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30 People Reveal The Deeply Disturbing Secrets They Uncovered About Someone Close To Them, Leaving Them Shocked And Traumatized
"It is wise not to seek a secret, and honest not to reveal one," William Penn, a 17th-century English writer, once said. While there's some truth in Penn's words - how can you not, when stumbling upon or intentionally uncovering something juicy about someone you know rewards you with that fizzy excitement? Of course, as we well know from TV shows like Netflix's YOU, some stones are better left unturned.
Recently, u/Electrical-Lemon187 posed an intriguing question, asking r/AskReddit community members about the most unsettling secrets they had uncovered about someone close to them. After sifting through numerous captivating responses, we have curated a selection of the most gripping accounts for your perusal. So buckle up, dear pandas, because things are about to get rather interesting.
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#1
Just after my 6th anniversary, I found a video on my husband's tablet from a hidden camera that showed my 14 year old niece nude. I called the police immediately. He never came home again. He's in prison now. In one moment I realized I had no clue who I was married (and had a child with!) And I yeeted his a*s into the sun.
Take me to dinner first 2 years ago
Glad about the a*s but that's terrifying, I dont think I'd ever be able to trust someone again
The Doom Song 2 years ago
Good thing the video was found. Shuddering at the thought of what could have happened to the niece
DiscoqueenJ 2 years ago
I'm so proud of you for not "giving him the benefit of the doubt" and immediately doing the right thing. Too many pedophiles are out there today because someone who knew something chose to ignore it.
tuzdayschild 2 years ago
That is exactly what one should do to protect their child. Well absolfrickinlutely done.
Dre Mosley 2 years ago
Happened to one of my exes friends. Married for six years with two small kids only to have him busted for having CP(pics and videos of little boys). Last I heard, she was remarried and he'd signed away his parental rights to his kids and did prison time. I'd met him several times, seemed like just an average young husband and father. Oh, he was also worship leader in his ex FIL's church.
tabithapaquette98 2 years ago
It seems like it's always the "extra religious" that do fu s**t!
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Got Myself 4 Pandas 2 years ago
I'm so glad she took action - far too many people don't do anything, and I know how awful that can be. I get being shocked and taking a while to process until you take action but to do nothing is just awful. Well done to this person for taking action instantly
In a world where personal privacy has become a rather elusive concept, the allure of secrets persists as an enigmatic force. No wonder, then, that an average person keeps about 13 secrets at a time, five of which they have never told another living soul, according to new research. But what compels individuals to keep their innermost truths shrouded in darkness?
One of the primary reasons people resort to secrecy, it turns out, is the pervasive fear of judgment. Deeply ingrained in the human psyche, this fear propels individuals to guard their unconventional thoughts and desires from the prying eyes of society - even if it results in the fall of the economy, as The Great Recession showed (thanks, Wall Street).
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#2
While my cousin was walking around with her son in the woods, she came across a hunting stand. She climbed it, and found a pair of binoculars. Sitting straight forward, and lifting the binoculars to her eyes....she saw her own bedroom window.
Lets be logical here: If it was a legit hunting stand, it was facing, and CLOSER than 500 feet to a residence, which is illegal....which means it had to come down with predjudice.
If it was a peeping tom...well...it had to come down....with predjudice.
When my brother and I visited not long after, she showed us where it was. We tore it down and literally wrapped it around a couple trees. Bent the f****r to complete uselessness.
I got an angry call the next day:
"DID YOU TEAR DOWN A HUNTING STAND YESTERDAY??"
"F**k yeah I did."
"That was your uncle's!" (Her mother’s brother)
Turns out my cousin reported it to the family and they ignored the issue. When the uncle was asked, he said there was just an old tree house out there. Even when he was exposed, they didn't really care. They were more upset about the damage we did.
Suffice it to say I have written off most of that side of the family.
Monday 2 years ago
They can't anymore. They already vandalized the stand which makes them guilty of a crime too. They can't actually prove the uncle was spying (even though he very obviously was) so the only crime would be having an illegal hunting stand, which he could likely explain away by saying it used to be a treehouse. If the rest of the family closes rank around uncle that creates enough reasonable doubt the cops could never do anything about it.
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According to Justin Lehmiller, a research fellow at The Kinsey Institute and the author of 'Tell Me What You Want', one of the most popular reasons why lovers don't feel comfortable being 100% honest about their kinks and whatnot is fear that their partners won't get it or even worse - use it as a basis to call quits on the relationship.
"In my own research on sexual fantasies, I find that the single most common reason people avoid sharing their fantasies with their partners is because they expect a negative reaction," he explained to Bored Panda in an email. "They’re worried about being shamed or judged for expressing a turn-on that their partner does not share." (A recent study by OnePoll revealed that “most people hide their kinks because they’re afraid their partner will leave.”)
#3
She was my best friend of 7 years, we had literally been through it all together. I moved out of state with my now husband, but she convinced us both to move back to be closer with her, after about a year. We had no real ties to the state we had tried out, so we said screw it, let’s go back, she’s basically family. We were all so happy to be reunited; she was over almost every night for dinner, we all laughed and talked and had a blast. Best year of my life.
Then slowly, she started trying to turn my husband and I against each other. Anytime we had an argument (like any couple does) she would text each of us about how right we were; trying to foster animosity between the two of us.
With me, she started talking about how she had a plan b for “us”, that if my husband and I couldn’t make it work, I could move in with her and we’d live happy lives together.
With my husband, she started talking about her infertility issues and how she wanted to have a kid just like him, she just needed a sperm donor.
This all happened at around the same time, and my husband and I compared texts and figured it out.
She wanted to take his sperm, and have a baby with me. When confronted about it she refused to admit anything and started lashing out at both of us. It got to the point where she would show up unannounced, banging on the door, demanding a place in our home. It was so terrifying and panic inducing that we ended up having to move and change our phone numbers.
I guess it’s so disturbing because I had never had a friend like her, only to find out that she, well she cared about me, but in such an unhealthy and scary way. But yeah, that’s my story.
Husband and I are great now btw.
Sonja 2 years ago
But here we see the prove: if the relationship is healthy and people communicate openly, no one can destroy it from the outside. It will come out and it will come out fast. If a 'friend'like that can get you apart just with some nagging and messaging, the relationship wasn't as close as the people though it was.
Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago (edited)
Move. Away. Far. Away. NOW! Change your names if your have to. Stay off social media. Until you find out she’s dead or in jail for life (if she tried it with you, she may try it with another couple), just fly under her radar. Suck to live that way, but you never know when someone like her might finish going completely over the edge. Cripes. It’s like having a stalker.
Helen Taylor 2 years ago
Movie script. Happy that you found out anytime and you and your husband are OK.
Edward Dwyer 2 years ago
"almost every night for dinner" WTF? Nobody does that with anybody unless you live together.
#4
My former wife (now ex) and I were having problems. I was certain she was cheating on me. I found her notes where she was figuring out and had added up how much I was worth dead.
Monday 2 years ago
Absolutely! You know how much you can get for a kidney these days? /j
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DiscoqueenJ 2 years ago (edited)
When my husband and I were young with a new baby, my mom recommended we look in to life insurance on my husband since he was the breadwinner and I'd be in trouble if he died suddenly. I got online and requested a quote. Because it was for my husband, I used his information and he suddenly got an email about his wife was asking for a quote on life insurance. He calls me and says "ummm...should I be checking my food tonight?" I died laughing. His whole office poked him for a few days about how I was secretly trying to kill him.
Elspeth_Marple 2 years ago
My uncle figured out his wife (now ex of many years) was cheating and was planning on killing him, so he took the bullets out of the gun in her nightstand just to be careful. He was still awake when she came into the room, got the gun out, put it to his head, and pulled the trigger. That was his perfect grounds for divorce. That woman is insane.
MurderMittens 2 years ago
A woman needs to be financially prepared if something happens to her husband. Maybe she was just doing that. I'm screwed, so i'll be moving in with one of the kids.
#5
My mom received birthday cards with money in them for years from her parents. She kept the cards with the money in them, saving to buy a piano/sentimental reasons. My sister, who has repeatedly stolen from family members, found the collection of cards/money and took them. My mom only wanted the cards back when she realized what happened. My sister denied everything. F**k you, Emily.
Freya the Wanderer 2 years ago
Serve her the hell right if she wound up homeless
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Funny thing is, if Emily had asked for money because she was in dire need, her parents probably would’ve given it to her. But she didn’t, she just stole it. Bet she has a history of doing rotten s**t like this. Change the locks and don’t give Emily a new key. Set up a whole security system, with cameras and an automatic notification to you and call to police once the door is even touched. Then press charges. If Emily doe change her ways, she becomes persona non grata to the family. You do NOT steal from your own!
Xenon 2 years ago
Cats may steal from you, but it's only a piece of your food.
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"People also hide their fantasies for other reasons, such as feeling embarrassed about them or simply knowing in advance that their partner is not into the idea," Lehmiller argues, noting that "it isn’t always the case that we hide our fantasies because we’re ashamed." Some simply want to keep their kinks to themselves or know that they won't be as 'charming' in real-life as it possibly is in their sexually healthy imagination.
#6
When my Grandfather passed away we discovered that he did not exist. His name was not in any government registry. He was a normal citizen, paid taxes, had a license and everything. Lived a long life, married to my grandmother for over 50 years, had multiple children, everything normal.
Still to now, no one knows who he really was and why he had a false name.
coppertopped panda 2 years ago
Who he really was: A husband, a father, a grandfather, a friend, a neighbor.
Monday 2 years ago
He could have just been a runaway or something. It was shockingly easy to create a new identity in ye oldy years.
madbakes 2 years ago
Yep, no one knows anything about my great grandfather. All we know is he grew up in an extremely abusive house and ran away.
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Claudia Conway 2 years ago
Could he have been a Jewish refugee? I've heard quite a few sad stories of Jewish kids who were sent away from their families for safety in the early 20th C and told never to tell anyone they were Jewish, I guess as they were so scared it would have consequences if Nazism spread
alwaysMispelled 2 years ago
If he paid taxes he must've have a tax I'd number if not a social security number. So he was on a government roll SOMEWHERE
Sonja 2 years ago
Indeed. My bet is system glitch and no one followed up on it
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Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago
Witness protection? Criminal on the run? Illegal immigrant? Depending on how old he was, there was a time in the pre-Internet past when people could just change their identity in one place, then live under that name in another, because different districts weren’t connected to the internet to share information. If he flew under the radar and didn’t attract attention to himself, which would prompt a background check, he could’ve gotten away with it. Do the DNA thing in Ancestry or another genealogy website. You might find a slew of new relatives.
Malwin Wellham 2 years ago
Couldn't be an illegal immigrant since he was married. He must have a past that he ran from. DNA might reveal more.
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karen Young 2 years ago
My first husband forgot to renew his drivers license on time. So he would of needed like 2 forms of ID. NO birth certificate could be found. He had to hire a lawyer. No birth certificate found. He was drafted during Vietnam. And lawyer got U.S. government to send letter. He was legal enough to be drafted and serve the country. So give him a license. Best explanation was he probably was informally adopted. Not a legal.adoption. Which was kinda what happened back in the day. His dad was a respected police officer in a tight knit neighborhood.
Jared Robinson 2 years ago
if he's not in the government registry then he sure as s**t wasn't paying taxes. he was putting that money somewhere i'm sure but not taxes.
Alex Kincaid 2 years ago
I call BS on this one. If what the poster claims is true, there is a huge, and concentrated, "hole" in the system. Not that this in not possible, but seems unlikely. The IRS will NOT accept your money if they cannot identify you, they cannot by law.
#7
My great grandmother was married to 3 different people at the same time. The men were from different branches of the military, she was collecting all three of their paychecks at a time.
InsertNameHere (They/Them) 2 years ago
It's fine but in this case it appears to be a money scam
Michael Largey 2 years ago
Well, she tripled her chances of her husband remembering their anniversary.
Cory Tollman 2 years ago
In the US I can't imagine the US Military taking kindly to this. I have no idea how they'd deal with it though. I do know that the 2nd and 3rd husbands could be screwed under the UCMJ for adultery if 1st husband wanted to lodge a complaint.
Kelvin Scott 2 years ago
is polygamy illegal where your from, at least its long past and not your problem, unless medical reasons to know the male g- grandparent
#8
My grandfather beat someone to death. My dad was an only child, but my grandmother was once pregnant with my dads younger brother. When she was 6 months pregnant, someone in construction equipment ran over the car she was driving and she lost the baby. While she was in the hospital, my grandfather found the guy and beat him to death. From what I understand, he was in jail for about a week before he was released. Apparently, he claimed temporary insanity due to the circumstances. I learned all this about 4 years ago when my brother was researching family history and asked my grandfather about it. I've always seen him as a nice, little old man.
Aboredpanda 2 years ago
Can't say I wouldn't have reacted exactly the same way. And he probably was nothing but a nice little old man.
DC 2 years ago
True, that ... OTOH, accidents - even bad ones - happen, and taking the law in his own hands may very, very well have devastated the family of the guy, whom I won't try to defend here, but ... eye for eye makes the world go blind, don't it?
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Monica Sargent 2 years ago
He is a nice old man, who's child was taken from him and was torn up with grief. May we never know such pain.
Annie 2 years ago (edited)
We have a skeleton in the closet like this: it's a family rumor that my great uncle (by marriage to my grandmother's sister) either beat pretty badly or even killed a priest who raped his sister. Through research, we recently found out that his last name was probably not his real name. Makes sense if this really happened.
Sonja 2 years ago
People always pretend as if temporary insanity is by default a bogus defence. But it does happen. This is one of the few instances where I can imagine someone being insane with grief, unable to control themselves and actually regretting what they did as soon as they come back to their senses if it was indeed an accident.
Michael Largey 2 years ago
I'll bet at least part of the reason he got released was that the prosecutor realized that he'd never get a jury to convict this guy.
Of course, there's also the self-preservation aspect of taking a secret to your grave. Whether it involves concealing personal trauma, sensitive information, or involvement in illicit activities, maintaining secrecy can be a matter of survival.
Just imagine what it must be like for those close to Jimmy Savile, the infamous BBC radio personality, who continues to face horrifying posthumous accusations to this day, to learn about his creepy quirks. Or Rose McGowan's, an American actress known for her role in the classic TV series Charmed, culty upbringing in a polygamous commune.
#9
Probably not the most disturbing thing I've seen, but caught my dad and sister together. They don't know I know.
This was ten years ago when my mom was dying from cancer at the time.
They probably still do it. I see my dad less than once a year.
lenka 2 years ago
You should have reported your father to the police. She was likely groomed and sexually assaulted for years.
David H 2 years ago
I remember hearing a story about a guy who walked in on his wife having sex with her own father. He filed for divorce that afternoon. Here was the thing, he was willing to keep the reason a secret, but when his ex's family publicly trashed him, he told everyone the truth, they had to move, the other kids disowned the parents and their sister, etc. And in all these cases you know the father groomed the daughter for years for it.
MIHAELA ČVORAK 2 years ago (edited)
I think that she is not his daughter, probably daughter of wife from first marriage. Still disgusting, but not an incest. At least legally, morally another story. And he doesn't say how old she was.
Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago (edited)
Dad or Stepdad (both are disgusting, but it’s context)? How old was your sister at the time, OP? If she was underage, you should’ve reported it. If not, it’s still gross, because he slept with her mother. If he’s her biological father, I sure as s**t hope there are no children from it. Most of all, OP’s casual tone about incest in his own family is disturbing in itself.
Wysteria_Rose 2 years ago
"I see my dad less than once a year." Yeah, you need to see both of them even less than that.
#10
Discovered that my sister stole my father's $25k Rolex not more than 24 hours after he died. I only discovered it when her and her husband made a frivolous purchase and I wondered where they got they money since they were always broke and begging my parents for money. I got suspicious, it hit me that she might have stolen and sold the Rolex. Had the paperwork, ran a track on the sales history and discovered it had been sold to a p**n shop down the street from where my sister lives. Went to the p**n shop and after a bit of persuasion got them to tell me who sold it to them and it was my sister. Me and my mom disowned her.
OmBoyGanesh 2 years ago
It’s the Lithuanian software translating idioms and slang from the websites home language to English. It’s not very good. But it’s not the BP staff in Vilnius hand-censoring the site.
Mike Fitzpatrick 2 years ago
You'll need to post that on every story reply. We pandas have terrible memories. What was the subject?
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Rebekah Krause 2 years ago
Why is “p**n” censored?!? BP is a little crazy with censoring words, for this is beyond
Justin Thyme 2 years ago
You should have gone to police, would have gotten watch back-- p**n shops cannot have stolen material
TheDemonicCat 2 years ago (edited)
Yea but they don't censor porn, It's hilarious
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Tucker Cahooter 2 years ago
So not only are they censoring words that might make a nun blush, they are also censoring homonyms of such words
#11
So my grandmother (who’s been estranged for my family for a long time now for a MULTITUDE of reasons) has this weird thing where she has to share food with people. Are you ordering steak at the restaurant? Well oh boy she’s gotta order the same thing even if she doesn’t like steak. Try her drink, “it’s really good!” Take the first bite of chicken to let her know if it’s “any good.” This always really annoyed me cause I hate sharing food. One day I brought it up to my mom and she was like, “oh yeah, grandma is afraid of being poisoned, so she wants other people to try it first.” SO LET ME GET THIS STRAIGHT, GRANDMA THINKS SOMEONE IS TRYING TO POSION HER SO SHE HAS ME TRY THE FOOD FIRST??? And it makes so much sense looking back because she literally would not take a bite of anything she ordered until someone else had a bite first. Thanks grandma
marcelo D. 2 years ago
even if she was, she was an AH, considering she would literally let someone she supposedly care about die, just for her not to be poisoned.-
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Tiger Pearl 2 years ago
Perhaps she logically knows she’s not going to be poisoned but it’s a compulsion/phobia. My mom had a phobia of roaches and would send me in to deal with them for her. Some people have irrational fears and know at some level they are irrational, and that’s why they don’t mind having loved ones face their monsters 😂
Crazy Meerkat Lady 2 years ago
If I was OP I would take this newly obtained information and next time we go out with grandma I'd do a fake collapse and foam at the mouth.
Lil Miss Hobbit 2 years ago
I had a friend who said a family member had been poisoned a few generations ago. If you brought her family food, you ate it with them.
But there's a whole different side to spilling beans and the nature of secret-keeping that we don't know. "When I first started presenting [The Physical Burdens of Secrecy] research to people, some people thought it was very interesting. Some were asking, 'Is this even secrecy? How can you study secrecy if you don't bring two people together in the room and have one person hide something during a conversation from the other person?'" Columbia University professor Michael Slepian, a leading expert on the psychology of secrets, told Bored Panda.
#12
Found out my aunt’s homophobic husband was cheating when he matched with my brother’s boyfriend (open relationship) on Grindr.
Edit: My aunt still has no idea.
PeepPeep the duck 2 years ago (edited)
I sometimes look back on a homophobe who complete nearly ruined my mums life when she came out. I look back cos he was so ‘manly’ and had the manly car and the manly stone mason job, years later I looked him up and he’s now a costume designer for a theatre group on the Gold Coast that happens to be largely an LGBT one. And now I know why he tried to ruin my mums life in the 90s. He wasn’t as strong as my mum to come out etc. Angry in denial Closet people are dangerous to themselves and others :( I do hope he’s happier now.
OmBoyGanesh 2 years ago
There’s an insightful book that, although not the main topic, explains this well. It’s called “The Velvet Rage” and I highly recommend it.
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GenericPanda09 2 years ago
It happens so often that tbh my first thought when i hear a guy loudly saying about disliking gays is that they sound like a closet case who's desperately trying to put up a smokescreen because of their own cowardice in being 'found out'.
Christina Watson 2 years ago
This is primarily how AIDS spread to women. Drug addicts sharing needles is the second method. Your aunt needs to know.
Helen Taylor 2 years ago
I think that many homophobic people are attracted to the same sex and just don't want to deal with it or at least deal with it publicly.
#13
One of my best friends was caught trying to meet up with a 13 year old and was filmed and uploaded to YouTube
Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago
Should’ve uploaded it to the police first. After the conviction, upload it to YouTube.
Upstaged75 2 years ago
People share which US state allows a 40 year old man to marry a 12 year old???? That's statutory rape!
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One night as a kid I heard my parents having an explosive argument in their bedroom which suddenly went quiet (the door was closed and locked) I found out during a drunk phone call from my mother it was because she attempted to [unalive] my father in the face with a .303 but it didn’t go off when she pulled the trigger as there were no bullets. They were both horrified and just stared at each other apparently.
They’re still together.
Fat Harry 2 years ago
Eventually they'll use "unalive" so much that it'll become synonymous with "kill" and they'll have to find another stupid euphemism.
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Monday 2 years ago
"They're still together"......what? She tried to shoot him in the face and he didn't run for the hills?
Ken Beattie 2 years ago
Yeah that's what I got from this post. I don't care how "horrified" my partner looked after they attempted to shoot me there is no way I'd be able to trust them ever again.
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Mark Fuller 2 years ago
Thank God no-one ended up D_E_A_D as a result of M_U_R_D_E_R. It's awful when people get unalived!! WTAF?
Tucker Cahooter 2 years ago
I'm loving this ridiculous euphemism! Would be great for retitling movies. "Faster, Pussycat! [Unalive]! [Unalive]!"
Powerful Katrinka 2 years ago
I love your comment so much, I snorted with laughter. Now my sinuses hurt.
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Graham Chapman (He/He) 2 years ago
what the hell is "unalive"???? don't you mean Kill?? is kill a naughty word now? How about death, will that be censored in future? .... bloody worlds gone mad.....
Jane Hower 2 years ago
Guess I'm too old for this NEW language - what the F..K with "UNLIVED". Wow, how stupid. (now I'll get another 'minus' on my postings score, right?? HA
Jacob B. 2 years ago
I wonder how much gun violence/deaths are the result of heated spousal arguments here in the USA. In a fit of rage pull the trigger and then realize what horrible thing they did. One life gone, another (and others ruined forever). Sometimes people don't know when to just walk away before it gets that far. But the NRA wants you to have a gun in every drawer so this is kind of stuff happens more often.
Ken Beattie 2 years ago
Don't need to blame the NRA. But it is a good point. I think there is something desperately wrong though if someone's go to is getting a gun. I mean that's literally the final act, did they skip, arguing, yelling, throwing plates, slapping each other and just straight to "I'm gonna shoot you"? And of those interim steps should be enough to realise there are problems and a solution is required (therapy, breaking up).
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#15
My dad had a sister only few people knew about. She was born with a brain defect. My grandparents kept her in the apartment for all her life because they were ashamed.
T'Mar of Vulcan 2 years ago
My dad had friends who had a daughter with the mental capacity of maybe a 12 month old. They refused to put her in an institution and looked after her at home. Fortunately she wasn't hard to take care of, as she was basically a baby in every way except size. Whenever we'd go over there, they'd encourage us to come say hi to her. And we did, leaning over her cot (crib) and talking to her. When she died we were all very sad.
Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago
At least they kept her home, instead of parking her in an institution, as people did way back in the day. Sadly.
Kelvin Scott 2 years ago
It was once normal to hide away the disabled, Queen Elizabeth had two cousins who were hidden away , and one of the Kennedy sister was hidden away.
Christina Watson 2 years ago
My dad was a painter and found a disabled child living in a small, hidden room in the basement. Like a prison. He told authorities and the child was removed. What is wrong with some people?
Kelvin Scott 2 years ago
Some mentally disabled people dont want to leave the safety of their home, ever.
The Redhead 2 years ago
It's terrible I agree, but at the same time they kept her instead of sending her to an institution.
#16
My (former) best friend cheated on his wife, multiple times. I found out because he tried getting me to cheat on my wife, who he was the best man at for our wedding. Completely f****d.
Take me to dinner first 2 years ago
Hey dude, I tried cheating on my wife last week, it was awesome, do you wanna give it a go?
Boopsie 2 years ago
I once dated a guy that he and his friend tried to convince me that I shouldn't get upset if BF wanted to casually see other women. That didn't last long
Ken Beattie 2 years ago
Well if they're open about it and up front it's not the same thing as cheating. But it's a pretty good sign that he'd be willing to cheat even if you disagreed. So good for you.
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I've publicly called out two men/friends of mine in regard to their cheating. Very satisfying. Fast forward. One had a record store, but I'm quite certain it is no longer although probably unrelated to the cheating. The other, I heard that he and his dog roommate as well are/were in jail although also probably unrelated to the cheating.
Elio 2 years ago
Validation. "If my friend is cheating too it's ok." Cheating doesn't necessarily have to be involved, but sometimes people unhappy in their marriage/relationship like to have friends that are happy in their marriage/relationship.
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D. Pitbull 2 years ago
Might be that the ex-bestie thought OP totally knew about the former's serial cheating - and thus thought "Well, my friend is obviously okay with this kind of thing, or else he wouldn't be my friend" - thus... yeah, it really does matter if your friends are jackholes to other people.
tabithapaquette98 2 years ago
Dude, he made it his business. Please use your brain
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He shot his friend in the foot on purpose.
They were teens and playing with a gun while drunk (stupid I know). And he accidentally shot his friend in the foot. Except it wasn’t an accident. He admitted to it being on purpose later.
Edit: no this isn’t the event that happened in your small American town and we don’t know each other.
I’m not even an American and guns are like super illegal here. I have no idea how he acquired it. He could probably go to jail just on the merit of that alone.
And from us Europeans; are you guys ok? This isn’t a normal thing and you guys shouldn’t relate to it.
Paul Pienkowski 2 years ago
Hey, you know Americans aren't okay. My buddy got super stoned and shot himself in the hand. Somehow. He lost a finger. It was funny. And I once set off a bottle rocket in the wrong direction and almost exploded my face. We are not okay.
Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago
Actually, it’s of us are OK, because we don’t indulge in such dangerous pastimes. Don’t go giving people the wrong impression, just because you lack basic critical thinking skills.
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Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 2 years ago
It's only June and we've already had over 200 mass shootings in 2023. No we most assuredly are not OK.
Wise Turtle 2 years ago (edited)
Having ONE mass shooting is an issue. Two hundred is astronomically f****d up. On top of all that, a 2021 survey said that 53% (a close majority) of Americans want gun control and stricter gun laws but won’t get it because of corruption
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Moezzzz 2 years ago
Yep. American here. We're not okay. Most of us despise what's going on. Every day there's a new mass shooting and it's gotten to the point that it's just expected. I want to leave so badly but I have 2 sons here. And my husbands family is from Mexico (yes, they're legal. He and his dad are Army veterans and at least 4 nephews and nieces are military), so they all think America is better than Mexico. But one of my step brothers live in New Zealand and he loves it there. Might need to go look him up
Moezzzz 2 years ago
Oh, and the reason most of us carry guns? Because we're always being shot at. Or robbed. You literally cannot afford to NOT be able to defend yourself, even with the threat of lawsuits and jail time. We're all tired of the useless laws or lack thereof. At the moment, we're seeing tons of brazen shoplifting because they know that even if they get arrested, they won't have to post bail; they just get let out after processing. It's ridiculous and we're tired
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Wintermute 2 years ago (edited)
Oh yeah, I can see why people are confused. This is pretty typical America. I know 4 people who have been shot accidentally - from a slight graze up to death. The one that shot himself in the foot was during a hunting trip and he was acting the fool with his own gun. We made him walk his a*s a mile back to the car with a hole in his foot for being a dummy. Still dumb tho... and still armed, so yeah. Murica.
Crescent 3 2 years ago
As I was reading this I was thinking, "What's the big deal? These things happen all the time here." Then I saw that OP lives in Europe and it made sense. It's both amazing and sad how normalized gun incidents are here in the US.
Mojavedog 2 years ago
Stupid is as stupid does. It’s a global issue, not exclusive of any one country.
LazyStream 2 years ago
Yeah but it is a hell of a lot harder to do this when there isn't many guns and generally if someone has a gun, it's kept in a safe. As an Australian, I know many people who have guns, and every single one of them keeps them locked, ammo elsewhere, only takes them out when hunting (or on farms when needed). I don't know a single person who has a gun for protection
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Sara Wilson 2 years ago
HAHA! The edit is the best part of the story. It really is common. My stepdad still has a bullet in his leg from where he accidentally shot himself with a friend playing with a gun. They were too scared to tell his parents, so it's just still there. Never bothered him
Kay Christensen 1 year ago
Most common epitaph on tombstones in the American South: "WATCH THIS!". 🤣🤣🤣
Blondieybat 2 years ago
Even in Ameica shooting your friend accidentally on purpose is not good. Not all Americans are cowboys with an arsenal. That would result in prison time here too.
"My early studies had people think about significant secrets and then they made judgments that we know vary with actually being burdened, physically encumbered. So when we're burdened for any reason - we're tired, we're out of shape; a distance might look farther, a hill might look steep because it actually requires more effort on your behalf," he explained.
And sure enough, when individuals contemplated their own secrets, Slepian and his team discovered that their circumstances became more arduous to navigate. In a sense, their secrets were indeed exerting a weight upon them at that specific moment, making their interactions and experiences more challenging.
#18
That my ostensibly pious and God-fearing married Mormon dad was siphoning off shared savings/retirement money to bankroll strip clubs, "massage" parlors and visits to SW street corners for longer than my entire life. Had I not personally caught him red-handed, I would never have believed it. My gob is still smacked. 😅
Nikki Sevven 2 years ago
Hypocrisy instantly and automatically makes my blood boil. Bigotry too.
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SkyBlueandBlack 2 years ago
Isn't that pretty much par for the course for super religious types, though?
Krd 2 years ago
Especially Mormons... Heck, they're main thing is like Polygamy!! Why go to massage parlor, just get a 2nd or 3rd wife!!!!
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Let anyone on those investments know. They’ll deal with him. Well, their lawyers will. Warn them to either freeze, change their passwords for, the accounts before their lawyers serve him with papers, or he might totally drain them before his court appearance.
CHRISTY SMITH 2 years ago (edited)
When they’re god fearing judgmental a******s it’s a safe bet they’re gay (if they run around condemning homosexuals or cause bodily harm in the name of their made up god), have child porn or molest their kids. The more they push their god fearing b******t, the worst they are on committing ‘sins’. Religion seems like a front to f**k little kids in A LOT of religions. - that magic wizard s**t annoys the s**t out of me, f*****g hypocrites to their very core.
Trish Christoffersen 2 years ago
Sorry to say, but Mormons are some of the biggest hypocrites I've ever met in my life. When I was living there, dating off websites, I met more married, Mormon men than nice single guys. They just wanted a quickie without letting their wives know. Sad.
#19
I was pretty close with my youngest uncle growing up, at least in pictures (he was in his mid 20s when I was like 5 for context). One day when I was in middle school he just stopped coming around completely. My entire family told us kids that he was backpacking around the nation. In high school I was going a genealogy project on my grandfather (his dad) and accidentally found my uncles name on the [criminal] offender registry. Come to find out he was running a CP ring and had served 16 years in federal prison. He’s out now and my family pretends nothing happened. I stay far away.
Lollipop Girl 2 years ago (edited)
Sex offender. The term used by OP is "sex offender", not [criminal]
PeepPeep the duck 2 years ago (edited)
Yeah I can forgive most criminals, but not sex offenders of any level hey
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Cory Tollman 2 years ago
There's the people with mental issues who can't control themselves who probably deserve some chance to fix themselves, and then there's the d******d who decides to facilitate abusing and traumatizing children.
Ivy la Sangrienta 2 years ago
My uncle was 16 when I was born. He's still childish, lol, was great fun growing up. Luckily he's not a pervert.
DrLivingstonipresume 2 years ago
They should be in federal prison for life. There is no hope for sub-human trash and they have lost every right under the Sun including the right to life, happiness, comfort, peace, and freedom. Seriously. They should all be strung up and hung in the public scare so that the rest of society can see that their lives are worthless and meaningless. Not all life is a gift; not all life is precious
Z 2 years ago
He went to prison for child porn and the family just continues to associate with him???
CC Boom 2 years ago
Sadly a lot of families refuse to admit the truth. Often several know about it but say nothing to keep their reputation. Sick on all levels. He should be shot.
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Big Chungus 2 years ago
I found this out of a cousin of mine on my dad's side (that side tends to ignore my family completely like we don't exist including my dad) and they act like nothing happened. We found him on the arrest records when looking up potential family on his side to come to my wedding. Spoiler alert...none of them rsvp'd either lol
#20
He was not *that* close, but he was a friend and our veterinarian, until he lost his license for doing all the ketamine that was supposed to be for the animals.
Chewie Baron 2 years ago
The suicide rate for vets is obscenely high. Tbh, I really don’t blame the vet needing to unload.
Spocks's Mom 2 years ago
You are right about the suicide rate, but I just can't be okay with this no matter what. We had a couple of people steal the ketamine and whatnot from work. One was a doctor that just took the ketamine and claimed they were neutering neighborhood cats with it. They were fired considering they took enough ketamine for the whole county (exaggeration, but was still obvious what they were doing). But I am pretty sure they took other injectables and replaced the medication with water. Another person took injectables and replaced it with water as well. We found out fairly quickly in both situations (happened years apart). DO YOU KNOW HOW IT FEELS WHEN YOU ARE TRYING TO HELP ANIMALS AND YOU FIND OUT THAT INSTEAD OF HELPING THEM WITH PAIN, YOU ARE INJECTING THEM WITH F*****G WATER? I am happy that you feel sympathy for veterinarians. I am with you on that. I see the mental, physical, and financial troubles they go through. However, to take medication from animals that need it is too much.
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DrLivingstonipresume 2 years ago
To everyone. ketamine is. HIGHLY successful treatment for depression and PTSD. Far, far, far more successful than any SSRI or MAOI inhibitor. It saves lives and for many, it is a cure. Seriously. If you are struggling with treatment-resistant depression or are struggling with süicidal thoughts, please find a physician that provides ketamine infusions and run there. It saves lives
Turns out, trying to keep the beans from spilling isn't what takes a great toll on our minds but thinking about them when you're on your own. "The largest harm is the more you think about your secrets outside of conversations, the more your secrets hurt you. Essentially all the harm seems to be based on thinking about a secret on your own time. And very, very little of the harm seems to come from having to conceal a secret in a social interaction," Slepian said, noting that statistically, questions about the thing you're keeping as a secret don't come up as often as we'd like to think.
#21
Graduated boot camp and wondered why my brother wouldn’t talk to me, turns out he was f*****g my ex while I was there instead of delivering my letters. Guess guilt ate him up and he thought it was simpler to keep up the lie and not have a brother, right up until an old friend from my home town told me what happened.
Cory Tollman 2 years ago
The worst case I encountered was during Desert Shield/Storm. While we were deployed the guy's wife sold his car and all of his stuff. Moved into an apartment with some other guy and ran up lots of credit card debt. It was so bad that he was sent back to the states to deal with the issues after the major fighting was done but the ship was still deployed.
Alex Kincaid 2 years ago
Jodi is tending to your little Suzy Rottencrotch while your in far away lands...
Haywood Jablome 2 years ago
The US Army is pretty open about that these days. They've had recruitment/ad photos of white couples with mixed babies
#22
My grandfather is a ghost on paper. We always grew up knowing he had skeletons in his closet but I wasn't prepared for what he had done in his younger years. I started hearing rumours as a teen that he had been a pretty big time robber, his speciality was cracking the safes. But he would never admit it. In 2016 he randomly told me he also used to deal guns to the IRA like he was talking about the weather it was bizarre. He also told me he helped a couple of triads hide out in Jamaica after they went on the run for beheading an adversary. They were fairly nice guys according to him. It was only about 10 years ago he finally stopped sleeping with guns stashed under his bed and taking shady phone calls down the bottom of the garden. Only my grandmother knows his real name no one else in the family does. I adore him but he is an enigma to me
Isa's left eye 2 years ago
At first I thought it was just common family knowledge that grandpa's closet was literally filled with skeletons and was very concerned, then I remembered it's a phrase.
Hilary Mol 2 years ago
The actual skeletons are probably buried deep in the root cellar.
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Celeste Grant 2 years ago
I hope people outside of the UK and R of I realise how many people died, were tortured or maimed by the IRA. It was and remains a terrorist organisation. The Troubles were a very dark time in our history.
Jared Robinson 2 years ago
lol I don't buy this and if it's true you grandpa has contributed to the deaths of thousands and you still adore him. Sounds like a family of monsters.
#23
My brother was stealing money from father who had dementia. This went on for a year and the I found out about it was because the bank who had my father's mortgage called me wondering why it hadn't been paid in six months. My father's bank account went into the negative around this time too and when I confronted my brother about it he said "Well, I gotta pay MY bills." I was about to take control of all the accounts and make sure shot got back on track but my father ended up in the hospital and died shortly after that. My brother also stole some of my inheritance too.
In the end, he stole over $5000 from his dying father.
Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago
Hope the family has made him persona non grata for stealing from his own father.
actaeon cross 2 years ago
It looks like the OP at least cut ties with him. The brother is apparently living with another family member that is just the same (can't be trusted to pay rent) and OP is waiting for the other shoe to drop
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Spocks's Mom 2 years ago
5k isn't a small amount by any means. I am really surprised he didn't get away with more.
HelluvaHedgehogAlien 2 years ago (edited)
If he can do that, he doesn’t have and will not have guilt. Maybe it’s just better for op to report him for stealing
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According to Slepian, there's a powerful way to lighten the load of carrying secrets: spill the beans to someone you trust. "Talk to someone else, anyone besides the person or people you're keeping it from. What's helpful about confiding a secret in another person is not that it reduces how often you have to hide that secret because you still might be hiding it from other people," he explained. But how sharing that juicy secret of yours with someone else helps to reduce how much it weighs you down in the end, making the pressure of secret-bearing a tad healthier in the end. Grab a drink, find a cozy spot, and prepare to unload those juicy secrets. Your mind will thank you.
#24
Found a scrapbook of my mom and a guy I didn’t recognize from her immediately post-college days. Turns out he was a long term boyfriend of hers who offed himself when she broke up with him. My grandfather found his body. I learned at age 20, by finding the book/shrine to him.
sneeze 2 years ago
i think that was from the original post, when bp (or any publishing group) edits a part of a post or quote, they have to put it in brackets, so for bp to have switched it it wouldve said "he [offed] himself" but it didnt have that so it was from the original post
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#25
I just found out my aunt and uncle slept together a few years ago. And somehow my dad is the bad guy for cutting them both off
Edit: For context, they were brother and sister. Not a non-blood related married couple
Monday 2 years ago
Bro and sis do the naughties together, second bro decides "f**k that I don't want to know them". Second bro is somehow seen as the bad guy.
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tabithapaquette98 2 years ago
Exactly. Just ewwwww! I have a brother. No way in f*****g hell! Gross 🤢
Load More Replies... Captain Awesome 2 years ago
So, they followed the 'incest is best, put your sister to the test ' mantra?
Edward Dwyer 2 years ago
Sleeping together is harmless when you're family. Having sex on the other hand...
Miss Scarlet 2 years ago
Totally correct, Nikki. Our revulsion toward incest is just social conditioning. The only moral issue is the possibility of reproducing. (And defiance of most religious beliefs, I suppose, but that's only relevant if you have those beliefs.) If precautions are taken, then it's just socially awkward because of how we've been taught to see it as disgusting. I'd never be able to have those feelings for a sibling, but I wouldn't judge someone who did unless they purposely had kids.
#26
Met a super nice guy at a networking event when I just starting out in tech. He had a ton of connections and was a nice family man. Super rich. Eventually we became friends and he was acting as a mentor figure to me in the industry. Went over to his massive new house, met his family, etc. He had the demeanor and looked like Al Borland from Home Improvement, to give you an idea.
Like 4 years later I was looking at the sex offender registry map for my local area while I was shopping for houses. Lo and behold, his house popped up. In the early 2000s he was convicted of co-running a commercial CP sales site. Served 5 years for it in federal prison.
Tucker Cahooter 2 years ago
Whoa! S-E-X slipped past the censor. Quick, bring the smelling salts!
Tamra 2 years ago
Am I wrong to think that serving a five year sentence for peddling child pornography just isn't enough? JFC.
Nay Wilson 2 years ago
There is nothing I hate more than men who prey on children 😡 perverts!! He should have been given a life sentence!
JalaPeno 2 years ago
Why WHY do pedophiles get such measly sentences?!?! They are ruining lives!
Ken Beattie 2 years ago
They don't. It's usually a lot longer. I doubt the truth of this story.
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DrLivingstonipresume 2 years ago
Once again, another pointless life that should be thrown in prison for life. No hope for the worthleas
Crazy Cookie 2 years ago
Gotta love the random home improvement reference but man that’s gotta be shocking
#27
I found out that the reason why one of my uncles didn't want to go back to Korea when he retired was that he couldn't - he was fearful for political reprisals if he tried to return.
Turned out his brother was part of the group that [unalived] the S. Korean president back in 1979 and his own innocence was never proven so he was in fear of getting arrested if he ever tried to go back.
Monday 2 years ago
Assassinated BP. The term is assassinated. It's not a dirty word, it's a verb.
Robert T 2 years ago
Well it does contain ate and two asses. Which is about the standard for the BP censor algorithm.
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#28
My dear ol' Mom started visiting a casino after my Dad died and ran up 850K in debt.
Nay Wilson 2 years ago
Woah 😳 that… is a lot of debt. It makes me feel better about my credit card debt of £3600.
#29
My best friend confessed to me that he has a child as a result of a long distance affair in another country. He has three kids in the US and is in a toxic marriage. His wife doesn't know
Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago
I could make a joke about LONG distance, but I shall refrain, as I believe others thought of the same joke.
#30
A friend of a friend got fired and has a lawsuit filed against her for abusing an elderly woman as a nurse. Shocked me! I mean I don’t envy having to deal with patients but still. Can’t strike them
#31
A work colleague appeared on the front page of a national newspaper for a life of fraudulent qualifications. He claimed medical and law degrees, was a brigadier in the army (reserves) and was the CEO for a major heath fund. He actually was a Brigadier in the army reserves but that and the heath fund role were largely built on the fraudulent qualifications and a progression of jobs also based on this claims. In reality, the only qualification he actually held was as a mortuary assistant. Not even his wife knew. The fraudulent degrees had been gained when he was in the army reserves recruiting and he had access to submitted position applications. He came undone when he applied for a government job and some flags were raised by the recruitment people. He tried to withdraw the application but didn’t realise that an application for a government role has the same weight as a statutory declaration and cannot be withdrawn. It all went south very quickly and he ended up doing jail time.
#32
My vile aunt destroyed her third husband’s will so she inherited everything and his children got nothing. Same aunt intercepted gifts/cards sent to my cousins by their father after divorce. She presented gifts as from her. Told kids their father forgot them, didn’t care. First husband (cousins’ father) divorced her because he came home and found a neighbor man wearing his robe and sitting in his chair. Edit: naked neighbor man, wearing his robe.
Seabeast 2 years ago
There should have been a copy of the will at a lawyer's office, shouldn't there?
Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago (edited)
Sisters, if your man tries to tell you you’re difficult to live with, just have him read this. The rest of us are angels in comparison to this scheming abusive harpy. Tell them to go look her up if they want to know what a REAL nightmare to live with is.
The Alchemist 2 years ago
You're right, any sort of abuse and trauma is acceptable as long as someone else has it worse.
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Friends dad had Uranium in the basement. This was a house we had all been in. No one knew until some Feds showed up to confiscate it. This was shortly after 9/11. He was able to buy it online somehow…not sure if it was a dark web purchase but I assume so.
Surralvampi 2 years ago
Totally misread that as Ukrainian and when I got to the end, I re read it. made waaay more sense then.
Michael Largey 2 years ago
All the people who bought uranium from this source gave glowing reviews.
David Paterson 2 years ago
Really worried about the Feds showing up to confiscate it. They shouldn't have done that. Well, not unless they also confiscate all the granite countertops in the USA that contain uranium.
What do you think ?
PetPotato 2 years ago
My grandfather lived his whole life thinking he was an only child, after he died we found out he had four half-siblings... From what we can piece together from old documents and such, his mother had four children before him, the first when she was just a teen, and since she was an unmarried woman and none of the fathers wanted to take responsibility she was deemed "unfit to be a mother" and all four children were taken from her shortly after their births.
James S 2 years ago
My mum always claimed she knew Rod Stewart in the 1960s. When my mum died last year my sister wrote to Rod's agent to tell him, expecting in return. We were absolutely staggered and shocked to receive a hand written note from him expressing his sympathy to us,.confirming they were "close friends"
Freya the Wanderer 2 years ago
Awrite, BP - what's with truncating threads at 30 entries? And censoring "päwn"? Or refusing to use words like "kill(ed)," "assassinate," "dead"? What's with "unalive" anyway?
Matthew Thompson 2 years ago
It would be really nice to fix the formatting errors that cause story entries to be cut off halfway through. Pointless reading to end mid-sentence.
Wysteria_Rose 2 years ago
Finding out that a family member had a child out of wedlock in their college years and their parents sent them away to a "home for unwed, pregnant women" until the baby was born and given up for adoption. We very much never discuss it; only found out by chance a few years ago. It's chilling to have a family member we've never met and just act like nothing's wrong.
Stardust she/her 2 years ago
I’m not the only one who can see a post directly below this one right? It’s a hassle to scroll to the bottom without jumping down several posts and scrolling back up to find the original post
CC Boom 2 years ago
My great aunt gave up her child at birth bc her boyfriend was black and my family on that side is incredibly racist. We were matched on 23&me which is the only reason I know. My mom couldn't figure out which of her aunts did it but it's sad either way. It was the 60s according to his age.
PetPotato 2 years ago
My grandfather lived his whole life thinking he was an only child, after he died we found out he had four half-siblings... From what we can piece together from old documents and such, his mother had four children before him, the first when she was just a teen, and since she was an unmarried woman and none of the fathers wanted to take responsibility she was deemed "unfit to be a mother" and all four children were taken from her shortly after their births.
James S 2 years ago
My mum always claimed she knew Rod Stewart in the 1960s. When my mum died last year my sister wrote to Rod's agent to tell him, expecting in return. We were absolutely staggered and shocked to receive a hand written note from him expressing his sympathy to us,.confirming they were "close friends"
Freya the Wanderer 2 years ago
Awrite, BP - what's with truncating threads at 30 entries? And censoring "päwn"? Or refusing to use words like "kill(ed)," "assassinate," "dead"? What's with "unalive" anyway?
Matthew Thompson 2 years ago
It would be really nice to fix the formatting errors that cause story entries to be cut off halfway through. Pointless reading to end mid-sentence.
Wysteria_Rose 2 years ago
Finding out that a family member had a child out of wedlock in their college years and their parents sent them away to a "home for unwed, pregnant women" until the baby was born and given up for adoption. We very much never discuss it; only found out by chance a few years ago. It's chilling to have a family member we've never met and just act like nothing's wrong.
Stardust she/her 2 years ago
I’m not the only one who can see a post directly below this one right? It’s a hassle to scroll to the bottom without jumping down several posts and scrolling back up to find the original post
CC Boom 2 years ago
My great aunt gave up her child at birth bc her boyfriend was black and my family on that side is incredibly racist. We were matched on 23&me which is the only reason I know. My mom couldn't figure out which of her aunts did it but it's sad either way. It was the 60s according to his age.
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