Arguing with parents is the only battle you can never win. Every time it seems you’re just a step away from winning, there’s a bonus card being thrown your way. “You’re still a kid” works even if you’re already a parent yourself.
Luckily, there’s a subreddit dedicated to capturing all the messed-up drift we got from our parents. R/insaneparents is a safe space to talk about hard things in memes. Lucky enough to have a woo-woo anti-vax mom? They get you. Dad insisting COVID-19 is caused by 5G? Been there, heard that. All these shenanigans get a well-deserved meme fix, and Bored Panda has selected the best ones down below. Don't forget to upvote your faves and share what you think in the comments!
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Others Have It Worse Than Many Of Us
My school wasn't a safe place either. Everyone knew who my mother was and I was teased and bullied constantly. My safe place ended up developing when I was in high school and my sister moved out. Weekends were at her house was a release from all the abuse. I also signed up for sports and never went because it was a way for me to have some freedom without worrying about catching Hell when I went home.
I’m sorry that in all your years of schooling you didn’t find a teacher who cared.
Load More Replies...Cannot relate. Was bullied at school all day, went home in tears most days only to beaten to a pulp at home. Fun childhood
So, so sorry. A lot of pain on Bored Panda right now.
Load More Replies...This, and victims of partner violence, have been my greatest concern during this whole thing. It hurts to think about it, but we need to.
many of us couldn't just leave even (way) before the pandemic...and don't get me started about "god".it would take me a looong post for some of the s**t i deal with almost every f*****g day
Load More Replies...Schools in the UK have actually remained open for the kids of essential workers (like medical staff, super market staff etc) and for kids who are classed as vulnerable. They're also putting together food packages or food vouchers for kids who would normally get free school meals to make sure they don't go hungry.
And since teachers are mandatory reporters for suspected abuse there now is not that lifeline for kids who are abused at home.
They were mandatory reporters when I was a kid, too. Every time I told someone how my father was beating me like a rented mule - and showed them the bruises - they were on the phone to him before I left the building, telling him about my "lies". Thanks to a teacher, I got four broken ribs after I got home.
Load More Replies...School was still rough but at least it was better. I want to go back to school.
I did. Join me! -Dr M, retired and back in school
Load More Replies...I Feel Like This Applies A Lot For The Parents On Here
I want to up vote this a thousand times!⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️ My father used to slap me and tell me his parents did it to him because they loved him and he was fine. He didn't tell me about the night mares he used to have even as an old man. There are simply no excuses to hit a child. Never.
Exactly. You didn’t turn out fine, unless you define “turning out fine” as turning out a sick twisted sadist.
Nobody said to make everything happy all the time. But it's also not ok to make their life artificially difficult and extremely scary or painful. Giving them challenges can be done in a safe, healthy way without creating extra suffering for them for the purpose of suffering. Kids learn how real life and loving relationships work, from challenges they can work through with guidance or encouragement, and positive and negative logical consequences for productive and destructive behaviors, + for +, - for -. Making things hard all the time purposely or abusing them will just teach them people are not to be trusted, and that life is horrible and scary. You can create anxiety disorders that way. If anyone thinks I'm making this up, they need to read up on child psychology and studies of child development. Especially the researchers Vygotsky, Bowlby, Erikson, and Piaget. You can google them and find great stuff.
"How is the new job?" "Awful, [detailed explanation]" "I suffered worse for 30 years" So why did you ask?????????
my mother isn’t exactly abusive. she doesn’t hit me or physically harm me or anything. but because of some of her methods of parenting, i feel as though i am under constant criticism and scrutiny, i feel like i have to be perfect all the time, i apologize for everything, and i don’t think i'll ever be good enough. a couple times she has physically hurt me, she threw my backpack at my legs one time, and proceeded to shove me down the stairs. the way she yells and gets angry, she says she parents how she was parented. she has also said that some of it isn’t right, but she doesn’t know what else to do. that’s the cycle of abuse, in some cases. the child grows up with some kind of abuse, and in turn treats their children the same way because they “turned out fine” and/or “don’t know how else to parent their children” and/or want people to suffer like they did. i don’t really know how to end this sooo
Insane Parents Inadvertently Teaching Skills
There is a difference between strict and emotionally and mentally abusive. That's what's being described here, that's how my parent was.
I don't know. My parents loved and cared for me, and I could tell. My punishments were never over the top, but my parents were still strict. These were in fact the skills I learned.
Load More Replies...I also had an older sister who got into trouble for fairly innocent things. What I learned was by watching her and what she did was to be more careful and not get caught. It just taught me to be sneaky and secretive. I didn't behave any better, just sneakier.
We had no idea what we might get in trouble for from one day to the next - it was always inconsistent, just learnt to maintain a base level of fear and caution whenever he was around (lucky he worked away for weeks at a time)
Load More Replies...How to suppress feelings of fear and pain and appear like you can suck it all up like a sponge, how to read people's minds and try to figure out what mood they are in and make it all your fault and many other useful skills. But then again, that goes far beyond "strict" ...
Oh wow i didn't know that this post was actually me until i thought about it. I can determine my mothers moods by her footsteps ....
This is not a strict parent, this is an abusive parent. It's one thing to make rules for your child and another to have them afraid of you.
no i think this could just be bad parenting
Load More Replies...Bored Panda contacted redditor u/Mynameisethan182, who’s the moderator of r/insaneparents, to find out more about their community, which has a whopping 984K readers.
It turns out, r/insaneparents is far more than just the memes. “The community started off as a joke and it grew over time into a weird, chaotic place for people to talk about their real issues and hopefully raise awareness about them.” Kids today deal with their issues with memes and jokes, and they have “a much darker sense of humor than I had when growing up,” said u/Mynameisethan182.
Should've Stayed At Home
Doesn't mean she can't have an overprotective catholic mother.
Load More Replies...I am religious and I don't agree with these kinds of thoughts. Our God has too much to do to be concerned about whether someone is going out too much. People need to stop using religion to justify their own prudish opinions.
I upvoted you for the last sentence.
Load More Replies...Luckily for me, my mother the devout Catholic says this pandemic is the result of a VIRUS...
THIS IS WHAT MY MOM TOLD ME JUST THE EXACT OPPOSITE.....SHE SAID THIS IS GODS WAY OF TELLING ME I STAY HOME TOO MUCH.......I MEAN WHAT THE HECK DOES HAVING ME STAYING HOME TOO MUCH RELATE TO THE PANDEMIC
Being Catholic has nothing to do with this. Your mother is a guilt-tripping, Control Freak. Rather nuts I'd say.
They said something similar about AIDS and homosexuality. And AIDS and the sexual revolution. And AIDS and __________ (choose any unrelated reason you can think of).
I don't think the mother was actually saying it was the daughter/sons fault. The virus, or anything else for that matter, is never a punishment from God. But often, we all can grow and become better during tough, trying times...And that IS a lesson from God...which is what I feel the mother was saying. Just a bad choice of words
We Have All Been Through This
I never had this. My mother was scared of teachers. She never visited my school, and when my school visited her because of the welts on my back, I got more because I "made her feel humiliated in front of people she didn't like". As if I was the one who told them....my friends (and teachers) thought they were doing the right thing. This is why it needs to be done properly; I know most people know this, but for those that don't, never confront parents you suspect of abuse yourself. The only exception I can think of, would be if they're clearly doing it in front of you, and you're taking the kid with you when you walk away.
I agree with this 100%. When some of these parents are confronted they are good at making themselves look like decent parents and then the kids pay once they are alone again.
Load More Replies...I did this to the bookmart ladies because my mentor for autism because he was trying to read books that were on display and started screaming at the ladies and thought it was like a library. He also tried to convert me to his church as he is a pastor for baptist. Even though I’m catholic. We fired his a*s. My recent one was the best since she was 26 and closer to my age sorta. He was like 70. *shudders*
Oop
Soooo true! I've written it on BP before - some parents/families are terribly toxic people and the best thing that you can do is to cut ties with them and live your life without them.
GOOD FOR YOU! At 19, I blew up my life, walked away from years of abuse (you name it, it happened). Family is MADE. Love, trust and respect are EARNED.
Load More Replies...Cut ties 3 years ago- only child and basically alone. Don't regret it for a second
OMG. WHen I cut off ties to my fam, long before "toxic family" was a buzzword (by about 30 years)? The guilt was awful. The freedom was awesome.
I so feel you. 'Toxic' is not a word in my country, it's only used by teenagers to describe a relationship. I also feel guilty about cutting my brother off but would absolutely not consider contacting him unless he and his wife change their attitude. When people lie, steal from you, mock your life and choices, your friends and husband, just leave if you can and never look back!
Load More Replies...We’ve been conditioned to think that we are bound and loyal to our families no matter what. The guilt is what gets most of us.
The saying "Blood is thicker than water" is misunderstood because it is actually short for "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb." In other words, shared experiences with friends are stronger than the familial luck of the draw.
Load More Replies...I'm sorry, but "family" means nothing. Random people you have born to. My Mom was only normal person, but she died of cancer two years ago. My father always absent, leaving me thousands of debt, his brother making even more debt on the "heritage". And I'm here, right before my 30th birthday, glad that I haven't inherited the "cancer genes" from family... My only real family is my fiance, who supports me no matter what. Never, ever get the idea that the coincedence of birth is "most important". But let me tell you something, if you really love and care for your family, call them today. Tell them you love them, that you care. I don't have that possibility anymore.. And I f#$*^%ing hate that
R/insaneparents looks for memes that have a story to tell and take effort to make. Most importantly, other Reddit users have to relate to it. “No one wants to see memes about your mom taking your Xbox away—they don't care about that,” explained the moderator. “They want to know others out there are going through the same traumas as them and they find solace in that.”
On average, r/insaneparents pulls 900K page views per day with 350K unique viewers. It adds up to a total of 15-20 million page views per month. But u/Mynameisethan182 assures me it’s not about the view count: “We're a decently-sized community and just want to help people.”
He’s Totally Safe!
I wanna talk abt the actual picture here...why is this baby not also protected
This picture has circulated on bee keeping forums for years, it is staged and the hives are empty. Notice how he is also not wearing gloves?
Load More Replies...Are we not going to talk about how that baby is in grave danger???
I agree with the caption. Pretty sure the pic is neither staged or 'shopped.
When you stop worshipping at the Altar of Modern Medicine, you just may have a chance of learning how to keep yourself healthy.
A Meme About How My Parents Treat Me
This was the question I got from my family. "Why don't you ever come over for the holidays?" Because I don't care to travel almost 2 hours to have a quick meal that eventually deteriorates into a full scale screaming match. When I went to college, I was encouraged by a friend to cut out the negative influences in my life. My family is extremely negative. Out of my parents, my 3 siblings and my cousins...the only one I have time for is my sister...and only because we've supported each other so much through the years. Just because they are related to you by blood does not mean you should obligate yourself to their abuse. The way to rise up is to shed the weights that are holding you down. Who knows..you may encourage them to take a turn towards change.
I tell people that friends are God's way of apologizing for your family
Load More Replies...My mother always complains about my weight and my hair. Everytime we talk. Every. Time. I told her to stop because its very hurtful to hear that s**t the millions time. She than hangs up on me and is mad because "I dont understand how worried she is about me". My mother was never allowed to gain much weight (severe back problems), so she tries to hold me very skinny, too. One time a got a bad stomach flu and lost almost 20 pounds in a week because I didnt eat anything (plus I lost a lot of water, too). The first day I was better she smiled at me (I was still very tired and exhausted) and said " Oh look at my beautiful child, your face got so much skinnier!" NO S**T MOM. I WONDER WHY.
I'm sorry...that's terrible!! You need to tell your mom that her "worry" isn't actually worry at all. It has nothing to do with you. She's actually projecting all HER b******t insecurities onto you. Which makes it about her! Emotional abuse will destroy anyone quicker than their weight or hair will. Hang up on her first next time. Don't take that c**p from anyone
Load More Replies...Sadly, I also can relate to that. And it influences your life forever.
Yes! I have a family member that constantly bitches about me behind my back, insults my life choices, runs me down whenever I say something,throws massive tantrums if I disagree with their point, blatantly lies about me, takes credit for my work, and gets nasty when I don't call or visit....however they don't call or visit either, even when I was unwell. Wtf makes these people think they're entitled to someone else's attention and love just because of DNA?
That's kind of what happened in my dad's family. My dad would take my aunt to the store every single day, he mowed her lawn( even though he had the lawn at our house to worry about), he would do anything that his big sister asked of him and it wasn't enough. My other aunt would come visit at spring break and would order my sister and I around all day, make my dad go to the store for her, smoke around me(knowing I had asthma) and my oldest aunt would treat her like a queen.
Load More Replies...I have been through all of these they claim im not underweight when I actually am and they say me practicing typing is a waste of time and that girl seems kinda rude im not sure it's a good idea to be friends with her
THIS. So true and so hurtful. If it was a friend who's bullying and mocking you, they'say to get rid of said friend. But WE'RE YOUR FAMILY, ABUSE IS ACCEPTABLE. No, it's not. So don't guilt-trip me for wanting to have nothing to do with you.
It Be Like Dat
Haha. like treat you like a child and expect you to act like an adult
Boy, do I know how this feels. And it wasn't even my parents.
Load More Replies...This is like my parents, before we go somewhere like to a party, they say "don't be an animal!" But then we're at the party and I'm talking to the adults while the other kids are running around crazily, and my parents are like " go play with the other kids, your not an adult" and I end up acting like an animal.
Sneaking out: YOU ARE JUST A KID!! Acting immature: YOU ARE A GROWN ADULT!!!\ Kid: If i am a grown adult I can go out at night
We’ve all been in a situation where it seems that no matter what you tell your parents, they’ll always have their own way of doing things. It's not uncommon for kids and parents to argue over most things. But if it’s happening way too often and leaving a negative impact on your life, self-esteem, and relationships with others, you should get worried.
According to Psychology Today, you should ask yourself a couple of questions in order to find out whether your relationship with parents is unhealthy. “Do they try to control you? Do they manipulate, use guilt, or play the victim? Do they disregard your feelings and needs?” If the answer is positive, it may be a sign you’re living with toxic parents.
Just A Little Meme For You Guys
Let me fix this. My mother is a horrible person. She treats everyone like c**p. Screams at everyone. Has the mouth of a drunken sailor and will steal the shirt off your back when you're not looking. That being said, I still love her...I just hate the things she does. I know she was dealt a crappy hand in life, but that doesn't excuse her behavior. I know she has mental issues that she doesn't want to get help for and that's her choice. But it doesn't mean I make myself open to her abuses and her behavior. I can worry about her and would be devastated if something happened to her. But I won't feed into her problems by opening myself up to her abuse.
May I ask, without wanting to cause offence, why do you love her? Is it just because she's your mother? I ask merely to understand, not criticise.
Load More Replies...Lemme rephrase: your children deserve unconditional love, period. Parents, respect is earned at a certain point. YOU decided to have your kids, it is not a luxury that you kept them alive as the bare minimum standard of child rearing. Neglect, emotional, physical, and/or sexual abuse negates any respect that you think you deserve. No, you will not change my mind.
Thanks you. I don't owe anyone love just because I happen to share DNA with them, especially if they don't even respect me as a human being.
Respect is earned. You do not get respect for being older than me, you get respect by treating me with respect
I don't like my mom or dad but i know if something bad happened to them i would feel bad for all the things i did and so would you. and if they died or got hurt you would feel terrible and the things you are saying about them makes you feel good about you self but you don't mean it .
I love my parents. They care for me and love me, but i can be rude to them sometimes.
I hate the most part of my extended family because they are either racist or extremely entitled. My parents seem to be the decent ones out of their families.
family is very, very, very complicated. you have the jerks, the nice people, and the stars, and the c**p people
She Doesn't Know I'm Bi
Not necessarily my mom took it good and she hated gay people
Load More Replies...Overheard mom: "I'm so happy that you're straight." Adult daughter: "I am?" Mom: "... so how's Seattle?"
MOOD!! When I told them I was gay, my folks responded "no you're not" & "you're just doing this for attention". Ughhhhhh
Load More Replies...Thank God I have the kind of relationship with my child, that they felt they could come to me and talk about it when they weren't sure what they were feeling was "normal". My mother, however, refuses to accept she has an LGBT grandchild. She thinks she can pray the gay away; I have news for her...
Instead of trying to pray her grandchild straight, she needs to pray herself tolerant.
Load More Replies...That’s how my parents are and well I haven’t told them yet cause I’m scared to
Hi, I'm a random person on the internet, and I hope rverythinbg goes well for you! If your parents end up not being okay with who you are just know some random girl on the internet cares for yoh!!!
Load More Replies...I fostered a girl who, 5 years later came out to me as gay at the age of 14. She looked scared and about to cry so I hugged her and asked if her girlfriend was hot. Made her laugh and we chatted about it and she was happy to know I wasn't against it. She moved to Sweden to live with her now fiancée and they have a daughter and we keep in touch (Yes, she is still gay and her fiancée is female too) We joke about how hot her fiancée is and her fiancée joins in with comments like "I can't help being born beautiful!" She is hilarious and I'm glad they are together and sharing so much love
And this is why I haven't my grandparents that I am aroace and trans 😬🏳️🌈
I'm so mad at these people downvoting these innocent comments
Load More Replies...How I've Been Feeling These Past Many Months. Maybe Not Stressed Y'know But Still
Why is this so true? Honestly I'd show this to my parents but then I'd get a "Well you DO have it easy."
This is actually very accurate. After that they want you to talk and open up to them and they wonder why you won't tell them how you feel.
Omg same! And then later when I end up having an emotional response due to stuffing all the stress, they're like "Well why didn't you tell us?" Uhm what the f**k?
I believe there needs to be a balance between giving our children a safe place where mutual, equally respectful communication can take place while encouraging and guiding our children, but not coddling them or sheltering them to the point where they become too weak to deal with the harshness that life sometimes presents. I've seen parents be way too dismissive regarding their children's feelings and others being way too protective. Both forms will destroy emotional well-being all on their own. It's in no ones best interest to become a jellyfish but we don't need a world full of heartless, narcissistic drill sergeants either. Also, I learn A LOT from my daughters. Parents don't know everything :)
God this is so true. Either that or to make the mistake of telling your mother something private because she says she's worried about you and she promises she won't judge you or tell anyone about what you said. As soon as you tell her she then starts judging you from a height making you feel waay crappier than you did before and then later on you find out she's blabbed you other people about what you said. Then she complains that you don't talk to her about your problems. Oh wow, I wonder why?
It makes me so angry that so many people have to put up with parents that behave this way and I am so happy that my parents are not like this.
"You can talk to me about anything." The biggest lie that parents tell.
I'm a parent and not all parents are like that. My daughters and I talk all the time. Find someone else you trust to talk with! Some parents are too dismissive but I'm honestly not one of them
Load More Replies...You know its been a week since a resent argument and I have been pretending everything is fine until i saw this meme. So a day before the argument my dad told me to say my feelings, the day the argument happens, they f*****g indirectly tell me that "i have it easy and their stress is more of stress than you so you are not qualified to stress" Like- don't think you are so subtle about telling me I'm not relevant for stress with your soft spoken words, I can see right through it.
Darlene Lancer, a certified hypnotherapist, suggests detaching from toxic parents. “It means not reacting, not taking things personally, and not feeling responsible for someone else’s feelings, wants, and needs. Our parents can easily push our buttons.” In fact, it has nothing to do with physical distance. You can still be close to your parents, but not taking in the things they say.
Remember that having a healthy and pleasant relationship always starts with your feelings and attitudes. “Sometimes working on yourself is all it takes. That doesn’t imply that your parents will change, but you will,” Darlene claims. And that means that sometimes forgiveness is necessary to keep on moving together and building a connection.
Still Bitter...
My mum missed me getting a bunch of awards (spirit of learning, principal’s award, academic achievement, ect) and my primary graduation (don’t really care about that part) because she would miss an episode of her tv show. It was one of the best years I had had at school, and first year coming back from home schooling.
I'd go to both. see the ceremony and go to the wedding after if possible distance. kinda sucks but definitely the son first
Could be worse. My sisters in-laws were an hour late to her wedding because of a yarn sale. Completely missed the ceremony.
A tip: "could be worse" is NEVER a good way to respond to someone's pain.
Load More Replies...Meme Monday Has Arrived
My husband looks at the floor anytime we have an argument. I kept thinking that he was just ignoring me. It would make me more furious. Then when I spent quite a bit of time with his mother, I realized she was the queen of lectures. Then I understood who had conditioned him to look at the floor. I approach arguments differently now..trying not to lecture but, instead, engaging him to express his thoughts. We've been able to overcome much more stress in our relationship because we both have a voice.
Me, when I am nervous I push my glasses up my nose, my mom says to stop, i do it’s out of habit, she slams them up the bridge of my nose saying, can I help u with that?, she wonders why I avoid her and do my best to get out of the house
Ow. That is a horrible thing to do. A parent has no more right than anyone to put their hands on their child in a way that causes pain. You are totally justified in avoiding her.
Load More Replies...Me when my family would bully me so much I’d hide in a corner in some other room rather than tell my dad who’d join in.
Finally
This just reminds me of that weird movie where this guy kidnaps a kid and winds up taking him Trick or Treating while he robs people because his Mom wouldn't let him trick or treat. Its called A Perfect World. Pretty interesting movie actually.
There was a case in Germany where 40 year old Bernhard H. abducted 13 year old Maria H. for five years, but I'm still not sure whether it was a good thing or not, because she went with him intentionally.... not sure whether she wasn't aware what happened or whether the situation was so bad at home.
reminds me of a comic where the guy would "kidnap" the kid every day and take them to aquariums and get them ice cream and stuff. very wholesome.
Yeah...
I caught my father bitching about me to my SISTER once. Really nasty stuff. Happy to return the favour.
Load More Replies...When I was at my lowest, recently dropped out of school, depressed, and feeling like a failure hiding in my room all day every day. Every time I opened my door I could hear my mom bitching about me through the phone to my aunt's or other family. For two years I wanted to kill myself every day, but the only thing that stopped me was my cat because I worried if I died my mom would get rid of her. That was 5-6 years ago since then I got my GED and am in college studying nursing and my mom is honestly proud of me. She always was but I shut down and she was in a worse place then me so she lashed out. I'm doing better and I hope anyone else going through this they can hold out and succeed, leave if need be. Life can be beautiful and fun. Sorry for the bummer.
It's amazing how something as so innocent as a cat can pull us back from the brink of destruction. I'm glad you're still with us and even more delighted that you were able to pull yourself out of the fire. I hope you let your mother know how her behavior almost pushed you over the edge. She may not have been aware that her behavior was making it worse. Stay safe in your new career and congratulations on making it through. Good Luck!!
Load More Replies...My family come from a different country so we speak 2 languages in the house. Me and my siblings are still learning but I understand what they say about us sometimes.
Been there. Heard my grandmother tell my dad I was a worthless excuse for a son ... while my mom was in the hospital for one of many surgeries a couple years before she died from her liver disease. My dad had an opportunity to tell his mom to pack her bags and go home. He didn’t. He agreed with her. That ended my relationship with both of them forever. That was 37 years ago and I can remember every detail of that night.
my dad does this but to his friends if my mom was alive she would have beat him i was her only friend.
Praveen..my mom tried that with me often. I had dreams of going to college and making a better life for myself. My mother constantly yelled "Why would you want to waste time with that? I never went to college..." The last time she said it, I was at my Dad's house asking for help on rent. I told him I wanted to go to college to improve my situation, she said her "Why...I never did" statement. I lashed back and said "Yeah..and look where it's gotten you. You're broke, unemployable, living with your ex-husband because you can't support yourself and your kids don't want to talk to you because you're judgmental and nasty." She started screaming. My father handed me a check and said "You better go, I'll call you later...." But did I feel liberated! People that try to call out flaws in others often don't realize they have more flaws themselves. No one is a born loser...everyone has a right to be successful. And no one has the right to say that behind anyone's back. Good luck!
Load More Replies...When I was 14, I was coming downstairs for something and I distinctly heard him say "I want nothing to do with that little son of a b***h", Mom, in a rare defense, said "that's your son", to which he said "I don't care". I made myself known, as I was midway down the stairs, and came all the way down saying "...and the little son of a b***h heard every word". They both yelled at me for "eavesdropping". Yeah, like THAT was the problem. :(
Happened To Me Once
You had WHITE friends? How noble of you.... I just have friends.
Load More Replies...People don't understand that the pain of dissapointed parents is almost worse than getting an a*s whoopin'. Especially if you're a first generation immigrant (which to be clear, *I* am not but many of my friends are) because your parents have sacrificed so much for you that disappointing them is like kicking a puppy. No, you can't "just disobey" them, and trying to prove you're adult enough to make choices (good or bad) can be really frustrating. Just FYI though, being overly controlling can cause your children to flee too early and refuse all help in a desperate bid to validate their individuality. For me, this meant I never got to finish college because I constantly had to work to make ends meet to stay independent, which in turn made me feel like a constant failure and really f****d me up for a long time.
Not if you wanted to see me in school tomorrow..or ever again for that matter.
Yeah, or the wooden spoon or a shoe!! My friends don't understand my house was a dictatorship with a strong emphasis on physical corporeal punishment
Load More Replies...Whenever Mom Is Losing An Argument
Haha I just answer that I've been carrying myself 25 years, and it usually makes her chuckle and forget what she was saying
I'm currently pregnant. I'm definitely using "I carried you during the apocalypse" in the future for sure.
Then it's "I took 5 airplanes over 31 hours to get you" (true story)
Load More Replies...Adopted foster child. I heard "I picked you out of all those kids. You were destined for me!" Yeah, right.
I remind my mom it's not my fault she couldn't keep her legs closed.
Not Saying Anything Is Sometimes Worse Though
My son got into a fight at school. I was told he started it. I was furious because he knew that I didn't approve of fighting. Then I get to the school and was told that he attacked another kid in the hallway next to the school door to his classroom. After talking to witnesses, I find out that the boy in question had decided to call my son all sorts of nasty names (my son is autistic) including "stupid" and "r****d" because my son was holding the outside door open in ice cold weather so the bus driver could help a student in a wheelchair enter the building, also letting cold air in. The school explained that my son would receive a day in-school suspension, but that the other kid was being suspended for 3 days. I sat down and explained to him how to handle it differently next time and I explained the reason he was suspended for a day was because he took it to the next level of physical attack instead of getting an adult involved to make the kid stop.
This once happened to me. After 3 years of mental, emotional & physical bullying in middle school, I told my bully to go f&ck herself on the first day of HS (I couldn't take another 4 years of it). The principal called my father, who knew of the bullying history and he let the principal HAVE IT. I was let off, and she entered counseling. But karma's a b***h -- she followed me to the same college, so I had to put up with her for an EXTRA 4 years after we graduated. :/ You're a good parent, Carol~
Load More Replies...So my dad yelled at me for "stomping down the stairs". I said, "Dad, you do it too-" "GO TO YOUR ROOM"
Or when they say if you tell me the truth I won't be mad. And then you tell them... And then they get mad!
Tough issue. Teachers are taught not to intervene in fights (teachers aren't paid enough to interceded in student fights in my opinion) due to risk to their person. But there's gotta be a middle ground.... :/
Load More Replies...Parent* I'm so disappointed in you Kid: *Looks down* Parent: LOOK AT ME WHEN IM SPEAKING TO YOU! Kid: *Looks at them* Parent: you've got a lot of nerve to be looking at me like that! Kid: *Silently questioning what they did* parent: why are you so quiet? I knew you were hiding something! Kid: I'm sorry- Parent: HOW DARE YOU TALK BACK TO ME Kid: I just thought- Parent: OH, SO NOW YOU'RE PLAYING THE VICTIM? GET OUT OF MY SIGHT!
Basically Every Kid Growing Up With Strict Parents
Parents like these totally reinforce a child's desire to lie.
Load More Replies...Parent: tell the truth, lying is bad. also Parent after you tell the truth: OMG HOW DARE YOU!!! YOU'RE IN SO MUCH TROUBLE!!!! me: *lies*
My parents never did that. They listened to both sides of the story and if I was right the sided with me and if I was wrong they explained why I was wrong, what I could do to handle a similar situation in the future and I got a usefull punishment like learning 50 French words by heart. It still was an inhuman punishment though.
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Never tell your kids you had it worse. It's like telling them "I suffered more so you just need to suck it up!" Just listen to them.
"I'll give you something to cry about".... That one is hated by me to such a degree, right up there with "I suffered..."
Load More Replies...I had a lack of sleep the night before and it was a pretty stressful day, so when she was getting mad at me for something (that's another story) I told her I was just tired so that's why I had a "bad attitude" Then she said "HOW CAN YOU POSSIBLY BE TIRED!" and started to list all the relatively simple chores she did, because that is so much work, right?
As a child, both my parents used me as a therapist. My dad, since I was 8ish, confided in me about his childhood abuse. In high school, my mother confided in me about the abuse my father did to her.
OMG, how many levels of wrong can be found in this one? I'm sorry you they piled their troubles on you
Load More Replies...No matter what kind of day my parents had, they still were there for my sister and I on our bad days. That's what good parents do. They don't turn things into a competition.
This happened to me. Not with my mom, cause she's awesome. But when I was in the ICU after being burned alive, there was a staff member who would gume me my meals (since I couldn't move) and was always complaining about her family (at this point I was seeing my family through a glass window), her back pain, standing up all day, the smell of vinagre in my meals (I like vinagre, she hated. I would specially ask for vinagre xD) I remember thinking the whole time that was a joke
That'll Solve It
My first husband was an alcoholic. I was young and naive and I tried for a year to to see if it would change. It didn't and I said I couldn't do it anymore. He said, don't leave, let's have a baby. I said, you won't come home for me so you won't come home for me and a baby! Thank goodness I ended it. Having a child doesn't fix anything that is wrong in a marriage. Don't fall for that EVER.
My husband and I decided not to have kids out of fear we would be like our parents.
some couples believe a child will save their broken relationship.... sure...
*still doesn't work out* dysfunctional couple: hmmm maybe having another one will make it better
This is so true. And then the child has to endure the same pain from inheritance. Which is why some kids have mental disorders.
Insaneparents When They Expect Children They Abuse To Love Them Unconditionally Be Like:
This is true. When I was younger my mum hit me and pinched me and whatnot. Now, I stay in my room, and she tells me off when I "isolate" myself. I firmly believe she only stopped abusing me because we learnt about childline in school and I came home telling her all about it.
Hope you’re old enough (or almost) to leave once you get the chance (old enough that she can’t legally force you to come back). I did it right after I turned 18. Never looked back. Siblings of mine who tried to keep or re-establish relationships with our parents regretted it quickly. It’s been 40 years now. They finally died, and I felt nothing. Nothing but relief that they’re both gone.
Load More Replies...Very small children will repeatedly go back to the arms of their mother for comfort even while they are hurting them. It's heartbreaking.
10 years later: "No, I'm all alone. None of the kids want to see me anymore."
OMFG for real!! Hence one of my mother's favorite sayings, which I HAAAATE with a passion- "You better stop crying before I give you something to cry about!"
Can i just say I love my mom but whenever I eat something cause i get hungry* My mom: "Do you have to eat so much?" after i told her i was upset about my weight and her saying I'm not fat...Wow And one time I freaked out for getting an A on a test my teacher and classmates, so I told my mom, Proceeded together lectured for 20 mins straight
my mom acts all mad because me and my siblings favour our father, when she's the one who verbally abuses us and s**t
Well, I don't think many kids will want to spend time with a parent that yells more and more at you, thinking you'll stop crying-
Gotta Save Every Last Penny
I wish I could do that... the problem is, my parents have to know EVERYTHING that I do. I swear, it feels like they are stalking me sometimes...
Yeah, my mother regularly snooped through my room when I was at a book (she was an old school stay at home mom). To this day, I have issues with privacy. If I decide to share, it’s OK. But I have to decide what and when to share—-and only if I feel comfortable enough to share anything at all.
Load More Replies...Because the instant the crazy parents get access, the kid is pretty much already broke.
I have a separate savings account because of this. They used to transfer money to me if needed but would also monitor how much was in there so I started transferring it all into a separate account
Yes, you can reword it how you like because there are going to hundreds of different variables. What is puzzling is why you are being such a k**b on a post that is purely about children who have toxic parents. Do you seriously think they don't exist? It's is YOU that is so one-side.
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My mom saw an e-girl and told me to look away and called them strippers.
When one of my friends was transitioning (mtf) my mom reminded her to do self exams for breast-cancer (mom is a 2x cancer survivor).
Valid advice though! Any gender can get breast cancer so it's smart for everyone to check in on that Every once in awhile
Load More Replies...I’m very lucky to have parents that support every religion, race, sexuality, and everything
Im trans and my parents are like this to me. Why does what I identify as concern you? F off.
More than once I have used immense amounts of self control to keep myself from saying “it’s none of your business”
“Walked To School... Uphill Both Ways...”
yeah, unfortuantly that's how it works with my friend. Her dad is a boomer and one of the most emotionally neglectful people I've ever met
Load More Replies...Riddle me this: Whats with the "boomer" bit? Baby Boomers are all in their 60s and 70s now....does this mean a 40+ year old "child" is whining about living in their parent's basement, or does this indicate how ignorant the social media generation is?
....no. Many of us middle aged "children" still have parents, and talk to them even though we have our own lives, jobs, homes. You don't have to live in your parents basement to have a conversation with them. I'm still my mothers child even though I have a family/job/mortgage of my own, and I can disagree with her and still get hit with a "I don't like your attitude". It's one of the reasons she's so lonely now.
Load More Replies...Walked to school. Uphill. Both ways. In 10 feet of snow. Year round. Barefoot. And we were glad to do it! (Yeah. Heard it. My whole f*****g childhood.)
I'm actually laughing right now because my mother used to say the same thing exactly, I never knew this was a thing!
Load More Replies..."i DoN't LiKe YoUr AtTiTuDe, MiSsY!" "oh yeah well I don't like your parenting methods"
The Taste
If you're kids are making a valid argument, don't shut them down. Discuss it. Admit Defeat. If you shut them down every time they are winning an argument, you teach them never to fight for what they believe in. You make them shy about asking for help. You make them afraid of authority. That opens the door for them being taken advantage of and it creates problems with confidence. If you are a mature adult..it's ok to admit that a teenager is making a valid point. It's not disrespectful to stand up for what you believe in as long as you keep the conversation civilized.
100% agree here! I tell my 12 year old and my students, anything is negotiable (with me) as long and you present it in a respectful manner. You have the right to question anybody! It is important to remain calm and non-confrontational, which can be hard I'm dealing with
Load More Replies...My mom once snapped at one of us (or was it all of us, in general?) "I'm the only one In this house who has a right to be angry!" Ten years of therapy later . . .
My parents occasionally realized they were wrong and would apologize. Then it would end with a hug.
If I am making a valid argument my parents listen to me because that's what good parents do.
It's That Damn Radiation!
This is the same BS logic that caused anti-vaxxers to believe that vaccines cause autism. Autism is a genetic malady..not caused by heavy metals in vaccines (which, btw, have already been removed.)
I agree, i have high functioning autism and hate when people say that vaccines cause autism
Load More Replies...How many countries have 5G? Five. How many countries have corona? MoRe ThAn FiVe....
Unless someone is intentionally spreading the 5G of course 😂
Load More Replies...That’s my mom and my grandma she didn’t even let me put my laptop in my lap without a pillow on my lap to keep the radiation from me...
My mom says the Coronavirus is a hoax. That everyone is suddenly sick from 5G. Riiiiight. As if cancer happens in a matter of weeks after being exposed to radiation, and it looks like pneumonia. What is it with today's old people that they enjoy conspiracy theories so much? Do they also think Abe Lincoln said "Everything on the internet/from your favorite news station is true"?
I have to correct myself. It's not an old person thing. It's a paranoid person thing.
Load More Replies...TBH this is kinda sad. My father was an engineer, programmer and a pioneer in computer science back in the '70s, '80s and early '90s. He is retired more than 15 years ago. He is now 74 years old and I listen stupid things from him like chemtrail, Illuminati and other unscientific stupidity and installs every malware and useless apps on his notebook.
Guys What Do I Do. I Creted This Meme So She Wouldn't Understand This
Won't help if the marks aren't showing when they arrive. MAYBE mom will be scared enough to stop, but likely it just moves inside. Knowing how to give a beating without leaving marks is one thing I learned from assisting social workers doing CPS.
Load More Replies...Yes. "I'll give you something to cry for." You did that in the first place.
That was a common saying in my home growing up, "Be quiet or ill give you something to cry about".
Load More Replies...i ask for help with my maths. i dont understnd it. my dad SHOUTS at me for not understanding. i cry. he shouts more
Same. My dad's version of "helping" is asking a question repeatedly, interrupting if I say I don't know, shouting if I am wrong, and shouting even more if I start crying because I'm so stressed out. I'm in all honors classes and we do some hard s**t.
Load More Replies...My favorite was always, "Stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about."
when she keeps hitting you while you are doing homework so you hold your sharpened pencil in a way that shows her that i'll defend myself if he hits me again, so she goes to the knife drawer and pulls out a sTEAK KNIFE AND THREATENS YOU WITH IT AT THE AGE OF 12... lmaoooo yikes..
Rent
my mother always guilted me into giving her my money. then I started lying and saying I didn't have any to give just so I could survive. we haven't spoken in over a decade now.
Sounds a lot like my mother. I mostly lived with my grandparents throughout my life (by my own choice) and anytime she called, it was never just to say hi or how are you doing. It was always "Hey, can you do me a flavor?" (Yeah, that says flavor instead of favor because she thought it was cute to say it that way, or something) or she'd say "How much do you love me?" It got to the point where she'd ask me that and I'd tell her that it depended on what she wanted, because she never told me or anyone else that she loved them unless she had ulterior motives.
Load More Replies...Taking your money to pay rent...I can understand desperate times. When I was broke and unable to pay bills, I borrowed money from my son's piggy bank...but I always left an IOU to pay him back. Otherwise...it's just theft.
I think he meant that his mom took the rent money he needed.
Load More Replies...I had a wonderful mother. She made me pay £20 per week while I lived at home because at the time getting your first flat was a long and hard process and after 5 years I got my first place. All I had to my name at the time was a milk crate a 14inch black and white TV a bean bag seat and a sleeping bag. 2 weeks later my mom knocked my door with a smile and the vans started turning up. She held my 'rent' that I had paid her and bought carpets, curtains, a cooker, a washing machine, a bed, a fridge freezer. She basically set me up with the standard requirements including a 26 inch colour TV. Over time I turned my flat into a luxury pad where my mom would visit and pass the time (I only lived a short distance from home) I miss my mom
I worked hard one summer making $30 a month in 1964. My dad collected my wages and said he'd pay me at the end of summer. He never did. I made sure to steal that much and more back from him whenever he'd get drunk and leave his pants (and wallet, lol) in the living room. (I was 4th grade so I didn't understand what exactly was going on)
Pro tip: if you’re old enough to pay rent, you’re old enough to control your bank account.
My mother drained the saving that my parents had been building since I was born and now questions why I’m always broke
My mother set up a saving account for all her kids when they were born and the idea was that they would receive the money when they turned 18. My brothers (her favorites) had gotten theirs already when they moved out. When I was 6 or 7 (if i’m not mistaken), my mother came to me one day and announced that she was emptying my savings account. She told me that she needed the money more than I did and that she had no intentions of paying me back (I believe that is the only promise that she has actually kept to me). Wanting to please her, I agreed and let her take it (not that I had much of a choice). I don’t remember how much it was at that point, but quite a lot. She kept treating me like her personal atm all the way until I finally left and ended contact with her for the last time 3 years ago. If she new I had money, she would take it, even when I was an adult. 30 years of her stealing from me and she never felt like she owed me anything.
My Mom sends me 500€ every three month because Thats two month of rent for me and we agreed (aka my parents decided) that they pay two month of rent and I pay every third one. Nice try trying to become indepentend. Not that I'm mad at them, but I refused to get money like that but they insist and are mad if I say no. Who need independence anyway, right?
Well, you could put it into a bank account and save it for their old age. They may need a lot of care which could be very expensive. Proof you are independent, a good planner and highly considerate.
Load More Replies...We Love Rationalizing Toxic Behavior!
More proof that sometimes your friends are more important than your family.
People are shocked when I tell them I haven't talked to either of my brothers or my mother in nearly 10 years. There's a reason for that..explained in an earlier comment.
B******t. Whoever is toxic deserves to be cut out of your life. Thats why I dont talk to many extended family members anymore.
Blew Their Minds
How is he (my 11 yr old) so sweet? He must fear getting in trouble. (not really he just loves me and respects me because I treat him humanely)
Thank God My Chemistry Teacher Actually Understood When I Told Him What Happened
And then they wonder why their kids fail school. Stop making judgements...get all the facts first.
I Literally Went Out To Pay Dnd And Drink Beer, At 16 The Legal Age In My Country To Drink
As someone who did some drugs as a teen i got to admit I'm probably more scared than most parents that didn't have the same experience.
meme aside, wtf is a FREAKING SEX CULT, nvm I probably don't want to know
Honestly my idea of a wild night is staying up til midnight and playing Pokemon on my GBA/GBC
This episode could have happened 5 years ago, there is no date.
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@Jaxson..although it can be funny when it comes up years later. Like I offered to wash the dishes for my mother once after a family gathering...she said "No..I don't like the way you do them." I said "Really..because you never complained when I did them on evenings you and Dad were out." My mother's jaw dropped as she said "You weren't supposed to do the dishes when we were gone, your sister was supposed to do them." I look over at my sister whose staring at the ceiling, whistling while shifting uncomfortably in her seat. All those years she said "You better get the dishes done or mom will be mad when she gets home!' Liar. LOL.
Load More Replies...Every single time I would open up to my mom about some really deep s**t that has been bothering me, she would use it against me next time we had an argument. Now I never open up to anybody.
Aye ... 7y/o me got blamed for my cousins and my brother walking away (1-3y younger than me) while I read a book... bc apparently (& unknowingly) as the elder it would have been my responsibility to watch them, while at least 8 adults walk around the whole place.
Then I Can’t Control You
I had a friend that had this issue. Parents said she couldn't get a job...but she got them to let her join sports instead. So she told the coaches that she "signed up" but that she was working instead to earn money for when she eventually moves out after graduation. The coaches supported her on it and covered her with the parents. A week after graduating, she moved out and moved into her own apartment because her bosses kicked her up to full-time. Then her parents were like..."What do you want to leave for? You have everything right here." Uh..you told her when she moves out she can make her own rules...soooo.
That's awesome for your friend! Such nice coaches too! It's great that she now has her own apartment and rules!
Load More Replies...My father told me that I hadd no right to an opinion while living under his roof. Also told me - when I was about 12 - that a daughter must go home when/if her parents need her, even if she has a husband and family. Parents must come first.
Oh my gosh. My dad won't let my sister get her driver's licence or a job until she becomes "more responsible", and "learns to work harder". He has also partly gotten my mom into thinking that she's getting "bad grades" (B's and C's) because when she goes running at night, for 15 MINUTE RUNS, that she's A) Getting drunk B) Doing drugs C) Hooking up with someone and D) Either a mixture of 2 of them or all 3. Like FFS come on. His "excuse" for the way he treats us is "I don't want you two to turn out like I did". He has a pretty big house, and He's doing REALLY well financially, and he loves my step mom. WTF is wrong with "turning out" like you did when it's the life most people want???
You have a very one-sided view of children. They are not all entitled brats. Are you projecting? That is often the problem with people who have a fixed attitude. Not all parents are good, some are positively dreadful. I'm sorry you have so little understanding. I hope you don't have children and I don't care if people think that is harsh.
Load More Replies...I Relayed To This Waaaay Too Much
Yes. They think I'm a satanist cos I listen to Panic!
I share my interests, and they're like: "jEeZ, dOn'T dO tHaT, sTudY mOrE oR eLsE yOu'Re gOiNg tO wOrk aT mCdOnaLds"
my parents think I'm Hitler jr because I like playing videogames, and hate sport
It feels like my dad does that. No matter what I'm talking about passionately, he just "smiles" at me. You can see in his eyes he's not taking me seriously.
Unfortunately True X * Trigger Warning*
I had a mental meltdown at work about a year ago and when my mom found out about it she wasn't embarrassed, she was scared as hell. She was out of town at the time and the first thing she said was: Do you need me to come home? This is what a good parent does.
yES! One time I was sad and instead of talking to me they said "yOU HAVE NO REASON TO BE SAD. DO YOU WANT TO GO TO A THERAPIST" (as if that's a bad thing)
I ran away from home - dad came to get me. No-one ever asked me why I did it. Just punished me for the next x number of years for it.
My mom got me 13 reasons why, a week after I was having thoughts of killing myself.
Wow. That is so cold. What parent would get their suicidal child a book about a suicidal girl?
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I'll be glad when they pass a law making it legal for kids over the age of 12 to decide if they want to be vaccinated or not without parent permission or knowledge.
The subject of not vaccinating kids makes me mad every time I read about it. My husband a few years ago had a near death experience and since then he has gone to jesus. I used to be catholic now because of his rantings I'm an agnostic. He goes on about 5g, how vaccines are bad, how the internet is bad and on and on. It blows my mind. He used to be smart and well adjusted. why do conspiracy theories and Christianity go hand in hand? My family is Catholic and they believe in science. It's the religious conspiracy theory preachers online that are going to be the downfall of humanity. My husband and I barely even talk anymore because of his theories. It's honestly scary.
I am so sorry that this is going on for you. I come from a religious family and we still believe in science. I don't understand how people ignore science because of their faith. They go hand in hand.
Load More Replies...to all anti-vaxxers who read this: WTF DO YOU EVEN BRAIN!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!
*5 Missed Calls*
Mixed feelings about this, at least they care, I worked at a carnival a whole summer, age 16 and my dad never asked me where I was.
How I love that in my young days you just left the house after dinner and knew you were expected home when the streetlights turned on. I really pity todays kids that are controlled surveilled and tracked every minute of their life.
I'm glad my Mom only wants me to call when I'm home so she knows I arrived safely.
I hate overprotecting parents. They aren’t my last choice of parent, but with them, you can’t really do anything you want.
There Is A Fine Line Between Discipline And Scare-Tactics
And once they get older and bigger, that fear will dissolve...and the "love and respect" may not be in place to fill the void! Be careful authoritarian parents!
So causing another human being to fear you is sound parenting? I do not agree with that logic. I tell my sons, "I'm on your team," I'm cheering louder than anyone else for their success. I couldn't possibly imagine being so hurtful I caused a person to be afraid of me... Especially if that person were my child. Shame on you. Be better.
It is not sound parenting. My parents were are like yours. They are there for my sister and I and don't demand us to fear them.
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That's less of about hypocrisy and more about the fact that a lot of people die in drunk driving accidents on New Years...most of them innocent victims of someone else's bad decision.
Also: none of the friends you bring home gets their approval and going to one of your friends parties is equal to joining a satanic sexcult .
Been there. She would not let me celebrate my 18th birthday with my best friend, whom she's known as a toddler.
My Mom And Me,thankfully She’s Been Sober For 6 Weeks
No when I say that (even though it hasn't ended) I get punished.
If you have a c**p parent then there is no point in trying to say anything like this - it just gets twisted or used against you. Arguing back might feel good, might seem right but it's often pointless as you have no real power. Keep your head down, get help if you can or it if gets too bad and then get the hell out first opportunity you get.
Load More Replies...My mom does this. "I stayed home giving up my career to raise you kids." Yep..and you were an alcoholic, abusive and an all around hateful person. Don't act like you did us any favors. You didn't raise us..we pretty much raised ourselves.
Og Insaneparents
WHAT THE EFF HAPPENED TO THE STAIRS?! (Pokemon Talk joke hehehe)
I Live In Argentina, And Have 8 Essays For Different Teachers Due To The First Class I Have With Them After The Quarantine
You're lazy..so here...let me make it impossible for you to do your work and, thereby, make you fail your classes to prove a point. And that point would be...what..bad parenting?
and then let's yell at you for not having done all your homework AND the assignment that is supposed to go on for several weeks, FIVE MINUTES AFTER THEY WERE ASSIGNED
Load More Replies...This is straight up awful. Dont do the work, send an email to your teachers, explaining the situation
can you like shut up for maybe like forever or is that impossible? mind your own f***ing business.
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How Could You Do This To Us?!
I never understood parents that flip out at their kids being LGBT. They're your kids. Their orientation has nothing to do with your parenting skills. You did not fail them. They haven't failed you. You decided to love them since they day they were born. You never said "I'll only love you if..." To flip out on them for having the courage to be who they are makes you selfish. You're only thinking about yourself...not them.
"bUt iT's aGaInSt tHe wAY oF ThE LoRd AnD iT's UnHoLy"
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It isn't can't bully someone into accepting abuse from you just because they live in your house
And He Wonders Why I Stay In My Room All Of The Time
This Is Waaaaay To Familiar
my dad used to do this even if i was getting dressed, one time i was doing weights in my room and asked him to leave, he wanted to watch, i gave him one more chance then i came at him with a dumbbell, he whined to my mother that i was unprovoked and aggressive and she blamed me but he didn't come in my room unannounced again.
Wait you guys get door? my parents put up an empty frame because i'm not "Responsible enough" to "Not have supervision"
my parents in a nutshell. yet they punch us when we try to grab a charging cord from their room
My dad threatened to take my door off the hinges for years if I locked it, then he a. picked the lock and b. removed the door to my bedroom
Dude notice how you have no likes on this comment. It's a sign.
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New a 14 year old girl who's mother and social worker didn't believe her - she's dead now from her ruptured appendix.
I remember when I was 16 I had bad headaches for more than a month. Debilitating headaches, everytime I told my mum she would yell at me and say I'm just saying that to get out of doing chores. My dad came home after being away for months, took one look at me and drove me to the hospital. Turns out I had typhoid fever. Lol. Maybe if he hadn't come home when he did I might have died.
Kid: *insert vomit noises* Normal parent: What's wrong? Insane parent: *insert whip noises*
r u joking or something cuz im honestly struggling to understand yo comment
Load More Replies...Sometimes (Or Most Of The Time For Some) They Know Least
Mother knows best take it from your mumsie, on your own you won't survive......... Does anyone get it??
After Talking To My GF’s Parents
Thought Some Of Yall Would Relate...
When a parent/family member complains about all the work/chores that need to be done and when offered any kind of help they resort to anger and yell at you instead of accepting help. Makes you not want to help them in the future, it's a vicious circle
Load More Replies...My parents are whining because I never do any chores. I volunteer to help with chores. My parents are like: "nO yOu cAn nOt BeCauSe yOu nEeD tO sTudY" when it's a weekend with no tests or important schoolwork coming up. Then they start whining again.
My mom. She'd complain that no-one's helping her with anything but when I offered help she's say - Go back and do your own stuff as always.
My Mum is like that, but since I've moved out I've been gently trying to steer her away from that mindset...
The Next Is You, Karen
No, because even if they read word for word how they are treating their kids, they won't be able to connect the dots. They'd be sitting there: Hey, my daughter is also called Shirley. That's strange she's also 16. What do you know, she also likes to become a fashion designer!! Wow, that mom is a b***h....Horrible parents. "
She's Not Even Abusive, Just Being Insane
Which is more sacrilegious mom? Leaving the sermon and using the bathroom, or staying and peeing on the pews?
my cats as the same, as I'm typing this, my bladder is reaching critical pressure
She Wants People To Feel Sorry For Her
My mother's ex husband would tell people I have ADHD. Been tested I'm fine but the constant talks that something is wrong with me really messed with my head when I got older. Thanks to my husband I don't feel like I'm broken.
I can totally relate. Glad you've found someone who's helping you heal.
Load More Replies...for 11 years, I never knew I had Autism, I only found out when I was looking through a sign-up sheet to some sort of childcare program. and my mum was like "I tHoUgHt ThAt YoU KnEw AbOuT tHaT
My mom told all of her friends that I'm bipolar. I have to keep explaining that I have a disorder, not a disease.
My mother takes all my mental health issues seriously and makes sure the rest of the family does as well. If I am getting close to a breakdown she and my sister always give me an out.
Good Times, Indeed
It's the complete opposite for me. Them: "You're so fat" Me: *Going on a rant about how they are insecure and how I'm fine and secure* Them: "Give me your phone. You're grounded. You are so hateful, and no one wants to be around you." *Takes away TV and leaves me with nothing to do* (A few weeks later) Them: "I feel like we need to reconnect." Me: (The pic)
Nah, I'm trying to lose weight. She says no you fine. So I eat the butt ton of food that she gives me. Then she says you're getting fat. And I try and lose weight. It goes on and on
Some parents use food as a means of control. It isn't healthy mentally or physically.
Load More Replies...Or the opposite.. My grandmother "You really should go on a diet. You don't want to be too heavy. You'll end up having all sorts of medical problems later in life." 20 minutes later "Are you hungry? I can make you something to eat."
Dad
When I was 17, I was backing out of our driveway with my dad's truck when I hit the post to the gate. My father said my siblings had all hit the same post and informed me that I would be out the next weekend to help reset the post and fix the fence. Fast forward 4 years later and my mother hit the same post backing out of the driveway in her car. I turned to my father without missing a beat and said "Are you going to make her go out and help you reset the post and fix the fence?" He was stuck because I knew he wouldn't dare demand her to do anything.....
My dad will step on a rake that HE left lying around - or notice a mess that HE made - and then yell at ME and MY SIBLINGS over it, and then blame it all on "your bloody mother".
Me: Comes Out As Trans (Mtf) Parents: Not In My Household. We Raised You Better! You're Too Good At Sport! Also Parents: Grounds Me For Three Weeks And Takes All Internet Access Away. They Have Been Crappy To Me For 2 Years Now
I can only see the top of the yellow words. What does it say?
Half of this is parents thinking they failed at parenting. The other half is because they are too selfishly worried about what other people will think of them having an LGBT kid. For some reason..they fail to understand that it's not about them....
Parents
Poor Kids Of Stupid Parents
"tHeY wOuLdN'T bE cAlLeD eSsEnTiAl iF ThEy DoN't CuRe EvErYtHiNg"
Load More Replies...What a b******t meme. Completely inaccurate misrepresentation.
To All Of Y’all That Know This Feeling
Ok I need help.....I love my mum and dad and they are very excepting of all peoples religion and other stuff.....BUT how the f**k do I am tell them I bisexual???!!!! HELP!
I guess just ask them if they would be ok if you said you were bi. If they say yes tell them
Load More Replies...The Flashblacks Are Real
"Because i said so" is usually code for "i already told why 20 times. Every day. For the last year."
As a last resort to a child pushing, maybe, but otherwise give children reasons.
Load More Replies...LOL so relatable, sometimes you are tired AF, and don't want to argue about not going to freaking McDonalds.Life is such a marathon.
My parents would ground me if I gave them attitude. It would always be after an argument and my response would always be that I can't change my moods on command, resulting in a harsher punishment.
I'm Not A Kid, I'm 30, But: Being A Millennial During Covid And Trying To Convince Your Parents Not To Do Dangerous Things That Might Kill Them And You
I can relate. My mom made us go for a bike ride the other day on the path built near our house. Their was a sign on the bridge that said the PATH was closed but she refused to believe that. She said it was just the bridge and proceeded to make us go around it. That was a steep hill covered in gravel. My sister and I fell multiple times. When we argued about it she got made and took my phone for being ¨disrespectful¨. Like SHE was disrespecting the construction workers who had never even finished the trail.
My Mom's Reaction When I Sent Her A Picture From A Post
No..not all parents are like this. I've met some very understanding parents in my time. These people that treat their kids like this should not be around kids....period.
Luckily not all. I love my parents. even if they get mad. its reasonable
this mum is messed up. she clearly is proud of this c**p way she treats her kid.
And That’s How Feelings Of Inadequacy Are Born
This is entirely true. Parents get mad when you get a 89% but when you get a 90% they take you out to get ice cream
I can't get a anything lower than an A- or I'll get my phone taken away.
I'm so sorry to hear that bub. Try your best but don't fret if you get a B, you shouldn't be punished like that
Load More Replies...Y'alls Parents Are Crazy
*Grabs shovel and digs person sized hole in backyard* yeah moved out.....
Load More Replies...Really Mindblowing That Your Kid Starts To Cry When You Yell At Them
"tHiS hUrTs Me mOrE tHaN iT hUrTs yOu"
Load More Replies..."What's Privacy?"
oh god, when i was in middle school my dad removed my door for a month or so (i don't even remember why) and i remember being terrified to do anything that i would want to do in private because i thought someone was going to see.
i could literally go on their room while they are changing or not and they would yell at me for this ,but if they go on my room while i am changing or go through my stuff is ok like nothing bad happened ,the worst thing is what they find out if they find something out ,they even freak out when i spent 1 ron of my money like they go crazy about it,i swear i need to move as soon as i finish school (i am almost 18 now i will finish school next year in summer)
my stupid a*s read the kids doctor and i didnt understand anything at first
My friends parents removed their door, and I'm pretty sure that's going to be their Christmas present.
My parents stole my door because I didn't open my door. 2 holes in my door from my sisters trying to get in and one from when I couldn't get in my room.
And They Wonder Why Their Kids Do So Poorly
College classes make me cry on a regular basis because of how my parents reacted when I failed English in high school.
bro this started in elementary school (primary school) for me and my sister (stressed out) lmao
Load More Replies...I used to be a perfect student. Getting above 90% in everything. Once third grade got over I found everything hard because I never had to make any effort to understand. My parents think I have more potential but the reality is that I don’t have much potential. Whatever I’m scoring is my ppotential. I’m satisfied with my test results but my parents are disgusted by them. (I got roughly 49 out of 60 on most of my exam papers). I’ve done spectacular in 2 to 3 papers but my parents don’t even remember no matter how much I tell them.
Came home with a bad grade (everything lower than a B), mom yells, then cries, because she always wants me to be successful hand "have a better future than she did", dad comes home, mom tells him, yells at me during dinner for at least 15min. Ends with "that's no reason to cry. You should cry about your grades and do better"
My friend once got a A-, not an A+. Came to school next day with bruises
She Got In Trouble For This. My Mom Has No Idea That I'm Bisexual
Also mom: *kisses her gal pals and gives them hugs and cuddles*
Send Help I'm 15
had an eating disorder lost a bunch of weight ended up in hospital , i was told by both parents and drs that it was attention seeking or i was on drugs, lol thanks, my sister only has to have a sniffle and its off to A an E. One time she had wind and they took her to emergency room. I fell down the stairs and fractured my ankle and they said its just a sprain and left it. now my ankle is messed up lol
I just want to give a hug to the majority of the people who posted these. I am so sorry you haven't been treated with love and respect from your family, you are worthy of love and deserve more than that.
Yup. Seems about right. My parents have never trusted me, don’t respect my opinion even when I have a valid argument because they’re the adults, called me trashy and attention seeking when I developed and eating disorder and attempted suicide because I hate myself so much, told me I was faking my anxiety and depression which lead to the former items on the list, just generally don’t love me, etc. I can’t wait to move out.
Having a mom who says that you have to "sleep" in the same bed with someone because men will not wait. I'm dating that guy for a month and she knows my trauma's. That she dives in bed with a lot men is her thing, but I'm not like that. A mom who wants to be your friend isn't that great either.
Hahahaha amateurs!! My mom literally drop things so we (sister and i) have to bow to her feet when we pick the things up. One day she even say to me (we were on H&M by the way and some other people listen to her s**t) "good! There's were you belong"
I don't understand why 'strict' is equaled to abusive. I could see a parent being strict on things (no tv or games until homework is done, eating at the table with the family, cleaning your room) is good. It doesn't mean the child doesn't have love and freedom, just that they have structure. Most of the examples here are shilling, though.
I think a bunch of things get labeled "strict" that should really not be in the same category. My parents were/are very loving, but I was constantly under rigid control as a kid. My mom took my door off the hinges as a teenager because she was convinced I was doing drugs. My bedtime was 7 pm until I was in High School. I wasn't allowed to watch movies or TV except as a special treat, and nothing over G unless my parents watched it first for "suitability." I don't consider this abusive, and they did it out of love but it really messed with me. My first relationship was with a controlling and abusive person because I thought that behavior was normal. Now I have a huge problem with any percieved attempt to control me, but this means issues with authority figures, resentment of rules, fear of failure, and a refusal to ask for or accept help to preserve my autonomy and validate my "worth." My parenting style is "don't do the thing, but I'll give you plenty of rope to hang from."
had an eating disorder lost a bunch of weight ended up in hospital , i was told by both parents and drs that it was attention seeking or i was on drugs, lol thanks, my sister only has to have a sniffle and its off to A an E. One time she had wind and they took her to emergency room. I fell down the stairs and fractured my ankle and they said its just a sprain and left it. now my ankle is messed up lol
I just want to give a hug to the majority of the people who posted these. I am so sorry you haven't been treated with love and respect from your family, you are worthy of love and deserve more than that.
Yup. Seems about right. My parents have never trusted me, don’t respect my opinion even when I have a valid argument because they’re the adults, called me trashy and attention seeking when I developed and eating disorder and attempted suicide because I hate myself so much, told me I was faking my anxiety and depression which lead to the former items on the list, just generally don’t love me, etc. I can’t wait to move out.
Having a mom who says that you have to "sleep" in the same bed with someone because men will not wait. I'm dating that guy for a month and she knows my trauma's. That she dives in bed with a lot men is her thing, but I'm not like that. A mom who wants to be your friend isn't that great either.
Hahahaha amateurs!! My mom literally drop things so we (sister and i) have to bow to her feet when we pick the things up. One day she even say to me (we were on H&M by the way and some other people listen to her s**t) "good! There's were you belong"
I don't understand why 'strict' is equaled to abusive. I could see a parent being strict on things (no tv or games until homework is done, eating at the table with the family, cleaning your room) is good. It doesn't mean the child doesn't have love and freedom, just that they have structure. Most of the examples here are shilling, though.
I think a bunch of things get labeled "strict" that should really not be in the same category. My parents were/are very loving, but I was constantly under rigid control as a kid. My mom took my door off the hinges as a teenager because she was convinced I was doing drugs. My bedtime was 7 pm until I was in High School. I wasn't allowed to watch movies or TV except as a special treat, and nothing over G unless my parents watched it first for "suitability." I don't consider this abusive, and they did it out of love but it really messed with me. My first relationship was with a controlling and abusive person because I thought that behavior was normal. Now I have a huge problem with any percieved attempt to control me, but this means issues with authority figures, resentment of rules, fear of failure, and a refusal to ask for or accept help to preserve my autonomy and validate my "worth." My parenting style is "don't do the thing, but I'll give you plenty of rope to hang from."
