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“I’m Not Racist, But…”: 45 Things People Have Said That Made Others Know Immediately They Wouldn’t Be Friends
You know that feeling when you meet someone for the first time, and it just feels like kismet. You find yourself saying, “Me too!” more times than you can count, and it seems like you’re reading one another’s minds. You share the same interests, you laugh until you cry at the same jokes, and you agree on where you stand on hot topics. There’s nothing like that warm, fuzzy feeling of meeting a kindred spirit, pandas. But today, we’re not talking about that. We’re actually going to be exploring the exact opposite of that experience…
One curious Reddit user, DDelirium46, recently posed the question, “Have you ever listened to a person talk for less than a minute and known you weren't going to get along with that person? What did they say?”, and readers did not hold back in the replies. From extremely offensive comments to claims that will make your eyes roll, we’ve gathered a list of some of the most shocking responses to this query down below.
Keep reading to also find an interview with Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Ph.D., ABPP, to hear her thoughts on the topic, and be sure to upvote the answers that would send you immediately running in the other direction as well. Then, if you’re interested in checking out a Bored Panda article discussing some similar immediate red flags people have encountered when dating, you can find that list right here!
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#1
New guy at work, first coffee break he started complaining about his ex who had full custody of the kids for some unknowable reason and also how he’d like to slash her throat with a rusty knife. Nice to meet you too, don’t think I’ll be taking breaks with you.
Daffydillz~ 2 years ago
I know right... maybe he told too many people exactly what he felt about her 🤔 or maybe he put it in writing, such as texting it to her? If you're gonna tell a stranger immediately, then probably not choosy about who he tells or when. Then again, it could be for shock value, but I still wouldn't want to hang out with someone who thinks that kind of button pushing is the way to act in work or social circles.
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AliJanx 2 years ago
In my company we take those comments very seriously. If it doesn't get you fired, you will have some very uncomfortable conversations with HR, your boss, their boss and possibly the VP. DON'T make asinine comments in the workplace - there's a way to phrase any situation without discussing maiming or killing another human.
Austin Sauce 2 years ago
It would be a nice once-in-lifetime chance to inevitably take the witness stand one day.
CultOfBambi 2 years ago
Except for that to happen someone would have to die - or almost die. Not what I would personally refer to as a "nice once-in-a-lifetime chance".
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Debrina Blackmoon 2 years ago (edited)
Terrifying pile of psychoshit!!! Vile assholl!!! Etc., etc.
To gain more insight on this topic, we reached out to Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Ph.D., ABPP. Dr. Whitbourne is a Professor Emerita of Psychological and Brain Sciences at the University of Massachusetts Amherst and an Adjunct Professor in the Department of Gerontology and Faculty Fellow in the Institute of Gerontology at the University of Massachusetts Boston, and she was kind enough to share her thoughts on these unfortunate first impressions. But according to Dr. Whitbourne, first impressions aren't always a great indication of someone's personality. "Many situational factors affect first impressions, such as what is going on at the moment around an individual. Also, it is also remarkably easy for people to put on a false impression," she told Bored Panda.
We also asked if it's typically a positive thing for people to show their true colors immediately, like the people featured in this list, or if we should all have the manners to be more polite upon first meeting others. "It is preferable to 'read the room' before you show your true colors, but in general, it's better to err on the side of being polite at that first meeting," Dr. Whitbourne says.
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#2
She was complaining the 15 year old kid who just fled from the war in Ukraine wasn't working hard enough at his dishwashing job. The kid doesn't want to be alone in a dishwashing kitchen all day, not able to speak to anyone. He should be in school at home with all his friends! Of course he's not excited about the stupid dishes! The lack of compassion was astounding. And she was indeed a wretched person, so my initial impression was totally correct.
Crouching hippo hidden panda 2 years ago
None of these made me angry until this one. Blood boiling. I hope OP ripped her a new one
That Bi Book Lover 2 years ago
Because unfortunately his parents probably don’t make enough money to support themselves, so he has to help them. Sad, I know.
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I would like to know in what country they treat a refugee child like this.
The Starsong Princess 2 years ago
Generally, because the parent or parents can’t make enough money to pay their rent, bills and eat.
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Verinder of the Valley 2 years ago
your diagnosis is.... outrageously outstanding levels of evil. Above and beyond the evil queen, Maleficent... I'm speechless actually. And your medication is..... a huge slap and all the tortures hell hath
Jon Steensen 2 years ago
What is a kid even doing i a kitchen (and do say washing the dishes, because that is not the right thing for him to do)
#3
"I hate that our boss is a chick. Bitches make the worst bosses."
Lunch break of his first day on the job.
Dan Padgett 2 years ago
Shout out to the team manager I had at BT. She was better than the rest of them. Totally chill and didn't have little man complex like the dudes did
Carrie de Luka 2 years ago
My husband worked for BT for a few years - certainly had a lot of terrible male bosses, one supremely bad that he was the only person I've ever heard him talk badly about. He decided self-employment was the only way forward after that!!
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Donkey boi 2 years ago
My boss is a woman! And she's... actually... bad example. My wife!!! She's a boss, and thumping good one! My sister too. And my all my previous female bosses have been exceptionally better than the male ones.
Mickysixxx 2 years ago
My boss is a woman and she's lovely, she used to hang with the Irish punk band Stiff Little Fingers and is now the principal of a special assistance school for at risk teens
Shyla Bouche 2 years ago
Me! Or cat or hedgehog or guinea pig or hamster or...
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Ginger Ghost 2 years ago
give him that, if your boss is a chicken or a dog, then you are in trouble
Dr. Whitbourne also noted that it is wise not to form an opinion on someone else solely off of your first interaction. "You absolutely should wait to gather more 'data' on someone, although those first few vibes could be informative potentially (unless they are putting on a false front)."
And when it comes to how we can make better first impressions, Dr. Whitbourne told Bored Panda to remember to read the room. "That is very important, especially to determine what emotion to display to ensure that it is consistent with the situation (i.e. not laughing in a serious situation). Eye contact is always helpful as is attention to posture and other aspects of body language."
#4
Whenever someone is rude to the waiter/server/cashier. Instantly you are my enemy.
Paul C. 2 years ago
I used to play football and after evening games we would often go for a curry. We had a Solicitor and the Managing Director of an Estate Agents in the team, lovely blokes, until they got in the restaurant. They spoke to the waiters like slaves, "Oi Imran, or Boy, over here! Pulled them up on it, but never got them to stop. I dread to think what went in their food.
Hugh Cookson 2 years ago
As a now retired Chef with many, many years in front of the stove, a lot of their food would have contained 'exotic' extra ingredients, mostly bodily fluids, with the occasional ground up insect or 3. .... be nice to your servers / Chefs.
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Karl Baxter 2 years ago
Yep - abusing a minimum waged worker to make yourself feel good is pretty f*****g low
Jon Steensen 2 years ago
How someone treats people they consider to be "below" them is a very important clue to look out for. Especially if you are in a position of power, there is a real risk that they will put up a facade and do some brown nosing in order to achieve something, but often they will "slip" and unveil their true personality when it comes to people who are "insignificant" to achieving their goal. For that reason some managers ask the receptionist about their impression of a given candidate. A guy not respecting the waiter will also be a major red flag on a date, as that might reflect how he will treat you down the line, when the relationship is no longer new and interesting, and the hard work has to be put in.
Greta Kolding 2 years ago
Honestly, everyone should be forced to do a service job for at least a month in their youth.
That Bi Book Lover 2 years ago
In my school, we have to do community service (volunteering) for a fixed amount of hours in order to graduate (as well as your grades)
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Zelda Fitzgerald 2 years ago
I love when other customers stick up for you and talk all the s**t you wish you could back at them. Those are true heroes.
DumYum 2 years ago (edited)
I waited tables on and off for 20 years in Chinese restaurants, diners, and fine dining and never once saw anyone put something bad in people’s food no matter how they acted. However, there was one waitress that would take a few pieces of broccoli or chicken off the Chinese platters she was serving and eat them before going out into the dining room. Generous portions so no one noticed.
PiscesInTheWild 2 years ago
I forget the exact wording, but a wise man once said that if you want a good look at a man, see how he treats his inferiors, not his friends.
Phasmainmachina 2 years ago
I go out of my way to be nice to people serving me, in whatever capacity, it costs me nothing, and helps them get through their day. A woman in front of me a little while ago was incredibly abrupt to the young woman serving her, for no obvious reason I could see, and as the woman left, the sales assistant just looked at me and shrugged, all I could say was, “what is the matter with some people!”
Dre Mosley 2 years ago
I had one and only dinner date with a woman who did that; that was the sole reason why there was no second date.
#5
"Hi, let's talk about how my religion can change your life."
Three cats in a trenchcoat 2 years ago
Do you have a moment to talk about our lord and saviour C3-PO?
Zenozenobee 2 years ago
If I ever decide to not be an atheist, I 'm going to the god of tits and wine.
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Mune 2 years ago
There's nothing wrong with that, it depends on their approach. If they back off the minute you show uniterest, good. If they take your resistance as a challenge and keep f*****g coming on!, then it becomes a problem. I've met one of these converters and they were pretty chill, dropping the subject once I said I wasn't interested. That girl I'm still friends with. Another hounded me and wanted to know exactly why I refused to attend his online sessions, sending me flyers of events every now and then. We're not friends, anymore.
mst 2 years ago
Ugh, I had this sort of thing yesterday. It used to happen quite often until I became more firmly closed off in public. Yesterday, it was someone who seemed to have intellectual disability, we were both at the library so I thought it'd be a legit question he was asking, but instead it was a flood of religious rhetoric. I don't have the energy for stranger's fervent beliefs and don't understand the need to bombard others irl situations.
"Put yourself in someone else's place when you see them in a certain situation before deciding on what their personality is," Dr. Whitbourne added. "For example, It's very easy to be overly critical of others for engaging in the same behavior that you would in that situation, so in these cases, give them a break. If you're trying to decide whether to have a relationship with someone based on a first impression, keep the third point in mind and allow yourself to gather more information and then decide based on that."
If you'd like to gain more words of Wisdom from Susan Krauss Whitbourne PhD, ABPP, be sure to visit her Psychology Today blog right here.
#6
“I’m not racist but…”
Mickysixxx 2 years ago (edited)
"I'm not a racist but........insert incredibly racist comment." That's how it usually goes, people are always telling about the free stuff I get because I'm Aboriginal. I'm yet to receive anything that No one else can get. Apparently I get everything from a free house to free cars, just not equality
Princess Mar-li 2 years ago
Same. Still waiting for my free black person swag bag.
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JinxBox 2 years ago
These are sad meetings. I was open to making friends with a girl who was new in town and said needs some friends. All was fine until she dropped a sudden rant about muslims, like real violent images and total ugly things to say about any human. I was just mouth open stunned and furious! I have a turkish father and she just forgot that enough to completely cut herself out of my life that day. And she was literally an immigrant herself and a foreigner who has seeking for a better life here. No place to go acting out a racist jerk.
#7
New guy started at my job, we were outside smoking on first break. Keep in mind I have never met nor spoken to this dude in my life. He walks up, lights up his cigarette and says "you know, I think my severe arachnophobia has transformed into an arachnophilia. I've been watching a lot of spider hentai while masturbating."
Then he then began to describe his new waifu pillow he bought. Her name and his plans to marry her.
I was speechless...
Edit: I work in a distribution warehouse for a clothing company. We were forklift drivers. He didn't last very long, but not because of things he said. He was constantly late for work, and twice a week he'd show up in Crocs, knowing damn well I've told him 100 times he needs closed toe shoes. I'd have to send him home to change shoes, I told him just keep a pair of shoes in his car so he has something to wear at work. Didn't work, and eventually I had to let him go for excessive tardiness and absenteeism.
CalicoKitty 2 years ago
Excellent question! That is a guy with his waifu (a 14 year old)
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DC 2 years ago
Spider hentai? I'm afraid to look up what this means, but ... I think I will anyway, but ... but ... spiders? I mean, I like spiders and stuff, but ... but ... they don't make me ... in that state ... they just don't play any role in ... you know ... wtf, really, ... that's ... I mean, I don't think hate is the right answer, but maybe there's some pills or so that might help ... or at least transfer his weirdity into some more managable one, like an addiction, something everybody has, ...
Tree P 2 years ago (edited)
Sex with spider girls. That's what it is. Like a centaur, but with a spider body.
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PotatoNinja5000 2 years ago
Sounds like a case of being forced to get a job and doing his best to look so awful that they have to let him go. I've seen my fair share of these types of people, and if they're that commited to being sent home and making everyone hate them, the business is better off without them.
Jilltdcatlady 2 years ago
Great. Another reason to hate the look of crocs.
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Kate Jones 2 years ago
Look I understand being lonely or single for a while, but I don't understand these people with their masturbation pillows or sex dolls that they introduce as their girlfriends.... I mean, seriously this is crazy. I never brought my vibrator to introduce to my parents.
#8
I was listening to the NEXIVM podcast and the clip of the founder saying he has 225 IQ. If I walked into a room and heard someone say that I’d walk right back out
Marcos Valencia 2 years ago
That happens when you measure your IQ in Farenheit; in Celsius, it's a regular 107.
Shifty McFlea 2 years ago
One book I read (ungifted by gordon kormon - good book, highly recommend) has a character with a like 200 something IQ and it does a good job depicting what that’d be like, including that the character wants to be viewed as “normal” and wants to hide his IQ. He’s also treated as a unique or very rare person. If you say you have that high IQ then you don’t. (Also I doubt anyone cares but this is my first comment on this site! Hi BP!)
3 Owls In A Coat 2 years ago (edited)
Yep! They spell it NXIVM for whatever reason but it’s pronounced nexium like you said. They’re pretty effed up
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DC 2 years ago (edited)
... is it measurable at that amount, even? As far as I know, a valid IQ test first of all only measures that part of brain performance that you can measure sufficiently well ... second, it has to be appliable regardless of education - every higher math is out, for example, for this reason. Third, only a small margin of results is reliable, depending on the test. The entry test at mensa, for example, works best in the range around the threshold value of 130 that you need to exceed to join. Any test giving you a valid 150 wouldn't work with 225, if that number even is possible. Which I doubt. But as I lack a fair amount to THAT height of neuronal superpower, what do I know, what do I understand? And - bragging is generally not really something that is taken well in regard to IQ or intelligence in general. Among mensa members, nobody ever mentions their result, unless there is a valid reason to do so. Wanna brag? Do sports. No frownery whatsoever, and in most sports, you can very well be dumb as a brick...
3 Owls In A Coat 2 years ago
I took an IQ test once through school and got 130 :) so I was given some Mensa application test or something and I failed that one horribly lol. (I took another test years later and got 110 or something, who knows if any of those results were correct.) The idea & thinking around IQs is kind of flawed tbh.
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Andy Smith 2 years ago
Nexivm….not something I’d want to be associated with, but that’s just me
Mickysixxx 2 years ago
I'd remind them that IQ tests only measure your ability at doing IQ tests. Not an accurate measurement of intelligence as you can practice and get better results each time
Austin Sauce 2 years ago
As someone with a 223 IQ, I can’t stand it when someone tries to 1-up me!
#9
“Some people might say I’m an a*****e but I just tell it how it is.” 99% chance they are an a*****e that I don’t want to be around
Todd Campbell 2 years ago
Usually you have to figure that out on your own.
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Lakota Wolf 2 years ago (edited)
I recall a line from the movie Lucky Number Slevin: "The first time someone calls you a horse, you punch him on the nose. The second time someone calls you a horse, you call him a jerk. But the third time someone calls you a horse, well then, perhaps it's time to go shopping for a saddle." Translation: if a bunch of people call you an a*****e... maybe you're an a*****e XD
Šimon Špaček 2 years ago
This always reminds me of the old joke "Diplomat is a person, who will tell you to go to hell in the way that you will look forward for that trip". You can say how things are, but you can do it in a way that you will not sound like a smug a-hole
ScaryThingIntheDryer 2 years ago
Anyone who is a self-proclaimed a**hole and thinks it's a good/funny thing is a definite nope for me!
Austin Sauce 2 years ago
It’s not what you say, but how you say it that leads to other people’s perception of your hole-itude.
#10
I was the only woman at my last job and I was 2nd in seniority on our little crew. I did almost all of the training of the new people (all the younger guys loved me because I was like mom to the crew. Always had snacks and would always listen when they were having a problem or whatever). My biggest problems were usually with guys in their mid 30’s. In the morning meeting the bosses told everyone their job assignments. As we were walking out of the shop he said “yeah like I’m going to listen to some snot nosed 24 year old chick.” to one of the older guys and the older guy turned at looked at him and said “I suggest you say that to her face. And if I were you, I wouldn’t p**s her off. We will always like her more than we will ever like you.” And he was an absolute d**k to work with and never listened to anybody except for the managers. Lasted about 3 weeks. Still dislike that guy. My favourite was when my husband and I were working together for a bit (he worked there before and we needed help so he came in on days off to lend a hand) and the one guy I was having issues with at the time said I was a huge b***h and he didn’t understand why they didn’t just fire me aside from my tits (thinking this new guy would be his friend). Husband listened to him all day and didn’t say a word. At the end of the day when the entire crew was filling out time cards he looks at the guy and says “thank you for telling me all day how much of a b***h my wife is. But you’re right, she does have great tits.”
Стеван Радоичић 2 years ago
That sounds just like my soon-to-become-wife (I hate the word "fiancee" because I never know how to use it properly). Not only she was the best of all team leaders at a company she worked for, and not only that she was like a mom to them, but she also has great tits!
RafCo (he/him) 2 years ago
It's easy. "She is my fiancée". In the context of your sentence, you could have simply said, "That sounds just like my fiancée." It is used like any other noun. English isn't my first language, and I sometimes find it confusing, but this part is pretty simple.
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Sarah Lowry 2 years ago
Oh, your husband's endgame is on point. I would have been so proud of him. Also, I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. I work with all men but thankfully, the four men I work in the office with are very respectful. Many of our potential male customers over the phone and on live chat, however, can be less than appropriate, let's just say.
talliloo 2 years ago
this made me laugh. at one time, i was giving classes to ppl on how to get a job. everything from filling applications, resumes, dressing, etc. as most hadn't had many jobs or were incarcerated. this included mock interviews so i enlisted my hubby for the interviewer. one woman returned to class afterwards and went on and on about how hot the interviewer was& she was going to try to slip him her number. then, per usual, my hubby would come in and give critique on their interview. at the end, i intro'd him. she was so embarassed but i told her no worries - it happened a lot to him and i wasn't offended.
RafCo (he/him) 2 years ago
I don't think this is a nice story at all. First, you are a coworker and a leader, not their mother. Bring snacks, don't bring snacks, yes you should listen to your team mates, but mothering isn't your job, and they shouldn't be asking that of you. It won't do you favors in the long-run. Also, I'm not sure that the husband really helped in this situation. Wife, or not wife, the way this person was speaking about a coworker was totally disrespectful, and should have gotten them fired. How about instead of "you called my wife a b***h" you can say, "you are being totally disrespectful to one of our coworkers, and I will be reporting you to HR".
Coolwhip 2 years ago
My fiancee would've said something the first time he disrespected me, he wouldn't be able to take it for a whole day.
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madeline tansey bryson 2 years ago
Of someone is fully clothed how do you know she has great tits
Binky Melnik 2 years ago
Sweetie, look around you; it’s really not that difficult unless people are wearing thick down jackets. 😉 (Winter often adds a challenging dimension.)Try people-watching sometime; it’s not merely a fun hobby; it’s a great learning experience as well. (Just don’t *stare*. Learn to be discreet.)
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#11
Was a customer at work, naturally I wouldn’t be friends. But even in a setting where we could become friends it wasn’t happening. I came up to her to see if she had any questions about our critters (I work in a pet shop) and the very first thing she asked was if parakeets could talk because she wanted to teach them racial slurs. Biggest nope of my life.
Dandelion Girl 2 years ago
a bit of a tangent but omg, the group of semi-problematic white guys at my school calls themselves, and I kid you not, the "cracker clan". You just rekindled so much old disdain for me...
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Like racial slurs to other birds? Fly back to where you come from, pigeons are stealing all our seeds, your too colourful to be a parrot and so on....
Haywood Jablome 2 years ago
I thought teaching them naughty words was the only reason to have a parakeet
Miriam L 2 years ago
Yeah, but there's a huge difference between "universally rude and nasty" and "rude and demeaning to a specific group of people for reasons that are false and harmful."
Load More Replies... Austin Sauce 2 years ago
Fun fact, Andrew Jackson’s pet parrot had to be removed from his funeral because it wouldn’t stop swearing.
Jan Bowyer 2 years ago
That was just karma. Jackson was evil and cruel in the extreme to native Americans
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Ozymandias73 2 years ago
I'd tell her to kick bricks and leave the store. Most places "have the right of refusing the service to any guest"
Wren Hard 2 years ago
Conures are a type of parakeet, but Americans usually just use parakeet to refer to BUDGIES (use the right name guys, goddammit)
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#12
Parent of one of my kids friends at school. Said there was a mouse in their house and his wife wanted him to kill it but he didn’t want to kill any creatures - he wants to make friends with them instead. But wife insisted so he threw his shoe at it and eventually managed to hit it, but it wasn’t dead, so he threw his shoe at it another 4 times. It still wasn’t dead so he poured boiling water over it to kill it. It still didn’t die so he poured boiling water over it again. It STILL wasn’t dead so he decided to leave it alone in the hopes that it would peacefully pass away. The logic of being too squeamish to kill something, and instead decide to torture it to death slowly in the most agonisingly painful way absolutely blew my mind.
Karl Baxter 2 years ago
Wow - that’s horrible. If you have to kill something, it should be a last resort and as quick and as painless as possible.
Jordi Sharpe 2 years ago
I used to work at a produce store, so rats and mice were common. My boss used the old school snap traps, and I'd usually be the one to empty and reset the traps. I found a rat still alive - dying obviously - and had to smash its head over a counter to end it. I felt awful. It was the first and only time I've killed a rat. I never want to ever again.
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Trillian 2 years ago
The logic of not being able to tell your spouse: "Hey, I am not going to kill a harmless creature" and instead buying a live trap blows MY mind here
Luna Crow 2 years ago
Or, if it was the wife who wanted it dead so badly, why didn't SHE do it?
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If you can't bare the thought of snap trap, there are more humane options where the mouse is just trapped in a small enclosure, so you can transport it somewhere else far from your house and set it free. There is a way to deal with the problem that does not involve harming it, if that is the way you want to go, and you don't have to invent a new and better mousetrap as part of the process... though that can be quite a fun challenge.
Joe Reaves 2 years ago
Jesus christ. I also did not want to kill mice (trap and release is fine if you can take them far enough away) but then my mouse problem ate my internet cable and then the power cable to the washing machine (without dying). Now I'm team kill the little bastards, but humanely! I have a mouse trap that I'm scared to set because it's so powerful and I'm going to lose a finger, but I wanted to be sure it would kill the mouse not injure it and let it die. And don't get me started on glue traps. So glad those things are banned.
#13
"There are different levels to being a psychic, I'm on the purple level so I can talk to the dead". said a new employee at my previous job.
*Nope.*
Jason 2 years ago
Maybe it's like martial arts belts. They are able to fight off the dead to a purple belt skill
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LillieMean 2 years ago
What if they respond? Is it time to call a priest or a doctor?
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Binky Melnik 2 years ago
While it appears she can, I doubt many listen to her for long.
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tuzdayschild 2 years ago
I don't know if we'd be friends, but I'd sit in on that circus every lunch break.
Cuppa tea? 2 years ago
I said at work that I talk to dead people (aka my colleague who constantly winds me up). She didn't get that pun.
#14
I started my PhD a few months ago and one of a common starter conversation with postgraduates you just meet is: “what is your thesis about?”. Well, I get asked the question first and after describing my dissertation theme, the other guy goes:”oh I see, well mine is actually important…” with a very condescending tone. Well pal, f**k you too I guess
Miss Cellania 2 years ago
Here, it's best to start out short and general, like "alternative fuels" or "fungus byproducts" and their response will tell you if they are genuinely interested or if they need something to help remember your name and face. Neither motive is evil, like the example here, where the guy just wants to one-up you.
Kate Jones 2 years ago
Not sure if this was written by a woman, but as a woman, sometimes you get these astounded looks like "you have a vagina and you're getting a phd???" So I'm not surprised at this, either. But whatever gender you are, some graduate programs have this weird competitiveness that makes no sense whatsoever and these kinds of comments are pretty standard. Usually it's from someone who is incredibly competitive and very insecure.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
Yep I generally gave a vague answer on this one. On one occasion a guy got very pushy and wanted me to explain/defend my position then and there. I just said look I am not in the mood for a d**k measuring contest. And walked away. He mutterd "what an a*****e" but actually, HTA.
Kat Min 2 years ago
I stopped asking what people do as their phD after a guy told me he was calculating knots on space. To be polite I ask about what area the PhD is in and that's it. PhDs are so obscure, i never understand the answer and it often ends up being an awkward conversation stopper. (I do admire people who do one, though. It takes so much time and dedication!)
Victoria 2 years ago
I lived in a co- op with a woman who was doing a Math PhD. Now, I know enough applied math from my Engg background; but I could not begin to understand the problem she was working on. Something to do with Combinatorics and Knots. That's when I realized that there's applied Math and there's pure Math, and the people doing PhD in pure Math are really at a completely different level.
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Mr. Sourcrowd 🧐 2 years ago (edited)
Humanities here: Which thesis is that important? Nobody really cares about it except your peers...
RafCo (he/him) 2 years ago
When I lived in Washington DC, the first question everybody asked when you meet is "so what do you do?" It is a way of deciding do you have a high status, and therefore are worth my time. I hated it. I told everybody, "oh I work in IT". Which is close enough to being true, and it would end most conversations pretty quick.
Stephanie Did It 2 years ago
You can answer with something like "It's private" or "I prefer not to discuss it."
Lord Mysticlaw 2 years ago
"I'd tell you, but then I'd have to kill you".
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1. 'I don't like women who burp. They should be ladylike' 2. 'Black people can't be racist' 3. 'you're going to hell if you don't believe in god' All three were said by different people and they were all serious their statements.
Hphizzle 2 years ago
1. Omg I would totally belch right in front of them. I’m very proud of my skills. Also, the only people that I’ve met that can out-belch me are other women.
Fat Harry 2 years ago
My stock response to any question and most statements about god is "Which one?". Sometimes they'll push it as "Well THE god, obviously!" and I reply with "There have been over 5000 gods in human history. You'll need to be more specific". That's usually enough for them to realise it's a conversation they don't want to have.
RafCo (he/him) 2 years ago
This is a Ricky Gervais thing. He likes to say something like: "Look there have been thousands of Gods in human history, and you reject like 4999 of them. I only reject one more than you."
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LovingKnuckle 2 years ago
Don’t even touch #2. Don’t respond, don’t nod, don’t smile, don’t blink an eye. Just GTFO of there quick. That’s shark infested waters there.
Austin Sauce 2 years ago
If you’re a racist, atheist, black woman who burps, you go straight toTriple Hell.
TAYLOR SWIFT IS AWESOME 2 years ago
My sixth grade science teacher said reverse sexism was worse than, as he called it, ‘classic sexism’. I skipped seventh because the faster I could get out of that school, the better.
LillieMean 2 years ago
I like to burp the word no loudly and because I am multilingual, I use the appropriate language for the situation. Racism occurs in so many ways by different groups towards different groups. As an atheist, I don't believe in hell and I like to remind those people that believing in god(s) seems to require believing in evil or the devil.
Kate Jones 2 years ago
Anytime I hear the word ladylike it's never from someone who means it in any positive way, like we say with 'gentleman'. It's always about taking away something from women or monitoring their behavior in a controlling way.
#16
We had just moved into a new house. An older gentleman - he was 65 and I was 35 at the time - came across the street towards me and stuck out his hand. I shook it and he said "We love new neighbours! As long as they're white!"
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
I'd make a point of inviting all my black friends around every other day.
Luna Crow 2 years ago
No kidding. There are a lot of seriously f****d up white people I sure as hell wouldn't want to live near.. like racists for instance
Load More Replies... Pinkjoelle 2 years ago
im an introvert and hate entertaining but would thrown front lawn parties with a whole rainbow of people, race, religion, sexual orientations. ..
Michael Largey 2 years ago
And be sure to invite the old guy from across the street.
Load More Replies... Lord Mysticlaw 2 years ago
Exactly the kind of person who would say "I'm not a racist, I just like my neighbours to be white"
Becca Kuehn 2 years ago
I'll never understand how some people hate someone based on something that they have no control over.
Roland Nijveld 2 years ago
I would comment that although I look white, I have black people in my heritage. Just to screw with him
V 2 years ago
My great grandmother was born in India, of European parents, but damn I'd be playing it up and celebrating Diwali and whatever else I could think of. I do love a good Bollywood movie, they'd be played on repeat and loud, lol.
Load More Replies... Austin Sauce 2 years ago
I’d yank my hand away and say “I love new neighbors! As long as they aren’t racist pricks!”
Benita Valdez 2 years ago
My neighbor with the "speak English" car license plate probably had a heart attack when 3 black families moved onto our block. He also thought it was a compliment saying my dad was "one of the good ones" even though he was a Spanish immigrant
#17
Years ago, me and my ex-husband went to see a movie with an older colleague of his. Before the movie we had dinner at like a chain restaurant/steakhouse type place, staff on the floor was all 20ish. I never met this man before but in the first few minutes of sitting down and looking at the menu he very confidently told us how he came there a lot and flirted with the female staff because "they love the attention". The best part? His daughter worked there. All I could think was how I would literally cringe myself through the floor if I was 20 and my 50yo dad came into my place of work and perved on my co-workers because he didn't understand that they only put up with him 'cause they are paid to do so.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
i can't understand this behaviour, for me anyone >10-12 years younger looks like a kid.
#18
The quiet boy at school sat next to me and told me how hard he felt when he took a s**t and how many times he ejaculated that way. I never sat next to him again.
Joshua David 2 years ago
In 2003 I worked in a call center. This kid a couple years younger than me (probably him 18 or 19) started asking if I would become excited if I was caught naked by my mom. By who?????? Nah bro.
Jo pay me more 2 years ago
Had a male friend who told me that men need s*x on a regular basis because it's bad for their health if they don't. Very serious eye contact during the conversation. TL/DR Had a male friend!
I’mSoEmotional 2 years ago
There are some men who think women’s breasts are the equivalent of male’s testicles. It shows how little they are taught about female anatomy.
Load More Replies... DC 2 years ago
WHAT? He's ... going off on pooping? Did he really understand WHERE you ejaculate? And how that stuff should look? That it is, like, not brown and halfway solid, and doesn't come out of your exhaust?
Not PC 2 years ago
The r****m is right up close to the prostate. Possible to elicit... NM.
Load More Replies... 3 Owls In A Coat 2 years ago
This answered a question I didn’t realize I had been subconsciously wondering.
Benita Valdez 2 years ago
This terrible and what's worse is it made me remember my friend telling me about how much he enjoyed receiving oral while pooping on the toilet (and yes there's even a term for it too)
#19
All time favorite was this girl they had just hired who would answer any question by responding that she had a fiancee. Like hi my name is Bill where are you from? I HAVE A FIANCEE! Like any of us were going to bang her in the walk-in cooler if she didn't.
Three cats in a trenchcoat 2 years ago
It would be fun if I could do this with my cat, like “how are you?” “I HAVE A CAT”
Yvonne Dauwalder Balsiger 2 years ago
The difference is that now I really want to talk to you 🐱
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Mrs Irish Mom 2 years ago
I got engaged and my so called best friend made her bf go and buy her a random ring, not engagement ring just a random one that she could show me 1st before i showed her my engagement ring 🤯
DrBronxx 2 years ago
The very first time I met one of my wife's best friends, she basically shoved her engagement ring in my face. She was literally visiting my wife (then-fiancee) to congratulate us on our engagement. Turns out she had only got engaged a couple of days previously, so she was still really excited.
Gardener of Weeden 2 years ago
OR she found that saying that kept SOME of the creeps at bay. Others just felt she was stuck up.
tuzdayschild 2 years ago
She was just excited about her engagement. Hopefully that calmed down after a week or so.
Alan Christensen 2 years ago
Maybe the complete phrase is, "I have a fiancee who's insecure and suspicious of me working around other men, like I might cheat on him, so I'm on dangerous ground here even acknowledging your existence."
Madeleine Christiansen 1 year ago
Next time you ask her something, tell her after she says that, "well I have the urge to ask you a question!!!"
#20
Me at my first day on the job, on my lunch break
Coworker: Are you Chinese?
Me: Yeah
Coworker: I don’t like Chinese food -walks away-
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
Best response to this is, OK but can I buy you some deodorant? He'll spend the rest of his life sniffing his armpits.
3 Owls In A Coat 2 years ago
You know what……the more I think about it, that’s actually a really good comeback anytime someone says anything annoying to you.
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Marcos Valencia 2 years ago
It's beautiful, when people filter themselves and you don't need to make any effort.
Sarah SH 2 years ago
I still am never sure if it’s okay for me to ask Asian acquaintances which country their family came/comes from. Not in the way that implies they aren’t American like “Where are you really from?” but just wondering about their culture. Hard for me to gauge since I am as generic plain white as it gets. No real distinguishable heritage or cultural traditions. Nothing wrong with that either, but still.
Elite Normster 2 years ago
There's nothing wrong with asking. 99% of Asian people in a diaspora still do have ethnic roots that they are in touch with, they would answer you properly no problem. Even those generations-deep assimilated to their new country. I'm Vietnamese-Australia and I wouldn't feel offended at all. If someone feels offended that you ask, it's their fault for being sensitive and butthurt. I cannot see anything wrong with just asking a question innocently.
Load More Replies... CammyCat 2 years ago
Reminds me of Thai nightmare last that was on my team (I was the supervisor that spent MONTHS trying to get approval to fire her. Long story. They only fired her after she filed a lawsuit exactly duplicate to her previous job and caused too many issues. I am the one that found the previous lawsuit too). Anyways, we were having a potluck for our team. She couldn't understand why I would bring homemade salsa, because "I'm not Mexican" and my boss couldn't bring homemade Queso because he's "Chinese", which he was not. These were her exact words/comments
RavenTheCat 2 years ago
I don't like Chinese culture, or the ways they uh, prepare certain animals I guess. But I still have a lot of respect for the people outside these certain things
The voice of reason 2 years ago
I would be more like “I Love Chinese food especially fried rice, if you get my drift” 😉😉
#21
I was talking to a girl in college and she made some remark about, "yeah, like when you test your boyfriend to make sure he loves you" and I remember thinking, "you seemed so normal..."
DennyS (denzoren) 2 years ago
I feel like whenever I come across these videos of these "tests" they secretly want it to end badly.
Fluffy Cat Sleeps 2 years ago
When I'm having a sad day, I test my husband to make sure he loves me by asking "Do you love me?" Or "You love me, right?" That is the only acceptable way to test someone's love.
Jon Steensen 2 years ago
Life is difficult enough as it is, and it will naturally put every relationship up for a test every now and then. There is no need to add hurtles to the life of someone you suposedly love. If you feel insecure about your relationship, maybe it is time to look a bit inwards and analyse why that is and what you can do about it, or have an honest conversation with your partner about what you feel, instead of setting up all those random test whereby you are putting a burden on your partner, to get your needs met. Don't make someones life a living hell with all kinds of rediculous, confusing tests that they have to pass in order to win the price (you), missy. A relationship should be a partnership between equals who only wants what is best for the otherone.
Jacqueline Quackenbush 2 years ago
Says The Man Who Just Called Her "Missy"
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Icecream Sarang 2 years ago
I test my husband all the time! I sit in his legs and tickle his feet until he goes OKAY OKAY OKAY I LOVE YOU!
MC C 2 years ago
unfortunately this isn't that unusual, women will often test the man they are with with silly little games, I don't have time for that c**p, so it backfires if they try to do it to me
#22
I was in a job interview once and the manager cut me off mid-sentence to jump to a weird conclusion
>Him: What do you think the performance of this algorithm would be?
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>Me: Oh, it'll be 'n' times--
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>Him: Oh, you think it's going to be 'n'? You think it'll be 'n'??!! That's ridiculous, there's no way it would just be 'n'!
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>Me: Uhhhh, you gotta let me finish speaking
He then cut me off mid sentence twice more during our conversation. We... didn't get along. Dude was a total tool
Nor 2 years ago
Bad management cause "silent quitting" and then losing the employee altogether and will blame said employee
Paul Neff 2 years ago (edited)
First off, silent quitting is horribly misnamed way of saying you are actually doing your job, just nothing for which you not are paid / hired to do. You are not shooting for brownie points by DONATING your unpaid time and effort.
Load More Replies... Sonja 2 years ago (edited)
A placeholder for an unimportant number that's not neccessary in the story
Load More Replies... The Original Bruno 2 years ago
In fairness, he had just dealt with missionaries and was jumpy to hear about the "n" times.
#23
Told me "Yeah all women are bitches, you included. No offense." Within the first 2 minutes of knowing me.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
Just say "offense taken," and take a photo of them. When they ask why, just say "going to share with my other b1tches so they know who to not date."
Debbie 2 years ago
"*going to share with all my friends so they know who not to hang around with / work with" (Why limit to women and to dating)
Load More Replies... Crouching hippo hidden panda 2 years ago
Not all men are a******s, you excluded. Offense intended
Sarah Kathrin Matsoukis 2 years ago
Upvote for both statement and nickname
Load More Replies... Marcos Valencia 2 years ago
Translated, that guy meant: "I am a good guy, women treated me so bad (with no reason, of course, I just told you I'm a nice guy)... I hope you will treat me well, otherwise you will be a b***h, too".
Mickysixxx 2 years ago
This is like the "I'm not racist but...." one. "No offence but........insert most offensive thing you could say to that person" these people are d***s
Leo Domitrix 2 years ago
Just wear a t-shirt saying "Not mating material" and get it over with, dude.
Madeleine Christiansen 1 year ago (edited)
You should say, "Well you must be a woman because you are a b***h. No offense."
#24
“Oh you’re a Scorpio? I can definitely tell because…”
Girl only knew me for five minutes when she said that. It was a group project. I was forced to get along with her for the better part of a semester
This was in an astronomy class
kath morgan 2 years ago
Perhaps it is the right class and she will learn some real things about her area of interest.
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Dirk Daring 2 years ago
Whenever anyone randomly asks me what my sign is, I tell them the wrong one. Then it's "Oh, I just KNEW you were a Capricorn!" and they proceed to tell me all the Capricorn-matching attributes they saw in me. Then they tell me all the good or bad luck I'm going to have, yada yada. Then I tell them my actual birthday, they usually get very crestfallen and start backpedaling.
Benita Valdez 2 years ago
My best friend took an astronomy class and first day of class the absolute first thing the professor said was "we will not be talking about the zodiac. This is astronomy not astrology so you will not be having your horoscope read so if thats what you thought feel free to drop the class if you are not interested in the solar system". A few people dropped the class right away.
Dre Mosley 2 years ago
Astrology is fun and all, but I tend to avoid those who take it really seriously.
Phobrek 2 years ago
All Scorpios (using the traditional zodiac calendar) are actually Libras. Meaning, when they were born, the Sun was between Earth and the Libra constellation. 2500 years ago, when this nonsense was invented, it would have been Scorpio. But... space moves. And it still all means nothing.
Elio 2 years ago
I took an astronomy class, and they mentioned that the zodiac has moved and that there is a serpent constellation. That is cool because snakes.
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Amy 2 years ago
I took astronomy in college, and I will never forget the guy who asked when NASA was going to send the first astronauts to the sun.
Alex Martin 2 years ago
Sounds like a great idea but only if they crewed the spacecraft with politicians.
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Zoe Vokes 2 years ago
I went to college with a girl who said she was great at guessing people’s star signs on her first go. I think she guessed every star sign but mine, forgot all about Leo and somebody else suggested it. Never tell them your star sign - see if they can actually tell based on your personality.
LovingKnuckle 2 years ago (edited)
I think it’s funny I’ve had people tell me my this is rising (he he), fire, earth, water, etc etc. the always say “oh I can definitely see this in you. Aries rising, yep that explains a lot.” No one ever says “Cancer 9th House?! That’s bullshiiit that’s not you at all”
Alexandra Nara 2 years ago
Good tricksterwork to do..like it. My modtly response is often I was born in the year of the descending guinneapig over the moons of kaylon 2- but I tend to copy your style too
Load More Replies... censorshipsucks 2 years ago
ask her if she understands F=Gm1m2/r^2. If not, why not? It's key in astronomy. If she DOES understand it, ask her if it is a specific case of inverse square law. She has to say yes, or she should fail the course. Once she admits it is a case of inverse square law, ask her if it's correct, or if NEWTON (yes that newton), made a mistake in that equation. She says no, unless she's Einstein, who we can forgive. Right/. Then ask her: ok so which fundamental force or energy do the stars exert on our destinies and does it experience inverse square law as well? If so, then frankly an obstretician exerts more force on you on your date of birth than f*****g jupiter does.
JB 2 years ago
Hey! Jupiter is a silent protector and guardian preventing negativity from entering her life in the form of extrasolar asteroids!
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#25
New guy at work. Suuuper fake by being overly excited and super overly comfortable with everyone in the first minute. He's all "mami" this and "papi" that to everyone and very overly touchy (we were almost all Hispanics there and everyone was uncomfortable). First phone call of the day, he hangs up cursing and taking it super personally that someone hung up on him (daily occurrence in customer service). After about 6 months, I put in my 2 weeks notice solely because I couldn't work next to or with him anymore (he would also get overly gossipy and personal). My boss rejected my notice and transferred him. He couldn't stand the guy either. No one could.
Delta Dawn 2 years ago
Sounds like someone trying way too hard to be accepted by his coworkers and causing the opposite to happen.
#26
Anything that starts with a look over both shoulders and a “since it’s just us” head nod that lets you know some racist ignorant s**t is coming. I was at my sister in law’s house at a housewarming when their new neighbor let fly right after he met me. He was trying to discretely talk to me and his friend who was also over. I did the “I don’t understand” trick where you keep asking them to explain the joke until it’s uncomfortable for everybody and starts drawing attention. Still hate that dude.
Chez2202 2 years ago
That doesn’t just happen when someone is going to say something racist. It could also be something sexist or just petty gossip about someone nearby.
Luna Crow 2 years ago
Or even something else entirely. They could just want to share a secret or ask some advice
Load More Replies... Delta Dawn 2 years ago
“Actually I’m black” would be a good reply, especially since its painfully obvious that I’m white.
Roman Hans 2 years ago
"is different to" is different from "is different from." It's in books.
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#27
Girl: I have two siblings. How many siblings do you have? Me: I have 10 siblings. But I only associate with my twin now. Girl(disgusted): Jeez! Your mom should close her legs! I bet you don't even share a father with all of them. Me: .... You're a b***h. *Walks away* I didn't want to respond to the actual statement because out of those 10 the only full blooded relative I had was my twin. 6 were half, 3 were step and 1 adopted. I think that whole conversation lasted less than 30 seconds.. it was supposed to be a simple icebreaker and that single question told me everything about her personality and who she was. A b***h.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago (edited)
I'd not use the word B*tch as an insult anymore, because (a) it's a reference to being female and hence not an insult, unless you are sexist, and (b) there are much more accurate insults like "turd", etc.
Gardener of Weeden 2 years ago
As far as I know. B!tches are very protective and good mothers. I have no problem being called one. Now call me a republican (usa) and those ae fighting words.
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KnightOwl 2 years ago
I have 8 siblings and have heard things like this all my life. Some comments are just silly (do they not own a tv?) but some are really rude, including comments about my parents being selfish for having so many kids, comments along the lines of 'they must have just fell/walked out after the fourth one' etc. I once had a guy tell me I was lying after saying I had 7 siblings because he insisted that half sibling and adopted siblings 'shouldn't count' I still don't know what he meant by that.. (I have 2 sisters, 2 half sisters, 1 half brother and 2 adopted brothers we always just refer to each other as brothers and sisters)
Lyyyy 2 years ago
We have a lot of laestadians here. They are forbidden from using contraceptives and tv. In their families they can have like 13 full siblings. Here, if somebody has like 6 kids, half the people assume they’re laestadian.
Load More Replies... Gardener of Weeden 2 years ago
1st thing I thought of was wow your mom must be tired and organized
Marcos Valencia 2 years ago
So, you have 10 siblings? Because 1 twin, 6 half (what is a half, when you aren't "blooded relative"), 3 step and 1 adopted... makes 11.
jdtimid123 2 years ago
Half is when you only share one parent biologically, for example: same mom, different dad.
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Sassawrasse 2 years ago
That term has such a unique modern social context, its meaning solely belongs to its speaker. It's a beautiful, spicy thing.
#28
If a man calls a woman a “female” it’s an automatic “nope”
Kate Micheals 2 years ago
It's very common for people who are, or were in the military to call men males, and women females. Both female and male soldiers in the US military do as part of the common military phraseology you learn in Basic Training.
Joe Reaves 2 years ago
If you're using males AND females, it's not such a red flag - more likely you're police or paramedic or something who use those terms on the radio to describe suspects or casualties. OP is talking about people (men) using females but not using males. It's a huge sign they're on MGTOW or incel forums
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Ephemeral Mochi 2 years ago
It's especially bad when they just call men 'men' in the same sentence.
Beutran 2 years ago
English is not my first language, isn't female and male to speak of the general group without using age (girl/woman)? I normally use that way
Joe Reaves 2 years ago
Not really. You'd use men, women, or children. Or just people. But the thing is incel and other misogynist internet forums and their youtuber colleagues use female a LOT (but not male) so it's become a huge red flag. If I hear someone use it I'm going to be feeling suspicious until they say something that shows they're not an a*****e. A lot of women will react that way because it's such a ubiquitous sign of sexist a******s thanks to people like Andrew Tate.
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Boris Long-Johnson 2 years ago
It’s used a lot in jest in the UK (or maybe just my circle of friends) by both males and females because of Paul Ritter from Friday night dinner. https://youtu.be/OKXzK25OX0I
Carrie de Luka 2 years ago
Love Friday Night Dinner. Lovely bit of Squirrel!
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Tams21 2 years ago
I don't know about this without context. If that man also calls men males I guess it would be okay... I think. I've never come across someone that does this.
I’mSoEmotional 2 years ago
I hate it when people call men “ladies” or “girls” to insult them, not realizing that they are also insulting half the population of the world.
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Icecream Sarang 2 years ago
Ummmm let them call you female: I thought everyone knew this… fe = IRON. Male = Man…therefore, females are Ironman. I can live with this.
Kate Jones 2 years ago
Ugh I hate this too. It's always said in a degrading way, as if we're talking about animals. I feel the same way about babydaddy and babymamma.
#29
"I know I'm not supposed to ask, but I need to know. It's not for work or anything-- what religion are you?"- HR manager
Tamra 2 years ago
Sure thing. I worship at the church of Noneyadamnbusiness, and our god is Kissmyass.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
I'd say "do you mind if I start recording this session and if you can repeat your question so that I can answer truthfully and get your on-record response?" ... they will obviously decline, and leave it at that.
Sonja 2 years ago (edited)
In Germany that question is common because they need it for the tax forms. But they only ask if they need to put down a confession and if yes, which one to pay the church tax. I had an American friends going totally bonkers on this until we explained it to her and how to answer that question by simply stating that due to her visa she didn't have to pay church taxes in Germany and which form to provide for the employers.
Jon Steensen 2 years ago
Don't reply but instead ask them: "and why exactly do you NEED to know?" Then wait and watch for their face getting red during a long ackward pause as they search for an approapriate answer. They know that they crossed the line, as they are not allowed to ask that kind of qestions.... and when you think they have roasted long enough, you can continue with: "...you can say merry Christmas to me, if that is what concerns you".
Stardust she/her 2 years ago
I hope that the manager asked so that he could plan an event for a religious festival but it’s most likely not the reason
#30
Anyone that uses their political ideology as their sole identity.
Urbangirlatl 2 years ago
Not that I condone fascism or any -ism for that matter. -isms in my opinion are not good. A person should not believe in an -ism, he should just believe in himself.
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Sarah SH 2 years ago
I think your political beliefs are a big PART of your identity nowadays as both parties’ ideology has become vastly different and extreme in certain elements. But not nearly your sole identity.
Chez2202 2 years ago
There are more than 2 political parties in many countries, including England where I live. I don’t align with any of them. They all have a few good ideas but none of them have a clue how to make their ideas reality. We need a party made up of kids aged 4 to 15. Their ideas may be really out there but they will totally believe in them and will work way harder to make them a reality than the adult politicians who just want to be elected.
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Carrie B 2 years ago
I'm not a republican, but you don't seem like a very nice person. Your comments throughout this article are condescending and super judgemental. We're all human beings and products of our environments.
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I’m a female person. I once met a woman who told me she hates women and has no female friends because women are too much drama and she’s just one of the guys. Ok. Got it. 👍
Crouching hippo hidden panda 2 years ago
Ah, an I’m not like others girls. AKA I’m the toxic one
censorshipsucks 2 years ago (edited)
Yep I know a woman who says this as well. In reality she's ASD and has hyperfocused nerd interests which our mostly vapid older women who were brought up as housewives in the 1960s (height of apartheid), can't actually identify with. It depends therefore on the age of the person speaking. If the speaker was young, and did not live in say, South Carolina or Alabama or something, I'd assume she was just uneducated or frustrated by the low level of education around her. Women being uninteresting to talk to (which personally I find to be completely false) is not a woman feature but, if it IS a feature of ANY group of women (e.g. stepford wives), then a function of patriarchy. So really, what she's saying is she's noticed the effects of patriarchy. And chooses to socialise with patriarchs. Not great hey.
Paul Neff 2 years ago
Insufficient data, I have heard this type of statement from both good people, AND from utter jerks. Understanding other details becomes important, such as presence on the autism spectrum. Decent people on the spectrum very often HATE drama.
Lakota Wolf 2 years ago (edited)
If someone says a blanket statement like they "hate women" (implication being that they hate "all" women, as there is no qualifier of stating they "hate some women"), that makes them an a*****e. Full stop. No equivocating. It's no different from someone saying that they "hate men", or they "hate black people", or they "hate Chinese people", or they "hate gays". Why would you even remotely think that someone who says they blanket "hate women" is a good or decent person?
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Icecream Sarang 2 years ago
I actually tend not to get along with other women. Or so I thought. Turns out I just can’t get along with the toxic ones.
Kate Jones 2 years ago
As soon as a woman says this I immediately run away. I think some girls who say it do so out of some need to fit in with men and try to be 'cool girl'. There's a pressure when you're around guys that makes you want to be conforming and to not want to be a problem. You watch all these shows that show all the girl being horrible, except for that one girl who wears sneakers and glasses and 'isn't like the other girls' and therefore has worth and is somehow better than the others. So you grow up seeing that and you think being a tomboy, quirky girl is how to be the 'star' of your movie. Usually these girls grow out of it. But if you are a grown adult woman and think this, it's not the women it's you. You're the problem.
Dodo 2 years ago
I used to say it because I had never met a woman who I could be myself around. I also know way too many toxic women and don't want to meet any more. As an adult I realised I was non-binary and everything fell into place, of course I can't relate to women.
Load More Replies... Dre Mosley 2 years ago
I've known a couple of women who have said something like this. They were both the jealous, toxic type.
Merrill N. Munro 2 years ago
Some women just like being around men, and not just sexually. Depending on my mood, I will often choose to be around men because it's weirdly comfortable for me. I say 'weirdly' because I don't even need to be doing what they're doing, I just like the sounds of their voices. The content can be annoying, sometimes, but I think I just like the sound. And, yes, there is a bit of ADHD involved, don't know if that has anything to do with it, though.
Dodo 2 years ago
Being around men I feel like I can be myself. With women, I always have to be 'on' and 'performing'. I'm on high alert because there's so much damn social etiquette involved.
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"No one wants to work anymore, I've been here fifteen years and I've never called in sick. I had a fever and I came in and powered through it." I said I was sorry that he couldn't afford to miss a shift and he got all offended. It was genuinely a point of pride for him to work while sick. Absolutely disgusting.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
Bringing a disease to work must be classified as assault or bioterror and punished as such. F**k off and go home with your disease you damn disease vector.
Niki A 2 years ago
All I can say is that most people would not come in sick if there were benefits..... many jobs in the US will fire you and insist you come in. Hence why Covid wouldn't die.
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Catastrophisticate 2 years ago
This is a huge issue in many workplaces. Our office is small (8 people) and a couple of them will show up "come hell or high water". The bosses love it, of course, but it creates a really difficult situation to navigate when those of us don't want to be bringing our cold/flu to the office need to take a sick day. Personally, I manage large amounts of client money on a daily basis. The last thing I want is to be sick at my desk and f*** something up that could cost me my job!
Leo Domitrix 2 years ago
"I cam in with a fever"... and there's why we have disease outbreaks.
Llama_flower93 2 years ago
Here in Sweden the culture is that it's inconsiderate to come to work sick and spread your germs and also they care about their employees well-being and will force them to stay home to get better. People bragging that they go into work sick just seems so absurd to me now. I'm Canadian so I grew up with a different mentality.
Delta Dawn 2 years ago
Nice comeback though. We have to stop normalizing this kind of “work ethic”.
Paulo Freitas 2 years ago (edited)
Well, Im European, and we don't do that " Pride to work sick " thing, how ever, i have been kicked outvof the Office twice for being sick, One was a pleura infection, not contagious just Gave me coff, but my manager was a twat, and kicked me off for a week ( i was 16 or 17 and it was my very 1st job ), second time ( different job ) i hit a knee só hard in a stell rim ( the rim was bolted to a wall knee high and was used to roll up a garden whose ), i literally Saw stars ( not like in the cartoons, but literally white dots Im front of my eyes ), 15 minutes after my knee had the size of my upper thigh, and i couldn't bens the leg, i couldn't use the clutch of the car, had to go home in 2nd gear at 30km/h, Next day i went to work ( i loved my bosses, they where amazing ) i walked in like frikking " Barbosa " from the Pirates of the Caribeean, and he kicked me out and told me to go to the clinic and use the insurance.... I didn't.
#33
They talk negatively about someone else in a very judgy way. There was this mom in my daughter's school who seemed to "know" everyone, she talked to me and she spoke so bad about these people. Then moments later I saw her interacting in a "friendly" way, with those she was judging. My eyes rolled so much I could see my brain telling me not to get involved with her. And I was right, because by the time school year ends, her "friends" hated her and they were talking behind her back too.
SobyKay 2 years ago
I just feel like most people are like this. Maybe its b/c I have ASD, I see things very black and white, and have difficulties with social expectations, but I find almost everyone I know can do this. They can talk aout what displeases them about someone else, even things that make them very angry and frustrated. And the next thing you know, they are laughing and joking with that person like they are best friends. I seriously cant do it. If I'm not happy with someone or dont like someone, they will know it, I just can't hide it and I dont know how to pretend it's all good like that. So they above story doesnt sound like an unusually bad person to me, it's how I view a social skillset of many people that I just dont relate to 🤷♀️
Mickysixxx 2 years ago
I absolutely HATE school pick up. I hate socialising with all the fawn-pants-wearing mum's. Why do they all know the teachers by first name? They're all fake poseurs
#34
Meet Your Teacher day before my kiddo started kindergarten and this other parent literally bragged that her kid was completely illiterate, couldn't stand being read to, and she hated reading too.
Sarah SH 2 years ago
My older kids (girls) loved being read to when they were little. My boys just wouldn’t sit for it. They’d be pulling on the book, flipping the pages out of my hands and not hearing a word of it. Then at conferences their teacher was like “Reece says you don’t read to him at home?” Really?
DrBronxx 2 years ago
I'm trying to determine whether the fact that this child is reading a book upside down is a good fit for this story or not.
Weasel Wise 2 years ago (edited)
"I'm gonna make little humans and destroy their lives. This will make me feel less worthless, in control, and I'll have other people around finally to wallow in misery with me!" Why do people do this?!
René Sauer 2 years ago
My mother never sung me lullabys as a kid. *sob* But that´s because my sis and I would start to bawl whenever she tried xDD
#35
I used to play the drums and jump around in different bands to find one that fit. One guitarist, and I’ll never forget it, said, “I don’t know what it is, but black women’s pussy smells so bad.” It also came out of nowhere since we were talking about music during a practice. I never saw him again. I also apologize for having to repeat it.
Veronica Jean 2 years ago
I wish it was possible to upvote straight to the ballistic heavens because Jesus Christ, that was so vile and racist is honestly the only acceptable response to this
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Crouching hippo hidden panda 2 years ago
Any man who speaks disparagingly about female anatomy should be banned for life, women can we make this a rule?
Boris Long-Johnson 2 years ago (edited)
No they need called out for it by their peers. People can change, misogyny is unacceptable and is really rooted (imho) in toxic masculinity which does no one any good and harms men too. It suspect it doesn’t help the level of misandry that seems to be acceptable - even on BP you see comments like “I bet he’s got a small penis, pencil d**k etc” as it just causes tit for tat.
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OwenHasADHD 2 years ago
If the drums are jumping with you I assume it would be easier
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Paulo Freitas 2 years ago (edited)
I had a teacher that Said something very similar when i was 10 or 11, he Said that black people sweat smells a lot worst than white people, funny thing is that many years later, i worked in a construction company, and One of my jobs, was to walk around the construction site, to check who was working, this was in early 2000s, só we had a lot of Angolans, and Mozambican imigrants ( same language Portuguese ), the thing is, i never noticed that lol, só i have to assume that the fact that he ( professor ) grew up in South África during the Apartheid days might had something to do with his opinion... ( But i Also have to say, that apart from that " opinion " he was One of the best teachers i ever had )
#36
“You’re late. I’ve been here for ten mins already.” I was only 5 mins late for the date because I was looking for parking and had let him know.
Austin Sauce 2 years ago
I dunno, she may also be a jerk and they deserve each other.
Load More Replies... Dan Padgett 2 years ago
I always tend to follow "on time is late, 5 mins early is on time". Not to say the dude wasn't a douche but you could have prepped parking time if you didn't know the place.
Roland Nijveld 2 years ago (edited)
Agree. I hate people who are late. Finding a parking spot isn't a good excuse either
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Any time Jews come up in a conversation in a context other than the person telling you that they're Jewish it's usually bad.
Sonja 2 years ago
The last time someone talking about Jews to me was to tell me that the Jewish community in our town was renting our community room on Tuesdays. I don't think that's bad?
LovingKnuckle 2 years ago (edited)
It’s not of course. I think what the OP means is more like when “the Jews” is said.
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Fabian Bernard 2 years ago
I often tell the story of the kind Jew restaurant owner who fed me sometimes for free when I was in a severe money issue ( Joseph Goldenberg, a well known member of the French communauty. RIP)
Fat Harry 2 years ago
Surely there's only a narrow range of contexts where someone would need to tell you that they're Jewish anyway?
David H 2 years ago
Speaking here as a Jew, there are many contexts where it is perfectly fine, just when people say "oh the jews" or "you those jews" its usually bad
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Niki A 2 years ago
I am a history teacher..... I literally talk about Jews in half of my classes....... of course, I do dislike people who make an entire group a scapegoat.
Andrewsarchus42 2 years ago
The post was about hearing “the Jews” instead of the preferred “Jewish people”, and said that “the Jews” is often (NOT ALWAYS) followed by something antisemetic. It’s like the difference between “many Chinese people celebrate the Lunar New Year” and “The Chinese are spreading the virus on purpose”
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R Dennis 2 years ago (edited)
I interviewed for a food manager position at a country club. The guy interviewing me drops the F bomb a couple times, asks me in I'm Hawaiian (I'm not), then offers me the job saying "I think you`ll do well as long as you can deal with all the whiny ..." I left and did not take the job.
Ronnie Beaton 2 years ago
Yeah, a former colleague at my current job was *adamant* that "The Jews invented taxes". He's 25 years old, this is his first proper job since leaving high school, married at 18, got a kid about to start kindergarten, and he comes out with this nonsense. He got fired after a couple of months for poor timekeeping, and good riddance.
G R 2 years ago
Like really. If a black person posted, "it's a red flag when a white person starts taking about 'The Blacks' out of nowhere" would the comment section just be dozens of defensive people inventing hypotheticals for situations where someone might say "the blacks" in a completely innocuous way? No. So ask yourselves what it is about Jewish people speaking that makes you so angry and so determined to smack us down.
G R 2 years ago
The inane amount of defensiveness and the sheer amount of people who are very very desperate to invent hypothetical reasons why it's fine and not offensive for non-Jews to suddenly start talking about "the Jews" really shows how insidious antisemitism is. Get real please. You know full well that 99 times out a hundred anyone who randomly brings up "The Jews" out of nowhere isn't doing it in the context "oh I bought a lovely book on the Jews today". It's going to be straight up racism. Also using "the Jews" rather than "Jewish people" is often a red flag for racism. Why y'all playing devils advocate so hard?? Signed, actual Jewish person.
G R 2 years ago
Also all the comments playing devils advocate going "oh but what if hypothetically an all-Jewish baseball team called The Jews starts up and someone asks me the name of my favourite all-Jewish baseball team how am I supposed to answer that without saying THE JEWS huh ha ha ha gotcha!" are getting tons of upvotes, and all the posts from actual Jewish people and posts describing personal experience of witnessing antisemitism are being downvoted.
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They didn't know what WWII was, who hitler was, or why Nazis were bad. She thought it was a slur for "white person" because she kept seeing it on the news and online.
Jay 2 years ago
This is what the Republicans/MAGA want. They want people to not know the full truth so that they think "nazi" is just a slur for "white person" that is exactly the wrold that DeSantis, Trump, and the rest of the GOP want.
Jay 2 years ago
The thing is, I'm not. It's evident in how they talk, what they champion and what they ignore. The problem is there are lots of nasty people, they have taken over the GOP.
Load More Replies... Donna Peluda 2 years ago
I Spain there's people who don't know what Franco was or what he did. Some people even state that he saved Spain...
Delta Dawn 2 years ago
Texas? Could also be Mississippi, Alabama, West Virginia, etc. Florida is heading that way fast.
nidasdottir Mac 2 years ago
I worked with a woman who thought that the Holocaust was all made up, just a plot for novels. She had a Masters Degree in Education.
Shelby Moonheart 2 years ago
in 1986 I talked to a 20 year old in West Berlin who saw no reason to go see the Wall. Didn't realize it's place in history. I was sad for him.
Marie Dahme 2 years ago
Wow. What I wouldn’t give to be there that night, thought it was around Nov 89 cuz I was 17. Being there to watch the Hoff on top of the wall singing. That wall divided families and killed so many people.
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Lea S. 2 years ago
This person seems like a dope but I just can't help but think about how higher up on the list it was suggested that anyone talking about Jews was either Jewish or anti-semitic. Someone in the same thread suggested that it's not normal to talk/learn about other types of people. If we aren't allowed to talk about it...this is where we are headed.
G R 2 years ago
As a Jewish person, you've badly misinterpreted the other post. It was pointing out that 99% of the time when people who aren't Jewish randomly bring up "The Jews" in conversation for no reason, it's to rant and spread racist conspiracy theories. Yes, obviously there are tons and tons of hypothetical reasons non-Jewish people might be in a situation that requires them to talk about Jewish people or were Jewish people naturally come up in the conversation in an innocuous way. No one is denying that! But that's not what the comment was about. And the reality is, most non-Jewish people who start talking about "the Jews" out of nowhere didn't just remember that they love brisket, it's tonne racist.
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Have you read anything about flat earth theory?
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
yes, it's a great way to tell whether someone is in need of supportive mental care.
Honey Bee 2 years ago
But there are members all AROUND the world! Didn't you know?!
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Mr Old School Cool 2 years ago
Are flat earthers just joking? Are they just non conformists attempting to tweak those around them? I cannot believe they are being serious
Panda Boi 2 years ago
Some know very well it is total BS, those are the ones selling merch to the many who are 100% serious.
Load More Replies... Benita Valdez 2 years ago
I'm still trying to figure out how earth is the only celestial body that's flat.
Jon Steensen 2 years ago
you totally should! It is great fun and really facinating. It brings you a great insight into how humans can manage to decive themselves, and how deep they are willing to dig the hole rather than admit that they made a mistake. You can learn all kinds of things about the tactics that people will use, when they have no sound logic or data to back their claimes. It is a bit scary what some people can make themselves say or do, and though I am a bit unproud of it watching it all fall apart for them as soon as you poke a bit to them with some challenging questions can be really joyfull (I am not a better human than that, when it comes to idiots, especially because I feel that I might save them).
Jay 2 years ago
I've been in enough planes that I've seen the curve of the earth, try someone else.
Jon Steensen 2 years ago
Probably not. You have to go up really high to see the curvature of the Earth. A plane won't do the trick.
Load More Replies... Mickysixxx 2 years ago (edited)
Yes actually, i read flat earthers have members all around the globe
#40
They tried to convince me that Hitler had some good points... I think he's in jail now
censorshipsucks 2 years ago (edited)
hitler did have some good points. He was an ok artist and he tried to be vegetarian. I think that's about all though. /jk /joke
Austin Sauce 2 years ago
Hitler only had one good point, when he pointed that gun at his head.
René Sauer 2 years ago
and it was during hitlers reign that the german autobahn-system was truly developed xDD
Niki A 2 years ago
Unpopular opinion, but his speech style and methods to gain control were.... well...just plain impressive. Still not a good person though.
Dodo 2 years ago
Yup, he knew which buttons to press to control people. And it's not like other politicians/leaders don't use exactly the same methods.
Load More Replies... Andrewsarchus42 2 years ago
As a Jew, he was a decent artist and he protected animal rights. However, the vast, vast evils he committed massively overshadow those few good points.
Alex Martin 2 years ago
The only good thing about Hitler is he is dead. I only wish we could kill his idealogy but there are always some moronic white guys somewhere in the world trying to bring that c**p back.
#41
My new neighbor moved in and avoided contact for the first week or so before walking over to us while my wife and I were doing some yard work. He says "I've got my lady hollering at me to come to the hospital. She's having our kid." "Oh congrats," I said. "I hope it's not mine." He says.
Ozymandias73 2 years ago
Sounds like a week of avoidance wasn't long enough. Yikes! Sounds like Grade A A*****e to me.
Delta Dawn 2 years ago
“I hope it’s not mine either!” (I’m a woman so I could get away with it)
#42
"You should try Ivermectin" and I'm out...
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
yep. I'd say "well you're not a horse and covid is not a parasitic worm, so you are obviously not very smart."
Fat Harry 2 years ago
To be fair, drugs intended for one thing can have benefits for other conditions. Remember thalidomide, the morning-sickness drug that caused congenital deformities in babies? Turns out it can be used to treat malaria. And viagra? Originally for hypertension and angina. Not that I'm siding with the idiots who arbitrarily decided ivermectin could treat covid, just saying that simply because a drug has an intended use doesn't mean it has no uses beyond that.
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Skullface VonHornhelm 2 years ago
I use that stuff regularly... to prevent my horses from getting intestinal worms.
Delta Dawn 2 years ago
“Well actually…” *pushes glasses back up on bridge of nose* *enters long educational dialogue about how ivermectin works and what it’s used for and how that’s different from antivirals* (I’m a biologist with an advanced degree so they get to listen to me try to educate them.)
Benita Valdez 2 years ago
I just sterilize ny insides with vodka; got the vaccine too just to be safe 😂
#43
Asked a guy what he does at a business networking event.
"Well I'm a Chiropractor but looking to get out."
"how come?"
"All these me too accusations. In another State I had 3 of them. Good thing none of them went to the bar."
Edit: He probably said board instead of bar. As soon as he started complaining about me too accusations I pretty much tuned him out.
AJay 2 years ago (edited)
I should probably already know this, but what is a "me too accusation"? Edit: Thank you pandas for all the respectful replies, they were very helpful.
Saint Thomas 2 years ago (edited)
The "Me too" is a worldwide movement inviting women to speak up about the sexual violence they face, from name calling to groping or even worse. A.o things, they shared their bad experiences on social media with the #MeToo. Movement started around 2007, and got a big boost with the Weinstein scandal in 2017.
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S Mi 2 years ago
Run from this person. One allegation *might* be a miscommunication or something. 'Too many' = a predator
KBT 2 years ago
Nope, 1 allegation and he is predator, point blank period.
Load More Replies... censorshipsucks 2 years ago
Hmm the fact that he is a chiro is already sus. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chiropractic_controversy_and_criticism#:~:text=For%20most%20of%20its%20existence,in%20other%20health%20care%20professions.
Lakota Wolf 2 years ago
Yep. My mother swears by chiropractic and is always trying to push me to go get various bits of my spine and neck cracked. No thank you. She forced me to go to one when I was younger, and it was awful and borderline traumatic to have my back/neck "cracked". It doesn't do anything for you, its efficacy is questionable, and it can, in fact, make health problems worse... or create NEW health problems.
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Emptycaketin 2 years ago
I am aware I may get downvoted for this but there have been a lot of misuse of the #Metoo movement. There have been a lot more Amber Heard situations than people realize. There are innocent men in jail for this reason. It's really sad because it ruins it for the people who genuinely have been assaulted, especially by someone with authority over the victim.
Lyyyy 2 years ago
I’m not saying that it is impossible there are SOME cases like this you claim. But if this was true, there would be way WAY more doctors that got affected by this. Think about what they have to feel around.
Load More Replies... Lakota Wolf 2 years ago (edited)
Disagree. If someone tells me they're a chiropractor, or that they believe in chiropractics, that is PLENTY of data for me to form a reasonable - and negative - opinion about them.
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#44
Started at a new job, went for a team dinner and the very first thing he did was talk about how bad the dating scene was in the city and how "ugly" all the women are...
Dating scene was absolutely fine btw, I pull out of the conversation and then he just continues to ramble on about how smart he is vs everyone else.. safe to say I've been avoiding him since
Mickysixxx 2 years ago
🙌 I'm always making excuses not to go to "work functions". I've just spent the last 8hrs with you I don't want to go to the club and do another 3hrs I want to go home to my family
Load More Replies... Wysteria_Rose 2 years ago
Had a guy who believed all the women in our area were either "dating an abuser/someone awful" or "too stupid" to ask him out. Complete incel.
#45
I remember seeing someone for around 20 seconds (They didn't seem aware of my presence) and they were already making fun of me because I simply walked by. They made fun of other people too, but the fact that they just met someone and immediately targetted them for harassment is a red flag bigger than most poles can handle
Crouching hippo hidden panda 2 years ago
Reminds me of university, I had to walk through the fashion dep to get to art dep, and the b****y “fashionistas” who were really pretty basic, would always comment on my odd fashion choices. Or that they heard my thighs rubbing together as I walked, because god forbid I didn’t have a mile wide thigh gap and wasn’t cocaine chic
Chairman Miaow 2 years ago
When I volunteered at the Zandra Fashion and Textile Museum, I was unemployed and broke. It helped a lot when it came to explaining the year's gap in my CV, and the other volunteers were nice. However it put me off (rightly or wrongly) working in the fashion world in any capacity, as there was a lot of superficiality and unpleasantness. Sometimes we were invited to events. Zandra Rhodes herself was very nice and gave us homemade soup. I remember all that food, and really wanting to eat it, but feeling judged about eating it. It helped me financially to have a free meal then. In those days I was slim, I wouldn't say skinny but size 8-10 (bear in mind I mean UK so 4-6 in America). The b****y ones were nearer to the much-hyped "size 0/4 in my country". Looking back I think they were just really hungry. Maybe hangry!
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Umi chan 2 years ago
Reminds me of the popular girls at my high school they judge me cause I’m not popular like they laugh when I hand in my art project and one girl said you feeling popular because you are near us but she was the one who sat down at me and my friends table (the friends I were sitting with were popular) and none of us even liked her
Crouching hippo hidden panda 2 years ago
If your comment was intended for me, they were quite vocal as I passed through and weren’t bothered about hiding it. I often was alone arriving and they were like a gaggle geese waiting in the halls. I wasn’t the only person they did it to, looking back they were prob just insecure and art took on passing easy targets to boost their low self esteem. Wouldn’t bother me now, but unfortunately it did back then
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Had just started a job, and within a minute of meeting one of my new colleagues he waxes lyrical about how "weak" it is that one of our other colleagues uses an inhaler, oblivious to the fact I myself use an inhaler (though my asthma is mild and well managed). Ironically, the s**t talking colleague in question had no discernible chin and looked very out of shape himself.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
When he gets diabetes remind him of this conversation and ask him if insulin is for the weak as well.
Marcos Valencia 2 years ago
That guy would moonshine his own insuline, like a real man.
Load More Replies... Stephanie Did It 2 years ago
As an asthmatic myself, I can guarantee you that anyone who powers through living and working while struggling to breathe, or is managing despite having too little oxygen, is not weak. It's A fight every single day.
AliJanx 2 years ago
People that judge for using an inhaler are the exact reason I find a place to hide whenever I need to use mine.
Becca Kuehn 2 years ago
It's awful that judgemental idiots have caused you to hide when you use your inhaler.
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#47
At a gym a guy I knew to be a drug dealer came up to me and opened with "Would you look at the tits on that." About a friend who was a police officer. Classless and ignorant, not a friend winning combo I'm afraid. Only guy I've ever met who was every s**t male stereotype rolled into one.
Delta Dawn 2 years ago
Me: *stunned silence* I don’t have a good comeback for that. Any ideas? As a woman I probably won’t hear that first hand, but I’m still curious.
#48
I met one of my new colleagues at a barbecue that was being hosted by our work. I (a man) drove with another coworker (a woman and a friend of mine), so we arrived together.
When I was alone for a moment this guy, whom I’ve never spoken to before, comes up next to me and says “yo dude…you hittin’ that?” *gestures to my friend* I said “no, and she also has a boyfriend”
He very exaggeratedly says “*DAMN*”
Yada yada he got fired 2 years later for sexually harassing an intern
Karl Baxter 2 years ago
Why are euphemisms for sex so violent these days E.g. “Hitting”, “Smashing”, etc. ?
#49
"You don't scare me." Wasn't trying to scare you in the slightest.
Art the clown 2 years ago
I've had the opposite. Apparently I'm "scary" and look intimidating.
Benita Valdez 2 years ago
In fairness, Terrified would be considered scary to many people
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#50
Literally last night, was at a local pool comp and went to introduce myself to my second round opponent. We shake hands and his first words to me are “weak f*****g handshake bro” followed by “I hope you like banter mate” then proceeded to talk s**t about every aspect of my game. The worst part was he was actually good at pool so it just seems like he was generally a c**t. Some of his other opponents got it a lot worse than I did as well.
Highlight of the night was when the comp host basically yelled in his face “everyone in this room f*****g hates you” which received a round of applause. He didn’t seem to understand why that was.
“Just banter bro” 😒
Edit: Ahaha the comp is 90% regulars that are there every week. This was the guy’s first time playing there. He knew no one except for the couple of mates he brought. I can assure people calling me a liar that he was universally hated. He ended up losing the final which received more of a response than the host yelling at him but yeah lol. I don’t even know why I’m responding to this. I guess I have never had this much attention on anything I have ever shared on the internet.
BewilderedBanana 2 years ago
i read all that waiting for the tennis connection that isn't there. Great choice of pic
Lakota Wolf 2 years ago
Same XD I assumed, at first, that "pool" meant like... a pooled group of players that were playing tennis, paired off randomly for matches...
Load More Replies... Vix Spiderthrust 2 years ago (edited)
Lots of people get this wrong. "Banter" is between people who are already friends, and is a two-way street. There's an implied consent to it. It's like the difference between MMA and mugging somebody.
Jenny James 2 years ago
Loved playing men at pool. Their surprised faces and hurt egos while having to hand over what they lost is priceless.
crowspectre (he/they) 2 years ago
Unfortunately this sounds a lot like me. I can be really mean when I'm trying to be funny
#51
"OH, we finally have a female manager? I hope she won't cry like the last one. Maybe she can get [male manager #1 and #2] organized."- My new male employee, referring to me, who he didn't realize was standing within earshot behind him.
eternal gay panic (they/them) 2 years ago
wait... why is this bad? if male managers 1 and 2 were not working, why is it bad to hope that she could get them in line? no hate, just confused.
Delta Dawn 2 years ago
Probably the part about crying. Although I can’t abide performative crying in the office either, and I’m a woman. So I’d probably just nod in agreement.
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#52
I knew I wasn't gonna like her based off her actions on her first day at work. We work with dogs at a daycare and boarding place. In the morning, during feedings, one of the first things she tried to do was get meds from the med cabinet. I tell her no, that's front desk, they handle medication. She just kinda nods. In my head, I'm like not sure why you are trying to pass out meds without anyone explaining anything to you, but okay, let's move on.
Few days go by then one day, she asks if she's suppose to clean the water bowls we have in the dogs' suites overnight.(she was already told how to clean suites, which involve cleaning the bowls every morning) I just say yes.
She also asked me if she should clean the park water bowl after a dog peed in it. I again say yes.
She still works here, but no one likes her since she likes to pretend she knows what she's doing then asks questions that can be answered by having basic common sense and problem solving skills.
#53
Out to dinner with my husband’s new coworker and his wife. The wife was a vegan and she ordered just guacamole at the Mexican restaurant. When it comes, she calmly says “oh. I forgot I’m allergic to avocados.” I looked over at my husband and gave him the “I want to go home now” look. We stayed for the rest of dinner and immediately went home. Side note, the husband forgot she was vegan and kept calling her a vegetarian. They got divorced 1.5 years after that dinner.
Sofia 2 years ago
Maybe she discovered that she was only a short time before
Load More Replies... Marcos Valencia 2 years ago (edited)
So... she probably is not allergic to avocados and she probably only is vegan/vegetarian in public. Otherwhise, I don't understand what happens with these people. Not eating gluten is a glamorous lifestyle for some people.
#54
The new neighbor who after introducing himself pointed to his chest and says, “ instant a*****e just add beer, that’s what the family says”. Nah we’re not gonna be neighbor pals. F**k you Irv you were an a*****e even without beer.
Lakota Wolf 2 years ago
Why are some people weirdly proud of being an a-hole? I genuinely cannot wrap my head around that concept.
#55
"we need to start doing..." it was the assistant my work at the time transfered to work with me... literally first minute he was telling me how to fix my site. the one he knew next to nothing about
#56
It isn't so much what they say, it's how they say it.
If the person has not learned to take a breath between natural breaks in what they're saying and, instead, continue to steamroll over a conversation, I'm tuning out.
Marcos Valencia 2 years ago
I understand what you mean. I know someone like this. But what can I do? He has 9yo, is my son, has Asperger and, if you follow his talk, he brings you to incredible places. So, it paids back.
Sardonyx_3 2 years ago
Exactly! I'm more of a listener than a talker, so it's a little (better/easier) to let someone else (who has excellent ideas anyway) carry the convo.
Load More Replies... censorshipsucks 2 years ago
might be ASD as well, not necessarily rudeness. ASDs can't tell when it's someone else's turn.
Delta Dawn 2 years ago
they also may just be super excited about the topic
Load More Replies... crowspectre (he/they) 2 years ago
It doesn't matter tho people just interrupt you to keep talking whether or not they pause lol
#57
"I'm an equal-opportunity offender. I offend everybody equally!" (Says something racist.) (Says something homophobic.) (Says something sexist.)
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
ask them if they have anything s**t to say about white males, and if not, why not. IF they can't come up with anything s**t about white males, then tell them they are DEMONSTRABLY not an equal-opportunity offender.
#58
He learned I'm a physicist, and immediately started talking about infinite energy
DC 2 years ago
.... those are the worst. "Free energy machines" that are "supressed by THEM" - man, if there was such a thing, and even a conspiracy to supress - the one breaking it would be insanely rich within no time. No doubt, given how sleazy many companies act, that there would be one that would break every single word in a contract prohibiting said source of energy. This isn't some weird occurance where people conspire to supress something, but then act totally loyal to each other about that one subject, while dragging each other to court on a daily basis for minor patent violations or totally made up causes. It just is not there. The energy they claim to harvest does not exist, has never, will never, no matter how often that Schlauberger dude is said to have proven this, that, and beyond.
Boris Long-Johnson 2 years ago
Just drop your voice to a whisper and say “I’m not allowed to discuss it”.
Paulo Freitas 2 years ago (edited)
Lol this just reminded me of a Brazilian add for Guaraná if Im not wrong ( soft drink ), a cientist taped a buttered toast to the back of a cat, and cheated an infinite source of energy lol. ( Cat and buttered toast experiment ) on youtube
Delta Dawn 2 years ago
Morbid curiosity: “Go on… tell me more!” My uncle is like this and it’s actually fascinating to get a glimpse into his “logic”. I even ask questions to show I’m listening to and thinking about what he says. I have to wind it down after about half an hour though.
#59
Polish girl in my class proceeded to tell me, a Scottish person, that Japanese whisky is better than Scottish whisky. I'm all up for a lively discussion but when asked for names of either Japanese or Scottish whiskies she had tried she "couldn't remember". When asked why she believed this to be so she "didn't know". Well f*****g shut up then ya cow. I'm old af and she was very 20 and full of shite. Some of the stuff she'd talk about made me cringe so we don't associate anymore, who has the energy or time to listen to that shite. Edit: Just because I've said this a few times I'll edit it here - **I am no whisky expert or connoisseur, I am not saying Scottish whisky is better than Japanese whisky or vice versa, it's subjective, everyone will like different things. I would have totally been up for a discussion with her regarding what she has tried, what I have tried and f**k it, let's try this together but instead the 'I don't know/I don't remember' really got my back up.**
CG 2 years ago (edited)
I've tried Japanese, Scottish, and even North American whiskey. I feel Scottish whiskey is a bit stronger than the other two. Japanese whiskey is a little smoother. North American whiskey (at least the local Canadian ones I've tried) is usually a little lighter on the alcohol content. I personally prefer North American whiskey, mostly due to affordability, but at the end of the day, it falls into personal preference. There's no objectivity as to which is better, due to different taste buds from person to person.
Daffydillz~ 2 years ago
You're exactly right. I don't think there can really be any judgment on what someone prefers to drink. Everyone has their personal favorites. I haven't tried Japanese whiskey but I'm open to it. I just really prefer less oak flavor infused into my whiskey. I like mine a little more smooth but straight or on the rocks. There's so many good ones out here right now it's crazy. I live in the heart of oak barrel whiskey making and there's new factories and brands opening up all the time. Mark Walberg was in town a couple weeks ago at area liquor stores to promote his new tequila that's aged in oak barrels. They take oak barrel curing seriously around here, lol.
Load More Replies... Delta Dawn 2 years ago
It’s all awful and burns my esophagus like fire. Don’t downvote me … if there was a whiskey that didn’t feel like broken glass going down I’m sure I’d change my mind.
Lorraine R 2 years ago (edited)
Saw a Western comedy long ago where an Englishman was given his first taste of the local whiskey; after choking it down, he laughed and said, "It's rather like drinking a porcupine."
Load More Replies... Carrie B 2 years ago
You sound like a child. "I know you are but what am I".
Load More Replies... #60
First 1 on 1 chit chat with a new guy on site, " I'm really thankfully my son's not gay". And then complained about every possible thing that's not a straight white guy
eternal gay panic (they/them) 2 years ago
wish i could do that in real life -_-
Load More Replies... #61
2004, first day in my college dorms, and the very first words my new roommate says to me (after “Hi, I’m [name]”) were “You’re a republican, right?” I didn’t want to cause problems within the first minute of meeting, and I didn’t really follow politics too closely at the time, so I just said “Sure” to keep the peace… Then he slapped a “proud republicans” sticker on the front of our door. It was not a great year.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
well you learnt a lesson then. Taking silence in the face of injustice is to take the side of the oppressor. (Yes, in usa, republicans are currently oppressors. See e.g. Roe v Wade.).
Jane Brown 2 years ago
My roommate at an Ivy said “your Jane Brown, and turned on her heal ( I’m black). She told other students that she was afraid of me (4’11” scrawny kid from Arkansas) despite being a nationally ranked gymnast. Le sigh.
Delta Dawn 2 years ago
You can keep the peace and still just calmly be yourself. Don’t let other people define you just to get along with them.
#62
at his wife's birthday party, met the husband for the first time, a Trump fan, I was able to let that go... but then the recent Aussie wildfires came up...How do they know [climate change] isn't something that happened regularly? after I explained 3 different points of how climate can be measured over recent years, decades and millennia, he doubled down on the disbelief of science am forced to interact with him because his wife is in my wife's circle of friends, but avoid if possible
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
How could you let it go that he was a Trump fan? That's like forgiving someone for admiring Mussolini.
Fat Harry 2 years ago
"At least Mussolini let them dance around a maypole" - Jean (Dinnerladies, UK comedy series)
Load More Replies... Sarah SH 2 years ago
I try to keep politics out of social conversation as it seems no matter what, it turns heated and serious pretty quick.
Jon Steensen 2 years ago
I think that politics can be a very interesting topic if you know how to debate correctly and realise that you can disagree without disrespecting and that it is not all about scoring points but gaining new insights. I don't think that anybody has the ultimate truth, and that even though I don't agree with a certain party, they can have some good points from time to time and add a bit of nuance to my way of thinking if only I am willing to listening without automatically dismiss all they say as pure evil -It rarely is, but it sometimes can be seriously misguided and have the facts completely wrong, but still make kind of sense given certain beliefs. I think it is a good exercise to step a bit out of your echo chamber from time to time and test the soundness of your own beliefs by letting someone with a different opinion challenge them a bit.
Load More Replies... Delta Dawn 2 years ago (edited)
“No, they DO know it’s not been happening all along.” and full stop end of convo. Say it with conviction. It will at least shut down the conversation even if it doesn’t educate the person. Or do the “I don’t understand, can you explain that?” trick, or the I’m-stuck-in-this-situation trick of just repeating back to them the last thing they say, as a question.
#63
"I like people - I really do, but after about a minute - minute and a half I gotta get the f**k outta there" George Carlin
Jane Brown 2 years ago
Amen. Self-interested people who swarm the desserts ar a buffet instead of holding up the kids to let them pick then their choices seems mean.
#64
"FOR THE NEXT THREE MONTHS THE FIRST AND LAST WORD OUT OF YOUR MISERABLE MOUTH WILL BE 'SIR'"
I figured he must be angry about something do I tried to ask him what was wrong and if he wanted to talk about it, but he just kept getting madder and madder
#65
Went to the penthouse party of a guy my friend used to hook up with. This dude gave me Patrick Bateman vibes, from his house decor to the way he talked. Total creep. The only time he spoke directly to me the entire party he was making fun of homeless people. I did not like him.
#66
“License and registration please “
Paulo Freitas 2 years ago
Lmao, 1st car i ever bought, a little 205 Rallye, slightly modified, in iddle it would Run at 3.5K RPM and kind of made a " boxer engine " noise ( similar to a Subaru Impreza noise ), só Bright idea ( keep in mind i was 19 ) lets get it an " Open exhaust " and the thing was loud as hell, One day i was out and i Saw a random stop operation, since i was driving downhill, got it in neutral, and passed with no isues, half an hour later lol, was was now going uphill, and got stopped, " licence and registration " which i Gave to the Nice Police woman, even flirted with her a bit, She was smilling a lot, her coleague on the other side of the road crosses in iny Direction and goes " good evening driver, would you please start your vehicle and rev it a bit, don't worry it wont waste much fuel " .. in sum ended up with a 50€ ticket plus another 75€ for a new factory exhaust.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
yeah hate it when I meet those guys, always wonder if I am going to get capped (african).
Benita Valdez 2 years ago
It's horribly sad. And the "jokes" about getting pulled over or arrested for bbwd, bbww and bbwb are not funny at all and a sad coping mechanism for a horrible situation. (Being black while driving, walking and breathing, respectively).
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#67
Was out to eat with this person and they chewed with their mouth open. Yea our friendship didn’t stand a chance…
Angie Charlesworth 2 years ago
Had a lovely guy friend, but I could see the ice-cream rolling around in his mouth. Turned my tummy.
#68
She showed up to a little get together and the person who invited her said that they would be taking bets on who could sit with her for more then 30 minutes.
10 bucks per person, winner kept the pot.
I assumed they were just being rude and planned to tell her of her "friends" plans as soon as she showed up.
She walked in, looked at me and scoffed and asked if the grey car outside belonged to me, I said yes. She told me that with the money that car cost I could have bought something nicer.
Ok, well whatever.
I went to get a drink and sat to watch the crowd gather around her.
I already didn't like her but she went on to tell everyone about how she could never date someone who had a crappy credit score or couldn't pay their vehicles off after buying it, someone who wanted to quit the contest asked for a cigarette, she opened up her purse and showed everyone a fresh pack of smokes and then told everyone why she doesn't smoke and why anyone who asks for a cigarette is either too broke to buy them or doesn't plan ahead of times.
The guy asked her for one of her cigarettes, she said no and put them back in her purse.
She talked about all the cars she "bought" basically her parents would co-sign for her and pay the car off to build her credit and she would give them a few thousand to pay them back.
She was nuts and wouldn't stop talking. I disliked her but was also fascinated with her, she was super weird.
Update:
So I have gotten a few questions about this girl and that night. Also who is Gina?
There was something like 15-20 people there and most entered the "contest" I think the pot got up to 100-120 bucks.
The winner was just some guy who I didn't know, he spent the money getting every one McDonald's and beer, so he was pretty cool.
She was about 22-23, she had just finished getting her High School Diploma because she had dropped out to "make money" according to her, I think she sold some milk shake things and fitness plans with some MLM.
For those wondering what happened to her, im not 100% what happened to her, she wasn't a my friend but she did show up to a few parties I was at and she seemed calmer she used to bring her own bottle of liquor and wouldn't share which was kind of funny because on one occasion they caught her filling her bottle with a bottle of jack that some one had brought and left on the kitchen counter, but she swore that all she drank was Hennessey and Fireball.
Kim Lorton 2 years ago
That is so sad! People would generally want to have friends, but most are not really sure how to pick make them !
Delta Dawn 2 years ago
I’d be all in on that pot of money. Cool way to manage the social situation, actually - keeps everyone from automatically shunning her, even though that would be a completely reasonable thing for everyone to do.
#69
First day of my sophomore year of college, I immediately noticed the R.A. for my suite had a habit of responding with "What?" every time he was spoken to unprompted, forcing the person to repeat themselves. By the end of the day I straight wanted to murder this dude.
Awesome At Being Autistic 2 years ago
I can identify. I have Auditory Processing Disorder. It takes me a minute to process what someone is saying, especially if I'm thinking about something else or doing something else when someone speaks to me.
Pandapoo 2 years ago
@Awesome - I think my husband has this. I’ve learned to not repeat the question or statements and after a few seconds he knows what I said.
Load More Replies... Debbie 2 years ago
Solution: Call their name. Like: "Debbie?""Yes?" Then say what you wanted to say. "I think cheese smells". Getting their attention first gives them time to turn the focus to what you are saying. Maybe they were hard of hearing and didn't even realize that themselves. And as "Awesome at Being Autistic"-user says, it can be a disorder. Call centre agents know - the first few words you say are not heard, it is the time people need to tune into your voice and the words you are saying. That is why the greeting order is usually "Goodmorning/goodday (general greeting), business/organization name, your name. Maaaaybe they hear your name.
crowspectre (he/they) 2 years ago
I have auditory processing disorder and literally cannot understand words if you don't get my attention first and make sure either can see your mouth moving or there's no other rnoise interrupting you. I can't control it
eternal gay panic (they/them) 2 years ago
i also have apd and am constantly saying "wat?" or "huh?" or "can you repeat that?"
Load More Replies... kath morgan 2 years ago
Very comforting to know that being hard of hearing is making people have thoughts of killing me.
General Anaesthesia 2 years ago
For those who, like me, are unfamiliar with "R.A.": "A resident assistant (RA), also known by a variety of other names, is a trained peer leader who coordinates activities in residence halls in colleges..." - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Resident_assistant
Jon Steensen 2 years ago
It could be a hearing issue. If he was not prepared for that question and hence was "tuned in" and having his attention focused in the right place, he might simply not catch all the information that you are trying to convey the first time around. I know it can be excrutiating tiresome to deal with that kind of people, as you might feel disrespected or that the communication is really inefficient, but if there is nothing they can do about it, the best thing you can do is to cut them some slack.
#70
“I’m going to f**k up your face”
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
"Thank you for that. Would you mind me recording this engagement now because I need to lay a restraining order against you."
Fabian Bernard 2 years ago
''I prefer it in the b..t, would you mind for a change ?" How to challenge fragile masculinity
Benita Valdez 2 years ago
Yes but because of the fragility and toxicity you may get punched for that one.
Load More Replies... Delta Dawn 2 years ago
“Well I’m live recording this for my YouTube channel, you don’t mind do you?”
#71
“well, I’m a taxpayer, so……”
Sarah SH 2 years ago
“I pay your salary!” used to talk down to people like police officers, teachers, etc.
Vix Spiderthrust 2 years ago
My wife used to work as a hospital receptionist. She got this from one guy whose details she had on a screen. "Well, sir, it says here you're unemployed so actually I pay your benefits."
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#72
It was a leap year and her birthday was on Feb 29th. It was the week of her birthday and she was holding her boyfriend to give her a birthday, every day to make up for birthdays she had missed previously. She was complaining that the birthday she had today wasn't as good as one of the previous ones and she wanted the last one to be the best.
René Sauer 2 years ago
well, her birthday is only every 4 years, so technically...
Load More Replies... #73
When i was an intern in like 2017, i used to carpool in a packed car of other interns, mixed gender group. First day this girl asks the whole car, but shes only directing it to the guys, "Do you think Kendall or Kylie is hotter?" Absolute silence for several minutes. Edit: to answer some questions. No celebrity gossip isnt a moral failing but it was a super awkward question because when stuff crosses over into a conversation of physical attractiveness with a bunch of new coworkers, its uncomfortable.. also in my case, small talk with this girl was always awkward and we never got along in the 6month internship. She also ended up being really rude and catty sometimes.
#74
Asked my new coworker what he likes to do for fun, he responded with “I like to memorize Bible versus in the shower” . I laughed, he did not. Weird dude.
Stephanie Did It 2 years ago
Wait, you don't like a brand new coworker because you asked what he enjoyed doing, he told you and you laughed at him? Sounds like you're the one who needs to be avoided.
Fat Harry 2 years ago
He laughed thinking the other guy was joking, as indicated by the "he did not". And, to be honest, if someone is so religious that they memorise bible verses for fun then there's a huge chance I wouldn't get on with them either as we're likely to have conflicting opinions on a whole load of stuff. And, btw, the thread is not "why did you dislike someone" it was "how did you know you wouldn't GET ALONG with someone".
Load More Replies... Jon Steensen 2 years ago
How do you do that without getting you book soaking wet or drowning a tablet/computer? Can you get the bible as an audiobook?
#75
I met this guy at a bar and I was moderately interested in him but when we started texting throughout the following week idk I was REALLY into him to the point where I sent him a few pics of my chest.. and then one day he went on some tangent about how the vaccines are bad for you etc etc.. … I’m an RN and I was so embarrassed that I sent him my jugs without properly moons sure he wasnt a lunatic Edit: I meant “making” not moons smh lol
Paulo Freitas 2 years ago
Yup actually it kind of is lol, considering that the Latin word for Moon is Luna...
Load More Replies... Jon Steensen 2 years ago
I think the rule of thumb should just be: Never send private pictures of your body that you don't want to end up on the internet some day. Unfortunately we have very little control over what could happen to our private images these days, your current relation ship could end up crashing and burning for whatever reason, and hurt feelings can cause some ugly revence actions, so the safest thing is to not create intimate images in the first place.
#76
Wasn't something they said, but they started grinding their teeth while talking and raising their voice to get their point across at the tiniest first disagreement.
#77
This is going to be tame compared to the others here. So my job involves me calling people to help them with their problems (not cold calling, they've contacted us for help first). Each day I have a long-a*s list and want to get through it as fast as possible, so shorter phone calls are best. So when someone starts a conversation with "Okay, I'll try to keep this short..." I already know I won't like them, because that's code for "I'm gonna tell you my life story and I won't take a single breath throughout."
#78
Do they have to talk? Does nodding and smiling count? There was this dude I knew who was a total bullshitter. This dude was like that door from Labyrinth who never told the truth. You could bet money that if his lips were in motion, he was telling a story that straight up did not happen. One night, my friend and I bumped into him at 7-11, and he got out of his car to tell us some horseshit about getting pulled over and schooling the cop who did it about regulations (yes, homie was obviously white). Out of the passenger side emerged this girl.... To this day, I still don't understand my reaction to this chick. She was listening to his stupid s**t, nodding along to all the right beats and laughing in all the right places. And there was something about her that made me see red. As in, I'm watching this girl go along with this obvious b******t, and my hearing starts to go. I no longer hear this dipshit talking, I only see this creature that looks human, but whatever is behind those eyes was... something evil. I felt like a paladin looking at a minor demon. A disgusting creature. Like I was looking at a snake. This creature was false in every sense of the word. The loudmouth doing the talking was just full of s**t; that's how he was and what he did. Nobody took him seriously. This nodding thing, however... it was dishonest in a whole different way; one that made me feel actively hostile. I'm an extrovert. People are my thing. I people for a living, and I people for fun. Never before that or since have I ever met someone who I never wanted to see again so hard, and I don't think she even said a word. Edit: I guess I'm a crazy misogynist now.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
No, what you saw was a narcissist-confabulator/borderline couple. The narcissist craves attention and worship. The borderline wants to be approved of and merely noticed. They attract each other madly.
Jon Steensen 2 years ago (edited)
No you are not misogynist now. You met ONE individual you did not like, and that is ok, it happens. Horible people are all over the place (and luckily so are good people too), and they can come in all kinds of shapes and genders, male, female (and something in between, or completely outside). The isue with being misogynist only arises when you start generalising (e.i. all women are awfull beings, or stupid, sleasy etc.) or you start to make up a correlation between her behaviour and her gender that is simply not there, e.i. she was only acting awfully because she was a woman and women are simply made that way. Critisising a person for their disgusting behaviour can be fine, no matter what their gender is, as that should not really be the diffentiating factor for how you treat people -that should solely be based on their wording/actions alone.
Kim Lorton 2 years ago
Nope! You are not. I hVe looked at only one person in my life and saw evil. He raised the hackles on my neck, he oozed this black, slimy aura and his eyes were truly vacant of humanity. He was a co worker of my then boyfriend at the time. I felt like if I stood too close to him that black slick of nothingness would start to come toward me. I was a nurse and have seen vacant eyes before in drug addicted patients. But this dude, I would swear, sold his soul to the devil and the reason wasn't a good reason. It has been over 30 years and I still remember him and vaguely what he looked like. But his aura and missing soul, i will never unsee. He was also not a bad dude, it is just his humanity period and his soul, were completely missing. I was not a praying person then, but I prayed for him and prayed to never see him again.
The Chronic Insomniac 2 years ago
You are describing someone with an evident psychopathy. To dismiss logic based explanations over superstition, then further believing that having a conversation with your inner dialogue will somehow change that person or protect you, is simply inaccurate. I have borderline personality disorder and only discovered two years nago that the reason I ended up in toxic relationships is because borderlines are attracted to men with narcissitic personality disorder. (It has to do with love bombing and the trauma borderlines survived as children)
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"I decided to talk to you because you seemed like the smartest one in the room"
#80
It’s all about the tone for me.
#81
New girl at my job. I asked her how her training videos were going and she rambled for about 30 seconds about how her old professors bred horses. She ended up being my least favorite coworker.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
1. 30sec is not that long? 2. what is the link between horses and training videos? 3. maybe she wanted you to go away?
#82
There's a certain type of cringy weirdo that I just seem to be a f*****g beacon for. Think a socially stunted weeb, or the kind of person who talks just a little too loud about things that are just a little too private to be telling you. Or maybe the kind of person who just kind of never shuts the f**k up. I don't know how I'd describe them exactly, but it's that sort of annoying person. Every time I meet one of them they just gravitate straight towards me. I do not like them, and my immediate first thought is "oh god, one of *them*". Whenever I meet one, I know I won't like them and I've never been wrong yet. Funnily enough, the last two times it happened they were both curly haired white girls named Jessica.
Lakota Wolf 2 years ago
While I am not a huge fan of people who are narcissistically oblivious and never shut up, gotta say that OP sounds pretty judgmental themselves, with using the term "weeb" and the statement "oh god, one of *them*". While I may agree with their opinion, they're a little rude with their stereotyping, IMO.
Paulo Freitas 2 years ago
Man, i just heard David Tennant calling Jessicaaa right now..... ( Jéssica Jones show on Netflix )
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
might be undiagnosed ASD. Look: talking in an unusual way. No boundaries. No understanding of social cues. Hyperfocused nerd interests. Probably ASD. I'd say you obviously look like a kind person.
What do you think ?
Hawkmoon 2 years ago
I don't think I've ever met someone I hated from minute one. On the other hand, I could have sometimes a weird feeling when I meet someone. That most often turns out to be a red flag confirmed later by his/her actions. I think it's my subconscious that perceives signs that I don't see immediately.
Leo Domitrix 2 years ago
Exactly. Your subconscious is picking up clues, and eventually there's enough for your conscious mind to say "RUN!"
Load More Replies... Jordi Sharpe 2 years ago
About 2 years ago, this kid started working for us (lasted 3 weeks) and the first conversation he tried to start was about how tight his girlfriend's pussy was. I shut him down with the fierceness.
Mickysixxx 2 years ago
I had a young bloke (22yr) do this when i was working with him. I schooled him lol I said "mate, you bring your Mrs to work BBQs and stuff if you want us to respect you and her how about you do it and stop telling everyone her private business" he was shocked I didn't want to hear about him having sex
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Lady Snowfall 2 years ago
My first day on the job and a coworker asked if I was a Christian. I answered yes. He asked if he took a gun out and put it to my head, would I be okay with him pulling the trigger?
LibrarianJanet 2 years ago
First time I met my partner's (white) mom, literally the first words out of her mouth were "I'm so sorry about all the n*****s. I tried to block them from building their church here but was voted down." I mean...who says that to their son's GF?
Boggitha Johns 2 years ago (edited)
The absolute most asinine, moronic thing Ive ever heard in my entire life was said to me within 5 minutes of meeting the guy. Im a decent conversationalist and rarely am spechless just because I was a bartender for 15 years so you really get good at talking to people. But this dude told me that if you got a swastika tattooed on your forehead and you lived in a Jewish community you could legally go on disability because it would be too dangerous for you to leave your house to go to work. I wish I had a picture of my face when he said it because there's no way I was able to hide just how confused I was. This guy really thought he was some kind of genuis free thinker to
Iustin Vreme 2 years ago (edited)
i would overlook most of these, except those previewing bullying/passive aggressiveness. there are enough truly evil peoples and situations to be judgmental about anyone else. as for hate...we should only hate the evil, not the people we don't like; that's not a defense mechanism, it's arrogance.
Mickysixxx 2 years ago
I cannot stand people telling about sexual exploits they've had with their significant other. If you want me to respect you and your partner dont tell me your private business, its for you and them only
If 2 years ago (edited)
Hate is a big word and feeling. I dont't really hate anyone. I can disdain people after a few seconds conversation if they're numbness, mindlessness and insensivity. There's this pretty married young woman working as a housekeeper at my best friend house. He's a retired well looking 68yo neurologist with health problems. One day, without context, she said (in front of him and his daughter and me) that his husband is not jealous of him because he saw where he stands. I hate not the person but the lack of sensitiveness many people express in their working and not working life. Everyday I experience this even if I 'm a very sincere person. The lack of human kindness and empathy.
Jack S 2 years ago (edited)
Was working a temp job in a warehouse and this new girl came in a couple of weeks after I started. She starts going on about conspiracy theories and flat earth. Now usually I can just laugh about this stuff and carry on with my day. Then she's says the most whackadoo s**t I've ever heard... Ready for this... "I don't believe in gravity"... I mean, wtaf am I supposed with a sentence like that. I was just like "k cool, I'm going for a smoke. Can I have some of your weed?"
Deborah Rubin 2 years ago
Some new new people moved in across the hall a few weeks ago. First words out of her mouth: "Are you Christian?" When I said I'm Jewish, she said "oh, we have some Jewish friends, they're so nice." Actually, to be truthful, the absolutely first thing was to look at my dog and say, "so that's what I've heard barking." You're down already, my service dog is not a "that". So far, I've colored a Star of David and put it on my door so they have to see it the first thing out of their door. Haven't spoken to them, but when I do, the first word out of my mouth will be Shalom.
Hawkmoon 2 years ago
I don't think I've ever met someone I hated from minute one. On the other hand, I could have sometimes a weird feeling when I meet someone. That most often turns out to be a red flag confirmed later by his/her actions. I think it's my subconscious that perceives signs that I don't see immediately.
Leo Domitrix 2 years ago
Exactly. Your subconscious is picking up clues, and eventually there's enough for your conscious mind to say "RUN!"
Load More Replies... Jordi Sharpe 2 years ago
About 2 years ago, this kid started working for us (lasted 3 weeks) and the first conversation he tried to start was about how tight his girlfriend's pussy was. I shut him down with the fierceness.
Mickysixxx 2 years ago
I had a young bloke (22yr) do this when i was working with him. I schooled him lol I said "mate, you bring your Mrs to work BBQs and stuff if you want us to respect you and her how about you do it and stop telling everyone her private business" he was shocked I didn't want to hear about him having sex
Load More Replies... Lady Snowfall 2 years ago
My first day on the job and a coworker asked if I was a Christian. I answered yes. He asked if he took a gun out and put it to my head, would I be okay with him pulling the trigger?
LibrarianJanet 2 years ago
First time I met my partner's (white) mom, literally the first words out of her mouth were "I'm so sorry about all the n*****s. I tried to block them from building their church here but was voted down." I mean...who says that to their son's GF?
Boggitha Johns 2 years ago (edited)
The absolute most asinine, moronic thing Ive ever heard in my entire life was said to me within 5 minutes of meeting the guy. Im a decent conversationalist and rarely am spechless just because I was a bartender for 15 years so you really get good at talking to people. But this dude told me that if you got a swastika tattooed on your forehead and you lived in a Jewish community you could legally go on disability because it would be too dangerous for you to leave your house to go to work. I wish I had a picture of my face when he said it because there's no way I was able to hide just how confused I was. This guy really thought he was some kind of genuis free thinker to
Iustin Vreme 2 years ago (edited)
i would overlook most of these, except those previewing bullying/passive aggressiveness. there are enough truly evil peoples and situations to be judgmental about anyone else. as for hate...we should only hate the evil, not the people we don't like; that's not a defense mechanism, it's arrogance.
Mickysixxx 2 years ago
I cannot stand people telling about sexual exploits they've had with their significant other. If you want me to respect you and your partner dont tell me your private business, its for you and them only
If 2 years ago (edited)
Hate is a big word and feeling. I dont't really hate anyone. I can disdain people after a few seconds conversation if they're numbness, mindlessness and insensivity. There's this pretty married young woman working as a housekeeper at my best friend house. He's a retired well looking 68yo neurologist with health problems. One day, without context, she said (in front of him and his daughter and me) that his husband is not jealous of him because he saw where he stands. I hate not the person but the lack of sensitiveness many people express in their working and not working life. Everyday I experience this even if I 'm a very sincere person. The lack of human kindness and empathy.
Jack S 2 years ago (edited)
Was working a temp job in a warehouse and this new girl came in a couple of weeks after I started. She starts going on about conspiracy theories and flat earth. Now usually I can just laugh about this stuff and carry on with my day. Then she's says the most whackadoo s**t I've ever heard... Ready for this... "I don't believe in gravity"... I mean, wtaf am I supposed with a sentence like that. I was just like "k cool, I'm going for a smoke. Can I have some of your weed?"
Deborah Rubin 2 years ago
Some new new people moved in across the hall a few weeks ago. First words out of her mouth: "Are you Christian?" When I said I'm Jewish, she said "oh, we have some Jewish friends, they're so nice." Actually, to be truthful, the absolutely first thing was to look at my dog and say, "so that's what I've heard barking." You're down already, my service dog is not a "that". So far, I've colored a Star of David and put it on my door so they have to see it the first thing out of their door. Haven't spoken to them, but when I do, the first word out of my mouth will be Shalom.
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