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Women Share How They Realized Their Partner Didn’t Even Like Them In This Excruciating Online Thread
There are few things more painful than realizing this is the end of a relationship you hoped would last. And even though the “it’s over” moment can be heartbreaking, sometimes there’s no other choice but to end things. Especially when your partner clearly doesn’t care about you anymore; if they ever did in the first place.
Members of Reddit’s ‘Ask Women’ community discussed their experience with such partners in a thread started by the user ‘Street_Salt_1973’. They asked the women when they realized that their partner didn’t care for them, and quite a few were willing to share. Providing answers that cover stories ranging from aggravating to heart-wrenching, the members showed that lack of care can be enough to bring the fairytale to its final chapter.
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#1
When I explained that I'd been feeling depressed because playing music is my outlet and I'd been really missing it. I bought a keyboard for the extra bedroom which he didn't notice for 2+ months. When he did notice he told me to get rid of it because he doesn't want "extra junk" in his house. I only played with headphones and usually when he wasn't home but he told me if the keyboard didn't go, I had to. So I took the keyboard and left.
LargeMarge 2 years ago
He noticed but he was thinking of a reason to hate it because it was something that would take away the attention towards him or something that made you happy, that was not him. There was no reason for him to get rid of it, so he just made something up.
Ken Beattie 2 years ago
While I think in this case you're probably right. *If* the OP was in the habit of buying random stuff for the heck of it I could see the husband being upset and wanting to get rid of it. That said, the post doesn't come across that way. Normally someone who is a hoarder or compulsive buyer wouldn't be talking about playing music as an outlet. Since it's the shopping/hoarding that's the outlet.
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Gabriele Alfredo Pini 2 years ago
To me it is strange to buy a keyboard and not telling to your special other... I image there were already problems with him.
LH25 2 years ago
I suspect this was a final straw moment for the OP, glad they reached it.
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Fox with a Dragon Tattoo 2 years ago
Before the OP left, they should have done a full "deep cleaning" of the house ans bagged all his sh*t and left it on the curb for garbage pick up. Just leave a note: "Took out the trash for you"
Emma Goransdottir 2 years ago
You did absolutely right to leave him. you are strong! He on the other hand is a piece of s**t! His heartless behavior disgust me😠
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#2
He's an ex-husband. When I begged him not to tell me what happened at the strip club because I knew I'd use the knowledge to torture myself, the first thing he did when he got home was brag about the lap dances he got and how hot those women were compared to me in an attempt to upset me because he wanted attention. It didn't work and I ignored him, so he punched my chair. We had problems before that, but that night killed any respect I had left. Things deteriorated quickly afterwards.
On a bright note, my boyfriend now has never even raised his voice at me. At every opportunity he tries to make the choice that would make me feel the most safe, loved, and respected. If your current partner is showing that they don't care about you, leave. There's a better life out there for you. I've never felt more lucky than I do now.
Michael Largey 2 years ago
If you tell your wife you're going to a strip club, there's already a big problem even without filling in the details afterward.
Alexigirl1 2 years ago
You have to kiss some frogs (meet some utter kn*bheads!) before you can find your Prince (a regular nice guy!). 😂
The Mom 2 years ago
Married men or women for that matter should not be going to strip clubs. A friend once told me "if he has to go somewhere else to get it up he won't like how I bring it down."
Ken Beattie 2 years ago
If it's just for themselves I'd tend to agree. But it could be for a friends bachelor party or a 21st birthday party or something. I still find it weird that some people think that's appropriate but some people do. A friend of mine was going to go to one as a sort of afterparty for his 21st party. About half a dozen of us went but by the time we got there is was around 2am and everyone was pretty hammered. There was a cover charge that was pretty steep and someone started trying to haggle about the price. In the end we just walked away lol Only been inside a strip club once, a co-worker convinced several of us that they served really good steak meals at a really cheap price and you didn't really have to watch/interact with the strippers. Yeah, the steak was just ok, it wasn't cheap and the girls literally walked along a catwalk right next to you table and stop to talk with you while you're eating. So it was really uncomfortable. He had a great time and the girls greeted him by name.
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Gypsy Lee 2 years ago
Do it before you’re trapped; with kids, with finances, with age. It’s a real thing. Don’t commit until you’ve been living together for at least 4 years. I realize this doesn’t work well with religious families but understand this; you don’t really know someone until you’ve lived under the same roof. (4 years isn’t even enough time but it’s the shortest I’d recommend.)
#3
I was physically assaulted at work. When I told him about it I expected him to be horrified, protective, or at least not happy about it. Instead, he looked bored. He implied that I get a bit mouthy so maybe I pissed off the wrong guy. I got the ick so fast there was no turning back.
I give up on society 2 years ago
If my wife. He be lucky I found him on the first floor. As he be learning very quickly how to fly.
jdtimid123 2 years ago
Man, if something like that had happened to me my husband would probably be on his way to get the person that did it (assuming that they weren't already either arrested or in the hospital)
Take me to dinner first 2 years ago
If you expected him to ar least not be happy about it then he was clearly way worse than you deserved
DC 2 years ago
I never understood this. Ok, people may very well have provoked a lot of bad happening to them. Fair enough. But even before any explanation, he jumps to a conclusion that likely even exceed the other side's view on this, ... he's an idiot for not listening and not judging without sufficient grounds to do so on. And also, for not being supportive, regardless of you provoking the other person or not.
Richard Samul 2 years ago
When my wife got kicked in the jaw by a patient with dementia, she was reluctant to tell me what happened because she knew my reaction would be to want to go beat the stuffing out of said patient.
#4
Id come down with a horrible flu. He convinced me to come over to his place “let me take care of you, you shouldn’t be suffering alone” I wanted to just stay in my own bed and ride it out but he kept at it and I thought he was just trying to be a caring boyfriend.
He just pestered me for sex the whole time and then guilt tripped me when I said I didn’t want to because I was feeling so rough “you mean sex with me would make you feel worse/wouldn’t make you feel happier…. Right, got it, THANKS”
I wish I’d dumped his a*s right then but I was young and deep into a sunken cost fallacy.
Vasana Phong 2 years ago
Why do men do this, I don’t understand, there’s going to be days where you just don’t feel it it, could be a hundred things going on that has nothing to do with them, maturity plays a huge role
JayWantsACat 2 years ago
They think you'll give in easier/more quickly because you're too tired/ill/etc. to really keep arguing about it. Any guilt tripping is a power play.
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StrangeOne 2 years ago
That's what my ex used to do, too. Then he would mansplain to me what I "need" for my body to be better all the time just because he was horny. Women are not sex dolls.
Clover 2 years ago
I'll never forget that when I had been with my very ill father in another state, and he passed away. I called my husband and told him, and he traveled there for the funeral, but he also expected to have sex. He should have known me better than that, to expect that. I did turn him down.
I give up on society 2 years ago
Now I know why wife said I'm weird. I think that has to be the grossing thing ever. Sex and suck just does not seem interesting and gross.
#5
When I was heavily pregnant and we were arguing. I started feeling pain in the abdomen and collapsed but he just stood there and laughed and said it served me right.
Daffydillz~ 2 years ago
That's pathological tendencies right there. Who, in their right mind, could even say something like that to a pregnant woman...
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Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago (edited)
Pretty sure it wasn’t the first time. Girlfriends, I know there are times when you’re like dying for a baby, but take a moment first, and take a good hard look t the person you’re with. Please don’t get pregnant until you know the “sperm donor” is someone who’s worth it.
Brocken Blue 2 years ago
People can be manipulative fückers, and not really show their true faces until shït starts to hit the fan. And pregnancy is a pretty high stress time that may reveal flaws in a person and cracks in a relationship in ways unseen before then. Maybe try not to blame the victim next time, eh?
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LouLou Bella 2 years ago
I read these posts and they break my heart. They make me think though, these guys didn't suddenly completely out of the blue decide to start acting like a Dii8ck. There must have been warning signs that were ignored, I am sure I have done the same myself. Why as women do we do this, I finally learned that been on my own was way better than putting up with that shi*t. It kills me that we as a women dont value our worth
DarkViolet 2 years ago
Narcissists are excellent at covering up their true character. Not unlike sexual predators.
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Glass Ghost 2 years ago
Arguing with your pregnant spouse is enough of a red flag on its own and the argument should've at least need forfeit as soon as she collapsed. That's insane.
CHRISTY SMITH 2 years ago
“ … and then she hid his body under the staircase and whispered, “It serves you right”.
Juliana Blewett 2 years ago
I'd have called an ambulance, stayed TF away from him and raised the baby WITHOUT the ahole.
Bonnie Buttons 2 years ago
That is appalling! I'm so sorry. I hope you're with someone who treats you right.
#6
we were out in town and he wanted to grab some street food. i didn't have money on me so i just... got nothing. he didn't offer. i sat next to him watching him eat.
it was small, and yes i could've said something. but it was just one of many occasions that made me understand that he doesn't care about me the way i care about him. after two damn years.
Linda Lee 2 years ago
I don't advocate violence. I'd like to suggest we all eat in front of him and not let him have anything.
Load More Replies... Cricketgeeklol 2 years ago
that is NOT a small thing! That must have been so embarrassing and hard for you
Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago
Honey, nothing about that behavior is “small”. It’s a glaring red flag. Don’t minimize it, or you’ll be letting him to minimize you.
Trish 2 years ago
You shouldn't have to say something. Food is a very basic need. Anyone who cares for you would have stepped up, instinctively.
Ken Beattie 2 years ago (edited)
A couple things I see about this scenario: I could see him being oblivious if they normally split the bills or pay for their own food. If she usually paid for her own meals he may have just assumed she didn't want anything. Second, why did she have no money with her? Normally if you're going out on the town you'd carry money right? The answer to that is important, if she was broke (or forgot her purse) then she could (should) have told him and he should have offered to pay. On the other hand, there are people who act like the guy should pay for everything. The "a date is a free meal" crowd. That said, they'd been together for two years, so that seems unlikely.
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D. Pitbull 2 years ago
This is where some guy juuust might chime in: "Well, you didn't SAY anything, so how was I supposed to know?" - Abusive incompetence. Do they actually know or do they realize they should really have known (basic courtesy, geezus, I offer acquaintances I barely KNOW food because, if you're hanging out with me - just stuffing your stupid face and having someone watch? You're being so rude)... and are just pulling out that old nugget as a "This is a guy thing" excuse, so they NEVER have to be responsible individuals? Yes.
Weasel Wise 2 years ago
He should've offered but she should use her big kid words rather; passive aggression is so obnoxious and doesn't help anyone.
I give up on society 2 years ago (edited)
You kidding right. Kids eat first, then wife then me. That's like the unwritten rule that I grew up with. Seen dad donate blood so we could eat. He told me that what a man does for family. Well granddad. Still dad to me
Dorothy Stovall 2 years ago
Thank you, and thank your dad. This is how a man who looks after his family acts. Your wife and kids are blessed having you.
Load More Replies... Emma Goransdottir 2 years ago
you wouldn't have to say anything! For normal people, it's obvious to treat your loved one/friend/family to food when they don't have money. definitely don't sit and gobble food in front of a hungry person
#7
Me, when I fell down the stairs at my boyfriend's house and I was screaming in pain because I broke my ankle and he got mad at me because he had to drive me to the hospital he later told me he got angry because he wanted to play elden ring
Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago (edited)
But not inconvenient when you’re close by and he’s horny. But inconvenient once again 3 minutes later.
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October 2 years ago
Been there. While I was down with 41C fever he was yelling and stomping his feet in a rage cause now he had to take care of the kids.
tabithapaquette98 2 years ago
You mean HIS children? WTF? How dare you get sick! The nerve
Load More Replies... NewBird 2 years ago
I had this too. I'm pretty self-reliant so didn't ask for much from him in general. He was at the pub with his brother, I hurt my ankle (looking back I think it might have been broken but at the time it just thought it hurt a LOT) and called him to ask him to come and help me and he didn't. Took a few more months for me to realise that he just... didn't care.
Sean 2 years ago
isnt it really bad to have a broken bone heal without a doctor making sure its in the right position?
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Amy 2 years ago (edited)
Once I woke up in the middle of the night with excruciating pain in my back and side. I woke up my boyfriend and asked him to drive me to the ER. He finally agreed after I begged for half an hour. He complained for the entire drive, and stopped at McDonald's on the way to buy himself food while I was screaming in pain. It turned out I had a kidney stone. When we left the hospital, all he said was "I hope you're happy, now I'll be tired all day tomorrow." I'm embarrassed to say I stayed with him for a couple months after that.
Linda Lee 2 years ago
My ex screamed at me for asking him to drive me to the emergency room because of kidney stones. Why is it that when they get a cold the whole world needs to stop but when we need emergency medical treatment, we're an inconvenience? So glad he's in the rear view mirror.
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crazydogmama 2 years ago
My boyfriend dumped me when I tore my ACL and had to have two surgeries. Guess I was inconvenient, too. He tried to come back later, but I knew what he did.
Glass Ghost 2 years ago
Now that's "gamer" c**p that the community doesn't claim. Life and emergencies first. You shouldn't be pathetic enough to get mad at an emergency because you wanted to play your little death simulator.
Ivo H 2 years ago
This behavior is IMHO pretty rare. As a gamer myself, I never prioritize my gaming over anything related to my kids, or my wife. I love games, I’m able to spend whole days (before kids) or nights (after kids) playing. Because some games are flicking great! But it wouldn’t even cross my mind to prioritize gaming over family or emergencies.
Load More Replies... Gypsy Lee 2 years ago
I guarantee this same man will be trembling & going into shock if he sprained his. I’ve been in this situation; entire leg crushed, pushed out of socket at hip, knee, & ankle. Didn’t call an ambulance & stopped for a soda before he showed up to take me to hospital. I ended up having a neighbor call an ambulance. He was upset I “wasted” the money. LEAVE! It’s so incredibly wrong!
#8
I returned to Australia in 2021 following a horrible journey back to Scotland (where we got stuck for 3 months) after the murder of my older brother. When I finally got out of hotel quarantine, I witnessed my sister reuniting with her partner who ran to her and hugged her like he was never going to let go. When my partner of 10 years picked me up from the airport, he looked irritated and like he didn’t want to be there. I hugged him but he barely returned it. I found out a few months later he had started talking to other girls online while I was stuck in Scotland dealing with the fallout of what happened to my brother. ETA: He’d been an ex for almost a year now.
Kitty 🥀 2 years ago
They can’t see this. Almost every single one of these sorts of BP pages are taken from Reddit posts. If you really want to send them a message, click on the username link below the image of the post.
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Bronze Republic 2 years ago
Sorry for your loss. That was an opening sentence I did not expect.
#9
When he critiqued how I gave birth.
Lemme get the lemons 2 years ago
I like to see him do better. I wouldn't actually because that's disgusting and I'm a child, BUT THE POINT STILL STANDS!
Lakota Wolf 2 years ago
Yet clearly even as a child, you already know how wrong this situation is. You are already a better person than OP's partner, who is ostensibly an adult :)
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Sunny Day 2 years ago
Out of curiosity, what were you supposed to do differently? Push the baby out of your armpit?
Melissa Hammond 2 years ago
Like he knows enough about it to be able to offer the slightest opinion of the matter. Go sit down son. The mother's are talking here. These are my street creds. I've given birth to three children, all without an epidural. And I say that if you gave birth at all, and you and baby made it thru okay, then you did everything perfectly. Now kick his a*s to the curb, if you haven't already, and enjoy your baby. Well done.
MellonCollie 2 years ago
He *critiqued* how you gave *birth* ?!?!? This is some next level house c**p. Let me give his mother a ring real quick.
Ken Beattie 2 years ago
I know it's horrible, but I have this weird mental image of the guy assigning points for different categories. 4/10 for style very unimaginative, 10/10 for cursing, very original use of swear words, 1/10 for time, took far to long...
Glass Ghost 2 years ago
Not even pushing and praising of how cool I am for being at the birth. 3 out of 10.
Glass Ghost 2 years ago
I meant not enough pushing but thats how I imagine that going lol I hope she left his goofy self
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When he accused me of being manipulative because I was crying. Why was I crying? Because I had literally just received the news that my closest friend had committed suicide.
Alexigirl1 2 years ago
What a Twatbasket! I hope you are being supported now. I'm sorry for your loss Xx
D. Pitbull 2 years ago
Yeah... I've gotten that before... if you cry, it's automatically "You're being manipulative!!!" - oh, so of course, it has NOTHING to do with ... a tragedy (ie: family/friend dying) or... that you just made it clear you didn't care about my wellbeing/health (citing some of the incidences noted here about being left behind while physically injured)? Oh nooo... no of course not... you jackhole.
Dorothy Stovall 2 years ago
When my beloved dad died my second husband asked me if I was done crying (after 10 minutes) could I make dinner.
#11
When i realized that i was always needing to adjust to his schedule and the relationship immediately fell apart when i stopped putting in the effort
Alexigirl1 2 years ago
Compromise is a word some guys (and gals) haven't heard of. It HAS to be two way. Or no way.
Danish Susanne 2 years ago
I am sure he knows what compromise means. It means that you do as he wants.
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Me: “I’m in so much pain from my broken pelvis” Him: “Yeah, well, I’m tired too, ya know!” And proceeds to get mad that I am too physically broken to have sex. Actually mad.
Jo Firth 2 years ago
My ex got mad because I didn't 'want' sex 2 weeks after a hysterectomy... and it still took 7 more years before I finally worked out why I was constantly anxious.
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Stephanie Barr 2 years ago
What kind of monster thinks someone with a broken pelvis should be having sex?
Robert Beveridge 2 years ago
He has asked the question "what were you wearing" on multiple occasions. I'd put money on it.
Majungasaurus 2 years ago
“An umbrella beanie, parka, Mountie breeches and hip waders. You?”
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bottomless.abyss.of.bordem 2 years ago
I'm going to guess and say he wanted oral then, since you don't have to use your pelvis.
StrangeOne 2 years ago
A woman in pain isn't going to be in the mood for anything sexual. Just because a man wants oral sex doesn't mean his gf/wife must do so regardless if she wants to or not.
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when he beat the s**t out of me twice for being pregnant, both ended with miscarriages. it sucks but for the better.
Ken Beattie 2 years ago
Sadly, he probably wouldn't be charged for that because it'd involve proving intent and that might be difficult. But he absolutely should be charged with assault. Probably also get him on culpable homicide/manslaughter.
Load More Replies... Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago
Then again, you leaving him was final. No child to tie you to him forever, or for him to harass you to get custody of, or kidnap. I know that sounds callous, considering the two children he made you lose, but sometimes things happen in the present that seem bad now, but might be a relief later.
#14
I fell and twisted my ankle one evening after he had dropped me off for my evening class. Someone riding a bike had to actually go after him to stop him from driving off completely and leaving me there. When he came back to me he was super annoyed and asked me what he was supposed to do about it. So I made him drive me to the urgent care. He then proceeded to make me take my heavy backpack inside with our 2 small children and left us there. He wanted to go get high on drugs. I couldn’t even walk and was so embarrassed and angry. I had to call my mom to come pick us up once I was done because he wouldn’t answer the phone. The entire time my ankle was sprained he never once offered to help do anything. This is one of the many reasons he’s my ex 🙃
Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago
I would’ve stayed at Mom’s, and had all my large male relatives and friends go with me to pack my s**t and leave his sorry a*s.
Vasana Phong 2 years ago
It’s sad that some people get to know the real SO until they’re so deep in a relationship, like marriage and kids involved
Ken Beattie 2 years ago
Assuming the go and get high was referring to something harder than just weed it's not surprising he acted this way. He was in a much more demanding relationship. I get that it's hard if you've been together for awhile but I couldn't imagine staying involved with someone doing hard drugs because that's all they care about.
DC 2 years ago
You can ALWAYS delay getting high. What you can't delay is countering withdrawal, but ... any decent addict has and should have so much with them that would get them through at least one day without needing any else. That said, it doesn't sound like he was suffering from any of that, but was just an egoist AH. Were he experiencing serious withdrawal, I'd have some - not all - understanding for him, the impatience this can send you into isn't nice on the inside either, ... but I'd also advise anyone and everyone to NEVER let a perosn drive during serious withdrawal, for reasons of great enough obciousity to not need being mentioned.
#15
When he wouldn’t go get me food after I worked 12 hours and he had the whole day off and I hadn’t eaten yet that day. The place was like a 5 min drive away but he asked me to get it delivered instead. It took 2 hours for the food to get there. I cried because it was Super Bowl Sunday and we had all you can eat/drink packages so I ran around a lot and opened the restaurant that morning too. I was so tired. I broke up with him 2 days later.
Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago (edited)
OP, don’t demean yourself with some deadbeat a*****e. Wait for the magic when a truly wonderful guy comes along. Believe me, it’s so worth the wait. Even if he didn’t get takeout, my hubby would at least fix me a plate of food himself, either fresh once I got home, or put aside a cold plate or a hot meal wrapped up to microwave, for me to eat when I got home. I waited until I was pushing 40 for him. Looking back on previous boyfriends, I’m glad he’s the only one I wanted to marry. Totally worth the long wait.
Lo Kindred 2 years ago
I have often times been so busy that I simply don't think to eat, so maybe that was the issue.
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#16
The one that was an eye opener was while we were fetching a couple of items from the local store, I got really dizzy and fell on the floor (had vertigo balance issues at the time) she didn’t even notice, and kept on walking around the store, one of the staff brought me a chair to sit down, after a while I managed to find my balance and went to find her, told her what happened, she started shouting defensively. It was over that week. Had to end it.
Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago (edited)
When people, who get indirectly paid by your money when you shop, are way nicer to you than your SO, it’s time to have a real deep think about whether you want to waste any more time being around them or not. My money’s on not.
Linda Lee 2 years ago
He wanted me to go to the Big Box hardware store with him. I said I didn't feel well because of the heatwave. He insisted. I asked that he not run off in the store and lose me, (like he always did). Well, I nearly fainted and he was nowhere to be found. A nice employee brought me a bottle of water and helped me to a bench. He yelled at me on the drive home saying I did it for attention. We got home and I laid down and he came in the bedroom to yell at me some more. Yes, he's an ex.
Ken Beattie 2 years ago
I could imagine the not noticing and continuing to shop part. Not hard to do, and both adults so maybe he went to a different aisle to pick something. But after finding out what happened the first reaction should be concern not shouting.
#17
I had to drive a couple hours to say goodbye to my dying grandpa in the hospital. On my way back home, I stopped at Chipotle for dinner. My then boyfriend’s first reaction when he saw me—rather than comforting me because I’d just visited my grandpa for the last time—was to get angry that I didn’t get him a burrito.
Vervelende Panda 2 years ago (edited)
Well, they just said goodbye to their grandpa ;-)
Load More Replies... Robert Beveridge 2 years ago
I'll be honest... I'm no longer with anyone who CAUSED this sort of behavior but I long long ago learned that if I'm out alone and get fast food for myself, the detritus goes in the outside trash can the second I get home (if I haven't dumped it in another one on the way) because the alternative is hearing about it for a few months.
Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago
If it was me, and he wasn’t in a full body cast before I got home, so he couldn’t go get his own damn burrito, he sure would be in one after he said that insensitive b******t to me. Some people need to learn their lessons the hard way.
Connie Martin 2 years ago
I would have gone back out for the burrito, come back and thrown it in his face. Hard
Penny Kemper 2 years ago
On this one she also wasn't a very good gf if she didn't at least ask if he wanted anything when she was getting chipotle. Yes he shouldn't have been angry.... but she didn't think of him either.
#18
When I had to have an emergency procedure and instead of him driving me, I had to take the train because it was too early for him to bring me. I had no drivers license.
A week later he helped his family at 7AM to move.
Priority noted.
Wysteria_Rose 2 years ago
My husband had a flight get delayed four times and it kept him at the airport until 2am. He did attempt to get an Uber, however, due to the late hour it would have been an hour wait for it and the cost was high. He called, woke me up, explained this, and very kindly asked if it was possible for me to pick him up. AND I DID BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT YOU DO FOR PEOPLE YOU LOVE AND CARE ABOUT!!!
UpupaEpops 2 years ago (edited)
Same as before, you get up and go with your partner. It's an emergency. She could have fainted, gotten into an accident, or needed extra help. You get the f**k up and go. Christ, you're obtuse. It's like when I had to explain in graphic detail to a guy I was seeing why I don't want to get into an Uber all by myself an hour after waking up from general anaesthesia.
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#19
When the "your match is about to expire" notification popped up while he was showing me tik toks.
rob 2 years ago
Jup, depending on how long you have been dating/together, but that's a pretty clear indicator something is wrong
Ken Beattie 2 years ago
Haven't used tinder, how long does a match last? Is it a set time, or does it last until she declines it?
Load More Replies... Jon Steensen 2 years ago
I think the clue is in the "tinder" shown on the phone screen in the image. Tinder is a dating app, and if you like a girl, you shouldn't really think about dating anyone else at the same time.
Load More Replies... Debbie 2 years ago
How long were you dating? And we're you officially dating? (As i understand, nowadays the "rules" around dating and being in a relationship are different)
Majungasaurus 2 years ago
From the context (title of this post says “partner”) I’d say yes, they were exclusively dating. Length of time doesn’t matter in this case if you’ve agreed to be exclusive.
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He cried to me about emotional issues sometimes and I always held him and talked him through it. Eventually I needed the same support but instead he got mad and started yelling, blaming me, and told me, "one of us has to be the strong one, I can't have a partner who falls apart like this. I need someone strong."
Nay Wilson 2 years ago
That’s not the way it works. Everyone needs to be able to fall apart sometimes
Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago
To fall apart this time, and be strong the next. It’s a back and forth between people who love each other—-and no one should be either always falling apart and never being strong, or worse, keeping score.
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Vasana Phong 2 years ago
Wow, so if you had any emotional issues you got to hold it in because of his lame a*s?
CHRISTY SMITH 2 years ago
If she stayed with him, I hope it was just to bide her time until he needs his pacifier for his emotional distress in which she shouted, “ "one of us has to be the strong one, I can't have a partner who falls apart like this. I need someone strong." Followed by dumping him at that very moment. ** Yes, I am SUPERRRRR pity **
Nick Smith 2 years ago
No one can always be the strong one. It's a balance, just like everything else in life.
#21
When he didn't want to tell one of his (unbeknownst to me, MANY) bits on the side that it was over because (and I quote) he "didn't want to hurt her feelings!" And then again when I was only hours from having heart surgery and he chose that moment to tell me he didn't love me anymore. Now I'm with a guy who actually loves me and I regret ever giving that thing I used to date the time of day.
Stephanie A Mutti 2 years ago
It's sad and hopeful at the same time to see we sometimes need a minute to realize it's not working, but that the next go around we are much wiser in our choices.
Ken Beattie 2 years ago
Honestly, the first point should have been the end to it. If he's unwilling to commit to you by telling his previous partner(s) it's over then he's not really committing to you. So move on right then and there.
Ember Ardoni 2 years ago
I'm glad you found someone who loves you. And I hope "that thing" dies in a hole
#22
When he tripped and fell into his girl best friend’s vagina.
Jennlyn 2 years ago
"You tripped, slipped on a rug. Whoops Mrs. H, I guess this just isn't my day."
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Leah Brown 2 years ago
I've had the "it was an accident" excuse before. I told him he was now free to walk around without pants and could accidently trip into whatever va-jj he wanted to because he would NOT be seeing mine anymore. BEST DECISION EVER!!
Danish Susanne 2 years ago
Did you remember to shred all the pants he now no longer needed, before you left him
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LooseSeal's $10 Banana 2 years ago
I can understand that. But why were they naked to begin with?
#23
So many small things that I justified as differences in communication. The final realization was when I tried talking about my complicated relationship with my father and he started getting angry at me for not understanding what fathers go through and general explanation of why life sucks for men. Like bro. Are you gaslighting me about my own relationship with my dad?
The bulb just went on that he doesn't care enough to understand my experiences. Broke up within the next 2 weeks.
crowspectre (he/they) 2 years ago
As a man, if anyone tries to explain why life sucks for us compared to women, get rid of them. I'm trans so I should really know
Liv 2 years ago
I don’t think that’s just an alternate viewpoint, seems more like invalidating her experience
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Ex partner. I broke a glass accidently and stepped on a piece screaming. He didn't even come into the kitchen which was right next to our bedroom. Even after I yelled for him to get something to stop the bleeding.
Snow_White 2 years ago
My ex broke a glass and didn't bother to clean up properly. I found out because I got a piece of glass stuck in my foot.
actaeon cross 2 years ago (edited)
While I agree it can be hard to make sure all of it is up, I don't think it's something you just forget. My grandma once did the same and a shard ended up in my foot, it was one of the sharpest pains I've experienced
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Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago
I guess if OP had fallen in that spot, got a shard of glass stuck in an artery, and bled to death on the floor, her boyfriend would get mad that she died, and now he has to pay to clean up the blood and replace the carpet, but not be all torn up with mourning her. Imagine his disrespectful a*s at the funeral. I wouldn’t really blame them if her family threw him into the nearest empty grave and buried him alive. It’s way more than he deserves.
#25
During a fight, I'm begging for him to use kind words. No verbal abuse, stay quiet and listen to respond, just have a real conversation. He tells me "that's not who I am, I'm not changing for you." Idk why it took so long for me to realize, but he just doesn't give a s**t about me. I realized he would continue doing that as long as I am around to take it.
Angrywolf 2 years ago
My ex was like that to, And im Dutch and when you want to swear or hurt somebody with words Dutch is one of the worst languages out there, We can be truly rude and hurtful if we want to.
amanda goss 2 years ago
I love Dutch curses. They're truly hilarious. Now I'm back in the US, I use kut all the time. No one gets offended and I get to yell bad words to calm down.
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Agnes Jekyll 2 years ago
Maya Angelou said that when someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time--true, but very hard to do.
#26
I confronted him and found out I was just a side piece. I cried for days, mostly because I couldn’t believe I was that stupid.
Maisey Myles 2 years ago
Hey- you're not stupid. You were smart enough to get away from him. I felt the same about my ex. I was so angry with him until I realized I was really mad at myself for not getting out of there sooner. Therapy helped
Lee Banks 2 years ago
A guy moved to my city for law school, and we hit it off. Four years together, but never said boyfriend/girlfriend, despite being exclusive. Right before he graduated he said (I kid you not) "You know this will never work, right? I'm going to be a senator, and I need a blonde wife from a good family. I'll never love her, but it's what I need. Part of me will always love you, but you're not the right aesthetic." Sure enough, he was married to his ex within six months. At least I basically went to law school.
Hakitosama 2 years ago
May I recommend you the song "Diane" by Cam and "two black Cadillacs"? 😇
#27
When my ex proposed to me and then three weeks later started cheating on me with an employee that was underage
Cat Palmer 2 years ago
I assume / hope the police were involved. I'm not usually a proponent of getting authorities involved in a break-up, if it's just for revenge, but it's clearly needed in this case.
Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago
Report him. If he’s slept with her, you can get him arrested and out on the pedophile list. That’ll learn him.
#28
When I found out he had never actually stopped contact with the woman he cheated on me with. They just moved their sexting convos over to a different app. F*****g a*****e.
adreannerwoodard96 2 years ago
Should've broken up with him the first time he cheated on you. Once is way too many times.
Ken Beattie 2 years ago
I get that everyone is different, but yeah seems like a dealbreaker to me.
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When he said I don’t enjoy giving you orgasms because then you don’t want to have sex for a few days after that.
Or maybe when he told me we never went on a honeymoon because he knew he wasn’t going to get any sex.
Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago (edited)
See how sexy he feels when the process server—-and have them send either the most intimidating server, or the most beautiful lesbian server, who can have the most withering look on her face, they can find. Either way, old horndog’s limp wiener will be so humiliated, it’ll retreat all the way up his body and be peeking out of his mouth.
#30
When I had to take a cab home from the emergency room in the middle of the night because he went home to sleep.
Kathleen Pearlman 2 years ago
I thought the hospital wouldn't let you go home unless you had someone with you.
Linda Lee 2 years ago
Hospitals actually have phone numbers for cabs that will pick you up in the middle of the night. It's a sad, lonely ride. My cab driver barely spoke English but he gave me his card and told me to call if I needed anything.
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Then you park the damn car and get your a*s into an Uber so you can be there for your partner.
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#31
When my fiancé told me that I was just a convenient babysitter with benefits after I discovered her cheating. She went on and on about how she was so out of my league that I should have known, it was my fault for being so stupid. We had been together for three years, living together for two, and I realized that she never cared. I was just a roof over her head and took care of her kids while she went out to hook up with guys. She kept the ring, and from what I’ve been told she sold it.
Alexigirl1 2 years ago
You are SO lucky to be out of that situation. However it occurred. Good luck X
Tanya Venter 2 years ago (edited)
Than you for looking out for thr kids during the time you were together.
#32
When I told him I really wanted presents to open on Christmas morning. Nothing extravagant or expensive, just some little gifts to unwrap together. I got him a bunch of funny socks and wrapped each pair individually. He “gave” me items that we already owned. Like, took a picture frame off of a shelf and wrapped it, stuff like that. I cried and he didn’t understand what the problem was.
Majungasaurus 2 years ago
Ew. I did that when I was like 5, it was cute back then. Not when you’re a full blown adult.
#33
When he had to pick me up after I was mugged and drove me straight to a bar. I started crying when I realized we weren’t going home and he argued with me why we should go out until he ended up taking me home just to then ignore and pout.
#34
He wanted to invite his family to watch football at our place (because their tv wasn't working or sth), I told him that I'm in pain and I really don't have the energy to have people over. Then he told me that he will just tell them our tv isn't working either. I asked him why he would lie, and he said: "Well, you're always in pain, who would even believe that?" I have adenomyosis.
Shirna The Syren 2 years ago
Too bad they don't give those out anymore... I know someone who really needs one, but the doctors won't do it
Load More Replies... bottomless.abyss.of.bordem 2 years ago
In this case, I'm down with the lie. It saves any follow up questions.
#35
When my partner of 2yrs didn't come to see me after I got hit by a car on the way to work. I was at hospital 300 metres (328 yards) from his office, but he didn't want to leave work. Worst thing was I was so used to this kind of behaviour, I didn't make an issue about it and stayed with him for another year. Leaving him was one of the best things I ever did.
Shark Lady 2 years ago
I had an ex who refused to visit me in hospital because they thought the £3.50 cost of parking was too much to spend on me.
Wysteria_Rose 2 years ago
I had an allergic reaction to something I ate in the middle of the work day. I broke out in hives and was coughing, nothing like my throat closing up, but my husband still left work to sit with me at urgent care (completely surprised me as I didn't ask him to). If they care for you, they'll be there.
#36
- I was happy about losing weight and he’d say “you need to eat some more” - Emotional abandonment - Started losing respect for him - Wouldn’t let me take naps if I was tired - Woke me up (when I was sick) and made me walk on a sore ankle cause he didn’t want to go to a restaurant alone. - Gaslighting - I did start questioning if I was trauma bonded to him.
Lili Hajdu 2 years ago
I kind of understand the first sentence if she was loosing too much weight, too fast, but the rest. jesus
#37
When, less than 24 hours after I had my first dog put down, he asked me why I was still crying. He also had a breakdown in his car, crying, hitting the steering wheel, punching his window, etc when I asked him to stay with me the night I reported my ex boyfriend (different guy) for rape and sexual assault. He said he couldn’t come home with me because he “couldn’t handle” what I said in my report to the police. It was the first time I’d ever told anyone the full story of the abuse I went through and he insisted on coming with me. He instead went home and took drugs. I had to listen to him cry on the phone because he felt like he was a bad person.
Debbie 2 years ago
It is clear he couldn't handle it, so he was not lying. And he probably felt like a bad person because he couldn't handle it. He needed an outlet/some time to process this. Not everyone is born out raised with the ability to deal with crises or trauma. He would need guidance of someone where he can share his feelings about it and get advice on how to support OP. Should he bottle up his emotions instead "like a man"? Taking drugs is not the answer though. Did he ever try to talk to OP about it after his initial shock? (And after the drugs have worn off/he got his emotions out) The aftermath is what matters, if he tried to be there for her then. If he simply ignored what happened - he's an a*****e. Again I miss a lot of context to do easily judge negatively. Booo-one is so easy to be done.
#38
One example of many -- I was doing the dishes and accidentally cut my finger pretty bad on a knife. My now-ex said, "I would get you a bandaid but I don't know where they are." Like keeping them in the bathroom medicine cabinet for the past several years had been my strategy of hiding them from him somehow.
I grabbed a paper towel to avoid getting blood everywhere while I ran to the bathroom to get a bandaid. I had to finish doing the dishes one handed.
The worst part is he identified that the correct answer was to help but chose to make a passive aggressive statement instead to save himself a walk to the bathroom. Real nice.
crowspectre (he/they) 2 years ago
Me being stupid I could see myself forgetting where they were but in that scenario I'd just like ask my partner where the bandaids are?? Like seriously it's not hard
Terry Tobias 2 years ago
I was in this same situation but in my case I sliced my thumb so bad that blood was pouring out and wouldn't stop. I needed to go to the ER but my boyfriend at the time didn't want to take me because it was late and he didn't want to go out. I had to drive myself to the hospital with blood streaming down my arm.
Huddo's sister 2 years ago
I came home one night when I was living with my brother and he had cut himself and didn't know where the bandaids were (also in bathroom) but at least he figured out something else to do- he knew where there was gaffa tape so used that! I was fine with helping him when I 'found' the bandaids, but annoyed because a week later he still hadn't cleaned up the blood trail he left!
Kirsty 2 years ago
Wouldn't it be easier to ask instead of making §h|π¥ comments?
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#39
When I was sitting with him and his dad at their house and I was telling his dad about my grandmothers cancer. He looked annoyed to be there. We broke up like 30 mins later.
HelluvaHedgehogAlien 2 years ago
Nah, it was a f*****g cannon actually, I changed my mind
Load More Replies... Sunny Day 2 years ago
Point of clarification - did his dad know your grandmother, or ask you you looked upset? How many times had you told the grandmother story, and to how many people? Cuz I have to be honest - if you are going into chapter and verse with every person you know or meet, then it becomes "you seeking attention" and does get annoying. (Talking to you, Mom)
Debbie 2 years ago
How long were you dating? How well did you know him? Did you ask him if he was annoyed and if so, why? Maybe because his father was an a*hole to him but acted nice when you were around? "Looked annoyed" can have so many reasons, why assume it was because of you / the subject? There is a whole lot of context missing.
#40
When he didn’t comfort me when I’d cry about my creep of a boss.
Majungasaurus 2 years ago (edited)
Happened to me too. My old boss grabbed me from behind and grinded into me and when I told my bf he got mad and jealous that I let that happen. ☹️
#41
he stopped making my favorite tea when I came home after work and then he completely stopped being interested in my life....
#42
When I got so drunk the night before I could only puke my guts out every 30 minutes and he only stayed the night because he wanted sex. He immediately left me alone in the morning, while I was still puking, after I told him I'm obviously not able to f**k him.
Maisey Myles 2 years ago
My ex is an alcoholic. I quit drinking years ago as I was taking a medication that didn't pair well with booze. He broke up with me saying I wasn't fun anymore and didn't like sex. I asked him why the hell would I want to sleep with a drunk when he couldn't perform and it was my fault somehow
#43
My ex husband told me he shouldn’t have called 911 after I attempted suicide, he slept the entire time I was being worked on so he thought it was just for attention. My current relationship, this week he told me I never do anything in the house until he starts too. I do literally everything including paying the bills and taking care of his kids. It was like telling me he doesn’t appreciate me.
Chiara1125 2 years ago
When I told my ex about my suicidal thoughts, he just said "just don't do it in my place, or I'll be in trouble". Thank fk both him and the thoughts are gone.
#44
When I fainted in the middle of the night and my head knocked a hole in the plaster and he was more worried about the damage to the plaster than to me. I missed a wooden door surround by about an inch.
#45
When I realized he doesn't honor my boundaries, doesn't provide emotional support, and after I told him I wasn't happy in our relationship and was considering divorce and he told me he wanted to fix things he created a 2nd "anonymous" snapchat account...but he used his same phone number so snapchat told me one of my contacts had just joined.
#46
Actually yesterday. I told him I missed him because we hadn't met for a while. Which appears "annoyed the s**t out of him." I tried to have a calm conversation about why he's always dismissing my feelings, never says anything nice to me, makes disgusted facial expressions when I tell him I love him, and he suddenly snapped, became very aggressive, really mean, and basically made me finally see that he doesn't give a c**p about me or how I feel, sees me trying to talk about something that bothers me as "self-absorbed." He basically told me to f**k off without using those words. I've done so much for him, I've been knocking at doctors doors for over half a year with him now, doing all the research, finding doctors, etc, just to help him deal with some health problems (we live in Japan and he doesn't speak a word after 6 years lmao). We haven't talked since then. And I think the relationship is over.
Shark Lady 2 years ago
OP needs to run in the opposite direction as quick as possible, let the loser sort out his own problems. Spread your wings op and see how far you can fly when you aren't holding on to his dead weight.
Otter-ly Crazy 2 years ago
This is the perfect metaphor for getting out of a toxic relationship
Load More Replies... Chexmy Licks🇯🇵/egg 2 years ago
r yall still living in the same house? cus if yall r wth? kick him out smh
Phoenix(or nix)they/them 2 years ago
I agree. Kick his a**e out if he lives with you
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SnackbarKaat 2 years ago
Set up an appointment for grouptherapy for single men, drop him off and leave. Since he doesn't speak Japanese it will take him a while to realise
#47
when I signed up for bumble bff to make friends because we moved to a new city together and he would rather spend every day on discord with his friends playing video games then doing anything with me.
#48
It’s hard to tell. There have been so many glaring signs in our marriage. It’s pretty obvious the only reason he ever cared about me is because I came with assets and a decent paycheck. I wonder if he realizes yet that he has destroyed all the feelings I ever had for him?
#49
This happened a long time ago but it was when I got in an accident and when I texted him about it he didn't even bother to come see me. He just asked what happened and continued gaming with his friends.
#50
When I came out of the mental hospital after a 10 day stint and they never cared to see me for *months* When he told me he would have sex with someone else if given the chance and it wouldn’t be considered cheating, disloyal, or unfaithful When they made me cry on my birthday When they put everyone else before me, like thank you for penciling me, your girlfriend (now ex), into your super busy schedule When they weaponized my loneliness, anxiety, and bipolar disorder against me
Aboredpanda 2 years ago
People with serious mental illness often experience abuse from others when they're ill.💔
#51
Pay attention to how they act during a family members passing or medical situation. Their true colors of empathy care or selfishness are visible.
#52
When he cheated with a worker in the apartment complex. He said "can't you get the hint?"
Lemme get the lemons 2 years ago
No can't you, they obviously loved you so don't take their heart and break it as you please you liar
#53
When his entire family took a cruise and invited his ex wife (mother of his 16 year old twins) and not me. And she went.
Josh 2 years ago
I misread this and thought at first the ex was the mother of his 16 children.
Michael Largey 2 years ago
If so, she would be entitled to a free cruise.
Load More Replies... Debbie 2 years ago (edited)
That she went might not be the problem - her kids are going and if she still gets along with the family, why not. The aggravating (is that the right word) is not inviting the girlfriend. Few questions though: how long were they dating? Did everyone pay for their own journey? How long ahead was this planned? What did the teenagers want? How is her relationship with the children? Also, who did the inviting?
#54
When he got drunk at a bachelor party and kissed another girl and tried to deny it AFTER SOMEONE SAW HIM.
Sonja 2 years ago
Alcohol doesn't magically put urges in your head you never had before or makes you do stuff you don't want to do. It only lowers your inhibition to do what you deep down always wanted to do. People don't become someone different when drunk, they let go of the person they presented when sober and show you who they truly are inside. In vino veritas. If someone really doesn't want to be who they are when drunk, they will stop drinking. If they use drinking as an excuse to do the bad things they wouldn't do sober, that's what they want to do. Drinking is a decision. And if someone can't control themselves when drunk and still keeps drinking, then they're a bad person who does bad things. Of course they're most likely also an alcoholic, but that too is not going to get better any time soon and still is no excuse for abuse. They're still responsible. And it's still their doing.
Majungasaurus 2 years ago
As an alcoholic, I agree. However your line “if someone can't control themselves when drunk and still keeps drinking, then they're a bad person who does bad things” isn’t cool. Alcoholics can’t control themselves while drinking and often still keep drinking, that doesn’t make us bad people. (I’m sure you’re talking about “controlling themselves” as in not cheating, but I just want to make sure we’re not stigmatizing a really painful addiction here)
Load More Replies... Chexmy Licks🇯🇵/egg 2 years ago
i mean, if a drunk person kissed someone it means they wanted it to happen. or they could be kissing "u" idk but that barely happens
Debbie 2 years ago
If you mean that someone comes up to you and full on kisses you before you have a chance to object, and being drunk doesn't help in reaction times (i would probably be stunned for a few seconds) - I bet that happens a lot. Both to men and women. Then it would be sexual assault. But even if that happened - then you wouldn't deny it happened! You'd protest and say she kissed me out of nowhere, it happened to fast to react. (or I was too drunk to react). He didn't. Unless he was too embarrassed to about sexual assault or had so much to drink his memory was affected. So most likely, even if the girl initiated the kiss, he engaged in the kissing. So he is a jerk.
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When he checked out other girls while I'm sitting next to him. How you gonna say I love you when you fantasizing next to me
Majungasaurus 2 years ago (edited)
I had an ex like this. He would stare and try to make eye contact and exchange little smiles with the other girl while I was looking right at him trying to talk to him. My CURRENT bf will occasionally check out a girl when I’m around but he’s so much more respectful about it. It used to bother me with ex, but doesn’t bother me with bf because he just appreciates for a moment then turns his attention right back to me. Doesn’t try to flirt, just looks. (And I do the same with other cute people too, I’m respectful too and it doesn’t bother him, we both know there’s a lot of attractive people out there) It’s how you do it 🤷♀️
Jinx 2 years ago
did he then lie to your face and say he wasn't looking at anyone?
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Belladonna.dreams 2 years ago
My SO and i got into an argument because he started following girls on Instagram that were barely covered, top heavy, tiny waist and big butt. He tried to say they had funny captions. They did not.
Khall Khall 2 years ago
Looking at tulips doesn't mean you don't like roses. This one is a naw for me. Idk I think older people are different but there's a difference between seeing someone attractive and noticing and eye-boinking them. Depends.
#56
I was upstairs laughing at a joke with online friends, and he turned the volume up on the TV so he didn’t have to hear me laugh.
jdtimid123 2 years ago
I feel like this might be missing some info. Like, if it was a one time that she got loud then turning the TV up is dumb, but if she had also been talking loudly up to that point, then I get turning up the TV. No one wants to listen to a conversation they aren't a part of. Unless he specifically said that was the reason. Although he probably shouldn't have the TV up so loud that she can hear it upstairs either. That can't be good for your hearing.
Debbie 2 years ago
Lots of these posts miss info. The one who feels wronged will paint their subjective version of the situation, with their assumptions. We don't know if the wronged person in these stories isn't some entitled person, or emotionally manipulative themselves, always being the victim. I don't mean this list in particular. Just that we only hear one, very subjective side. In this case, if he had said he didn't want to hear he laugh, then she is fully in her right. But she doesn't mention him saying that, she assumes it is. So do we believe her, while knowing nothing about the rest of them, or their relationship? Or do we give the benefit of the doubt? Maybe he couldn't hear/understand his TV/show over her laughing?
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There are countless incidents but the one that jumps out is that his acquaintance had at some point lied and said he slept with me prior to our relationship and someone told my bf about it. I told him it wasn't true. The guy had a huge crush on me for years but we never even dated. It was barely a thing to my then boyfriend and he continued being the guy's acquaintance. Edit to add: Wow, just realized I left out a HUGE piece. The bf of this convo was my first. So yeah, it was just terrible and heartbreaking.
Huddo's sister 2 years ago
I don't quit get this. Are they upset that the bf wasn't jealous, or that he didn't get angry at the guy who lied? Or both? I feel like there is more missing.
Debbie 2 years ago
Same... So an acquaintance lied, you told the truth, he didn't make a big deal of it, and you are upset that he doesn't give the acquaintance the cold shoulder from then on? He probably felt sorry for the guy - having a crush on you for so long. That is just sad.
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Amanda 2 years ago
Nowhere near as awful as some of these, but I told him I was thinking of giving up alcohol. He immediately blocked me on all social media and I haven't heard anything since. Beer was more important to him than me and my wellbeing
Chexmy Licks🇯🇵/egg 2 years ago
im actually speechless about these post. i cant believe someone is this cruel to the people who love them.
D. Pitbull 2 years ago
So ... so many of these could have been stories from my own relationship history (not current) - what is worse is the reason ANY of us put up with it for more than a single incident is that we're shamed by others (who haven't had the same issues) to "not give up" and "I'm sure you misjudged things"
Debbie 2 years ago
Some posts were clear and heartbreaking. Some were lacking info and well told from a victims perspective but very subjective so I am hesitant to judge. There is harsh judgment here, based on only a few lines of text. It's give and take in a relationship, and often it feels like it is divided unfairly. But what one person gives or takes might not be the same thing that the other needs of wants. But if it's a dead weight sitting on the couch and not putting in any effort, it's time to clean up the useless stuff..
talliloo 2 years ago
had been married about 10 yrs when i was diagnosed with a slow but degenerative disease. fast forward to about 25 yrs of marriage and had a bad flare that meant that i had to use a wheelchair for a day or so. the first time he saw me in the chair he turned and walked away. i left a couple of years later. btw, i still have the chair and maybe use it once or twice a year but only when i know i am going somewhere with uneven ground or want to take my dogs on a long walk.
Whitefox 2 years ago
My ex cheated several times, lied like his life depended on it, stole money, did nothing to help around the house, spent money he didnt have, emotionally abused the c**p out of me, gaslit me at every turn, refused to help take care of our pets even when I was working 16hrs a day because he quit his job. Ohhh it was a wretched experience. Thankfully, I moved onwards and upwards. I am with the love of my life now and never look back.
HelluvaHedgehogAlien 2 years ago
My ex bf was a jerk but he was nowhere near this level of assholery
Maisey Myles 2 years ago
I can respond to all of these stories about evil ex's with one word- scumbags
Amanda 2 years ago
Nowhere near as awful as some of these, but I told him I was thinking of giving up alcohol. He immediately blocked me on all social media and I haven't heard anything since. Beer was more important to him than me and my wellbeing
Chexmy Licks🇯🇵/egg 2 years ago
im actually speechless about these post. i cant believe someone is this cruel to the people who love them.
D. Pitbull 2 years ago
So ... so many of these could have been stories from my own relationship history (not current) - what is worse is the reason ANY of us put up with it for more than a single incident is that we're shamed by others (who haven't had the same issues) to "not give up" and "I'm sure you misjudged things"
Debbie 2 years ago
Some posts were clear and heartbreaking. Some were lacking info and well told from a victims perspective but very subjective so I am hesitant to judge. There is harsh judgment here, based on only a few lines of text. It's give and take in a relationship, and often it feels like it is divided unfairly. But what one person gives or takes might not be the same thing that the other needs of wants. But if it's a dead weight sitting on the couch and not putting in any effort, it's time to clean up the useless stuff..
talliloo 2 years ago
had been married about 10 yrs when i was diagnosed with a slow but degenerative disease. fast forward to about 25 yrs of marriage and had a bad flare that meant that i had to use a wheelchair for a day or so. the first time he saw me in the chair he turned and walked away. i left a couple of years later. btw, i still have the chair and maybe use it once or twice a year but only when i know i am going somewhere with uneven ground or want to take my dogs on a long walk.
Whitefox 2 years ago
My ex cheated several times, lied like his life depended on it, stole money, did nothing to help around the house, spent money he didnt have, emotionally abused the c**p out of me, gaslit me at every turn, refused to help take care of our pets even when I was working 16hrs a day because he quit his job. Ohhh it was a wretched experience. Thankfully, I moved onwards and upwards. I am with the love of my life now and never look back.
HelluvaHedgehogAlien 2 years ago
My ex bf was a jerk but he was nowhere near this level of assholery
Maisey Myles 2 years ago
I can respond to all of these stories about evil ex's with one word- scumbags
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