33 “Microfeminism” Practices People Swear By

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I do it all the time unfortunately "Hum well I don't think it's that important but...."....My boss (woman) does what OP is doing but I know I should just stop doing that in the first place.

Sadly this is a lesson I need to learn. It's great that you tell them to not over apologize

I especially liked the "Don't apologize for contributing".

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I love this one, its a positive way to challenge sexism

Sounds like being patronising works both ways.

I think I may have met this woman. When I asked her what she did, she asked "What if I said I worked at Krispy Kreme?" I replied that it brought back many happy memories of going there with my friends. Later, she apologized and admitted that she was a rocket scientist / defense analyst. I worked for a think tank with many such specialists, so I asked her if she knew so-and-so. She laughed and said she had just spoken with him the day before.

That's a really good method. Not combative but encouraging with a positive approach. Good way to influence an environment of equality instead of resentment and animosity.

It's even better to say, "John, that's fantastic. Thank you for reminding us of the point Mary made earlier in this meeting." Then turn and look at Mary, "Mary, do you have anything else to add to your original point? How do you suggest we progress?"

I'm curious if OP does the same thing if a woman takes credit for another woman's work, or if a man takes credit for anther man's work.

Woman, I like your flapsy attitude!

I had a male colleague present back to myself and a female colleague a slide that we wrote. He took it, put it in his presentation and presented it back. We were the only people in the room. We were dumfounded. Until I asked him a question on it and he couldn't answer so we both educated him for about 20 minutes.

that does nothing. sorry. yes you are calling him out in front of everyone but in the end it doesn't change anything.... i've done this too, and credit still goes to the person who brought it up to the right person. instead of blasting them in front of everyone like a child, go to the right person and set the story straight with them.

A simple "I'm not done" or "hold that thought" sends a clearer politer message and doesn't waste everyone's time.

But some people, (men AND women), just don't know how to stop talking. Had a guy talk over the phone for 30 minutes straight, taking breathing breaks at odd times (not at the end of a sentence), and no one in the meeting could interrupt him.

Yeah but some people just won't shut up doesn't matter what sex they are.

im the supervisor of a department of 6 employees, 5 women, 1 man. he's not the problem, he doesn't actually interrupt, but when one of my coworkers is talking to me, and she has something important, and then someone from another department walks in and starts talking to me, even though she is very clearly already talking, i keep eye contact with her and say "dude, she was already talking. wait until she's done".... like c'mon

This one strikes me a little funny, only because I (a man) used to have a woman coworker who would interrupt me in meetings to make the same point I was already making. (No hard feelings, though; we ended up marrying each other.)

When I am in this type of situation, I usually stop walking. I stand stock still facing straight ahead, looking right at whoever is going to walk into me. I have found that the other person usually moves aside.

I started doing that too about two years ago. I am hurrying to the train station, dumbass, you are just strolling away. Move or I'll run into you

I work on a college campus, as well, and I'm amazed at the students who feel the need to walk 4 and 5 abreast on the sidewalk. I always continue walking in a straight line at the edge of the sidewalk, and have run into one of them more than once. They always look stunned and say, "Oh!" as if they didn't know I was headed their way. I do not have an invisibility cloak, so I'm sure I'm visible. It's amazing to me how utterly oblivious they are to anyone but themselves.

one thing I've done lately is stopped getting out of peoples way, like I'm less important than them. when people walk right at me, as they often do. I just stand there. I don't move anymore. don't get me wrong, I'm still aware of people around me, I've just stopped assuming I'M the one in the way. it's different if you're walking towards someone, and you both move to opposite sides of a space to pass each other, or end up doing the accidental dance where you both keep changing direction and blocking each other. but it's the ones that just walk right at you assuming you'll move that I WILL NOT move for anymore. if they bump into me, fine. their fault if I'm standing still. they always look so offended. it's hilarious.

I lock eyes and play chicken bowling.

I joined the Navy right out of high school and this was what I had to learn. It's served me well through the years.

YES!!!!

I am the same and it works well most of the time.

I mostly agree with this point. I always act confidant in public situations, especially at work and people will mostly, 'fall in line' and take you seriously.

My favorite thing to do back when I was much younger was to ask "why can't a girl (be the president of the photography club, run the fundraiser, act as security etc...)" and watch them stammer over the answer.

Thank you for pointing this out.

Same with racism. We leave out 'white' man, but always include 'black' man.

Reminds me of this that I read a few years ago. The bit that hit hard was "Even the term VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN is problematic, it's a passive construction.... it shifts the focus off men and boys and onto women and girls" PHOTO-2020...4b0a06.jpg

So true, works the same with white people. It’s always Black this that and the other, Latinos, Asians but rarely white when it’s a negative occurrence especially. So now when people identify white criminals, white people yell “reverse racism”.also, look how white crime is described by background to not say white, I.e. Italian mob, Irish mob, Russian mobs against the Eastern front, Dixie mafia, Serbians, Czechs, motorcycle gangs, militia, and all this is in the states not Europe!

We should all start asking when this happens.

Interesting. I've found that women usually address me that way first.

This has come up before here and I've pointed out that these terms can be regional customs. In parts of the south (US) darlin' is not unusual at all.

You will find that the men won't mind. Like, even a little. This is not the "own" you think this is.