Hey Pandas, What Are Some Of The Double Standards In Society That Annoy You? (Closed)
No matter how many times we claim to be modern double standards still exist!
Governments are quick to prosecute the 'normal' people for all kinds of monetary fraud but cast a blind eye to large corporations who avoid tax on an industrial scale.
When a woman accuses a man of domestic abuse:
Society: OMG, that's terrible, kick him out, go to a refuge, leave him, go to a group, call the police, scumbag
When a man accuses a woman of domestic abuse:
Society: man up
That people find it "cute" when an adult woman, barely dressed, in a suggestive manner kiss a little kid. People even make comments like "lucky boy!". But when it's the other way around (a half naked man, in a suggestive manner kissing a little girl) everyone's against it.
Let's clarify it, it's wrong in both ends. Little kids shouldn't be put out in a sexualised spotlights.
Guys can go get a vasectomy at an early age to not have children, but I am going to be 40 on Sunday, have had three children ranging from 15-20 and have multiple female issues and am a high risk for uterine, cervical and ovarian cancer and insurance may deny me to have a hysterectomy because I haven't tried "birth control" yet. Ummm I can't have kids my tubes were tied after my last baby because it would've literally killed me and the baby had I gotten pregnant again. So let me just rip out the plumbing to feel better, there's no reason to have a cycle every month to prepare my body for a baby I'm never going to have.
If a man is clear on what he wants and advocates for himself he is goal oriented or confident. If a woman does, she is a b#tch.
When a father takes care of his child-
society: " Awww! Look at him! So cute, he is such a great dad!"
When a mother takes care of her child-
society: *ignores* ( because, you know, women are born to look after kids)
Society always telling us that violence never solves our problems, then said society puts criminals to death and starts wars to solve their problems.
Men can't wear shorts in the office even though women can wear skirts.
Some women have to wear makeup for their job, even though it's not required of men.
Sexual harassment, even rape...sometimes there’s this attitude “boys will be boys”, while the girl somehow “brought in on herself”
Pro life stance that is against abortion but unconcerned about babies being born into poverty or about helping children who are already here
How women dressing in "man clothes" is cool but men dressing in "women clothes" is "gay".
If women have more than 1 sexual partner she's a s**t. If men have more than 1 sexual partner he's a cool dude.
Companies can refuse to cover birth control under the guise of religious and moral objections. Yet, Viagra is doled out like candy.
When people say "You're too young to be gay" but that also means you're too young to be straight also.
Normal people committing a crime get the full punishment. Famous sports people, politicians, or rich businessmen get completely let off, or at most receive a warning.
Now take that same set of people and apply it to anything and you'll find another double standard.
LGBTQ+ people can't marry, while heterosexual people can do that and divorce each other, all while spouting some BS about saving the nuclear family and family values. (In my country)
“Real” women have curves. ALL women are real regardless of size!!
Feminine hygiene products can be really expensive, while condoms are easy to get for free. Periods are not a choice; sex is. Stop making women pay for having healthy bodies.
As the female singer in the band: When guys sing of sex and love then it's just a song. When I sing it, every guy in the room thinks I'm inviting them backstage (I try to NOT even make eye contact -- don't want to give them a signal). The Heart gals said the same thing. Every time Ann sang Magic Man, she said EVERY man pointed to himself.
The Permanent Members of the United Nations Security Council .... are also the largest arms manufacturers on the planet.
Women are by default a good parent where the father is always considered inept or unable to raise a child. Many courts grant full custody to the mother even after the child asks to go with their dad, the mother has a criminal record, or even when the child says the mothers boyfriend is abusing them. It’s sad.
Gay people can't adopt, but heterosexual people can disown their children. (In my country)
POCKETS POCKETS POCKETS POCKETS. I have exactly one pair of pants with pockets and they are the tiny kind that I can't fit my phone in, and the side pockets are sewn up. I just want to be able to hold my keys and some chapstick! Is that too much to ask?
Claiming to be a climate activist, yet flies around to conferences in private jets
When women are required to wear dresses.
Excuse me? I don't own any. Not going to happen. That is absolutely discrimination.
I don't wear women's clothing at all. Except a bathing suit. Not much choice there.
Society to men: Go ahead! take your shirt off and show us your hairy body and caterpillar mustache.
Society to women: EW- you have body hair?!?! you don't shave your legs?!?! You're not even wearing a bra?!?! You're disgusting.
Me: Body positivity, people!!! Equality!! Ya don't need to shave if you don't want to!!! Get over it, society!!!
Shoes! Men usually wear practical shoes. Women, not so much. I think it's getting better, but maybe it's just my hitting an age where I value comfort over style. No more heels for me.
The double standards in the American media was super evident during the recent Israeli bombardment of the West Bank. It was constantly referred to as a “conflict”, which does not do justice to the severe power imbalance. During the “conflict”, Israelis were killed. Meanwhile, the hundreds of children on the other end of Israel’s missiles “died”. And it doesn’t end with the American media, the bias is within Israel, too. Inside Jerusalem, the Israeli Courts removed the Arabs from their homes, saying the homes were built without a permit. Ok, guilty as charged, we’ll move out. But wait, what’s this? Jewish settlers get to live in my home, the one you just said was built illegally, and by your orders? The influential Western countries won’t say anything because these are white people oppressing people of color, just look how similar problems in other countries are rooted out so quickly by those same countries.
Kind of obvious, but the double standards on clothing are absurd. Men all but exclusively get "cool" and "rough" clothes, women all but exclusively get "cute" and "sexy" clothes, the gents get all the pockets, the ladies get all the open-bottom lower attire (ie. skirts, dresses, etc.). Can't we all just wear what we want?
If a poor person commits a crime, it's "Lock them up and throw away they key", if they're young they're tried as an adult, they get a long sentence and have to spend their lives with the label of "ex-con".
If a rich person commits a crime, it's no charges beyond a misdemeanor filed by the DA, or if they're young it's "... mustn't ruin their future", they get a suspended sentences, dainty little slaps on the wrist that don't count against them in the future.
There's one law for the rich in this country and another for the poor.
That every black South African is uneducated. That every white South African is racist. We have smart, good SA people that care about one another, teaching & caring for each other, regardless of skin colour, people that are friends, family, coworkers… When was the last time you did something nice for a stranger? Be the change you want to see in the world. ❤️
Guys can be gamers, but when girls game, a lot of the time they get "GIIRLLLL GAMMERRRRR" or sexualized or etc. Oh, don't forget about the "Go back to the kitchen!"
1. If there is a disaster befall upon my country's area that is inhibited by peoples of minority religion, some people from majority religion will said that it is a punishment from God for those peoples because they have a heretic believes (which actually means having a different religion from majority), and refuses to help them in any way, be it a donation, or even a moral support...
2. If there is a disaster befall upon my country's area that is inhibited by peoples of majority religion, the same group of peoples from previous description will said that it is just a "test" from God and urge people to help them...
3. If there is a miracle (somethign that defy our current scientific logic, and occasionally happened) that is attributed to minority religion, some people from majority religion will scorn it and said that it is the works of devil...
4. If there is a miracle that is attributed to majority religion, the same group of peoples from previous description will said that it is the works of their God...
The legality of nipples being shown, women vs men.
If a women is fat it’s hideous. If a man is fat it’s a “dad bod” and its “hot”
Not sure if this is a double standard but YOUNGER SIBLINGS.
Say I bite my MS (middle sister), at 8 I would be scolded and not allowed to leave my room until dinner and I would owe MS an apology and one job.
If LS (little sister) bit MS at 8, she would be admonished then let off the hook.
SO FRUSTRATING and teaches LS and MS they can get away with anything.
That it's acceptable for a woman to wear a shirt without sleeves as business attire and if a guy does it he's a Hill Billy.
When a man is spending time with his kids it's "babysitting", but when it woman not a big deal.
Teen moms are ridiculed and alienated, no matter how good they've become as mothers. But teen dads are either excused for running or patted on the back for contributing and doing the bare minimum.
I have actually heard women say they would "rather have a boy so then I don't have to worry about him coming home pregnant." These parents are part of the problem. Teach your young men how to be fathers. Doesn't mean you have to encourage bad relationships to stick together, but at least teach your sons to step up to the plate when they've hit a big change of responsibility they need to focus on.
There are no "Men's shelters" for the suddenly single men escaping an abusive relationship.
Media doing stories on body positivity and then only publish pictures of skinny models.
If the wife stays home and takes care of the house and the kids while the husband goes out and works, that's right and proper, but if the husband stays home while the wife works, he's a lazy bum.
Immigrant assaults woman: “Vile savage! Cut his d*ck off! Send ‘em all back where they came from!”
White man assaults woman: “Welp, boys will be boys, and she did wear a skirt!”
Food! E.g. - the same brand of pasta all over Europe is lower in quality in some parts of Eastern Europe and is sold at the same price.
Prices! E.g - lots of low budget products (same brand, same store) from Western Europe are sold at a much higher price in Eastern Europe
Nepotism in high-paying jobs is called nepotism. Nepotism in low-paying jobs is called "I just need to help my brother out," "They get a break/can't be fired because they're family," or "She's your sister, just give her a job!" This is the rare example of something that's actually classy when you're poor, but trashy when you're rich.
If girls don’t wear dresses or shorts they are automatically considered “tomboys” or “lesbian” like no one considers it being about comfort of preference
Single fathers are heroic, single mothers are a sign of a society that has lost its values.
If a mother takes time off to care for her kids, she gets warnings about not being "career / job focused" enough or trying to juggle too much. If a father takes time off to care for the kids, it's "aww ...he's such a good parent!"
I see it every time hubby or I take time off work to take one of our kids to the doctor or stay home when they're sick.
That racism is something only perpetrated by white people.
Religion: System of beliefs with a large following
Cult: System of beliefs with a small following
Mythology: System of beliefs with a formerly large following
It's all about popularity, not validity.
Good for climate change and covid, but not for genders.
That courts who are supposed to be unbiased treat atheists as having no morals or being incapable of acting responsibly whilst giving credit to those ignorant enough to believe the fantastical tales of Bronze Age mythology are fact and need the threat of a punishing parental God to act responsibly, not because they know it is correct and same.
society says that i should feel guilt for being white...
Ooh, I actually have a few.
First, how people can treat… adolescents… without apparent fear of consequences or retaliation.
My parents, for example, have told me that I “should know how to [insert action] by now, because we won’t be there when you’re in college.” At the same time, I’m basically the IT person in my family. Among many other experiences, I’ve helped my grandmother turn off the flashlight on her iPhone- while calling me from the same phone!- and after ‘fixing’ it, she said, “what am I going to do when you’re in college?”
Don’t get me wrong, I’ve still helped them when they asked. I just wish them good luck for the next four years, when I’ll be in college.
Second, how people of different backgrounds are treated after a particular event.
At barely 18 years old, I am a second-degree black belt in Taekwondo. I have helped students older but lower in rank than me with learning material many times, as part of my leadership training. I’ve heard my instructors tell me to put in more effort into my form, yet I’ve also heard them tell lower-rank, ‘older’ students to take their training slow. I’m not annoyed as much by this, but I still find it ironic.
The third double standard that I can think of is simultaneously the most personal and, to a different degree, the most widespread.
I have both childhood brain cancer(August 2013) and epilepsy(May 2020). My prescription has messed with my mind in more ways than one; look up the effects of levetiracetam and lamotrigine for a general idea. Toward the end of this past school year, I lost motivation to do much in school; are 12 years of work and 4 years of not enough sleep really worth some clothes and a folder? (I did end up graduating, so everything worked out.) My resource room teacher seemed to just dismiss my perspective as looking forward to the school year ending, seemingly ignoring my new diagnosis and the fact that we were (trying to) attend classes across screens, 7 hours a day. I don’t hate her for her response- I might have said the same thing in her position, and she is a great teacher- but I don’t know if she said the same thing to everyone else.
When women looking for men who are "tall, dark.." it's not sexism,
but when men say "Skinny, big booty.." it's sexism.
The people in America who want affordable childcare are the same people who say teachers and child caregivers are underpaid.
In the military, the higher ranks generally get in less trouble than a lower rank for the same offense.
When a person gets offended by another person’s action(s), whom they consider unattractive, but they are flattered or fine when an attractive person does the same thing. It’s wrong either way.
British PM has at least 7 kids by 3 different women. A woman wouldn't get away with that.
Smokers who wouldn't consider throwing a piece of paper on the ground, but have no problem throwing their cigarette butts Everywhere!
Government offices want to avert hostile work environments, but employees at a local office have to deal with both verbal and physical abuse from people in the homeless encampment on the building's property.
I used to be really annoyed by how men could walk around or go running in the summer heat with no shirt on but women had to wear sweat-inducing polyester bras with tops over them. But karma seems to be in effect, at least at the beach now. Women's bathing suits have become so minimal they don't even have butt coverings anymore and 3/4 of their boob can be showing, while men have to wear knee length, bulky shorts. Some guys have 10 times as much fabric on them as the woman they are strolling down the beach with.
That having a boyfriend (or just being in a relationship as a teen in general) is trashy and irresponsible or that sex is bad and immoral, but at the same time expecting teenagers (especially girls) to be interested in that type of thing, pressuring them to want to get married latter in life etc. This double standard can make people feel bad about being in a relationship, and can especially make it confusing for lgbtq kids and those on the asexual spectrum. In my opinion it's just kinda toxic to raise kids this way.
The Military tells you to ask for help and talk to someone of you have issues mentally. You ask for help. Then they send you to another unit or discharge you all together. It’s not every time, but it does happen quite a bit.
people use different standards for making inferences about others' abilities based on social status, religious beliefs, and political inclinations. Though people do not approach color and creed directly, that racism exists in them and they sometimes show it by different mediums and then pretend not to.