There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be special. Singular. Loved. Adored. However, the fact is that we have too many things in common with the people around us to be truly unique. Instead of celebrating that, some people do their best to stand out in whatever way they can. Their attempts end up being so edgy, cringey, and embarrassing, that they end up on the ‘Not like the other girls’ subreddit.

With over 675k members, r/notliketheothergirls is about shaming those people who put down others and hate mainstream things to feel special about themselves. Have a look through some of the most popular posts featured on the subreddit, upvote the ones that caught your attention the most, and let us know your opinion about why some individuals go to such lengths to seem unique.

Unfortunately, the sad reality is that even with all the progress that we’ve made when it comes to equal rights, there’s still a lot of hate in society. For anyone who’s different. For anyone who stands out too much. Minorities, in particular, are very vulnerable.

I spoke about letting go of hate for others who might be different from us with British psychotherapist Silva Neves. He was kind enough to go in-depth about this with Bored Panda and noted that very often, people who have hatred towards others actually hate parts of themselves. However, that’s not the only theory.

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I Saw This And Thought It Was A Really Interesting Take On “Not Like Other Girls”

I Saw This And Thought It Was A Really Interesting Take On “Not Like Other Girls”

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Ozacoter
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1 year ago

This should be number 1

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#2

Yes

Yes

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Lauren Caswell
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1 year ago

Love it lol it took a sharp turn

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#3

Literally Every Woman I’ve Met Has Gone Through This Phase- I Think This Is Why

Literally Every Woman I’ve Met Has Gone Through This Phase- I Think This Is Why

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Caro Caro
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1 year ago

Wise words.

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The ‘Not like the other girls’ subreddit has been active since September 2017 and is about people “trying to be unique by defining themselves outside ‘the norm.’” However, the results are usually terrible and prompt internet users to post screenshots and photos on the online community. As a warning to others on how not to behave. As a form of amusement for some.

“Do you think everyone else is trash? Do you think you're the only unique person on the planet? Do you constantly feel the need to press down others in order to define yourself? Then this is the place for you,” the moderators introduce the community full of ‘unique individuals’ (i.e. their members) who are ‘standing out’ (i.e. online at the moment).

#4

Finally A Nice One Again

Finally A Nice One Again

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Hannah Edwards
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1 year ago

Thank you!

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#5

New On This Community, And Noticed That Some Aspergers Love Gatekeeping Non-Autistic People

New On This Community, And Noticed That Some Aspergers Love Gatekeeping Non-Autistic People

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Peppy Piplup
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1 year ago

The fact that the post has 242 upvotes and the comment has 0? Eesh.

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#6

Something Wholesome For Once

Something Wholesome For Once

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the redqueen
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1 year ago

That's what he tells every girl he meets......

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According to British psychotherapist Silva, there is a theory that people hate those who embody traits that we’d like to keep secret ourselves. In short, we hate others because we recognize ourselves in them. If society acts as a mirror for us, then hatred is an unhealthy reaction to the truth.

“One psychological theory is that we tend to hate the people who remind us of a part of ourselves that we don't want to acknowledge. For example, if someone has body issues, they are more likely to be hateful towards a large person,” he explained to Bored Panda. This is applicable when analyzing hatred of other groups of people as well.

#7

Ben Listens To Mozart, He Is So Quirky

Ben Listens To Mozart, He Is So Quirky

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Bill Evs
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1 year ago

“You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.”

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#8

I Think This Belongs Here By Technicality

I Think This Belongs Here By Technicality

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Eva the Egg
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1 year ago

HAHHAAHHA omg this deserves an oscar

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#9

For Real Tho

For Real Tho

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Scagsy
Community Member
1 year ago

Exactly. The same applies to boys. It's not about misogyny, misandry or the patriarchy. It's about the simple human need to be liked. To not be alone. Our psyche reasons that to achieve that goal we need to adopt some characteristics of the group to which we aspire.

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“Some who represses their sexuality or are uncomfortable with sex are more likely to be hateful towards people who are open about their sexuality or who look sexual,” the therapist continued.

“If we go by this theory, it would mean that people have to learn to accept the whole of themselves and learn to love themselves fully, and then they won't have to project the hatred of themselves towards others,” he said that only through self-acceptance can we let go of hate.

#10

I-

I-

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Bacony Cakes
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1 year ago

Then explain the profile picture.

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#11

Does He Fit Here?

Does He Fit Here?

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Carries
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1 year ago

He's so cringy

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#12

Honestly Though

Honestly Though

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Alien
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1 year ago

Carrie, Zootopia, Wonder Woman 84, those are some movies where the nerdy girl turns into the villain

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However, that’s just one theory. Another theory looks at learned behaviors and how our families and environments shape us. “Many people grow up being told to fear those who are different or look different,” Silva said.

“For example, people grow up to believe that black people are dangerous, Asian people are threats, gay people spread disease or sin, etc... These messages can turn people into being racist or homophobic,” the expert explained to Bored Panda that according to this theory, hatred is something that’s learned from one’s environment. Only education and experience can counter this.

#13

Say It Louder For The “Not Like The Other Gurlz” In Da Back

Say It Louder For The “Not Like The Other Gurlz” In Da Back

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New Prometheus
Community Member
1 year ago

Liking popular things doesn't do that either. You might have regular brains but you need to think by yourself.

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#14

"She Was Not Like Other Girls"

"She Was Not Like Other Girls"

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Ozacoter
Community Member
1 year ago

But at the same time they are pretty, feminine and good lookind and they always end up dressing up.

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#15

Posted This On My Twitter And I Thought It Fits Here

Posted This On My Twitter And I Thought It Fits Here

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Caro Caro
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1 year ago

Oof.

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“For these people to become less hateful, they will need to be exposed to other realities so that they can stop fearing differences, but they also have to be willing to change their minds. Unfortunately, many of these people are not willing to expose themselves to different realities. So, I suppose, one way to eradicate this kind of hate is by changing society at its core and stopping the mindset of fear at the source.”

#16

My Sister Posted This On Facebook. She Definitely Wears This

My Sister Posted This On Facebook. She Definitely Wears This

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Konpat
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1 year ago

The "girls in denim jacket with black trousers and white sneakers buying snacks" convention! Count me in!

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#17

Poor Girl

Poor Girl

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Michelle M
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1 year ago

Watched the movie. It was okay. But to be fair, high schoolers sometimes think that their minor problems are greater than the previous world wars put together. That's teenage years for you. Unfortunately, not many people grow out of this phase. They take it into adulthood.

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#18

If You Know, You Know

If You Know, You Know

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Konpat
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1 year ago

Upvote for Jurassic Park meme!!!

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#19

Is This Legal?

Is This Legal?

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Konpat
Community Member
1 year ago

Love it 😂

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#20

I Can't Be Too Mad At This One

I Can't Be Too Mad At This One

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De Gueb
Community Member
1 year ago

My favourite kind of women are the ones that sleep with me!! Skinny, fat, round or tall, blond or brunette. Don't care, just give my good loving

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#21

Real Centaur Hours Who Up

Real Centaur Hours Who Up

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GirlFriday
Community Member
1 year ago

I AM BOTHERED BY THE SHOES THE GIRL WITH FOUR LEGS IS WEARING. If I had four legs, I would wear four matching shoes. This makes my eye twitch.

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#22

Definitely Not Like The Other Fake B******

Definitely Not Like The Other Fake B******

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New Prometheus
Community Member
1 year ago

Hahahahaha!!

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See Also on Bored Panda
#23

She’s Not Like The Other Girls

She’s Not Like The Other Girls

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Eva the Egg
Community Member
1 year ago

Sponge bob = the ultimate roaster

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#24

I’m Not Like Other Sunflowers. I’m Dead

I’m Not Like Other Sunflowers. I’m Dead

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Bacony Cakes
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1 year ago

The repliers are Peter and Stewie.

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#25

A 17 Year Old Girl Doesn’t Know Who Van Halen Is, Shocking

A 17 Year Old Girl Doesn’t Know Who Van Halen Is, Shocking

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Ivana
Community Member
1 year ago

Van Halen actually responded to this, "If you haven’t heard of @billieeilish, go check her out. She’s cool. If you haven’t heard of @VanHalen, go check them out. They’re cool too. Music is supposed to bring us together, not divide us. Listen to what you want and don’t shame others for not knowing what you like.

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#26

Haven’t Talked To Her In A Year And She Became Not Like The Other Girls

Haven’t Talked To Her In A Year And She Became Not Like The Other Girls

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Michelle M
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1 year ago

So cringy. By the way, I also like Edgar Allan Poe but I don't shove it into random conversations.

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#27

My Crush Pulled This On Me Today. I Have To Say I Feel Almost Betrayed

My Crush Pulled This On Me Today. I Have To Say I Feel Almost Betrayed

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Sleazy Weaver
Community Member
1 year ago

What's with teens & acting like depression is some sort of quirky personality trait instead of a painful mental illness? It doesn't make you better than anybody else, it just makes life harder.

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#28

I’m Not Your Typical Girl

I’m Not Your Typical Girl

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~hUmMuS vIbEs~
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1 year ago

Oh so most girls don't game? Hold my pink sparkly lipgloss.

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#29

Self Aware

Self Aware

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GirlFriday
Community Member
1 year ago

SO this girl has four legs and matching shoes, but two different pairs of pants. I am starting to not like these four-legged women.

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#30

Found On A Witchcraft Meme Page. Does That Count?

Found On A Witchcraft Meme Page. Does That Count?

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Lauren Caswell
Community Member
1 year ago (edited)

Much smaller shoes, in jars, to grind with a mortar and pestle into delusion dust and snort with her eyelids. Life goals

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