50 Painfully Honest Posts From People Who Are Laughing Through Their Pain

I'm right there with you

This is me during school, except I don't even try to pretend to be happy/

This is me. Today.

i fifth this

Yep been there

Yeah, have a routine and keep moving no matter what.

My doctor calls me every 3 months to renew my prescriptions - the last time I left the house was to see him in Feb. of 2020.

I am very glad you're here. I think that even the connection we get from places like BP can help. I have been in strict lock down since November 2020, and though I am hoping for a surgery in the coming months that might change that, I have been shut in so long that it just feels right now. Some days, I don't even go outside. I get a feeling of connection from some of the exchanges on forums, and seldom feel lonely, but I have no energy, and very little joy these days. I am glad to know I am not alone.

Go outside to check the mail once a week. Stand outside and just look around for a bit. Doesn't have to be long. It's hard but I make sure I'm the one that takes the dog out so I at least spend 20 minutes outside each day. I know it's hard but even if you just open the door and stand there, that's something.

3 months is my personal record, the only person I saw was the delivery guy 2 m away from me... a few times

I agree whole-heartedly. The cat counts.

Staaahp with the blaming. As a borderline millenial I kick ass at DIY because I chose it to be interesting. The world is just too complex. Our parents are not saints that can teach you everything and anything, they set you up with what they think is important and they do their best. My youngest thinks it's incredibly interesting when I tile a floor or build a wall and is a social bug, my oldest couldn't care less and is dreaming of going to Europa. The moon near Mars. Not the continent. So is that the millenial's fault? That they chose what they find interesting? Or my mom's fault for giving them that extra boost of confidence as a typical boomer grandma? They are sweet and caring human beings, I think that's the best start.

I’m a Gen X’er raisers by a boomer who’s dad not only taught her to use power tools, but has no problem saying, “I love you…” 🤷🏽‍♀️

That is complete BS! I wanted to teach them but they were not interested at all; and my son is an engineer.

please hold the flashlight. Not like that!

I'm a "boomer" and have only daughters. Their dad had them in the garage "fixing" things from the iron to pulling engines out of cars. One can hold her own, the other is as helpless as a kitten. Their dad had no trouble saying he loved them and still does at the end of every meeting or phone conversation.

but you can not teach someone something unless they really want to learn!

My "teaching" was being yelled at while holding the flashlight. So I decided to get a good job where I can afford to pay someone else to do it while I play Animal Crossing with my daughter.

I don't know but I think the young did not wish to learn because they had much better things to amuse them.

Their fathers didn't teach them either. You people have no clue what a distant father is unless you had one from the "greatest generation". They learned these skills by trial and error, hanging around with each other fixing up their cars, working as carpenter's helpers or on farms when they were young, without being restricted by laws and having to get a work permit. And don't forget, back then, you could actually take a car apart and put it back together in a home garage. Cars today are so computerized even the dealer shop isn't allowed to just take a part out if there isn't an error code. Appliances were made to be repaired back then and you didn't need a city or HOA permit to knock out a wall in your house or build a shed. Finally, most boomers cannot build a computer from spare parts like my millennial son did or create streaming media. Different skills for different times.

Hard to teach a kid something when their nose is always glued to the phone.

I'm a boomer. My children were not interested in DIY projects, making models, wood working, etc. If they wanted to learn something, we taught them or found someone who could teach them. Also for the "Your Ghost Host" comment. My husband and I told our children all the time that we loved them. Our parents also told us that they loved us. I have no idea what was wrong with his/her parents.

My partner is a boomer (born 1950) and I'm not (1983). Our son gets loads of love and affection from him, and also learns cool things about building stuff.

More likely the children of boomers felt they had better things to do than help Dad.

THIS !!!!

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wrong generation

I agree. Most people who can do it learned most of it themselves. Working on building sites helped me.

I have still never heard it. I am almost 39.

Yes, yes, and yes again

Amen friend. Sometimes giving up on something is the right move, otherwise you're just gonna be stuck in a loop.

I get that, but doing the opposite of "hard work, persistence, and never giving up" will surely make things worse...

The advice that neurotypicals give that useless for neurodivergency like ADHD :D

I wrote my comment on the (currently) first post - the one starting with "Depression isn't always dark rooms..." - before reading yours. My therapist says it's a sort of coping mechanism. And that people don't fake being depressed; they fake being ok. Hugs.

Painfully true..

A lot of my family, friends, even colleagues always think I'm the funny and the "happy-bubbly-woman", the one always been there for others, and the one never had a problem in her life as I'm also known the woman always have a big smile on her face every day. If only they ask how I'm really doing, they'll be in for a surprise. When I was 14yo I was medically diagnosed if Bipolar I, severely depressed, high-anxiety, and borderline OCD. I'm in my early 40s now but same mindset, tomorrow will be a different day but the same problem.

That's probably the only positive of this affliction. ❤

So beautifully said.

Too true that!

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Then light your own candle and be happy.