15YO Ruins Dress By Making It Emo Despite It Being Bought For Her Sister’s Wedding, Gets Uninvited
Ah, weddings… those magical days where love is in the air, families come together, and drama shows up like a soap opera on steroids. This episode’s cast members are Ashley, the 26-year-old bride, Alex, the rebellious 15-year-old sister with a love for the emo style, and their mom, the unsuspecting wedding planner turned referee.
This is the story of how one sister’s wedding turned into a fashion showdown worthy of the catwalk… or maybe a reality TV show with a punk rock twist.
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Teen wants to wear a dress showing her underwear and goth jewelry and makeup to sister’s wedding, mom tells her to stay home if she plans on dressing like that
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The 15-year-old emo teen and her mom pick out an elegant dress for her, but she destroys it and wants to wear it to the wedding
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Mom allows her emo daughter to express herself through her style, but she says her sister’s wedding is not the place to wear an inappropriate outfit
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Mom refuses to allow her teen daughter to attend her older sister’s wedding after she destroys her dress and plans on wearing goth accessories to the event
Ashley and Alex never really got along growing up, probably due to their age difference, as mom suspected. However, with her wedding coming up, Ashley decided to extend an olive branch to her younger sis by asking her to help out with the wedding planning. Sweet, right? Well, it was, until the wedding day arrived, and all fashion hell broke loose.
The dress code was formal, so Alex had a floor-length sage green dress she picked out with her mom. Simple, elegant, and totally appropriate. But Alex, as a rebel teen, had other plans and decided that classic and formal was not really her cup of tea. So, she decided to make some “improvements” to her outfit.
Her elegant dress now came with a slit so high it showed off her undies. That’s a no-go zone at any wedding, let alone your sister’s. Add to that some huge skull jewelry, punk rock boots, and super-dark eye makeup and you’ve got yourself a pretty inappropriate wedding look.
When mom saw her daughter’s outfit, she had to pick her jaw from the floor. She quickly told Alex to ditch the jewelry and allow her to fix the dress, or she wouldn’t go anywhere. But, as a rebellious 15-year-old, she refused to change and ended up missing the wedding, as mom didn’t allow her to attend the event dressed that way.
Mom got an earful from her furious husband, and Alex gave her the silent treatment, while Ashley, the bride, was cool with her sister’s absence. She didn’t want her big day overshadowed by a fashion fiasco and we can’t blame her.
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While mom had no issue with her daughter’s love for the emo style, there’s a big difference between self-expression and causing a scene. Alex could have toned down her goth look a notch and attended her sister’s wedding, instead of throwing a fit and missing the event. Whatever her reasons were, one thing’s for sure: this wedding will be remembered for more than just the vows.
According to experts, self-expression is very important, especially during teenage years, as it allows teens to explore their identities, develop confidence, and figure out who they are and where they fit in the world. Parents who encourage self-expression in their teenagers help them communicate their emotions, values, and beliefs.
There are plenty of ways teens today can express themselves – whether it’s through fashion and style, artistic and creative outlets or via social media. “Self-expression is intimately linked to identity formation. As teenagers experiment with different modes of expression, they begin to define and refine their sense of self. This process is not just about standing out but also about belonging – finding one’s tribe and connecting with others on similar paths,” experts explain.
While our mom was fully on board with Alex’s style preference, there is always a time and place for everything, and her sister’s wedding was definitely not the place for an emo fashion show. In the end, Alex was excluded from her sister’s wedding as a result of her rebellion, and not her personal style.
According to experts, teenage rebellion is very common in adolescents, and it’s one of the main reasons parents and their teenagers fight. “Teenagers want to have a considerable say in their lives and take authority over their actions. When parents force decisions, teenagers tend to lash out and defy their parents,” experts explain.
Teens are also very easily influenced by their friends or other kids their age, and they may try to imitate their lifestyles, as a way of fitting in. This desire to align with their peer group can lead to rebellion, as teens may stop listening to their parents.
So, do you think mom was a jerk for not allowing her teenage daughter to attend her sister’s wedding because of her look? Share your thoughts and worst fashion mishaps in the comment section.
Netizens side with the mom saying she’s not the jerk for telling her teen daughter to skip her sister’s wedding because she refused to change her outfit
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Even a 15 year old emo teenager can understand proper wedding attire. She tried to steal the show and or express herself, Mom said no and offered a fix, child refused. Definition of F'd around and found out.
I mean, I’ve always had a far out sense of fashion, but I’ve also always known when the time is right to be disrespectful and when it’s not. Someone else’s wedding requires adherence to their wishes, I knew that at 15.
Load More Replies...When my mother remarried I sure as hell made an effort to dress properly, even though I usually dress in mostly black. As much as I disliked it I wore an ivory floral blouse and burgundy skirt borrowed from a neighbour, but I was allowed to wear my lace up black boots under the skirt because my mum knows I hate floral. Mum was happy, I was happy and never a word was said. That child wanted to grab as much attention as she could and should know better at that age.
I’m having sympathy pains for you. I, too (former punk then goth) gag at florals but even at weddings where I was obligated to go it didn’t really know/care abut the people involved, I STILL knew not to wear my usual leather/studs and to instead wear dainty flower prints 🤮. The kid in this post seems awfully self-centered and really needy. I’d have thought she gets special attention (she was likely a surprise, given the age gap) and so doesn’t NEED to be this way but then again, we’re ALL pretty stupid until around 25. You’d think she’s figured out that the world doesn’t revolve around her! Oh, and 👊🏻, Bunni! ☺️ (Huh; shoulda known there’s an emoji for that!)
Load More Replies...Ah welcome to the little hills that come with being an emo. Choose which one to die on carefully. AH move refusing to dress for the wedding for just a few hours - and remember the past can come back to bite at any time....
Sounds like the kid is being a normal kid and the consequences are natural ones. It is very easy to dress well for a wedding if you step more on the side of Romantic Goth which is easy from emo. This wasn't about her not being able to express her style. It's her thinking she's doing something rebellious by dressing the way she does. She's 15, that's fine. There are consequences for it, that's also fine. I'm sure she'll enjoy the drama of being 'oppressed' by her parents for awhile in proper teen fashion and all will move on
I’m fairly sure the 15 year old was delighted by this whole event - real life oppression! Yey! Also wedding are usually not the absolutely funnest thing for 15 year olds to attend, so that may have been an added bonus.
Load More Replies...Weddings and funerals are the events that you should always dress appropriately.
As my late, great aunt (died December) said about funerals - "what TF they care, they're not there". That has stuck with me. Sadly I couldn't attend her funeral but watched it livestreamed. Then a friend died earlier this year and the dress code was orange or Arsenal. It was a riot of colour and there was no tradition, just readings from his favourite authors and music form his favourite artists. The wake music was comprised of a spotify list we had put together of "our" songs. BEST.FUNERAL.EVER.
Load More Replies...The thing is, if she had talked to her older sister about it ahead of time, sister might have let her do some emo-ish things with her outfit. But going over-the-top RIGHT before the wedding without permission was ridiculous.
Plus, she ruined a dress which presumably her mother paid for.
Load More Replies...I was a goth as a teenager. I had to go to a funeral and I wore one of my black velvet dresses with doc Martin boots and minimal makeup. Had I chosen one of my more outlandish outfits, for example the dress with the see through top, the chains and the slit skirt, there's no way my mum would have allowed me to go.
She wasn't being asked to take out a fresh piercing or redye her hair a "natural color" or wear an uncomfortable wig. She intentionally misled and tried to do something extreme last minute. The alt style thing is kinda irrelevant. If it was a sparkly ball dress with a tiara and large diamond necklace she would've been left behind, too.
Ehh i dunno about this. We are only getting the mom's version. it could be they are super prude? i dunno maybe the teen was being a brat i dunno. I need more info.
Unless she was lying about the slit in the dress being high enough to expose the 15-year old's underwear, why do we need another version to know it wasn't appropriate?
Load More Replies...Even a 15 year old emo teenager can understand proper wedding attire. She tried to steal the show and or express herself, Mom said no and offered a fix, child refused. Definition of F'd around and found out.
I mean, I’ve always had a far out sense of fashion, but I’ve also always known when the time is right to be disrespectful and when it’s not. Someone else’s wedding requires adherence to their wishes, I knew that at 15.
Load More Replies...When my mother remarried I sure as hell made an effort to dress properly, even though I usually dress in mostly black. As much as I disliked it I wore an ivory floral blouse and burgundy skirt borrowed from a neighbour, but I was allowed to wear my lace up black boots under the skirt because my mum knows I hate floral. Mum was happy, I was happy and never a word was said. That child wanted to grab as much attention as she could and should know better at that age.
I’m having sympathy pains for you. I, too (former punk then goth) gag at florals but even at weddings where I was obligated to go it didn’t really know/care abut the people involved, I STILL knew not to wear my usual leather/studs and to instead wear dainty flower prints 🤮. The kid in this post seems awfully self-centered and really needy. I’d have thought she gets special attention (she was likely a surprise, given the age gap) and so doesn’t NEED to be this way but then again, we’re ALL pretty stupid until around 25. You’d think she’s figured out that the world doesn’t revolve around her! Oh, and 👊🏻, Bunni! ☺️ (Huh; shoulda known there’s an emoji for that!)
Load More Replies...Ah welcome to the little hills that come with being an emo. Choose which one to die on carefully. AH move refusing to dress for the wedding for just a few hours - and remember the past can come back to bite at any time....
Sounds like the kid is being a normal kid and the consequences are natural ones. It is very easy to dress well for a wedding if you step more on the side of Romantic Goth which is easy from emo. This wasn't about her not being able to express her style. It's her thinking she's doing something rebellious by dressing the way she does. She's 15, that's fine. There are consequences for it, that's also fine. I'm sure she'll enjoy the drama of being 'oppressed' by her parents for awhile in proper teen fashion and all will move on
I’m fairly sure the 15 year old was delighted by this whole event - real life oppression! Yey! Also wedding are usually not the absolutely funnest thing for 15 year olds to attend, so that may have been an added bonus.
Load More Replies...Weddings and funerals are the events that you should always dress appropriately.
As my late, great aunt (died December) said about funerals - "what TF they care, they're not there". That has stuck with me. Sadly I couldn't attend her funeral but watched it livestreamed. Then a friend died earlier this year and the dress code was orange or Arsenal. It was a riot of colour and there was no tradition, just readings from his favourite authors and music form his favourite artists. The wake music was comprised of a spotify list we had put together of "our" songs. BEST.FUNERAL.EVER.
Load More Replies...The thing is, if she had talked to her older sister about it ahead of time, sister might have let her do some emo-ish things with her outfit. But going over-the-top RIGHT before the wedding without permission was ridiculous.
Plus, she ruined a dress which presumably her mother paid for.
Load More Replies...I was a goth as a teenager. I had to go to a funeral and I wore one of my black velvet dresses with doc Martin boots and minimal makeup. Had I chosen one of my more outlandish outfits, for example the dress with the see through top, the chains and the slit skirt, there's no way my mum would have allowed me to go.
She wasn't being asked to take out a fresh piercing or redye her hair a "natural color" or wear an uncomfortable wig. She intentionally misled and tried to do something extreme last minute. The alt style thing is kinda irrelevant. If it was a sparkly ball dress with a tiara and large diamond necklace she would've been left behind, too.
Ehh i dunno about this. We are only getting the mom's version. it could be they are super prude? i dunno maybe the teen was being a brat i dunno. I need more info.
Unless she was lying about the slit in the dress being high enough to expose the 15-year old's underwear, why do we need another version to know it wasn't appropriate?
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