Dating is an extremely complex dance. Building up the courage to make the first move is scary, but it’s only the beginning. Following that, we have to navigate the game of interpreting body language while beating around the bush with words. We try to ensure feelings are reciprocated, but when we're hit with the sting of rejection every now and then, the best reaction is to accept it and move on. After all, there are plenty of fish in the sea!

However, some people have a hard time accepting 'no' for an answer, sparking creativity among women. 2 months ago, Reddit user weird-n-nerdy reached out to Ask Reddit and posed the question, “What are some effective ways to get a man to stop hitting on you?” The question received over 8,000 responses, including some genius ideas. We’ve gathered the best for you to read (and maybe add to your arsenal for the next time you’re confronted with a persistent fellow) and even got in touch with weird-n-nerdy to hear her thoughts on the topic.

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#1

"Have You Accepted Jesus?": Women Share 30 Genius Tactics They Use To Stop Men From Hitting On Them If he sends you an unsolicited d*ck pic, mint it as an NFT listing him as the artist and send him the purchase link, the only way for him to erase it from the blockchain is to buy it.

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Candia Lee
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5 months ago

I really like this one.

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We reached out to weird-n-nerdy asking what inspired her to create this post, and she told us, "I thinking back to a time when I met a guy who just wouldn’t take 'no' for an answer. He was very persistent to the point where he ended up trying to follow me home. It was a very negative experience. I was looking for some suggestions in case something like that happened again." That's certainly a frightening experience too many women can relate to.

We also asked why she thinks men can be so persistent. "I think there are some men who believe that a 'no' from a woman can turn into a 'yes' with enough persistence and badgering. Some men think that this is how they are supposed to persuade someone in order to get their interest, when in fact they are just pestering women. There are men who do not even realize that their repeated unwanted attention can be threatening for women. I also think it largely comes from the idea that a man is supposed to 'chase' a woman in order to successfully pursue her."

We then asked if she has a favorite tactic in getting men to leave her alone, and she told us, "I just tell a person straight up that I’m not interested, but that doesn’t always work. The only foolproof method I have in getting men to stop hitting on me is staying in-doors. I’ve been hit on zero times since working remotely."

Lastly, she wanted to remind everyone that, "We should respect people’s boundaries regardless of our wants, or desires. If you need to consistently bother someone a hundred times to get their attention after they have clearly conveyed to you that they are not interested, they’re most likely not engaging with you willingly."

#2

"Have You Accepted Jesus?": Women Share 30 Genius Tactics They Use To Stop Men From Hitting On Them My sister learned this from a friend and started doing this as well. She carried a couple of issues of Watchtower in her purse and when the guys started hitting on her, got a very earnest look on her face, pulled them out and started saying "Have you been saved? Have you accepted Jesus Christ as your personal savior?" It worked better than mace.

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October
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5 months ago

One of my most vivid memories of my mom... People rang at our door saying they had come to bring us Jesus. And my mom responding: "That's great! Just put him in our hallway."

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Dating seems like it should be one of the most natural and intuitive human experiences. Follow your gut, trust your heart, and you’ll find your perfect match. We shouldn’t need to intellectualize dating; it should be instinctual. The internet, however, seems to be flooded with articles titled things like “The 10 Mistakes You’re Making When Dating”, “Essential Rules of Dating”, “How To Date Smarter”, etc. Not to mention the countless podcasts and blogs discussing the topic of dating as well.

While dating is something almost all of us do, often many times, it also seems to be shrouded in mystery. Becoming a dating coach or a matchmaker are actual career paths you could go down, and online dating (including apps) has become a multi-billion dollar industry. So with unlimited resources at our fingertips, why are we so bad at dating?

#3

"Have You Accepted Jesus?": Women Share 30 Genius Tactics They Use To Stop Men From Hitting On Them I tend to attract the 55+ guys. As soon as I figure out their age I say "awww you're the same age as my dad!" That usually shuts them right down

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Caro Caro
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5 months ago

LOL, this made me giggle like a schoolgirl. Hahaha

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Mark Manson, New York Times bestselling author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach and Models: Attract Women Through Honesty, wrote a piece exploring the very nature of why dating is so perplexing for many of us. He first comments on the fact that dating advice often parallels advice of how to improve other skills, like playing an instrument for example. The “practice makes perfect” approach. While that tactic might make you a better piano player, it does not account for all the nuances involved in relationships. So Mark delves into the topic of our emotional maps. 

#4

"Have You Accepted Jesus?": Women Share 30 Genius Tactics They Use To Stop Men From Hitting On Them I loved what the woman said in the film double jeopardy, when a guy asked her out she said “yeah sure, I’ll just have to check with my parole officer because I murdered my husband”

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Anna Lessens
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5 months ago

I'm using this thanks?

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One thing we have to consider when thinking about our dating habits is our emotional baggage. Even if we’re not conscious of it, our childhoods affect every part of our lives, including romance. “Whether it is a parent who didn’t hold us enough, who didn’t feed us regularly enough, a father who wasn’t around often, a mother who left us and moved away, being forced to move from school to school as a child and never having friends — all of these experiences leave their mark as a series of micro-traumas that shape and define us,” Mark says.

#5

"Have You Accepted Jesus?": Women Share 30 Genius Tactics They Use To Stop Men From Hitting On Them Being fat and over the age of 35 worked for me.

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Janice Gale
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5 months ago

I hear you sister.

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#6

"Have You Accepted Jesus?": Women Share 30 Genius Tactics They Use To Stop Men From Hitting On Them I've seen girls use the "do you have a tampon?" with her friend as a guy approached before. Guy spun around faster than I thought poasible

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Cecilia Herrera
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5 months ago

Thanks for the laugh.

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“The nature and depth of these traumas imprint themselves onto our unconscious and become the map of how we experience love, intimacy and sex throughout our lives.” Mark goes on to explain that while it’s possible to get along with many people or be attracted to everyone you go on a date with, it’s rare for someone to really captivate you and make you go so far as to fall in love. “Psychologists believe that romantic love occurs when our unconscious becomes exposed to someone who matches the archetype of parental love we experienced growing up, someone whose behavior matches our emotional map for intimacy,” Mark explains. “Our unconscious is always seeking to return to the unconditional nurturing we received as children, and to re-process and heal the traumas we suffered.”

#7

"Have You Accepted Jesus?": Women Share 30 Genius Tactics They Use To Stop Men From Hitting On Them Ask if he's ready to be a daddy to the unborn baby you carrying

Why thank you for all the likes. This unfortunately happened to me at an embarrassing age of 17 and I was awkward and unsure about being a teen parent and this was how I hid my insecurity. My baby girl is almost 18 and I'm blessed for how she has changed me

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Suz66
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5 months ago

Good for you for raising a child when you were so young. My sister got pregnant at 17. I saw how hard they worked to do it. (Luckily she had a good partner) and they raised two beautiful children and are still married 47 years later. They worked their arses off to do it, as I'm sure you did too. Congrats!

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#8

"Have You Accepted Jesus?": Women Share 30 Genius Tactics They Use To Stop Men From Hitting On Them Tell the story of how your last boyfriend broke up with you, and how it was crazy of him to freak out just because you stored some of his semen in your fridge “just in case”

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Boggy
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5 months ago

This made me laugh out loud

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#9

A guy was straight up hitting on my girlfriend when I was right there and he wouldn't stop when she asked so I just started hitting on him. "Nice a*s buddy!", "Can I get you're number and send you some lewd pics". He got super pussed and walked away.

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WannaKnowWhatIThink?!
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5 months ago (edited)

Pussed? That's a new one on me. Interesting mental image there...

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This is where the idea of our partners being our “other half” comes in. Sometimes lovers tell one another “you complete me”, and in a way, they do complete one part of them. Mark explains that these are the reasons falling in love makes us feel so giddy and like a child, but it’s also why dating can be so painful and challenging. “Our dating and sex lives are inextricably bound to our emotional needs, and when we get into potentially intimate or sexual situations, these experiences rub up against our prior traumas causing us anxiety, neuroticism, stress and pain.” Mark goes on to say the reason why rejection can be so hard to handle is because “that someone isn’t just rejecting you — instead, to your unconscious, you’re reliving every time your mother rejected you or turned down your need for affection.”

#10

"Have You Accepted Jesus?": Women Share 30 Genius Tactics They Use To Stop Men From Hitting On Them Get really weird, really, really fast. Weird them out so much that they think you're a freak. Defo don't do it in a sexual way.

A friend of mine once did this to a guy who sat at our table on a night out. She went right down in conspiracy theorys, asking him why his shoes think he's orange, all sorts of really weird stuff, just to make him uncomfortable enough that he got up and left within a few minutes.
It was impressive, actually.

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Anna Lessens
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5 months ago

So be myself...got it.

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#11

"Have You Accepted Jesus?": Women Share 30 Genius Tactics They Use To Stop Men From Hitting On Them Send him a d*ck pic, say it’s yours or your bfs then ask him if he likes it.

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October
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5 months ago

Lol. Make sure it is huge for extra shock value.

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#12

Once a man was trying hitting on me in a bus, I was feeling very bloated and gassy..and burped aloud right in his face ,like a huge grandma burp..the look on his face was priceless, didn't bother me again

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Teresa Stabler
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5 months ago

I guess drinking a lot of root beer is a good thing.

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Mark mentions that when we don’t confront our trauma head-on, we seek out ways to disassociate from our emotions. This can include objectifying sexual or romantic partners, preventing us from ever making an emotional connection. Viewing partners through a sexist lens and projecting personal insecurities onto them is another common unhealthy coping mechanism. Some people resort to using manipulation and games while dating, to withhold their emotional maps and vulnerability. Lastly, Mark mentions that some people overuse humor and sarcasm to avoid any meaningful conversations, and others simply turn to strip clubs or pornography to evade human interaction altogether. Mark notes that, generally, “the more resentment one is harboring, the more one objectifies others”.

He does note though, that dating expectations are different for men and women, as gender norms subsist in our society. “There’s a lot of social pressure on men, particularly straight men, to ignore their emotions, particularly ‘weak’ emotions such as a need for intimacy and love. It’s more socially acceptable for men to objectify their sex lives and boast about it.”

#13

"Have You Accepted Jesus?": Women Share 30 Genius Tactics They Use To Stop Men From Hitting On Them Speak in a foreign language like you don't understand them. Thanks Dutch.

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October
Community Member
5 months ago

Acutually I tried to pretend I didn't speak the language when I first met my husband. Considering the fact that he is now my husband, it did not work very well.

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#14

"Have You Accepted Jesus?": Women Share 30 Genius Tactics They Use To Stop Men From Hitting On Them "No thanks, I don't date humans. I'm strictly into Sarconians, They are our reptilian overlords."

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Anna Lessens
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5 months ago

All hail the sarconians

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#15

Wearing a mask has really cut down on my appeal to older conservative men, which has been great

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HappyPanda
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5 months ago

Opposite for me... i guess i just have some nice eyes O-O

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Luckily, we are not all doomed to a life of terrible dating experiences. Healthy, happy relationships do exist, so Mark shares tips on how we can work towards a successful love life. First, he notes that our emotional baggage will never fully disappear, but the goal is to replace unhealthy feelings and anxieties with “higher order” behaviors and feelings. It takes practice, but we can develop healthy responses to situations that would typically trigger us. Along the same lines, we can over time desensitize ourselves to emotional triggers.

“You must overlay old emotional habits of fear and anxiety with healthier ones like excitement and assertiveness.” Lastly, Mark recommends being honest about emotional needs from the onset of a relationship. “For instance, I’ve always had a fear of commitment and needed a woman who was comfortable giving me space and some freedom,” Mark notes. “Not only do I openly share this with women I get involved with now, but I actively screen for women with these traits.” This sets the groundwork for a healthy partnership. “The practice of being upfront about your desires and flaws will naturally screen for those who best suit you and connect with you.”

#16

"Have You Accepted Jesus?": Women Share 30 Genius Tactics They Use To Stop Men From Hitting On Them One time all it took was the guy seeing my Star Wars tattoo. That was amazing for me.

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Isabella
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5 months ago

Maybe he was a fan of Start Trek.

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#17

"Have You Accepted Jesus?": Women Share 30 Genius Tactics They Use To Stop Men From Hitting On Them Tell him you're only interested in tall men with high paying jobs. You want to be a mom ASAP and don't want to work.

Demand to see his DL first so you know where to send court documents for child support.

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Monday
Community Member
5 months ago

And then one day you try this and the guy just says "ay I gotchu mama" and insists you elope immediately.

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#18

"Have You Accepted Jesus?": Women Share 30 Genius Tactics They Use To Stop Men From Hitting On Them Describe the procedure for bull castration in vivid detail. Thanks Animal Science degree.

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Irishwoman abroad
Community Member
5 months ago

My son's newly qualified veterinarian best friend (f) once described to us over dinner the whole fascinating process of extracting semen from a horse for AI - good thing he loves her like a sister, because this would turn anybody off.

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While some men have a hard time taking no for an answer, many women have a hard time being upfront about the rejection as well. A quick Google search yields countless articles about “How to Say No Politely To a Man Who Asks You Out” and “Guy-Approved Ways to Turn Down a Date Without Hurting His Feelings”. Of course, I’m not advocating for being cruel or making personal digs. But why can’t we just say “no thanks, I'm not interested”? Women are taught to be sensitive to (and responsible for) others’ feelings all the time, even when men push past boundaries and continue to hit on us after being turned down. Some women use excuses like “sorry, I already have a boyfriend” or "I'm married" that allow the man to feel like it had nothing to do with him. But the fact is, rejecting a man can be scary when you don't know how he will react.

#19

"Have You Accepted Jesus?": Women Share 30 Genius Tactics They Use To Stop Men From Hitting On Them "Sorry, I'm Mormon!" Followed my some absurd, made up reason like, "Yeah, my religion prohibits me from dating men who wear green." I'm actually Mormon and it works so damn well.

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Monday
Community Member
5 months ago

"Sorry, I'm Pastafarian! I can only date men that have noodles for hair or women who have feet shaped like macaroni".

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#20

"I have to be back at prison before morning roll call."'

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beesechurger elite
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5 months ago

i can confirm, this one works.

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#21

"Have You Accepted Jesus?": Women Share 30 Genius Tactics They Use To Stop Men From Hitting On Them Ask for money. Works 10/10

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CrunChewy McSandybutt
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5 months ago

You have to ask them for a lot of money, not just like $10. Ask for $800 so you can make rent.

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In 2019, actress Jameela Jamil opened up on Twitter about the dangerous situations women can find themselves in after rejecting men. "Was out at the shops with my friend,” she wrote. “Man ogles me. Man then approaches me to give me his number. I explain I have a boyfriend but thank him for the offer. Man then threatens my career, saying I better remember that I rejected him. And then shouts at me that I’m low class …” This was not even the only story Jamil had to share of a frightening post-rejection response. "I once said no thank you to a man when I was 19 and didn’t have an excuse... and he punched me in the face. After that, whether or not I have a boyfriend, I say I do. Being a woman is truly, constantly scary. It’s like existing on thin ice." After Jamil shared her personal experiences, countless other women shared similar encounters. Unfortunately, it can sometimes be safer for women to come up with excuses or do something to make the man no longer interested.

#22

"Have You Accepted Jesus?": Women Share 30 Genius Tactics They Use To Stop Men From Hitting On Them Ask him to buy into your MLM scheme

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BAWK BAWK BAKAW
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5 months ago

your what OH im so gay i thought this was like a men loving men lmao

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#23

"Have You Accepted Jesus?": Women Share 30 Genius Tactics They Use To Stop Men From Hitting On Them Ask if he has heard the good news of our lord and savior

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Josh Stevenson
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5 months ago

Why yes, he says I'm getting into your pants tonight. Don't you love Jesus?

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#24

Actual advice: never give a reason. Any reason is an invitation to negotiation for some people. It also gives them a sense that maybe they have an entitlement that's being blocked by 'reason.'

All the following work, depending on how nice you want to be, none give a reason.

'No,' 'not interested,' 'thank you, but no,' 'how nice, but not thank you,' 'I'm flattered, but no.'

If someone says 'what not?' Just repeat that you're not interested but move from polite to simple no. If someone persists past that simple no, then consider them a danger.

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Sasha
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5 months ago

If just telling them no actually worked, this list wouldnt exist....

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Much more extreme and terrifying examples of men reacting violently to rejection are Elliot Rodger and Alek Minassian. Rodger famously killed six people and injured thirteen others in 2014, motivated by "a desire to punish women for rejecting him and to punish sexually active men for living a better life than him". Minassian had a similar motive when he killed 10 people in 2018 "by ploughing a van into pedestrians in Toronto". Of course, anyone who can commit atrocities like these is dealing with some sort of mental illness, but we can never know for sure what mental state others are in when we reject them.

#25

Bark at him!

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Max M
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5 months ago

Hmm i suspect i would bark back. Then we could bark alot

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#26

Look at calender on your phone, think hard jpg ...whisper "ovulating..2 days plus... hardthinkjpg"...."you free tonight? "

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Sportsgal
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5 months ago

Tee hee! There will be a cartoon hole in the wall he just ran through! 🤣🤣

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#27

"Have You Accepted Jesus?": Women Share 30 Genius Tactics They Use To Stop Men From Hitting On Them “Sorry, I’m not interested, I’m a mother”, then showing (many!) pictures of my kids made miracles.

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Ivana Bašić
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5 months ago

Or say you're a mother, then show him pics of cats.

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Resorting to outlandish excuses when turning men down may be effective, but let’s not forget why women feel the need to do that in the first place. Overly persistent men should respect women enough to just take no for an answer. Remember that everyone experiences rejection at some point, and the best way to deal with it is to shrug it off and keep looking forward.

Be sure to upvote your favorite tactics in dealing with pushy men, and let us know in the comments what your best line is when you need to turn someone down!

#28

"Have You Accepted Jesus?": Women Share 30 Genius Tactics They Use To Stop Men From Hitting On Them Fart extremely loudly in front of them and don’t acknowledge it

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Irishwoman abroad
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5 months ago

He might die laughing, and then maybe you'd end up laughing.. There's something about farts, no matter how old we are, that's just funny

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#29

Tell him you’re dying to have kids.

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Monday
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5 months ago

"omg what kind of house do you live in? Cause I want, like, 7 kids! Like right away! And we'll go to mommy and me classes and dress up in matching outfits and it'll be fabulous!"

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#30

Ask him if he could get you his beat friends phone number because he’s cute

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Zedrapazia
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5 months ago

I guess that'll just make another guy think he could hit on you instead now

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