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Poor self esteem has a horrible way of making some folks feel like they should just give up forever, that the way they are now is permanent and change, if even possible, is meaningless. So sometimes it can be useful to see real life cases of people who endured the slow, incremental improvements until they actually achieved some impressive changes.

The “Pros/Cons of hating me” trend on TikTok is dedicated to people showing glow-ups and wholesome before and after pictures. So get comfortable as you scroll through, upvote the most impressive ones and be sure to share your own thoughts and experiences in the comments section down below.

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Comparison pics showing transformation of a person before and after deciding they needed to change with pros and cons text.

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    Comparison pics showing people before and after they decided they needed to change, highlighting transformation and confidence boosts.

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    weatherwitch
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    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What the hell is no drip?? 🤷🏻‍♀️ Also that looked a lovely hair cut. She looks so lovely in the original. Lovely now too in the last pic

    There's something irresistibly satisfying to see a pleasant "before and after." It's someone's glow-up, a renovated home, or even a de-cluttered messy closet, these transformations dominate social media feeds for a reason. They tap into some fundamental human impulses, about betterment, possibility, and the thrill of visible change, that cause us to click, swipe, and scroll for more.

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    At its heart, glow-up and before-and-after posts present a "two-frame story". The "before" primes us: it introduces us to the beginning, usually mundane, disheveled, or rough around the edges.

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    Comparison pics of a woman before and after lifestyle change showing confidence and transformation at different outdoor locations.

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    Ms.GB
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I could live outside for months and never be that tan. I'd just be lobster red.

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    Comparison pics of people showing before and after they decided they needed to change, highlighting personal transformation.

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    The "after" provides the payoff: the refined, better, or upgraded version. It's storytelling in its most condensed form, problem and solution, adversity and victory, without needing words. Our minds adore this trajectory. It's the same story structure that we find in myths, movies, and fairy tales, but distilled into something that we can swallow in two seconds.

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    Comparison pics of people before and after transformation, showing changes in appearance and confidence outdoors.

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    Oskar vanZandt
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    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She was visiting my homeland in the before pic 🙂

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    Glow-up content also satisfies our fascination with "potential". Seeing someone transform overnight tells us about the possibility of things, and people, being otherwise. That someone unpoised and overlooked can be transformed into someone dazzling. That a decrepit kitchen could become a fantasy room. These transformations give hope to the audience: "If they could do it, maybe I can too." Even if we never go on the same path, it is possible for someone else to raise an itch for individual transformation and growth.

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    Before and after comparison pics showing personal transformation and decision to change for better confidence and lifestyle.

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    That Persistent Lint
    Community Member
    3 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The comments prove that there's no point on trying to change for others...there are always Stacies trying to bring you down by their own standards of beauty. Do whatever makes you feel great about yourself...

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    Comparison pics showing a woman before and after personal change, highlighting confidence and self-improvement transformation.

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    weatherwitch
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You don't wear dresses like that that Scream look at me if you have no confidence. You had confidence but now you have Confidence and Sass ❤️ You look fabulous ❤️

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    Comparison pics showing a person’s transformation before and after they decided they needed to change and improve themselves.

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    MagicJacket
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do wonder why he is taking photos in what looks like a hospital bathroom.

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    There is also a strong dose of "visual gratification" that happens. Humans are wired neurologically to notice contrast, and side-by-side before-and-after photos give a startling comparison that highlights disparities. The glow-up is an exhibition of beauty, health, or confidence in a way the "before" makes even more dramatic. The more messy the starting point, the more powerful the reveal. It's like being offered a magic trick, but one we know was a product of time, effort, or imagination.

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    Comparison pics showing personal change journey with pros and cons of bullying and self-transformation outdoors and indoors.

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    Before and after comparison pics showing a man's fitness transformation and personal change journey in a gym setting.

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    Comparison pics showing a young man's physical transformation highlighting people before and after they decided they needed to change.

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    Psychologically, these transformations also make us feel a sense of "control and order". The "before" feels unfinished or in disorder, while the "after" feels like it's all together and in order. In a chaotic world, it is reassuring to see chaos neatly organize itself into something beautiful. Even if our own lives are chaotic, a scroll through glow-up content offers an immediate illusion that things "can" be organized, be improved, and neatened up with a bow.

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    Comparison pics of a woman showing transformation before and after deciding she needed to change her confidence and self-image.

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    MeowZedong
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She was obviously already hot. She just took off her glasses and put on a bikini. This is like one of those bad teen movies where the person was obviously good looking before the makeover.

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    Comparison pics of a man before and after weight loss showing transformation in fitness and body change journey.

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    weatherwitch
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Congratulations on the hard work you've done to achieve this for yourself 😊

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    Comparison pics of people before and after transformation showing pros and cons of personal change decisions.

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    weatherwitch
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There's a filter on this. Both arms are too long, the torso is too long. You're not living in the past where you did look Beautiful but you're now living in a Filter and that's extremely unhealthy 😔

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    There's also a "social dimension". Glow-up posts reflect resilience, discipline, or creativity. It's not just about looking better, it's about showing the work put into it, whether that is visiting the gym, applying makeup, or studying design. When an individual shares their transformation, it's both aspirational and relatable: aspirational because we wish to be like the outcome, relatable because we know starting from a "before." This contrast helps in creating connection and interaction online.

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    Woman in pink dress showing pros and cons of self-image in before and after comparison pics of people change

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    weatherwitch
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Those nails and that dress beg to differ in the original pics

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    Comparison pics of people before and after transformation showing physical and motivational changes in a young man’s body and mindset.

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    Jihana
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What's the point of pulling your pants down. It just looks weird.

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    Comparison pics of a woman before and after transformation showing self-confidence and mindset change for personal growth.

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    Ben
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Most of these people seem they are in the age group where they are a little chunky right before their metabolism kicks into gear in their early 20s.

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    For others, there's also a splash of "self-reflection". When we see someone else's glow-up, it gets us thinking about our own: What would "my" before-and-after saga look like? Could I achieve the same if I invested the time, money, or effort? That internal comparison can motivate us, even if at times it brings up a poodle of envy.

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    Comparison pics showing people before and after they decided they needed to change, highlighting personal transformations.

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    Heather
    Community Member
    3 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Flared leg jeans just do not flatter any body type. You go FFA girl (Future Farmers of America officer by her jacket!) though!!!

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    Interestingly, glow-ups are not necessarily about vanity. They are about growth. A "before" picture can stand in for insecurity, struggle, or stagnation, while the "after" stands in for confidence, resilience, or liberation. By doing so, glow-up material is a reaction to something in all of us: the desire to develop into the better version of ourselves.

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    Comparison pics of people showing before and after transformation, highlighting physical and lifestyle changes over time.

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    Papa
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No, the "after" photos weren't edited at all.

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    Comparison pics of a man before and after change, showing confidence and reflecting on pros and cons of self-improvement.

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    Earonn -
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    From friendly smile to wannabe alpha frown.

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    Comparison pics of people before and after transformation showing physical and lifestyle changes for self-improvement and confidence boost

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    Short, glowing, and spectacular before-and-after content is thus so popular because it delivers a neat bite of story, contrast, and motivation. It tells us what can be done, reminds us that it is possible to change, and assuages our appetite for tidy, visual accounts of transformation. Amidst the modern mess, here is refreshing evidence that things can indeed get better if you work at them.

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    Before and after comparison of a woman showing personal transformation and confidence over time in multiple photos.

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    J Wagner
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    why do these all say “I’m unattractive”?

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    #29

    Comparison pics showing a man's transformation from overweight and balding to fit and confident after deciding to change.

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    Comparison pics showing people before and after they decided to change, highlighting pros and cons of personal growth.

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    Emilu
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How was she unattractive in the first pictures?

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    Before and after comparison pics showing people deciding they needed to change with visible physical transformations.

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    Before and after comparison of a young man’s fitness transformation showing weight loss and improved confidence.

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    Comparison pics of a young man showing before and after personal transformation and style change.

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    Jihana
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    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hate it to break it to you, but the hair situation didn't get better.

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    Three comparison pics showing people before and after they decided to change, highlighting personal transformation and growth.

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    Miss Tinker
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hmmm, I suspect a touch of photoshop in the second photo? 😒

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    Comparison pics showing a young man's transformation before and after deciding he needed to change with pros and cons captions.

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    Three comparison pics of a woman before and after, illustrating personal change and self-improvement transformation.

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    BrownEyedGrrl
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    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There was nothing "wrong" with her before.

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    Before and after comparison pics of a person showing transformation and change over four years with confidence and style shift.

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    weatherwitch
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You may not have felt it but you looked gorgeous, happy and confident. I'm glad you are feeling that now too 😊

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    Comparison pics of person before and after change showing transformation and self-improvement journey with pros and cons.

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    LiuLiu
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    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I thought she was cute before, just looks like she got older

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    Comparison pics showing people before and after a lifestyle change highlighting personal transformation and self-acceptance.

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