As Andrea F. Polard, Psy.D., wonderfully put it, arrogance is weaponized pride. Unlike healthy pride — which is an appropriate celebration of personal or communal accomplishment — it pushes people away.

The subreddit r/NotLikeTheOtherGirls is an excellent example of this. The online community is dedicated to shaming people who are trying to be unique by defining themselves outside of "the norm." Instead of proving how unique they are, these folks simply make a fool of themselves, earning ridicule instead of respect.

We've covered r/NotLikeTheOtherGirls before here and here, but with 785K members, the subreddit constantly offers new content, so it's about time we release an update. Continue scrolling and check out its most popular recent posts.

#1

The Whole Package

The Whole Package

Winglikeburglary735 Report

Fearhunter
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

standing outside and inside is really important

View More Replies...
View more comments
#2

Moms Are More Important

Moms Are More Important

soccercolors Report

Icy_Question_4977
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lady, other people work very hard too. Not just you. Get to the back of the line.

View More Replies...
View more comments

Of all of the things that diminish the quality of interpersonal relationships, few, if any, are as damaging as arrogance.

To be arrogant is to appropriate for yourself, presumptuously; to claim without right and to be overly convinced of your own importance.

One of the unfortunate consequences of arrogance is that people who have this trait often have no awareness of it and when confronted by feedback that suggests that they may be grabbing more ground than they are entitled to, often become highly defensive and even combative, which ironically demonstrates that they probably are.

#3

The Post Was: What’s Something People Find Hot Or Attractive That You Don’t?

The Post Was: What’s Something People Find Hot Or Attractive That You Don’t?

StreetAd8843 Report

Pumpkin Spice
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I believe I can speak for the rest of the neurodivergent community when I say that we don't accept this a*****e as neurodivergent. Go hang out with Elon Musk. Y'all belong together.

View More Replies...
View more comments
#4

Thanks For That Totally Necessary Information

Thanks For That Totally Necessary Information

shrivellifestyle Report

#5

The Only Correct ‘Not Like Other Girls’

The Only Correct ‘Not Like Other Girls’

ABlockOfDust Report

So in an attempt to learn how to deal with these people, let's take a look at what the before mentioned doctor of psychology, Andrea Polard, suggests doing to stay calm and collected while still standing strong and confidently against arrogance in your life.

"Be compassionate, but don't try to fix the person," Polard wrote. "The need for superiority is deeply rooted and ranges from low self-esteem to an unquenchable thirst for praise to a lack of empathy for those who are or appear to be less accomplished. Only the arrogant person can confront such a problem with sustained effort. On the other hand, and as always, it brings peace to your heart and potentially to the situation if you can have compassion for the unhappiness of others."

#6

I’m Not Like Other Moms, I’m An Idiot 🌎

I’m Not Like Other Moms, I’m An Idiot 🌎

HarlequinKoi Report

Nicky
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Fake a** dinosaurs? They had butt implants back then?

View More Replies...
View more comments
#7

Unique Girl

Unique Girl

YadhuWolf Report

#9

By Now I‘D Be A Millionaire If I Had A Penny For Each Time I Heard A Girl Say „i Mostly Hang Out With Guys“

By Now I‘D Be A Millionaire If I Had A Penny For Each Time I Heard A Girl Say „i Mostly Hang Out With Guys“

OminousHallway Report

Next, accept the fact that the other indeed feels superior. Try to realize that there is nothing you can do in the future or have done in the past to make them arrogant.

"He or she suffers from a problem that goes far beyond you. Most importantly, understand that accepting feelings of superiority in another person does not mean that you must feel inferior in turn. Look at it as a game that you can refuse to play."

#10

Topical Not Like Other Girls Cartoon

Topical Not Like Other Girls Cartoon

Pelican_meat Report

Monday
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh yes, let's just go full anarchy. I'm sure people will respect each other's rights when there are no punitive systems in place right?....right?

View More Replies...
View more comments
#11

I’m Sure This Happens All The Time

I’m Sure This Happens All The Time

holeymoley62 Report

Blazej Kowalczyk
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You order your coffee at Starbucks? Wuss. Real men grinds coffee beans with his teeth, then pours boiling water in mouth and headbangs violently until coffee is brewed.

View More Replies...
View more comments
#12

I Don't Need Feminism So Nobody Does

I Don't Need Feminism So Nobody Does

Solid-Perspective915 Report

Redemption Happens
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Might want to volunteer at a battered women’s shelter genius.

View More Replies...
View more comments
#13

Remeber Galls! Only Follow One Thing Ever, And Make It Your Personality

Remeber Galls! Only Follow One Thing Ever, And Make It Your Personality

FlotHomie2730 Report

Pan Paweł
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nah, you are the same, you just do different, popular thing. Building actual rocket (it is possible for normal people too), or studying science would be a thing. Watching sports does not make me any more sporty.

View More Replies...
View more comments

"Communicate directly," Polard added. "Sometimes it is advisable to tell the other person how she/he came across. It is good to remind an arrogant person that no one knows that much, considering life’s mysteries, and that no one can claim absolute truth. As long as it does not harm you later, do not suppress yourself."

You can use disarming sentences such as, "Forgive me for interrupting, but...", or "Maybe you did not mean to sound arrogant/hurt my feelings/come across as if you are 100 percent right, but..."

If arrogance is an aberration, you can also ask if anything negative happened to them that day.

#14

Found This Gem On Facebook

Found This Gem On Facebook

cdecker88 Report

Monday
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No they've got a point! Look the picture proves it! You get girls that have long hair and you get girls that don't have long hair!

View More Replies...
View more comments
#15

Am I The Only One Who’s Concerned About The Knife..?

Am I The Only One Who’s Concerned About The Knife..?

cripaaA Report

Ritchat
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't even see a real difference between the two sides.

View More Replies...
View more comments
#16

My Tumblr Bio In 2012. Back When I Thought Putting Other Women Down Was Edgy

My Tumblr Bio In 2012. Back When I Thought Putting Other Women Down Was Edgy

effywilde Report

"Involve a mediator or a greater number of people," Polard said. "Sometimes direct communication backfires, which is why you might want to include a third party to help diffuse the situation."

"Without being vindictive, stand up for yourself under the guidance of someone else. Seek the support you need. Sometimes you might have to find allies and stand together against a particularly harmful arrogant person or persons."

#18

Ig Is Just Flooded With This S**t

Ig Is Just Flooded With This S**t

DrDongSquarePants Report

#19

She’s Handy

She’s Handy

bananaboomin Report

Aran Lindvail
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, it is cool to be able to do repairs on your own. Probably wouldn't make an Instagram post about it, but still.

View More Replies...
View more comments
#21

So Cool

So Cool

nonamefuckhead Report

butt soup
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

sorry you were bullied but that sounds like a you problem & not something to make into a personality trait that you tell everyone about...

View More Replies...
View more comments

You can also reduce the harm by setting limits. "We cannot always choose with whom we work and must deal with, but we can set limits," the psychologist highlighted.

"Before meeting with an arrogant person, decide how much time you will spend together and what subjects you will or will not speak about. Be disciplined and resist biting any hooks that would prolong the allotted time or cover more territory. If you cannot keep your distance despite great effort, maybe it is time to plan to sever the ties. Nobody should remain silent and endure abuse, whether in a personal or professional relationship."

#22

Found On Instagram

Found On Instagram

punk-bimbo Report

Follo00
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You can have both, heck; you can have all three of them!

View More Replies...
View more comments
#23

Found On The Aita Sub

Found On The Aita Sub

turtledovefarts Report

#24

Excuse The Bad Handwriting, But I Was Looking Through My Old Diary And Found This Gem From When I Was In 7th Grade. I Think What’s Funnier Is That No One Ever Called Me Emo In School And I Just Made That Part Up

Excuse The Bad Handwriting, But I Was Looking Through My Old Diary And Found This Gem From When I Was In 7th Grade. I Think What’s Funnier Is That No One Ever Called Me Emo In School And I Just Made That Part Up

TheGAM3RR Report

Icy_Question_4977
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Admit this: We all tried journaling or writing a diary every day but never work.

View More Replies...
View more comments
#25

Truly Not Like The Other Girls, Or The Other Posters

Truly Not Like The Other Girls, Or The Other Posters

redtailplays101 Report

LittleMissPanda
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nope, I am just THAT basic. If it's hot outside, I am wearing a tank top, shorts and sandals

View More Replies...
View more comments

The important thing to remember is to stay mindful. Whatever you decide to do, attempt it deliberately, thoughtfully, and with as much love as possible.

"Arrogant people cause others to lose their temper and become their worst self. Observe your reactions with self-compassion and your long-term interest in mind. Play the game of your life instead of trying to fit into someone else's," Polard said.

So always stay true to yourself and... don't forget to shame them on r/NotLikeTheOtherGirls.

See Also on Bored Panda
#27

Omg She Is So Weird And Quirky She Is Sooo Not Like Other Girls!!!

Omg She Is So Weird And Quirky She Is Sooo Not Like Other Girls!!!

joa_nh Report

olx
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this one doesnt really belong this one is deliberately satirical

View More Replies...
View more comments
#28

Not Like Those $9 Coffee Girls

Not Like Those $9 Coffee Girls

CanadianBeaver1983 Report

Little Wonder
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not a Cardi B fan either, I didn't realise that made me a Speshul Snowflayke.

View More Replies...
View more comments
#29

Not Sure If This Counts But Found This On Instagram

Not Sure If This Counts But Found This On Instagram

Belleina Report

#30

Ofc The Godly Tradwife Has A Baby And Is Blonde

Ofc The Godly Tradwife Has A Baby And Is Blonde

okaynoooo Report

Boreddd🇺🇦
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The godly tradwife sounds like my worst nightmare

Ghostsauce
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No idea why they didn't include "Judges all other women as inferior" in the descriptors.

Load More Replies...
Tamra
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This drivel is exactly what I'd expect from a "proud Christian American". 🙄

Mary Rogers
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Evangelicals, anyway. Not all American Christians.

Load More Replies...
Stephanie A Mutti
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wait,, hating guns isn't something Jesus would agree with??

Mary Rogers
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hating guns is sacrilege to the evangelicals. They practically worship them.

Load More Replies...
Davida Rose
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's insulting how they roped Jesus into this Canon Jesus is better that Fanon Jesus guys, I promise

Lillian Swaim
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

tradewife isn't a person, she's the husbands accessory

IamMe
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's like an incel shopping list.

Kitty Jordan
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As I understand it, the whole "tradwife" concept is very big with white supremacists.

Load More Replies...
Karl Baxter
Community Member
2 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The one on the right is subservient to her husband while indoctrinating her kids with religious BS - I’m glad she’s not my neighbour.

Colin Timp
Community Member
2 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Where's the church pamphlet for what the Godly wife is supposed to do when her husband cheats on her with the "liberated" feminist? Oh, wait. I forgot. She's just got to put up with it because the husband is the only one that matters here.

Unknown
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I definitely don't fit or belong in either of these categories, but having said that nearly all the definitions on the left are me! The person on the right sounds so annoying. I love how christians, catholics, so on and so forth love the idea that only God can judge me, but that means they get to judge everybody else on Earth I guess then?

Emerson McEwan
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

the first chick sounds like fun honestly

Delilah
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This ad brought to you by teensy peckered white men afraid of losing control over women.

Rostit .
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Whoever made this should have their basement searched for bodies.

Asif
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think they mean "stepford wife" not "trad wife"

Michelle M
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can imagine a particular church in my area printing this out and sharing to passersby.

Amber The bear
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The lady on the right should have the same exact (gorgeous) figure as to e lady on the right because she literally birthed a human being and all that extra skin and fat won’t go away that quickly, and it doesn’t say she works out, so unless she eats two crackers a day she shouldn’t be THAT skinny ? I may be wrong on some of this, if I am please feel free to point it out 😅

WoodChuckCouldChuck
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Have literally never heard of a TradWife

Jasmine Hufflepuff Henderson
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm christian, have a minimum wage job, and I'm chubby even though I've gotten more healthy. I'm so glad I didn't grow up in a Christian community or church who thinks this way

Got Myself 4 Pandas
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This liberated feminist doesn't fit most of those standards for a liberated feminist.....but I am an atheist so there's that......

Aidan Gruen
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hey guys, I just want to say that not everyone of a religion is rude and constantly judging, and others could be nice, but you wouldn’t know because they aren’t constantly posting unpopular opinions. You only really hear from the nose radical on all sides.

LynzCatastrophe
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't even know where to start with this one.

Eiryn Elliott
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Chick on the left looks like me... and I'm proud of that. Literally nothing about that is accurate except maybe the cat thing. I would love to have lots of cats. lol

Detroit Citizen
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Im gonna go for liberated one. Seems more fun, the second one is far more high maintenance. Plus Im not a jacked up gym bro so #2 wouldnt want me anyway

pusheen buttercup
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm just so sorry society has hurt you to the point you feel you need to hate others

Just here for the comments ️
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Jesus is facepalming right about now. This is horrid and sad all at once

Aunt Messy
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So....self-hating gestation slaver submissive women are "good"? I got my best tattoo at the age of 55 - a full back piece -and it looks amazing because I have the body of someone 25 years younger because I DIDN'T HAVE KIDS. Not having kids is fun, my husband would never try to push me around because he's a good person and decent human being.

Cpt. Robert Christian
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Is "Tradwife" a new term for "Stepford Wife"?

Victoria Pitt
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yikes. I'll have you know I have a good figure from diet and exercise, have many hobbies (I like to sew and do pottery as well as go hiking and paddleboard!), I'm feminine and fairly modest AND yet, gasp, I'm an atheist with crappy tattoos who hates guns and believes in equality for women. Also, my degree(s) <--- plural, have got me a career where I am the top earner in my household. I don't love Jesus but I love my mom and she loves Jesus enough for both of us. lol

French Fry princess
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I didn't know I had an abortion last year.

No Clue
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In case I'm not the only one who didn't know..."tradwife" is short for "traditional wife". I've never heard that term before and had to look it up. 🙄

Nadine
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Guess which one is in a cult?

FrillyDragon
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Tradwife sounds like the stereotypical pentecostals my husband grew up around.

Kantami Blossom
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Christ loves the Church" since when, he was dead way before the first Church was built and all religion does is pervert his message to match their own biased views(there's a higher than likely chance that if Christ was reborn he'd abolish every Church built).

Raven Null
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I like the first one better

AmAndA_Panda
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Remember kids, you can't be a feminist unless you're chubby and unhealthy!

AuthorHeart<3
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Whoever made this had no idea what is actually like to be a Christian mother/woman do they?

Hagen Radcliffe
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is exactly what they want. They want it to be the 1950’s. They’re fighting tooth & nail to drag us back to the Stone Age. They’ll lie & cheat& steal & rip down & destroy everything. we’re on a knifes edge & I’m terrified.

Tt
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There was a post on r/gatekeepingyuri where these two were a couple

Tamsin O'Mahony
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hmm. See, I'm a housewife, I love my husband to the ends of the earth and he loves me the same. We raise our daughter as a unified team. He works hard for us and I focus on the house and my daughter's education. I don't wear makeup and have many hobbies, from reading to gaming. I don't like wearing revealing clothing because it makes me feel unsafe. However, I have tattoos, I am an atheist (at a push I could be considered pagan), I adore cats and had many, I worked minimum wage because my BA Honours in History didn't help me break into an over competitive career market, I hate guns and do actually support socialism, in part. I'm wondering where I fall in this world order? Or do all my good points get cancelled out because I don't believe in god?

K80.127
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is just sad! When will we (as women) decide ENOUGH! *OH, WAIT We'd have to join together to do that, and that has never happened.

Tara L Schley
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To People(men)with Madonna & Wh*re complex they see women as being only these two types of women.

Conan Maschingon
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

so one works for a living and the other relies on a man ok got it

Insono
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Doesn't want any kids, just a lot of cats" Yes please! I'll take a whole petting zoo along with the cats actually :)

Sky Hicks
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A man must have made this

Tobinator
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are obviously only these two options for a woman's personality. One or the other, ladies! Choose wisely! [face palm]

Emmydearest
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ah, the never-too-old dichotomy of "saints or whores"... 🤦‍♀️

Lili Hajdu
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm proud of being the left one

Alana Voeks
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ah, yes. Bringing up abortion like it means a goddamn. Rape and incest are a thing honey. Or do you, supposedly a woman and not just a guy making a post trying to drag women down to your level of dirt self esteem, not understand how women's bodies work? Or any bodies for that matter?