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Hey Pandas, What Do People Do That Immediately Screams “Low Self-Esteem” To You?
We all have behaviors that give away more than we realize, especially when it comes to self-esteem. Whether it’s constant self-deprecating jokes or always seeking validation, some actions can be subtle cries for reassurance. So, Pandas, what’s something people do that instantly makes you think they might be struggling with low self-esteem? Share your thoughts!
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#1
Just speaking as someone who has low self-esteem (and depression) I do talk about myself a lot to other people, not because I'm vain or self-centered though.
It's because I just want someone to maybe remember me.
Making friends is difficult enough, it gets even harder when you're over 40.
When you have no one meaningful to share your life with, it's incredibly difficult to have self-esteem, since it always feels like no one wants you around, or even cares about you.
If no one else cares about you, that makes it difficult to learn to care about yourself, since you feel worthless.
Being alone is awful. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.
Final score:
22points
Bill Swallow 4 months ago
Your words resonate with me. Hope you find people who care and are supportive of you.
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#2
They live life like nothing is ever going to work out for them.
Final score:
13points
#3
Cruelty to make themselves feel better at the expense of someone else.
Final score:
12points
#4
Putting a dollar amount in every conversation about things they own.
Final score:
11points
#5
Driving a cybertruck or hummer, or any other p***s extender
Final score:
11points
#6
No/very little eye contact - looking at the ground.
Final score:
8points
Yrral Spavit 4 months ago
Depends on the culture. Some places, eye contact is considered rude/inappropriate behaviour.
#7
They are constantly saying "Sorry", even if they aren't at fault. I finally had to tell my husband that a lot of the time, my "Sorry" is me being supportive, not me taking the blame.
Final score:
8points
Marla Singer 4 months ago
There are a few different kinds of "sorry" (depending on culture). It's not that hard to understand the nuances. People who think "sorry" always means "I apologize" are pedantic...
#8
I can't believe this isn't on here yet. It feels almost like a cliche but: judging other people's appearances. It just screams, "I am terrified of being judged myself." I'm the type that will call people out on this and the truly insecure ones will get uber-defensive and start deflecting, which is along the lines of what they were doing in the first place with the unwarranted judgement; confirmation. 😏
Final score:
8points
JK 4 months ago
I never call someone out on appearance because it just makes you the ahole. Then again, I won't engage in a confrontation, ever, about appearance. Unfortunately, I did a very short gig at Olive Garden and the high school girls were giggling about my appearance. I was broke and had to find all black attire on a zero budget. I walked off that job and was chased into the parking lot by a manager to ask me why. That was a fun conversation.
#9
People who continually post pictures of themselves on social media, in ridiculously posed situations. "Look at me, look at me!" No, thank you, I'd rather look elsewhere - you're far too busy looking at yourself to notice anyone else anyway. Low self-esteem means you crave attention. Huge red flag.
Final score:
7points
Marla Singer 4 months ago
People whose social media feed is all pictures of themselves, period. It's gross.
#10
When you give them a compliment like you look amazing or something and they just disagree.
Final score:
7points
#12
They only talk about themselves and rarely if ever ask about others’ interests, work, hopes, etc. How did they never learn how to have a real conversation? Are they simply not interested in people – yet somehow think their own lives are endlessly fascinating? It’s just baffling. But I know at least some of it is rooted in an insecurity about their own social abilities. I feel like offering a course on this subject.
Final score:
6points
#13
When people want validation for everything they do. Make a statement and then ask "am I not right?" Or trying something and saying "I hope I do the right thing". Take life by the horns. If you are wrong, learn from it.
Final score:
6points
#15
When they start breaking down at the slightest ounce of criticism. I'm not kidding. I knew people like this. I feel sorry for them.
Final score:
4points
#16
Those boys and girls (even if they are of adult age) that scream "PICK ME! PICK ME!" with their actions and words.
Final score:
3points
#17
I used to work with a woman who would wear all this elaborate make-up. Three shades of eyeshadow and eyeliner and mascara. Blush and contour and highlighter. Lipliner and lipstick and gloss. We worked in a office, not a nightclub, btw.
At lunch, she'd go to the ladies, take off all this make-up, then put it back on again.
She was also the biggest b****h I've ever know. No coincidence.
Final score:
3points
#19
Being a martyr.
Saying how much of a s**t person they are.
Constantly degrading themselves.
Never smiling.
Not trying or practicing anything, but complain they can't do anything.
Final score:
1point
#20
Policing masculinity. "You're not a real man if you ____". Same goes for femininity.
Shítting on people who get plastic surgery
Final score:
1point
#21
Bounce from one terrible relationship with one loser to the next and repeat...
Final score:
0points
#22
Wearing pajamas in public. Are they comfortable? Yes. To me it screams, i don't care enough to wear regular clothes.
Final score:
-2points
#23
People who think tattoos will make them pretty or handsome when they just make them look ignorant.
Final score:
-4points
What do you think ?
ILoveMySon 4 months ago
Consistently correcting others for minor infractions such as grammar is absolutely indicative of one with low self esteem. Looking at you, Anne. We are on this site to enjoy and learn different perspectives. Please learn from others beyond your expansive grasp of grammar.
ILoveMySon 4 months ago
Consistently correcting others for minor infractions such as grammar is absolutely indicative of one with low self esteem. Looking at you, Anne. We are on this site to enjoy and learn different perspectives. Please learn from others beyond your expansive grasp of grammar.
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