One of the coolest things about traveling is that you come face to face with so many different behaviors, values, and ways of living. However, once you spend some time abroad in any country, you begin to realize that no place on Earth is ‘perfect’ and no culture is the 'best.'
Every culture has its quirks, nuances, pros, and cons. The members of the r/AskReddit online community recently opened up about some of the most annoying and questionable things that people from their cultures do. Scroll down for a dose of reality.
We reached out to redditor u/CanaryResearch, the author of the intriguing thread, for their thoughts on embracing travel and the importance of being open-minded about other people's cultures. You'll find Bored Panda's full interview with the OP as you read on!

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Arab culture. Boy where do I start brace yourselves : -Get married.. but as a guy you need about 20-40000$ depending on the country. Your salary is 1000$/month , then proceed to shame you if you're late to marriage. Because relationships are not allowed that sexual frustration is used to lure you into the traditional marriage trap.
-No childfree allowed . You must have children , the more the merrier and if you don't they'll shame the s**t out of you and assume your d**k doesn't work -Divorced women are shamed beyond belief and a lot of virgin men seeking marriage seek Virgin women exclusively and will be shamed by their family if they marry a divorced woman.
-This causes women to spend their lives being miserable because they're afraid of divorce and causes parents to see their daughters suffering but unable to divorce them due to the culture.
-Toxic masculinity like you would not believe to the point it's just accepted that men are "this way". Men have the most insane f*****g egos and nobody is allowed to say anything especially if they're older. They have to know everything and proceed to pretend to even if they know they don't , they cannot make mistakes and even if they do it's not their fault.
-It's absolutely a man's world women are not empowered or free or anything like that don't believe the media . I got called insane for bringing up that I wanted to marry a lady with a strong personality and independent and has her own career everyone kept telling me "you won't be able to control her" Not to mention the b******t being taught to us through religion about the divinity of men and how women should obey them.
-Arab culture is probably the most racist culture in the world. Not only do we actively discriminate against people of other races but within our own we discriminate against different countries. NOT ONLY THAT within the same f*****g country we discriminate based on city. Someone from city A marrying someone from city B may be frowned upon because city B has a problem with city A and so on.
-A distinct memory i have is some doctor where we lived married a nurse from the Philippines and was actively shunted by their friends for doing so. Later i heard someone say "I can't fathom how he can look at his children with their small eyes".
-Moving on to religion . Everything is haram , that might not stop you from doing it but the sheer volume of trauma you being exposed to as a child about death and hell makes you feel guilty Everytime you do something "haram" even if you've left religion behind years ago. As a 6 year old I touched my w***y and was told I'd go to hell for it. I was 6 f*****g years old.
-Even now as an adult I've moved on to displaying more daring sides of my personality by wearing something akin to biker rings and those leather bracelets and I still get comments from people close to me about that. I bought a pair of magnetic black circle earrings and wore them once the amount of hate and shame i received made me throw them away. Not to mention I've had random old men telling me what I'm doing is haram and that I'm feminizing myself. And how nobody would want to marry me because I'm like this and my entire life is haram and I'm going to hell. As if god will turn a blind eye to being nice helping others not stealing not being a s**thead and send me to hell because I'm f*****g wearing rings.
So yeah it's f*****g hard that's why the more free minded of us are fighting tooth and nail to gtfo of this toxic racist extremist hellhole and it's getting so much f*****g harder. Forgive us westerners but if we stay here not a single one of us will be able to resist commiting s***ide
Excellent response. I will take your lead and hope to give everyone "trapped" in this and all similar cultural situations a hug.
Load More Replies...Although not unique to the Arab world, this is the most toxic type of culture and value system on Earth. It is soul-crushing and destructive; it is no wonder there is so much violence of all kinds that emanate from areas where it dominates.
Sadly, Indian culture has a similar racism problem, with added colorism. Parents literally pray for babies with light skin because they are seen as more " valuable" in their society.
I know India is Asia but this the skin color is also really prevalent in a lot of South East Asia.
Load More Replies...I wish this guy good luck to get out of that hateful country. He seems like a fine guy and deserves better than this
Bless him, I really wish all the best to him, and his compatriots, even if they wouldn't appreciate my wishes just yet
Load More Replies...The older I get and the more I travel the world, the more I realize how toxic ALL religions are on society. Christianity, Judaism, Islam, Hindu, ANY of them turn us into fearful animals! I was born and raised super religious and thankfully am atheist now and I have since become a better, more caring human being, all the while becoming the most free I've ever been in my life!
The thing is that a lot of people that escape those "extremist hellholes" (quote from the post) continue to follow their culture where they escape to. And I may sound racist, islamophobe whatever - but no foreign culture creates as many troubles as the Islam here in middle and western Europe. Of course not everybody, I know a lot of very good people myself that fled or have a migration backround, but the overall situation is very troublesome
Bored Panda was curious to get the OP's take on what can inspire someone to travel abroad if they've never left their home country before. According to u/CanaryResearch, this inspiration can come from anywhere!
“It can be as simple as a sense of adventure or following passions you already have, such as hiking in a new land if you already do that at home,” they shared their thoughts with us.
"I also believe that placing yourself in another culture is one of the best ways to learn more about yourself, which is one of my favorite reasons I get inspired to travel."
Japanese ethnicity here. The dumbest thing in our culture is shame/guilt and "loosing face". It's generationally exponential too. Like if your great grandfather did something shameful, you're supposed to still feel shame/guilt for it now. It's the dumbest thing ever. This is partly why Japan has such a high suicide rate.
The sins of the parents visited on the children happens in alot of cultures but Japan takes it to the absolute extreme.
Even in Germany it is not as hard. Yes, we learn in school, what our ancestors did, but also, that we are not responsible for what happened and don't have to feel guilt. Yet we shall never forget.
The never forgetting is the main thing. We all, whatever people/culture we're from, have things that must never be forgotten.
Load More Replies...I've lived in several Asian countries and "face" is everywhere, and ludicrous. Someone can lie to your face or steal from you, but getting angry will "lose face". North America and Europe have "face" too, but it's about ~honesty~. If you lie, you lose face.
No. In western countries you only lose face if you are caught lying. Everyone lies
Load More Replies...Japan is a mental health disaster. The work culture, the fact that Japanese psychiatric hospitals restrain patients about 100x as much on average compared to western psychiatric hospitals, the whole shame thing and ignoring individuality...
I work in the translation field and it was heartbreaking when we were commissioned by a branch of Google to localize a guidebook training women in the Japanese workforce that it is alright to take breaks and develop a healthier work-life balance. There was a brief section about death by overwork and suicide and it was really disturbing. I remember reading that people who took naps were actually rewarded for being truly hard workers--no, they were just overworked to the point of depression and exhaustion. I truly hope that the younger generations continue to change this.
Load More Replies...That and the overwork issue - there's even a Japanese word for dyeing from working too much (if anyone knows it, please tell me, I forgot).
As someone who has lived in Japan, I get really mad when Westerners see news articles about Japanese people being chivalrous and think it’s easy to live there. They have as many struggles as Westerners; just different ones.
I've never heard anyone say it's easy to live in Japan. I've heard people talk about the great train service, and how clean the streets are, but I also hear a lot about the over working, the extreme cost of living, the train creeps, the "over" education being forced on every child. But not once have heard anyone say living in Japan is easy.
Load More Replies...Don't forget the racism. Japanese people are (usually) friendly and welcoming towards foreigners, but there is always a separation. In addition, you can be born and raised in Japan and live your whole life there, but unless you have 100% Japanese ethnicity, you aren't *really* Japanese to an alarming number of people.
My (Japanese) SIL and Brother hide from her family she is on anti-depressants bc it means her father and brothers could loose their jobs bc it shows "something is wrong with the family" That is how she explained it to me. The only reason why they get away with it is bc they are in the US now and they are far enough away people wont find out
Indian here: Discriminate against menstruating women. Cannot participate in auspicious occasions / go to the temple / handle communal food / water plants considered holy. Sheesh.
I take offense. Neanderhals were intelligent and compassionate people. They cared for their old and sick, they made flutes, they buried their dead with flowers. More like, Biblical men. Now that period was savage and dark indeed.
Load More Replies...I work for a high school and our district superintendent has banned staff from giving out tampons (that would be given to the schools by many different organizations). He is worried about toxic shock syndrome :/. Like lets make these poor girls run around with practically a diaper on because you are uneducated. SMH
I always ask, when a woman says she lives by the bible, how she tolerates living in the yard a week every month due to her uncleanliness. They are usually NOT amused.
And now we find out that menstrual blood contains stem cells that could cure a whole host of diseases. No wonder the men are afraid of us!
I was actually wondering about that with my SO the other day, I always suggested it was because men were jealous that we can create life but he thinks it is because of multiple orgasms :D
Load More Replies...This also came from the Abrahamic religions, where women are secondary. Sanatana Dharma (Hinduism, name given by the Turkish invaders) doesn't anywhere mention that the natural process is "impure". The same thing was done with "homose****ty is illegal" thing. It was a British law, that still exists to this day.
In Hinduism women are considered impure while menstruating. Angirasa Smrithi Verse 37. But there are a wide variety of practices and interpretations. https://www.indica.today/long-reads/hindu-view-menstruation-menstruation-ashaucha/
Load More Replies...These wouldn't happen to be religious beliefs? How can fantasy novels about fictitious characters still have so much impact. Life would be so much better without all these dumb gods ruining everything.
But they probably are not allowed to stay in bed during the whole ordeal either...
I will just assume the men just assumes someone are having their period and ban them? Or are the once menstruating [are] so indoctrinated they shun these things themselves?
Load More Replies...Tolerance and respect for other cultures are both essential if you plan to travel. In redditor u/CanaryResearch's opinion, you can only get there by having an open mind.
"There isn't one culture that is the best. What might work for you culturally might not work for others. You're the visitor in their home, so try to be open to living as they do," the OP noted a few of the main things to keep in mind.
"You may learn something great, or you may learn to be more thankful for what you already have."
The OP opened up to us that they had no idea that their question would get so much attention on Reddit. In their opinion, the question resonated with a lot of people because "it allowed people to realize they share a lot of the same customs even if their respective cultures are very different in other aspects."
As an American... Gender reveal parties.
Like, it's a boy/girl. Yea. I get inviting some friends over and maybe a special cake. But things have gotten utterly INSANE! I'm worried someone will launch an actual nuke at some point for one of these damned parties!
Fads that persist even though they long outstayed their welcome eventually become culture...
Load More Replies...And people have actually DIED at these idiot events due to some fool explosion.
And this is something that started being exported to other countries.
I'm so glad this hasn't yet made its way to Europe because this is literally the dumbest idea for a party I've ever encountered.
Load More Replies...Gender reveals squick me out. Not even the big parties - just the whole pomp of the “finding out scan”. I don’t know why. I just don’t get it.
Dumbest waste of time and money. No one else cares what gender your crotch goblin is going to be.
Look, I’m glad you’re having a kid and all, and I hope everything comes out fine. But knowing in advance what brand of downstairs plumbing the kid will be sporting is not all that crucial to me.
I wouldn't call this part of "American culture" per se in the traditional sense. Just something that some idiots do. I think that it is getting less popular actually (hopefully).
And what if later (after the parents have spent millions on a gender reveal party) the baby grows up and (like myself) identifies as trans or non binary. Big waste
Sorry gotta downvote this one. Not just Americans do it and why do people care so much about what others do? The ones that do harm to the environment yea f them but their are people who do harmful things without having a gender reveal party.
Gender reveal started fire that caused loss of life, injury and property. thankfully they are getting jail time, community service and order to pay $1.7 in restitution https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2024/feb/12/california-gender-reveal-party-wildfire-guilty
Westerner: Weddings cost an arm and a leg just to impress people you barely know.
This is one of the "dumbest" moves in MANY cultures. A ridiculous display of wealth that few participants actually have at the time, adding massive debt at the worst time of their working lives!
So true! And then they are like "We are the best country. We have the biggest weddings. You guys dont even have real weddings"
Load More Replies...Sooooooo glad I didn't bite on that!!! Whole wedding was $200 rings and all 🤣
Ours was less than $150! Best friend got licensed to be our officiant, we invited a small group of friends to a local pub for an "announcement ". They all though it was to announce our engagement but...surprise! We're getting married here and now in the outdoor patio of the pub! The pub provided free champagne for the party and we paid less than $150 for the food and cake. Everyone had a great time and no one had to spend a fortune on clothes or presents. Don't regret a thing!
Load More Replies...Which is why in my social circles, simpler, cheaper weddings started to get popular. My favorite one was last summer. Two of my friends got married. In the afternoon. Close family, friends, forty to fifty guests. Ceremony at a venue in a forest, nice stage among the trees. Then reception and cake. No dance, no expensive traditions, nothing. Just the ceremony, food, some socializing, that's it. The whole thing was maybe three hours. Now I want that kind of wedding too. I don't see the point of making it a colossal affair. You just ruin it for yourself because nothing can really live up to your expectations, while also ruining yourself financially.
Seriously. I'd rather have a small ceremony worth with the people I'm closest with and save the money for a decent honeymoon and the rest to help us with life.
As someone who made a decent living running ridiculously expensive weddings at a ridiculously expensive hotel I wholeheartedly disagree with this post 😂 keeping weeding planners, caterers, DJs, bands, florists, dress makers, room decorators, suit rental businesses, tailors, celebrants, hotel & bar staff, chauffeurs, and myriad of other businesses going thanks to insane humans who waste thousands on their (unrealistic) dream wedding. Thanks for the money btw 😀
I don't really remember any of the weddings I've been to. I know I went, grudgingly, but can't recall much. Nice use of $20K or more.
In India - caste system.
The caste system was introduced by the invading countries. India had been under a foreign rule for about 650 years. Before that the so called "caste system" didn't exist. People were categorised based on the work they do. Brahman - people pursuing knowledge (Scientists, Doctors, Teachers etc..). Khsatriya - people in governance (Kings, soldiers, administrators etc). Vaishya - people who owned business & Sudra - people who worked in jobs. Once the Islamic & Christianity based countries invaded, they pit once group against the other for gains. Same thing is done today, just with a different set of categories.
"People were categorized based on the work they do." Caste. A system which has existed in India for over 3000 years. What you're talking about is the class system imposed by invaders.
Load More Replies...This is outrageous backward thinking. America has a caste system too, just hidden and sneakier about it! Religious "beliefs" are at the core of both and the main purpose is to keep the rich richer and the poor poorer!
It's absolutely not the same though. Like we're talking orders of magnitude difference.
Load More Replies...There is even worse, some countries still have aristocracy and royals… and common people accept that 🤦♂️
I can't tell if you are joking or not? There is a big difference between countries where some people are born into privilege, and one where being born into the lowest caste means you can face rape, beatings and in some cases being killed, with little consequence for the perpetrators because you are considered less human
Load More Replies...Traveling and adventuring are both awesome activities that expand your mind and give you a fresh new perspective on life. However, some people are on the fence about doing this. They want to travel, however, they might be scared about the potential challenges. For instance, they might be afraid that it's dangerous to go on trips abroad or they're worried about the potential costs.
It really helps if you directly talk to your family or friends who have more experience traveling than you. They can give you lots of great pointers and allay at least some of your fears. There are also lots of great resources all over the internet about going to specific countries.
Whatever your fears might be, if you're completely new to traveling, one of the best things that you can do is to take a series of tiny starting trips. That might mean visiting a more distant neighborhood of your hometown at first. Then you can visit nearby towns and cities until you work your way up to trips abroad. Think about the places you'd love to see near and far, and slowly move up the list.
UK: fox hunting. Rich a******s on horses using packs of dogs to hunt down and tear apart a defenceless fox. Then smear the fox blood on their children.
If this is in the United Kingdom, England especially, real foxes haven't been used in decades. They get a towel that has been wiped over ripe male fox bits or been urinated on by a female in heat & pay some poor sod to 'drag it' through the hunt area. Mostly it's tied to a jeep but sometimes on horseback or even by hand in some iffy areas. The dogs are excited by the scent & chase it. The more elaborate the 'drag', the better the hunt. There is a prize of sorts for the dogs when they get to the end of the drag. No foxes are killed. It actually made a new trade in stinky towels/rags! Now I've never heard of fox blood being smeared on children's faces, generally young children aren't encouraged unless they can keep up with the horses. If this is for another country/kingdom, well just ignore this. 😁
yeah, that's what is supposed to happen but trust me vile fox hunting still goes on and is even celebrated. Check out Action Against Fox Hunting or League Against Cruel Sports.
Load More Replies...Real foxes are used, I can only assume this comment was made by a supporter of fox hunting
So sayeth Oscar Wilde, and badger is pretty awful too!
Load More Replies...Wiping blood on their children is a new twist. Never heard that one before
Arranged marriages.
(Which often are followed by a pressure by the families to have a kid)
And yes, more often than not, you are supposed to
*Make a completely shattered marriage work*.
Both of you and your kids are left traumatized.
Welcome to India.
P.S_ this is why arranged marriages have so less of a divorce rate.
According to https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Arranged_marriage there's a huge difference between an arranged marriage and a forced marriage. It's the forced marriage that is universally condemned, but still practised in some countries and cultures, including in India.
OP said “more often than not you are forced to make a completely shattered marriage work”, so it sounds like the kind that anti-slavery orgs condemn and the “oh, it’s fine!” kind aren’t as far apart as you may think.
Load More Replies...Wow. NO. I'm indian and this is not true. This was more true back in the day, but there's similar stuff is in every culture. Arranged marriages actually do work out well and it is not forced at all. Like one of the other posters said. There's a difference between arranged and forced marriage. And I have so many friends and family that do not have any kids because they do not want to. I'm sure there are still backwards people in rural India that force you to do all this, but for the most part, not true anymore.
I am an American woman who had a semi arranged marriage. Our fathers found out through a friend at work they both had kids in the same city in another state, and set us up on a blind date. We hit it off, fell in love and got married six months later.
Nigeria. Try to force every young person to respect every old person even if they're literal criminals
Exactly! I'm not gonna respect someone just because they're old, they get respect from being good
I have ALWAYS hated the “Respect your elders!” bullsh!t.
Load More Replies...This could be any soft can-opener, as all cats are criminals.
Before you travel anywhere, one of the best things you can do is conduct some research about the culture of the country and area. Though books, videos, and articles won’t acquaint you with all the cultural nuances, they can be a general guideline to navigate most social encounters.
You need to know the biggest dos and don’ts. You want to make sure you don’t accidentally offend someone by being too blunt, using inappropriate hand gestures, or talking about topics that might be way too sensitive. In short, you need to understand that you’re a visitor. You’re responsible for being respectful so that you’re treated respectfully in turn.
It really does help to travel with an open mind. You won’t believe how many kind and friendly people there are all over the world. At the same time, let’s not be too naive: some people, especially when they spot a tourist or a foreigner, might try to swindle others out of their hard-earned cash. Be realistic about the sorts of challenges you might face, and read up on the more popular types of scams. They vary from country to country and region to region.
Ethnically Chinese. We burn billions (in Hell dollars) of underworld banknotes to our deceased relatives. Now I'm no necroeconomist, but I can imagine King Yama having major headaches over inflation in the underworld.
Didn't the Chinese make the first paper bank note from mulberry bark over 1500 years ago? I thought I read that somewhere, but I could be mistaken.
Just some paper that kinda looks like bank notes, so the death have spending money in the underworld. It isn´t actually legal tender China-Chin...4282c2.jpg
Notes as general legal tender are relatively recent, so this is superstition that has usurped tradition.
China invented paper money over 1000 years ago---many countries have cultural practices that are far younger.
Load More Replies...Gutter oil, Uyger concentration camps, having 'New Year' in February for some reason...
The lunar New Year (not just Chinese) predates having a calendar with named months.
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Not necessarily my culture, but my step-family is all Cuban. They refuse to arrive on time. You have to lie to them and say the event you are planning starts 2 hours early than it actually does. Two specific cases:
1) My step-brother's wedding. Was posted to start at 2pm, but actually started at 4pm.
2) We had dinner reservations for 6:30 at a restaurant. My brother and I showed up at 6. We wait... Wait some more... Nobody else in the family has shown up. We call my stepmother who made the reservation in the first place and by this time we are both starving. Turns out they have yet to get dressed and leave the house. That was the breaking point and told them I would have to make alternate arrangements and that we had waited for 90 minutes and refused to wait a second more if they weren't even ready to leave the house.
It actually is a thing in some parts of the world. I was assigned to study it for a group presentation at university.
Load More Replies...Western cultures value time as a commodity not to be wasted. Cultures that are relational view time less linear fashion and put relationships first. Meaning if someone needs something in the moment, you do that, regardless of what appointments you might have. It isn't necessarily bad, it is just a very different way of looking at things.
That is a very apt way to explain it and I hope it’s better understood in future.
Load More Replies...My aunt was like this. We'd eat without her. When she'd finally arrive, she'd finish off the leftovers.
My father would make the family stay in the car because we were 10-15 minutes too early. Something I inherited from that guy.
My friend is Malawian and Scottish but also has rellies from Ghana. She had one set of wedding invitations for the Africans and another set for the Europeans, each showing wildly different start times. Problem solved!
Also a restaurant isn't going to hold your reservation if your that late
This is NOT A CULTURAL issue, this is one inconsiderate family who could be from ANY COUNTRY!
When you have the word ahorita meaning any length of time between 5mn to 8 hours, you know there is a part of culture in it.
Load More Replies...This reminds me of 'island time' that the Cook Island parts of my old church runs on! (They are the one who call it that)
Venerate the monarchy, despite being fiercly proud of our percieved egalitarian and democratic society (Denmark)
This has nothing to do with democracy, it’s a matter of equal rights. Giving someone special status, titles, exclusive rights, just because they were born from a caste is completely outdated and ridiculous. You need a high level of submission to accept that, even if they don’t have any actual political power.
I'm pro democracy but I do love our Royal Family. Filip and Mathilde are a cute couple and king Filip is a kind man if a bit clumsy, which is quite endearing. He looked great with his beard.
The two things aren't mutually exclusive. A constitutional monarchy can be just as democratic or even more so than a republic. Neither of them are technically full democracies. And not even a full democracy, with the citizens gathering on a hill every time to make decisions, is necessarily egalitarian. These are related concepts but are not exactly a dichotomy of "free, democratic, egalitarian, good / oppressed, autoritarian, monarchic, bad"
Some of the most democratic countries in Europe are monarchies. +1 @Szznoe
Load More Replies...As far as monarchies go, it's not bad (saying this as a Brit). Your coronation was so much better than ours - out on the balcony, a wave, a smile, hello, new king people. Not one that cost the taxpayer around GBP 100 million, all to be repeated in the next 10-15 years.
You can't complain. At least your previous monarch didn't "move" out of the country to live in a theocratic dictatorship where women are worth less than cockroaches, just to avoid explaining why he was "saving" so much money in tax heavens. Neither does his spouse absolutely hate and despise her "subjects". Even so, there are hundreds of idiots that go to worship him every time he "visits" the country.
Load More Replies...Oh yes. New Zealand likes to pretend to be egalitarian, and I’ve heard that Northern European countries do it even more.
Load More Replies...Failing to recognize the importance and commercial benefits of having a royal family, and looking up to republics like USA, that clearly doesn't work. (Denmark)
USA got 99problems but not having royals ain't one. Europe is full of countries doing well without royals... To me it sucks that even where there are not royals like here in Germany "noble" people get away with deeming themselves superior and are often treated as such...
Load More Replies...Blue blood lives DON'T matter. If "King Ralph" happened for real, countries with "royals" would be better off. All of them have blood on their hands from genocide and wars.
You also can’t underestimate the power of language. If you know even a handful of common phrases, you’ll be able to connect with the locals on a whole other level. The more effort you put in, the deeper your travel experience is likely to be.
What are the biggest upsides and downsides that you’ve noticed about your own cultures, dear Pandas? What would you change if you could? What cultural quirks have you noticed the most during your travels?
Tell us all about your experiences and share your opinions in the comment section, at the very bottom of this post. We can’t wait to hear from you!
While my parents don't do this as we don't live nor were we born and raised in the country, children are raised as investment policies and once you get them through school, parents would quit their jobs and expect that all their financial needs will be covered by the eldest who graduated...so, paying parents rent, school expenses of siblings etc. The worst part is that they would guilt you if you don't give in to their demands...."I gave up everything for you....don't you know what I needed to do to get you through school?!" *puke*
It would be great if many of these posts actually named the country they're talking about. 🙄
Brazil. Fight each other for politicians that are clearly stealing from them.
This feels like a universal thing. Some are just better liars and thieves.
The Philippines. I wouldn't call it dumb per se, but definitely unecessary torture. A mountain tribe in my country serves a chicken stew meal. Prior to cooking, the live chicken is hung by its feet, it is then beaten with a small stick throughout the whole body without breaking the skin or bones. This process bruises the chicken giving the skin a different texture and flavour. That's what I find to be unecessary, since it just causes the chicken unneeded pain.
It's a good thing that you don't know how fugu is prepared for eating. The unnecessary torture of that fish in the kitchen still gives me nightmares.
It's ok to eat fish because they don't have any feelings (I don't believe this but it is a common myth)
Load More Replies...Oh HELLS NO! I would have a piñata party of my own. Karma is a wicked pisser!!!
We Filipinos have this thing called "utang na loob" or loosely translated to "debt of gratitude." This is where enormous guilt is forced upon someone if they do not respond as expected to someone's request, be it unreasonable, because "remember that time I lent my car to you? Now lend me $20k."
My husband's originally from the Philippines and he says the country is run on guilt. Not surprising for a predominantly Catholic nation.
And s**t talking. lmao I grew up with Filipinos and all my best friends were pinoy. It wasn't them but the amount of s**t the aunties and uncles all talk about each other behind each others' backs is crazy. lol
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Malta. We have show kitchens (marble benches, the best appliances money can buy, hardwood cabinets etc) - but actually cook in the little butlers pantry that is off the main kitchen.
I don't know about "show kitchens" but my "culture" certainly had "show living rooms" when I was growing up. The living room was a mysterious, forbidden territory to everyone except when there were guests.
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German here:
I'm stuck between "giving bombastic side eye if you just mention not having beer in your house because you dislike it overall" and "Screeching like a banshee whenever car drivers are faced with a minimum of discomfort"
German here - agreeing to the no beer side eye. And about the car rage... I have a rubber chicken lying on my dashboard just for those moments XD shaking it at people helps
fellow german here. i do not drink beer regularly and so i don't have beer in the house. never have i gotten negative comments on not stacking my fridge with beers when people are over for a hangout.
Load More Replies...I'm British German and we don't have a car. People think that's our adorable British eccentricity coming out, but actually we just want to do our bit for the environment and we see how irate drivers get and thought we'd save ourselves the hassle!
*scowls in non car user in country where entire regions have no buses or trains*
German here: disagree with the beer side eye. Me (gen y) and most of my friends don't drink alcohol at all. It's mainly the boomers who can't live without alcohol for one single day
Hopefully the world is changing in this way. Alcohol is a very destructive drug.
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In my country, theres a group of native people where women gain ranks in the comunity based on how many children they bring to the world, so they live in poverty but have like 7 or 8 babies, then they try to sell the kids because their land is also very close to another country border. They also tend to be heavy drinkers, is a s**t show tbh.
I wont say which specific native group is as I dont want to talk bad about them in that way.
But yes it is Panama.
@ Makabert Abylons, you do realize there is a whole wide world outside the USA, don't you?
Native Panamanians ARE Native Americans. Panama is in South AMERICA.
Load More Replies...Again, why just say "my country"? This is useless unless we know which country.
i don't know if it was edited, but it clearly shows panama at the end.
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India : Dowry. The effing dowry and expensive wedding.
I know one suku (ethnic grup) in Indonesia who always make dowry of their daughter so high/expensive ..... At first they do that so their daughters can be respect and to protect them ...buat now sadly just to Gate keeping their daughters to not marry someone they dislike ...I'm indonesian
As a semi slav I can tell you that Slavic superstitions are the strangest.
Here are a few examples:
Don't whistle in the house because the money will disappear.
Don't shake hands at the entrance to somewhere because there are corpses underneath.
If you need to look for something turn a glass upside down.
If you are about to leave your house for a couple of days, before leaving make sure to sit down in silence for a minute or so so that the spirit that lives in the house would think you are not leaving and will not mess up the house.
Well, #3 is funny, and #4 would be useful for me to mentally revise I'm not leaving something important at home.
The Glass thing is actually a variation of the 'reset method'. When trying to remember where something is, distracting your brain by seeking another item that you know where it is (in this case a glass), can often help you remember where the item you were originally looking for is.
I was sweeping up at a restaurant and a little old lady asked me, "Sweep under my feet so I don't get married again?"
Most of the time when we leave the house we let our house ghosts know we're leaving and ask them not to burn the place down. It started as a joke and now it's just something we do. I also tell my kids "try not to murder anyone out there, and don't get arrested because I don't have bail money" when they leave the house. It's our version of "love you, be back soon", in both cases, lol.
How about don't sit at the corner of a table because you'll never get married? Or don't put your purse on the ground or you'll never have any money? Or don't put the bread upside down because ( can't remember this one...)? Or.. yeah, the Balkans are full of these...
In my country....don't sit at the entrance of the door or you will difficult to find partner/love of your life
#3 actually works. I've used it a few times. Didn't know it was a slav tradition
I find what I'm looking for by thinking instead of looking. Memory of where I was and what I did works to find it. If not, the dog ate it.
Work yourself to death. If you don't, you're lazy. Sometimes I can't believe how crazy work culture gets in Germany. Bragging about going to work no matter how sick you are, infecting coworkers. You get called lazy for working less than a 40 hour week.
I tend to disagree here. While there is some pressure regarding "presentism", we -do- have paid sick leave,in Germany which is mandated by law. And a (more or less) functioning health system, too. So those few people who really go to work sick are more sick than they admit: They are insane, too. I would rather point to the US, where this phenomenom is a lot more common - for fnancial reasons.
This one surprises me. I didn't think it was like this in Germany. Any German pandas here to confirm or deny?
Jain......I think 40h/week, 5days work and 2 days weekend is ok. Yes it can be better, but i can make months end, and have some money to spend and savings. Other countrys are more worse than germany, like japan, where peeps literally worked themselves to death. Or in america, peeps have to work more then one job to pay their bills. Edit: Well yes some germans come to work when they are sick as hell. They dont want to be called weak, cause of a little coughing.
Load More Replies...This one really surprises me as Germany gets a considerable amount of vacations and there is time off for new mothers. Does OP work for an foreign Asian company by chance?
I moved for work from Germany to the Netherlands. Whereas bot health systems are more or less working the same (however, no private insurance, everybody has the same basic one and can add extra modules), so paid sick leave for weeks etc, there is one major difference: You as sick person have to decide yourself a) whether you are too sick to work and b) when you are fit enough to return to work. No certificate from the doctor, an independent party, to let your employer know when you might be ecpected at work and left in peace till then. In the Netherlands you get a daily call from the "Arbodienst" (Health Check for employees), enquiering about when you will return. In NL people avoid sick leave if ever possible, because of their mentality and because this pressure.
Something I am interested in, if there are any German pandas who can elaborate, is German Healthcare? It seems here (NZ, small and isolated) a lot of people with specialised/rare disease struggle for diagnosis, and inevitably fly to Germany for diagnosis and treatment. I am in that category and am beginning to consider it, as i have a multiple rare unconnected conditions making it impossible to get effective help. So what is it about Germany that makes it so appealing medically? I say this gecause I know there are closer places people could go for special healthcare
Well, I am not completely sure since I’m no expert but I guess there might be several parts to the answer: a) a comparably good university education in the medical field without tuition fees and therefore basically free to anyone with the corresponding skill set and spirit. b)a lot of teaching/university hospitals with publicly funded medical research at the forefront of science.That might be the reason why people with rare conditions like to come here. c) we have very strict regulations for things like hygiene, medication, medical equipment etc. d) we have public insurance for everyone and private insurance for those who have enough money and want to pay for amenities. There are some stupid regulations regarding how much doctors can earn by treating people with public insurance but none as to how much they can earn with privately insured people or people who pay for themselves. So of course, paying customers from other countries might get the extra special vip treatment.
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“I haven’t taken a vacation in 3 years!” - US
Why are you downvoting Ray? They might not have been to go on holiday financially. Not cool
Load More Replies...My friend from New Orleans when he first moved to England, 'What the heck am I meant to do with 5 weeks holiday?'. Enjoy it my friend, just enjoy it.
I haven’t taken a vacation in 5 years but that’s because I don’t have any money
I hear this a lot in the U.S. It has almost become like a bragging right to constantly one up somebody by the number of hours you work. Not taking a break is extremely harmful to mental and physical health. You are not performing at your best when you are constantly working and don't take breaks.
Unlimited vacation: take as much as you want except we have no reason to let you take any because we didn't put money aside for it and didn't budget any this year.
I don't take vacays....not because I'm a "good little worker", but because planning and going somewhere is a stress all on its own. If I want to relax, staying at home and chilling with the cats works just fine.
Taking photos of the deceased at funerals, including posing with them
Edit: some people even decide social media is a good place for these photos. So weird.
Edit#2: It's one thing to take photos and keep private for memories - which is still weird to me - I prefer to remember what they looked like while living - not in their casket, blood drawn out, discoloured, barely looking like themselves - but each to their own. And then another thing to post to social media.. gives me heebie jeebies when my family does this. I will not allow this when my parents pass away (in fact makes me angry thinking of someone putting a pic of my dead dad on social media - just NO!)
My husbands culture does this. I remember when we were dating, I was having a look through family photo album (looking at his cute baby photos) then…Agghh!!! Dead body in an open coffin. Haven’t touched those photo albums again in 23 years. (Btw, I do understand the importance of the photos to the bereft family…but it was a foreign and shocking concept for me)
Neither children nor dead loved ones should be posted on anyone's social media. Neither one has the ability to enforce their right to say NO!
I always want to remember a deceased person for what they were/looked while living so I make it a point to avoid seeing the deceased at funerals!!!
I agree it to be weird/questionable as a social standard. Under certain conditions, having a picture of the deceased could help mourning. At least for me. I wish the undertaker had taken a picture of my dead mother before putting her into that "beware contagious Covid bag" that was illegal to be opened again. Just to see her one last time after not being allowed to visit (end of 2020).
So sorry for your loss Rachel, and the only photo you have is the one in your mind from the last time you saw her. Hugs.
Load More Replies...People have begun to do this in Denmark. Both pictures of newly deceased (and posting on social media) but also taking pictures of yourself while laying roses on the casket. Just stop it!
Coffin flexing lessgoo, let's see who's got the most luxurious coffin, it's a race!! Lol why not just keep it simple and post one of your favorite photos of that person and remind everyone how much you loved them? If you don't have any photo with them then you clearly don't deserve that coffin photo just gtfo
Load More Replies...They do this in the Southern USA in the small mountain towns especially. I moved to NE Alabama from California at 38 to be with my now deceased husband. Shortly after moving there his mother passed away and I was asked to snap photos of her in her casket (I am an amateur photographer) for the family. I found it creepy and dusturbing but obliged because it was important to him and his family. Editing the photos was no walk in the park either. When he passed, I'm sorry but he was cremated (his request) and no post mortem photos were taken!!!
I agree with this! I recently was a witness to this type of mourning. I don't understand the open casket and having a viewing etc. I was amazed at how many people came to "see" her. No thank you. I prefer to remember her in the happiness and loving moments that were shared.
There is this thing in Iranian culture which is called Tarof. The definition goes something like this: Tarof is the act of offering something in a manner sufficient to demonstrate sincerity, but is simply a facade to appear more genuine than one actually is. It can be shown by conduct, an offer, or by any means in which there appears to be an intent to tender to another.
You see it pretty much everywhere and it’s just annoying to deal with.
For instance a taxi driver may offer a free taxi ride which the passenger must refuse and insist on paying. A guest at dinner must (falsely) state that they are full and couldn't eat another thing and the host will then insist that they eat another course. It also applies in salary negotiations. Exaggerated offers made for the sake of politeness that are meant to be refused. Can involve serious money.
Load More Replies...Wow I actually knew this one! Yay! Except I didn't know it was called Tarof. I knew that it is a dance of politeness, and not overly dissimilar (just stronger) than the politeness dance in my country (generally you should refuse something you genuinely want at least three times before accepting, lest you seem greedy. This leads to misunderstandings)
We have factions in my own culture (US,) that still haven't figured this out. I was raised in an environment (mostly North,) where it was considered polite to decline anything offered because it was probably like "tarof" and you want to be a good guest and not an imposition. Then I started interacting with other families (mostly South,) where the polite thing to do is to accept anything you're offered, even if you don't want it.
Anything and everything that proves that you are, "dominant", including but not limited to; breaking laws, disrespecting others, taking advantage of others, being disagreeable in general, violating others rights but demanding yours are respected, and trying to make people feel useless because they don't care about or value your ideas of work and/or productivity. - Southern US
I live in the southern US and have never seen this
Load More Replies...From the south and it’s true. Funny thing is I’m in a very multicultural city and most cultures seem to do this. Maybe the heat makes people crazy???
In the orthodox community, men and women are made to sit apart. Fyi; I’m not orthodox , but I am Jewish
Additional information: "are made to sit apart" in churches! Men usually sit on the right side and women on the left side! OP's original comment makes it seem like they get married and never sit together or touch each other for the rest of their lives! Never the less, an useless rule!
In churches, well, I think it's more of a thing in synagogues.
Load More Replies...Frankly I'd worry more about the prohibition against bacon cheeseburgers.
If you want to know more about orthodox Jews, read "Unorthodox" by Deborah Feldman. It's so oppressive and frightening. It's incredible groups like this still exist in civilised countries in the 21st. century.
They also have to sleep separately when the woman is menstruating. I watched a tv series called 'Unchained' (about a rabbi trying to help women gain divorce, which is difficult in Orthodox Judaism) and the main couple had twin beds that were pushed together for most of the month, then separated during that time.
Some protestant churches do that as well. I've been told that older churches with seperate front doors on the left and right were for men and women to enter seperately. Thus was still happening in the 80s.
If you're dumb enough to believe in gods you may as well accept all the dumb protocols that come with it.
Any kind of religion or superstition. Come on, it's 2024. Do we really still believe in the magic man/woman/whatever in the sky?
Argue over the origin of Pavlova. Australia
And every New Zealander you hear say otherwise is lying!
Load More Replies...Well... The name is from New Zealand, but the dish first named 'Pavlova' was not what we know it as today. The dish's origins started in Australia, but it was not called 'Pavlova'. The first combination of dish and name matching what we know it as today, was in New Zealand.
That has to be meringue. I can't accept a sponge being so dry that it cracks.
Load More Replies...As someone from that part of the world, I feel like the only reason OP went with that is because all our really horrible stuff is the same as North America. New Zealand is apparently extra prolific at incarcerating indigenous people, though.
I don’t know, I think we’re pretty prolific here in Australia for incarcerating our indigenous peoples
Load More Replies...As an Aussie I DNGAF if pavlovas or lammos or whatever delicious thing was invented in NZ or AU - deliciousness needs no passport or visa!!
Canada - cheat in relationships and brag about it, especially the whole 'side piece' bs - meaning any gender here.
cheating-culture? A culture doesn't have to be based on country, it coult be work culture, sports-team-culture, or here persons-who-does-[thing]-culture?
Load More Replies...Treating the number 4 with extreme superstition like it's a plague/curse and replace it with 3A. IT'S JUST A BLOODY NUMBER, MOVE THE F ON ALREADY.
This must be the Chinese lol. I work in a small chinese construction firm with 5 employees. Employee 1, employee 2, employee 3 and employee 5
Also Japanese. The word for four sounds the same as death, even though they have different kanji. So there's never a fourth floor on the hospital, for instance.
Load More Replies...While not even remotely Chinese, I even avoid gas pumps or cash registers associated with the number 4. Matter of fact I dislike even numbers. So I'm ok with 13...
Chinese, the number 4 and the word death sound similar, so 4 is unlucky (simplified explanation)
United skips 13, but American, Delta, and Southwest have a 13. I did not double check every seatmap.
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The Philippines: Obsess over any western celebrity with even a h i n t of local blood. Also obsess over and worship (usually white or east asian) foreigners who are barely or semi-fluent in our language.
Has been said before, but still name of the country/culture would be nice :)
"If you are not obey your parents, you are ungrateful bastard"
Scotty, give the poster a break. English is a [female dog] to learn if your native tongue is something else. Besides, English speakers botch other languages!
Not a native speaker. English is hard, especially the grammar.
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Drinks alcohol at every opportunity.
That's so stupid that now I need a glass of wine just to think about something else.
This bugs me too. US can't seem to have any function or business without needing alcohol. Art museum added a beer garden, fundraiser for non-profit has to have alcohol, can't open that store or restaurant until they get their liquor license. I don't care that people drink but can you also ever not drink?
Alcohol is served at charity events because people who've had a few drinks will often donate more than they would otherwise.
Load More Replies...going to work sick, despite there being basically infinite paid sick days off with very strong worker’s rights protections in place and also basically ignoring all sports except men's football ( the soccer kind) when it comes to the broad public. maybe except tennis when there’s a great german player or F1 when someone like schumacher or vettel is around… bit apart from that…
Talk excessively loud all the time.
Dismiss and avoid people with mental health issues, even if they're close family and friends.
"Cancel Culture", most prevalent in the USA. It seems too hard to work on finding win-win strategies.
Rub a chicken egg on people to "cure" them.
Hahahaha i know this one, the egg than crack open in the bowl in front of everyone to show that the egg has gotten black ....that is sign the sickness or voodoo that someone send
Leaving the last of every bit of food at a party/work gathering/event. Someone has got to eat that!
German woman told about being a host: "if everything was eaten, the amount of food was not sufficient. Because maybe someone still wanted some but there wasn't any left" Sounds related to me...give the poor host a break and not have her feel bad about not offering enough food.
Czech person here. I hate how proud our nation is of drinking the most beer per capita in the world. So much so that whenever new data comes that doesn't put us first, it's seen as a failure. Alcohol consumption in general is way too normalized and accepted. There are basically no restrictions on selling it (apart from age); you can literally buy alcohol at any gas station and at any hour, basically anywhere.
Thanks, I was just about to write that. I will add that people are offended when I say I don't like beer and don't drink hard liquor at all. When you refuse alcohol at a party etc, company convinces you to "at least have a drink" and "not spoil the fun", or you are mockingly asked if "you're an alcoholic in rehab, hahaha". At Christmas I witnessed a 12 year old girl being persuaded by her mother and grandparents (my cousin and aunt and uncle) to have "at least an eggnog" (she resisted, she just had juice). The situation is a bit better for the younger generation, but even so, our culture is very accepting of drinking alcohol.
Load More Replies...Right! We don't have six sense or the ability to know all culture in all countries
Load More Replies...Anti- Left Handed byllshot. It's not "culture", it's ignorance and child abuse. In most parts of the world (Asia, Eastern Europe, South America, Africa), they STILL beat and abuse left handed children, falsely labelling it "correction". There are many countries where if you give something with the left hand, they'll refuse to take it, and refuse to give anything to the left hand, instead drop it on the counter rudely. And the idiotic notion that the left hand is "dirty", that "you have to eat with the right hand!" When I meet clowns like that, I hand them food with the right and then tell them as they eat, "my right hand ~~~IS~~~ my toilet hand, my left hand is the clean one".
In america basically the only reason left handed people are accepted is because people realized they can sell stuff to them
Load More Replies...Australian culture: Always adopting the worst things to come out of the US/UK. Anti-vaxx conspiracies, qanon, maga, sovereign citizens, culture wars, the Proud Boys, neonazism, book bannings, transphobia masquerading as "parental rights" or "women's rights".. it goes on and on. Some of our conservative politicians want to abolish our universal healthcare and replace it with the american version. Other conservative politicians want to eliminate our job awards (regulations that set wages, breaks, leave etc) and replace it.. you guessed it.. the american at-will style with no set minimum wages, protections or anything else that union members fought (and died) for. If the USA or the UK do something that is utterly inhumane, conservatives and centrists (the voter base, not just the politicians) here will adopt it.
Mexico- How religion (Catholicism) is ingrained in almost every single part of the culture. Although in bigger cities, women and the LGBTQ community have more rights, in smaller rural areas they do not. My parents have always been a lot more open minded, but I still remember my grandmother lecturing my mother for not forcing myself and my siblings to go to church and for me living in sin with my then boyfriend, now husband, before marriage. And on the opposite side how narco culture has also been ingrained into the culture and normalized with narco corridos. In rural areas cousins are encouraged to marry cousins and genetic abnormalities as seen as God's will, because they don't believe in science. Lastly, just skepticism in western medicine, which I understand some, but it's hard explaining to the older generation that I did not get my autoimmune diseases from a scare.
Seems the worst cultural part of USA is gender parties, weddings, fancy kitchens and no vacations.
Reading this post just confirmed to me that people are pretty much the same no matter where they come from.
Spain: corruption and lack of consideration of other people's time and space (lateness and getting too close to you in a queue). There are many positives, but today is not the day for that.
I'd like to add to this list: America, The system of measurement and the ridiculous amount of money spent on education
Czech person here. I hate how proud our nation is of drinking the most beer per capita in the world. So much so that whenever new data comes that doesn't put us first, it's seen as a failure. Alcohol consumption in general is way too normalized and accepted. There are basically no restrictions on selling it (apart from age); you can literally buy alcohol at any gas station and at any hour, basically anywhere.
Thanks, I was just about to write that. I will add that people are offended when I say I don't like beer and don't drink hard liquor at all. When you refuse alcohol at a party etc, company convinces you to "at least have a drink" and "not spoil the fun", or you are mockingly asked if "you're an alcoholic in rehab, hahaha". At Christmas I witnessed a 12 year old girl being persuaded by her mother and grandparents (my cousin and aunt and uncle) to have "at least an eggnog" (she resisted, she just had juice). The situation is a bit better for the younger generation, but even so, our culture is very accepting of drinking alcohol.
Load More Replies...Right! We don't have six sense or the ability to know all culture in all countries
Load More Replies...Anti- Left Handed byllshot. It's not "culture", it's ignorance and child abuse. In most parts of the world (Asia, Eastern Europe, South America, Africa), they STILL beat and abuse left handed children, falsely labelling it "correction". There are many countries where if you give something with the left hand, they'll refuse to take it, and refuse to give anything to the left hand, instead drop it on the counter rudely. And the idiotic notion that the left hand is "dirty", that "you have to eat with the right hand!" When I meet clowns like that, I hand them food with the right and then tell them as they eat, "my right hand ~~~IS~~~ my toilet hand, my left hand is the clean one".
In america basically the only reason left handed people are accepted is because people realized they can sell stuff to them
Load More Replies...Australian culture: Always adopting the worst things to come out of the US/UK. Anti-vaxx conspiracies, qanon, maga, sovereign citizens, culture wars, the Proud Boys, neonazism, book bannings, transphobia masquerading as "parental rights" or "women's rights".. it goes on and on. Some of our conservative politicians want to abolish our universal healthcare and replace it with the american version. Other conservative politicians want to eliminate our job awards (regulations that set wages, breaks, leave etc) and replace it.. you guessed it.. the american at-will style with no set minimum wages, protections or anything else that union members fought (and died) for. If the USA or the UK do something that is utterly inhumane, conservatives and centrists (the voter base, not just the politicians) here will adopt it.
Mexico- How religion (Catholicism) is ingrained in almost every single part of the culture. Although in bigger cities, women and the LGBTQ community have more rights, in smaller rural areas they do not. My parents have always been a lot more open minded, but I still remember my grandmother lecturing my mother for not forcing myself and my siblings to go to church and for me living in sin with my then boyfriend, now husband, before marriage. And on the opposite side how narco culture has also been ingrained into the culture and normalized with narco corridos. In rural areas cousins are encouraged to marry cousins and genetic abnormalities as seen as God's will, because they don't believe in science. Lastly, just skepticism in western medicine, which I understand some, but it's hard explaining to the older generation that I did not get my autoimmune diseases from a scare.
Seems the worst cultural part of USA is gender parties, weddings, fancy kitchens and no vacations.
Reading this post just confirmed to me that people are pretty much the same no matter where they come from.
Spain: corruption and lack of consideration of other people's time and space (lateness and getting too close to you in a queue). There are many positives, but today is not the day for that.
I'd like to add to this list: America, The system of measurement and the ridiculous amount of money spent on education
