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They say that the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. But what if the apple doesn’t just fall nowhere near the tree, but does everything to roll in the opposite direction? Because the truth is not all kids want to be mirror images of their parents, and when they grow up, they often want to be nothing like their mom and dad.

Speaking of moms, there is a TikTok creator who runs her hugely popular channel “Not Like My Mother.” With a whopping 8.2 million total likes, the TikToker Meesh has won hearts just by sharing hilariously accurate and painfully relatable videos in a series with the same name–Not Like My Mother.

“Healing with humor & new habits,” the description of Meesh’s TikTok channel says, adding that it’s “100% satire” and “100% truth.” Scroll down to see how the creator does everything not to copy her mother in various situations and walks of life, which will surely ring a bell to many of you there!

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2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

An alternative, if you are not using the washing machine every day, is to have bucket of water, with some disinfectant in the water. When you use a cloth drop it into the water. When the bucket is full, or you're doing a load of laundry, add the rags. If you are using a front loading washing machine, put the rags into a laundry bag.

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In order to find out what are the reasons why adult children don’t want to be like their parents, Bored Panda reached out to Emily Malamet, a clinical psychologist and psychotherapist from Paris Psychology Centre, who shared some very interesting insights.

Malamet told us that it can surely happen that certain adult children don’t want to behave like their parents. “It is possible that adult children had witnessed certain parental behaviors growing up that they didn’t appreciate or were harmful to their wellbeing or that of their family, and don’t want to recreate this in their own lives/or as future parents,” the clinical psychologist said.

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    Fxnglhl
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    my mom: just change your mindset! it's easy to just be happy!!!

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    Bluetoyou
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I cleaned my student tables with donated baby wipes. Same thing. Those wet soapy sponges look like they are cleaning but until you wipe the table after with a baby wipe you have no idea how dirty they still are. Art class. At the end of every class. An article I read of where kids get germs in school prompted this. It was a precovid article.

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    Moreover, certain individuals are afraid to be like their parents or engage in similar behaviors, Malamet said. “For some, early experiences with parental figures can leave emotional wounds, which are feelings which we were particularly sensitive to as children that may be easily triggered by others in the present.”

    Malamet explained that it is important for these individuals to work on being sensitive to experiences they may be triggered by, what others do that can trigger these reactions, and let those close to them know about it. “This is implies being assertive and letting others know what they may need. By doing what they couldn’t do as a child, they can work on repairing these old emotional wounds.”

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    LK
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In my country, you can take expired or surplus medication to a pharmacist, and they will safely dispose of it. It's is not a good idea to put it into the bin/trash.

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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There is absolutely nothing wrong with have emergency food. In fact, it's recommended.

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    When asked what are the reasons why some grown-up children decide to cut off their parents, Malamet said that there are many of them, but the most common reasons are (but are not limited to): “abuse and neglect during childhood, difference in opinions, having previously felt controlled by their parents, perceived lack of support, having been put in unsafe environments by their parents growing up, high expectations from their parents, mental health issues (being experienced by the adult child or their parent), traumatic events experienced with their parents growing up, parental divorce, or favoritism towards one child in the family,” the clinical psychologist concluded.

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    DforDory
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree in case the old one is not used or it is not wearable anymore.

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    DforDory
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What did she even inspect it for? Just curious.

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    FlatEarf
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh this whole thing must be fake I guess, that's not possible

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    As the generations progress, it’s natural for adults to want to separate themselves from their parents. With the ever-changing world, it’s difficult for adults to stay connected with their parents' values and experiences.

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    Adults today are faced with a unique set of challenges that are vastly different from their parents’ experiences. This can make it difficult to relate to their parents, and it can also create a sense of disconnect when it comes to values and beliefs.

    Just think of how much technology and the internet changed the way we communicate, learn, and work. Meanwhile, the job market has shifted, with many jobs that didn’t exist when their parents were young. This means that the methods of achieving success and finding fulfillment can be vastly different from what their parents experienced.

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    Elita One
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One little tear in the rubber and she's throwing it away, does the rest of it not work?

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    Jill Rhodry
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To be fair, there was a marketing push through the 70s and 80s as to how bad butter was for you and how much healthier it was to use 'plant oil' margarine.

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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This whole post is basically about throwing stuff in the garbage...

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    The desire for adults to separate themselves from their parents may be also driven by the idea of personal growth. Many adults want to create their own paths and avoid following in their parents’ footsteps. They don’t want to be limited by their parents’ expectations and beliefs, and they want to explore their own interests and passions.

    Moreover, adults today may feel a sense of responsibility to make a difference in the world. They may feel a pressure to use their skills and resources to address the issues facing the world today, and this may lead them to create their own version of success.

    A growing number of studies also show that adults today more often cut ties with their parents than ever before. A study in 1997 explored family relationships in later life and found that 7 percent of adult children had cut ties with their mother and 27 percent with their father. Meanwhile, in 2020, a study by sociologist Karl Pillemar showed that 1 in 4 Americans are estranged from their families—roughly 67 million people.

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    ima cat v2
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    WHO SAID IT IS A GENDERED JOB??? Where did this woman come from where changing a f*****g lightbulb is a "gendered job"???

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    Diego,Laura
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thank you! I hate that people still won't carry something to drink with them . Don't leave home without it.

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    Barbara Kayton
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bleach has been proven to only lighten disperse mould spores not kill it, and is horrendous for the environment. Where I live, council cleaners are not allowed to use bleach, even if the customer provides it, for health and safety reasons. If you are worried about mould or germs, double-strength (cleaning) vinegar should be used, according to British scientific studies. Mould specific cleaners can be used if it is an established problem.

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    Debbie
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just don't start to breasfeed them, change their nappies.... That would be weird.

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    Jeremy James
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The Millennial urge to keep the boxes that our cell phones came in. I was born in '84 and I still have no idea why I do this. But, thanks to the Internet, I know I'm not alone.

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    DforDory
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I still like going to the store or the market, because when ordering, it's a gamble, so I like to have the choice of which potato or whatever I take home.

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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Anyone else think the tree behind her was her hair sticking out? 😂

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    Lakota Wolf
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's nice, but what if you need to make a note when you're upstairs, or in the garage, or on the other side of the house from where your notebook is? XD There's nothing wrong with using random scraps of paper to write down memos and notes, as long as you dispose of them accordingly once you don't need them any more.

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    Kayjunmoon
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe try not to use ‘single use items’ if you don’t like landfill.

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    Elita One
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This ones stupid she's just throwing away perfectly good socks because they don't have a matching one. Just match them up with a similar sock, if they have different coloured soles than it doesn't matter if your wearing enclosed shoes, no one will see them.

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    Lisa
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wash and reuse ziplocks, occasionally I need them. Don’t need to hoard but easy to wash and reuse, I don’t use half wrap

    Heather Vandegrift
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agreed, not because of hoarding or poverty, but because of how much single use plastic there is in landfills and the ocean!

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    Higgleton
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Is she not saying that she doesn't need to reuse these items because she has Tupperware, not that she refuses to reuse them?

    PigSquatch
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's wonderful if you can afford to do it. Some of us can't afford to drive Cadillac's and live in great apartments.

    Megan Cheeky Chook
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They literally sell imitation Tupperware and Pyrex containers at goodwill and Dollar Tree. It is very, very cheap.

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    Ches Yamada
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If I have dry salad in a ziploc you bet your butt I'm drying it to reuse it. Or anytjing else that isn't messy. And my aluminum foil is used to cook with, not to store things! Although husband uses it as covers when he's too lazy to get a lid.

    FlatEarf
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Aluminum foil is a good lid to send others home for left overs on a bowl or something, it's a good lid if you can't find one too, Aluminum foil is pretty good for a lid

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    FABULOUS1
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Aluminum foil no. But I noticed people in my house use ziplock bags for the stupidest things and I started washing the lightly used ones.

    Naomie Moore
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Have those items in hand but not necessarily for food. Invested in a good set of glass storage pieces. Minimal waste for the landfill from my house.

    Tammy Wait
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I use freezer bags to separate meat. But I wrap the meat in saran wrap before I put them in the freezer bags so I can reuse the bag many times.

    LittleMissPanda
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do wash ziplocks, except if I had raw meat in it, then in the bin it goes. But I try not to make too much waste

    Ashi Mari
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah reusing for commodity in a rush is simpler. When you have used the goddamn thing 17 times it's now ridiculous

    troufaki13
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I use them for different things, so everything stays!

    K-Dawn Bennett
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I use freezer bags for soups, meats and baked goods. I use foil to cover containers if there isn't a cover and use plastic containers for left overs or to take to someone. Just like mom.

    Gary Geracci
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, If I don.t use Reynolds Wrap, then I have to buy a special product for chrome on my Model cars!

    Diane Barth
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Every piece of plastic you have ever used in your lifetime will likely outlive you. Nothing wrong with washing a ziplock bag an re-using it.

    Mary Obrien
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I refuse to wash and reuse aluminum foil and plastic bags. Wel, it helps that I don't use them very often anyway. My mom would only run the dishwasher and washing machine certain times every few days.

    Cookie
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wash and reuse to reduce waste.

    Ashi Mari
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Idk why everyone is complaining, using a tupperware is better for the enviroment than racking plastic last time I checked, and OP says she barely uses ziplocs/foil. Sure, her mom washed ziplocs, but they ended up having to be thrown out anyways at some point due to wear, and she kept buying plastic, she just got a couple more uses out of them. Tupperware still seems like the most eco friendly option

    Ashi Mari
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sure pyrex containers and tuppers are not extremely accessible, but there are imitations, and they are long lasting. My issue with this is that it's not like OP is using 5 ziplocs a day and throwing them away

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    Cipi
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When there's a lot of left over, ziplocs are convenient because they don't use much space and then, you toss them to the garbage, the zip locs

    Rostit .
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It depends. If it had a sandwich or something sure. But if not, its trash.

    FerRN
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wash and reuse Ziplock bags, not for being cheap but because I think I am “helping” the environment.

    Whitney McCrum-Morrison
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't buy that c**p. And if you do, get as many uses as possible out of it.

    Megan Boomershine
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Considering how bad plastic is for the environment id say wash them out.

    MygrandsonscallmeNia
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm on a fixed budget. Washing, and reusing Ziploc bags, comes in extremely handy! I use them to put, playdough in, Legos, snack's to take to the park, etc... Dollar store brand, is just as good as name brand. They can be reused Many times! Less plastic in landfills! Foil, is my lifesaver! When baking meatloaf, or any other dish that causes food to be baked on. Putting foil in the pan first, it's almost clean when you take it off when it's done! A quick soapy sponge to clean it vs. Soaking, and scrubbing.Its recyclable too!

    Mickeynsync
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Reuse and reduce is okay in my book!!

    Maple Porkly
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I refuse Ziploc bags for car garbage bags. Every passenger gets one next to their door. We use it until it's full, then close them and toss it in the garbage. No more cleaning up inside the car after a road trip. Just a vacuum and wipe down and you're good to go.

    Alei Griffieon
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Reusing that is just nicer to the enviorment🤷‍♀️

    Tank Bacca
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hmmm... On today's episode of Not Like My Offspring, I am not going to be judgemental.

    John Paul Morrison
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Being vegans, we wash and ruse our ziplocs. Reusing meat filled bags could cause contamination.

    Cathleen Day
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This whole story thread makes the OP come across as a smug, entitled whiny brat who has no respect for her mother and grandmother probably. She probably spouts loudly about climate change and global warming whilst adding loads to landfill. Her mother probably learned frugility from her mother (who probably lived through the Depression) and learned not to waste anything. Mum probably changed quite a few things, but this brat is borderline openly ridiculing them. Intolerant much!

    Linda T
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And! Her mom and grandmother could legally burn waste in their back yard. They didn't know what burning plastic could do to brains and lung tissues.

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    Ron
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I stopped having gripes with my mother when I became an adult and realized how infantile it was to not be like Mom, I guess this person never did any reading on how bad plastic is with food in it as it leeches into the food and is tied to dementia

    Magpie
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Plastic zip lock bags are also ... plastic. You can at least buy plastic storage containers that are bpa-free. I've been replacing all my plastic containers with glass, plastic bags with reusable silicone one or wax paper sandwich bags.

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    Lakota Wolf
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wear a wallet chain! I never lose my wallet because it's clipped to my pants! Though I do have to remember to switch it to whichever pair of pants/shorts I'm wearing that day from the previous day's pants XD

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    Debbie
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Aaah the optimism in this... sure, when someone tells the same story you've heard a few times before, go on and listen it out. And don't interrupt someone who is having a monologue and making wrong assumtions along the way. And when they say they believe their hause is haunted and it should be burned down, believe it and encourage them... Point being: It's a nice concept but not good to use always.(Or maybe she means when people talk about certain subjects?)

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    Elita One
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So if the driver was driving like a f*****t you wouldn't tell them to stop? Okay.

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