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As Andrea F. Polard, Psy.D., wonderfully put it, arrogance is weaponized pride. Unlike healthy pride — which is an appropriate celebration of personal or communal accomplishment — it pushes people away.

The subreddit r/NotLikeTheOtherGirls is an excellent example of this. The online community is dedicated to shaming people who are trying to be unique by defining themselves outside of "the norm." Instead of proving how unique they are, these folks simply make a fool of themselves, earning ridicule instead of respect.

We've covered r/NotLikeTheOtherGirls before here and here, but with 785K members, the subreddit constantly offers new content, so it's about time we release an update. Continue scrolling and check out its most popular recent posts.

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Moms Are More Important

Moms Are More Important

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Icy_Question_4977
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lady, other people work very hard too. Not just you. Get to the back of the line.

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Of all of the things that diminish the quality of interpersonal relationships, few, if any, are as damaging as arrogance.

To be arrogant is to appropriate for yourself, presumptuously; to claim without right and to be overly convinced of your own importance.

One of the unfortunate consequences of arrogance is that people who have this trait often have no awareness of it and when confronted by feedback that suggests that they may be grabbing more ground than they are entitled to, often become highly defensive and even combative, which ironically demonstrates that they probably are.

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The Post Was: What’s Something People Find Hot Or Attractive That You Don’t?

The Post Was: What’s Something People Find Hot Or Attractive That You Don’t?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I believe I can speak for the rest of the neurodivergent community when I say that we don't accept this a*****e as neurodivergent. Go hang out with Elon Musk. Y'all belong together.

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Thanks For That Totally Necessary Information

Thanks For That Totally Necessary Information

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So in an attempt to learn how to deal with these people, let's take a look at what the before mentioned doctor of psychology, Andrea Polard, suggests doing to stay calm and collected while still standing strong and confidently against arrogance in your life.

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"Be compassionate, but don't try to fix the person," Polard wrote. "The need for superiority is deeply rooted and ranges from low self-esteem to an unquenchable thirst for praise to a lack of empathy for those who are or appear to be less accomplished. Only the arrogant person can confront such a problem with sustained effort. On the other hand, and as always, it brings peace to your heart and potentially to the situation if you can have compassion for the unhappiness of others."

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I’m Not Like Other Moms, I’m An Idiot 🌎

I’m Not Like Other Moms, I’m An Idiot 🌎

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#9

By Now I‘D Be A Millionaire If I Had A Penny For Each Time I Heard A Girl Say „i Mostly Hang Out With Guys“

By Now I‘D Be A Millionaire If I Had A Penny For Each Time I Heard A Girl Say „i Mostly Hang Out With Guys“

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Next, accept the fact that the other indeed feels superior. Try to realize that there is nothing you can do in the future or have done in the past to make them arrogant.

"He or she suffers from a problem that goes far beyond you. Most importantly, understand that accepting feelings of superiority in another person does not mean that you must feel inferior in turn. Look at it as a game that you can refuse to play."

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Topical Not Like Other Girls Cartoon

Topical Not Like Other Girls Cartoon

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh yes, let's just go full anarchy. I'm sure people will respect each other's rights when there are no punitive systems in place right?....right?

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I’m Sure This Happens All The Time

I’m Sure This Happens All The Time

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Blazej Kowalczyk
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You order your coffee at Starbucks? Wuss. Real men grinds coffee beans with his teeth, then pours boiling water in mouth and headbangs violently until coffee is brewed.

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#12

I Don't Need Feminism So Nobody Does

I Don't Need Feminism So Nobody Does

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Remeber Galls! Only Follow One Thing Ever, And Make It Your Personality

Remeber Galls! Only Follow One Thing Ever, And Make It Your Personality

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Pan Paweł
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nah, you are the same, you just do different, popular thing. Building actual rocket (it is possible for normal people too), or studying science would be a thing. Watching sports does not make me any more sporty.

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"Communicate directly," Polard added. "Sometimes it is advisable to tell the other person how she/he came across. It is good to remind an arrogant person that no one knows that much, considering life’s mysteries, and that no one can claim absolute truth. As long as it does not harm you later, do not suppress yourself."

You can use disarming sentences such as, "Forgive me for interrupting, but...", or "Maybe you did not mean to sound arrogant/hurt my feelings/come across as if you are 100 percent right, but..."

If arrogance is an aberration, you can also ask if anything negative happened to them that day.

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Found This Gem On Facebook

Found This Gem On Facebook

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Monday
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No they've got a point! Look the picture proves it! You get girls that have long hair and you get girls that don't have long hair!

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#15

Am I The Only One Who’s Concerned About The Knife..?

Am I The Only One Who’s Concerned About The Knife..?

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My Tumblr Bio In 2012. Back When I Thought Putting Other Women Down Was Edgy

My Tumblr Bio In 2012. Back When I Thought Putting Other Women Down Was Edgy

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"Involve a mediator or a greater number of people," Polard said. "Sometimes direct communication backfires, which is why you might want to include a third party to help diffuse the situation."

"Without being vindictive, stand up for yourself under the guidance of someone else. Seek the support you need. Sometimes you might have to find allies and stand together against a particularly harmful arrogant person or persons."

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She’s Handy

She’s Handy

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Aran Lindvail
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, it is cool to be able to do repairs on your own. Probably wouldn't make an Instagram post about it, but still.

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#21

So Cool

So Cool

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

sorry you were bullied but that sounds like a you problem & not something to make into a personality trait that you tell everyone about...

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You can also reduce the harm by setting limits. "We cannot always choose with whom we work and must deal with, but we can set limits," the psychologist highlighted.

"Before meeting with an arrogant person, decide how much time you will spend together and what subjects you will or will not speak about. Be disciplined and resist biting any hooks that would prolong the allotted time or cover more territory. If you cannot keep your distance despite great effort, maybe it is time to plan to sever the ties. Nobody should remain silent and endure abuse, whether in a personal or professional relationship."

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Found On Instagram

Found On Instagram

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Excuse The Bad Handwriting, But I Was Looking Through My Old Diary And Found This Gem From When I Was In 7th Grade. I Think What’s Funnier Is That No One Ever Called Me Emo In School And I Just Made That Part Up

Excuse The Bad Handwriting, But I Was Looking Through My Old Diary And Found This Gem From When I Was In 7th Grade. I Think What’s Funnier Is That No One Ever Called Me Emo In School And I Just Made That Part Up

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Admit this: We all tried journaling or writing a diary every day but never work.

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WoodChuckCouldChuck
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Noooope before my wife I went on a few dates with a girl that had been keeping diaries since she was a child. She showed me the collection box, she wasn’t exaggerating. I’ve gotta admit I wouldn’t be mad if I had that for myself to go back through sometime.

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Show thyself
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh - The beginning of puberty and the difficulty of finding yourself. Looking back to that time is funny and embarrasing at the same time. 😅

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Sarah K
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would hate seeing my diary- I am sure it was cringetastic!

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Debbie
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is a 12 year old girl. I bet every teenagers at some point felt they didn't fit in - which translates to "not being like the others who seem to fit in". Let them find their place in life without bashing them for feeling left out. If she is in a class where no other girl likes rock music (and probably other things), she would feel different, it's normal.

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Marlowe Fitzpatrik
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I admit, I first thought the music-style was written with a c instead of r... Whoops!

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Erin
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My teenage diaries were so cringe I couldn’t even stand just throwing them straight into the trash should someone come across them they were that cringe so I shredded them all in the paper shredder 😂

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RafCo (he/him)
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not going to mock a 12-year-old kid. She's just starting to discover who she is. This is a super difficult time in this kid's life, and she needs all of the love and support she can get. Write in your journal kid. Be emo, be punk, try out different things. Explore what it means to be you, and feel safe doing so.

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Pickle (they/she)
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OK but the fact that it's on pink paper with kittens just ties the whole thing together 😭

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crowspectre (he/they)
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

'How often do you meet a twelve year old girl who loves rock music' my dude you are not the only person who likes rock music

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Stephanie Paich
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This handwriting looks like it's from a 6-year-old, not a 12-year-old

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KimB
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm 44 and have been rocking since I was 3...my parents have a recording of me singing Satisfaction by The Rolling Stones : D

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Alana Voeks
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

At least you've grown if you can admit you made something up in your diary!

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Ashley Schriber
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This diary entry would fit right in with the 'get mortified' movement, where adults get in front of a live audience and read their journals, poetry, etc. from when they were young. https://getmortified.com/

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Eris Kallisti
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

12 year old girls don't like rock music anymore? I feel really old

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Wysteria_Rose
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You know what, I guarantee this was my diary as an 8th grader too. It just stuck but instead of being called "emo" I had plenty of people call me "that vampire girl."

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thepinkrobot
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is a legit and valid insecure feeling of a 12 year old girl. Get a little older and that's when you should know a little better than thinking you're superior in any way.

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DeeDee M
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is completely excused, you were 12. I dont think any of us were at our best...

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Penny Kemper
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

At that age everyone is trying to be different and set themselves apart. Duh it part of growing up

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Victoria Pitt
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

lol This is cute. I wrote dumb stuff like that in my diary as a kid too. I was called a poser for wearing skater brands but I DID have inline skates and would skate into town after school to hang with the boys. We mostly just went to the general store to buy candy and sat around but whatever. ha ha

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Me being 14 cringing at the fact that I've probably thought this before

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Pam
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But her diary entry was in the past. It may have been a lot different than what it is today.

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Lena Flising
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You lied to your own diary? I've known quite a few girls who liked rock music.

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#25

Truly Not Like The Other Girls, Or The Other Posters

Truly Not Like The Other Girls, Or The Other Posters

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nope, I am just THAT basic. If it's hot outside, I am wearing a tank top, shorts and sandals

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The important thing to remember is to stay mindful. Whatever you decide to do, attempt it deliberately, thoughtfully, and with as much love as possible.

"Arrogant people cause others to lose their temper and become their worst self. Observe your reactions with self-compassion and your long-term interest in mind. Play the game of your life instead of trying to fit into someone else's," Polard said.

So always stay true to yourself and... don't forget to shame them on r/NotLikeTheOtherGirls.

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Omg She Is So Weird And Quirky She Is Sooo Not Like Other Girls!!!

Omg She Is So Weird And Quirky She Is Sooo Not Like Other Girls!!!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this one doesnt really belong this one is deliberately satirical

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Not Like Those $9 Coffee Girls

Not Like Those $9 Coffee Girls

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not a Cardi B fan either, I didn't realise that made me a Speshul Snowflayke.

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#29

Not Sure If This Counts But Found This On Instagram

Not Sure If This Counts But Found This On Instagram

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Ofc The Godly Tradwife Has A Baby And Is Blonde

Ofc The Godly Tradwife Has A Baby And Is Blonde

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‘Ugh ... I Hate My Own Gender, They Are Trash, Please Pick Me!!!’

‘Ugh ... I Hate My Own Gender, They Are Trash, Please Pick Me!!!’

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So Quirky And Unique 🧘‍♀️

So Quirky And Unique 🧘‍♀️

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#33

Guys Have You Seen The New God Child? There's Nothing Wrong With Her At All!

Guys Have You Seen The New God Child? There's Nothing Wrong With Her At All!

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Does Anyone Else Like To Listen To Mozart In Reverse? /S

Does Anyone Else Like To Listen To Mozart In Reverse? /S

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why on gods green earth would you listen to Mozart in reverse? I'm pretty sure Mozart himself would be asking you that same question

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Not Like The Other Triplets

Not Like The Other Triplets

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No, not at all, all 3 of you are unique, you even dress differently and have different occupations… 🤔

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#38

I'm Not Like You, I'm Rich

I'm Not Like You, I'm Rich

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#39

I Don't Understand Why Their Husbands Are On Golf Weekends They Only Look About 20

I Don't Understand Why Their Husbands Are On Golf Weekends They Only Look About 20

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Op Disrespects Boundaries By Sending Inappropriate Memes To Her "Bestie's" Boyfriend

Op Disrespects Boundaries By Sending Inappropriate Memes To Her "Bestie's" Boyfriend

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#41

Found This Out In The Wild:

Found This Out In The Wild:

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#42

Internalized Misogyny Is Truly A Trip

Internalized Misogyny Is Truly A Trip

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Saw This And Thought Of This Sub

Saw This And Thought Of This Sub

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Anya
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok, that’s. Really long way of saying that no one wants to be friends with me because I suck.

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Does This Belong In This Sub? Apparently Being Bi-Curious Isnt A Thing Anymore

Does This Belong In This Sub? Apparently Being Bi-Curious Isnt A Thing Anymore

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Sue Lynn Chan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As the member of the heterosexual community, we would like to apologize for this girl that will be soon kick out of the group and gift to hell.

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#46

I'm Not Like Other Girls I Step On Legos

I'm Not Like Other Girls I Step On Legos

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Michelle M
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sorry to burst the bubble, but stepping on a Lego is an everybody problem.

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#47

Kinda Depressing How Old This Mentality Goes, Way Before Britney And Avril

Kinda Depressing How Old This Mentality Goes, Way Before Britney And Avril

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#48

The Amount Of Likes This Has 🥴

The Amount Of Likes This Has 🥴

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I Think Oop Made This About Herself

I Think Oop Made This About Herself

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