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They say that the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. But what if the apple doesn’t just fall nowhere near the tree, but does everything to roll in the opposite direction? Because the truth is not all kids want to be mirror images of their parents, and when they grow up, they often want to be nothing like their mom and dad.

Speaking of moms, there is a TikTok creator who runs her hugely popular channel “Not Like My Mother.” With a whopping 8.2 million total likes, the TikToker Meesh has won hearts just by sharing hilariously accurate and painfully relatable videos in a series with the same name–Not Like My Mother.

“Healing with humor & new habits,” the description of Meesh’s TikTok channel says, adding that it’s “100% satire” and “100% truth.” Scroll down to see how the creator does everything not to copy her mother in various situations and walks of life, which will surely ring a bell to many of you there!

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Barbara Kayton
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2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bleach has been proven to only lighten disperse mould spores not kill it, and is horrendous for the environment. Where I live, council cleaners are not allowed to use bleach, even if the customer provides it, for health and safety reasons. If you are worried about mould or germs, double-strength (cleaning) vinegar should be used, according to British scientific studies. Mould specific cleaners can be used if it is an established problem.

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In order to find out what are the reasons why adult children don’t want to be like their parents, Bored Panda reached out to Emily Malamet, a clinical psychologist and psychotherapist from Paris Psychology Centre, who shared some very interesting insights.

Malamet told us that it can surely happen that certain adult children don’t want to behave like their parents. “It is possible that adult children had witnessed certain parental behaviors growing up that they didn’t appreciate or were harmful to their wellbeing or that of their family, and don’t want to recreate this in their own lives/or as future parents,” the clinical psychologist said.

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    October
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This whole post is basically about throwing stuff in the garbage...

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    LK
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In my country, you can take expired or surplus medication to a pharmacist, and they will safely dispose of it. It's is not a good idea to put it into the bin/trash.

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    Moreover, certain individuals are afraid to be like their parents or engage in similar behaviors, Malamet said. “For some, early experiences with parental figures can leave emotional wounds, which are feelings which we were particularly sensitive to as children that may be easily triggered by others in the present.”

    Malamet explained that it is important for these individuals to work on being sensitive to experiences they may be triggered by, what others do that can trigger these reactions, and let those close to them know about it. “This is implies being assertive and letting others know what they may need. By doing what they couldn’t do as a child, they can work on repairing these old emotional wounds.”

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    Elita One
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This ones stupid she's just throwing away perfectly good socks because they don't have a matching one. Just match them up with a similar sock, if they have different coloured soles than it doesn't matter if your wearing enclosed shoes, no one will see them.

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    Lakota Wolf
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wear a wallet chain! I never lose my wallet because it's clipped to my pants! Though I do have to remember to switch it to whichever pair of pants/shorts I'm wearing that day from the previous day's pants XD

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    When asked what are the reasons why some grown-up children decide to cut off their parents, Malamet said that there are many of them, but the most common reasons are (but are not limited to): “abuse and neglect during childhood, difference in opinions, having previously felt controlled by their parents, perceived lack of support, having been put in unsafe environments by their parents growing up, high expectations from their parents, mental health issues (being experienced by the adult child or their parent), traumatic events experienced with their parents growing up, parental divorce, or favoritism towards one child in the family,” the clinical psychologist concluded.

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    Kayjunmoon
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe try not to use ‘single use items’ if you don’t like landfill.

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    and_a_touch_of_the_’tism
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Anyone else think the tree behind her was her hair sticking out? 😂

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    As the generations progress, it’s natural for adults to want to separate themselves from their parents. With the ever-changing world, it’s difficult for adults to stay connected with their parents' values and experiences.

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    Adults today are faced with a unique set of challenges that are vastly different from their parents’ experiences. This can make it difficult to relate to their parents, and it can also create a sense of disconnect when it comes to values and beliefs.

    Just think of how much technology and the internet changed the way we communicate, learn, and work. Meanwhile, the job market has shifted, with many jobs that didn’t exist when their parents were young. This means that the methods of achieving success and finding fulfillment can be vastly different from what their parents experienced.

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    Jeremy James
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The Millennial urge to keep the boxes that our cell phones came in. I was born in '84 and I still have no idea why I do this. But, thanks to the Internet, I know I'm not alone.

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    DforDory
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree in case the old one is not used or it is not wearable anymore.

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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So if the driver was driving like a f*****t you wouldn't tell them to stop? Okay.

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    The desire for adults to separate themselves from their parents may be also driven by the idea of personal growth. Many adults want to create their own paths and avoid following in their parents’ footsteps. They don’t want to be limited by their parents’ expectations and beliefs, and they want to explore their own interests and passions.

    Moreover, adults today may feel a sense of responsibility to make a difference in the world. They may feel a pressure to use their skills and resources to address the issues facing the world today, and this may lead them to create their own version of success.

    A growing number of studies also show that adults today more often cut ties with their parents than ever before. A study in 1997 explored family relationships in later life and found that 7 percent of adult children had cut ties with their mother and 27 percent with their father. Meanwhile, in 2020, a study by sociologist Karl Pillemar showed that 1 in 4 Americans are estranged from their families—roughly 67 million people.

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    Jason
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I see you don't have kids.

    Lakota Wolf
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or depression, or ADHD, etc XD I don't have kids either, but there is no WAY I could stick to this for more than a few days. I'd try my best, and I'd WANT to, but ... there's just no way XD

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    FlatEarf
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What is it with throwing away expired stuff? Yeah it expired but it's still good for an unknown amount of time, just because something expires doesn't make it terrible instantly, I was raised with look at the food and if it still looks good and isn't expired or not like years past the expiration date we keep it until its not good

    M O'Connell
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can confirm that lotion remains lotion and ibuprofen remains ibuprofen at least 10 years after the date. During the COVID lockdown I also consumed some soup that was 4 or 5 years past the date on the can, it was also fine. The expiration date only marks the end of the manufacturer's liability for the contents, not the end of their safety.

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    Robin Childers
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And her kids will. Be Not Like My Mother by avoiding being an uptight, a**l chick who organizes everything into the ground.

    Brightly
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Having grown up with people that are hoarders I understand where this woman is coming from. Maybe try to listen and not just jump to conclusions. I'm not sure why this was a trigger for you but it sounds like it is.

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    Chich
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Marie Kondo even gave up on this obsessivness

    Brightly
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How is this obsessive? If you read the actual post you'll understand what this woman lived with and how difficult it was for her. How is HER organization a problem for YOU?

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    AR
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why label everything like that? You don’t know cleansers are cleansers?

    Naomie Moore
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Can't judge on this. I live alone and everything stays neat. When I was raising a family? It was still pretty neat. We didn't force things on the kids and they knew everything had a place to live. So never the excuse that they couldn't find anything.

    Boss Lady
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have kids and anxiety/depression, etc. I will do this. Just for me!

    Tim Sireno
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just being organized and labeled isn't OCD! I used to work in a union shop as a IT tech guy and they had all their IT & general tools (power drills, saws, wrenches, etc) hung up on a peg board organized with labels so that everyone could always find the tools that they needed when they needed it.

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    Jiminy
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't have enough skincare that labeling it would be anything but ridiculous...

    simspawn
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Expiration dates on medication, meh~ Sometimes it really doesn't matter. Table salt has an expiration date too ya know.

    Gary Geracci
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is smart though, Some products expire quicker once opened whether we seal them tight after use or not!

    Maggie Dinzler Shaw
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I like the idea of being organized but the time and energy it consumes could be used for other things.

    Deborah THE Band
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I tasted just a little bile come up into mu mouth..... before I screamed.

    Liz Reid
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This sounds like OCD to me

    Lighten Up
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You must have a BIG house w loads of storage space and obviously you don’t have children.

    Mandy Delaforce (PC Girl)
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This looks borderline ocd. I hope they are getting help

    Deb L
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This smacks of being ocd

    Lindsay Coffta
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why do so many trolls lurk in wait to judge someone's healing process? STFU and scroll away.

    Destany Van
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A lot of expired medication is still good for years after expiration. No need to throw away unless you never plan on using it again.

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    Bluetoyou
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I cleaned my student tables with donated baby wipes. Same thing. Those wet soapy sponges look like they are cleaning but until you wipe the table after with a baby wipe you have no idea how dirty they still are. Art class. At the end of every class. An article I read of where kids get germs in school prompted this. It was a precovid article.

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    Diego,Laura
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thank you! I hate that people still won't carry something to drink with them . Don't leave home without it.

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    Lisa
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wash and reuse ziplocks, occasionally I need them. Don’t need to hoard but easy to wash and reuse, I don’t use half wrap

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    LK
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    An alternative, if you are not using the washing machine every day, is to have bucket of water, with some disinfectant in the water. When you use a cloth drop it into the water. When the bucket is full, or you're doing a load of laundry, add the rags. If you are using a front loading washing machine, put the rags into a laundry bag.

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    Debbie
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Aaah the optimism in this... sure, when someone tells the same story you've heard a few times before, go on and listen it out. And don't interrupt someone who is having a monologue and making wrong assumtions along the way. And when they say they believe their hause is haunted and it should be burned down, believe it and encourage them... Point being: It's a nice concept but not good to use always.(Or maybe she means when people talk about certain subjects?)

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    Lakota Wolf
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's nice, but what if you need to make a note when you're upstairs, or in the garage, or on the other side of the house from where your notebook is? XD There's nothing wrong with using random scraps of paper to write down memos and notes, as long as you dispose of them accordingly once you don't need them any more.

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    ima cat v2
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    WHO SAID IT IS A GENDERED JOB??? Where did this woman come from where changing a f*****g lightbulb is a "gendered job"???

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    DforDory
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I still like going to the store or the market, because when ordering, it's a gamble, so I like to have the choice of which potato or whatever I take home.

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    Jill Rhodry
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To be fair, there was a marketing push through the 70s and 80s as to how bad butter was for you and how much healthier it was to use 'plant oil' margarine.

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    Debbie
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just don't start to breasfeed them, change their nappies.... That would be weird.

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    Fxnglhl
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    my mom: just change your mindset! it's easy to just be happy!!!

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    FlatEarf
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh this whole thing must be fake I guess, that's not possible

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    Elita One
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One little tear in the rubber and she's throwing it away, does the rest of it not work?

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    DforDory
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What did she even inspect it for? Just curious.

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    Do Not
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There is absolutely nothing wrong with have emergency food. In fact, it's recommended.

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