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Time heals all wounds, right? Sure, sometimes. But that is not the case when you forgot to bring the sauce to a BBQ eleven years ago. Your own family will needle you on such an irreparable disaster for the rest of their lives.

People will remain salty about petty injustices, and there's not that much anyone can do about it. Someone might say something about forgiveness, but then no one would get to complain. So where's the fun in that?

Kids are no exception. Recently, Todd Dillard's viral tweet kickstarted a thread where parents share the verbal jabs their kids throw at them for the petty crimes they have committed. And let me tell you, they sting.

Todd said his daughter is a curious and kind girl.

"I remember scraping off the burnt part of the quesadilla and then serving it to her," he told Bored Panda. "The look on her face was like I'd made dinner by microwaving socks! I think I made meatballs for her instead."

This time, she did end up having a quesadilla. However, it wasn't burned.

While research has demonstrated that very young children can recall memories with specific details, for memories of their parents failing to become autobiographical—part of the child’s life story and real to them—there must first be a developed sense of self and personal identity.

Interestingly, children do not fully develop a sense of self until they're around 1 ½ or 2 years of age. Having a sense of self, the “I” separate from others, gives a place for memory to be organized and develop personal meaning.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Needing a fiver to pay someone (decades ago, when paper money & physically meeting a person still was a thing, so maybe 2019 or so), I exchanged my tenner for two of their five. They still feel shortchanged, even though they're outstanding at math. I suppose it is a lesson in scarcity-added-value.

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    Although memory is not fully developed in infancy, the early childhood period (birth through age 8) is important for children in building and acquiring the development of memory.

    Looking at memory development can provide parents with a new way to think about and plan for their children. Think of it like this, memory development not only takes you back to experiences that hold meaning, but it is a complex cognitive ability that is important in many aspects of thinking and learning, such as language and literacy, planning, following directions, problem-solving, reflecting, imagining, and the overall ability to form a positive sense of self. Our memory is vital to our everyday life.

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    Remembering starts with understanding. Children learn about memory by talking with others and by experiencing life within their environments. However, if children experience something that they do not fully understand, they are less likely to remember it (or to recall events correctly).

    So adults play a significant role in helping children understand and remember.

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    The most important thing adults can do is to provide responsive, joyful, and nurturing interactions with children. Another quite important, yet simple way adults can contribute is by telling stories and narrating experiences, especially the ones they have shared with children. By doing so, the adult can revisit events, provoke thought, and even help children recall what they cannot remember. In essence, the adult is reconstructing the shared memory.

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    This brings us to language. It bridges understanding and helps in shaping memory. Adults can foster language with children by telling stories, retelling events, and asking questions that relate to experiences children have had. Questions that tap into the what, the where, the when, the why, and the how really help children gather details, descriptions, and emotions about the experience.

    Eventually, children will start to ask themselves the same types of questions that the adults have been asking. As children look inward, ask questions, and try to understand their own thoughts, they are forming memories.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I mean, they only know life with you. It must be unimaginable that you had a life before knowing them...

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    But in order for children to be able to imagine, they must use information that is stored in the brain (things they remember and understand). When they begin to imagine, the details recombine in a new way.

    Along with fostering language, adults can cultivate children's imaginative play by using props, materials, and photographs–anything that sparks a connection to both past memories and to form newly imagined ideas. Drawing tools and materials are also good support for documenting, organizing, and illustrating past and forthcoming ideas.

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    When children start going to school, they must be able to process information to follow directions and remember classroom rules.

    To process information, children need to categorize, understand, and respond to the message that an adult gives them.

    But remember, before they can process a message, all parts of it must be understood. Since children have limited memory spans, they may miss part of the message, or even all of it, if they have to process too many things at once.

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    Again, adults can help children to remember and do what we ask of them by giving directions that are uncomplicated and stated effectively, such as “Please put the books on the bookshelf”. It is much better than “Let’s clean up.”

    Also, use clear directives of what to do as opposed to what not to do. For example, it is better to ask children to “please walk” as opposed to “no running”.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I understand, my mom 74 year old mother still asks me if I (43) need to "go potty" before we leave the house.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My mom once undercooked the eggs she was giving to my dad for his lunch. He still asks her if he needs a straw to eat his eggs.

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    We can't stress this enough—it really helps when adults clearly explain the “why” of a direction. For example, when children are asked to put the books away, we might add that, “We need to put our books back on the shelf so we can find them tomorrow.”

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    The child doesn’t have to use any memory to wonder why they have to put the books away and can focus on the task and not the reason behind it.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like your son was really attached to that ice cream. Imagine what he'd be saying if you had forgotten and driven off with the ice cream on the car roof... xD

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    Lastly, routines. They can also help children form memory. By repeating behaviors, children’s knowledge base increases and becomes more organized. Through repetitive routines, children can fully process information. Responses are remembered and become more automatic. Keep routines simple and consistent. Consider breaking activities into steps and introducing steps gradually.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had a similar experience when I was five and discovered that chili chocolate is amazing.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ooh I'd forgotten the time mom cut my sister's hair along with the top of her ear... So Much Blood. That used to come up a lot for a decade and a half, basically until she moved out.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Already ignoring the mental trauma of your child? You burned the waffles!!!

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's sooooo hard not to do though, I've clipped myself accidentally so many times

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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe you shouldn't have woke me up in the middle of the night for the last 3 nights.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Awww. I have these protein bars Injust started trying -brownie and chocolate chip cookie dough from Costco, very good - I don't want to share so I say it has coffee and don't show my 7 year old the pic. Surprised she hasn't read the ingredients like she enjoys doing I hope they don't draw pics of my protein bars.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I left my freezer door slightly open before going on vacation for 3 weeks. I made the mistake of telling my parents. For years after they’d tell me to remember to close the freezer door before I leave for vacations. And in their mind it was always “just last year” when it happened. Even almost a decade later.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I threw up at 6 after soup with mushrooms. Never knowingly touched mushrooms again. But I don't blame my parents.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Did the same --- once ---. This became a permanent time reference point, "Before (or after) you forgot me at daycare......"

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    3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Crazy memories. My daughter remembered at 3 where we out a Christmas decoration the year before. She is 7.5. On Wednesday, she got excited and declared it was Wacky Wednesday - the day after Dr. Suess' bday- and mentioned a show on the wall, etc. This was after reading the book last summer. So it meant a day of creating wacky stuff on the fly. We drank water from bowls, piled lunch in a bowl, had breakfast (green eggs like the day before) for dinner with a raw carrot as well. They wore mismatched shoes.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He should have given you the taco. No big deal, just because it was outside of the norm for breakfast. If you slept through dinner it means you were tired a d you shouldn't be punished for that.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was cutting my nephew's hair when he was about four. He moved suddenly and I cut my finger. It was so quick that I didn't feel it for a minute but I dripped a bit of my blood near my nephew's face and 26 years later, he still brings it up "that one time I cut him..."

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My brother and his friend cut the ponytail off my Chrissy doll in the 70s. If you remember her, you'll know why that was a big deal. I haven't forgiven him. We're in our 50s. :D

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have once avoided that a group of girl scouts added 10 (!) liters of milk to 1(!) pack of mac & cheese in stead of 0.1 liter

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would be more concerned about the fact that he wasn't with your mum in the hospital

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