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There are very obvious red flags that show up right away and are a clear sign that the relationship isn’t worth developing. But most of the time, the red flags are more subtle and are easier to dismiss as a one-off thing or a not-so-serious character flaw that doesn’t mean anything. Those subtle signs are the most important to catch as they may indicate that the person is hiding something more serious.
People on Reddit discussed what are some red flags that are related to cooking that might mean that the person isn’t the right fit. Many of them not only shared what cooking habits they find alarming, but they also spoke about signs that, from their own experience, were red flags.
Would you add anything to this list? Which habit that people mentioned do you think is a solid sign to rethink the relationship? Let us know in the comments!
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#1
There was a letter to an advice column years ago, from a woman convinced her mother in law was slightly poisoning her every time they went to her house for dinner.
After every meal she grew violently ill and threw up/had diarrhea.
When she told her husband her suspicion he said she was crazy. His mother was a saint who adored her and would die before hurting her.
The advice columnist urged the wife to swap her plate with her husband’s during the next dinner. The woman wrote back saying she followed the advice and it was her husband who became violently ill after the meal.
When she told him what she’d done she said he looked at her with such loathing she realized he’d suspected what his mom was doing all along but, instead of standing up for her, he decided to gaslight her about her suspicions to avoid upsetting his mom.
Talk about your red flags.
Danniee Gyrl 3 years ago (edited)
I found the original: Dear Prudence, My mother-in-law hates me and makes no bones about it when she and I are alone. My husband doesn’t believe me, and she even gloats about that. We have to attend family functions at her home about once a month. (It used to be more frequent, but after I put my foot down, my husband agreed that monthly would be sufficient.) The problem is that after each visit, I wind up with a bad case of diarrhea; my husband does not. I don’t know if the other in-laws are affected, because if I asked, it would get back to her. I suspect that my mother-in-law is putting something in my food or drink. Last time, I barely made it home before being struck down. Now I am considering getting some “adult undergarments” to make sure I don’t ruin the car’s upholstery on the ride home from her place. Do you have any other advice? —Running for the Hills
Danniee Gyrl 3 years ago
Reply form Prudence: Dear Running, In the great old Cary Grant movie Suspicion, director Alfred Hitchcock has a scene in which possible murderer Grant is bringing a glass of milk to his wife, played by Joan Fontaine, and no beverage has ever looked so malign. Just as Fontaine wasn’t sure if she was being poisoned, you aren’t either. It’s possible you’ve entered a Pavlovian cycle in which when you eat your mother-in-law’s food your digestive tract automatically goes into overdrive, or that there is some ingredient she regularly uses which just doesn’t agree with you. It’s also possible she’s trying to harm you. I’ve been reading a fascinating book, The Poisoner’s Handbook, about poisoners in the early 20th century—it was a popular way to off someone—and the new forensic scientists who exposed them. Peek at your mother-in-law’s Kindle to see if she’s downloaded this. The next time you go for dinner at her house, after the food is served but before you begin eating, you and your husband
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censorshipsucks 3 years ago
sounds like a charge of attempted murder is pending here. At least that's what I'd charge the cow with. And the husband: he'd get accomplice status.
Candice Cook 3 years ago
Wow. Sounds like mother and son belong together. What a jerk! You literally know your mother is poisoning your wife's food, yet you do nothing and insist she continues to go there, then get mad when she turns the tables on you. Why not just get a divorce if you hate your wife that much? Better yet, why'd you marry her to begin with???
Sharon Gersowsky 3 years ago
I read that and it still haunts me, especially the part about husband looking at his wife with loathing in his eyes. I would really like to know if they're still married and what happened
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#2
Refusing to regularly take over the responsibility for providing meals.
God bless him, my late father could *not* cook. He could manage a few basics, would help by fixing sides dishes, but anything more complicated, well.... Nope.
That said both he and my Mom worked fairly long days at not-easy jobs. Still, Mom was usually the one who was responsible for dinner.
But there were evenings when Mom walked in the door, dropped her bad, and announced, " I'm not cooking."
Dad, while hopeless at cooking, was not stupid, and replied with, " Where do you want to go?"
Yes, we were lucky to be able to eat out regularly. But that aside, that one exchange was a fantastic example of how they stayed married for nearly 40 years.
It didn't matter that Dad couldn't cook; what mattered was that it was no longer Mom's problem.
We usually went out to a typical family restaurant. But sometimes it was McDonalds. Sometimes we ordered pizza. Sometimes it was declared an "every man for himself" night, and everybody, including us kids, just fixed ourselves something.
But the big thing was Dad was always willing to take over for Mom when needed. And *that* was why it worked.
Taking My Antidepressants 3 years ago
I cook a lot for my family. Occasionally my parents will do the cooking.
Mimi 3 years ago
Ditto, at the ripe age of 35 I, together with my toddler of 4, moved back to my parents. I cook almost every night for them and my 19 year old brother who is still at home. I enjoy cooking but it is also a way of thanking them for everything. I am blessed with my parents.
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Deborah B 3 years ago
If you can't cook, and can't afford take out or delivery, you can still make a sandwich, or beans on toast, or declare "breakfast for dinner" and fix a bowl of cereal. Anyone refusing to acquire the kitchen skills to at least make a sandwich, is a walking red flag.
Phryne 3 years ago
Why? He didn't say "Cook or you're (we're) not eating." He said "Then we'll go out/order in." I agree it's a bit different if you can't afford eating out, but they could. I don't see a problem. Besides. OP said he'd help with side dishes and doing the dishes...
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Donkey boi 3 years ago
I do all the cooking at home. Sometimes, after work while doing the evening farm chores, my wife will see I'm tired and had a long day, so she'll say something like "I fancy a Chinese takeaway tonight, if it's alright with you". It's her way of contributing.
girlsrock4ever 3 years ago
They're saying that if the husband expects wife to always cook, it's a red flag. Her dad didn't do it, and that's why they stayed married for so long.
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Candice Cook 3 years ago
I am the only one that cooks in my household for the most part. I also do that, but for myself. If I'm tired, we either grab something out or everything fends for themselves so I keep plenty of cereal and mac and cheese... Stuff like that so my kids can make something for themselves when they are hungry, but I'm too worn out to cook
Glenn Schroeder 3 years ago
My wife does most of the cooking in our house, but to be fair, she works part time while I work full time, I help with other things around the house, and she's a better cook anyway. I'll never forget shortly after we got married (so 30+ years ago) I had told her I'd make supper one night. I got it started, then she came in and, without asking, started adding things to what I had started that didn't fit with what I had planned. I went and sat down in the living room. She walked in and said "I thought you were cooking." I replied "I thought so too."
Lara Kristelle 3 years ago (edited)
How is this red flag? I consider this a win-win. I wish we had the luxury to just dine whenever my mother wouldn't cook. My father on the other hand, though he can cook, but the food is always salty.
Harlan Bleiler 3 years ago
I get so burnt out from cooking ALL the like. I’ll just go in spurts where I no longer enjoy it and just refuse to cook.
Lady Death 3 years ago
Same. I wish others in my household would learn to cook. I taught myself and am the only one who can/knows how to cook. If you can read you can cook! So it's just an excuse from lazy people who refuse to take care of themselves imo. If I don't cook my kids don't eat. And not enough money to go out to eat like some.😕
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No hand washing 😡
Curry on... 3 years ago
Wash before handling food, and after: petting the dog; running your hands through your hair; going to the restroom, etc..
Susan Reid Smith 3 years ago
I do it after putting on shoes, before putting on earrings...
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Mary Elliott 3 years ago
What kind of barbarian doesn't wash their hands? Ew. What else are they not washing? Ew ew ew.
Donna Clanclan 3 years ago
Had to convince some people that everyone needs to wash their hands after using the bathroom. Hand sanitizer doesn't remove any debris.
Susan Reid Smith 3 years ago (edited)
We use it to wet our hands, then wipe it off with paper towels. If our hands are very greasy, we have used hand lotion to get the grease off first.
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Sorcha Dugan-Wolf 3 years ago
I got ridiculed relentlessly because I refused to eat at someone's house because I never saw them wash their hands... I didn't make a scene, just said I wasn't hungry, later when I asked why I didn't eat I told them why and it seemed to turn into an international incident...
Monica Sargent 3 years ago
I taught my son, before you cook, go to the restroom and wash your hands up to your elbows. Then come to the kitchen and do the same thing. Philistines.
#4
When they don’t know how to cook, refuse to cook, but are super picky when you cook for them. Nope nope nope
SparkleFarts 3 years ago
3 year olds are 97% red flags, 3% cuteness. That 3% has kept the human race alive for millenia
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Toothless Feline 3 years ago
Sorry, can't support this. Being a picky eater is (usually) not a character flaw and shouldn't be shamed. Most neurodivergent people have some degree of pickiness in their eating habits. Many of the same neurodivergent people have difficulty managing a task like cooking which requires continual attention, multitasking, and time management. Don't hate on us.
Lea 3 years ago
🙌 You speak the truth!!! You speak the truth!!!! Most of us are happy eating the same thing night after night and if you are cooking for us we probably didn't ask you to. Also food is about personal preference understand that your SO is probably going to like different things than you and comments on your cooking isn't them telling you your a bad cook it's just about a person expressing a preference.
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Chucky Cheezburger 3 years ago
Yeah, Im a picky eating person. I learned a long time ago to be able to fend for myself.
The Captain 3 years ago
Having personal tastes is part of being human. Not being able to cook doesn't change the fact that there are things as an individual that you like and things you don't. This is not a red flag, its being human.
Patrick Whittington 3 years ago
I dated someone who never cooked. One night I made a 16oz new york strip with jalapeno mushroom gravy. I asked if they liked spicy stuff to which the answer was f yeah. They took one bite of the perfect medium rare steak, spit it out because too spicy, and said theyd never eat my cooking again. A week later I put their stuff on the porch and told them they could leave...
Chel Bolin 3 years ago
Plus, my ex was really picky. We would visit his folks and if she cooked something he didn't want, she would make him his own meal. H3ll No!
Peign Gaming 3 years ago
Sorry, but that's a pretty hardline stance. What if they have special dietary concerns?
Olga Pen 3 years ago
Why would they refuse to learn how to cook then? One would think they'd be the ones most interested in learning how to cook delicious food that is also harmless for them.
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William Stark 3 years ago
The answer for this is simple. Prepare 3 covered plates. Plate 1: the meal. Plate 2: directions to the pantry, and instructions how to make a pb&j. Plate 3: a dildo and lube. Choose and use. No longer my problem.
Paul Pienkowski 3 years ago
Yeah, I'm super fat. I'll eat anything as long as it doesn't taste terrible! 🙋
#5
I once decided to cook for a girl I was dating. It was pretty fresh at the time, third time I had seen her. I thought it might be nice to cook, have a wine and chat etc. as you do. While I was cooking she told me to stop talking so much and hurry up because she was hungry in a rude, annoyed tone. That turned me off to the point I didn’t see her again after that night!
Becky Ferguson 3 years ago
I do almost all of the cooking at our house. We have been married almost 40 years. No matter what I serve my husband ALWAYS says Thank You for making me a great meal.
Sharon Gersowsky 3 years ago
My husband always thanks me after every meal and I really appreciate that. We're going on 47 years now 😃💟
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The crushinator 3 years ago (edited)
I once dated a guy from the UK who was sad and nostalgic for home and i felt for him so i tried to Cook him something called "runny eggs" but it wasn't specifically what he had in mind so he got angry with me and sulked for the whole day. If only i had known what red flags were at the time..
Donkey boi 3 years ago
Ah yes, because talking reduced the heat and slows down the cooking process(!)
#6
That a*****e on YouTube who is tricking his vegetarian wife into loving the taste of meat.
Sneaking animal products into things she believes is meat free.
Huge piece of s**t. Unless it's all b******t for getting views, then mild piece of s**t.
WindySwede 3 years ago
If it's this way it's really awful. But nowadays I, unfortunately, less and less believe in (prank) content created. Just be a descent human being. (Sorry for possibly bad English)
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NoverPlover 3 years ago
Once I accidentally ate meat about 2 years after becoming vegetarian (accidentally because it was bacon bits on Mac n cheese that I thought were bread crumbs) and got super sick, vomiting in a campground bathroom at night. Doing this can make be extremely dangerous!
Bla Blubb 3 years ago
Simply accept the way others eat, what is so hard about it?! Let her be vegetarian, let him be meat-eater, why would hendo such a stupid thing?
Jerrilyn Henson 3 years ago
In reply to one of the other replies…not all vegetarians or vegans try to get others to be meat free. I’ve been vegan for over 32 years. At family get togethers we accommodated everyone. Family would try their best for us. I had two amazing daughters in law that fixed wonderful vegan food.
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Seanette Blaylock 3 years ago
I'm an omnivore myself, but sneaking something into someone's food the cook knows the eater finds objectionable is NOT OK. I wouldn't feed an observant Jew or Muslim anything with pork in it, either.
Bill Mathisen 3 years ago
My younger brother would bring his Jewish friend to that family meal. His family was doing a traditional jewish Thanksgiving meal while HE was chowing down ham. Bad Jew or open minded human?
Load More Replies... Ian Conelley 3 years ago
Not the same thing, but I had a roommate who had the palette of an 8 count box of crayons. I made homemade sloppy joes once. He wouldn't quit raving about them, couldn't stop eating them, practically licked the pan clean. "Dude, what did you put in this sauce, it's amazing?" Me: "Trust me, you don't want to know." Him: C'mon, man." Me: "Literally everything you say you hate. First, that's not beef, it's venison and rabbit, second, it's got green peppers, red peppers, mushrooms, an entire Vidalia onion in it, and garlic, all minced with a cheese grater. It's literally made of ONLY everything you say you 'can't stand' on a daily basis. Nobody said you had to eat it, you smelled it and just dove in, not my fault."
Lisa H 3 years ago
I've been pescatarian for years now, if I eat red meat, it will upset my stomach. I've accidentally ingested ground beef before and that's exactly what happened.
Paul Pienkowski 3 years ago
This is disgusting, if it's not a stunt for views. Vegans are fine, cool, good you wanna do that, don't make me though. And not everyone you meet needs to know. The Walmart cashier doesn't care if you're vegan. Also, stop. Making. Pets. Vegan. They are NOT herbivores! Really, vegans? Feeding tiny tigers and wolves carrots and hoping they won't suffer is wrong. Cuz that's what you're doing. These guys evolved to eat meat.
girlsrock4ever 3 years ago
Why would you do that? Hope the wife decided to divorce him, once she SEES THE VIDEOS HE'S POSTING ONLINE!
#7
Being a full grown adult that waits to be cooked for. Knowing full well, his spouse might also be working full time. But they won't lift a finger to grab dinner on the way home or if already home toss something in the microwave.
Nathaniel 3 years ago
Marjorie! I am back from work! I demand my evening meal on the table waiting for me!
MotherofGuineaPigs 3 years ago
my ex husband did this once - he said a full box of fish sticks hurts when you get hit in the head with it...
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Brandi Delph 3 years ago
My grandfather never cooked a meal in his life but he was a champ at doing the dishes
Rosy Maple Moth 3 years ago
I was friends with a couple back at uni and since his mom had always cooked for him he expected his girlfriend to do the same when they moved in together. So instead of starting a fight about it she just went over to only eating bread for dinner. This worked wonders. Boyfriend got so bored he eventually started cooking and ended up loving it.
Seanette Blaylock 3 years ago (edited)
At least my husband isn't that helpless, even if he isn't much of a cook at all. He can operate a microwave or DoorDash as well as I can and he knows it.
Mary Elliott 3 years ago
Very early in our relationship my now husband told me, who works full time, that he wanted dinner on the table at 7 every night. I just looked at him and said "that sounds you great, you should do that, I would love it!" I still laugh at him about that. Yes, I do most of the cooking now because I want to, but he appreciates it and doesn't expect it. And that makes all the difference.
David Madden 3 years ago
My wife and daughter do a lot of the cooking. When they aren't up to feeling like cooking they'll just send a message that we need to fend for ourselves and I will often reply if they want me to bring something in for everyone. Sometimes I will cook because I've been trained in various kitchens in my youth. But it's usually a big ordeal since I can't cook in small amounts 😂
Donna Clanclan 3 years ago
Had neighbors helping us over a weekend. We'd done something similar for them before. To make sure everyone was fed and ready at the right time in the morning, I offered to make breakfast for everyone. They loved it. Come Monday they called asking when they should be there for breakfast. Um, it was just for that weekend because you were helping us out. We'd also paid for their lunches. At least they didn't expect us to continue the lunches.
Misty-Dawn Amayi 3 years ago (edited)
This happened to me with a few different housemate situations. I was the better cook and the one making the lesser income, so, what always started as polite requests for me to do the lion's share of the cooking duties very rapidly escalated into entitlement, and then into contempt and domestic abuse. I pulled an 18 hr. shift on a ranch during calf season and came home too exhaused to even take my clothes off for bed. My housemate of the time dragged me out of my bed by my hair and pushed me down the stairs screaming that I was supposed to have a warm dinner and clean house ready for them when they came home. I couldn't afford a lawyer and police wouldn't do anything. I added a common OTC med to the next meal and rommie spent the next week debilitated by violent "purging" out both ends. Roomie still got hurt far less than they hurt me, but it gave me time to get the hell out of there. Very next roommate swore they wouldn't do this. They did. Turned my life around later. I'm okay now.
RoseAnne Hutchence 3 years ago
Hi, Honey! Glad you're home. How was your day, and do you mind if I started dinner? Spaghetti be okay?
#8
You cook and they dont help clean
Antz Online 3 years ago
Well, when I cook, I use minimum dishes and tidy up while cooking. My better half on the other hand leaves the kitchen like a tornado hit it, so I do refuse to clean up after she cooks.
Kate Jones 3 years ago
Lol, I'm the same way--I literally clean everything while I cook so that there are only 2 plates and utensils left. I can't sit down and eat until I know it's done. I don't mind cleaning up but my ex would be in charge of trash, for sure. I despise taking out the trash. I'd rather cook for a hundred people than change one bag of trash and carry it downstairs and outside to the bin. I feel like I was killed by a trash bag in a former life or something because i have such a overblown hatred of it.
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XenoMurph 3 years ago
Whoever cooks doesn't clean. As long as you alternate, and don;t be an a*s by leaving the place a total bomb site.
Abby 3 years ago
me n my mom have this arrangement. i like the cooking part. she likes the cleaning part. this isnt a red flag, if its how certain people are.
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Shoshana Sherrington 3 years ago
I'm actually very possessive of the kitchen and I rarely let my husband do anything in there (hed be happy to do more although with me working from home me cooking makes the most sense. Sometimes I let him. And as for dishes what someone once told me is true. If someone is going to wash dishes for you, u don't get to complain ABT how they did them. And I would, so I don't let him). That being said he shoulders other burdens for me that I either can't do (lots of legwork and heavy lifting) or hate doing (he cleans our apartment). Etc. It's not ABT taking turns per se as making sure everyone is putting in
Suburbanmama00 3 years ago
I am this way, but I had to chill out to allow my kids to learn to cook, and then serious illness forced me to let my family cook and clean up after regularly. It was hard, but got better once they started listening to me about use and care of my stuff. When I'm able to reclaim my kitchen, we're all happy because it means I'm better and we all enjoy my being able to make food again. :) I am particular about caring for my equipment and how my belongings are kept. We're all happy when I can enjoy being in my element. They ask if I want help, and if so, how they can help, when I am able to cook. That said, we all respect one another's belongings and domains. We each have spaces we call our own and, of course, our own belongings. Other than helping with pet care, repairs and such, we stay out of the kids' spaces (one lives at college except breaks and other is nearly grown). We do check to make sure our teen is keeping up with his room, bathroom and his cat boxes, but...
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Most people say if someone else cooks, then you clean up. My reality is...if I cooked, then I have no energy for cleaning up. I can either cook or clean up but not both. Also, if you cook, you really need to reduce the amount I have to clean when your done or it'll take me two days to get it all.
Suburbanmama00 3 years ago
Me too most of the time. Chronic illness sucks. I do my best to make sure as much as possible is either ready for the dishwasher or already washed when I cook
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The Sassy Wife 3 years ago
My kid has a bottomless pit for a stomach. He often makes himself a midnight snack. Sometimes toast, other times Mac & cheese, leftover spaghetti, meatloaf, frozen pizza, whatever. He's always amazed that I know exactly what what he made the night before when everyone else was sleeping. I frequently tell him that he'd make a terrible criminal because the amount of evidence he leaves after making just a piece of toast is astounding. My husband isn't much better. He's the barbecue guy, which you'd think would make kitchen clean up much easier right? Wrong. How does one manage to use 3 pots, 12 forks, multiple basting brushes and 2 Tupperware lids without the containers to make a baked potatoe and a steak on the barbecue?! Hahaha. I love my boys.
Suburbanmama00 3 years ago
Your kid a teenager? Sounds like life with a growing teen in the house to me. 🙂 My husband is also the bbq/smoker guy, but I usually prep or make sides. I often get out platters, seasonings and stuff he needs that aren't in with his BBQ stuff. Sometimes, he'll buy everything he needs when he buys meat though.
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Not just after you have cooked but the responsibility also cleaning up stuff just to be helping out throughout the course of the day
BeaBea 3 years ago (edited)
I'mma login for this one to allow me to leave a comment: if you plan to cook (and make mess) what business do you have "planning" my free time for? You mess, you clean. No, I didn't plan on spending 2 hours of my time to clean up the mess you made. When I cook there's hardly anything to clean up left. You can do the same - ding off of assuming I have energy or time to clean after you when we hadn't planned it
Cassi Lyris 3 years ago
To be fair, I clean WHILE I cook so this isn't an issue either way. Now, helping with prep. That's hot.
#9
Not clicking the tongs before using them.
Nathaniel 3 years ago
For those who do not know, double clicking tongs activates them, making your tongs perform much more effectively. No need to worry about shutting them off, tongs have an automatic switch after a period of inactivity.
Buren 3 years ago (edited)
But it's a general truth that you have to click them in prime numbers, and alternating it at minutes that can be divided by seven or someone at the end of the street is going to have a bad hair day
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Dumpster Fire 3 years ago
But the tongs don't even work if you don't click them together a few times.
Show thyself 3 years ago
Apparently you can force them to work without clicking them - that brute partner of mine did that. It worked a few times before they gave up and broke. 😔 I miss them.
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Heidi Haskell 3 years ago
those who don't click tongs are clearly aliens attempting to infiltrate human society
Dave Hinckley 3 years ago
I can't get my tongs' bluetooth working. Got any tips?
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censorshipsucks 3 years ago
it's a joke. apparently everyone clicks tongs together. the implication is if you do not do this, there's something peculiar about you.
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Susan Bosse 3 years ago
It's the law and it's what activates them. Otherwise they're useless and you're facing prison time.
Kellie Brown 3 years ago
Exactly! You now have *two* problems that were easily avoided!
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Touching the oven when I'm cooking. Had a friend "fix" the oven while I was reverse searing ribeyes a few years back so they'd cook faster. You know what happens to a ribeye when you leave it in the oven at 375 for an hour?
She did the same to a rack of ribs on another occasion. Saw that the grill was set to low and thought "That can't be right." Jacked it up to high without telling anybody, and treated us to a nice rack of charcoal chips for dinner.
Squirrelly Panda 3 years ago
She should have learned the first time. If she was my friend, she would get a blunt warning to not mess with my cooking again.
Catman 3 years ago
My freind would have been banned from the kicthen whil i'm cooking.
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Lisa H 3 years ago
Ooooh, that burns me up. Thankfully, my family is well aware to stay out of the kitchen when I'm cooking, unless I ask for help. My ex, on the other hand, did the same s**t that OP said. "It'll cook faster, you don't know what you're doing" says the guys who can only cook a handful of things and gets nervous every time. I took four years of cooking classes and have worked almost every single position in restaurants for i-don't-know-how-many years, which required a food handler's certificate to be renewed every couple years (which I did), oh, but I'M the one who didn't know what I was doing?! When he f****d around with my cooking and it didn't turn out right, he would criticize me. The few times I was able to cook a meal without his intervention, he actually liked it and didn't know why. 🤬
Kellie Brown 3 years ago
That’s not what the definition of toxic means, but it is incredible inconsiderate or presumptuous.
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Amanda Pittar 3 years ago
I had a “friend” who I was staying with to help out on the farm, constantly interfere with my cooking. The last straw was a week in. I was making my grandmother’s spaghetti sauce with red wine and fresh herbs, garlic it was simmering away. She had been watching me. I turned to start preparing the pasta. She poured a cup of sugar and a cup of malt vinegar into it “ THATs how you make proper sauce” she said f@#$& ruined it. My kids would not eat it. Her partner ate it but said it was “interesting”. We left the next day. Friendship over. Every single day. Never understood why. She ended up marrying him. Weird behaviour. I would never TOUCH anyone else’s cooking.
Candice Cook 3 years ago
I can't stand people that do stuff like that no matter the circumstance... Like do it yourself if you want, but leave my stuff alone.
#11
Haven’t seen cleanliness yet.
I’m not talking about pots, pans and dishes after (that should be negotiated or depends on who invited who. But one should always offer to help).
I’m talking about during preparation and cooking. For example, if you handle raw meat, you should use soap and warm water before touching anything else. Any possible contamination on a counter top, …
Heather Resatz 3 years ago
We were at a bbq and thankfully I was watching while he started brushing sauce from the bag (where the raw meat came from) onto the fully cooked chicken he was just about to serve! Salmonella anyone??
Benita Valdez 3 years ago
Oh mom. Used to think it was normal to get so many stomach aches. One of her worse crimes was adding the used breadcrumbs back to the container when she was making fried cutlets.
Cassi Lyris 3 years ago
I remember watching an old episode of Sesame Street from the early 1980's (some old compilation on Hulu I think) and a segment followed a family making dinner. It showed the mom handling the chicken raw, in the sink, rinsing it off and putting it on a cutting board before frying it. She then starts cutting salad on the board. I don't know how many of us survived the 70's & 80's...
Candice Cook 3 years ago
The sheer number of people that don't know(or care) that food safety if a thing...and an important one is terrifying.
Michael King 3 years ago
Some people just aren't trained in this stuff. I would try to teach first, but if they are belligerent about it then yeah.
Sparkle 3 years ago
Thankfully, I was raised by my grandmother who was absolutely terrified by the mere thought of food-borne illness. Everything had to be cooked very thorough, and she would use bleach cleaner after preparing certain meat dishes. Also, hand washing was a huge deal. Touch raw meat, wash your hands.
Kristen Doornenbal 3 years ago
Number 2 for me! Cleanliness is essential. And also, keep your animals off of the counters. I don’t care for the seasoning that they leave behind after walking through their litter box.
Dave Hinckley 3 years ago
I have a cutting board that is only used for raw meats. It's small enough to go in the dishwasher
#12
I knew a guy who dropped his $1 bottle of spaghetti sauce, jar broke in the bag. He goes and makes spaghetti…. With sauce. We ask if this is the same sauce…. Yup! He just pulled the chunks of glass out of it 😳. I do not eat that spaghetti or anything he cooked after that
Merilyn Horton 3 years ago
Mum made an elaborate birthday cake in the shape of an old farmhouse. She found a chip out of her glass bowl and threw the cake out for the chooks.
Mine Truly 3 years ago (edited)
That's extremely dangerous. Many cooks won't seve food that was anywhere near a broken jar, for example they'll throw out an entire stew if it was sitting open when glass shattered a couple feet away. Saw a cooking competition show once where the team refused to serve a mandatory dish because they wouldn't feed the judges glass. The pain, injury, and possible death from swallowing glass is NOT worth a few dollars worth of ingredients. Throw it out and order pizza, live to digest another day.
#13
Saying they are allergic to some ingredients but later admit they "just don't like the texture."
I get the texture thing, I hate mushy slimy myself. But ffs don't pull the "I am allergic to mushrooms/peas/onions/tomatoes" thing.
Chucky Cheezburger 3 years ago
And don't give others grief if they don't like the texture. I hate the texture of onions. Can't stand them. Don't even like to see them. If I had a dollar for every time someone gave me $H!T about it, I'd be able to hire someone to destroy all the onions in the world.
Kiss Army 3 years ago
I am legit allergic to onions and you would not believe the number of people who try to slip them in because they are sure I will be "just fine".
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Benita Valdez 3 years ago
My friend used to do that but I understand because everyone would annoy him to try theirs because it "probably was cooked bad so trust me you'll like mine"; that c**p can get annoying. So many people would get really pushy about him trying stuff he didn't like.
Tracy Wallick 3 years ago
Considering how disrespectful people can be of boundaries around food, I don't blame people for claiming allergies so they don't have to have the fight about texture for the billionth time.
Kate Jones 3 years ago
I used to watch sex and the city and there was an episode that talked about this. And I usually feel the same way but the character Carrie said something that I sort of agree with which was (I'm paraphrasing) that if she just asks to omit the item, it somehow finds a way of making it to the plate anyway- either they use the same pan so you can still taste it or the person making it just picks the ingredient out with their fingers which is gross, or they may even leave some because they didn't get it all out. Or worse, they retaliate because they get angry you want to 'alter' their perfect dish (like chefs who get angry if you ask for salt). Then she feels bad because she has to complain and other people at the table have to wait while she finishes her meal because it came later. So saying you're allergic just avoids the fight. Allergies are taken way more seriously by kitchen staff because no one wants to be sued. So... in that sense I get it.
Cassi Lyris 3 years ago
As someone who actually has pretty serious food allergies I flip this one around on the poster: Don't question when someone tells you they're allergic to something. Friend thought I just didn't like mustard so she snuck it into a spice mix once. Tasted fine, was fine for about 20 minutes after eating. Then the puking began...
shiny shinx 3 years ago
i saw a post about someone who pretended to be allergic to seafood at their relative's birthday (can't remember exact relation), having all the guests go to a different restaurant, because they just didn't like the smell... smh
Bunzilla 3 years ago
Yep. They pulled it on a ASD person who had major texture issues. It was the ASD person's birthday. That Chinese restaurant they wanted to go to was one of the few places they could go to eat. So the other place they were forced to go to, they couldn't eat anything. On their birthday. Just because the SIL didn't like the smell.
Load More Replies... Bla Blubb 3 years ago
Had one person tell me her kid is allergic to "green" food... Like green bell peppers, peas, cucumbers etc. A co-worker of mine just yelled across the room: "to green gummy bears as well?!" Said person turned beet red, left. Kiddo was good with any green, no allergy of any kind, just plain stupid attention whoring adult around... 🙄
TheLadyMagic 3 years ago
I've had the opposite problem, I am allergic to shrimp, another lady that I at that time only casually knew was allergic to bananas. We went to a dinner party that we were both invited to, and both of us ended up leaving by ambulance because even though the host knew I was allergic to shrimp and she was allergic to bananas she had somehow Incorporated both of these things into foods. She even said she thought it was because we didn't like the way they felt and didn't understand we were actually allergic.
#14
people who won’t eat leftovers
N Gregory 3 years ago
This can very much depend. My husband won't eat leftovers because the leftovers he was fed as a child were the result of the cheapest nastiest sh1t that he barely ate it before it became leftovers. Oh, and his leftovers weren't what was left in the dish unserved, they were the scraping back off the plate. So yeah, we don't do leftovers, thanks for your judgment.
zak 3 years ago
But... he's not in that situation anymore, and that's (presumably) not what leftovers would be in your home today. I don't see the logic in your argument. 🤷🏼♂️
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JMil 3 years ago
Sometimes. I have a few dishes in my rotation where this is true. Some other dishes (whether cooked at home or from a restaurant) it's a no.
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My issue with leftovers is texture and when it's not reheated properly. I'm on the spectrum and have major issues with food texture. People have their reasons, maybe ask why it is before judging,
Lea 3 years ago
That's a shitty excuse for being wasteful. It's not hard to prepare leftovers to either have the same qualities as freshly made or to use them to cook something else.
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Rens 3 years ago
Yesterday I made butternut soup; I had a bowl last night, a bowl tonight and I will have the last bowl tomorrow. I don't keep leftovers longer than 2 days. Usually I'd freeze the 2 extra bowls but my freezer is full!
Abrufal 3 years ago
Soup isn't left overs soup isn't even good till day 2
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Mrs. EW 3 years ago
This drives me insane. I don’t have the energy to cook every night and at first, my husband was against having the same dinner twice in a row. After 18 years, he’s rarely that bad now. And good thing, because no way would it have been 18 years so far, if he didn’t grow out of that nonsense.
Cassi Lyris 3 years ago
Uneaten leftovers in my house go straight to my birds (chickens and ducks). They always appreciate it!
Mario Strada 3 years ago
Some things are not good leftovers. French fries are a case in point. Fresh or nothing. Soups are actually better the next day. Pasta needs a certain care. No microwave, but refried spaghetti is actually very good, especially if you can caramelize the crust (they are like inverted "pasta al forno"). I am actually good enough now that when I cook for my wife and I any leftovers are planned.
PolymathNecromancer 3 years ago
I agree with this if it is a flat refusal owing to some sort of pompous and/or "too good for that" attitude........ but to and for all of the folks who refuse leftovers because of ANY form of trauma triggering, I say F*CK ALL OF THESE AZZHOLES WITH A "JUST SUCK IT UP" ATTITUDE. Trauma of any sort, while NOT to be misused as cover for the aforementioned grandiosity or used for excuses, ought *never* be glazed over.... :-(
ne0n1ce 3 years ago
It's a bad mindset to fall into self-pity instead of working towards post-traumatic growth. I myself have food related trauma from being forced to eat earthworms as a child and yet I have trained myself to eat cereal with milk again despite having a fear of worms in it.
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Clare Urbanski 3 years ago
If there's a legitimate issue (someone here mentioned texture aversion) that's one thing, but to everyone who's getting indignant about this one, the big red flag is people who throw away edible food purely because they can afford to throw away edible food.
AnnaPanda 3 years ago
Just because they are spoiled and have an attitude I'm better that that..
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I love to cook. My ex-boyfriend was a really picky eater. So i tried to make things without the ingredients he doesnt like. But several times after i cooked he said "im just gonna order something". I know it sounds like im a bad cook, but thats not the case. I worked in a kitchen for years and my friends all love my food. I still get pissed when i think about the time i just wanted him to tast my soup, just a little spoon. He refused because he was gonna order shoarma and didnt wanna ruin the 'before taste'.
Cassi Lyris 3 years ago
Ok, could be an a$$hole, could be autistic. Either way it's sit-down and talk time.
Becky Samuel 3 years ago
So forcing foods on people who have issues with allergies, textures or preferences is wrong until.... If he genuinely couldn't face the food then surely that's his choice. The principles of consent apply to food just as much as they do to everything else.
Rens 3 years ago
First Christmas dinner with my new bf, made my (very popular) oven roasted carrots with warming spices and a bit of brown sugar. He spat it out all over me, the kitchen cupboards and the floor.
DuchessDegu 3 years ago
Apart from allergies or sensory issues, he was very rude and has no taste, I was drooling just reading that, sounds delicious!
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Summer Khanfer 3 years ago
Sounds like he could have been autistic or had legit food aversions. He needed his food to be predictable, and if it didn’t taste exactly how he needed it to taste, he might not be able to eat for the rest of the day. So that one spoon of soup could have made it so he COULDNT eat the shawarma. It’s hard when you want to love someone with your food and it makes sense that the relationship didn’t work out when food means such different things to the both of you, love for you, risk of discomfort for him, but I don’t think he was TRYING to be a jerk.
Robert Beveridge 3 years ago
They were dating. If this were true and it had somehow never been a topic of conversation, that's not cooking related, but it's a definite red flag
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Starhawk Hunt 3 years ago
My second husband I teased as having the pickiness of a toddler. I loved him until the day he died, 20years of being best friends and another 20 married. I cooked his food like he wanted because I loved him and fancied up my meals. I give a million dollars to cook his way again but I lost him one month before 40 years of being best friends. If you love them, cook for them like they like and use the ingredients in what you want. His liking pasta plain with butter so I made sauce for myself. My roommate does the same for me; he’s the same age as my son so we’re not a couple, just very good friends. Honestly, what harm to do so? However, that ordering out is sh*tty and I’d have kicked him and kicked him again as he leaves!
#16
If they are purposefully cooking things that their partner does not like or worse, that they are allergic to.
TheAquarius1978 3 years ago
Well deppending on the case this might be a good thing, when i was a kid ( toddler ) i was alérgic to eegs, só my pediatritian advised my Mother to give me just a bit of egg every now and again, and it did work, i can eat eggs with no isues whatsoever, of course i only had a light reaction, and my Mother was advised by a doctor, don't f*****g do the same to a person that hás severe alergies, you might kill the poor bastard lol.
Clare Urbanski 3 years ago
Probably only a good idea to do the immunity building thing if a doctor tells you to, though
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Deborah B 3 years ago
I disagree on the 'doesn't like' thing. If you don't like eggs, that's not going to stop me having my comfort food of scrambled eggs on toast occasionally. Be an adult and make your own food. I don't like anything spicy - go ahead and have a curry, I can fix myself something else. Both people don't have to eat the same meal all the time. If you say you'll cook me dinner, and deliberately make something you know I don't like, then that's just dickish.
Wood Carver 3 years ago (edited)
Second the last sentence there. My wife and I eat almost none of the same foods. I've got digestive issues (wheat dairy and certain vegetables really upset my digestive tract) my wife, has a limited pallet for non-western dishes and eats mainly Italian and English food. She is not a fan of dishes from asia which tend to be more rice based and feature less dairy, which makes them safer for me. We just do 2 meals at dinner. Whoever is responsible is responsible for both. It would be awful of me to make her rice and tofu and just walk away. It would be equally awful for her to say I want pizza (one of the worst for me) so suck it up that's what we are having.... compromise is where love exists
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Kelly Radcliffe 3 years ago
My husband is extremely picky. Hates most sauces and can’t stand Asian food (my and our daughter’s favorite). After a few years of bland meal after bland meal I told him I was tired of always catering to HIS taste and if he didn’t want to try what I was making he was welcome to make something else. I will make him a plate before adding spices and sauces to some meal if the recipe permits, but expecting the rest of the family to give up what we like just for his exceptionally picky taste is ridiculous.
Bla Blubb 3 years ago
I sometimes have to cause the kids love "milchreis", round rice cooked in milk with a bit of vanilla or cinnamon. Guess what, hubby gets something different, noodles with premade sauce or something similar fast. All are happy, not much work, that's it! 🙃
Sue User 3 years ago
So it has a name. I have been making milchreis for breakfast for years. When i try explain, americans think i am eating rice pudding for breakfast.
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Seanette Blaylock 3 years ago
I see no reason the cook shouldn't get something he/she likes even if the partner doesn't care for that item, as long as the partner also has an acceptable meal of their own. Allergies are a different matter, of course.
Destiny Harrison 3 years ago
I mean there is such a thing as extremely picky eaters. I am picky myself. You can have a fend for yourself night and cook something. I dated a guy that didn't like mashed potatoes. You're telling me that for the rest of my life I'm not supposed to eat freaking mashed potatoes? Y'all are grown eat what you like.
Trinity Cottrell 3 years ago
My girlfriend doesn't like cabbage or tuna, but I offered to make dishes that used them in it, but we're pleasant, but I told her that it was just an option and I didn't want to force anything. She actually agreed, so I used chopped up cabbage in my San Choy Bao and my version of tuna mornay. Now she likes both. Turns out, her mother always made bland foods with tuna and cabbage, hence why she didn't like them.
Teddy O'Malley 3 years ago
I had a similar experience with carrot cake and pumpkin pie. thought I didn't like either. nope, just had a poor experience with both.
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Jodie daubenmire 3 years ago
I don't care what my husband likes, if it's healthy. And the kids want it, and will eat it.. he can eat toast.
AnnaPanda 3 years ago
That's the problem when husband doesn't like any healthy dishes like grilled chicken with veggies and would rather have pizza or chicken nuggets. Then I have to cook two dinners or rest of the family will have to eat unhealthy too
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Making fun of your diet restrictions.
Benita Valdez 3 years ago
I get it often because I'm allergic to peppercorns. No I don't sneeze. Yes I could die with a large enough quantity. Sorry you've never heard of someone's throat closing up from pepper but I assure you I'm not lying. Please don't try to test me; small amounts will only give slight breathing issues but I really enjoy breathing normal. It's not cute mocking me or slowly pushing the pepper shaker or grinder slowly towards me.
Pumpkin Spice 3 years ago
*quickly pulls pepper grinder away from you because you seem nice and i do not want to affect you negatively*
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B Hobbit 3 years ago
Somewhere along the way "gluten free" became a joke and people often don't take me seriously when I say that I am very sensitive even to cross-contamination.
Xander Kurtz 3 years ago
Its People like my aunt. She goes on every trendy diet and does invent new food sensitivities in part to justify it. She's literally claimed to be allergic to meat when in a vegetarian phase and then switched to a Jordan Peterson all meat diet a few years later when she realized it's actually the sugars in fruits that are the big devil destroying her health. With gluten free and Paleo going in between. And unlike people with genuine sensitivities she's extremely loud about it and gets very judgemental of everyone around her that isn't on the same diet she is (she literally started sneering at me for daring to eat a banana around her child who is only allowed to eat bacon and drink diet sodas because sugar was the big evil at the time and she didn't want her kid to think fruit is okay). And since people like that *are* the loudest the more genuine people sometimes are never actually seen or known by many who notice new marketing terms and menu options etc
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If I had a dime for every "You should live in a bubble" a$$ comment....
Endless Ender 3 years ago (edited)
I know how this feels, I am mildly allergic to avocados and the people have tried to force me to eat avocado related things and get mad at me when I don't eat them and when I try to tell them I'm allergic, they (they mostly being my ex- boyfriend and his family ) always tellling me " That's a load of bullsh*t" or " people don't get allergic to avocados, you're just lying". Now I'm glad I dumped that guy.
Patty Smith 3 years ago
Years ago, my aunt went to dinner at a friend's house. She was very allergic to mushrooms and had asked her friend not to make anything with them in it. Her friend decided it must all be in her head and she wasn't really allergic, so she hid mushrooms in one of the dishes she served. My aunt went home that night and was violently ill. Whether you believe it or not, if someone says they are allergic, don't try to prove them wrong. You may wind up putting them in the hospital, or worse.
Paul Pienkowski 3 years ago
I'll eat anything. I've eaten worms on dares. But I can't eat stuff that's too cold due to dental issues (congenital, can't be fixed) and it's odd asking for no ice. My girlfriend was confused at first but doesn't even notice anymore.
David Madden 3 years ago
I used to get made fun of my diet restrictions. Then I got big and put a big voice with it. Now I stand up for others who get picked on about such things. I hate stupid people.
#18
Medium rare chicken
Nathaniel 3 years ago
I once had a co worker, who was obsessed with her weight, (she was fricking fine) her diet tip was to eat slightly undercooked chicken.
TheAquarius1978 3 years ago
To be fair, salmonela Will make you lose a lot of weight lol
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Ambry Petersen 3 years ago
Eeeewwwwww. After food poisoning in high school all my meat is well done.
Jane Cortez 3 years ago
This makes SO much sense as a diet aid!!! At least a week of vomiting and diarrhoea!!! Bonus points if one has the ‘stomach’ to continue as soon as one recovers!!!
Robert Beveridge 3 years ago
You can get chicken sashimi at a restaurant in Oregon. I'll be back later with more fun facts! (https://www.oregonlive.com/dining/2013/04/raw_chicken_sashimi_tonkotsu-m.html)
Clare Urbanski 3 years ago
No, but there's a worryingly common misconception that it is
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#19
The last time I saw this question posted, a guy responded saying that his wife only makes one thing at a time when making a meal. Mashed potatoes until they’re done, then beginning the meat, etc. He hadn’t had a hot meal in years. That comment still haunts me.
JMil 3 years ago
Or offer to double team? Cook one or more items in parallel with his wife?
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Cassi Lyris 3 years ago
This is an ADHD coping mechanism. Not a good excuse. Also, he could've bloody cooked it then, huh?
Obvious Decoy 3 years ago
I was going to make the same comment. Having ADHD, I can cook more than one thing at a time, however, the more items I'm cooking the lower the overall success rate will be for everything. When I can I stick to the 'one pot' type meals.
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Jasam Nitko 3 years ago
My husband cooks that way. He had a stroke and needs to work in a slow pace while dealing with one issue at the time. I still get warm food since I'm an adult, fully capable of getting things done. Also, we have a deal. If I do the cooking he'll do the dishes, that way he'll be free to take all the time he needs.
HalcyonVampire 3 years ago
I love this for you guys! Also I hope he gains more strength every day ❤️ my father had many strokes and I know it can be frustrating for them and for you too, but there is always room for recovery!
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Shelby Moonheart 3 years ago
My mom was a superstar when it came to getting everything done at the same time so that we'd have fresh hot food. She taught me that basic scheduling trick.
DumYum 3 years ago
It was a thing we (girls) learned in Home EC class. Now boys take the class too, if they offer it. Very practical class in middle school.
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RandomFrog(He/They️️) 3 years ago
Ok so I do this too but I ussually don’t cook full meals. The reason being is I very likely am neurodivergent and have a hard time being under stress. Like I’m fine multitasking YouTube Netflix and painting but cooking is stressful becuase if you over or under cook the noodles, ruined. You could catch the house on fire. Etc etc. and I’m already easily distracted. Plus if I do cook multiple things they need to be on a ratiod times. Like I could maybe do it if I only had to strain the noodles at five mins and take the sauce off the heat at ten, but most things r like stir this every two mins, but stir this every five then turn up the heat in this other thing after 12mins and don’t let the other thing boil over while you strain something else. Its too much so I only do one thing at a time
Jodie daubenmire 3 years ago
This sounds like an OCD issue. Like a mental health thing. And what is wrong with the guy in her life?? He can't help with tasks?
#20
Not having any spices at all in your kitchen
Lisa H 3 years ago
I always say that a good, varied spice cabinet is an investment. Learn how to use them properly and you can make anything taste amazing, even if you're broke and eating spaghetti for the fifth night in a row. I always make sauces from scratch because it's cheaper and I have the spices for it.
Anonymous 3 years ago
I have zero ability to detect and/or add spices and herbs to adjust the taste. Give me a recipe and that's what you'll get but I have never been able to learn how to to do the "needs a bit more nutmeg" thing; and not for lack of trying.
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Claire 3 years ago
Agree. Don't know why this is a red flag. I love spices but if someone doesn't use them, that's fine. Doesn't make them a bad person or a creep -- which is what red flags are for...
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Elizabeth Peters 3 years ago
Having herbs and spices and knowing how to use them can elevate even the simplest foods.
Richard Alston 3 years ago
Lol so glad I grew up with seasoning.. Not sure how or why people don't season their food.
Ambry Petersen 3 years ago
Depends some people can't have alot of spices in thier food due to health reasons.
Susan Bosse 3 years ago
I have so many that I've run out of counter space. And yes, I use them all often.
Olga Pen 3 years ago
Do you mean the actual range of spices or just pepper? Cause I like spices, but not the ones that have capsaicin in them. Coriander, nutmeg, cinnamon, cumin, saffron - all of those are spices, but they don't have the "heat", they add to the flavor one can actually enjoy. Oh, and herbs. Herbs are important.
David Madden 3 years ago
Here's a fun trick. As long as you not allergic to mustard severely or just don't like the taste of mustard, adding a super small pinch of turmeric to your food over time will help you appreciate the taste and may even get to the point where you can tolerate mustard. Most people don't realize what all is in mustard and that association really helps.
Awsomemom52 3 years ago
I currently have about 40 different spices / spice blends and herbs... and I use about 75% of them regularly. That doesn't even include the homemade garlic paste, soup paste (like instant veggie broth but homemade with fresh veggies) and other pastes etc., that I keep in the fridge or freezer. Sorry, but people who cook with only 4 or 5 spices are weird.
#21
Not being the one who's chore it is to clean something doesn't give you license to make more work than necessary for someone else. It's a huge red flag when you and your partner have the alternating "one cooks, other cleans" chore cycle and your partner completely *trashes* the kitchen every time it's their turn to cook. I'm talking leaving out ingredients, spilling and splashing stuff everywhere, dirtying way more cookware than needed, or cooking in a way that leaves burnt on residue so you have to deep clean. When I was still married to my ex I always tried to keep things neat when I cooked and he always left a huge mess. Turns out its a big warning sign that they don't value your time or have consideration for your feelings.
Bill Evs 3 years ago
Yep, this is a bugbear of mine as well. When I cook I tend to tidy as I go so what's left at the end is minimal. I've known people though who, when they cook, seem to use every pot and utensil in the kitchen. It's like "we had soup, why is the wok in the sink"?
BlackestDawn 3 years ago
Well... in fairness you can still make soup in a wok, not ideal but fully doable. Now if they try a waffle iron then you should probably just run, it will only damage you trying to make sense of it.
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Kwj 3 years ago
I clean as i go, my husband does not, he laves a huge mess, but it doesn't bother me, I'm just more organized I guess. I'm usually the one that cooks, but he almost races me to the kitchen to clean up after dinner. Sometimes I do both and it doesn't bother me because he's always very helpfull with the cleaning at home, we have each our thing and it works for us. He's also the first one to ask where he should buy dinner from if I'm having a day where I don't want to cook.
David L. 3 years ago
I usually do most of the kitchen cleanup. My joke is that when my wife cooks, I tell her it’s not fair to make her clean it up when she cooked everything; and when I cook, I tell her that I made the mess so it’s only fair that I clean up after myself. :-) Shes definitely faster at cleaning up the kitchen, but she hates cleaning it and I don’t mind doing it, so it works out.
Ivana Bašić 3 years ago
Same person cooks and cleans, but alternate days. So you make a mess for yourself and you have days you don't have to do anything.
Adonai Mchenry 3 years ago
This is my Dad. He'll cook, but as he's cooking he'll say "Oops I'm making a mess haha" as he's making a huge fcking mess then tell the rest of us to clean it up. (The food do be good though but still) 🤦🏾♀️
Bonnie Edwards 3 years ago
I do most of the cooking in my home. If you listen to my husband complain, he would have you believe that I burn pans deliberately, every single time I cook. Also, my ability to wash dishes fails to meet his expectations, but washing dishes happen to other people. My response was to make him responsible for all dishes. We've been married 16 years now. He's got a lot of redeeming qualities.
Barb Fellows 3 years ago
Just switch to one person cooks and cleans while the other has the night off from kp duty.
Evelyn Haskins 3 years ago
MY Daughter complained about this when she was living in share accommodation, The girls did plain meals leaving little washing up, while to boys seems to use every pot and utensil in the kitchen. I advised to her change the rule, The COOK also cleans up after the meal.
#22
Being a full-grown adult who doesn’t know how to cook
Squirrelly Panda 3 years ago
Depends. A young adult, just left the nest, might not have been taught. If willing to learn, great. An adult who can follow recipe instructions but is a meh cook due to lack of interest, as long as honest and appreciative of others cooking, fine. An adult who doesn't know how to cook even the simplest thing and refuses to learn on the other hand...
Lisa H 3 years ago
My grandma was a terrible cook (just usually cooked out of boxes and cans), but still made a true and sincere effort to make sure her family was fed. Some people just don't have a knack for it and as long as they try, I think that says they care.
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Roland Nijveld 3 years ago
Maybe people should accept that there just some people who hate doing it and are bad at it. I technically can cook but it doesn't taste that great and I hate doing it. While I'm normally not a bread eater, I definitely prefer a sandwich or cereal to having to cook.
Monday 3 years ago
Same here. I can prepare food, but I'm not good at it. I have no natural cooking instincts and 10 years of cooking has not changed that. Give me a recipe and I can probably deliver you an edible product, but stick me in a kitchen with ingredients and no instructions and you're not gonna like what I come up with.
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Can't agree. As long as your inability to cook doesn't cause troubles for other people, it's totally fine in my opinion. Just don't make it into a weapon for making others solve your problems for you.
Xander Kurtz 3 years ago
There also needs to be more consideration for disability and other such factors that can complicate what people consider to be "basic skills". I can cook. But just barely. If my dyspraxia was any worse it would be very dangerous for me to operate anywhere near a source of heat or to operate a knife. As is i still usually get injured, but not very badly. For the most part i stick to baking things and let my partner flip and take things out of the oven, handle meat (i get too paranoid about the germs and also can't figure out how to notice the slight pink to brown changes and such), and usually operate the skillet (again i always get burned). I also do most of the chopping and other prep work when it comes to regular meals We both suck at that part but they have less experience and do a lot of the other steps. I also cook eggs cause they just can't figure out how and i do the air fryer cause it just came easier to me when it first came in.
Xander Kurtz 3 years ago
But it's like always hanging over my head that I'm technically on the "high functioning" side of things. And a lot of people can't realistically do many of the things I simply struggle with. And most fully abled people don't know that and often harshly judge me and assume i have "no experience" just because of how uncoordinated i am (I've been cooking dinner for 7+ people 4 nights a week since i was 12 and my mom broke her knee. I'm just also disabled). It's such a b******t bias. As is the bias around things like hair, makeup and even shoe laces. Not to mention the judgements on buying pre peeled/pre chopped veggies or other "lazy" products that are literally accessibility.
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Wood Carver 3 years ago
Cooking is chemistry plus instinct. Shaming people for being bad at chemistry seems silly. Shaming chemists for it, sure, but if you've never seen an erlenmeyer flask you're not going to know what it is for.. being a full grown adult who refuses to learn to cook and can't afford not to know how but can afford not to just eat KD, so expects others to do it, that is infuriating..
BatPhace 3 years ago
I cannot even begin to tell you how many of my kid's friends I've taught to do simple s**t like boil water on the stove (no electric kettle, sorry), how to make bread (nothing fancy just basic b***h sandwich bread) and how to use coupons at the store and meal plan around what's on sale. Apparently I'm the communal mom 😆😆
TrippyBanana 3 years ago
I know plenty of people who can't cook, but they can bake like a professional. Where as I can barely pop open the tube of cinnamon rolls and bake them without the cinnamon burning to the pan. If someone isn't taught how to cook or the person that did cook did it poorly it's hard to gain that skill. Not every school has cooking classes these days.
Graham Berry 3 years ago
If you don't have any thing stopping you and you are an adult, then you should be able to cook at least a little. I'm not talking anything elaborate, just things like boil/scramble eggs, bake a potato, or maybe pancakes. Under normal conditions it is a good life skill and shows that you are responsible and capable of taking care of yourself and, when needed, others.
Denise Lewis 3 years ago
well those of us who were expected to do there part of cooking a meal growing up. learned how to cook because we were there when the meals were made. yeah i know I'm old but now either the parents cook everything and kids are not around when food is cooked. or food is ordered delivered there was no delivery. and we couldn't afford to just go eat out there were six kids in the family.
Tracy Wallick 3 years ago
There's no shortage of millennials whose parents didn't teach them s**t, including how to cook. I had to learn through a lot of trial and error, and cookbooks designed to teach.
#23
Not necessarily cooking but it's a pet peeve of mine when people buy things and just, don't eat them but throw them away... watched my ex purchase a wonderful looking ice cream, sit and let it melt for half an hour, then get up and throw it away.
Graham Berry 3 years ago
I was poor growing up. waisting food is waisting money. You just don't do it. But accidents happen. As Long as they don't keep doing it as a habitual thing then I don't think that this is much of a red flag.
Edurne 3 years ago
this happened a few times in my house, but we don't do it on purpose.. we tend to buy a lot of groceries in one sit rather than going to the store multiple times a week, and sometimes we don't get to eat everything before it expires/goes bad so we have to throw some stuff away
Hannah Finley 3 years ago
Same, we both work full time and he's gone 3-5 days a week at a moments notice. It's a refrigerator roller coaster at our house
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HalcyonVampire 3 years ago
I know this is different, but I have ADHD and often forget what I have stored in the pantry and fridge and forget what I purchase. (Side note, any tips about organizational systems feel free to share)
#24
My ex wife wanted to make meatloaf when we were first married. I was like cool I love meatloaf. So she pulled this meatloaf out of the oven when I got home. It was a slightly charred sad looking meatball floating in grease. She was apologetic about it but I didn't say s**t about it. I have never complained about her cooking anything. I made meatloaf a few weeks later and she loved it and wanted to know what I put in it. I told her and asked her how she makes meatloaf. She said you take some meat and put it in a pan. No egg, salt, pepper, ketchup. Just meat. I was like yep this is going to take some work. Turns out she was overconfident about everything and just winged it.
JMil 3 years ago
Winging it works if you are experienced and accomplished (assuming good, sensible ingredients are available).
Whitefox 3 years ago
Agree, my mom, myself and my hubs can wing a dish and its delish. In fact I was trying to get hubs recipe for his chili and ended up having to catch each of his ingredients, figuring how much it was and writing it down because he listens to his ancestors when cooking lol.
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DJR 3 years ago
Read five recipes of the same dish, get an idea for what's supposed to happen, make it happen using ingredients on hand, "OMG this is delicious, save this recipe", repeat.
Carp Fish 3 years ago
This is how I cook. Unfortunately it means we can never have the same meal twice.
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Charlie 3 years ago
Winging it is perfectly all right if one know basics of cooking, and have some prior experience. I do it all the time, and I cook quite well, I've been told. The only things i don't experiment to much with is many desserts and baking. That's more related to science/ follow the manual (Recipe). And I don't have much experience with those dishes.
Ugh_What_Now 3 years ago
Nah, baking is a science. Cooking is something you get to play with.
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Gabby Ghoul 3 years ago (edited)
I often wing it. Sometimes late in the week I'll just look around the pantry and fridge, see what we have left, and then see what I can make out of it. Occasionally it's great, usually it's good, and once in a while it's something best forgotten.
RandomFrog(He/They️️) 3 years ago
I wing it with recipes not by myself!! I will loosely follow recipes sometimes but I have never made smth without a recipe
wifeofweasley 3 years ago
I wing all my recipes (after about 5 years of studying recipes, training and cooking at least 3 times a week) and it always turns out pretty good. I mostly adjust ingredients, add spices or switch them with what I like better.
Stannous Flouride 3 years ago
Don't forget bread crumbs. Meat loaf, like many popular foods*, started out as poor people's food. It was a way to stretch the meat when you had a limited amount. *(To name a few: Fettuccine Carbonara, pastrami, brisket, oysters, salmon, caviar, portobello mushrooms, Stroganoff, etc, etc. were all eschewed by the upper classes at some point)
Jerrilyn Henson 3 years ago
Good on you. If you haven’t already you will help her be an excellent cook.
#25
I am unable to trust anyone who doesn't like pizza.
shiny shinx 3 years ago
welp... guess I'm evil then xD (pls don't downvote lol)
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Catman 3 years ago
Please don't downvote me for this, but I don't really like pizza. I can eat it, but prefer my own cooking.
Bill Evs 3 years ago
I'm kind of the same. It's not that I don't like it I'm just a bit indifferent to it.
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Gingergirl 3 years ago
I didn’t like pizza as a child, just couldn’t understand why you would put all those ingredients together on dough. Now I’m older and wiser. Pineapple still doesn’t belong on pizza though
William Stark 3 years ago
Pineapple goes on pizzas just like tongues go in butts. It is not for everyone, but those of us who enjoy it are a bit more sophisticated.
Load More Replies... Jack and Coke 3 years ago
I don't like pizza because I don't like red sauces or cheese. I tried it once and that was that. Actually, I won't eat anything with sauce, buttered noodles ftw.
Evelyn Haskins 3 years ago
I prefer pineapple with pork, Mostly in a sweet and sour stew with LOTS of ginger in it.
Mirabelle Stonegate 3 years ago
My dad isn't a fan of pizza.... because he hates cheese. However, if you make him one without cheese, he will happily eat it. When I make pizza from scratch, I always separate out a bit of dough for him, so his can be made with no cheese.
#26
When they put your best knives in the dishwasher
Bored Retsuko 3 years ago
Cough ... I recently ruined a knife with a wooden handle by putting it in the dishwasher then leaving it unemptied for I don't know how long
Historyharlot93 3 years ago
My son used my best chopping knife to cut up his frozen pizza. I told him it was the equivalent of me using his Xbox controller to hammer nails into the wall. I also have a Chinese chef knife that I immediately wash, polish and put back into its box and hide it in the back of the cupboard. I never thought being an adult would come to me having favorite knives and a favorite wooden spoon, but here we are…
Wood Carver 3 years ago
You're using that Japanese piece perfectly. Next time he does it, show don't tell lol
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Tracy Wallick 3 years ago
Nobody taught me to cook, so I didn't learn this rule until this post :(
Sparkysheep 3 years ago
Or put knives in the bottom of the sink or in the. Bowl of water i put the other utensils in ><
Hannah Finley 3 years ago
AHHH my husband used to do thus, he's never worked in kitchens or had nice knives. After cutting myself for the second time w***y nilly reaching in the sink, I had a small and polite meltdown. Cut free 3 years now LOL
Load More Replies... Wood Carver 3 years ago
Knifemaker as a hobby here. I have now sold enough of them that I can predict at least 1 handle replacement per year as income, because not only did they wash and not dry your best knife but I work exclusively in carbon steel, so the handles are wrecked and the blade is bright orange.... we cry together then I make it better
#27
Refuses to eat vegetables
Nathaniel 3 years ago
I know a few people who claim not to like any vegetables. I mean how? There are literally thousands of varieties of vegetables, all with different flavours, all with multiple methods of cooking which can vary the taste. Have you gone through and tasted them all?
Benita Valdez 3 years ago
Trauma from childhood. My sister learned in her 30's that she actually likes vegetables; just not the crimes my mom made
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CelticElff 3 years ago
Please have compassionate space for people who are dealing with medical issues. There are very few veg I can tolerate, but I have food trauma and recently learned I'm autistic which adds to my issues. It's often a taste & texture thing.
Rens 3 years ago
I know the feeling, and yes I am autistic too. I also have IBS so there are loads of veg I can't eat anymore (cruciferous vegetables, turnip, swede, mushrooms,) some aversions are due to smell, taste and texture.
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Matt Smith 3 years ago
Corn, potatoes, and maybe peas are about the only vegetables I actually like. The rest range from only tolerating them in certain dishes to outright being unable to taste them without gagging.
ADHD McChick 3 years ago
Again, this can be attributed to sensory issues stemming from ADHD, ASD, and other similar disorders. People like that (like me) with strong, * uncontrollable* reactions to certain tastes or textures cannot even put certain things in their mouths. Unless the host wants them to puke all over the table. Please don't judge.
Sabrina Monson 3 years ago
I have been crazy picky my whole life. It's a taste and texture thing for me with most veggies. I can't do bitter or earthy and the smell puts me off. I don't like potatoes and get so much flack for that. Lettuce makes me gag, one tiny piece in a taco and the whole thing gets given away, I cant even have it touching anything cause that taste lingers. I do like green olives, corn, and pickles. That's about it.
Israel Martinez 3 years ago
I don't unless it's a Caesar salad ... just can't stand the texture and taste of it ... at least I'm not lying and saying I'm allergic to them ... if I do eat it on a whim, it's, usually, doused with something delicious like cheese ...
Chucky Cheezburger 3 years ago
Yeah, there aren't many that I like. Some of it is texture, some of it is that they reek. But I have tried many and yeah, it's not for me.
Jack and Coke 3 years ago
My thoughts exactly. I'm an adult and I eat what I want, and that doesn't include many veggies.
Load More Replies... Robert Beveridge 3 years ago
I saw a survey maybe a year ago saying 25% of Americans claim to have never eaten a vegetable. HOW? Do you never eat soup? Never get fries with your absolutely plain burger? No chili? I mean...
Mrs. EW 3 years ago
Ok, for those who don’t know, there’s such a thing as super tasters and people who can’t do certain textures. For super tasters, anything bitter or tart is not going to fly. Super tasters have extra tastebuds. One way to check to see if you are such, is blue food coloring. Most people, your tongue will turn blue. Super tasters may get a slight hint of blue, but it usually doesn’t show. And why I was always disappointed when us kids would show our tongues after a blue blow pop and mine was never bright blue. Sweeter and spicy veggies, I can handle but the texture turns me off often. I like to make emulsified sauces from veggies I can handle. But eating most cooked or raw, I just can’t unless I was literally starving.
#28
My ex thought that "browning" ground meat meant leaving it in the fridge til it turned brown.
Jerrilyn Henson 3 years ago
Before my sis in law became a sis in law she was helping me in the kitchen. I was 15 and she was 14. I had just met my future husband. Anyway, she was the 3rd child of 6 and oldest girl. I asked her to watch something until it boiled. She didn’t know what boil meant. Her mom was a great make a meal out of nothing cook but did it herself, didn’t teach her girls. Hopefully she did later.
#29
someone who judges my personal tastes so strongly that they allow it to threaten a (potential) relationship
Justin Smith 3 years ago
And the two above this for me qre not trusting or liking people who dont eat pizza or use garlic or garlic powder. Irony.
Kellie Brown 3 years ago
I think the pizza one is a humorous comment, not serious.
Load More Replies... The Captain 3 years ago
Oxymoron this is Paradox. Paradox this is Oxymoron. Red flag "if someone doesn't like 'x'" Then "if someone judges you for not liking 'x'" WTF??!!!!!
Adam L 3 years ago (edited)
I have nothing against my wife putting ketchup on her Mac n cheese, I even put the bottle on the table next to her. I used to put Tabasco sauce on my peanut butter toast.
Evelyn Haskins 3 years ago
I really do NOT caer what other people want to eat, BUT please IF you are very fussy, never accept a dinner invitation from me. (That goes for vegetarians as well and vegans)
Morgan Montierth 3 years ago
Wait didnt you just judge others tastes in #25? (For the record I do like pizza) 🍕
Morgan Montierth 3 years ago
Wait isn't #25 you judging other peoples taste? (For the record I do like pizza) 🍕
Sheila Perri 3 years ago
Differing personal tastes are relationship breakers. That's how you know if you are with the right person. I couldn't be with anyone who eats only meat and mashed potatoes; like my Dad.
#30
Saying that MSG is extremely bad for food.
Deb Dedon 3 years ago
It's not bad for food, but it is bad for those who don't tolerate the stuff very well.
Xander Kurtz 3 years ago (edited)
A supposed sensitivity that has consistently been shown to be not only fake but highly associated with believing racist narratives and propaganda. Yeah okay. I'll simply stop judging *that*.
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Misty-Dawn Amayi 3 years ago
Some people are legitimately allergic to it, particularly if they are Type 2 diabetics or if they have renal issues.
Benita Valdez 3 years ago
My mom was sensitive to it so I grew up thinking it was bad. I've since learned the truth of its deliciousness
Aria Anise 3 years ago
MSG is all natural and naturally occurring. HOWEVER, some of the methods used to make MSG are not. For myself I'm not allergic to naturally occurring msg. But something like autolyzed yeast extract is a whole other thing. As for allergies, anyone can be allergic to anything. And some things are allergies where others are sensitivities which can be different. The way brains are some people have different reactions. Finally a couple things I find that people who throw around the word narrative are usually suspect. I find that some people throw around the word racist and woke without taking into account their history and ther impact on others and more specifically communities of color and other non-traditional communities. Finally, it's like most things. We all have our opinions and we need to respect each other's choices.
Gayle Hendricks 3 years ago
MSG is basically a good cover up for bad food. It enhances the flavor. However, for many, many people the real problem is the accompanying migraine. I've actually gotten a migraine before finishing my meal when there's an excessive amount of MSG in the food.
Alexandros Baltas 3 years ago
Sorry you are clueless, you can't improve bad food with msg.
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Anne Nielsen 3 years ago
It IS delicious, but exactly 28 minutes after ingesting it there will be a nuclear size bowel explosion. SO.... not so great for me!!!
Alexandros Baltas 3 years ago
How much do you eat? It's a f*****g additional and should not replace salt, seriously do you eat it spoon fulls of it?
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Matthew Smith 3 years ago
Speaking as one who studies biochemistry, there isn't really any strong evidence that MSG problems are real, BUT because most MSG is extracted from shrimp it usually contains the proteins they trigger shellfish allergist. It's basically never a perfectly refined extract containing only MSG and while it seems people technically aren't sensitive to the MSG, they often are having reactions to what is contained in the container labeled MSG.
Panda Parade 3 years ago
Too much sodium is bad for anyone, and it probably got a bad rap because every Asian restaurant I've ever worked at uses A LOT more per dish because MSG has 1/3 of the usual sodium compared to typical table salt. So, when one order of fried rice requires, on average, 6 tbsp. of MSG and 3 tbsp. of sugar, yeah, you might get a headache here and there if you're usual meal doesn't consist of that much salt or sugar.
Kimberly Wiltshire 3 years ago
It's actually bad to use frequently, because it changes how your brain inturrprets flavor.
#31
Washes pans with ice cold water as "hot water hurts my hands". Maybe try warm water and oh great, everything is coated in a thin film of f*****g GREASE.
Thanks for the feedback, but you're all wrong, warm water is superior to cold.
Also don't be under the illusion I haven't always been using dish soap.
poiplescales 3 years ago
Dishwashing gloves let you use super hot water that would melt your skin.
Sarah Kathrin Matsoukis 3 years ago
Gloves, good thick rubber gloves. Or even better a dishwasher.
Jeff Gabrisl 3 years ago
Also, Dawn is the worst dishwashing detergent. It's great at removing petrochemicals, but hardly effective on biological oils. That is why they use Dawn to clean animals after oil spills. It removes the crude, but preserves the animals' natural oils. Use Ajax, it cost half the price and actually removes grease from cookware.
Benita Valdez 3 years ago
Look, I have an electric water heater and I need to do everything I can to keep my electric bill low. Hot water is for showers and quick hand washing only.
#32
I’m a professional cook and I’ve had so many guys give me (badly informed) “advice” on stuff I’m doing wrong while I’m in the middle of cooking them a meal. Ex: “you didn’t marinate the steak? It’s gonna turn out super dry”
Buren 3 years ago
On the other hand, professional doesn't mean they know everything, as proven in many field of works, especially when they are using solely that as reasons to refuse advices.
Sydneywhite 3 years ago
I agree, watch us both get downvoted to oblivion.
Load More Replies... Kate Jones 3 years ago
This is really annoying for any profession, and it's often done by family members. I'm a banker in a supervisory position, have been so for along time, and help train people, yet my parents always talk to me like they know more about banking than i do.
#33
My brother told my friend she makes very nice ice water.
Nathaniel 3 years ago (edited)
I use only the best ice, hewn from glaciers breaking away from Antarctica.
Vic 3 years ago
I just turn on my AC to full and sprayed a couple cans of deodorant just to help you, my friend..
Load More Replies... Buren 3 years ago
Hey, socializing is hard sometimes! I almost compliment someone for being alive.
ADHD McChick 3 years ago
Yeah. Maybe the brother was just trying to be nice. Awkward happens. Not a red flag.
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MrsWelton 3 years ago
Uh, HOW is this a red flag? It really isn't. Maybe it tasted good, or she put lemon slices in it, or something? Our well water tastes awesome, a city I used to live it has great-tasting water, too, but this family I used to clean house for, had awful-tasting and smelling water, like sulphur.
#34
Ketchup on everything
Kate Jones 3 years ago
I'm more concerned over people who squeeze it all over instead of dipping it into the ketchup. I feel like the 'squeeze all over' people are the same who put the toilet paper roll on backwards, or put the milk in the bowl first before the cereal... and generally cause havoc in the world, lol
Cathy Jo Baker 3 years ago
There's a restaurant in my town that served plain potato chips with a sandwich. I asked for ketchup. The waitress said the chef doesn't let customers have ketchup. I was too wimpy to argue that I merely wished to dip my plain, boring potato chips (that he did not cook) in it.
Louloubelle 3 years ago
Why? Are you eating it? No? Then let it be. Would you be this judgmental if it was another sauce of some sort? How does this affect the person not eating it?
#35
If they never use garlic or garlic powder.
Nancy Farrell 3 years ago
I can't eat garlic or onion because I get violently sick. It started three years ago and it's so sad.
N Gregory 3 years ago
I'm fairly certain having an intolerance or allergy to alliums should reasonably exempt you from this flag.
Load More Replies... CelticElff 3 years ago
There are dietary issues like gastroparesis, where you must avoid FODMAP foods (garlic and onion are on the no-go list)
Rens 3 years ago
I'm on a low FODMAP diet, and a lot of the foods on the list are things that cause me digestive distress; funnily enough I can tolerate Bok Choi and that's a low FODMAP food.
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Freddy M. (He/Him) 3 years ago
I like garlic, but I personally don't like when it's used like a main ingredient. I enjoy there being garlic in pizza, but there shouldn't be cloves of garlic on there like they're pepperoni (this is of course just my preference)
Gabby Ghoul 3 years ago
I have never had a meal that led me to say "this has too much garlic in it."
DC 3 years ago
Pesto, one of the very few, can have too much. OTOH, once Basil and Pine Seeds are replaced by cheaper stuff (like in about every jar from every store - make that stuff yourself!), nothing matters anymore anyway...
Load More Replies... Mario Strada 3 years ago
I use garlic, but not garlic powder. I don't know what to do with it. Fresh garlic is good enough for me.
ADHD McChick 3 years ago
See I'm the exact opposite, lol. I LOVE garlic powder, and love the taste of garlic, but not the texture of fresh. (But I also have ADHD and sensory issues, so...yeah, lol.) Garlic doesn't love me, though. Gives me the burps, all night long. But I still eat it. 😂😂😂😂
Load More Replies... #36
My ex set the stove on fire. Making spaghetti. Our ELECTRIC, FLAMELESS, stove. Don't ask me how it happened. I have no idea. I was just on my phone and she went "Uhh babe." Looked up to see our stove on fire.
N Gregory 3 years ago
Gonna hazard a guess (based on my experience with a school friend who I swear could burn water). Did they put water in the pan for the spaghetti? You can use spaghetti as a taper to light candles (you end up getting a slight scent of toast), so it's possible the spaghetti is the thing that caught on fire.
Benita Valdez 3 years ago
Well you can potentially do that if you're using booze to cook. A few times I got a little flame from booze but I can't say I've actually really set something on fire because it dies out super quick. I suppose a paper towel burning and there are booze vapors near could get you a little fire too
#37
I have a roommate who puts applesauce on everything he eats. So yeah that’s probably it
ADHD McChick 3 years ago
My husband likes applesauce on his pork chops. And, believe it or not, I knew somone who put applesauce on pizza. Hey, to each their own, lol.
#38
When she cooks and then "forgets" to throw away all her packaging and trash and rotting food in the trash can that's 6 feet away from the stove.
Then she proceeds to try to make YOU out to be the bad guy when you confront her about the scraps of food left on the cutting board that have shriveled up after sitting out to collect flies for a solid 24hrs....
This is the same chick who **regularly** (I could overlook it if it was just once or twice) leaves her 2 year old son's p****d diapers on the floor in the bathroom for MORE than 24hrs after she gives him a bath and then gets mad at you for bringing it up when you come home from work and thd bathroom smell like p**s diapers and **you** have to throw them away.
XenoMurph 3 years ago
Yep, looks like an overwhelmed woman whose partner does very little.
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Tunk Moot Lopper Reebit 3 years ago (edited)
There is something seriously off and aggressive about this post and why is it here?
Jeff Schindel 3 years ago
So... She cooks, and you don't do anything to help clean up other than "confront" her about it? I make YOU out to be the bad guy too...
#39
I once dated a women who the first (and last) time she ever cooked dinner for me, she put on the pasta before starting the sauce. I watched in horror as pasta boiled for 30ish minutes while she struggled to prep sauce from a jar gussied up with some onion that she chopped without taking the skin off first, and even that involved some flailing to the point where I am amazed she made it into her 30s with all of her fingers.
It remains one of the worst meals I've ever eaten, and the relationship ended a week or two later, but she was the first 'serious' relationship I was in on the far side of a multi-year relationship ending, and I really needed a win at the time as part of moving on. I wasn't going to tell her how to prepare food in her own (clearly little used) kitchen.
Mario Strada 3 years ago
I remember this dear friend of mine "treating me" to an authentic italian dish. I watched helplessly as she put raw onions, garlic, mushrooms and olives in a cold pan and then added tomato sauce and boiled the whole thing to death. I felt like I deserved a Purple Heart, but I kept my mouth shut and appreciated the gesture.
Man in the ceiling 3 years ago
It said at the end they didn’t want to tell them how to do it, I think to try and be respectful.
Load More Replies... DuchessDegu 3 years ago
My flatmate many decades ago used to fill a pan with cold water, add the pasta, turn the cooker on and then take the dog for a one hour walk. Nevermind the horrid whatever she thought she was cooking, that was a fire hazard!
Kate Jones 3 years ago
Lol I'm one of the few people in the world who likes my pasta cooked within an inch of its life. I boil it for like 30-40 minutes, legit. I like it mushy. Sorry to everyone who may be clutching their hearts right now because I know it's weird but it's just the way I like it. (I also like my seafood cooked over, too)
Edward Monks 3 years ago
i often make the sauce after the pasta is made, depending on the sauce (if its a meaty sauce, then no, thats been left to slow cook ages before the pasta goes on) make it in the same pan, less washing up!
Sunshine Daydream 3 years ago
You didn't help or offer advise, and presumably dumped her for not cooking good enough to please you. Did this happen in 1948?
#40
Screaming at your girlfriend for putting onions in a luke warm pan.
Dan Holden 3 years ago
"Screaming at your girlfriend for putting onions in a luke warm pan", not cool. Someone who refuses to properly pre-heat a pan, pre-heat the oven, wait for the water to boil, etc, and then wonders why their meal didn't turn out the way they wanted, even though you try to tell them every time.... so frustrating! Still not a cool thing to yell about though.
ADHD McChick 3 years ago
"Screaming at your girlfriend for any reason". There. Fixed it for you.
Tunk Moot Lopper Reebit 3 years ago
What?? Bleh. There are some nice partners some woman have it seems. May she long continue the supposed crime of putting onions in a lukewarm pan. And showing these gits for what they are. Also onions, low and slow, nice and sweet.
What do you think ?
anarkzie 3 years ago (edited)
Mine was asking my partner if she wanted some of the food I was going to prepare, she says no, waits till it's cooked then decide that she wants some. Drives me crazy, sharing means that I'm now hungry because I have only eaten half of a meal, cooking more in anticipation of this nonsense means that we end up wasting food because sometimes she does not actually want some.
Bill Evs 3 years ago
My wife used to do this too so I'm glad I'm not alone. I'd say I was going to make something and ask if she wanted any. She'd say no so I ask if she's sure and she'd say no again. Inevitably she'd then come into the kitchen and say "that smells nice, is there enough for me to have some". I'd share but as I was only cooking one portion there was never enough. In the end I just started to refuse, saying I asked her several times beforehand and there just isn't enough (which was true). Thankfully it doesn't happen anymore but it had to put up with a few silent treatments before it sunk in.
Load More Replies... Glenn Schroeder 3 years ago
No one mentioned using a cast iron skillet and then leaving it soaking in the sink instead of cleaning it.
censorshipsucks 3 years ago
it's ok if they're doing that to loosen the gunk from the ribs in the pan. If however they leave it there indefinitely that is a no go
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Monika Lachova 3 years ago
Not sure if red flag, but it annoys me really a lot - when someone grabs salt, pepper, or any kind of seasoning and starts to season his meal without tasting it first. Ugh
ADHD McChick 3 years ago
When I cook, my husband cleans. He usually cleans, anyway. But he enjoys cleaning (has told me so, genuinely, on several occasions). He does most of the cleaning, laundry, and childcare at home, as he's disabled, and doesn't work. I'm the breadwinner. I'm also neurodivergent, and he knows how exhausting the world can be for me. So when I come home, he wants me to rest, while he takes care of me. I have a winner. 😊❤️ I do make a bit of a mess sometimes, when I cook. But I try to at least wipe the counters (and any spills), rinse the dishes I use, and stack them neatly in the sink, lol.
A falz 3 years ago
I'm a great cook. My ex mil was not a good cook. So everytime I cooked my ex would say don't make that again. Before I left him I was making hamburger helper 5 days a week. He had also heard that you put spices in your cooking at the end. I could not get him to understand that was for fresh spices not dried. His spaghetti sauce was can of tomato sauce heated then spices thrown in for about 2 mins (dried spices) then served it over noodles. It was horrible. But he thought it was the most fantastic meal. Note: red flag for relationships and cooking if they put ketchup on something before even tasting it they didn't grow up eating or learning to cook food with flavor. My ex and ex-mil both would put ketchup on their food before tasting when mil cooked. I never understood till the first time I ate her cooking. Bad just plain bad cooking. Roast cooked on a top of the stove. Not oven not crock pot. In a fry pan. Nope
Kimberly Marino 3 years ago
My ex-husband did so many weird things on our first date that should have been red flags but I somehow overlooked them. No regrets as I can't imagine my world wo my children. Not food related but for starters he would not tell me where we were going and told me to dress casual. I asked what casual was to him, he said Jeans wo holes and clean sneakers. Ok fine. I was nicely dressed but he showed up in a suit and tie and I was very under dressed for the restaurant. Then the reservation was in my name. He made it but used me name. But the biggest thing was when he ordered he asked that every item he placed on it own plate as apparently he did not like his foods to touch! He also ate one plate at a time until it was done. So all the meat then all the potatoes then all the veggies. I was young and thought it was weird but funny. It was a huge read flag hitting me in my naive face. When someone shows you who they are believe them!
ADHD McChick 3 years ago
Not disagreeing with you on the other stuff, but the seprate plate thing could be a sensory issues thing. Even if it wasn't for him, it often is, in general. I have sensory issues, and I don't like certain foods touching, because the juices from one change the taste/texture of another. I have divided plates at home, lol. I don't always ask for seprate plates, at a restaurant. But if I'm getting something that has a lot.of juices, like a steak, I will politely ask that my fries be served separately.
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Miss Cellania 3 years ago
About 40 years ago, my boyfriend invited me over for dinner. He asked that I start the cooking while he showered. He had something I'd never seen before called Hamburger Helper. So I browned the beef and was draining the grease when he returned. He asked what I was doing. He had apparently never bothered removing excess grease from ground beef before.
Kely Toboologlou 3 years ago
Hair! And over reacting! And all the variety of this. The fine line from tolerating "that one hair found once", to "every single time" "in every damn plate", to "demanding that you should get dressed like an astronaut every time you cook because of this one incident two years ago"
censorshipsucks 3 years ago
my red flag: person only liked really bland food, like plain rice. I mean, food is life. If you're going to do that then why bother living at all?
Angel Carbajal 3 years ago
Autism, mate. Pretty rude to say someone shouldn't live because they prefer plainer food tastes.
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anarkzie 3 years ago (edited)
Mine was asking my partner if she wanted some of the food I was going to prepare, she says no, waits till it's cooked then decide that she wants some. Drives me crazy, sharing means that I'm now hungry because I have only eaten half of a meal, cooking more in anticipation of this nonsense means that we end up wasting food because sometimes she does not actually want some.
Bill Evs 3 years ago
My wife used to do this too so I'm glad I'm not alone. I'd say I was going to make something and ask if she wanted any. She'd say no so I ask if she's sure and she'd say no again. Inevitably she'd then come into the kitchen and say "that smells nice, is there enough for me to have some". I'd share but as I was only cooking one portion there was never enough. In the end I just started to refuse, saying I asked her several times beforehand and there just isn't enough (which was true). Thankfully it doesn't happen anymore but it had to put up with a few silent treatments before it sunk in.
Load More Replies... Glenn Schroeder 3 years ago
No one mentioned using a cast iron skillet and then leaving it soaking in the sink instead of cleaning it.
censorshipsucks 3 years ago
it's ok if they're doing that to loosen the gunk from the ribs in the pan. If however they leave it there indefinitely that is a no go
Load More Replies... Monika Lachova 3 years ago
Not sure if red flag, but it annoys me really a lot - when someone grabs salt, pepper, or any kind of seasoning and starts to season his meal without tasting it first. Ugh
ADHD McChick 3 years ago
When I cook, my husband cleans. He usually cleans, anyway. But he enjoys cleaning (has told me so, genuinely, on several occasions). He does most of the cleaning, laundry, and childcare at home, as he's disabled, and doesn't work. I'm the breadwinner. I'm also neurodivergent, and he knows how exhausting the world can be for me. So when I come home, he wants me to rest, while he takes care of me. I have a winner. 😊❤️ I do make a bit of a mess sometimes, when I cook. But I try to at least wipe the counters (and any spills), rinse the dishes I use, and stack them neatly in the sink, lol.
A falz 3 years ago
I'm a great cook. My ex mil was not a good cook. So everytime I cooked my ex would say don't make that again. Before I left him I was making hamburger helper 5 days a week. He had also heard that you put spices in your cooking at the end. I could not get him to understand that was for fresh spices not dried. His spaghetti sauce was can of tomato sauce heated then spices thrown in for about 2 mins (dried spices) then served it over noodles. It was horrible. But he thought it was the most fantastic meal. Note: red flag for relationships and cooking if they put ketchup on something before even tasting it they didn't grow up eating or learning to cook food with flavor. My ex and ex-mil both would put ketchup on their food before tasting when mil cooked. I never understood till the first time I ate her cooking. Bad just plain bad cooking. Roast cooked on a top of the stove. Not oven not crock pot. In a fry pan. Nope
Kimberly Marino 3 years ago
My ex-husband did so many weird things on our first date that should have been red flags but I somehow overlooked them. No regrets as I can't imagine my world wo my children. Not food related but for starters he would not tell me where we were going and told me to dress casual. I asked what casual was to him, he said Jeans wo holes and clean sneakers. Ok fine. I was nicely dressed but he showed up in a suit and tie and I was very under dressed for the restaurant. Then the reservation was in my name. He made it but used me name. But the biggest thing was when he ordered he asked that every item he placed on it own plate as apparently he did not like his foods to touch! He also ate one plate at a time until it was done. So all the meat then all the potatoes then all the veggies. I was young and thought it was weird but funny. It was a huge read flag hitting me in my naive face. When someone shows you who they are believe them!
ADHD McChick 3 years ago
Not disagreeing with you on the other stuff, but the seprate plate thing could be a sensory issues thing. Even if it wasn't for him, it often is, in general. I have sensory issues, and I don't like certain foods touching, because the juices from one change the taste/texture of another. I have divided plates at home, lol. I don't always ask for seprate plates, at a restaurant. But if I'm getting something that has a lot.of juices, like a steak, I will politely ask that my fries be served separately.
Load More Replies... Miss Cellania 3 years ago
About 40 years ago, my boyfriend invited me over for dinner. He asked that I start the cooking while he showered. He had something I'd never seen before called Hamburger Helper. So I browned the beef and was draining the grease when he returned. He asked what I was doing. He had apparently never bothered removing excess grease from ground beef before.
Kely Toboologlou 3 years ago
Hair! And over reacting! And all the variety of this. The fine line from tolerating "that one hair found once", to "every single time" "in every damn plate", to "demanding that you should get dressed like an astronaut every time you cook because of this one incident two years ago"
censorshipsucks 3 years ago
my red flag: person only liked really bland food, like plain rice. I mean, food is life. If you're going to do that then why bother living at all?
Angel Carbajal 3 years ago
Autism, mate. Pretty rude to say someone shouldn't live because they prefer plainer food tastes.
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