32 Things That Get Romanticized All The Time But For All The Wrong Reasons

Most “romantic” novels still laud stalking, aggressive behaviour from the male love interest. As if women should be grateful to be protected from all the other guys they aren’t attracted to or interested in because this one guy is going to fight them all off. It’s brainwashing. It’s training girls and women to accept fundamentally unhealthy, unacceptable, unattractive traits from the physically stronger. I speak quietly but carry a big stick. I had to learn to protect myself because the one person I should have been able to trust was the most dangerous. I’m done agreeing with guys that I need protection from other guys. If you can’t, won’t, police yourself then I’m willing to die fighting against you.

"Haunting Adeline" has done an irreparable damage to literature.

Does no one remember playing Oregon trail?!

I would have died of appendicitis when I was 5. Some things about the present suck, but at least I get to experience it

I always think that I'd only last a few days if I timetravelled back just 500 years. Reason? I am too weak to do all that manual labour they did back then. I am also too much of that witchy type that seems to have made a lot of people angry. Also, I don't follow the "correct" religious beliefs. And I think that because modern time civilisation has made living conditions a whole lot better than it was 500 years ago in terms of avoiding illnesses and injuries, I would just quickly get real sick or have some freak accident that would kìll me in a way that would have the village laugh at me for generations. Also, I'd really miss listening to metal music and I would hate going to church every Sunday. I would not survive much if I went back in time. 😬🤔

I spent ten years of my life as a musician working in bars. Inebriated humans are the worst to be around.

Where did the trope of the seriously addicted, womanizing doctor who's too brilliant to punish come from? House MD, M*A*S*H, etc.

And some people are on your case when you try to quit..

It's also a sin, though only getting drunk. Wine is part of an average mass (if you're legal drinking age)

What is romantic about waking up in the morning and then feeling as if your most beloved person had died yesterday? But without the comfort of knowing that they died and that therefore your grief will heal at some point? Just ongoing pain, never ending? What's romantic about knowing that there are good things in the world, but feeling as if nothing matters, and all your reason cannot change that feeling (because it's a chemical issue, not an attitude)? What's romantic about sleeping in a hospital hallway because they have no room for you, but if you go home you know you will be dead by morning?

I’ve been working on a photo series for a couple years about what depression actually looks like, just as my own kind of side project. One of the photos is the corner of my wall in the afternoon sunlight with about 20 fruit flies perched on it. Depression doesn’t always look like a tortured genius gazing out the window longingly at the rain - sometimes it looks like a major fruit fly problem because you’ve let dishes pile up in the sink for weeks and haven’t been well enough to clean or take the garbage out, so the same garbage has been sitting in your kitchen for way too long. Sometimes it means your house smells terrible and all of your cupboards are empty because every dish is rotting in the sink. Sometimes it means horrible diarrhea because you forget to eat real food for days on end and all you’ve consumed are whiskey and ketchup chips. Sometimes it looks like having to go to the hairdresser for help because your hair is so matted from lying in bed for weeks that you can’t even brush it any more. Sometimes it looks like extremely greasy hair slicked back in a ponytail every day because you struggle to shower. Sometimes it means sleeping in the hallway in the ER and having doctors sigh and ask you “what do you expect us to do for you? We’re very busy tonight” because they don’t have room for you but you were told to call 911 when you’re terrified of what will happen if you’re left alone with your intrusive thoughts. Depression is a really rough illness to go through, especially alone, and I wish more people understood that. If you’re struggling, just know I love you and so do many other people and we’re rooting for you ❤️

The only good thing about my depression was having it finally diagnosed, and realising that it was alright to not feel alright... And also realising that some days, it's ok to have no energy and just chill at home.

There's nothing remotely romantic about the mental and emotional cancer that is depression. It eats away at everything you might have liked about yourself, about life, about living, and makes the thought of death feel like a comfort.

What is romantic about r**e? About t*****e? People who want that sort of life don't see themselves as the future r**e victim, so one can well imagine in what role they see themselves.

Does that count motorcycle clubs? In the late 1980s when I lived in San Diego, I wouldn't call it protection, per se, but the H@ll's Angels told me to come to them if anyone bothered me. Of course, I never took them up on it. But for a group like that to give that offer is something I'll never forget.

I admit it, I usually didn't like the "bad boys". I liked the arty, creative guys and subconciously looked for nice steady guys like my dad (although a little bit more willing to show affection & love). My mother famously asked me, when she met the guy I was dating and would become engaged to shortly, "what are you doing with him, he seems so normal". Turns out that for some reason she thought I was dating some of the guy friends I'd dragged home over the years. I informed her that I'd always told her if a guy I brought home was someone I was dating.

Living off grid is definitely not for everyone. You can see that by watching a show called Homestead Rescue on Discovery plus. I love that show.

Not me. I love being within eight minutes of virtually anything I need. Living simply and frugally--and knowing when to separate yourself from media and malicious people--works just fine for me.

It would be great but you need to be prepared.

Neurotypicals make it no easier (I have both of these). You get constant comments and have to come up with explanations for dozens of thing that happen naturally, and get told you're weird, or get yelled at by neurotypicals when you say that it's no big deal to have to make accommodations for it. But the key is accepting that neurotypicals are either nice about it or they are the weird ones who think they are superior because they lack your evolutionary trait/gift from God (atheist/religious way of talking about it, respectively)

I was diagnosed as being on the spectrum at age 69. It explained so much about my life.

Look at Sia's film Music (or rather, don't). That is the romanticised idea the poster is talking about. Where autistic people exist only to be brainless things which help the protagonist grow as a person and are mindless, dumb things.

Who romanticizes this? Truly, I'm asking.

It also leaves you with lifelong health and dental issues.

My wife and several college friends are teachers. (I studied to be a teacher, too.) I have come to the conclusion that teachers aren't the psychopaths we perceived them to be when we were kids. Most are far, far, far more evil. The stories of sexual harrassment, workplace hostility, alcoholism, favoritism, etc. are mind-blowing. It seems like at every level, people promote and reward the most insanely evil people below them! At one school, two entire departments quit on a principal and the very large district named that principal the principal of the year!

I used to want to be a teacher real bad until I got older and saw what they deal with and how little they’re paid 😅 my salary is on the lower side of average right now and it’s still like $15K more than teachers make, which is honestly ridiculous and makes me really angry. I don’t have kids but when I vote I try to vote for what’s best for students and teachers.

Apparently it was my fault for not being able to control a class that was full of all the kids the other teachers didn't want my first year of working... it was also the long hours and the fact that it caused a huge fibromyalgia flare up, and lack of support from management. Teaching preschool was better.

Anyone who was a teen male during the Vietnam era was horrified by the prospect of being sent into a war that was economically and politically motivated. In the 1920's , President Woodrow Wilson refused to help the Viernamese wriggle free from its colonial status because Wilson did not speak to Asians. Forty years later, that help for the Vietnamese came at the cost of tens of thousands of lives, a distrust of government that remains to this day, and countless lived ruined by PTSD. To commemorate this folly, many bridges and high schools have been named to honor Woodrow Wilson. Know your history, people!

Who the f even romanticizes war? Warriors maybe but never war itself... The only time you see that s**t is with propaganda video when terrorist organization or militaries try to recruit. With the latter at least they make it explicit that it is dangerous.

Correction "renovating an old house and it being your only option" is what is bad here. If you buy something to fix up cus you like doing that it is called a hobby.