best. I had a mobile service come to the house so he could just go to sleep in my arms. It was the hardest thing I've ever done in my life, bar none. But it was also one of the best things I've ever done in my life. I got to hold him calmly, him purring and happy because we were having some quality one on one. He died knowing I love him, he died at home so he didn't have the freaking stress that comes with a car ride to the vets, without the fear of what is happening and why. As expensive as it was I would happily spend a hundred times that to have him alive again.....
And the best things in this planet live very short lives. May explain why humans are living longer and longer
5 weeks today since we had to send our doggo to whatever is on the otherside. 13 years of love, fun, being a part of everything in our life. Such a loyal dog who embraced our 2 boys when they were born. Worst part is that her legs went and she couldn't stand up but mentally she was still the same dog. I'll never forget lying outside snuggling your ears and talking to you Dobe with the sun on our backs, birds singing as you took your last breath in our garden. Miss you Dobe
I understand it's one of the most difficult things to do, have the pet you love put to sleep. I've had to do it twice now. One cat was very old and was diagnosed with cancer. The vet told me to take her home and spoil her until she showed you she had had enough so I did. Last couple of days she was quiet and I took her outside and sat with her on the grass and she enjoyed the fresh air. Next morning I woke up to find her next to my bed and had messed herself and I knew her time had come so I called the vet and took her in. I sat holding her while the vet prepared the injection and my cat licked my arm as she always did to thank me, then she was gone. My other cat got bitten by a hedgehog, we think, and despite lots of money I didn't have spent on treatment she didn't get any better and the vet said it was time. Even with pain meds you could see she was still in pain so again I had to take another cat to be euthanized. It should be the humane thing to humans as well.
This hurts so much. It's been almost a year and my heart still cries. I found her towel mixed in with the laundry today...
Everything either dies or changes. If its alive it dies. If its inanimate it changes. Just do your best. Love and care for the living creatures in your life. For the the things in you life, dust them, clean them, fix and repair them. In all things when it their time to leave....do your best to let them go even when you are not ready for them to leave.
Have you gotten a second or even third opinion from other vets? If it's nothing serious than you can try giving a higher protein diet with toppers or maybe something like Dyne dog supplement. I would ask a vet about it first. I was just reading about older dogs who had trouble keeping weight on a few days ago.
Get a bird. You have to leave those f*****s to someone in your will.
The justice system in the US is absolutely f****d and nobody is looking out for you. If a cop, judge, DA, anyone decides they wanna f**k up your entire life, they can and there’s nothing you can do about it.
Well, you could be born rich, that's something. /sarc, because it's needed these days.
You’re never going to be good enough for some people.
On a related note; they’re not worth wasting time or energy on.
It doesn't matter how much you do for someone, they can and will walk out of your life. Let them
This f*cking terrifies me. One of my biggest fears in life is people just leaving because they can. And people have done it before. This keeps me up at night and makes me question every relationship. I know it's true but it hurts so much to be abandoned by someone you care about.
That my family did in fact hurt me and it wasn't my fault.
Gettin older, rusty, no longer able to do things i could when i was younger due to aging
It's always harsh. I lost being able to do a lot of things from illness. Life can be so cruel 😔
I spent my 20’s on a person who didn’t deserve me. I hate that I can’t get those young years back. Red flags are so fukn real. I’m so mad at myself.
You can't save someone from themselves. People trapped in self-destructive cycles like toxic relationships, substance abuse and criminality are drowning. They will drag you down with them if they can.
Until they are willing to admit that they have a problem, there is precious little you can do.
I am thought of as the "mother of the group", when someone has a problem i want to do everything in my power to save them. But I can't. Because they don't want to be saved, yet i feel responsible. You are your own person with your own emotions, they need to figure it out for themselves.
Your dreams and ambitions mean nothing without execution.
Like a good third of adults are still essentially children in grown up bodies.
It's OK to be lonely. But if you are lonely and act like it, it can be one of the most potent social repellents.
My 20s were wasted because I am too scared of making my family disappointed/angry with me. I did what they wanted but now I'm unhappy with my life.
You only get one life and this is it. Right now. The one you're currently living. Good, Bad, Or downright sucky, this is the only life you're gonna get
I demand a restart, so I won't make the same mistakes I did in my 20s
Friendships are like plants that have to be watered in order to stay alive. Sometimes we forget to water the plant or choose not to :(
Love can destroy your life just as much as it can brighten your life. You can go from waking up to the love of your life to waking up to the despair that they’re gone.
Since my brother died, no matter what happiness comes in my life, there will always be a hint of sadness that he’s not here to share it with.
Boom
It was Christmas a few years after my mom died. A friend took me to see "torch song trilogy". There was a scene near the end where the recently widowed mother comforts her newly widowed son. You may appreciate too. ..."Give yourself time, Arnold. It gets better... But, Arnold, it never goes away. You can work longer hours, adopt a son, fight with me, whatever... it'll still be there. But that's all right, it becomes a part of you, like learning to wear a ring or a pair of eyeglasses. You get used to it. And that's good. It's good, because it makes sure you don't forget. You don't want to forget him, do you?”
That I lost about 10 years to Depression and I will never get that time back.
I will always have mental health problems considering I have a lifelong disorder that have been present since my first memories. However, there is still a chance I can survive through adulthood and live a decent life with them if things go right. I have been in therapy for many years and things are still shaky in regards to whether those two things will be possible, but without therapy I wouldn't be here to write this comment.
I feel you, my friend. 3 years with panic disorder and its buddies (agoraphobia, thalassophobia, claustrophobia etc.). Out of the blue. Literally glues you to your home, and doctors are very happy to get you hooked up from one benzo to the other. Life is a struggle and i am aware that things will never be the same but I am certain I will eventually manage to live a normal-ish life.
The impact the pandemic had on my kids' education is permanent. There's no fixing it.
Nope. Parents that stepped up did their kids a solid. They turned out just fine.
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Whoever wrote this list, I hope someone talked them off the bridge, because this list is made by someone who just had a nasty breakup, or on serious depression. Life is just not that bleak. Love is awesome, friends are great, life is beautiful, get out and embrace the joy!
I dunno... it all is so very bleak at the moment. At least here in the US. Leadership that is only concerned with enriching themselves, allowing hate to flourish. Corporate ownership of the leaders, making everything too expensive. Complete disregard for the climate crises. It's about as bad as it can get. I fully expect armed rebellion after the next election cycle.
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Life sucks but to y'all feeling down after this, remember that puppies exist and are in the world right now, and you can look at videos of them or even foster some if you're financially capable
Puppies - yes, help if you can, BUT also remember cats who can be sneaky but adorable too.
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Oof. Anybody else off to search for kitten and puppy pictures now to cheer up?
You bet! Baraban-TV; Fluff Town; Buitengebieden; Geobeats animals; etc. Enjoy.
Load More Replies... Think about your most treasured possession be it your photos, some signed memorabilia or a collection of any kind.There's a good chance that when you die whatever it is will mean nothing to your heirs, who will get rid of it at the first opportunity, maybe even just trashing it.
That my husband will never cherish me or even be interested in what I'm thinking about or what I might want. That I have to tell him what to do for me. And even then he has to hide it it's an inconvenience. I didn't buy clothes or even underwear for years. I would love for him to even feign an interest in anything about me; much less to sparklingly ask me how I'm doing or what I've been taking out during the day, or even to say say hey where would you like to go on vacation this weekend... for him, I'm just a doormat or a piece of furniture. He bought me some jewelry because I kept complaining and pretty much made him but he couldn't care less about what I think or what I'm doing or what I might want to do or my Kohl's or whatever I want for us as a family doesn't care at all and this is a man who I've done so much for. i'm not sure I'm still here every day I have to jump off a bridge.
haha, not "my Kohl's," but "my goals," lol... I have a Quinn says they're more interested in what I think or what I'm interested in or what my goals are than my husband could ever be. I have to beg him for a complement of the beer him to buy food that I can eat it's really sad. Actually I'm not really sure why I'm still here except that we have a 17-year-old who is lovely and I'd like to make sure he does OK. He's the only person that my husband cares about. I keep waiting for him to care but he won't. He said he would tell his brother how is Buse of toward me but he won't do that either. I'm not really sure what to do. Please tell me to leave.
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And another: most of the people loudly lamenting that everyone around them is an idiot are themselves idiots. (Not directly aimed at you. Just in general.)
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You can do everything right, get bit by a tick in your prime and have a fever for 12 years straight and counting. End up losing your ability to work, parent your child or even hold your body upright. Your life is now your bed. A good day means you could take a shower. Meanwhile, the world keeps going, everyone goes on about their life, no one is freaked out that you're rotting away. Every extra cent is spent on trying to get well. No Drs are losing a wink of sleep.
Here's another truth some don't want to admit: the world is full of beauty. So much of what we see in media is negative because that's what gets the views, but don't ignore the beauty! It's all around us if you look for it. ❤️
My sad truth: everyone chose safety over freedom, and it happened so long ago that the choice was made for me at birth. I'll never experience true freedom
I'm still trying to figure out why so many people would think their lives would somehow be free from these things.
Next time I want to be this depressed, I'll read some suicide notes
Maybe YOUR life is awesome with all the ups and downs, but some other people's lives only have downs: mental illness, chronic illness, abuse, poverty, homelessnes... Not every person's life is "awesome".
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no matter how much someone means to you, someone else may not approve and keep you from seeing them. they tell you theyre not your family because theyre not your blood and they dont realize how much this person has done for your mental health. this person has saved your life more than once. but that other person is too stubborn because "theyre just a friend" "theyre just an old teacher" "theyre just an ex"
To any young person reading this. Life has always been a mixture of good and bad. is climate change a problem yes.. but think about humans 10000 years back.. ice age ? Volcanoes ? Mankind survived. Socioeconomic side ? Think about ww1 or ww2. While there are ups and downs, understand that if you see the big picture, humans have improved. While being aware of the dangers of world, and stupidity of people, dont lose hope.. usually, Life finds a way.
Whoever wrote this list, I hope someone talked them off the bridge, because this list is made by someone who just had a nasty breakup, or on serious depression. Life is just not that bleak. Love is awesome, friends are great, life is beautiful, get out and embrace the joy!
I dunno... it all is so very bleak at the moment. At least here in the US. Leadership that is only concerned with enriching themselves, allowing hate to flourish. Corporate ownership of the leaders, making everything too expensive. Complete disregard for the climate crises. It's about as bad as it can get. I fully expect armed rebellion after the next election cycle.
Load More Replies... Life sucks but to y'all feeling down after this, remember that puppies exist and are in the world right now, and you can look at videos of them or even foster some if you're financially capable
Puppies - yes, help if you can, BUT also remember cats who can be sneaky but adorable too.
Load More Replies... Oof. Anybody else off to search for kitten and puppy pictures now to cheer up?
You bet! Baraban-TV; Fluff Town; Buitengebieden; Geobeats animals; etc. Enjoy.
Load More Replies... Think about your most treasured possession be it your photos, some signed memorabilia or a collection of any kind.There's a good chance that when you die whatever it is will mean nothing to your heirs, who will get rid of it at the first opportunity, maybe even just trashing it.
That my husband will never cherish me or even be interested in what I'm thinking about or what I might want. That I have to tell him what to do for me. And even then he has to hide it it's an inconvenience. I didn't buy clothes or even underwear for years. I would love for him to even feign an interest in anything about me; much less to sparklingly ask me how I'm doing or what I've been taking out during the day, or even to say say hey where would you like to go on vacation this weekend... for him, I'm just a doormat or a piece of furniture. He bought me some jewelry because I kept complaining and pretty much made him but he couldn't care less about what I think or what I'm doing or what I might want to do or my Kohl's or whatever I want for us as a family doesn't care at all and this is a man who I've done so much for. i'm not sure I'm still here every day I have to jump off a bridge.
haha, not "my Kohl's," but "my goals," lol... I have a Quinn says they're more interested in what I think or what I'm interested in or what my goals are than my husband could ever be. I have to beg him for a complement of the beer him to buy food that I can eat it's really sad. Actually I'm not really sure why I'm still here except that we have a 17-year-old who is lovely and I'd like to make sure he does OK. He's the only person that my husband cares about. I keep waiting for him to care but he won't. He said he would tell his brother how is Buse of toward me but he won't do that either. I'm not really sure what to do. Please tell me to leave.
Load More Replies... And another: most of the people loudly lamenting that everyone around them is an idiot are themselves idiots. (Not directly aimed at you. Just in general.)
Load More Replies... You can do everything right, get bit by a tick in your prime and have a fever for 12 years straight and counting. End up losing your ability to work, parent your child or even hold your body upright. Your life is now your bed. A good day means you could take a shower. Meanwhile, the world keeps going, everyone goes on about their life, no one is freaked out that you're rotting away. Every extra cent is spent on trying to get well. No Drs are losing a wink of sleep.
Here's another truth some don't want to admit: the world is full of beauty. So much of what we see in media is negative because that's what gets the views, but don't ignore the beauty! It's all around us if you look for it. ❤️
My sad truth: everyone chose safety over freedom, and it happened so long ago that the choice was made for me at birth. I'll never experience true freedom
I'm still trying to figure out why so many people would think their lives would somehow be free from these things.
Next time I want to be this depressed, I'll read some suicide notes
Maybe YOUR life is awesome with all the ups and downs, but some other people's lives only have downs: mental illness, chronic illness, abuse, poverty, homelessnes... Not every person's life is "awesome".
Load More Replies... no matter how much someone means to you, someone else may not approve and keep you from seeing them. they tell you theyre not your family because theyre not your blood and they dont realize how much this person has done for your mental health. this person has saved your life more than once. but that other person is too stubborn because "theyre just a friend" "theyre just an old teacher" "theyre just an ex"
To any young person reading this. Life has always been a mixture of good and bad. is climate change a problem yes.. but think about humans 10000 years back.. ice age ? Volcanoes ? Mankind survived. Socioeconomic side ? Think about ww1 or ww2. While there are ups and downs, understand that if you see the big picture, humans have improved. While being aware of the dangers of world, and stupidity of people, dont lose hope.. usually, Life finds a way.
