Relationships are the best. Imagine coming home to a surprise dinner, all your favorite dishes cooked lovingly by your partner. Afterwards, you enter your room to see it’s beautifully decorated to celebrate your success at work. Looks like a scene out of a movie, right?
While nice gestures are part of a relationship, they don't paint the entire picture. Partners need to put a whole lot of effort into day-to-day life as well. And sometimes they don't.
From neglecting to clean the sink post-shave to leaving dirty laundry around the house, husbands and boyfriends sometimes do things inefficiently. And while there’s not one correct way to do things, we at Bored Panda have put together complaints by women frustrated by their partner's incompetence at daily tasks.
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Dog Destroyed Trim
I left my husband in charge of our dogs while the kids and I visited my family. He chose to stay at his brother's house and only let our dogs out once a day. Yesterday, he sent me this picture and proceeded to blame it on me.
Every relationship has its own ups and downs. And sometimes constant complaining may create a negative atmosphere. However, not speaking up at all makes it difficult to connect on a deeper level with your partner. Imagine you keep shaking a bottle of fizzy soda. What happens when the pressure builds up? The bottle explodes.
Stephanie O'Leary, PsyD, practicing in Westchester, NY said, "Holding in feelings has a negative impact on mental and physical health. Short bursts of complaints are preferable so stress hormones don't build.”
My Partner Borrowed My Car For A Few Days, And Gave It Back Like This
Husband's Bedside Table That I Am Making A Point Of Not Doing For Him. It's Already Been 2 Weeks
It’s all about finding the right balance. Tina Gilbertson, a psychotherapist and the author of Constructive Wallowing, agrees. “Acknowledging feelings is healthy, it’s good for you physiologically and it’s good for your emotional health," she said.
Journaling is a good way to express what you are feeling. “If you're prone to holding things in and then having a rant, practice writing down what's bothering you at the end of the day, and if you see an issue show up two days in a row, know it's time to address it directly,” O'Leary said.
My Husband, The Love Of My Life, Decided To Trim His Hair This Morning Before Leaving For Work
I am really tempted to just ignore this and use a bidet and bath faucet and see how long this stays here.
My Sister's Boyfriend Lost His Wallet Before Leaving To Go To His Mom's House. He Left The Living Room Like This After He Found His Wallet
The Way My Fiance Leaves Peanut Butter Has Me Rethinking My Choices
Having an empathetic approach with the person you're complaining about is important to make both of you understand how the other person's behavior impacts you. Unless you are fully aware of the situation, you won’t be able to grasp what’s going on.
My Fiance Has A Weird Habit Of Not Closing Drawers Or Cabinets
When The Hamper Is Right There
My Husband Leaves Car Like That Every Single Time I'm About To Use It
Alicia Clark, PsyD, practicing in Washington, DC, says, "Facts invite your listener to think about them and agree or disagree, whereas feelings invite your listener to understand. The difference comes down to whether you discuss the facts about a situation or your feelings about it."
Clark further explains, "And while this may seem a minor difference, it sets up a big difference in what you will receive from your listener that can, in turn, have a big impact on how you end up feeling.”
This Is How My Husband Opens The Bread If I Don't Get To It First. Just Rips A Hole In The Bag And Leaves It Open Like This
My Husband Ate The "Roof" Parts Of My Mini Gingerbread Houses While I Was Waiting For The Rest Of The Parts To Set
We had a bunch of random cookies and broken bits from the same batch available. And yes, he knew the others were there. He also ate some of them but said the roof parts tasted better.
When I Asked My Boyfriend To Bring Me Home Some Food From The Bar
The Hummus Containers My Boyfriend Put Back In The Fridge, Leaving A Little Bit For Later, I Guess
Don’t argue with your partner the minute they tell you about something that bothers them. They just want to be heard at that moment. “When we are complaining, we are unhappy and want to feel better. We are looking for compassion and understanding, not debate and judgment. People want to know why something matters, and we are wired to respond with empathy when we hear people describe their feelings or why something matters to them."
Boyfriend Put His Drink On My Brand New Notebook
Why Is My Boyfriend Doing This?
Don’t argue with your partner the minute they tell you about something that bothers them. They just want to be heard at that moment. “When we are complaining, we are unhappy and want to feel better. We are looking for compassion and understanding, not debate and judgment. People want to know why something matters, and we are wired to respond with empathy when we hear people describe their feelings or why something matters to them."
My Husband Did This
I Called My Boyfriend From The Supermarket To Check If I Needed To Grab More Pads And He Said, "No, There's Loads Left"
My Husband Took A Bite Out Of The Butter And Just Put It Back. I Told Him I Would Publicly Shame Him If He Did It Again After That Cheese Incident
A relationship is a two-way street where both partners need to put in equal effort. So, if there’s something bothering you, find a solution that works for you. Sometimes, ranting about it online will do the trick and other times, you can ask your partner to have a heart-to-heart talk.
Father-In-Law Visited Us And Took Flowers From My Flower Bed. And My Husband Helped Him
He said his wife would like the flowers and just took them home with him. My husband is going to buy me new flowers tomorrow.
My Husband Is Technologically Challenged
My Boyfriend Took A Bite Of All The Chocolates To Find The Caramel One. There Wasn't Any
My Husband Puts Food In The Sink
"It'll get to the trash eventually", which means he scoops it out of a water-filled sink after pushing some into the drain, and no, we don't have one of those grinders. It's even worse when he does it with rice.
Why you wasting that much food? There's no need for that to go in the bin, pasta keeps for days in the fridge or can be frozen :/ my poor-person soul is screaming at the idea of all that good food being binned.
Husband Keeps Putting His Shoes On Top Of My Shoes And Making Them Dirty
This Is How My Boyfriend Leaves The Sink After He Shaves
The 11 Smartphones That My Mom’s Boyfriend Has Broken In The Year They’ve Been Together. Some Of Them Were His, Some Were Hers, And One Of Them Was Even Mine
I've seen this before. This issue is caused from lack of anger management.
I Put My Phone To Charge At Night Before Bed. My Husband Unplugs It And Uses It Because He Always Breaks His Chargers
My Fiance Never Changes The Toilet Paper When He Finishes The Roll, So I Decided To Do The Same This Time. This Is What I Saw When I Went To The Bathroom The Next Time
How Did I Not Notice My Boyfriend Does This Until Now?
I caught his 12-year-old doing this the other night, trying to fry eggs after school, and I had no chance of teaching him because he said, "This is what my dad does".
Ditto. Except I have a husband. Who wouldn’t dare step into my kitchen.
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I do this too. Then I throw away the whole thing when I'm done (or reuse the shells for compost and recycle the container)
Are your egg cartons made of styrofoam? Ours are carton (always have been). Styrofoam containers for anything have been banned. Edit: just realized that this commen might sound negative. I was just wondering. I find these little differences fascinating!
No, we only buy the cardboard. The shells go in the composter, and the carton goes in recycling. I've also never used a dozen eggs in one meal.
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Are people putting it back in the fridge (or on the counter, wherever you store your eggs) like this? Cause that's terrible. Use a different container if you're going to save the shells then. But I do this while I'm cooking to keep it contained and it helps be able to count the eggs if you lose track
I Bought A Bag Of Candy And Saved It All Week For A Friday Night Treat. Apparently, Husband Had Already Opened And Left Me 8
My Partner Told Me They Would Have Chicken Noodle Soup Waiting For Me At Home Because I'm Sick. This Is What He Meant
Nice silverware. Makes it look like he could have procured better soup.
Husband Went Grocery Shopping Last Night And Didn’t Close The Freezer Door Correctly. He’s Done This Multiple Times With Multiple Reminders To Remember To Close The Freezer Door
My Boyfriend Fell Asleep While Baking Pizza. It Cooked For Nine Hours
I Came Home To My Fiance Cooking The Cookie Dough Out Of Our Ice Cream
My Fiancé Leaves His Shoes On The Dresser
I Asked My Boyfriend To Bake The Croissants For Our Dinner
My Boyfriend Refuses To Use The "Wash As You Go" Method When Cooking Dinner
My Boyfriend Grabs A New Roll Before Finishing The Last One
My Husband Put This Butter Container Back In The Refrigerator
My Husband Kills The Bugs And Then Leaves Them Because He Thinks It Will Keep The Other Bugs Away
The fact that you now have multiple dead flies proves his theory wrong.
When My Husband Loads The Dishwasher
My Boyfriend Lovingly Insists On Cooking Dinner On Mondays But Ends Up Leaving All Of His Dishes And Mess Behind Because He Has To Leave For His Weekly Chess Meet-Up
Don’t get me wrong, I love that he’s willing to cook dinner. He just always underestimates how much time he’ll need to cook and eat, leaving me to clean up the carnage. Every Monday, it’s the exact same thing.
Normally, we clean up together. This week’s mess was, honestly, pretty mild. There are usually food bits, spices, and many other things scattered around.
And that’s why he chose that day to cook. Time to switch his cooking day.
The Way My Boyfriend Ate This Pie
According To My Boyfriend, His Toothbrush Does Not Need To Be Changed
The Way My Boyfriend "Cuts" The Butter
When Your Husband Forgets To Set A Timer For Hard Boiled Eggs
The Way My Husband Wraps Gifts
At least he's doing it himself and not leaving it to you. If the gift is thoughtful, who cares how neat the wrapping is?
My Boyfriend Puts The Empty Packages Back In The Box
The Way My Fiancé Ate These Muffins
My Husband Puts This Much Food Back Into The Fridge To Avoid Doing The Dishes
My Husband Thinks This Is How You Should Get A New Trash Bag. Please Help Me Settle This Debate
My Husband Ate The Top Of The Banana Nut Bread
My Partner Decided To Wash My Recently Purchased Japanese Knife In The Dishwasher
My Husband Left Only One M&M In The Dish
Think positive. If he'd left two you'd be burdened by the choice which one to leave for him.
My Husband Left The Sunroof Open Last Night
The Way My Boyfriend Cuts Avocados
Hubby Poured Cold Stock Into The Hot Chicken. I Guess It's Time For DoorDash
I sympathize with this one. I was stupid, 100% stupidity on my part, and I was trying to do a steam bake for bread. Used a glass dish got it nice and hot poured in the water to create steam and BANG! So, while this is infuriating as long as he doesn't do it again I think the lesson has been learned.
My Boyfriend Made Lunch. Who Cuts Sandwiches Like This?
My Boyfriend Insists On Storing Leftovers In A Ziplock Bags. His Reasoning Is, "It Saves A Dish", Even Though They Have To Be Transferred To A Dish Later Anyway
My Husband Scrapes The Soap With His Fingers
How My Boyfriend Wears His Socks. They Didn't Roll Down On Their Own, He Intentionally Does This
I remember doing that in primary school, in the 80s, maybe early 90s
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This has a very strong passive-aggressive flavour to it. It just seems as if these guys expect their SO to clean up after them as if they were children.
Some of them do, and some of them sound like they never bothered mentioning it so it goes on. Communication is a wonderful thing.
Load More Replies... This is seriously making me mad. I can't believe we live in a world full of man babies. Where were the parents? I was raised much much better than this. Sickening really. Poor wives and girlfriends. I pray for your sanity.
That is f_cking pathetic. It's not just passive-aggression, it's infantilism, deliberately and CONSTANTLY make a mess. It's the pathetic male way of dumping all household responsibility onto a woman. Women, don't tolerate this. He leaves garbage? Put it in his car. Dirty clothes on the floor? Throw them in the garbage. One up him and teach him a lesson. [ ............... ] It's not only males that do this. EVERYONE in my workplace (all women except one) are mentally deficient when it comes pushing in chairs, leaving them in the way. When I ~DO~ push chairs under their desks, they whine and gripe. One idiot will leave it out, walks away for AN HOUR to teach a class, then comes back and whines, "i WaS sITtinG DowN!!!" No, you weren't, you wuckfit, you were a hundred metres away for an hour.
Most of it is just laziness. My ex was a slob but used to get upset when I'd clean up the kitchen coz I wanted a clean cup for coffee. One of the reasons they are now an ez
Did you see the dishes in the sink? The dirtybin the wc sink? The dirty clothes and dirty dishes in the room? The everything from clothes, stuff lik tool boxes and cameras and clothes in the living room? Shoes everywhere? The non put back toilet paper?3 to 4 garbage bags waiting to be put away in the kitchen? That's my house living with my son and my ex( he is my ex but because he was going homeless, I, in a moment of stupidity, decided to let him stay in my place until he fin a place to live...after 1 year and several attempts to put in out, a depression and a chronic illness that makes me so weak that I don't have energy for nothing, specifically fighting someone with a temper and 2 times my size...I regret my decision of being nice and thinking that everyone has the right of a second chance ( we are not a couple, and he's married with a Brazilian woman that lives in Brazil. I don't need to watch some drama soap opera...I already live in one. I just wanted to help him, it was my fault, now I'm paying for the consequences...
So glad I'm married to a grown up not an overgrown child who can't clean up after themselves or function like a normal human being.
This is so bad. Why do women put up with this bs? Man children treating women like servants or worse, acting entitled, disrespectful, and slovenly. Gross.
As an asexual aromantic sea sponge I am forever safe from this nonsense.
What the bloody hell? This would seem to be mostly men. Didn’t their mothers teach them anything and why do their partners put up with it? I’ve been married for more than 40 years and if my husband did any of these things we wouldn’t have lasted five minutes. It’s lazy and dirty. Partners can only do this if they get away with it. Put your foot down wives and partners, don’t put up with it.
These actions have been going on for a while. Now that there is social media, I guess people feel they are shaming the other person in their partnership. I think I would be more embarrassed that I have allowed such laziness, passive aggressiveness, and disregard for others in my home as evidenced in some of the postings.
I'd just like to point out that most of these are males. 🤔 That's all.
The majority of these are minor nuisances, but there are some that just say so much about the person's character and obvious disregard for other people, all I can say is "Run! Get away as fast as you can"
I live alone, my partner lives in her house, we both have different approaches to how a house should function, when I’m at hers I do things her way, when she’s at mine she also does things her way 😂 Joking aside, If your partner doesn’t take responsibility for their life and how it impacts on you then it’s a long walk off a short pier for the relationship OR you get to compromise and accept that you will forever be frustrated by their actions or inactions. If compromise isn’t an option then you have to raise their awareness level, you won’t force them into action, you have to change their outlook on their life and then hopefully they’ll be moved to change, if they won’t appreciate the negative impact that they are having then you’ll have to find that short pier!
Our family game was rubbish barrel jenga - carefully placing trash higher and higher over the rim until something fell off - or as was much more the usual, i emptied it.
Why do the comments mostly refer to guys, when most of the posts didn't specify gender? Woman can be awful too. So glad I'm single again
This has a very strong passive-aggressive flavour to it. It just seems as if these guys expect their SO to clean up after them as if they were children.
Some of them do, and some of them sound like they never bothered mentioning it so it goes on. Communication is a wonderful thing.
Load More Replies... This is seriously making me mad. I can't believe we live in a world full of man babies. Where were the parents? I was raised much much better than this. Sickening really. Poor wives and girlfriends. I pray for your sanity.
That is f_cking pathetic. It's not just passive-aggression, it's infantilism, deliberately and CONSTANTLY make a mess. It's the pathetic male way of dumping all household responsibility onto a woman. Women, don't tolerate this. He leaves garbage? Put it in his car. Dirty clothes on the floor? Throw them in the garbage. One up him and teach him a lesson. [ ............... ] It's not only males that do this. EVERYONE in my workplace (all women except one) are mentally deficient when it comes pushing in chairs, leaving them in the way. When I ~DO~ push chairs under their desks, they whine and gripe. One idiot will leave it out, walks away for AN HOUR to teach a class, then comes back and whines, "i WaS sITtinG DowN!!!" No, you weren't, you wuckfit, you were a hundred metres away for an hour.
Most of it is just laziness. My ex was a slob but used to get upset when I'd clean up the kitchen coz I wanted a clean cup for coffee. One of the reasons they are now an ez
Did you see the dishes in the sink? The dirtybin the wc sink? The dirty clothes and dirty dishes in the room? The everything from clothes, stuff lik tool boxes and cameras and clothes in the living room? Shoes everywhere? The non put back toilet paper?3 to 4 garbage bags waiting to be put away in the kitchen? That's my house living with my son and my ex( he is my ex but because he was going homeless, I, in a moment of stupidity, decided to let him stay in my place until he fin a place to live...after 1 year and several attempts to put in out, a depression and a chronic illness that makes me so weak that I don't have energy for nothing, specifically fighting someone with a temper and 2 times my size...I regret my decision of being nice and thinking that everyone has the right of a second chance ( we are not a couple, and he's married with a Brazilian woman that lives in Brazil. I don't need to watch some drama soap opera...I already live in one. I just wanted to help him, it was my fault, now I'm paying for the consequences...
So glad I'm married to a grown up not an overgrown child who can't clean up after themselves or function like a normal human being.
This is so bad. Why do women put up with this bs? Man children treating women like servants or worse, acting entitled, disrespectful, and slovenly. Gross.
As an asexual aromantic sea sponge I am forever safe from this nonsense.
What the bloody hell? This would seem to be mostly men. Didn’t their mothers teach them anything and why do their partners put up with it? I’ve been married for more than 40 years and if my husband did any of these things we wouldn’t have lasted five minutes. It’s lazy and dirty. Partners can only do this if they get away with it. Put your foot down wives and partners, don’t put up with it.
These actions have been going on for a while. Now that there is social media, I guess people feel they are shaming the other person in their partnership. I think I would be more embarrassed that I have allowed such laziness, passive aggressiveness, and disregard for others in my home as evidenced in some of the postings.
I'd just like to point out that most of these are males. 🤔 That's all.
The majority of these are minor nuisances, but there are some that just say so much about the person's character and obvious disregard for other people, all I can say is "Run! Get away as fast as you can"
I live alone, my partner lives in her house, we both have different approaches to how a house should function, when I’m at hers I do things her way, when she’s at mine she also does things her way 😂 Joking aside, If your partner doesn’t take responsibility for their life and how it impacts on you then it’s a long walk off a short pier for the relationship OR you get to compromise and accept that you will forever be frustrated by their actions or inactions. If compromise isn’t an option then you have to raise their awareness level, you won’t force them into action, you have to change their outlook on their life and then hopefully they’ll be moved to change, if they won’t appreciate the negative impact that they are having then you’ll have to find that short pier!
Our family game was rubbish barrel jenga - carefully placing trash higher and higher over the rim until something fell off - or as was much more the usual, i emptied it.
Why do the comments mostly refer to guys, when most of the posts didn't specify gender? Woman can be awful too. So glad I'm single again
