“That Was 17 Years Ago And I Still Don’t Answer Their Calls”: 30 Heartbreaking Things Committed By Close Friends That Broke People’s Trust Forever
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Friendship is one of the most beautiful things in life. There’s something comforting about having a buddy you care for with all your heart, who stays by your side through thick and thin. That’s also what makes ending a friendship so heartbreaking; but the actions of some people leave their friends with no other option than to cut all ties.
This topic was discussed by the ‘Ask Reddit’ community members after the user Titansentinal asked what’s something a close friend has done that instantly made the redditors hate them. The answers covered all kinds of unfortunate situations, from infidelity to betrayals, even physical violence, which burned all the bridges between the former friends.
Bored Panda has reached out to the redditor that started the thread. They were kind enough to provide some comments on the topic, which you will find below.
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After being best friends from age 7 to our mid 20s I had to ghost this chick and our entire friend group, because she was trying to convince my husband to cheat on me with her. There had been several smaller things leading up to this, like telling me my husband was too attractive for me and would be better with her, but it blew my mind when he showed me the texts she sent, topless and telling him I'd never have to know. I ghosted her, then our friends started saying I should just forgive her, that I was choosing "some guy" over our 17yr friendship and that by not talking to her *I* was causing tension in our circle of friends, making them choose sides amongst themselves. So I said I didn't want to cause tension and I resolved the issue by removing myself from the entire circle of friends, they can have her. That was 17yrs ago and I still dont answer their calls and know I made the right decision. My husband and I would have celebrated our 20th last month (he died 5yrs ago tho)
She Told my rapist I was going to the police station because she thought he had the right to know
The Survey Center on American Life revealed that the majority of people in the US (49%) have three or fewer close friends, 36% of them state they have between four and nine. But no matter how many close friends you have, losing one is never easy.
The redditor u/Titansentinal opened up to Bored Panda that they’ve had to cut ties with an old buddy as well. “My old friend was being a real [jerk] to one of my other friends so I ended our friendship,” they said.
And while there is no such thing as a recipe for the perfect companion, the OP added that “a friend should be able to joke around and not get offended about said jokes, a friend should also be able to hold a conversation, along with being just a cool person.”
Lied about being raped by my best friend. I don't know why she did it but she destroyed his entire life with that one lie. He lost his friends, got banned in all clubs in our village, lost his job etc. because who would support a supposed rapist? Poor guy killed himself two months later.
And before the question pops up why I know he was innocent. He was with me at that time it happened. About 643km(400miles) away.
He made a groupchat just for bullying people and invited me into it. I proceeded to watch this thing for a day and then decided to screenshot everything and give it as evidence to the victims. There was no talking to my friend about it anymore, believe me the shit that went down in that chat was that bad. It wasn't even just bullying but also stuff like doxxing. He threatened me but eventually knew he should shut up because he was already on thin fucking ice. Never will I just stay silent when I see bullying happen
I've done the same; I stand up to bullies -it's innate and kneejerk at this point. I was not "popular" in school, but I made sure I was left alone. I didn't WANT the burden of popularity; it meant working at an image that pleased everyone. To me that was shallow and meaningless. There was too much happening at home that I had to hold myself above; then there was school, plus I was an introvert. So if I didn't please everyone, f**k them. But I would fight to keep my dignity and have peace.
My best friend cheated on his wife. We were all great friends. I was the best man at their wedding. But when it happened, it sickened me and made me see all the other ways he was manipulating us all. My wife and I are still good friends with the one who was cheated on. I haven’t spoken to him in almost 15 years.
A couple friends ghosted me when I needed them most.
I was devastated when my husband of 27 years walked out & I became depressed. Before this I was always a “Life of the party” type who organized most of the fun outings.
Once I was longer a constant source of entertainment for them, they started avoiding me. I admit I wasn’t as much fun to be around, but damn! I’d walked both of them through divorces, their family members severe illnesses (and subsequent deaths), and much more.
Fair weather friends- best to fly away from them as well.
Actual friends will stick with you when you can't be fun. Life is never a constant party, not for anyone.
Had a friend through high school and beginning of college. Went to a small college with him. First day of class, we sit down, and theres ~20 people in the room.
Everyone is around the same age, exept for one woman, who was about 60 and finally finishing her degree when she could afford it (we found out later).
My friend turns to me and, in a relativly loud voice, says "why is she even here, she going to die soon anyways."
Immediantly yelled at him and sat on the other side of the room, never spoke to him again. The anger I felt when he said that, holy c**p you guys.
I went to uni with a couple of really amazing older people, one of them was a retired doctor who just always wanted to do Archaeology. He was really nice, really knew his ales and was so passionate about Roman Britain. As Granda Joe would say in terms of the plonker who made the comment : "who put 50p in the edjit?"
Drove 17 hours to have sex with my fiance & mother of my child while I was in the hospital for a brain injury.
They got engaged and he stole my family from me.
6 years later to this very day they ignore me and I barely see my daughter.
She loves me though and I know she will want to see me when she has a choice.
Edit: I just wanted to say thank-you to the mass amount of positivity. This has truly helped me with how I look at the situation... I started becoming desensitized to it all and accepting heart break..
I want everyone to know the one positive silver lining that came from this, and that's me getting to work in Film as an Actor and follow my dreams..
I have been doing small roles and playing small characters for a couple years now and will continue working hard and believing in myself and in my daughter. I am staying positive....but trust me
I went through some extremely dark times and I'm lucky to be alive.
She abandoned her dog when she moved to a different continent. I liked her, perhaps more than liked, even. But that was the fastest 180 I've ever done in terms of emotional attachment to someone
Facilitated a mutual friend and my girlfriend at the time having a full blown affair behind my back.
Dude would invite me to lunch/dinner/movies/concerts/etc so that I’d be guaranteed to have plans so my girlfriend and the other dude could go on dates without worrying about getting caught.
Dude was my best friend for a decade and an ‘uncle’ to my daughter. Instantly hated him, haven’t spoken to him now in a longer amount of time than I knew him.
She was secretly taking pictures of me in my swimwear and using them to send to guys for money and pretending to me. Apparently she did this for a couple of years, I found out when I was grocery shopping and a random guy told me that he liked my pictures and wanted to hang out. I told him I never sent him pictures because I don't share pictures of myself on the internet, and asked him who was sending them. Apparently she was using a fake number, took me a week after to figure out she was doing it.
Through sheer incompetence burned our home to the ground...lost our entire lifetime of collections, memorabilia and keepsakes. Everything we had hoped to pass onto children and grandchildren. It's been absolutly brutal going into out twilight years homeless...I worked too dam hard for too long to end up like this.
Stabbed me in the back... not metaphorically... literally...
Holy s**t... I hope you're okay and your psychopathic "friend" is in jail right now.
Asked for advice how to get away with cheating on their husband....b***h, you don't. You get divorced and move on.
i talked to her because she was new and people picked on her, we actually became really good friends really fast, she was secretly telling lies about me to my other friends to try and get them to hate me/pick her over me. other friends didn’t believe her and told me about it, i confronted her, she flipped out and proceeded to go to the principle and told him i was bullying her/said all this rancid s**t to her (i didn’t). proceeded to try and get me expelled, but luckily i’ve been going to school there for a few years and had a few of the teachers/other students vouch for me. i didn’t talk to her again after that. f*****g a*****e.
Yep. It's happened that I took someone under my wing and because I wasn't part of the "crowd"; she chose the crowd over me. Not my loss, hers. But -- it's taught me not to automatically "trust" someone just because they're a victim. I may stand up for you on principle, doesn't mean we're going to be buddies.
He doesn't know how I like my coffee. It's simple, I like my coffee, exactly the same way how I liked my wife, without his d**k in it.
Kept making up stories about herself. They were all somewhat believable in themselves (got pickpocketed at the mall, had a rude encounter with a clerk, tiny stuff like that) but weird s**t just kept happening to her like she was in a sketch comedy which made me very suspicious in the long run.
Then in the end she refused to come to a concert with me and then broke into a long song and dance for it:
They were crossing a busy boulevard and all of a sudden a guy high on weed rammed into them. Her friend bravely pushed her out of the way but got the full hit. With Godlike reflexes, she managed to take a clear picture of this guy's plates (in like 2006. might have been a flip phone) before heroically carrying her friend to the hospital nearby in her arms. The girl had to have one of her lungs removed and the nurses were too busy to care for her friend to like feed her and bathe her so she HAD to stay in the hospital with her.
B***h please. If you don't wanna come to a concert with me, just f*****g say so. Pathological liars are the f*****g worst.
Helped her get a well paid job at the massive corporate I work at. She then made a group chat of all of our mutual friends and would send photos of me in the office to laugh at my posture/physical attributes etc. I only found out because she messaged the wrong group chat.
Need to contact HR and check policies regarding sharing of workers photos on social media. Might have violated something.
Alot, but one time i asked if we were going to the carnival together with my other friends and she said “no, we are all too busy.” I went by myself with my mom. While there I saw her with my friend group. When she saw me she whispered to the others and they all tried to hide. I walked up and said hi and asked why they were there. Got s**t about it being a last minute thing. She would always do this; leave me out and ostracize me from my other friends
Once when I was in high school my "friends" asked me to go to the mall with them to see a movie. They didn't know that I had overheard them just before talking about how they have to invite me so that my mom would take us, because none of their parents could.
There's no beating around the bush, I was the ugly friend in my college group. The one guy who was my "closest friend" would crop me out of photos he posted of us on social media. That hurt. That was just the top of the iceberg with him
You're not ugly; I can guarantee that. You're comparing yourself to -- and surrounded by -- the wrong people. Everyone, everyone has some kind of beauty.
Had a close friend who had wealthy parents. He knew mine was financially struggling
Everytime we had a disagreement abour something, he would start saying things like, "At least my family is not f*cking poor" as well as insults about not being able to afford certain things.
Was in high school but it still hurts me to this day when i think about it.
I got my first bf and she was weirdly angry about it because she was the pretty one and i was weird and quiet.
She told our mutual friends that she was going to go out to a party and seduce him and have sex with him just to hurt me.
The fact that she said she just wanted to hurt me made me lose all the love i had for her.
I later attempted to mend the bridge and attempted friendship again, didn’t last long. My prom date and her disappeared for several hours on prom night. Guess she achieved her goal.
For several years I was very close friends with this girl. One morning we were having drinks and one of my guy friends told us all that this girl had invited my ex over and slept with him the night before. She sat there defiantly and told me she did it out of revenge. Because two years ago she liked a guy and he ended up going for me.🤦🏻♀️
Drugged me at a rave (without my consent) and left me to die in a parking lot while he stole my laptop, some of my parents’ jewelry, and money from my home.
In his defense, crack is expensive.
Edit: To rephrase: A crack *habit* is expensive.
He lovingly placed a baby in my wife while I was working.
Wanted me to stand in his wedding with a dude that assaulted my wife.
I had a friend who grew up from modest means. He was a real nice kid and he worked real hard to make something of himself. He succeeded, got a dream job that made tons of money, and became a complete a*****e in the process. He started acting like he was better than everyone now that he was “rolling” in the dough, to the point where he was rude almost all the time. He could turn any conversation into how he was so rich and everyone else what a poor f*ck.
I remember a friend of mine really liked a dining set that would go with her diner, so her husband got them for her for her birthday present. The first thing that came out of this guys mouth was “why’d you get these because they’re cheap as f*ck”
Long story short I helped her out when she got out of jail with somewhere to stay only if she promised to help with rent. 3 months later the police came and arrested her only to find out she was using me to keep her baby’s dad from seeing the child after the court gave them split custody
Edit 1: when she reached out to me about needing a place to stay I didn’t know they had a custody battle going previously but I knew they had drama going on in the relationship. She was also the awful person in the relationships as she was always abusing OTC medication while staying with me and leaving the baby alone at the place when I would go to work so she would mess around with other guys (that’s when I called CPS)
Edit 2: The father was not at all the s****y person here, I could tell because when they arrested her he was happy he had his baby back and told me he’s been trying to get ahold of her but no response and gave me a teary hug
Edit 3: [here’s the article](https://imgur.com/a/yBfvubx)
I'm glad the father regained custody and I'm sorry you got caught in the middle
Buddy sent me nude photos of underage girls he was dating. Found out about the underage part a month after on my own and I never asked for the photos.
Shared his GFs nudes...
She was just really homophobic. And at that time I also started to question my sexuality. Well turns out I’m very gay and she did me a favor by not talking to me anymore (without any reason whatsoever) 😂
After that I realized she is just not a good person, probably never was 🤷♀️
You may end up seeing her one day on the other end of the queer aisle -- a lesbian, and just as gay as you are.
Kept suggesting we should exchange partners for a night because he really wanted to sleep with my wife. Even made advances at her when I wasn't around...
My bestie for 35 years. She has four kids who I love like they’re my own. One of her daughters is gay. Bestie does not like this fact. Bestie talked gay daughter’s bestie into seducing gay daughter’s wife. Marriage imploded; friendships imploded. I’m appalled. She intentionally hurt her daughter to make herself feel better. She feels justified showing gay daughter that her wife would cheat. I just can’t. I’m still close to her kids, tho. Someone had to help pick up the pieces
We were driving somewhere and he nonchalantly threw all of his trash out the window. All my life I wondered what kinda lazy a*****e actually does that and I saw it first hand.
Repeatedly cheated on her partner, then told me in detail about what was going on, but expected me to keep it a secret and lie for her. She promised me it’d stop after she told me, but it didn’t. Her daughter was 5yrs old at the time.
Did she get OFF on telling you and making you her (unwilling) accomplice?
When i started to talk to her again after having a period of almost zero contact with her due to my family problems, she never really gave me enough attention aur space to state the reasons for my problems clearly and completely.
One day my grandmother was diagnosed with cancer and my friend's response to this news was that I should shut up and stop trying to bore her with UN important information.
I read and re read our text and came to realise that I had stated my problems very clearly and she was the one who took me for granted. She had some how changed from what I originally knew about her.
I blocked and stopped communicating to her all together.
Turns out my grandmother's cancer were actually gallstones that had developed from a very long time.
I ended up keeping my grandmother closer to me and losing one woman who's loss actually made my life easier and mentally healthier
When I told my then best friend that my son died, her response was "MY son was arrested for DUI". F**K HER.
One charming fellow had alienated much of the friend group via his self-centered behavior, constant self-involvement, and superpower for avoiding any responsibility for his own actions. He was on a bit of a 'time out' with me -- you know, when you need to cool down before you can re-engage with someone.
Well, one day he decided that his friends hadn't adequately celebrated his birthday, so he let himself into my sister's house and stole a bunch of her stuff. As 'birthday presents'.
Aaaanyway, dead to me.
Laughed to me about how he was glad his roommates cat was dead because he hated it. Let me explain, the roommate didn't realize the cat had hopped into the washer and so he turned it on. As you can imagine when he went to take out his clothes he found the cat..erm not alive anymore.
He thought it was hilarious, and then said, and I quote "stupid thing always bugged me, f*ck that cat, got what he deserved. Can't believe it drowned, how funny! Now my dog will be happy." To be clear the cat was rarely aloud out of the room as it was a temp situation, which I found to not be fair because it literally did not bother the dog at all.
It was a bit too much phyco and lack of empathy for me to deal with.
A little too convenient for me...No one heard the cat yowling; no one heard the washer banging(which it does if the load gets unbalanced). No one looked into the washer BEFORE washing clothes? ODD. Too damned odd.
His dog got brutally attacked and he left it to suffer
She asked me to be her bridesmaid. During the bachelorette party, which was across the country at her family’s lake house, she had the biggest temper tantrum I’ve *ever* seen. She’s surrounded by all her friends, but having this horrible tantrum, insulting everyone, and when she decided it was my turn:
“You’re just my California friend.”
I don’t don’t travel much, but I didn’t take time off work and sit on a plane for hours to endure something like *this*.
She asked my forgiveness the next morning but wouldn’t own what she said to me. I asked her how she wanted me to forgive her if she couldn’t apologize?
I didn’t go to the wedding.
I wouldn't even have been around the next morning. CaliforniYAY, here I come!
Fell through their trampoline net with their sister (aka a hole was ripped) landed on my neck and I was paralyzed for 5mins and had severe bruising in my neck and all they were concerned about was their trampoline and how I ruined it. I was like 12, scared that I would have to buy them a new trampoline over an accident, and felt hurt and betrayed that she hadn't cared that I could have broken my neck.
I cut her off completely, my sister was still friends with her sister though. Im glad I moved away from being her friend because she was mean to other kids and I was picking that up. Now shes a frigid b***h who wishes her annorexic sister would die so she wouldn't be embarrassed by her.
“Wishes her annorrexic sister would die so she won’t be embarrassed by her” wtf!?
Dude, I actually have an interesting story, but I'm going to tell it in a super short way. My friend proposed to leave her husband and run away with me, because she thought I was into her. When I said no, that I only saw her as a friend, she went back to her husband (who was also my friend) and said that I had manipulated her. She said a lot of things. Then I lost both their friendship.
Dude, that's a classic Narcissist -- and a toxic relationship. Wait on your buddy...
She flew halfway across the world to get married, the same state, city where I live (where we both grew up). She even flew her small bridal party and family out for the occasion. She didn’t invite me. 17 years of friendship down the drain
Was a high school friend and I have since gained way more life perspective so it doesn't bother me anymore
I am an overly analytical type, kinda sorta always have been.
Had a close friend in high school who would repeatedly fabricate rumors about me and then would play the "nice guy" and let me know what he heard, etc.
It led to annoying moments where I then took extended periods of time or unnecessary head space for these rumors wondering if who I was genuinely rubbed people the wrong way and it made me slightly insecure about who I talk to and how I talk with people.
Eventually one of these rumors was about a family friend I saw a ton and it 100% didn't add up so I asked that friend and yeah... never happened. I then talked to other people he brought up and again yeah... same.
Never confronted him about it, just cut him tf out and moved on to preparing for college and doing my extracurriculars/after-school job. Later as I became a counsellor in college, basically realized that it was pretty much a textbook example of friendship narcissism.
Brilliant way of dealing with this. Just superbly analyzed and solved.
Not one friend but multiple, smashed my girlfriend all 5 of my friends while we dated, only found out because one of them had gotten her pregnant and she aborted it, I found the email on her phone.
I wasn’t allowed to hang out with other people without informing her but she was because “she is her own person and can do what she wants”
I caught my close friend reading my journal once and she didn't even apologise when I walked into the room. Never quite trusted her again after that.
After I had a miscarriage, she said that she wished she'd miscarried her baby
I'm a guy who was friends with a girl in highschool but we never started hanging out outside of school until the very end of it. A year or two later she was having a house party one night and out of nowhere starts yelling at another girl we were friends with and me about how she knew we were part of a conspiracy to break into her house and clean her carpets while she was out of the country visiting a former foreign exchange student and then she kicked us both out. That walk to my car was one of the most hurt and confused walks I ever had. Even her boyfriend said she went off the deep end that night.
ignored me completely until all of her other friends left. Then suddenly I was her BeSt fRiEnD again
Asked for a fairly substantial loan that she wanted me to keep secret from my husband. I don’t mind spotting someone $10 or $20 on occasion — but asking for an amount that was more than my entire monthly paycheck at the time and then asking me to keep that secret from my spouse was not acceptable.
Hmmm. It depends. Was she an abused spouse? Was your husband a friend to her husband? Context is everything. I'll belay judgement here.
He got a new girlfriend after a string of toxic ones that would try to isolate him from his friends. He ans his gf move to go to the army and I find out later hes blocked every girl in our friend group including me. I contront the gf and she tells me he blocked me for "making a weird face at her" last we met. I called out the b******t and he ended up cutting ties with all of us. Later found out she also cheated and gave him an std before they broke up and she would be jealous of his own mum.
Most of the best friends I’ve had throughout my life were always fun, silly and totally themselves when it was just us hanging out, but as soon as we got in a group, they acted like I was annoying and turned on a whole different persona. It’s actually sad how many times it’s happened and probably explains why my only friend now is my wife
Sounds like they couldn't accept the side of themselves they shared in private with you.
Tried to get my parents into a pyramid scheme. Was my best friend since 4th grade, after that happened never spoke to him again. A*****e can go f**k himself.
Several mutual online friends who regularly grilled me over Facebook slipped up and said something suspiciously similar to one another. I reverse-image-searched their pictures and discovered they were all fictional — including my friend's daughter that I never met. The motherf****r had been catfishing me for the better part of a decade, to be as horrid as he wanted without consequence. F**k that guy
I saved his marriage by giving him a middle manager job at a Fortune company when he got fired for cause at his old job (I had to pull some serious strings to make it happen). Said job came with a nice middle class income. He repaid me by trying to stab me in the back so that he could get my job.
Told them I considered them my best friend since childhood and they responded with "yeah... well we're no longer children".
Well, that's a reality check. I imagine George Costanza, wryly shrugging his shoulders and saying "That's that." Some things should be "George Costanzaed." (Seinfeld)
f**k my girlfriend and lie to my face about it over and over and go around to our other friends admitting it
we had a monthly card game, nothing crazy, $20 buy in.
he'd get loaded but would usually do well.
until he went to go p**s and forgot about the stash of extra cards in his seat that he'd been sitting on. a*****e had been cheating. who TF cheats in a friendly game with friends.
we just stopped having game nights after that. its been a few years. we still get together occasionally but its not the same. I haven't told him why, i don't think he remembers doing it.
A friend of my dad did this exactly, got caught sitting on cards. First time, they gave him the benefit of the doubt. Second time, see ya. What was sad was he was literally a millionaire. Ostracised himself for about 60 quid.
I have a friend who is a contrarian. Specifically with me though. Now I don’t mind when someone disagrees with me, everyone has different tastes and perspectives, but it seems like this guy just can’t wait to disagree with me just to do it.
It’s almost like he can’t get the words out fast enough. It’s the way he does it that makes me believe that he’s targeting me/doing it on purpose. Let’s call him Tim
Example: I say “yeah I like the chicken here”
Before I can even finish Tim “the chicken is so
Mid here”
He’s not even really acknowledging my opinion then giving his. It’s more like he’s just letting everyone else in the group know he doesn’t agree with me in the most passive aggressive way possible.
And that’ll happen 4 Separate times within the same conversation.
DUDE! He's gaslighting you and putting you down in front of your friends in the group. DROP that guy. Or, conversely, start really f*****g with him. You: "I really like that chicken" Him: "That chicken's really mediocre" - You: "You know what? You're absolutely right. I hate it. " Do that several times in a convo - wink at everybody else and say, solemnly "Thank you for leading me down the path of good taste. What WOULD I DO without you to guide me.?" Guarantee he blows a gasket. People like that also have no sense of humor and, as much as they like making fun of you -- they HATE to feel made fun of and have no defense against it.
I wouldn't say hate, but trying to start a faux relationship with your friend because you need someone to bring home the bacon for you and your unborn child, and then telling said friend to just "die alone" when they politely decline (fully knowing said friend is seriously struggling with bouts of loneliness) doesn't spark joy.
My really good friend basically told me that I was “lucky” that my dad died in comparison to his situation where he disliked his mom and wished she was dead. Never spoke to him again.
I have said something similar, I said "you're lucky you had a good relationship and you can remember your mother with good memories, in contrast to mine". Do you think it's insensitive? 🤔It's difficult for me to imagine how people with good relationships with their parents feel, especially since I know they don't get my situation either.
Wouldn’t f*****g pay me back. It was only 100 dollars and I didn’t need it but like bro, we work at the same place. I know your getting money and you live in your moms basement…. It’s not outa your way or an inconvenience.
Took him like a year and he thought it was funny.
F**k off bruh, I understand it taking a while but like it’s not funny
Had a friend borrow money for a drug debt. 6 months later, I had to threaten to go to his parents and tell them exactly what he owed me money for. Amazing that he could suddenly afford to pay me back.
He added my crush into a group and exposed everything i said about her. Ungrateful prick also ignored whatever i did for him and sent his boyfriend after me who is like 3 years younger than me then proceeds to tell him everything he knew about me.
Had a high school friend that moved to Texas after graduating. Came home for a visit and, as I was driving her around, she makes a comment of "I don't believe in that." I said "Believe in what?" She pointed to a white truck driving by with a black guy behind the wheel and a white girl in the passenger seat. "Black guys dating white girls." My mother and father were divorced at this time and my mother's boyfriend was a very nice older black man that treated me like his own daughter. I said "Well don't say that in front of my mother, because her boyfriend is black." My friend got real quiet the rest of her visit and then ghosted me after that. 25 years later and she asks a mutual friend for my information. Nope. Don't need any racists in my life, tyvm.
You dodged a bullet there. From my experience, most racists are toxic human shells full of garbage. They're horrible in various increments to everyone in their life. Race just gives them an EXTRA outlet. If you think you're "friends" with someone racist, think again. Their racism is a red flag regarding their general lack of principles everywhere else. There may be exceptions to that rule; but I've never met one.
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I have been too generous and kind -- sounds ridiculous, but it has ended several long friendships. I helped an older friend who lived on Cape Cod by taking care of her dogs for weeks at a time, purchased food, cooked, cleaned her rental unit, etc. Her son's wife, a known liar, convinced her i was taking advantage of her. My friend believed her. I took care of her dogs for free, suddenly she preferred to pay for dog kennel. One dog died. It hurt. Thanks Jen. Another friend lost her thesis word document. I spend three days typing from her working copies while she finished writing. I was accused writing parts of her thesis. It destroyed my credibility and was part of the reason I left grad school. She graduated. Later she asked to visit, nope. I rented places on Cape Cod, a friend assumed she was always welcome but never offered to help. Last time she insisted on coming despite being asked not to. I agreed two days before, then cancelled hours at the last minute. Ghosted after.
Being the nice one sometimes sucks. I grew up in a s****y home and it took YEARS to get out simply because I didn't have a license to drive and no public transport to get a better job. The only way I was able to get out of the house was with friends whom I met either at work or through other friends. One of these friends I became really good friends with, helped her when she dumped her abusive s****y boyfriend, took care of her kids and generally had a really good relationship with. Her only problem at the time was she sometimes asked for handouts, which I would sometimes oblige to simply because she did have 2 kids, was a single mom and lived in an apartment while I lived with my family and felt bad. When public transportation came to my area and I was able to finally afford driving lessons and subsequently get my first car, this was the first person I went to see. I was super pumped.
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If you're in a committed relationship and your other cheats on you, don't go after the man/woman they cheated with, your problem is with your other. They're the one who is supposed to be committed to you and off the market.
The exception to that rule is when that person is your friend or family, though? Because in that case they did in fact both betray you.
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My friends never last. I’m always the one who’s not in the pictures, since I’m the one holding the camera. And I’m always the person kicked out first. I don’t talk much (but blabs nonstop online) so I guess I’m just boring
I confessed to my friend that I was a virgin because I wanted to wait until marriage and her response was "Who'll be willing to wait that long for you with that boring personality?" I know she blurted it out unconsciously but I'd rather not be too close with someone who thinks I'm that boring. Safe to say, we only speak on birthdays.
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My very best friend of 50 years tried to seduce my husband while i was away. I couldn't understand why she ghosted me; embarrassed that she got a knock back i suppose.
My closest friend was dating a guy who really wanted to be a dad. This friend had jealousy issues and when her boyfriend broke plans because of a legit family emergency, she waited a few days then made up a story that she had been pregnant but had an abortion because she "knew" he was cheating on her. He was beyond devastated and we both cut ties with her immediately. I let him know that it wasn't true so at least he's not out there somewhere, 20 years later, thinking he lost the opportunity to raise that child.
Friend invited me, as usual, to Thanksgiving dinner. I get a call mid-morning that her parents were sick (it was at their place right down the road from friend's house), so, they were going to move it to my friend's house. Sitting their waiting, waiting, waiting. I get tired of waiting, go to return some videos, drive by the house, see them eating dinner through the window (you could see it from the road). So, I go get a crappy turkey dinner from Walmart, which was open back then. They call around 5 and say everything is ready. I went ballistic. Seriously, like I wouldn't notice I was the only one eating and they were leftovers? Not only ditching me on Thanksgiving, but, insulting my intelligence. They also thought everything was fine between us. No. Go away. Only time I've talked to either of them is when they started talking to me and I said "no, leave me the F alone."
I mean, the utter boldness of the disrespect. NO, these shitheads do not deserve you. They do not deserve to even share the same planet with you.
Load More Replies... I ended up hurting someone I really cared about and was consumed by guilt and starting to feel s**cidal over it. When I tried to talk to my best friend about it she said to “stop with the pity party”…. She reaches out to me constantly about her own depression so I thought she, out of all people, would understand what I was going through. Guess not
Was 13 and my two best friends (my only friends) put a really nasty "poison pen" letter into my blazer pocket. I didn't know it was them at first but was so scared I took it to a member of staff at school. It was physically threatening, and was a list of all the things they hated about me as well as all the things I'd ever said they disagreed with and a whole pile of lies about other people hating me. I realised how serious it was when the adults were visibly shocked reading it. I didn't speak to them again but a couple of years later one of them caused me more trouble, getting others to bully me and spreading lies about me. I never told anyone but the bullying made me suicidal; I prayed every night that I wouldn't wake up.
These were some of the most outlandish stories of betrayal I've ever read.
My ex shattered my trust badly. He ghosted me suddenly and unexpectedly 1,5 years after we started dating, and although we got together again, it never quite left me (which is unfathomable to him, as it turned out). 3,5 years later, I'm struggling as he can never tell me why he feels the way he feels when we fight, and I can't help properly anymore. Also, he says he's not sure if he loves me anymore and doesn't know how long it has already been like that. What a slap to my face! Then, a huge fight with my Mom, he walks away. A few weeks later, we meet to talk and nearly break up, but don't, yet I tell him it'll take a while for me to be comfortable again. A week or so later, we do break up because he's been telling everyone everything's dandy - lies! I hate getting lied to and am afraid to look to try my hand at dating again because he deceived me so. I'm 35, and he wasted 5,5 years of my life. It's been two years now, and it still hurts. He was nothing but a manchild.
This guy was a fairly new friend, but we seemed to have a lot in common. One thing was playing pinball. In one pinball arcade, he has won a number of free games. Before he could play the three that were left, we had to go. Instead of leaving them for some lucky stranger to find and play, he swiftly tilted through all of them. That wasn't the end of the friendship, but it was the beginning of the end.
my best friend of 20 years, who i stood by during her sexual assault, subsequent abortion, bad marriage told mr she supported Ron DeSantis. 25 years and i felt like my heart was ripped out and something died. it's been months since i responded to her.
I see she's one of those hypothetics who thinks "my abortion is the only moral abortion". DeSantis proudly admitted that he can't stand to be corrected and gaslight his girlfriends.
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Had a friend a long time ago who dumped me when she found out I was autistic. Looking back on it, I'm glad that friendship didn't last.
Neighbor and best friend. Our husbands were very close, and we LOVED their two kids. Took trips together, spent every weekend together, just super super tight. We always did what SHE wanted, hung out at HER house, etc. I was always there for her, she was never there for me (can't come to your mother's funeral because kids had soccer - always that kind of stuff). I finally saw through it all at a party (I didn't know many people there) when she realized I wasn't taking photos. SHE WANTS PHOTOS and confronts me, I told her that I wasn't up for it and would be leaving early anyway. She starts screaming "F*&^ you" at me. That was the last we all did anything together. She never apologized, just kept inviting us places that we conveniently couldn't attend. But she still lived 4 doors down, so lots of awkward running into each other. Eventually I heard they were moving to a new neighborhood. Sadly I didn't go to her daughter's small destination wedding because of her mom.
Had a high school friend that moved to Texas after graduating. Came home for a visit and, as I was driving her around, she makes a comment of "I don't believe in that." I said "Believe in what?" She pointed to a white truck driving by with a black guy behind the wheel and a white girl in the passenger seat. "Black guys dating white girls." My mother and father were divorced at this time and my mother's boyfriend was a very nice older black man that treated me like his own daughter. I said "Well don't say that in front of my mother, because her boyfriend is black." My friend got real quiet the rest of her visit and then ghosted me after that. 25 years later and she asks a mutual friend for my information. Nope. Don't need any racists in my life, tyvm.
You dodged a bullet there. From my experience, most racists are toxic human shells full of garbage. They're horrible in various increments to everyone in their life. Race just gives them an EXTRA outlet. If you think you're "friends" with someone racist, think again. Their racism is a red flag regarding their general lack of principles everywhere else. There may be exceptions to that rule; but I've never met one.
Load More Replies... I have been too generous and kind -- sounds ridiculous, but it has ended several long friendships. I helped an older friend who lived on Cape Cod by taking care of her dogs for weeks at a time, purchased food, cooked, cleaned her rental unit, etc. Her son's wife, a known liar, convinced her i was taking advantage of her. My friend believed her. I took care of her dogs for free, suddenly she preferred to pay for dog kennel. One dog died. It hurt. Thanks Jen. Another friend lost her thesis word document. I spend three days typing from her working copies while she finished writing. I was accused writing parts of her thesis. It destroyed my credibility and was part of the reason I left grad school. She graduated. Later she asked to visit, nope. I rented places on Cape Cod, a friend assumed she was always welcome but never offered to help. Last time she insisted on coming despite being asked not to. I agreed two days before, then cancelled hours at the last minute. Ghosted after.
Being the nice one sometimes sucks. I grew up in a s****y home and it took YEARS to get out simply because I didn't have a license to drive and no public transport to get a better job. The only way I was able to get out of the house was with friends whom I met either at work or through other friends. One of these friends I became really good friends with, helped her when she dumped her abusive s****y boyfriend, took care of her kids and generally had a really good relationship with. Her only problem at the time was she sometimes asked for handouts, which I would sometimes oblige to simply because she did have 2 kids, was a single mom and lived in an apartment while I lived with my family and felt bad. When public transportation came to my area and I was able to finally afford driving lessons and subsequently get my first car, this was the first person I went to see. I was super pumped.
Load More Replies... If you're in a committed relationship and your other cheats on you, don't go after the man/woman they cheated with, your problem is with your other. They're the one who is supposed to be committed to you and off the market.
The exception to that rule is when that person is your friend or family, though? Because in that case they did in fact both betray you.
Load More Replies... My friends never last. I’m always the one who’s not in the pictures, since I’m the one holding the camera. And I’m always the person kicked out first. I don’t talk much (but blabs nonstop online) so I guess I’m just boring
I confessed to my friend that I was a virgin because I wanted to wait until marriage and her response was "Who'll be willing to wait that long for you with that boring personality?" I know she blurted it out unconsciously but I'd rather not be too close with someone who thinks I'm that boring. Safe to say, we only speak on birthdays.
Load More Replies... My very best friend of 50 years tried to seduce my husband while i was away. I couldn't understand why she ghosted me; embarrassed that she got a knock back i suppose.
My closest friend was dating a guy who really wanted to be a dad. This friend had jealousy issues and when her boyfriend broke plans because of a legit family emergency, she waited a few days then made up a story that she had been pregnant but had an abortion because she "knew" he was cheating on her. He was beyond devastated and we both cut ties with her immediately. I let him know that it wasn't true so at least he's not out there somewhere, 20 years later, thinking he lost the opportunity to raise that child.
Friend invited me, as usual, to Thanksgiving dinner. I get a call mid-morning that her parents were sick (it was at their place right down the road from friend's house), so, they were going to move it to my friend's house. Sitting their waiting, waiting, waiting. I get tired of waiting, go to return some videos, drive by the house, see them eating dinner through the window (you could see it from the road). So, I go get a crappy turkey dinner from Walmart, which was open back then. They call around 5 and say everything is ready. I went ballistic. Seriously, like I wouldn't notice I was the only one eating and they were leftovers? Not only ditching me on Thanksgiving, but, insulting my intelligence. They also thought everything was fine between us. No. Go away. Only time I've talked to either of them is when they started talking to me and I said "no, leave me the F alone."
I mean, the utter boldness of the disrespect. NO, these shitheads do not deserve you. They do not deserve to even share the same planet with you.
Load More Replies... I ended up hurting someone I really cared about and was consumed by guilt and starting to feel s**cidal over it. When I tried to talk to my best friend about it she said to “stop with the pity party”…. She reaches out to me constantly about her own depression so I thought she, out of all people, would understand what I was going through. Guess not
Was 13 and my two best friends (my only friends) put a really nasty "poison pen" letter into my blazer pocket. I didn't know it was them at first but was so scared I took it to a member of staff at school. It was physically threatening, and was a list of all the things they hated about me as well as all the things I'd ever said they disagreed with and a whole pile of lies about other people hating me. I realised how serious it was when the adults were visibly shocked reading it. I didn't speak to them again but a couple of years later one of them caused me more trouble, getting others to bully me and spreading lies about me. I never told anyone but the bullying made me suicidal; I prayed every night that I wouldn't wake up.
These were some of the most outlandish stories of betrayal I've ever read.
My ex shattered my trust badly. He ghosted me suddenly and unexpectedly 1,5 years after we started dating, and although we got together again, it never quite left me (which is unfathomable to him, as it turned out). 3,5 years later, I'm struggling as he can never tell me why he feels the way he feels when we fight, and I can't help properly anymore. Also, he says he's not sure if he loves me anymore and doesn't know how long it has already been like that. What a slap to my face! Then, a huge fight with my Mom, he walks away. A few weeks later, we meet to talk and nearly break up, but don't, yet I tell him it'll take a while for me to be comfortable again. A week or so later, we do break up because he's been telling everyone everything's dandy - lies! I hate getting lied to and am afraid to look to try my hand at dating again because he deceived me so. I'm 35, and he wasted 5,5 years of my life. It's been two years now, and it still hurts. He was nothing but a manchild.
This guy was a fairly new friend, but we seemed to have a lot in common. One thing was playing pinball. In one pinball arcade, he has won a number of free games. Before he could play the three that were left, we had to go. Instead of leaving them for some lucky stranger to find and play, he swiftly tilted through all of them. That wasn't the end of the friendship, but it was the beginning of the end.
my best friend of 20 years, who i stood by during her sexual assault, subsequent abortion, bad marriage told mr she supported Ron DeSantis. 25 years and i felt like my heart was ripped out and something died. it's been months since i responded to her.
I see she's one of those hypothetics who thinks "my abortion is the only moral abortion". DeSantis proudly admitted that he can't stand to be corrected and gaslight his girlfriends.
Load More Replies... Had a friend a long time ago who dumped me when she found out I was autistic. Looking back on it, I'm glad that friendship didn't last.
Neighbor and best friend. Our husbands were very close, and we LOVED their two kids. Took trips together, spent every weekend together, just super super tight. We always did what SHE wanted, hung out at HER house, etc. I was always there for her, she was never there for me (can't come to your mother's funeral because kids had soccer - always that kind of stuff). I finally saw through it all at a party (I didn't know many people there) when she realized I wasn't taking photos. SHE WANTS PHOTOS and confronts me, I told her that I wasn't up for it and would be leaving early anyway. She starts screaming "F*&^ you" at me. That was the last we all did anything together. She never apologized, just kept inviting us places that we conveniently couldn't attend. But she still lived 4 doors down, so lots of awkward running into each other. Eventually I heard they were moving to a new neighborhood. Sadly I didn't go to her daughter's small destination wedding because of her mom.
