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Fairytales usually end with the newlyweds living happily ever after but who still reads Hans Christian Andersen when Reddit offers one trainwreck of a story after another?

Recently, u/Olya_roo made a post on r/AskReddit, inviting people to share what wedding moment made them think the couple is not going to last long. At first, it may sound odd. After all, a wedding is a celebration of love. A new beginning. Not the end. Plus, there's enough booze to drown all the uncertainty at least until the day after. But that's not always the case.

As of today, the post has 85K upvotes and 24K comments, many of which describe the red flags that sometimes arise on the big day. Below are some of the most noteworthy ones.

#1

40 People Are Sharing Wedding Moments That Made Them Realize The Wedding Was A Mistake Prior to my wedding I’d asked my husband to practice dancing with me because I’m uncoordinated, due to a disability. He blew me off and said we’d be fine. As we were dancing, he spoke in my ear, not even quietly. “What are you doing? What’s wrong with you? You’re embarrassing me!!” We lasted 2 years. Leaving was the best decision I ever made.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm impressed it lasted two years. I would have disolved the marriage right after the dance

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40 People Are Sharing Wedding Moments That Made Them Realize The Wedding Was A Mistake I was at a wedding when a phone went off during the ceremony.

In the middle of exchanging vows.

It was the grooms.

He took the call.

They are divorced now.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Dude! What's up? Hey guess what? I'm getting married! Yeah! Now! Wait a sec dude... honey, where are you going? What do you mean this is over?"

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u/Olya_roo told Bored Panda they never expected this thread to become that popular.

"I am always interested in people's experiences, especially private ones. So, l asked this question [out of curiosity]," they said.

"I was really surprised by people's answers — like 60% of them were extremely detailed and private; you can really feel the pain in some of them."

#3

40 People Are Sharing Wedding Moments That Made Them Realize The Wedding Was A Mistake Just before the wedding started my mother turned to me and said “You are making the biggest mistake of your life, if we get in the car and leave now I will never say another word”

She was right…

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#4

40 People Are Sharing Wedding Moments That Made Them Realize The Wedding Was A Mistake Groom slept with another groomsman the night before he married his wife. Wanted to go to a gay bar at the bachelor party. Came out two years into the marriage. Denial ain't just a river in Egypt.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sadly, a lot of people do this on purpose, to hide being gay for various reasons (usually fear or social pressure).

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40 People Are Sharing Wedding Moments That Made Them Realize The Wedding Was A Mistake The groom took the stupid cake thing to an extreme. The bride had given him his bite, and mushed a little on his chin or nose. He then took a piece and MASHED it into her face so hard that I was expecting her to end up with a bloody nose. Cake and frosting got up her nose, in her eyes, down the front of her dress, etc.

The bride had to go get cleaned up, had her makeup re-done, and was ugly-crying within an hour of saying, "I do." He didn't give a damn.

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A recent analysis of marriage and divorce data by researcher Phillip Cohen of the University of Maryland revealed an 18 percent reduction in the country’s divorce rate between 2008 and 2018.

According to experts, this change can be explained by the following points:

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1. Cohabitation leads to a yes or no before marriage;

2. People are getting pickier;

3. There’s not as much of a rush;

4. Those who are married are discovering more options than divorce.

#6

40 People Are Sharing Wedding Moments That Made Them Realize The Wedding Was A Mistake When she went alone on her honeymoon, because she booked a trip to the caribbean despite her newlywed husband having a severe sun allergy

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#7

Don't know what happened... Sat down with bride and groom, filling out the contract. Got the deposit. He stood up, said forget it, and walked out. 2 months later I get told the wedding is off, 3 months later she calls to rebook, different groom. Day of the wedding I am at the church... Got the final payment the week before... No one shows... No one, just me and the DJ.

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40 People Are Sharing Wedding Moments That Made Them Realize The Wedding Was A Mistake When the maid of honor professed her love for my brother during her toast at my brother's wedding... and her husband walked up to the head table, picked her up and carried her away before she could embarrass him further. They lasted about 3 months after that. My brother and his wife on the other hand are still happily married 20 years later.

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A lot of the stories shocked u/Olya_roo, and some left them in legit terror. "[At one point], I wanted to call the ambulance and have some of those insane people locked in a hospital," they said.

"This thread was a really fun experience, and I am so honored to see people still replying to it, and people ... contacting me."

#9

40 People Are Sharing Wedding Moments That Made Them Realize The Wedding Was A Mistake Two friends of mine got married, and when they gave their vows, the guy started laughing at the part about being faithful. Oops.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a twat. She should have left then and there, go to reception venue and party without him.

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40 People Are Sharing Wedding Moments That Made Them Realize The Wedding Was A Mistake When the groom went in for the kiss after their vows and the bride presented her cheek instead. They divorced less than a year later after it was discovered she had been cheating on him pretty much their entire relationship.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why did she go through with the marriage, if she was seeing someone else? I don't understand why people do this?

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#11

Bride disappears right after dinner for about an hour. After she returned, groom's father comes up and asks for the mic. Proceeds to announce to the entire place that his son's new bride was just upstairs schtupping her ex boyfriend, and that the marriage is over.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am surprised at how many stories like this there are. Weddings bring out such intense, raw emotions that people just can't seem to control themselves. You would think the bride could get it together for what is supposed to be the happiest day of her life.

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I was maid of honour. Me, best man and the couple went into a separate little room to do the signing stuff. Bride excused herself to go the bathroom and the groom started making pretty mean remarks about her cooking (sth she's passionate about) to the officiary. She came back, heard they were talking about cooking family meals together and gave him the warmest smile, thinking he had praised her. He scoffed awkwardly and changed the topic. That always stuck with me. He wasn't laughing WITH her but AT her, behind her back.

They lasted 7 months.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's horrible... Not as gruesome as some of the other stories here but so sad

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#13

40 People Are Sharing Wedding Moments That Made Them Realize The Wedding Was A Mistake A fun light-hearted dance with the groom followed by a close and slow dance with her male best friend.

Lasted 18 months and now she's living with the "friend".

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

These things happen in plain sight and many are way too naive about them. Not saying that men and women could not be friends together, just saying that they very rarely can be THAT (slow-dancing, emotionally and physically intimate) kind of friends together without it causing problems to actual spouses.

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40 People Are Sharing Wedding Moments That Made Them Realize The Wedding Was A Mistake Portuguese wedding. Fist fight broke out at the head table during the reception. Between two groomsmen. They were arguing about which of them had slept with the bride first. Groom was oblivious.

He came home from work early one day two years later and caught her in bed with another man. Surprised it took that long.

Midnight buffet was amazing though.

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40 People Are Sharing Wedding Moments That Made Them Realize The Wedding Was A Mistake At my aunts wedding.

Pastor: “Repeat after me…. For Richer and for poorer” The bride: “ for richer and for richer”

Yea they didn’t last long

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Apparently she was daddy's special little princess who always had money to buy things and got married to a rich guy.

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#16

40 People Are Sharing Wedding Moments That Made Them Realize The Wedding Was A Mistake The part of the vows where you pledge monogamy? The audience laughed

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#17

40 People Are Sharing Wedding Moments That Made Them Realize The Wedding Was A Mistake The groom had a “best woman” instead of a best man. Nothing wrong with that, but her toast left the whole room in awkward silence because she was clearly in love with him.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think that's quite sad.. Not the best time to make that speech.. But still quite sad..

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40 People Are Sharing Wedding Moments That Made Them Realize The Wedding Was A Mistake When they disappeared for half an hour during the reception. They were both “saving themselves for marriage” and were desperate to bone down. Which is a fine thing to want. But it turns out that was more or less the main reason they got married. They made it almost a year.

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40 People Are Sharing Wedding Moments That Made Them Realize The Wedding Was A Mistake She told me two days before that she found her fiancé annoying and that she didn’t like him and that he was AWFUL in bed.

She was visibly, endlessly uncomfortable at the rehearsal wedding/dinner combo.

Then she sobbed the ENTIRE morning, day-of. She ended up not getting any makeup done cause she wouldn’t stop scream-sobbing and refused to get dressed, stalling the wedding ~35 minutes.

She then said 45 minutes of “vows” that she had prepared (9 pages of things like inappropriate vows to friends and family, his parents and sisters, none of them her husband), and then ALMOST didn’t say “I do”. Managed to get a, “uh, yeah, okay, yeah I do” out of her almost a full 60 seconds after she was supposed to say anything.

I could go on for HOURS, but it was the most painful and awkward wedding I’ve ever been to. I’ve got my money on 10 months. We’re 1 month in.

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#20

40 People Are Sharing Wedding Moments That Made Them Realize The Wedding Was A Mistake When the groom started off his speech by saying, “we all know I didn’t want to get married but we’re here for bride and child we had together_.”

1 year, 3 months later they were finished.

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#21

40 People Are Sharing Wedding Moments That Made Them Realize The Wedding Was A Mistake The bride told her bridesmaids that she didn’t actually want to get married. Multiple times. No one told the groom until after the divorce.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you don't want to get married.....then why not say so....if you don't feel like you can be honest with your fiancé, why say yes?

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40 People Are Sharing Wedding Moments That Made Them Realize The Wedding Was A Mistake I used to work for an event center that hosted a lot of weddings pre-Covid.

After one ceremony I saw the groom slap the butt of one of the bridesmaids in the hallway. She laughed and with a big smile said, "Oh Jeremy, you'll never change!"

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Jeremy as in, my cheating ex-boyfriend? HAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHAHA

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#23

When there's name calling. I particularly cringed at "it's because we so get each other and are so comfortable that he can call me dumb slut as a nickname." They didn't last the year.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a friend like that. His girlfriend calls him demeaning name and he's totally fine with that but she doesn't allow it from him. They're like best friends, he says. If my best friend did that, I would end the friendship straight.

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An infamous one for me was leaving a venue late one night and as I’m walking to the train I can see the bride down an alley, on her knees with the best man.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't get why it's so often the best man/bridesmaid. Aren't they usually the best friend of groom/bride? Why would they do that?

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40 People Are Sharing Wedding Moments That Made Them Realize The Wedding Was A Mistake I was the best man at a wedding a few years back. At the rehearsal dinner, his future in-laws were treating him like cr*p. They were bossing him around, making him do cr*p, and talking down to him. They didn’t let him hang out with his groomsmen afterwards while the bride went out and got drunk.

They are now divorced.

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#26

Had an old boss who was divorced. He told me once "I should have known it wasn't going to last when the only happy moment I had on my wedding day was when I snuck out to smoke weed with my buddies in the parking lot."

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When he smashed the cake in her face and hair, then went off drinking with his buddies. In 12 weeks, she filed. Good thing I didn't buy an expensive gift.

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One where the wedding was all about the groom promoting his band. He even "sang his bride a song" that was literally just him showing off his vocal range with some classic piece. She stood up and joined him on stage half way through and he looked annoyed that he had to share the limelight. They lasted about 2 years (he was sleeping with the other vocalist in the band.)

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#29

The most beautiful wedding I've been to ended in divorce. Venue was where the groom's father is buried and he cried as he made his vows to the bride there.

Turned out he'd been cheating on her for months and they divorced a while later. Something so repugnant about marrying someone you're cheating on practically over your father's grave. To date it's the only wedding I've been to that ended in divorce.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's just disrespectful to the father, family and bride. The groom is an ah

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40 People Are Sharing Wedding Moments That Made Them Realize The Wedding Was A Mistake The entire bridal party, including parents of the wedded couple, entering in to a betting pool of how long the marriage would last, at the wedding reception.

IIRC the best man won (price is right rules) at 14 months

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My husband was the best man at a wedding. The bride was a nightmare. Not just during the wedding, but in general everyday life. All of the friends hated her, and she had no friends of her own.

We knew it was doomed when: during the portraits, the bride was making everyone miserable as can be. The groom said (exact words):

"I'll just send her to therapy. And, if that doesn't work, we can just get divorced."

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He complained she was mean to him throughout their dating life. The day before the wedding all of the groomsmen and the grooms friends told him not to marry the girl. Like straight up.

They lasted less than a year.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hmm. I get that you don't want to marry someone who is mean. I know my ex used to tell everyone how awful and mean I was, until one day when we were with a group of friends and he he lost "control" and socked me in the face for frowning at him. You could have heard a pin drop. Thing was that was normal for me. But always take it with a grain of salt: advise your friend but don't just blindly hate the other party. His friends used to give me so much s**t til he showed his true colours (his friend group changed somewhat after that as you can imagine)

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#33

When he raised his eyebrows and gave her a knowing look during the “for richer or for poorer” portion of their vows.

For context, he was a newly drafted pro athlete and she was a big fan of his signing bonus

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#34

One of my friends got married, afterwards she looked at me, crying, and said " what did I do? ". They were separated by the time the plane landed from their honeymoon. He was a good guy, she was a mess.

The beta fish in the flower centerpieces lasted longer than the marriage.

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40 People Are Sharing Wedding Moments That Made Them Realize The Wedding Was A Mistake Groom got into a fist fight with the father of the bride. Split after 4 months.

Context- Groom and brides dad (actually most people in these families if I'm honest) have pretty aggressive drinking problems. Father in law has always hated him. I wasn't around for what actually set it off but it ended when the bride got in the middle, got an elbow in the eye and the happy couple left for the night. This was in rural Canada. Not Letterkenny, but basically Letterkenny. I'd say the father in law won the fight though.

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#36

40 People Are Sharing Wedding Moments That Made Them Realize The Wedding Was A Mistake I was at the wedding of one of my mum’s oldest friends and she clearly had more fun dancing with the best man after the wedding.

Long story short, they dated for a while after the divorce.

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#37

The groom and best man had a dancing routine for getting into the church ceremony and they got nearly halfway through it and I guess the groom felt they hadn't received much applause and wows from us the attendees and decided to go back to the entrance and start all over. Sigh...

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#38

My brother’s ex-wife. Throughout the exchange of vows, she was looking at everyone but my brother, making sure all eyes were on her. Later, she instructed the photographer (a family friend who was cheap) to “mingle” and get shots of people “being happy”. Within 10 minutes, she’d summoned the photographer back shouting, “Whose wedding is this?! I meant get shots of people being happy for me.”

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#39

The bride and groom did the first dance then spent the rest of their reception completely apart from each other getting s**t-faced with their own separate friend-groups. The only other dancing all night was the bride dancing with her high school friends, the father-daughter dance and the mother-son dance, during which the groom was crying. The best man's speech didn't mention the bride at all and basically boiled down to "Groom, you're married now but our bond is older and stronger, all of our hunting and fishing trips together are the best thing in our lives, can't wait for more." Such a sad, desperate atmosphere. They made it a little over one year.

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I was kindly included in a last-minute plus-one to the wedding of a family friend who I'd never met before. At the rehearsal dinner (or the German equivalent, the Polterabend) the guests smashed ceramic and porcelain items on the ground. I was fresh in Germany, so this was all pretty out of context and frightening, but my boyfriend explained that it's a tradition - reminding the couple that life is sometimes difficult and you have to work together to clean it up.

The bride kind of half-heartedly motioned to the groom to sweep it up. He did a little bit, then just moved on to talk to his friends, leaving most of the shards strewn around the yard. Additionally, I don't think I saw the couple talk to each other once over the next three days of celebrations.

It was a gorgeous wedding, and I'm so grateful that I was invited (really good way to begin living in a new country), but it wasn't surprising to hear that they'd divorced a few years later.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why have a Polterabend when you are not prepared to use snow shovels to clean up (and probably have ordered a small container)

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