50 Women Share The Things Others Say To Them Without Realizing They’re Offensive

I've known, and said, I didn't want kids since I was 10. I'm 43 this year, still don't want kids. I have a niece and nephew, both under 5. I love them, but every time I'm around them, and every time I talk to their parents, I am so very, very, glad that's not me.

I'm so glad that this is now even a subject for conversation. When I was in my 20's, it was very much a widespread assumption that a woman would get married and have children. That has definitely changed (and needs more momentum yet), and I'm so glad. And at the risk of downvotes I will say this: no matter how much things have changed, it is almost *always* the woman who ends up making the most sacrifices for a child.

Had this many times and look, years later at 47, happy with no kids!

I hated it when people used to say that to me, but equally, I am not a traitor to our gender just because I did actually change my mind. Life sometimes changes the way you think about things, and that's OK. Everyone should have the right to choose their own adventure.

Next Worst: When a girl says she cant have children and a guy replies with "Oh yeah!"

"are you on yours?" checkmate.

Ironic that the very same people who get b****y the most, and are the touchiest, most irritable, and hysterical PMS-ing snowflakes with d***s in the world are the same ones trying to pin all those negative attributes on women—-the very same people who have to gain the strength to put up with their horseshit, including when it gets violent, and keep the family afloat (with or without them), while protecting the kids and everyone else from their fists or other machinations to make life miserable. Women are never given any credit for the immense amount of strength and resilience we have, while men practically get a parade thrown for them if they show nothing but the faintest glimmer of—or simply take the credit for, undeservedly—-a woman’s courage.

Also, if someone is menstruating, it doesn't mean their complaints aren't valid.

Now that used to p**s me right off now I’m 60 n don’t get them it’s your menopause playing up is it nope ah I just don’t like you !

I live in a very conservative town, and some things just shouldn't be mentioned. Especially not to boys. That includes the menstruation cycle. And I find this so strange, since I also have a son and a daughter. So, I never ever hid my pads and tampons (which is usual around here), and I talked to my son first (because he's older) what they're used for. Later I explained a little bit more about PMS and why the cycle happens only to women. I let them know if I wanted to be left alone when I am not in mood (PMS or not, but mostly PMS related, lol) and explained why it's like it is. So, when my son is now not in mood, he declares, that today he want to be left alone until he starts talking by himself, he has his male PMS. Since I belive there is such a thing as regularly mood changes with men as well, I was very impressed he learned his moods... Additionally, he comes to me and asks if his sister is currently in her PMS. If I say no, not that I know, he goes: oh, now she's in trouble 😂

18 months ago, I was walking down the street, I was very stressed and going through a very hard time and this random older guy stopped me and said "smile, it might never happen' and i proceded to scream at him until he literally ran away from me! I was on my way to stay overnight with my partner's mum because it was his funeral the next day and neither of us wanted to be alone. Ever since then I've had zero tolerance for comments like this.

One day, after collecting the body of a young man who had fell from a height and was in a terrible condition I was told by some guy “smile, it can’t be that bad” I couldn’t help but cry and walk away, I just wanted to scream at him. The image of that young man will never leave me, ever.

I was told this, and a bunch of others things about what is wrong with me by a "friend", after my partner died and I was in a mess.

Got into an argument elsewhere because some douche decided it's ONLY women who take offence. Reminded him that it's ONLY guys who tell us to smile and maybe someone died so why the f**k should I smile because you think I look miserable and don't like it.

He says "nice hairdo" if he knows what's good for him.

I once cut my hair and someone asked what if my future husband saw me and didn't like me. Like wtf??!! I have to keep my hair for someone I've not even met??!!!!!! Let's just say my response was not nice, and I don't talk to her anymore.

Why can't women have short hair? One of the most beautiful women in the world - Jamie Lee Curtis - has short (grey) hair and she is still beautiful.

Oy vey - the amount of times people asked me what my husband thought of the fact I let my hair go grey! I have had 100% silver hair since I was 23 (stress-induced). I have earned that silver, and he knows it! I told my hairdresser (and everyone else in the salon) that it was none of his business!

"What does my husband think? He thinks you should mind your own damn business."

"watching the kids" sounds normal to me. but English is not my first language.

It's called parenting. It's only babysitting or watching the kids when they are someone else's kids.

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Yes! I'd always say, "Babysitting? Are the neighbor kids coming over?

Daddy time, a lot of kids don't get enough of it or their daddy isn't around at all.

Needs to be higher

A girl I knew was gang-raped when she was twelve and that the injuries she sustained meant she could never have children. When people would ask why she didn't want kids, she would tell them that she was gang-raped when she was twelve and that the injuries she sustained meant she could never have children. Then she would simply look at them while they fumbled for an even remotely appropriate response. Toughest person I've ever known. Hit and killed by a drunk driver while crossing the street. god was never on her side.

And then if you have children outside a traditional family unit, you're wrong too

My uterus, my choice.

Oh this is a good one

Yeah your husband probably means well but could be doing quite a lot of damage. Apart from being at a sensitive age, it's rather condescending - you might say something like that to a toddler who has just eaten their vegetables!

I mean, sometimes our children do surprise us when they go through a growth spurt and we might comment. But it's never in a negative way, and it's only when they take us by surprise! This morning, 3YO boy said he wanted a *second* bowl of porridge, finished that off, then wanted toast. He's unstoppable.

I've had that said to me when I was young, but I'm a girl. Is it something that only gets said to girls?

Never ever shame children for eating

There's never anyone to help at home depot when I need it.