Your wedding is supposed to be the perfect day. One that revolves entirely around you and the person you chose to spend the rest of your life with. But there's always a chance that something can cloud it. And I'm not talking about just condensed water in the sky.
Recently, Reddit user VeryVeryGeneric asked other platform users to share what was the worst part of their ceremony, and many agreed: as of this publication, the post has received over 1,100 comments, containing a lot of juicy stories that, for better or worse, they will probably never forget. Here are some of them.
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Mine’s actually funny! I would say it was the “worst” thing that happened but it really wasn’t that bad. We got married in a big open field under an apple tree. My uncle walked me down the aisle and we started from pretty far away, so there was a lot of open field before coming to the aisle and where the seats were. We start walking and I suddenly realize that there are crickets. EVERYWHERE in the grass. And the motion of my skirt on the grass is making them jump right onto/into it. I had several layers of English net and so I had some in between the layers crawling up toward my bodice. Thankfully I had a waist seam so they couldn’t get past that point. I had probably close to twenty in my train and ended up with one in my hair as well. My uncle and I were trying not to crack up. He just kept saying “just keep waking, it’s FINE” as I was shaking my skirt trying to walk at the same time. My bridesmaids spent a few minutes getting the crickets out of my skirt once we got down the aisle and everyone was laughing including me and my husband. They say crickets are good luck, so that’s a plus! Married two years this August.
Oh boy. Had a small wedding in the colorado Rockies. This one couple did all of the below:
-brought their 7 month old without asking
-drove from Texas and expected to stay with us in our home at Denver before traveling to the mountains (Estes park, about 1.5 hours away)
-they did stay with us (husband is too nice). They criticized our house (too small, walls paper thin)
- thought they could do the wedding in a day trip from our house, did not buy hotel room. My parents had an extra one that the guys were getting ready in and gave them it. Stanley hotel, $800. They didn’t offer to pay or say thanks they actually asked my dad for his credit card for incidentals
- woman wore white to the wedding
- man forgot to buy groomsmen vest. Had to go to mall day before wedding to improvise
-baby cried during service and wedding coordinator had to escort them out
- rented a cabin for the weekend for the wedding party. Lots of partying and drinking. They brought the baby without asking us and then got mad/ turned off lights when we were too loud (we paid for it btw, about 400$ per person)
-man kept knocking on our door ON OUR WEDDING NIGHT as we were having sex asking if we saw his keys
- they didn’t buy us a gift
Oh. And I found out later that the man’s mom offered to fly to colorado from Texas to babysit the baby while they were at the wedding/ cabin and they declined.
My sister took my wedding cabin because she refused to stay at my house with the other guests, and then announced her pregnancy at my wedding.... 12 years later and my husband is still bitter about it.
My son (the ring bearer) and his dad got in a wreck on the way to the venue.
NOT what I wanted to hear as I was getting 33575789 hairpins installed for my fancy updo! The stylist overheard that conversation and brought me some wine.
Kid and Dad were fine, other drivers were fine, they were only a little late, and everything else went off without a hitch.
But DAMN. "Your son got in a car wreck" completely snapped me back to reality. The wedding is just fluff; family and marriage are serious commitments that are worth making and keeping.
I like that one best - not the accident part, of course, as it's super stressful and all...but that sentence that "the wedding is just fluff". Someone wears white on your wedding? Someone made a scene? Not everything goes up to plan? It's just fluff. It's your day, absolutely - but because you just made a family, started your own story - not because you had a party. I love it :)
Besides the part where I was still a child? I had previously discussed how demeaning I found the cake smash. Groom agreed with me. Then did it anyway. I spent part of the reception in the bathroom crying and certain I'd just made the worst mistake of my life.
I was right. He nearly f*****g killed me.
DJ texted sometime DURING OUR VOWS that he wasn't showing up.
A lot of other things went wrong including a flash flood, hubbies car breaking down, my car keys getting somehow deadbolted locked inside of a hotel room that no one else was in (I still don't understand how that happened).
I had a little breakdown right before the reception because I thought I wasn't going to get my first dance without a DJ. My husband and MOH wiped my tears and we headed into the reception to find our friends DJing the reception collectively, ended up being really special and sweet.
8 years later and we joke we got all our bad luck out of the way that day, smooth sailing since 😆
Realizing I don't love him as we danced our first dance.
First. Caterer tried to poison my flower girl and ring bearer with almonds on the hors d'oeuvre platters (I said no tree nuts anywhere due to their allergies, she didn’t care). Thankfully their mother was smart enough to keep them away. Then, same caterer put raspberries in my wedding cake (I’m allergic to raspberries, cake was supposed to be blueberry and lemon, she took it upon herself to add raspberries to the berry compote), SO I went into anaphylactic shock at my reception. Thankfully I had relatives there who are doctors and were able to administer epinephrine and make sure I could still breathe. Nevertheless, that caterer still ruined my wedding reception. I was out of commission for 5 hours that night, missed everything. Pictures ruined. It took 3 days for the swelling to go down on my face and throat. Only reason I’m still alive to tell the tale is because I had relatives present who are doctors and were able to save me. (The reception was held in a remote location in Vermont, too far away from a hospital so if it hadn’t been for my family and their kids’ epi pens (which they almost needed because of that same caterer’s carelessness with the appetizers), I wouldn’t have survived my own wedding reception).
We had a HUGE Italian style dessert bar served after the cake. I was to busy dancing, talking and having fun to make it over to the desserts. My mom asked if I wanted anything and she would make a to go box. I say yes, cheesecake. That's all, just cheesecake (it's my fav). Shortly after, my mom tells me it's all gone.
My cousin comes to tell me goodbye, holding a desert box. We chat, tells me how much fun she had, how great the food and desert was. Then says "the cheesecake was amazing, you should get some!" She opens the box to show me, 4 slices of cheesecake, along with a ton of other desserts.
I asked her if I could please have just 1 slice. She said "no, it's mine, should have gotten to it quicker!" I begged her and explained its my favorite desert. She still said no and promptly left.
Not my wedding…but I officiated a wedding where the bride’s grandfather died in the bathroom minutes before the ceremony was supposed to start. Ended up doing chest compressions until EMS arrived and then rolled up to officiate and tell my silly little jokes while the family actively repressed their emotions - *because they did not tell the bride*.
Kudos to that family for not ruining the bride’s wedding. You can’t bring him back, so why turn something terrible into an entire disaster? Good on them for their selflessness and perspective.
No body showed up at my wedding. Me and my husband invited over 50 people and a lot of them said they would be there. Beside the party and family only 3 friends showed up and everyone left right after the cake was cut
Getting married hours after I found out that he’d slept with another women because at that point I felt like… I mean, what do I do? (Not get married is the correct answer but I did)
My mom fell down the stairs while trying to hand out boutonnières before the ceremony and ended up breaking her foot. She toughed it out and pretended that she was fine because she was afraid it would ruin the day. It broke my heart when I eventually found out, but damn do I love my mama.
My tall, attractive, athletic first husband was a ballroom dancer. So our first dance at the reception was going to rock, right?
I thought I was having fun at the time, but a friend remarked years later we looked terrible. He just looked like he was showing off and it was clear I couldn't keep up. He didn't care at all about slowing down and making us look like a couple.
It became a metaphor for our failed 10-year marriage. He only ever cared about his stuff and was constantly inconsiderate of me.
My second husband is an awkward, nerdy guy, 2.5" shorter than me. But we took dance lessons together, looked good at our wedding, and had fun.
My mom picked a fight with me at the reception because I didn't invite her extended family but I did invite my stepmom. Family that she had only recently reconciled with and who I didn't know. Meanwhile stepmom is a decent person who was married to the man who raised me so she's an automatic invite. Besides I was having only 24 guests in total. My mom looked like she had a lemon in her mouth during the wedding until she started arguing at the reception. We had actually fought about this a lot during the engagement so I think she came just to make a scene. Anyways, I asked her to leave and proceeded to have a blast. I have not voluntarily spoken to my mother in thirteen years.
My mother guilted me into inviting her best friend (my Godmother... but we aren't close) to my 5 attendee wedding. Then afterward, Godmother tells my mother she is on HER daughter's "B list" for her wedding a year later. My mom was so hurt, she pretty much stopped talking to best friend. But not after ruining my wedding pictures and marring memories of the day.
Two bees flew up into my wedding gown as my Dad, myself and my attendants walked across the grounds of the venue to the ceremony area. I screamed and immediately began pulling up the bottom of my dress as the bees stung me, one on my butt and the other in a more delicate area. 😳
So there I was with the bottom of my dress pulled up over my head, with my Dad and attendants furiously looking for the culprits.
To my horror, I realized the 3 photographers which were snapping photo’s as we walked kept taking pictures, although one did lay his camera down to try and help, which wasn’t great either.
Everything got sorted, but I walked down the aisle and got married with half my butt and that other area burning and hurting. I sat on ice packs between dances at the reception. Sure enough when we got our wedding photo’s back for review, there were 5 photo’s of the whole wild scenario. 😂
I forgot to pack my cathedral length veil (venue was destination), I forgot to carry my bouquet, there was an earthquake the morning of, my in laws watched a football game on their phones during the service, and left before the reception. The reception was cancelled because the entire staff of the restaurant we rented out had strep throat. My MOH announced her engagement at my wedding, the best man tried to sleep with a bridesmaid and when turned down, put a hammock between two trees and slept outside. Think this is all bad? Wait for the worst part of the day.
I got married.
My bridesmaids black boyfriend showed up and someone told him “you don’t belong here”
We asked the pastor from my husband's childhood church to officiate. Very old school conservative. We discussed with him what we wanted him to talk about during the ceremony, marriage being hard work, treat love as a verb, that kind of thing. What he ended up doing was speeding through the passage I wanted read, then talked for 15 minutes about how marriage is for only men and women, how we are made this way and how hormones play a part. I should add that my father-in-law, who walked me down the aisle, is gay. Well known fact. The preacher's speech at my wedding was basically condemnation for my father in law. He was able to laugh it off, but I am still mad about it to this day. We call it the hormone speech, the one black spot on what was otherwise a perfect day.
My husband's father's (who my husband was not close with) new wife who we both had met once showed up in the exact same dress as my bridesmaids. The 1 conversation I had with her I told her what they were wearing so it was very intentional. She also showed up with my husband's mom's fur coat on top of it. And then tried to walk in with the wedding party.
I swore she was going to get jumped by my grandmother in law.
Two months before my wedding I wound up in the burn ICU for a month. We had to cancel my shower and my bachelorette was cut short because I had a panic attack thanks to the resulting PTSD. I was on so many painkillers I don't remember much of the day itself, and I could only bring myself to look at the pictures once. Sometimes I feel like I got cheated out of a happy wedding. But a wedding is just a party, it's the marriage that is important.
MIL shared the news before we could.
We eloped, and didn't tell anyone until 30 mins before. We only told immediate family right before, with very clear directions not to share with anyone yet. We got married in the evening, turned our phones off, and in the morning woke up to messages from all of the inlaws (aunts/uncles and cousins). We had originally planned to do a social post within a couple days, but because she shared our news, we opted not to at all. My family waited until I gave the go ahead to share it with others (to the point my little sister told me that my dad was having a really hard time not sharing it with his brother/my uncle, but he knew it wasn't his news to share, so he didn't).
At least we know who gets any other big news last now.
My husband's mistress was there (I obviously had no idea about this until after we were married).
Not exactly *at* my wedding but it is a big part of it... so my mom is a REALLY good seamstress so I asked her if she would make my dress. She was happy I asked, I had the pattern picked out, ordered the 15 yards or very expensive silk... a few months before the wedding I asked her if I could see what she's done and asked if she needed me to try anything on, she said she wasn't ready to show me yet and said she is plugging away on it. Months go by, still haven't seen anything. Exactly three weeks before the wedding she tells me she isn't gonna have any of it done. I went to a bridal store and just bought the first dress I tried on because it fit perfectly. There wouldn't have been time for adjustments. It was pretty enough, but not what I wanted. Still, to this day I've never seen any parts of the dress she was making and I am pretty sure she never e en so much as cut the pattern out.
My time has come!
My mom got black out drunk and passed out in the bathroom. My boss had to carry her out.
I mentioned it to her a few weeks later, and she had no idea that had happened.
Still hasn't apologized for it.
My grandma (I’m adopted) insisting my photographer take a pic of her and my grandpa and my two sisters (not adopted) without me, the bride.
Aside from that, it was a perfect day. I didn’t let it bug me at the time, but it does now lol
It was a very hot day and we had an outdoor reception. One person basically hydrated with wine and got very drunk and pretty obnoxious.
It was me.
lol. But if you were a guest then I hope you apologized to the bride and groom.
My Mother In Law wanted to see my wedding lingerie to make sure she approved of it. It was one of my first times with her and I was trying to please her to get in her good graces.
It was all about control.
My husbands step mother put on a ball gown for the ceremony (that we had on the beach) and then changed into a skin tight white outfit with Diamond embellishments for the reception.
My mother in law got ten kinds of sh**ty drunk and made scenes all day and night. This included crying every single minute of the day (she looks like someone died in all the pics), standing on a chair to dance, cornering my sister to yell at her for absolutely no reason, stole almost all the centerpieces (which belonged to the venue) and calling our hotel room at 3am because my husband’s friends wouldn’t let his 16 year old sister into their hotel room party.
Basically my mother in law was the worst part of our wedding.
My now ex husband threw me into a painting and onto the ground during our first dance. Should have known it was a sign of things to come.
Our photographers were a husband and wife team and loudly fought the whole day. Super awkward.
Haha ohhh wheee! The best man gave a speech where he called my sister(MOH) a hoe….she was in a long term relationship for 6 years, called my other sister (bridesmaid) a “weekend lesbian” she’s out and proud. Went on about how my best friend (bridesmaid) was terrible with money. Alluded I was a gold digger while running around shooting $1 bills out of a money gun saying it was an interpretive dance of my life….this was all supposed to be a funny roast I guess but he only “roasted” the ladies. He made a joke about bill Cosby and another joke about how the previous DJ I’d secured died….🫠
My photographer got drunk and stoned. All our wedding photos are orange and blurry so we made our photo album curtesy with the photos from good friend who had a good camera and great skills!
Found out he cheated on me a week before, got married because it was too late. Had a panic attack at wedding.
Divorced/ traumatized 2 years later because he cheated again.
Should have just not have gotten married. Would have saved me bucks in therapy.
I got stung by a bee on my ring finger 1 hour before the ceremony
My husband sat down a little bit too quickly and cracked his trousers open entirely, front to butt, while talking to my grandmother !
A friend showed up in a white jumpsuit.
The DJ's mics didn't work during the ceremony, she played the wrong song for our first dance, and her reception playlist included no danceable music (there was even Blink 182).
The caterer refused to put wine bottles on the tables as agreed, but put all the stemware there so guests had to bring their glasses to the bar.
Our photographer's ideas of "casual and candid shots of our guests having fun" was zooming in on one person's face in a group of 5+ with everyone else's head shown from the back and blurred out. Every photo looked like this. Only our posed wedding party shots were usable.
1. omg, this is so familiar :D now I'm laughing at everything but at that time I was really frustrated (so to say mildly). we send to DJ actual songs (not the names) but actual files to play, at least 40, and said if it was not enough then please add yours of similar style. At the reception he did not play any of the music that we sent, we started wondering why, he had non of our music saved... after we literally begged him to play songs that we requested, he played 2 of them (because we asked twice) from youtube! he was cutting them short and continuing to play his favourite music. It was horrible, because guests were not following, it was not something dancable or even familiar to them, a lot of them were super outdated and culturally, language-wise not familiar. AND every freaking song he was cutting short and putting another... you know the feeling when you just just starting to get into the vibe and it cuts. Frustrating. And then the best came...
We had a little gathering in my yard for my wedding. My friends were hanging out and we were having pizza by our fire pit when my mother came out to pick up some left over stuff. She tripped in the dark and broke her shoulder, she's had permanent reduction of mobility and a lot of pain since.
My mother and I were the only two who didn't have a drink so we spent the night in the ER.
Oh and my husband is estranged from his parents so he forgot the date we picked was *their* wedding anniversary. This is after saying he didn't want to get married close to *my* parents anniversary.
Edit: forgot, I have food allergies and the catering put my allergen in the food. I decided to consume a bunch of cupcakes for dinner.
The night before the wedding, my husband and I check into the hotel. We go downstairs to see the venue. I eagerly open the door, excited to see the ornate 12 foot tall Christmas tree at the end of the aisle. Instead, there is a cheap plastic piece of c**p tree that’s like 5 feet tall with five ornaments.
You see, my mom suggested my husband and I get married in front of a Christmas tree (it was a Christmas themed wedding) instead of under an archway. We loved this idea. She had me select a tree and decoration package from a tree rental company.
When I called my mom in a panic asking if this was the tree she had rented, she started gaslighting me. She told me she was never planning on renting a tree. That I imagined it. That I was spoiled for thinking she would pay for that.
I hung up, cried my eyes out, and called my dad. My dad ended up going to Lowe’s, purchasing a 14 foot fake tree, and decorations. He decorated it all by himself and it looked fantastic. While he was setting it up, my mom had the nerve to tell him I was a brat (and other, much worse names) and she even hinted that she did it all to “get back at me” because of a petty argument we had like a month beforehand.
The wedding was beautiful. Especially the tree. However, that was definitely the worst thing that happened. I think the reason being, it was a turning point. I knew my mom had issues, but I never thought she would let her issues impact something as big as my wedding day.
EDIT: My mom was only involved in the decorations aspect of the wedding. She was not in charge of anything else, nor did she pay for anything else.
I had a big ol’ white train that was long enough to drag behind me on the ground, and it was beautiful in every picture, until, as I started actually walking down the aisle, I could feel it detach itself from my hair and stay at the aisle threshold.
And, like, everyone’s standing up and turning around to look at me so I can’t be like HANG ON A SEC, DO-OVER, I GOTTA HAIR THING, so I just walk forward, and the train must’ve been caught on something because it pulled my head back and I am trying to walk forward and it’s pulling at my hair, and my about-to-be husband thought I was tearing up at the sight of him. But no. It was the huge chuck of hair this train ripped out of my head. As it detached from my head. Like a booster rocket.
It was pretty in the pictures though.
Y'all have got me beat but I'm sharing mine anyway.
My mom showed up in a white dress.
It was knee length and very tight -- probably a size too small.
I ignored and and never mentioned it.
I was talking to a guest when someone bumped into her from behind. The (red) wine she was holding spilled onto her hand, but thankfully nowhere else.
Her reaction? To SHAKE the wine off her hand, spattering red wine down the front of my wedding dress. She then had the nerve to blame the person who bumped her rather than just, you know, apologizing like a normal (decent) human being.
Multiple guests asked if my FIL's date was a prostitute.
She wasn't.
She also blamed me for ruining activities the night before.
My mil wouldn't leave us alone on our wedding night, after the reception.
Our wedding photos sucked.
My stepmother told my husband that the rest of my family didn't care about him. And if he wanted pictures taken of him he should ask his mom since he was her family.
My stepmother was also incredibly racist to one of our guests the entire reception dinner.
My husbands best man didn’t show. We talked to him the morning off and he said he was getting ready. About a hour before the wedding he said he was on his way. He never showed up I paid $290 for his suit hair cut and his shoes and he didn’t even show! They have been friends for over 15yrs. He didn’t call or speak to my husband for 2 months and when they finally talked he didn’t apologize or give any excuse.. it’s been 3 months since we got married and he hasn’t even offered to pay me back for any of the stuff I paid for.
My dad hooked up with a family friend the night before & spend the officiant money so I had to dig through gift cards to pay him.
My self proclaimed MOH told me that what my hair looked like didn't matter but hers had to look good.
Our caterers tossed our dinner plates while we were having pictures taken & boxed everything up before we were done so we didn't get to eat the food we paid for.
One of the groomsmen got pissed at me that I wouldn't let him have a bachelor party with strippers so he was tossed from the wedding party.
There was to be no alcohol due to 3 of 4 parents are alcoholics, but MIL boyfriend was pouring freely from the trunk of his car.
The girl my husband cheated in me with refused to leave me alone and caused me to get 2nd degree burns from a curling iron on my back.
The evening ended with hubby falling asleep as I tried getting out of my dress alone.
All in all my wedding sucked & it didn't get better
We had a shuttle bus from reception to hotel. My husband's out of town step- cousin and his girlfriend took shrooms and were tripping balls on the bus
My husband's sweet grandma (shes like the grandma from happy gilmore) was also on the shuttle and did not know why they were behaving that way, and she was afraid and upset by it. She sat quietly on the shuttle crying to herself while he was hollering. I found this out years later, I was sad for her
I’m sure I’m going to get downvoted for this, but what does “tripping balls” mean? Thanks
I got completely wasted. We left out reception and did what you do on your wedding night. I then ate our wedding cake, which was red velvet.
We had to be up at 3 am the next morning to catch a flight for our honeymoon. A couple hours of sleep was not okay for the amount of alcohol i consumed. When i woke up, i was throwing up repeatedly and thought it was blood.
Ended up in the ER, missed our flight and cruise. After a couple hours there, the Dr. asked if I had eaten anything with red dye and I very defensively said no! All my husband said was “….our wedding cake”
I was too drunk to remember eating that red velvet cake. We got our cruise changed after 5 hours on the phone with the cruise line. We ended up having a great honeymoon and we have a hilarious story tell now!
Mil cut in to our wedding dance then my mum turned it into a ring o roses because she didn’t want to be out done. Then sil smashed her husbands face in in the car park of the venue.
My mother was going through a phase where she bought all these outlandish clothes and got a weird haircut. She thought she looked very stylish and Avant garde, but she looked ridiculous.
Meanwhile my mother-in-law helped me put together my little punch and Cake wedding and did everything my mother should have done
At my wedding my mother strutted in thinking that she would be the center of attention but somebody laughed at her within her earshot. So my mother threw a fit and stormed out breaking up the party and ruining my reception. The wedding was very homemade so the Bridesmaids and my mother-in-law cleaned up everything. My mother got a lot of criticism for not at least helping pick up a few things. But she was headed out for some some romantic trip with her new husband.
My second wedding was also Homespun and done by my new mother-in-law. It was lovely and everybody had a wonderful time.
My mother was not invited nor did she ever find out the event occurred.
My balding brother shaved his head the morning before the wedding. He looked like Uncle Fester.
two things: we had a grazing table, ran out of food. when we got back from pictures i ended up having to eat peanut butter sandwhich (i being the bride)
2)had our wedding in my home country. mil and fil flew in for it. they sulked half way through wedding and went back to their air bnb which made my husband want to go after them. later that evening they were around for the reception and dinner. i was talking to a friend about moving back to my home country permanently (husband 100% on board). said that there really isnt anything for us in husbands home country. meaning jobs, etc. fil heard me say this and was immediately offended. wouldnt accept my explanation, he heard half a conversation. they ended up flying back early into a miserable winter to have xmas alone.
my fil is a very difficult person, i felt bad for my mil.
Lots of people were late, including my photographer, which meant I lost out on getting a ton of pictures I had planned for and wanted.
My caterer 'forgot' items for a hot tea/coffee bar, which we had already set up. They also forgot the punch we ordered.
My mom hated her hair and makeup and freaked out and cried in the bathroom.
My great-aunt told me a story about how she screamed so loudly on her wedding night that her husband had to cover her mouth. She said this loudly at a table of other elderly family members and then went on to ask us about our wedding night plans.
I was also still on my period during all of this and the week leading up to it was one of the most stressful of my life. We didn't even get to eat our wedding food as we were so busy so we had to get Mcdonalds later that night. Should have eloped!
My dad left after the ceremony to go smoke weed with my uncle. Missed the group photos. Returned and he had changed out of his wedding attire and was in holey jeans and a t-shirt. I asked him to go home and change again for the father daughter dance.
The caterer started getting in my face as soon as we got to the venue (literally before we even got into the building) and I almost cried and ruined my makeup. This was after she kept calling me while I was getting my nails done the day before despite me saying I’ll call her back after my appointment. Thankfully my mom and my husband saw her getting in my face again about how much water I brought (which, btw was enough, the two cases my brother went out to get were leftover), so my husband pulled me away to hug me and cheer me up while my mom yelled at the caterer. Did not hear a peep out of the caterer for the rest of the night
My husband lost his ring and, despite me telling him to just leave it, we spent like an hour of our time we were supposed to be taking pictures looking for it. We found it in the car, the photographer left as he had put in his time, and at that point my mom came over looking dejected and said, “We didn’t even get any pictures together.” Now I feel sad and guilty every time I think of my wedding day or look at my weddings pictures.
My brother who was in my wedding party came late and cracked out of his mind on meth & coke. It was heartbreaking.
My sister had an intimate 100 person wedding. Invite specified no children, but a certain family (that we barely knew) from our church crashed the wedding and brought their terribly misbehaved children with them. Their children were a nuisance on the dance floor and even got in the way of the bouquet toss (what do you know an 11 year old’s the next to be married) 🙄
The groom was barely there ‘cause he was more worried about arranging alcohol and getting drunk with his friends. And wasn’t even there for the ceremony at the end when the girl leaves her family. It was a south Asian wedding. My mother was busy a*s-licking her boss so she was hardly in any family pics. My aunt who’s a professional MUA didn’t do the makeup I wanted. I looked all right but really didn’t want to match my outfit. Aaaand the food got over and I didn’t get any at the end of the night. Also my husband didn’t get in touch with the photographer I wanted, so we ended up getting a c**p one.
Our DJ was horrible.
When announcing us he forgot our first and last name. Then for the rest of the night he continued to call my husband by a different name which happened to be my ex boyfriend’s name. We tried to leave a bad review and he contacted us. His excuse for not knowing our names was he had only known us for a few months… he then deleted our review.
Our photographer was also trash. We took our family photos on stage, she insisted that she’d be able to edit the lighting. She never did. We also never received an entire album of photos. Her excuse was she was going through a difficult divorce.
The priest refuse to go forward with the wedding one week before because I was french speaking and my wife dutch speaking. We live in Belgium and the wedding was in the Dit6ch speaking part of the country. Only one text was in French. So we had few days to find a new one. It was.' challenging and stressful
My husband's then 15 year old son came and sat front and center all night with a perpetual pout on. Then after sneaking some liquor he started making crude comments about my breast size ( large and my gown was halter top).
My younger daughter didn’t come because she was upset with us.
Hmm..let’s see
-Photographer, friend of my husband, bailed a few days before the wedding. Leaving us to scramble & use the new venue’s expensive photographer who took HORRIBLE pictures. My bridal pictures have a gas station in the background 😑 I hate my wedding pictures
-My alcoholic father got wasted, even after he promised he wouldn’t drink, embarrassed me during the father daughter dance & also gave an equally embarrassing slurred toast
-My husband’s friend gave a drunken speech starting with “So u/mrsrizzle never really liked me…” and then proceeded to go on about how he was the true best man and was super butt hurt that he didn’t get to be part of the wedding party. He also wrote this same whiny s**t on our group wedding card
My maid of honor told me last minute she wasn’t coming after having to cancel the bachelorette party too
Our photographer was about 40 minutes late; spent most of the time arguing with her newish second shooter (who we suspect was also her GF); and only took about 200 photos, about half of which weren't good. Thankfully she was pretty inexpensive, but I'm still a little bitter we didn't get very many good photos.
You kind of should have expected this. Good photographers are usually one of the largest wedding expenditures.
The Priest’s 5 minute lecture about not throwing confetti. When I rolled my eyes he finally moved on.
Our venue was an historic home and our caterers set the fire alarm off. Fire Trucks came and we had to evacuate 5 mins before our ceremony started.
Once we got back on track with the wedding, my FIL stood up and interrupted our ceremony as we were exchanging rings (we’re interfaith and there was some confusion on what ceremonies were happening).
My heart was pounding straight for an hour throughout that whole ordeal.
Wow, these answers are really putting mine into perspective. I loved my wedding but looking back I often do feel a bit of embarrassment about certain aspects. Could've been much worse, though!
1. We didn't anticipate how much traffic there would be and had expected to just hail a few cabs. I was 30 min late to the ceremony and it took us an hour to get to the reception.
2. The officiant had never officiated a wedding before and didn't practice his speech. He's a friend of my husband's and while I like him, I wish he had put more effort into the ceremony. It was very short and a bit awkward.
3. I stepped on part of my dress and ripped it. It wasn't noticeable during the wedding, luckily, but it meant I couldn't resell it as I had planned. Not really sure what to do with it! It's just sitting in my closet.
Two of my bridesmaids were almost late because they were starting to get ready at their house rather than at the venue.
I had two maids of honor (my sister and my best friend), and neither prepared a speech for me so I had a half-assed improv speech from my sister after my husband had a tear-jerker speech from his best man. It was ok, but it still sucked that nobody put the effort in on my behalf.
My dad was expecting to do a speech, but my father-in-law (who was functioning as the DJ) forgot to give him the mic. My dad's too nice a guy to speak up, and my husband and I were distracted and anxious.
I had a borderline panic attack after the ceremony because I actually hate attention. Thankfully it was discreet and only my husband could tell.
Just some minor hiccups in an overall busy day, but at least nobody had a medical emergency or anything. My father-in-law went to a wedding where the grandmother of the bride or groom fell and hit her head and died en route to the hospital.
Didn’t happen at the wedding, but my photographer died the morning of my wedding. I found out the next day. I was only told he was in the hospital.
My first wedding I had 2 big issues.
1. My period started randomly and very unexpectedly and I had blood on my dress. Thankfully we got it out but God that gave me a heart attack.
2. My husband was 20 mins late to our wedding cause his sister threw a temper tantrum about going (she was 15) and they brought her dressed looking like she was a hobo (very stained and dirty pink t-shirt with a butterfly on it and ratty torn up Jeans also with stains) and with her hair in very large noticable knots and stuff in it (it looked crusty and oily). She doesn't even have autism or anything to justify this behavior.
Then if it counts my wedding night was just as bad. My husband went to cook dinner and set our home on fire and he broke our oven and cost us a S**T ton of money. I also ended up nearly needing to get stitches from when I went and broke the glass (there was no hammer to break it and I had a rapidly growing fire so I punched it) and badly cut myself when I went to get the fire extinguisher from the appartment laundry room.
We divorced a year later when I found out he cheated on me for our entire relationship.
Should have taken the issues as a warning.
"She doesn't even have autism or anything to justify this behavior." This ignorant, rude statement makes me have zero sympathy for this person's wedding issues and failed marriage
My mother booked an awful DJ who kept playing sh**ty music that emptied the dance floor. He ignored our first dance request and put something else on - I walked off the dancefloor until he changed it. Then he made us do a final dance to Leo f*****g Sayer (I’d had s few drinks by then do we just went along with it - hissing „We’ll find this funny in a few years“ to each other*). At the end of the night he said „See you at the christening“. Like, I’ve just spent all evening dancing with my two children a*****e.
We do, in a „OMG what a wanker that DJ was!“ kind of way.
I sprained an ankle 2 days before. Badly. But I dropped the crutch for the whole ceremony (from entrance to exit) in my wonderful heels. And proceeded to dance the night away, barefoot. Next day my feet was purple.
My ankle didn't fully recover for 2 months after
My wedding was amazing and I had no idea this happened until someone told me long afterwards. At the time, one of my best friends absolutely hated a newer but very good friend of mine. New Friend decided to confront Old Friend using two mutual friends as mediators and ask why Old Friend hated her.
Now when I was told this my first thought wasn’t “wtf why would you do that at my wedding” (that came later) but rather “oh god why would she ask her that?” Because my Old Friend is the most savage person I’ve ever met and she has no qualms with laying out the harsh truths. She had always been polite to New Friend because she’s honest, not an a*****e, but when she literally asked for it. . .old friend unleashed. A mutual friend described it to me as “she demolished her entire life and every last aspect of her personality to an atomic level.”
New Friend, to her slight credit, just said “okay,” and walked away to have a mental breakdown in private. I’m just glad the worst thing was something 98% of my guests didn’t know about.
I really hate people who are “savage” and have “no qualms about laying out the hard truths”. “She demolished her entire life and every last aspect of her personality to an atomic level”. That’s just excusing rude, mentally abusive, and a*****e behavior. No one should tolerate or dismiss it because “that’s just the way he/she is”. Ugh!
We had a tiny wedding with under 10 guests including witnesses. One of the guests made plans to come kinda last minute (wasn't invited originally, but really wanted to come after someone spilled the beans and was pretty close to my husband anyways, so we agreed). They showed up with 2 more guests who I had never met, including a kid who looked bored and uncomfortable the whole time
My aunt just had a wedding for her daughter My aunt invited her best friend of 30 years that woman showed up in a white gown and Vail what the f**k
Vail is a ski resort town in Colorado. Your aunt's best friend showed up in a VEIL.
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Not my wedding, but my twin brothers. I missed the whole thing because I got the stormatch flue the day before. So we, as in everyone including me and my brother, agreed it was a bad idea for me to show up. So yeah. My twins wedding was a total bust for me. Almost 29 years later, I stil miss that from time to time.
It wasn't your fault that you missed the wedding. You were sick and being home was probably the best thing for you.
Load More Replies... I ran a catering company for a while, and I know we ruined somebody's wedding. The father of the bride came in drunk, and when the bartender wouldn't serve him punched the bartender in the face. They begged us not to call the police, and I said fine but he has to go now. They flat out refused, and I told them that we was leave if he didn't. They laughed at us and said we wouldn't dare. Before the ceremony was done, it was done, all the chairs, tables, plates, dancefloor, etc., were packed up, and we were gone. The food was left in togo containers, with no silverware.
After all these posts the easy solution is to elope. Who wants all that drama and b******t that you end up spending 1000’s on? The only thing that matters is the marriage. Not the godawful soap opera that is a wedding.
Not all weddings are soap operas. It depends on the people involved.
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My cousin- formerly a fairly non-religious “Christian” changed her entire personality when she met her Hillsong boyfriend. Their wedding was full of statements about the “sanctity of marriage being ruined by the legalisation of same-sex unions” and the “role a woman plays in being obedient to her husband.” The groom’s family also condemned divorce. Every single one of her aunts or cousins are either divorced, gay or the child or sibLing of someone who is divorced or gay. It was beyond horrifying!
On our wedding day, we both got 2 days before gastroenteritis from a visit to my now wife's grandfather who was at the hospital. This same grandfather didn't attend to the wedding because he didn't want to, not because he was feeling wrong or sth. My father was going through cancer treatment so he had to run to the toilet often. And due to family issues we had to invite a lot of people that we didn't even know, very common in Spain. Final result: all the photographs taken of me before the wedding were of a worried groom, not even by far the happy day everyone talks about. At least, we went to Vegas and a drunk Elvis married us stinking of bourbon (he )was, we don't drink
In Vegas we had OUR wedding. It was obviously fake, but we laughed a lot. Love you, wifey!!!
Load More Replies... Not really bad, but my best friend skipped my wedding for a job interview for a job she ended up not taking. It wasn’t a huge deal because the wedding was kind of last minute (we had a courthouse ceremony and were having a hard time finding someone available to officiate) and was super small. Just us and two witnesses. Also, the judge that presided over our wedding misspelled my name on our marriage certificate. I have a common middle name, but with unique spelling, so a lot of people spell it incorrectly. But it was literally on the sheet of paper right above the section he filled out. And we didn’t catch it when we signed it, so we didn’t realize until we got our copy.
At my wedding, my parents paid for the catering but refused to let my husband and I take any food home to eat since we were too tired after the wedding to cook. My mom even went up to every table at our wedding and told the table that we were ungrateful people bc we werent doting on her at our wedding.
Well my wife and i are both in our second round of marriage and so we learned one thing: you marry for yourself and not for the guests, you can never ever make things right for every one. That does not mean that you should be rude or sth. but we didnt invite guests just because someone said we should, we just invited the people we wanted there, we planed everything ourself had a lot of fun and the best wedding ever. Since we where not allowed to.marry in church (both female) we had a wonderfull free spreach and free planned wedding with ceremony parts we wanted. I will never forget it. Second thing we learned: if you have any bad feeling while getting married (no matter how short before) DONT DO IT! Really everone we know who.is happily married says they dont had "cold feet" or bad feelings, and same with us, the second marriage felt just right in all parts!
Some of my husband's friends took a few plates of hors d'œuvres to their table during the garden reception. Basically we had a buffet of hors d'œuvres spread out on a long table for every guests presented there but apparently the friends didn't want to share. We thought it was so rude of them and many guests thought so too. The same group of friends decided to give all their attention to my brother in law and his then ex girlfriend. Not caring about my husband and myself at our wedding. (after this incident we decided to break contact with many of them, my husband only keeps in contact with 1 and myself 1 other.) There were so many other incidents that happen during our wedding 10 years ago that we cringe just thinking about it. It did leave us bitter. If we could do it all over again, we know who to invite and who we wouldn't. FYI my own friends and family couldn't make it to ours because of finances (one however manage to go to another wedding because it was set somewhere exotic.)
Oh goodness, where do I begin? My grandmother's first words to me that day were saying my dress was ugly and I had funeral flowers. Two family members threw a fit over who was taking pictures (there was a hobbyist photographer on both sides of the family) and I had to spend time placating them. My best friend complained about her ex and his new girlfriend all day. Same grandmother whined about no lunch before the reception that evening (when she had been invited to the big family rehearsal dinner the night before and ignored it). I'm diabetic and never managed to find time to eat... So instead of a romantic wedding night/first night together, my husband and I sat in the Burger King drive through (where they forgot we were there) trying to get some semblance of food into me. Thankfully it's been 13 years and we are still going strong!
Oh gosh, yes, my first wedding. We were really young, students, didn’t have a penny. We were dressed in the new clothes we bought which we were going to use for graduation and work afterwords. The cities wedding officiant started off his speech detailing how wonderful the previous couple was. He tried to regain himself by talking about how the two of us met on vacation in what was then known as Yugoslavia, to proceed into a speech about the terrible war that country had. He didn’t stay for small talk afterwards. My MIL disapproved of the whole wedding and had a thundering lemon face all day. Afterwards, the cafe, where we took our crowd of friends and family, were told everyone could have a beer, a wine, or an orange juice on us. When it came to bill time it was huge! They had been serving fresh pressed orange juice, charged by the glass, all evening. By that time my fresh husband was so stressed he laid into me and the day ended in tears.
Not my wedding but the groom is a guy I worked with. On the day of wedding, the bride started throwing up and couldn’t stop. She had food poisoning and kept getting worse. By the time the ceremony rolled around, she was hospitalized. The father of the groom had to announce that there would be no wedding that day but everyone please come to the dinner because it was paid for. The bride missed the whole day and spent it in the hospital with the groom at her side. He made a brief appearance at the dinner to thank everyone for coming and to reassure them that yes, they are still getting married. I’m not sure when they got married but there was a party later where she wore her dress. But a decade later, the marriage is still going strong.
My aunt just had a wedding for her daughter My aunt invited her best friend of 30 years that woman showed up in a white gown and Vail what the f**k
Vail is a ski resort town in Colorado. Your aunt's best friend showed up in a VEIL.
Load More Replies... Not my wedding, but my twin brothers. I missed the whole thing because I got the stormatch flue the day before. So we, as in everyone including me and my brother, agreed it was a bad idea for me to show up. So yeah. My twins wedding was a total bust for me. Almost 29 years later, I stil miss that from time to time.
It wasn't your fault that you missed the wedding. You were sick and being home was probably the best thing for you.
Load More Replies... I ran a catering company for a while, and I know we ruined somebody's wedding. The father of the bride came in drunk, and when the bartender wouldn't serve him punched the bartender in the face. They begged us not to call the police, and I said fine but he has to go now. They flat out refused, and I told them that we was leave if he didn't. They laughed at us and said we wouldn't dare. Before the ceremony was done, it was done, all the chairs, tables, plates, dancefloor, etc., were packed up, and we were gone. The food was left in togo containers, with no silverware.
After all these posts the easy solution is to elope. Who wants all that drama and b******t that you end up spending 1000’s on? The only thing that matters is the marriage. Not the godawful soap opera that is a wedding.
Not all weddings are soap operas. It depends on the people involved.
Load More Replies... My cousin- formerly a fairly non-religious “Christian” changed her entire personality when she met her Hillsong boyfriend. Their wedding was full of statements about the “sanctity of marriage being ruined by the legalisation of same-sex unions” and the “role a woman plays in being obedient to her husband.” The groom’s family also condemned divorce. Every single one of her aunts or cousins are either divorced, gay or the child or sibLing of someone who is divorced or gay. It was beyond horrifying!
On our wedding day, we both got 2 days before gastroenteritis from a visit to my now wife's grandfather who was at the hospital. This same grandfather didn't attend to the wedding because he didn't want to, not because he was feeling wrong or sth. My father was going through cancer treatment so he had to run to the toilet often. And due to family issues we had to invite a lot of people that we didn't even know, very common in Spain. Final result: all the photographs taken of me before the wedding were of a worried groom, not even by far the happy day everyone talks about. At least, we went to Vegas and a drunk Elvis married us stinking of bourbon (he )was, we don't drink
In Vegas we had OUR wedding. It was obviously fake, but we laughed a lot. Love you, wifey!!!
Load More Replies... Not really bad, but my best friend skipped my wedding for a job interview for a job she ended up not taking. It wasn’t a huge deal because the wedding was kind of last minute (we had a courthouse ceremony and were having a hard time finding someone available to officiate) and was super small. Just us and two witnesses. Also, the judge that presided over our wedding misspelled my name on our marriage certificate. I have a common middle name, but with unique spelling, so a lot of people spell it incorrectly. But it was literally on the sheet of paper right above the section he filled out. And we didn’t catch it when we signed it, so we didn’t realize until we got our copy.
At my wedding, my parents paid for the catering but refused to let my husband and I take any food home to eat since we were too tired after the wedding to cook. My mom even went up to every table at our wedding and told the table that we were ungrateful people bc we werent doting on her at our wedding.
Well my wife and i are both in our second round of marriage and so we learned one thing: you marry for yourself and not for the guests, you can never ever make things right for every one. That does not mean that you should be rude or sth. but we didnt invite guests just because someone said we should, we just invited the people we wanted there, we planed everything ourself had a lot of fun and the best wedding ever. Since we where not allowed to.marry in church (both female) we had a wonderfull free spreach and free planned wedding with ceremony parts we wanted. I will never forget it. Second thing we learned: if you have any bad feeling while getting married (no matter how short before) DONT DO IT! Really everone we know who.is happily married says they dont had "cold feet" or bad feelings, and same with us, the second marriage felt just right in all parts!
Some of my husband's friends took a few plates of hors d'œuvres to their table during the garden reception. Basically we had a buffet of hors d'œuvres spread out on a long table for every guests presented there but apparently the friends didn't want to share. We thought it was so rude of them and many guests thought so too. The same group of friends decided to give all their attention to my brother in law and his then ex girlfriend. Not caring about my husband and myself at our wedding. (after this incident we decided to break contact with many of them, my husband only keeps in contact with 1 and myself 1 other.) There were so many other incidents that happen during our wedding 10 years ago that we cringe just thinking about it. It did leave us bitter. If we could do it all over again, we know who to invite and who we wouldn't. FYI my own friends and family couldn't make it to ours because of finances (one however manage to go to another wedding because it was set somewhere exotic.)
Oh goodness, where do I begin? My grandmother's first words to me that day were saying my dress was ugly and I had funeral flowers. Two family members threw a fit over who was taking pictures (there was a hobbyist photographer on both sides of the family) and I had to spend time placating them. My best friend complained about her ex and his new girlfriend all day. Same grandmother whined about no lunch before the reception that evening (when she had been invited to the big family rehearsal dinner the night before and ignored it). I'm diabetic and never managed to find time to eat... So instead of a romantic wedding night/first night together, my husband and I sat in the Burger King drive through (where they forgot we were there) trying to get some semblance of food into me. Thankfully it's been 13 years and we are still going strong!
Oh gosh, yes, my first wedding. We were really young, students, didn’t have a penny. We were dressed in the new clothes we bought which we were going to use for graduation and work afterwords. The cities wedding officiant started off his speech detailing how wonderful the previous couple was. He tried to regain himself by talking about how the two of us met on vacation in what was then known as Yugoslavia, to proceed into a speech about the terrible war that country had. He didn’t stay for small talk afterwards. My MIL disapproved of the whole wedding and had a thundering lemon face all day. Afterwards, the cafe, where we took our crowd of friends and family, were told everyone could have a beer, a wine, or an orange juice on us. When it came to bill time it was huge! They had been serving fresh pressed orange juice, charged by the glass, all evening. By that time my fresh husband was so stressed he laid into me and the day ended in tears.
Not my wedding but the groom is a guy I worked with. On the day of wedding, the bride started throwing up and couldn’t stop. She had food poisoning and kept getting worse. By the time the ceremony rolled around, she was hospitalized. The father of the groom had to announce that there would be no wedding that day but everyone please come to the dinner because it was paid for. The bride missed the whole day and spent it in the hospital with the groom at her side. He made a brief appearance at the dinner to thank everyone for coming and to reassure them that yes, they are still getting married. I’m not sure when they got married but there was a party later where she wore her dress. But a decade later, the marriage is still going strong.
