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They say that the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. But what if the apple doesn’t just fall nowhere near the tree, but does everything to roll in the opposite direction? Because the truth is not all kids want to be mirror images of their parents, and when they grow up, they often want to be nothing like their mom and dad.

Speaking of moms, there is a TikTok creator who runs her hugely popular channel “Not Like My Mother.” With a whopping 8.2 million total likes, the TikToker Meesh has won hearts just by sharing hilariously accurate and painfully relatable videos in a series with the same name–Not Like My Mother.

“Healing with humor & new habits,” the description of Meesh’s TikTok channel says, adding that it’s “100% satire” and “100% truth.” Scroll down to see how the creator does everything not to copy her mother in various situations and walks of life, which will surely ring a bell to many of you there!

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LK
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2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In my country, you can take expired or surplus medication to a pharmacist, and they will safely dispose of it. It's is not a good idea to put it into the bin/trash.

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In order to find out what are the reasons why adult children don’t want to be like their parents, Bored Panda reached out to Emily Malamet, a clinical psychologist and psychotherapist from Paris Psychology Centre, who shared some very interesting insights.

Malamet told us that it can surely happen that certain adult children don’t want to behave like their parents. “It is possible that adult children had witnessed certain parental behaviors growing up that they didn’t appreciate or were harmful to their wellbeing or that of their family, and don’t want to recreate this in their own lives/or as future parents,” the clinical psychologist said.

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    ima cat v2
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    WHO SAID IT IS A GENDERED JOB??? Where did this woman come from where changing a f*****g lightbulb is a "gendered job"???

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    Jeremy James
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The Millennial urge to keep the boxes that our cell phones came in. I was born in '84 and I still have no idea why I do this. But, thanks to the Internet, I know I'm not alone.

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    Moreover, certain individuals are afraid to be like their parents or engage in similar behaviors, Malamet said. “For some, early experiences with parental figures can leave emotional wounds, which are feelings which we were particularly sensitive to as children that may be easily triggered by others in the present.”

    Malamet explained that it is important for these individuals to work on being sensitive to experiences they may be triggered by, what others do that can trigger these reactions, and let those close to them know about it. “This is implies being assertive and letting others know what they may need. By doing what they couldn’t do as a child, they can work on repairing these old emotional wounds.”

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    FlatEarf
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh this whole thing must be fake I guess, that's not possible

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    Do Not
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There is absolutely nothing wrong with have emergency food. In fact, it's recommended.

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    When asked what are the reasons why some grown-up children decide to cut off their parents, Malamet said that there are many of them, but the most common reasons are (but are not limited to): “abuse and neglect during childhood, difference in opinions, having previously felt controlled by their parents, perceived lack of support, having been put in unsafe environments by their parents growing up, high expectations from their parents, mental health issues (being experienced by the adult child or their parent), traumatic events experienced with their parents growing up, parental divorce, or favoritism towards one child in the family,” the clinical psychologist concluded.

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    LK
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    An alternative, if you are not using the washing machine every day, is to have bucket of water, with some disinfectant in the water. When you use a cloth drop it into the water. When the bucket is full, or you're doing a load of laundry, add the rags. If you are using a front loading washing machine, put the rags into a laundry bag.

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    Diego,Laura
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thank you! I hate that people still won't carry something to drink with them . Don't leave home without it.

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    As the generations progress, it’s natural for adults to want to separate themselves from their parents. With the ever-changing world, it’s difficult for adults to stay connected with their parents' values and experiences.

    Adults today are faced with a unique set of challenges that are vastly different from their parents’ experiences. This can make it difficult to relate to their parents, and it can also create a sense of disconnect when it comes to values and beliefs.

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    Just think of how much technology and the internet changed the way we communicate, learn, and work. Meanwhile, the job market has shifted, with many jobs that didn’t exist when their parents were young. This means that the methods of achieving success and finding fulfillment can be vastly different from what their parents experienced.

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    Barbara Kayton
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bleach has been proven to only lighten disperse mould spores not kill it, and is horrendous for the environment. Where I live, council cleaners are not allowed to use bleach, even if the customer provides it, for health and safety reasons. If you are worried about mould or germs, double-strength (cleaning) vinegar should be used, according to British scientific studies. Mould specific cleaners can be used if it is an established problem.

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    Bluetoyou
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I cleaned my student tables with donated baby wipes. Same thing. Those wet soapy sponges look like they are cleaning but until you wipe the table after with a baby wipe you have no idea how dirty they still are. Art class. At the end of every class. An article I read of where kids get germs in school prompted this. It was a precovid article.

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    The desire for adults to separate themselves from their parents may be also driven by the idea of personal growth. Many adults want to create their own paths and avoid following in their parents’ footsteps. They don’t want to be limited by their parents’ expectations and beliefs, and they want to explore their own interests and passions.

    Moreover, adults today may feel a sense of responsibility to make a difference in the world. They may feel a pressure to use their skills and resources to address the issues facing the world today, and this may lead them to create their own version of success.

    A growing number of studies also show that adults today more often cut ties with their parents than ever before. A study in 1997 explored family relationships in later life and found that 7 percent of adult children had cut ties with their mother and 27 percent with their father. Meanwhile, in 2020, a study by sociologist Karl Pillemar showed that 1 in 4 Americans are estranged from their families—roughly 67 million people.

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    Elita One
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One little tear in the rubber and she's throwing it away, does the rest of it not work?

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    DforDory
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What did she even inspect it for? Just curious.

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    and_a_touch_of_the_’tism
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Anyone else think the tree behind her was her hair sticking out? 😂

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    Jill Rhodry
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To be fair, there was a marketing push through the 70s and 80s as to how bad butter was for you and how much healthier it was to use 'plant oil' margarine.

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    October
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This whole post is basically about throwing stuff in the garbage...

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    DforDory
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree in case the old one is not used or it is not wearable anymore.

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    Kayjunmoon
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe try not to use ‘single use items’ if you don’t like landfill.

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    Debbie
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Aaah the optimism in this... sure, when someone tells the same story you've heard a few times before, go on and listen it out. And don't interrupt someone who is having a monologue and making wrong assumtions along the way. And when they say they believe their hause is haunted and it should be burned down, believe it and encourage them... Point being: It's a nice concept but not good to use always.(Or maybe she means when people talk about certain subjects?)

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    Lisa
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wash and reuse ziplocks, occasionally I need them. Don’t need to hoard but easy to wash and reuse, I don’t use half wrap

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    DforDory
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I still like going to the store or the market, because when ordering, it's a gamble, so I like to have the choice of which potato or whatever I take home.

    Jj321
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I like to do it both ways. Ordering is obviously pretty convenient some times. But, produce is always a disaster. Some substitutions are, well idiotic. Even when I say no substitute or say exactly what I wanted. I also like to see what's for sale. I found a pork butt last week for $4.50, regular price was around $20.

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    Firstname Lastname
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's great and all, but she's wearing sneakers on the bed, and I draw a line there.

    Lakota Wolf
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree. Shoes don't even come into the HOUSE, let alone on the BED. Did my mom teach me that? You bet. Do I rebel and refuse to do the same just because it's "what my mom did"? No, that'd be stupid XD

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    Leoninus Fate
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    yeah well, not everyone had 50-500 bucks to pay for a week or so of online groceries, some of us need to use food stamps, and need special stuff that we won't get and instead Sub for each time, Also going for groceries is the only time I'm able to leave the house ever 2 weeks since its hard to move

    Jennifer Aydelott
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    With two kids, it saves my sanity. No temper tantrum because I said no to candy, no screaming toddler angry he can’t run through the aisles touching EVERYTHInG while I forgot the whole dang reason I came here. I fill up my cart over days, schedule the pick up when everything I need is on there, drive up and entertain the two kids until I’m loaded up and heading home.

    Hagen Radcliffe
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Anybody with offspring gets a free pass. Back in the day, I would have killed to have the option of not having to do 7 days worth of serious budget shopping with two little ones along.

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    Maggie O'Neill
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If I start ordering groceries depression will win

    Matt Smith
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nothing wrong with ordering groceries online, but also nothing wrong with going to the store to get them either if you can

    Tammy Wait
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Must be nice to be able to just order whatever you like and have it delivered. I need to make sure I get what is on sale and can't afford delivery charges.

    Rob Williams
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd rather pick my own groceries than rely on someone on minimum wage who is getting grief from a manager to get the picking done quickly!

    Cassi Lyris
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I ordered groceries once and I'll NEVER do it again. I get alot of fresh produce and I'll not let them give me all the wilted stuff ever again.

    Hazel sanders
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I like ordering online, but I tend to notice I go a bit overboard when doing it. Sense I can’t see a cart filling in front of me, I tend to spend a bit more money than I want so it’s just better to go shopping in person. Save the little stuff to be delivered.

    I'mNotARoboat
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The two photos on the right side are very smug expressions, full on patronising.

    Diane Kelson
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I go to the store. Besides me being an impulse shopper, I don't trust strangers to pick out my fresh food.

    Susan Rand
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I like to pick out meat, veggies and fruit myself.

    The Veil of Fire
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do delivery because of my health. It costs me more because $$ online is $ cheaper many time in the store. Plus, no outside manufacturer coupons, no selection on produce ripeness or damage. Plus, if there are in store mark downs can't take advantage of those savings. Delivery has many drawbacks.

    Stay Off My Lawn
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nope. When you order groceries the shoppers will always pick up what’s about to expire or already expired first. I’d rather not pay for slimy lettuce.

    Alex Bailey
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Then the supermarket gets hit for refunds which they have to do with no question and the staff would eventually get fired for picking rubbish. Also, what c**p store has food going off on the shelves that hasn't gone on a discounted clearance shelf?!. Only had to get fresh produce refunded twice in all the many years I have been getting my weekly shop delivered. And that was for flaws that were hidden.

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    Sharon Ingram
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I tried ordering online. I couldn’t stand it. No music of the 70s to dance down the aisle to, no people to talk to or say hi, no interaction. Boring.

    Gary Geracci
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It has it's good points and it's bad like DforDory stated.

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    Dee Woods
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ordering groceries wasn't even a common thing until recently. So she's shaming her mother for not using something that literally didn't exist exist? This daughter has issues.

    Susan Widomski
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am very picky about the right item at the right price and what fruits and veggies are selected, so I would probably drive you crazy.

    Maggie Dinzler Shaw
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I find ordering food to be great and usually I get just what I want. I have mobility issues and it saves time.

    Cookie
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wearing shoes into bed - yuck!

    Rostit .
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    this could have been one screen. "we order groceries now" no need for all this extra nonsense.

    Sara-Elita Boismenu
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Am I the only one bothered by the fact that she is wearing shoes on the bed and they are next to her pillows?

    Ambry Petersen
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Some people like to get out of the house now and again.

    Martin Brule Jr.
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    i actually prefer in person. delivery involves texting a bunch to resolve substitutions and also, i can't impulse buy or get other items on my list that i didn't think of until in the store

    Quentin ingulfumble
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    nope. i order the big shop online, and still got to the supermarket every couple of days. no1, sometimes i fancy something but dont know what it is, and no2, the reduced section. the freezer works, and if i find something awesome reduced i damned well buy it!

    Casey Smith
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nope - please don’t co-sign this stuff. Her kids are gonna be like ‘not gonna force poor people to work for me when I’m able to do it myself no problem but am just lazy and entitled’ - like, feeding yourself is literally the one thing that you should feel good about doing for yourself. Just yikes all around for some people.

    333
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bold move with all the recent stories about Instacart scammers

    CalamityE
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or you can order directly from farmers..the best is sold from the farm. I get it before it heads to store. Nothing tastes better than freshly picked fruit and veggies.

    Denise Zirkel
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One day you will value the solitude of shopping alone, away from your life.

    Liam Lowenthal
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I always get the worst produce when I order.

    PigSquatch
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Glad you like giving away money for something you can do for yourself but are too lazy to, then you wonder why your grocery bill is 1000s a month. Yes delivery fees should count as part of the bill and if more people did this they might understand where some of their money goes.

    Dodo
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Some places have Click & Collect, no fees and takes way less time than shopping for yourself.

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    Della
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I like doing my own grocery shopping, I can see clearance and sale items and make sure what I'm buying is fresh. I've watched the Instacart shoppers and they pick up an item without looking at it or inspecting it at all, and drop into bag.

    hhh cubed
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is only true of some shoppers and has not been my experience. I was lucky enough to have shoppers, the majority of the time, that sent messages and pictures. Adding lots of notes for certain items let's them know that you encourage communication. Those shoppers know the value of communication and they'll get tipped.

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    Helen Taylor
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I prefer the best of the fresh produce, etc. So I do prefer going go to the grocery store.

    Demosthenes
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And we will use the extra time for doing more makeup and hair.

    Megan Boomershine
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I like getting everything I want and not substituted stuff thats not even remotely the same. Also I dont like paying double for my groceries plus a tip. Im ok with not being LAZY I can shop for myself. I dont like rotten fruit and broken eggs and smashed bread. No thanks.

    Naomie Moore
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nope, never ever In a million years. I don't like other people choosing my produce or meat that I purchase on occasion. I also don't use credit cards. And no computer or internet at home either - on purpose. No need. I have a life that's not dictated by electronic boxes.

    Ron
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Who cares? Try talking to human beings like you should and maybe get a human friend

    BoredPandaSucks
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    yeah thanks to all the ordering folks, now when i go into the store, i am blocked at every aisle by those HUGE online order fulfillment carts. Thanks a ton! one good point though, there are more people to annoy when i need to ask then "Excuse me. What aisle are the pickled, donut-stuffed eggplant raviolis in?"

    Alex Bailey
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not all are done in store, some do it from a central despatch that feeds the supermarkets.

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    Elita One
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This ones stupid she's just throwing away perfectly good socks because they don't have a matching one. Just match them up with a similar sock, if they have different coloured soles than it doesn't matter if your wearing enclosed shoes, no one will see them.

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    Debbie
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just don't start to breasfeed them, change their nappies.... That would be weird.

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    Lakota Wolf
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's nice, but what if you need to make a note when you're upstairs, or in the garage, or on the other side of the house from where your notebook is? XD There's nothing wrong with using random scraps of paper to write down memos and notes, as long as you dispose of them accordingly once you don't need them any more.

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    Fxnglhl
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    my mom: just change your mindset! it's easy to just be happy!!!

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    Elita One
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So if the driver was driving like a f*****t you wouldn't tell them to stop? Okay.

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    Lakota Wolf
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wear a wallet chain! I never lose my wallet because it's clipped to my pants! Though I do have to remember to switch it to whichever pair of pants/shorts I'm wearing that day from the previous day's pants XD

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