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There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be special. Singular. Loved. Adored. However, the fact is that we have too many things in common with the people around us to be truly unique. Instead of celebrating that, some people do their best to stand out in whatever way they can. Their attempts end up being so edgy, cringey, and embarrassing, that they end up on the ‘Not like the other girls’ subreddit.

With over 675k members, r/notliketheothergirls is about shaming those people who put down others and hate mainstream things to feel special about themselves. Have a look through some of the most popular posts featured on the subreddit, upvote the ones that caught your attention the most, and let us know your opinion about why some individuals go to such lengths to seem unique.

Unfortunately, the sad reality is that even with all the progress that we’ve made when it comes to equal rights, there’s still a lot of hate in society. For anyone who’s different. For anyone who stands out too much. Minorities, in particular, are very vulnerable.

I spoke about letting go of hate for others who might be different from us with British psychotherapist Silva Neves. He was kind enough to go in-depth about this with Bored Panda and noted that very often, people who have hatred towards others actually hate parts of themselves. However, that’s not the only theory.

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I Saw This And Thought It Was A Really Interesting Take On “Not Like Other Girls”

I Saw This And Thought It Was A Really Interesting Take On “Not Like Other Girls”

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Literally Every Woman I’ve Met Has Gone Through This Phase- I Think This Is Why

Literally Every Woman I’ve Met Has Gone Through This Phase- I Think This Is Why

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The ‘Not like the other girls’ subreddit has been active since September 2017 and is about people “trying to be unique by defining themselves outside ‘the norm.’” However, the results are usually terrible and prompt internet users to post screenshots and photos on the online community. As a warning to others on how not to behave. As a form of amusement for some.

“Do you think everyone else is trash? Do you think you're the only unique person on the planet? Do you constantly feel the need to press down others in order to define yourself? Then this is the place for you,” the moderators introduce the community full of ‘unique individuals’ (i.e. their members) who are ‘standing out’ (i.e. online at the moment).

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New On This Community, And Noticed That Some Aspergers Love Gatekeeping Non-Autistic People

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According to British psychotherapist Silva, there is a theory that people hate those who embody traits that we’d like to keep secret ourselves. In short, we hate others because we recognize ourselves in them. If society acts as a mirror for us, then hatred is an unhealthy reaction to the truth.

“One psychological theory is that we tend to hate the people who remind us of a part of ourselves that we don't want to acknowledge. For example, if someone has body issues, they are more likely to be hateful towards a large person,” he explained to Bored Panda. This is applicable when analyzing hatred of other groups of people as well.

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Ben Listens To Mozart, He Is So Quirky

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Bill Evs
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

“You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.”

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Scagsy
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Exactly. The same applies to boys. It's not about misogyny, misandry or the patriarchy. It's about the simple human need to be liked. To not be alone. Our psyche reasons that to achieve that goal we need to adopt some characteristics of the group to which we aspire.

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“Some who represses their sexuality or are uncomfortable with sex are more likely to be hateful towards people who are open about their sexuality or who look sexual,” the therapist continued.

“If we go by this theory, it would mean that people have to learn to accept the whole of themselves and learn to love themselves fully, and then they won't have to project the hatred of themselves towards others,” he said that only through self-acceptance can we let go of hate.

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Alien
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Carrie, Zootopia, Wonder Woman 84, those are some movies where the nerdy girl turns into the villain

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However, that’s just one theory. Another theory looks at learned behaviors and how our families and environments shape us. “Many people grow up being told to fear those who are different or look different,” Silva said.

“For example, people grow up to believe that black people are dangerous, Asian people are threats, gay people spread disease or sin, etc... These messages can turn people into being racist or homophobic,” the expert explained to Bored Panda that according to this theory, hatred is something that’s learned from one’s environment. Only education and experience can counter this.

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Say It Louder For The “Not Like The Other Gurlz” In Da Back

Say It Louder For The “Not Like The Other Gurlz” In Da Back

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New Prometheus
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Liking popular things doesn't do that either. You might have regular brains but you need to think by yourself.

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"She Was Not Like Other Girls"

"She Was Not Like Other Girls"

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Ozacoter
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But at the same time they are pretty, feminine and good lookind and they always end up dressing up.

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“For these people to become less hateful, they will need to be exposed to other realities so that they can stop fearing differences, but they also have to be willing to change their minds. Unfortunately, many of these people are not willing to expose themselves to different realities. So, I suppose, one way to eradicate this kind of hate is by changing society at its core and stopping the mindset of fear at the source.”

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My Sister Posted This On Facebook. She Definitely Wears This

My Sister Posted This On Facebook. She Definitely Wears This

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Nathan Pogorzala
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Man we really f****d up women’s self image seeing how this is even possible. This isn’t a coincidence, this isn’t dumb luck, this is a never ending desire to fit in and look the part. I just wish people liked themselves more to not put others standards above their own happiness and comfort. This outfit looks nice, but they consciously went out and put this together because other people said it was cool. Is it fashion, or is fear of being looked on as different? Thought ended.

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Poor Girl

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Michelle M
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Watched the movie. It was okay. But to be fair, high schoolers sometimes think that their minor problems are greater than the previous world wars put together. That's teenage years for you. Unfortunately, not many people grow out of this phase. They take it into adulthood.

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If You Know, You Know

If You Know, You Know

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Jasmine Hufflepuff Henderson
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People at my school cared a lot, unfortunately. I was accused of cheating on my boyfriend (which I never did) and called everything under the sun. "S**t, whore, girl who sleeps around, etc." Kids are cruel. I'm now 26 and still a virgin.

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Is This Legal?

Is This Legal?

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Kelley Hayes
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Such a healthy message for men that they cannot even feed themselves without being feminine. . . Self-sufficiency is a good thing for everyone to learn!

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I Can't Be Too Mad At This One

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De Gueb
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My favourite kind of women are the ones that sleep with me!! Skinny, fat, round or tall, blond or brunette. Don't care, just give my good loving

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Real Centaur Hours Who Up

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GirlFriday
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I AM BOTHERED BY THE SHOES THE GIRL WITH FOUR LEGS IS WEARING. If I had four legs, I would wear four matching shoes. This makes my eye twitch.

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She’s Not Like The Other Girls

She’s Not Like The Other Girls

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I’m Not Like Other Sunflowers. I’m Dead

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A 17 Year Old Girl Doesn’t Know Who Van Halen Is, Shocking

A 17 Year Old Girl Doesn’t Know Who Van Halen Is, Shocking

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Ivana
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Van Halen actually responded to this, "If you haven’t heard of @billieeilish, go check her out. She’s cool. If you haven’t heard of @VanHalen, go check them out. They’re cool too. Music is supposed to bring us together, not divide us. Listen to what you want and don’t shame others for not knowing what you like.

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Haven’t Talked To Her In A Year And She Became Not Like The Other Girls

Haven’t Talked To Her In A Year And She Became Not Like The Other Girls

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Michelle M
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So cringy. By the way, I also like Edgar Allan Poe but I don't shove it into random conversations.

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My Crush Pulled This On Me Today. I Have To Say I Feel Almost Betrayed

My Crush Pulled This On Me Today. I Have To Say I Feel Almost Betrayed

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Sleazy Weaver
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What's with teens & acting like depression is some sort of quirky personality trait instead of a painful mental illness? It doesn't make you better than anybody else, it just makes life harder.

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I’m Not Your Typical Girl

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Self Aware

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GirlFriday
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

SO this girl has four legs and matching shoes, but two different pairs of pants. I am starting to not like these four-legged women.

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Found On A Witchcraft Meme Page. Does That Count?

Found On A Witchcraft Meme Page. Does That Count?

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Lauren Caswell
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Much smaller shoes, in jars, to grind with a mortar and pestle into delusion dust and snort with her eyelids. Life goals

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Just Change Band For OC

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Someone Had To Say It

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John Baker
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not a girl, obviously, but am I allowed to just not give a s**t about Billie Eilish one way or the other?

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Not Like The Other Girls, MBTI Style

Not Like The Other Girls, MBTI Style

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Getting Those Not Like Other Girls Vibes

Getting Those Not Like Other Girls Vibes

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Sleazy Weaver
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Imagine thinking you're unique for listening to pretty much the most mainstream rappers.

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Whiskey, The "Not Like Other Girls" Drink Of Choice

Whiskey, The "Not Like Other Girls" Drink Of Choice

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Ivana
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3 years ago

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Whiskey is for sipping. That is embarrassing, learn to savor the flavor.

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Not Like The Other Billie Eilish Fans

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Ryan Deschanel
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or else, you could just listen to the music you like, enjoy it, and... Well... That's it.

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Big True

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Ivana
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Interesting thing I noticed about couples when I made coffee. I could tell how long a couple had been together (most of the time) by how similar their coffee orders are. New couples get completely different drinks, couple of years then they get similar drinks with one or two differences, been together over a decade then they get the exact same order. Happened to me, use to drink black coffee but my husband always ended up putting cream and sugar in mine not thinking about it and I just gradually got use to cream and sugar.

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Psycho Girls

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Hannah Edwards
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Cycle Path? Was this intentional? If not it’s the funniest thing ever!

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Haha Girls Amirite?

Haha Girls Amirite?

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Ryan Deschanel
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Plot twist : the "girl who actually has depression" is some edgy girl trying to be different frome the other edgy girls trying to be different. Meanwhile, the really depressed ones are just trying to fit in and survivre.

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Spotted One In The Wild!

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Kristal
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was the last one on my team, honing my dodging skills, my team cheering, opposing team looking frustrated. I. Was. Awesome. Then I realized it wasn't cheering but jeering to get hit so the gym class could end for lunch. womp womp :(

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Matched On Tinder But Don’t Worry, She’s “Not A Typical Girl”

Matched On Tinder But Don’t Worry, She’s “Not A Typical Girl”

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I'm So Different

I'm So Different

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Nadia Montera
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Feminine women ??? WTF ??? By opposition to what ? Masculine women ?? Ridiculous post

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Because Wanting To See The World And Explore Is Too Mainstream

Because Wanting To See The World And Explore Is Too Mainstream

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John Baker
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That would be me. We could be standing in front of the Taj Mahal and I'd be the guy saying, "Yep, looks just like the pictures I've seen. Can we go home now?"

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No One Cares

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Sleazy Weaver
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ah, so you're just a disgusting bigot. Good thing you're not like most girls, it would really suck if half the population was as horrible as this.

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And Both Like Sports Equally!

And Both Like Sports Equally!

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Eva the Egg
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How about the one who stays at home and watches netflix instead of watching a boring game?

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Found My Old "Question A Day Diary" From When I Was About 12. It's Filled With S**t Like This And I'm Honestly Having A Blast Looking Through It

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Found One In The Wild!

Found One In The Wild!

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Alien
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s me, I’m the awkward gothic “girl” in the corner, trying to socialise but getting dirty looks. (I put girl in quotes because I’m trans female to male but I dress feminine depending on my mood)

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#57

I’m Not Like The Other Girls Because My Graduation Cap Is Funny

I’m Not Like The Other Girls Because My Graduation Cap Is Funny

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We Live In A Society

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Why Do I Feel Like An “Edgy” Girl Made This

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Malakai
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Remember when Hot Topic actually sold goth fashion, not just black jeans and fake corsets and tons of pop culture merch? Pepperidge Farm remembers...

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This Belongs Here

This Belongs Here

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Apparently Only This Girl Wants To Get A House

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If She Wears Jeans With Camo, Push Her In The Lake

If She Wears Jeans With Camo, Push Her In The Lake

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