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“There is no health without mental health,” the World Health Organization famously says. Fortunately, people are getting better at taking care of both their emotional and physical well-being, but there’s still a long way to go before we completely combat the rising numbers of mental disorders.

Instagram account The Happiness Project, run by a ‘bloke from Manchester,’ is set on helping the cause, one post at a time. It’s full of real and raw experiences from people struggling with mental health that help people not feel alone. To find them, all you have to do is scroll down.

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Sue Denham
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I like this way of thinking.

iBlank
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1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

even better is to think about why it's bothering you to begin with... as a long time bike commuter I was annoyed by all the electric scooters and bikes at first. When I thought deeper about it I was bothered by the idea that it was cheating (from an exercise standpoint), which is really stupid. Now I use the electric scooters and bikes on occasion, because they are very useful in certain situations and a lot of fun

keyboardtek
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some people have been mentally conditioned from years of Christian religious dogma to believe they are righteous and therefore superior to everyone else and so they are always judging people and making critical comments.

Tzoom
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can't think of doing something else in such a situation... Do people really struggle that much with live and let live?

yeeyee
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why do people resort to negativity when seeing someone happy? Seriously, what put so much hate in their heart that they instantly want to bring someone down who is just enjoying their life?

Stannous Flouride
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In 2014 I resolved to no longer argue or post negative comments online. I have, on occasion, corrected misinformation but always politely and citing relevant sources. I think I made the right choice.

similarly
Community Member
1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Too, too often these days, people take it as a personal attack if I like something and they don't, or they like something that I don't. They think I'm somehow criticizing them just because I like different things!

killjoy
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

louder for the people in the back

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    Bored Birgit
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, it is. I feel exhausted all the time, staying in bed unable to do chores or even things I like. And I don't know why. Just feeling helpless.

    Just me...
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And ashamed. I have a wonderful family and a good life. I get so low and them ashamed because I have no reason for feeling so bad.

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    Lady Miss Pie
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Depression ISN’T “sadness,” it is the loss of vitality. The opposite of depression is vitality, not happiness.

    similarly
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I rarely feel "sad". Mostly, I just feel like not living anymore. It's not even "Wow! I bet heaven would be better than this." It's literally "Not existing at all would be better than this."

    WonderWoman
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sad and Depression are two different animals.

    DetriMentaL (It/That)
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Depression makes your favorite meal taste like dust and a shower feel like a flaying while you relive your downfalls. You can numb it with alcohol and d***s and that bliss does save you a few minutes peace, but its always there waiting for you when you wake up. Its a disease that you cannot shake, at best you get help at most you learn to ignore it

    Nikole
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I self medicate with alcohol. I’ve also gotten help multiple times, but ultimately it didn’t really, uh, help. I just try to do the best I can now and keep it together. But yeah, you can’t shake it. I can reason my way out of most quandaries, but this quandary is unquantifiable and baffles me.

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    Winter Eleven
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Everything is cardboard. Food tastes like cardboard. Drinks taste like liquid cardboard. Bed feels like cardboard so it's more productive to skip ahead bs sleeping through the day

    Magenta Blu
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And somehow being even more tired after sleeping... Waking up makes me sad, because another day has begun... It never ends

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    D Gibson
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Depression to me is a loud sucking sound. Nothing can penetrate the din going around in my brain. My hearing is gone. My sight is gone. My taste buds stop working. Everything tastes like wallpaper glue. I can't hear music that I love. Nothing and no one is of interest to me. I am a lifelong avid reader. My ability to follow a plotline dissolves and I am in a vacuum and unable to read. The only thing I find soothing is being in my bed with the covers over my head,literally. In this state I feel completely empty. I cannot feel the love of my family and friends. Worse still is the inability to feel the love I have for others. I can't feel anything. Psychiatrists have disagreed with me, telling me I'm wrong. Many of them did more harm than good. I stopped going to see them. I don't get all of the "sadness". I would love to feel something ,but nothing is there.

    Kitty 🥀
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    YES. For me, it’s also “I’ve been awake for 4 hours. I’m done, can I go back to sleep now?”

    nuberiffic
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ...that's literally the definition of depression.

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    Owen
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think a lot of people get confused the first time they have a Subway. I did.

    Winter Eleven
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thing is anxiety literally makes you blind to ordinary things. I have social anxiety and i forget why I'm in the store the second i enter the crowd of people (also more often than not forget i wrote a grocery list)

    Nikole
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You go to grocery stores? I order online due to social anxiety. It’s like a $7 fee.

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    Huddo's sister
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I need this for so many other things too! The few times I have had subway, I had other people order for me.

    GhostlySnail (she/her)
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah I am an overthinker and I sometimes get too nervous to do stuff like that because I don’t know exactly how to do it properly, like are there unwritten rules for how to order? Everyone seems to automatically know this stuff but make fun of me for asking because I just want to know :(

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    SolitaryIntrovert
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    First time I went into a Subway, I was disappointed by the lack of trains.🤔🤔😉😉

    Nikole
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That’s because they keep them underground.

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    Ever
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I bring my son, send him first and then I say "I'll have what he has, and I'll pay for us both".

    Layla Layla
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It would be good to know WHY ppl have suck anxiety. Good to deal with it but what is at the root?

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    “The U.S. has reached peak therapy,” the Times reported in 2023. Reaching out to counseling when people need emotional support has become a topic that is widely discussed in books, movies, and podcasts.

    Celebrities, professional athletes, and politicians nowadays are more open about sharing their mental health struggles, sprinkling their statements with words like boundaries, toxic people, and gaslighting. Everyone seems to be using the language of therapy, whether correctly or not.

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    Disgruntled Pelican
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If one more person tells me that I have nothing to be sad about because I have a spouse, dog, job, and house, I will scream.

    Montanavanna
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Haha this is good. I would always hear a similar thing growing up regarding my excema. Why don't you just put on lotion. Oh why didn't I think of that. Like I am not already doing that every day, multiple times a day. The kids would call me grandma hands.

    similarly
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've sometimes said that depression is like being at this fabulous banquet where everything looks so good, but it smells like it was sprinkled with something foul, something utterly revolting ... but only I can smell it. Everybody else is having a great time, enjoying the meal, asking if I want this, or want that awesome thing ... but it's all so disgusting, and all I want is to leave the table before I do something that ruins the meal for everybody. By all means, keep enjoying your amazing banquet. I'm really happy for you, honestly. Just let me leave, okay?

    Magenta Blu
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why would I have to go to a banquet if i have my bed?

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    DutchPanda
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow... Such a simple explanation for something unexplainable. Brilliant!

    Winter Eleven
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    M mom after i got diagnosed: "there's so many doors open for you with your education bla bla" Me: "what door? There door?"

    Dawn Marie
    Community Member
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    May I add, just because you can not see my handicap, doesn't mean I don't have one.

    Liz The Biz
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A few years ago I was going through a bad time. Everything seemed to go wrong. Every time i thought things couldn't possiblyget any worsethey did. I was having financial difficulties, my house was falling apart around me because I couldn't afford to do anything about it, my pet dog was poorly and needed round the clock care, I was full time carer to my mum who had cancer, my brother in law got killed in a freak accident. Being made redundant two days later was the final straw. I couldn't take any more. One of my managers said, "What have YOU got to be depressed about?"

    Magenta Blu
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah.. like, "why do you have allergies? Look all that delicious food"

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    D Gibson
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You are one of the lucky ones.

    nuberiffic
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, well, well. How the turns have tabled.

    DetriMentaL (It/That)
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Good lord. This story can go both ways.. Hope its the happiest timeline

    Karina
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Life's a trip, a marathon, a headace and a gift

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    Eunice Probert
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also, two parents and one child is still a family. I have just one child and I've lost count of the number of people who feel they should question that. You'd have thought it was a crime to have one child and not want any more.

    iBlank
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    as someone in a childless relationship it really surprises me that there are people who would still shame you even after having a child, sheesh!

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    Vinnie
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Nice sofa ya got there... wouldn't want the upholstery to be scratched up, wouldja?"

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    Miguel C R
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    me and myself is still a family... no, it isn't...

    Nikole
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Miguel, you are fine. If you don’t want a pet, that’s okay. Nothing has to define you.

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    Goth Mouse (he/they)
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’ve started a family of plastic dinosaurs 😅

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And if you start a family, remember that you've only just started. There's a lot more work ahead.

    Jess Smith
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Family member is kinda poly (family friend moved in and now coparents the kids, but is ace, so there isn't really a sexual aspect to it, if I understand correctly). That's also a family! (It'll be fun when they need to fill out 'parent' slots and there are only two of them...)

    Jess Smith
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    what the heck BP I can't talk about a certain chess piece but I can say stuff about sexual aspects of things?

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    M H
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just the other day I told someone I was single and childless and happy - they tried to help me set up a dating profile and told me you can still have children, even at your age. As if at 46 I could not jave made these concious decisions by myseld.

    Manana Man
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    1 year ago

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    Ok, so you're upset about the way people use the word family. Don't start a family, get a life.

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    Such emotional well-being awareness is reflected in statistics too. About one in eight US adults takes antidepressants, and one in five has received some kind of mental health treatment. Since 2002, an additional 15 million people have turned to mental health care, and between 2019 and 2022, such services grew by 40%.

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    However, even with rising awareness and more people going to therapy, mental health seems to be getting worse by several metrics. Suicide rates have gone up by 30% since 2000, and almost a third of adults report having symptoms of depression or anxiety, about three times as many as in 2019.

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    Winter Eleven
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Lol had 3 breakdowns andy parents thought that's just me being a teenagers

    Magenta Blu
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And then it becomes you being overdramatic.

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    Magenta Blu
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And then people always think it is your own fault for not "loving yourself enough" and you are overeating...

    Renée Parry
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Even then they say you're seeking attention and stop being over dramatic.

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    DutchPanda
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've been in a depression for a couple years and I can tell you, is pretty messed up. And people commenting fücked up stuff while depressed people might be scrolling through this topic for consolation and to feel understood, is just so wrong.

    Nikole
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agreed. And all of his comments are horrible.

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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Really, though, for me, personally, "here if you need to talk", while well-intentioned, doesn't help me. I won't ever talk to you. Sometimes the best thing you can do is smile and be happy to see me. See, I have chronic depression. I'm not having a bad day or a run of bad luck. There's really nothing to talk about. I just want to die, and nothing can fix it. But a smile and a little happiness can make that just a little bit easier.

    Elvira394
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    THEY FORGOT TO CENSOR THE S WORD! The world is probably going to end now....

    DetriMentaL (It/That)
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can imagine he's on a different continent without that privilege, pretty sad but is a truth for some

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    Jess Smith
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's the difference between getting a cast when you break your leg in an unsafe work environment, and ensuring that work environments are, mostly, safe for everyone.

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    Bored Birgit
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    All. The. Time. And it is so depressing.

    Aballi
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is me rn. I lost my job 2 weeks ago after 6 years and am so depressed. It's situational, yes, but I have severe depression and getting fired triggered it. I'm sleeping in every day, wake up with no desire to do anything, cry every day, remember how much better I feel when I'm jogging and meditating and journaling, but I'm doing none of these things and I'm beating myself up for it. I do take my dog for a long walk in nature every day, I'm proud of that I guess; and I have friends I check in with every day. I am so hard on myself and I wish I weren't. I've done so much "work" on myself and can recognize how much I judge myself, but that doesn't mean I can stop it. I have had some periods of real happiness since starting a self care journey 8 years ago, but over the past few years, since my mom died in 2019 actually, I've slowly stopped most of the healthy changes I had made. I'm currently lying in bed at 11:34 am, not wanting to move.

    Wysteria_Rose
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For me, it's tied to my self-care for exercise. I will be a health nut for a month; exercising frequently and being very good about my meal and food choices, drinking lots of water, etc. Then out of nowhere, I hit my "I do not care at all" phase. The want to do any exercise is gone. I will go get fast food for each meal because whatever, I want it and I'm tired of trying to find a healthy recipe and then preparing it. Then I gain weight, feel bad about myself, and then finally I wake up ready to do it all over again.

    Toothless Feline
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m in exactly that kind of low point right now. It’s driving both me and my spouse crazy.

    Karina
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I am like this, my highest ask of my self, exept my duties to my dog, is to take with me ONE thing from where I am sitting, to where it belongs, if Im going to move oast that area. Its not much, but it does help alot.

    Mia Black
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah.... Where is the funny part though that I can log out learn a little over this daily misery, please..?

    Dawn Marie
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Finally, someone who understands. "Just get up and do it" says a friend. I just can't. She doesn't understands.

    D Gibson
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can relate. How I know depression is coming for me is when I start having arguments with complete strangers. Normally ,I am a slightly introverted ,calm, person. I will say hello , but not more than that. I just keep to myself. I take a complete 180 and start talking to everyone I see. I get aggravated by everyone. I start saying horrible things. This is when I know I should go home and go to bed. My bed becomes the only safe place left for me.

    Lowrider 56
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    YES!! It's a self-perpetuating cycle. Been there done that.

    Renée Parry
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes! I have borderline personality disorder and I'm learning to ride the wave. I try to allow myself to do what I have to do to get through it. I have a very basic plan on how to just maintain my life for now untill its passed.

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    One in twenty-five adults suffers from a serious mental health illness like schizophrenia or bipolar disorder. Unfortunately, only 31% of adults in the US considered their mental health to be very good in 2022, down 43% from 2002. 

    Such figures can be explained by the fact that more people are comfortable seeking mental health care, which in turn increases the number of people getting diagnosed and treated for mental disorders.

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    Jess Smith
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Savahax, that's a great point and did you know that discipline can also break the cycle of 'blood getting out of that hole I just put in your body'? No need for a hospital...not that you'd need to worry about paying since discipline also makes you become a billionaire! In all seriousness depression is just...it's not like that. Discipline requires effort. It requires mental work. It requires thinking ahead to a future when the present is hard enough. It requires all those things that are really hard to do when you're depressed.

    Huddo's sister
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This also applies to people with other conditions that require maintenance. With my fibromyalgia, exercising helps reduce pain levels and fatigue, yet when you are in pain or fatigued you struggle to start exercising.

    notlikeyou1971
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have numerous physical and mental health issues and depression is on the list. The normies think you're lazy.

    keyboardtek
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And then I discovered Eastern philosophy that asks why we are striving and trying to constantly achieve. That striving ultimately is driven by comparison to other's achievements. Compare to despair.

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    Luke Branwen
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Idk about y'all, but I think it's a good thing to distinguish "committed suicide" and "died from depression". For example Chester Bennington clearly died from depression - he was one of the world's most prolific rock musicians, had awesome band, money, wife, children... and still his childhood trauma got him in the end.

    Kathrin Pukowsky
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not sure I understand what you mean. Are you saying that "died from depression" should replace "committed suicide" because the word "committed" makes it sound like a crime, and "died from depression" puts the focus on their struggle? On a side note, people can suffer from depression without ever having experienced even a single traumatic event.

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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People don't realize that I can spend all day being kind, supportive, helpful, I can tell jokes and laugh, and talk about tomorrow and next year, and the whole time be thinking "I'm going to have a long break after lunch, with a couple hours, and if I lock the door and nobody checks on me, I just might be able to get away!"

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    Huddo's sister
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In my opinion (though I seem to be the only one) it's not about being worthy. It's about the struggle to get yourself well. It's not fair to them or yourself to be trying to split your time and energy between getting well and another person. Sometimes you need to give healing your all. Then when you are in a better place you can actually have a healthy relationship where you are able to focus on their needs as much as your own. Then you aren't constantly feeling guilty for not being able to be as present in a relationship as you want to be. Obviously this isn't what everyone in that position needs, but many do.

    Rahul Pawa
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I see what you're saying, but it's not quite what OP is talking about. OP is saying not to tell people, "no one will love you until you love yourself." I read your message as "you can't love someone else until you love yourself." It's really a very different sentiment, and I totally agree with you.

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    PeepPeep the duck
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I always tell people (I struggle with trying to not be here in earth for years) ……. Find a time to appreciate and get to know yourself and start accepting yourself, all the great bits and all the bad bits, eventually the self love comes. This worked for me. Spend time with yourself and do something you used to do as a kid that made you happy or something you love now, take yourself out for dinner (that was a scary one for me at first but became easier and more fun the more I did it)

    Winter Eleven
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think the intention is to don't let anyone hurt you? Like okay i hate myself but I'm allowed cause it's me, if anybody else tries to make me feel worse they're out of my life. My therapist uses the analogy with cats alot because cats can just like exist and I'm over the moon about it so no cat is unworthy of love. Trouble is... Im not a cat 🧐

    Mia Black
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Instead tell people to do something nice to others so you'll get something nice back (compliment, smile, little suprise gift, text... It may not come back in the amount you give (so give plenty but not exhausting plenty) but you will get something back and that feels so good to know others feel better now)

    Sue User
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For chronic people pleasers, this may not go well. I have been setting myself in fire to keep others warm in the hopes that all my " niceness" will bring a reward. It didnt.

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    Cronecast AtTheRisingMoon
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wish these catchphrases were explained in-depth more frequently. “You have to love yourself first “ means only that you are likely to encounter unhealthy forms of love with higher levels of dysfunction only because a person lacking self love is likely to remain in unhealthy relationships where emotional needs and boundaries are not respected. It has literally nothing to do with being lovable or “no one will love you “ but rather you will easily shed bad relationships while having a great one with yourself and being happy with your life without the need of a partner. Meaning, you only accept partners that add to your happiness not establish it.

    similarly
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I disagree of with this. Until people love themselves unconditionally, and accept that they are worthy of love, not because of anything they've done or anything they are, but just because they are alive, they will never be able to accept love from another person. If I don't love myself, a hundred people can come up to me and tell me they love me and it won't matter at all. I'll hear pity, or insincerity, because I won't believe it's possible. I won't be able to accept that I deserve it. EDIT: OH! I see. Rahul Pawa explained this really well. I misunderstood.

    Magenta Blu
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But telling this to a depressed person will make them feel even more worthless and depressed, because they can't understand what "love yourself" means. And since everyone else seems to do this naturally and easily, depressed people only feel worse because they just can't. Another "i should... But can't" on their seemly ever growing list of their personal non achievements

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    Joshua Moore
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hell yes!!!🥰🥰💜💜

    Zamasu
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Goku says she's strong....

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    Min
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a girl attracted to girls, can confirm.

    Lene
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a woman attracted to men in skirts, can confirm 😁

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    Zamasu
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you can't control yourself around girls in skirts then you have no place in thus world. Simple as that

    WonderWoman
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Stop giving men an excuse why it isn't their fault they can't control themselves!

    DetriMentaL (It/That)
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Can someone add the link to that "what they were wearing when they were assaulted" for the naysayers

    nuberiffic
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not condoning the behavior, but boys have a very different set of hormones

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    Everybody knows this it was settled long ago. Well only in Western cultures come to think of it.

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    DetriMentaL (It/That)
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Am i at fault at saying that racism in general pisses me off? I don't understand it. Why the f**k do people resort to it? I think we are evolved enough as a species to appreciate our physical differences? What purpose does it serve anymore but a red flag to a persons IQ

    Magenta Blu
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not only racism.. but discrimination. Any Muslim in west cultures can tell

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    Jess Smith
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    THIS. The persecution is not the fault of the persecuted. They can be the perfect minority--assimilated, visually indistinguishable, donating to charity--and still be persecuted. The persecution is not a 'people persecuted' problem. It's an 'everyone else' problem. Jews shouldn't be responsible for "fixing" antisemitism. We shouldn't be told, explicitly or implicitly, that we should be "perfect citizens, and then they won't hate you". We tried that. We've tried that everywhere. We've been good. We've been charitable, intelligent, funny. We've fought in wars, dying for our country that hated us. We've borne all of it. We haven't complained. We've assimilated. We've pretended we're not Jewish. We didn't talk much publicly about the existence of crime committed by Jews, out of fear it would sully our reputation as the perfect minority.* They still want us dead. German Jews were one of the most assimilated Jews of the 1930s. Didn't save them. Antisemitism is not Jews' responsibility. It's the job of Gentiles to fix it. *Rabbi Mortimer J. Cohen, c.1928, on Jews and crime [Israel was often used as a synonym of Jew]: "[Shame] has come to all Israel in the crimes of a lawless few. What disgrace is ours through these men, less than human, who have, without let or hindrance, dragged the Jewish name in the mud and filth of murder and bribery and corruption! As ever, all Israel is responsible one for the other, and the deeds of these men will be held against a whole people for all time to come. Let any cry break out against foreigners, and the Jews will be hounded for the dark sins of these reprobates." Similarly, the Jewish press wrote little on them. Especially at the time - the environment for American Jews full of memories of Russia, knowledge of Germany, and Ford, Lindbergh, Gerald K L Smith, Charles Coughlin, the KKK, the Bund, etc - they had much to fear from antisemitism. As one Jewish journalist from Detroit, Philip Slomovitz, said, "We worried about what the gentiles would say and submitted to our fears." Source on both: Robert Rockaway, page 58, "But he was good to his mother". See https://annas-archive.org/search?index=&page=1&q=but+he+was+good+to+his+mother&sort= for a semi-complete listing of possible formats you can get it in after IA moved it to 'print disabled'. Alternately you could see if you could find a paper by him on the subject. He often has similar material in books and papers.

    Nikole
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ummmm? Edit: way to step on a story about a downtrodden minority… Oh, but that’s what’s happening in the West Bank.

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    Unlike physical health, mental health doesn’t have a clear-cut answer to healing. Often, a diagnosis can have an ambiguity to it or a gray area, which doesn’t make it certain. That's why research suggests that misdiagnosis as well as overdiagnosis are common in psychiatry.

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    Winter Eleven
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't know how to put down my "I'm fine" mask because I've been wearing it since kindergarten

    Chewie Baron
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m in this, and I don’t mind it.

    yeeyee
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Got tired of being strong, tried to focus on making myself happy. All I accomplished was realizing that I had no clue who I am, no idea on where to even start. Nobody to lean on or to confide in for advice...

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    Angela C
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This. I have no desire to be the boss. I just want to be able to not struggle financially

    Michael Largey
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I never wanted to be promoted. I preferred continuing to accomplish things.

    Duncan McCann
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's all most people want and too many are not allowed.

    Winter Eleven
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I just need a Victorian house Addams family style, a yard and a big fence so o can have an elderly cat sanctuary. Everyone wants kittens but older cats (5years +) get stuck in lifeless shelters

    keyboardtek
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have been a lifelong musician who only ever just wanted to be around music stuff. I had a music electronics repair shop for years. I got to enjoy working on and playing electronic music gear, like a kid in a candy shop. Worked only about five hours a day. Barely paid all the bills. Retired happy and content.

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    "Disembodied voice"
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Even if you've gone through the exact same situation, it's different. Everyone reacts and handles things differently and that's okay.

    WonderWoman
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But my friend had it happen and it was worse, but they are okay now and so should you be. /s

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    Christopher Crockett
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's hard when I was lucky enough to have a supportive family and a good childhood and I'm still an all day train wreck. I feel guilty that I'm feeling the way I do because I haven't been through half of what so many have endured. I feel weak and like a complete pvssy.

    Jill Rhodry
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As weird as this may sound, how objectively 'traumatic' an event is is actually irrelevant. Residual trauma responses aren't from the traumatic event itself, it's our emotional response to and how we process the event that makes it traumatic. That's why two people can experience the same event at the same time and one person processes it and guess on with life and the other ends up with PTSD.

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    “If I’m giving you an antibiotic but you have a viral infection, it’s not going to do anything," said Dr. Robert Trestman, one of the chairs of the American Psychiatric Association.

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    Exactly how an antidepressant may not work well for someone with bipolar disorder, which can be mistaken for depression. This may explain why, even though so many people are prescribed this drug, they don’t always experience great results.

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    Rahul Pawa
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh, so that's what that was.

    Nova Cat
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I once had a panic attack so bad I thought I was having a stroke. It was the scariest feeling I've ever had in my life and I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

    KT
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My anxiety manifests in body aches, nausea and digestion issues, migraines, back pain. Sometimes all at once

    Chonky Panda
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But remember that panic attacks and anxiety attacks are different

    notlikeyou1971
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Mine are awful and when you have a seizure disorder ( epilepsy) on top of that, you may end up having a seizure sometimes as well. I don't get warning of my seizures either so I have ended up injured,burned and have a scar from the burn.

    Virgil Blue
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Can confirm. I'm glad my parents and a few friends now know what me getting very very quiet means these days.

    Nikole
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When you can’t seem to hear anyone because there’s a staticky tidal wave happening with your ears, and you’re covered in sweat. Your vision goes white and then comes back. Edit: I feel like people are confusing actual panic attacks with anxiety

    Toothless Feline
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The best media portrayal of a panic attack I’ve ever seen is in Inside Out 2.

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    Magenta Blu
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It is not like abusers remember or not. Some don't REALIZE, what they do, say, think.. and some ENJOY it

    Winter Eleven
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Here's the dilemma block the memory and just not remember till one day you randomly get triggered or keep the memory and remember it everyday

    Seedy Vine
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My soon-to-be ex has a sh!tty memory like this...

    notlikeyou1971
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They have selective vision, selective memory and are always AHs

    DetriMentaL (It/That)
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ... The shame i felt reliving those episodes unto me and my children in the divorce courts for strangers to hear just to get done and dusted-that's another abuse in it's own.

    Dawn Marie
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I finally had the courage to confront my childhood bully when I was 52 years old. He bullied me from 5th ,grade all the way through high school graduation. I even mentioned to him the initials, DPI which stood for Dawn Pimple Incorporated that he called me each and every day. He would steal my things and throw them in the trash. He would hit me and pull my hair. He would even write me dirty and filthy notes. This was back in the late 70's and early 80's before bullying became a big thing and I was told to just ignore him and he would go away, like that worked, or the always popular, boys will be boys. My father's always said: "I'm sure he didn't mean it." For seven years I was tortured. Because of all this my self esteem was in the toilet. I never had a normal relationship with a man. I married the first man that asked me and he turned out to me a mental, physical, and sexual abuser. When I confronted my bully, and reminded him of EVERYTHING he said he remembered nothing.

    Dawn Marie
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I confronted my childhood bully (5th grade all the way through high school) when I was 52 years old. He remembered none of it. He tried to say he was sorry IF that happened. Using IF does not make it an apology!!!! He basically ruined my life. Because my self esteem was in the toilet, I married a man who played on that weakness. The relationship turned into a physical, mental and sexual abuse. STOP BULLIING NOW!!!

    Lene
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I tried to talk to my mom about some childhood trauma and she quickly told me that she had no memory of those things ever happening and my reply was: well, it obviously just made a bigger impression on me than it did on you.

    Silberwolf
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Even worse when not even people around you or society recognize the abuse or just ridicule you.

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    Lady Miss Pie
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Literally every problem I have could be solved with a higher income—not terribly high, just enough to meet the COL. Every single problem.

    iBlank
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    well, it depends on how the income is achieved too... there are much higher paying jobs I could do, if I knew they wouldn't ruin my mental state

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    Mike
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    True words indeed..I don't want to be rich...just to have enough.

    Pat Carter
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    not true. money has never solved any of my mental health issues. i had the issues before i had money, and i have the same issues now with money.

    Magenta Blu
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But now you can pay for therapy. You can pay for food. You can pay for delivery. Money may not solve, but makes everything easier

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    notlikeyou1971
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The office of the best therapist I ever saw got rid of them because the office bosses decided to get rid of poverty care. " They didn't get paid enough to treat us" She was really helping me. Im worse than where I was when I started because I have heard this same exact saying from numerous therapists that I tried to find after the fact. When they tell you that they will only see you 1x a mth instead of 1x a wk like the old one or you get 1 who sleeps in your 1x a wk session because your poor, I give up on therapy. All I have had is 1 good 1 and the rest bad. As a person who has numerous medical issues,meds are a no go. We've been there done that.BAD RESULTS EVERY SINGLE TIME. I end up sick, fat, and miserable. Tried numerous meds . No hope for me. I give up. The mental health issues has been happening since I was a kid. The physical issues since a kid. I'm glad they invented Internet and streaming. I can escape into that.

    keyboardtek
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And yet conservatives blame Mexicans and Liberals for all of our problems.

    Sarah Matsoukis
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Money would indeed solve all of my problems

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    Even certain styles of therapy aren’t always suitable for a person. Sometimes therapy in general doesn’t yield any benefits. Even though some might view counseling as an automatic fix, it doesn’t work for everyone. Those who improve need at least 20 sessions, which requires a lot of time and financial resources.

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    iBlank
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Priority one is getting out of the situation of abuse (good on OP to move on). But in a thread about mental health I'd like to point out that the mean drunk is the one who likely needs the most help, whether they're willing to admit it or not. It's a lot easier to be a happy drunk if you're not withholding a ton of trauma.

    Jess Smith
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    900/[4*60]=900/240=90/24=15/4=3.75 times a minute, or once every 16 seconds.

    Renée Parry
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You show your true self when you are drunk. When they say, I didn't know what I was doing because I was drunk, makes me laugh. They were only being their true horrible self.

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    Jess Smith
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or being unable to pay for treatment - America!

    WonderWoman
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In America your original sin is not being born wealthy

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    DaisyBee
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh so true. I reached out to a suicidal hotline in 2021 - didn’t get an answer. Left my details on the voicemail as requested. Didn’t hear from them ever. Called another one, got an answer, was asked “and what exactly do you think we can do for you? If you’re going to do it, we can’t and won’t stop you.”. Hung up on that one. Was told by a relative I reached out to that I seemed really ungrateful to be suicidal, and was told “I don’t want to deal with your s**t” by another. Had I rocked up at the emergency room, I’d have been involuntarily hospitalized for 3 days and then just left to deal with things alone because the hospital had “done all they could” (which just means meds, paper pants & jigsaw puzzles in the common area). All I needed was someone to listen to me, to be there and just let me cry. I just didn’t want to feel so alone anymore. You know who was there for me in the end? My dog. Truth is, you can’t rely on anyone but yourself - and your dog.

    Winter Eleven
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A friend gave me advice to go straight to the emergency office at psych department to skip the line... Well i got diagnosed right away, took 3 months, talking to four different doctors and q mean nurse to get there "the easy way"

    Anthony hawk
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I recently talked to a suicide hotline and they hung up on me because I wasn't sure about making a safety plan. That actually happened today. Mental health help is hard to get.

    Renée Parry
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We have free metal health care but the waiting list is so long, you are rushed through it and made to feel guilty that the help can go to someone else.

    Bewarethere@gmail.com
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or not enough svcs to go around or cut out completely

    notlikeyou1971
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know,they AHs HEAR. They just don't LISTEN. Have you ever heard the lovely line that I did from a therapist,"I don't get paid enough to see you,so I won't be seeing you very often" Thank you Poverty in the US

    Li’l E.
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The problem is that there is an inadequate number of mental health professionals, and ridiculous number of regulations those professionals need to adhere to in order to keep their license.

    Magenta Blu
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or told to "just smile, and love yourself"

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    Bored Birgit
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This brings me to tears. So much empathy. It means the world.

    Lady Miss Pie
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why can’t we all be this kind? Why?

    Mike
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm so sorry..... thanks for sharing.

    Brian Long
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    we need more people like her in this s****y f****d up world

    Dawn Marie
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope you let the Dean of the collage and the President know what a wonderful professor you have.

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    Bec
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Suicide is often an impulsive decision (according to those who survived attempts).

    Magenta Blu
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It is not. It takes planning, deciding about better time, means, possible results.. it is never impulsive

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    Joseph Miller
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Only enough energy to put on a 'work' face at work, and then 'crash' at home.

    notlikeyou1971
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I call it wearing my mask in public. I have other medical issues ( unable to work) but I literally have to drag myself out of bed if I have to go somewhere. Sleep takes forever,IF I am able to get there.

    Bananic
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    and even if its time for bed you're unable to sleep so you drink to sleep which makes you even more depressed.

    Lowrider 56
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Been there, done that. Then you stop eating, no appetite. Then you feel weak and worn out, can't find energy to get up because you haven't eaten in 3 days. Then you feel so overwhelmed that you see no reason to keep going on. It's a vicious cycle I wouldn't wish on anyone.

    Zaach
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And sometimes it is melting glass in your microwave oven - 1550F in that tiny space, I can feel joy for a moment

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    Mia Black
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh this absolutely. I gain a little joy though through my words of kindness towards them. I like that they appreciate my little gifts of texts or hugs.

    Magenta Blu
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe we do this because we truly know how does it feels to not be loved, appreciated or important, and we just can't bear the thought of this happening to other people.

    iBlank
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've known a few incredible people who are like this... if you see someone who selflessly takes care of others, PAY IT BACK! I guarantee it'll mean the world to them

    Winter Eleven
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yea, that's why i over explain things like where to find the bathroom. It's nit just "downstairs" it's "the red door on the left without anything written on it and the light switch is left about elbow height"

    California, for example, has already started expanding what healthcare is. However, such policies are moving slowly. In the meantime, experts urge the system to provide resources in the right places, like online counseling, and to focus on quality rather than quantity. 

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    Greengrass
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    well done Mum. Glad she's appreciated.x

    Silberwolf
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Self-aware parents are worth their weight in gold. I'm jealous.

    LB
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This one is beautiful

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    D Gibson
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We were visiting the family home helping my dad after our mom passed with Cancer. On a pad beside the phone my dad had written my mom's full name, the date and time she died. This made my older brother so angry. I saw it as a way for my dad to believe she was really gone. He would see the information and realize mom was not coming back. It took several years for my dad to remember every morning my mom was gone. (He was bipolar.)

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    Khavrinen
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Eeyore is my spirit animal.

    DaisyBee
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    “Not much of a house for not much of a donkey.” I love him so much 😭

    Lady Miss Pie
    Community Member
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love little Eeyore

    notlikeyou1971
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love Eeyore! Can totally relate to him too

    Winter Eleven
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Did he try yoga tho? (I got recommended yoga all the time and it increased when i got an official diagnosis)

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    Luke Branwen
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "I didn't understand your joke, can you please explain it?" is allegedly an AMAZING defense agains all kinds of $hitty jokes, including racist, queerphobic etc.

    David Martin
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was lucky enough to actually use that move once, when a coworker told a sexist joke; "I don't get it...what makes that funny?" Yes, it's as satisfying as you'd think it'd be

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    Christopher Crockett
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How the fvck is this related to the rest of these mental health comments? This feeling as a d**g? One of us is being stupid here, and while it could be me, I kinda doubt it.

    -
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm not sure it's directly related, but I can see an indirect link. Racist, sexist, homophobic, etc. remarks do affect most people's mental health. Putting a disgusting idiot on the spot can feel pretty good.

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    Mike
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am very very blonde(naturally) and get asked this often too. So annoying! Some people are jerks!

    Winter Eleven
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Once my cousin tried to make me throw a tantrum but instead when he annoyed me for the last time I started and pointing at him. He got reprimanded i got peace and quiet

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    Mia Black
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My father. Only my mom knew and never told us. He seemed so happy. Now, I think at least I and maybe my sister have depression too. But we talk about it, seek for help, are understood and supported by friends...I wish my father, like many men, could do the same to feel not that alone

    Jocelyn Webster
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The many faces/masks of mental health.

    Winter Eleven
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oblivious or is it because you were always like that? Saying as a shy kid that stayed a shy kid and never grew out of it like they said i would

    notlikeyou1971
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nobody notices and when they do it annoys them

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    notlikeyou1971
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I try to be prepared for the worst because when it inevitably shows, I am safe while everyone else is sinking.

    Winter Eleven
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Do you know how draining it is that every scenario actually happens and turns out you're not wrong?

    DaisyBee
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    On the positive, when things DO inevitably go wrong, we’re the ones most prepared to actually get s**t done.

    D Gibson
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We should start a club. Been there done that millions of times.

    Liz The Biz
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm accustomed to things going wrong. I always prepare for the worst so if it happens I'm ready for it. When something actually goes right for once the sense of relief is amazing.

    Brian Long
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    me every day at every possible situation. even on meds

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    Rahul Pawa
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Omg. I never thought of it this way. Makes so much sense now.

    Greengrass
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Doesn't it just? A positive message too. Who needs to told they are broken? Nobody

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    Christopher Crockett
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My problem is that I think that am the toxic person. Seems like the list of lives I've hurt would reach from here to hell. Not how I set out to be.

    notlikeyou1971
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I always say, " we know our own kind"

    Winter Eleven
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Get a cat, if you see someone treating your cat bad, they're bad people and you need to get rid of them

    LB
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is a great take actually!

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    DaisyBee
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I always say I’m mentally stuck at around 17, but I’m at least 10 years older than that, and living quite a successful adult life. At my core, though, I’m still that 17 year old who has no idea what’s going on. I’m so experienced in some things (like general adulthood struggles) but inexperienced in others (partying, dating, general socialisation considered normal amongst my age group). I didn’t get to have an adolescence, so I still feel like I’m waiting for it, and not in the same league as people my own age who DID get the “normal” version of life

    LB
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I used to feel like this and then it turned out it wasn't really this - I'm autistic and that's why I kept feeling like I missed out on some developments in my teens.

    D Gibson
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes. I missed my adolescent years.When I was 13 my 18 year old sister died from lung Cancer.

    notlikeyou1971
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Absolutely. Despite my physical age on paper, I don't think I mentally grew up. I figured maybe as long as I pay the bills and don't disturb anyone. Wtf does it matter how I live? I'm tired of the attitude from certain ppl.

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    D Gibson
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Seek help from your family doctor, or your church pastor. Even starting an online counseling program would help direct you in the way of help. Good luck.

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    Jeremy James
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In my darkest moments, one thing that keeps me from ending it all is the morbid curiosity about what would have taken me out otherwise.

    Kangaroo
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same. I wanna see what happens in a morbidly curious way. Sometimes it’s the only thing keeping me here.

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    Trentin Quarantino
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am not curious anymore. I don't want to know what is coming. I am only here for my dog.

    Winter Eleven
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm only alive because my cats are and they are very attached to me and my parents think they don't need a vet because "they'll fix themselves" so i need to stay alive for the next 20+ years at least

    Eileen Gormly
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's how I got through a lot! Kept being curious.

    Thom Serveaux
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can't promise things will get better, but I can promise you are worth giving it a chance.

    Zaach
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That has kept me alive since I was 18 - I want to know how it ends (but not end it)

    -
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That kept me from dumping my moody boyfriend. I sat in the dark, pissed off and disappointed at him. For the first time ever, I also wanted to know how it would end if I didn't break it off. 30 years and counting - now I want to grow old with him.

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    Paddy
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How is everybody doing today?

    Virgil Blue
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When Robin Williams,was talking about how we are medicating ourself with d***s, with names like fugitall" instead of getting our minds healed we thought the funny man was just being funny. I'm sorry funny man, I wish I could have met you and talked about our problems together. You were so brave making other people's lives happier.

    Winter Eleven
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I once told a joke that i have the highest pain tolerance thanks to the dentists never believed me when i was in pain so i suffered through the appointment... Err nobody laughed but my tattoo was completely painless (the wallet though is still recovering)

    Knoxy
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I attempted suicide on at least 7 different occasions, I just added it to the list of things I was terrible at. Can't get anything right...

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    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When things are feeling great I get anxious knowing it's not going to last and I never know how long it will.

    Mia Black
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Jupp. And I think that's why someone accused me of a "femme fragile stunt".... Idk . They never explained and blocked me after a mean text but it hit hard because I am never fake to someone...

    Christopher Crockett
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hear that. Every time I think I'm doing well, I have a setback that kicks me back to start and I have to build myself up all over again. And again. And again. I'm fifty now and I'm just not able to do it as easily, and I know it'll get harder from here.

    Winter Eleven
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't believe when people say im helpful or something because i don't see how me lending out my messy notes helps anybody, since i fail at exams

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    Mia Black
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Me and my friends are on both sides and always have to reassure, that is ok and not a burden for us because we like to be there for another. That's why it's important to open up. Sure your can get hurt very hard but also you can get a very good support team

    Winter Eleven
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nop, been called a too sensitive crybaby for the first 15 years of life. Don't need to make anyone else around meuncomfortable

    Mia Black
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can assure you, as a former extremity quiet and shy human who was betrayed and bullied a lot, that it can get better. When I was 20 I found the courage to befriend a gothic dude and finally became part of the scene I've always liked. I found the people that thought like me and felt like me. All had some kind of trauma and because of this and their open nature (at least where I live) i could open up and be supported. It's hard to trust people when your youth it's full of betrayal but it can be so worth it in the long run that lies before you. You 'just' need your people. People that can feel and sorry you and you give it back. Societal healthcare I would call it.

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    setsuriseikou
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, at least Janet asks questions and actually listens to th answers instead of going "discipline/fresh air/exercise/whatever else will cure you!"

    DaisyBee
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Seeing a lot of those comments here. It’s so easy to tell when someone has never encountered true depression in their lives because they spout bs like this

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    Elvira394
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Depression can actually get so bad people stop moving and turn into a flexible rock (catatonia). That's the shocker people don't realize. That, and all suicide is not caused by depression. The mental disease with the highest rate of suicide (13%)....is mania. Yes, you can actually feel so "up" that you end yourself, and in fact are much more likely to than when "down". Shocker number two.

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    killjoy
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    i have struggled w mental health and long time and my bf has been so supportive and helpful in just the five months we've been together

    Wysteria_Rose
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I feel happy to feel safe enough to tell my husband, "I am having a bad brain day. No, nothing happened to cause it, it's just my brain, so please be careful with me at home." And he will cuddle me and just help me through it however he can. And then having a friend who came over on a random week night just to sit on the couch and talk about nothing with me when I told her I was having very dark thoughts and was struggling.

    notlikeyou1971
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That would be better than sex any day of the week from my BF

    Kelly Scott
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    THAT'S what I see when I read "You don't deserve me at my best if you can't handle me at my worst." Because if you are going to walk away from me when I'm at my worst, I don't need you in my life. You've just become the thing that triggers my anxiety and my depression. I don't need that and I don't need you.

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    Montanavanna
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Everyone has the age they thought they would not make it past. Was just having this conversation with friends the other day. Mine was 36. I will be 40 in December. What is your not gonna make it past age?

    Kangaroo
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I thought I’d be part of the 27 club (along with Amy Winehouse, Kurt Cobain and other celebrities). Recently had my 32nd birthday :)

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    Disgruntled Pelican
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I never thought I would make it to 30. And now that I'm 31, I don't even want to make it to tomorrow. I don't know how long I can keep holding on. I'm literally surviving out of spite at this point.

    Montanavanna
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We are in earth school for our soul to learn in a way we only can while here in these skin suits. Surviving out of spite might have been the plan you made before you got here. I feel for you pelican. Feeling indifferent to living is an awful place to be. I've been there, it is a very empty feeling. I hope you decide to keep surviving, who knows what lessons await your beautiful soul, Pelican.

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    Winter Eleven
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Interesting i sort of thought the end will be when i hit 18 because everyone was talking about some dive year plan and I'm there just like, wait the game doesn't end at 18? It's 10 years later now so i guess my next check point is 50 or 100

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    WonderWoman
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Social media is a two headed monster, it brings awareness and it brings sadness

    iBlank
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    to the point that it's a "generation of people struggling to survive": Many people just don't have the bandwidth to handle others' problems on top of their own. It's hard! So a good mindset is to not blame those people, but have gratitude for the special ones who do make the extra effort.

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    Mia Black
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I once wrote letters to nearest friends what I like about them and what I'm proud of them. It felt very strange but they were so touched that it made me feel better and I knew it was right. I have them a treasure and got some back. Wonderful. But your have to overcome yourself to do this. That's hard

    Seedy Vine
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There's love out there for us that we don't even know exists yet.

    PattonPawter
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    *goes up to a friend at their birthday* “I’m sorry for your loss”

    Manana Man
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A very positive statement in an otherwise bummer of a thread.

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    Sky Render
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In my friend circle we call this "life happening" to us. If one of us says "life has been happening to me pretty hard lately", that's what we understand it to mean.

    iBlank
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    yes, if someone is reaching out, then they of all people should understand that you are also dealing with stuff. So, telling them is best IMHO... hell, I tell my friends all the time when I don't hear them because of ADD/cognitive issues. It's not even a hardship reason, but I'd hate for them to think I'm just flat out ignoring them.

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    D Gibson
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't do what I did. I stopped answering messages. I went incommunicado all the way. Eventually they stopped bugging me.

    Bewarethere@gmail.com
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What about having family doesn't contact 4 MONTHS. When we're used 2 b so close but I literally have no friends so I can only hope they contact me. Yes I've been in counciling 4 over 15 yrs and volunteered several times and yet still no friends

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    Duncan McCann
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have a friend who every day I exchange a virtual hug with - 'Monday hug', 'Tuesday hug' etc. Pointless? After over ten years it doesn't feel like it to me. Others may not see how it could be important, but it is to me and that's all that matters.

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    Huddo's sister
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wish I could get myself to believe this

    Dee Rutherford
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Print it out and put it on your fridge, and your bathroom mirror.

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    notlikeyou1971
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Tell this to all the AHs that make me feel like I am

    LB
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sometimes I just *wish* people would ask for help, so it's not always on me to figure out their needs. Like, please help me help you, if you can. Ask as many times as you need. But I know it's a journey.

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    Huddo's sister
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My mum said the same thing about my brothers. The older one is a dragonfly, the younger one is a butterfly. Many of the anniversaries of their deaths and some other important occasions they have turned up. I don't feel as sentimental as her, but it helps her feel better.

    Bored Birgit
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Awww, this is so sweet and helpful.

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    LB
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes! But I have to practice saying 'no', which is hard too... Because if I don't help, will you be able to care for yourself in a different way?

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    Jeremy James
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It changes more often than it don't.

    Winter Eleven
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think our school system is the root of all evil (and mental illnesses)

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    Huddo's sister
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm taking three weeks off work in a fortnight. Really hope I can do all those things. Have a feeling I'll just waste the time though.

    killjoy
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    just take you're time, you're going to do great

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    iBlank
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    and that someone was you

    DaisyBee
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well there’s a lightbulb moment I didn’t need today

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    Winter Eleven
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't get why people would want to go out all the time. If you have your own place, with your own things, why would you waste time somewhere else if everything you like is home

    Kelly Scott
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A place of your own is a refuge. Everyone needs a refuge. It's why people can live in a tent on the street or stay in a room with an abuser outside the door. Any refuge you make against the world is hard to leave.

    Thom Serveaux
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The joy of having a real home. Some of us don't get that as kids; realizing you made your own life and happiness as an adult is an amazing feeling.

    Lady Miss Pie
    Community Member
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Tom Hardy FTW ❤️

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    Bored Birgit
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And you don't know if it's just your current words that stay within the other for life.

    Winter Eleven
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I still want to sue every last teacher from middle school that dismissed my severe social anxiety for shyness and being too sensitive. That 15 people at least (only the librarian was kind and recommended me good books that were out of my age group - being an old soul is another sign of mental illness)

    Montanavanna
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People do not give children enough space to be new humans. Look, they have not been here for very long, stop trying to expect them to behave like they have an adult level of understanding and getting upset when they don't. We are all trying to figure out how to be in the world.

    Lady Miss Pie
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My family was very blatant in their favoritism towards my sister. I was the ugly one, I was annoying, I wasn’t as good as she was, I wasn’t lovable (they said thus a lot), I ruin everything. In addition to being hit and screamed at constantly , not knowing when it was coming—I am only just now learning they did something wrong, it wasn’t me. But I still believe them—that I am terrible and unlovable. Most people don’t know this because I only tell my few close friends (whom I am grateful for). But if you break a child’s spirit over and over and over, there is a special place in Hell for you.

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    Thom Serveaux
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Isn't this kind of normal though? Doesn't everyone want to be a good person?

    Kangaroo
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not to the extent OP is talking about. If you’re experiencing debilitating anxiety or dread over this, it isn’t healthy.

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    Bored Birgit
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Try at least. It is so important. Even a smile can mean the world to others.

    Winter Eleven
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why is it so hard for people just keep their mouths shut of they don't jave anything nice to sa

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    Huddo's sister
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Worst for me is the emails I don't read for months and then I find out I've missed something important. I start so many replies with 'apologies for the late reply' I don't want to hear it ever again, but I will.

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    iBlank
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I feel like there are a lot of people who never move on from that phase as a teenager when they feel like the world revolves around them. Like someone else wanting/needing help is somehow a threat to their bubble.

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    iBlank
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    my busy is leaving the house without my phone some times

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    LB
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This really depends on the person. People with internalizing issues need to speak more, people with severe anger issues could benefit from stopping and breathing first.

    Kathrin Pukowsky
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yep. That's how I was raised - I wasn't even allowed to LOOK angry. But you can't keep that sh!t bottled up indefinitely, so I turned my anger against myself. It also sucks in relationships with other people, you let them walk allover your boundaries, holding in and nourishing your resentment until you reach your breaking point, sometimes over the tiniest things, and explode. For them, it's completely out of the blue, and they have no idea what they did wrong. It's like walking through a mine field. So far my experience with trying to address any issues that annoy me right away in an appropriate manner has been overwhelmingly positive.

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    Bored Birgit
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You go, kid! Wish you all the best!

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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes! I was in deep depression for about six years, and I distinctly remember the day I discovered that I never really knew what 'to enjoy' meant before.

    killjoy
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    so happy for you, hope youve been able to have those enjoyable moments

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    Manana Man
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The human brain isn't mature until age 25. I know for years when I was under 25 I was depressed. Then it got better; a lot better. I think there's a lot of depressed young people out there that need to know this. Just hang in there, your chances of feeling better in a few years are very high.

    DaisyBee
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And what about the people who don’t recover after the age of 25?

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    CF
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I felt that once, back around 2000, 2001.

    Thom Serveaux
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A family members dog, who didn't like most people, stuck to me like glue. I was staying with them at the time because I would've been homeless. I'm very grateful to all of my family, but that dog saved my life.

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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can never read that name without hearing Boo's voice joyfully repeating "Mike Wazowski! Mike Wazowski! Mike Wazowski!"

    Catnip Stargazer
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Fr 😂 seeing it this way makes it funny. Thanks OP I needed that laugh

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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That would be too triggering for me. I'd be afraid I wouldn't know how to properly relate to the patients. But good for her.

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    KikMa
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes. And it felt amazing!

    Manana Man
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No, but I got fired from a job like that once. I felt like hugging my boss and saying thank you.

    Huddo's sister
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes. Relief to start with, but then I just felt like a failure. Trying so hard not to do the same thing for a third time. Really don't want to start all over again.

    setsuriseikou
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes I have, and no, sex doesn't even come close to that feeling. But maybe that's just because of my poor sex skills

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