40 Examples Of ‘Nice Girls’, A Female Equivalent Of The Toxic ‘Nice Guys’
InterviewThere is a vast valley with steep slopes and a raging river winding its way through the bottom that separates the people who are genuinely nice and those who only proclaim themselves to be ‘nice.’ Most of us know from experience that guys who are actually nice act very differently than those who are ‘nice guys.’
However, this post isn’t about nice guys. No, this one is about nice girls. Or rather—‘nice girls’ who believe they’re entitled to ‘perfect’ partners while dripping with hatred for the world and showing their true colors when things don’t go their way. In fact, there’s a place where they get called out: the r/Nicegirls subreddit that proves that fake ‘niceness’ knows no gender boundaries. See for your yourselves, dear Pandas. Be sure to read on for Bored Panda's interview with one of the moderators of the subreddit, user CTFOE_is_Free.
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Something That Every Nice Girl Must Hear
I don't think this post belongs under post titled, "You May Have Heard Of ‘Nice Guys’, But There Are Also ‘Nice Girls’ And Here’s 63 Of Their CRINGIEST Posts". I fail to see what is so cringy about this.
it’s addressing the cringe and saying how it’s wrong. The title of the post convoluted this a bit tho, I see where you’re coming from.
Load More Replies...Yes. There are double standards in all directions. The world will be a much better place when we all just accept that we are are just slightly different humans but all humans of worth and due respect and kindness.
My husband is 5'6" and was the first short guy I dated. He is more of a man than most men. He does everything to take care of our family. He's a pilot , and was a flight instructor for the Navy, and then as a reservist. He worked two jobs. Also , he's not short in all areas lol
Is 5 ' 6" considered short for men ? Not trolling. I would say 5' 3" ?
Load More Replies...1, i agree. 2, i cant make fun of a guy if hes under 6ft. im 4'9 no matter their height they could stomp on me
What A Sweetheart
I agree with the reply. She deserves so much worse and he deserves so much better.
Just mentioning "caste" should be enough. Ifyou think money will buy you happiness, good luck shopping!
Load More Replies...What is is with women wanting an expensive ring? My bf could propose to me with a cheeto and I would gladly accept. Someone wants to spend the rest of their life with you and you focus on the price of the ring? That's so shallow
That's a cultural thing. In Europe much much MUCH more simple rings are preferred.... if any. Plus: our weddings are not as big as in the US for example. There are no bridesmaids for instance. Nor groomsmen. Only two witnesses, if even that.
Load More Replies...Do I sense some (a lot of) humble bragging? Anyway, she would make a living hell for him if this is her attitude.
I missed the "humble" bit, just looks like straight forward bragging to me
Load More Replies..."I resent him for not being able to spoil me." Oh God.
I was wondering that as well. I thought perhaps the ending was going to turn into some kind of history lesson.
Load More Replies...omg if she makes aaaaaall that money, she can fu...g spoil herself, and her boyfriend too. But I agree with the reply: he deserves better!
At the words "the right caste" I knew it was time to say, "Call hazmat, we have a toxic waste incident".
We All Have Boyfriends
Ha, ha, ha! That's too funny! Some girls think that the sun rises and sets with them.
Don't they? I really wish he would have answered, " Well since you have a boyfriend, where is he and why is he allowing his girlfriend to walk around broke?" To be a fly on that wall....
Load More Replies...As someone who works in collections I’ve noticed many attractive women have a sense of entitlement even if they’re poor. They talk to customer service reps horribly and treat everyone as if it’s they’re fault they’re broke. Just because someone’s attractive doesn’t mean the world revolves around them. We need to learn to treat everyone the same despite how they look.
good on him, im tired of half of girls and women thinking that every guy they come into contact with is trying to get with them
Selfishness and altruism aren't as black and white as you might think. According to research, human history has shown that some forms of selfishness can be considered to be "healthy" while some altruism can be "pathological." Healthy selfishness led to higher levels of psychological well-being and a "genuine prosocial orientation." Meanwhile, pathological altruism was associated with vulnerable narcissism and selfish motivations for helping others. If that sounds familiar, it's the scientific basis for the difference between nice and 'nice.'
Moderator CTFOE_is_Fee told Bored Panda that the reason why some women are 'nice girls' is a combination of a few factors. "Some of them are too immature to realize what they're doing. Others are that manipulative on purpose. Lastly, some do not even realize what they're doing," they explained.
But Why? Smh Entitled Queens Lol
This kind of messaging is why men think they should try harder, and how you create an unsafe feeling for a lot of woman. Because a man will take away from this that no means yes. And that you have to keep trying, even though the woman made clear that she is not into you. It's a dangerous game to play!
Yeah my advice for guys would be that if she says "no" leave it at that because she's either a) not interested (this is most of the time) or b) playing childish games that no one has time for.
Load More Replies...So men get abused for not taking no for an answer and then there are women who expect men to chase them after being told no. Ridiculous.
he respects himself and knows that no means no.
Load More Replies...And if he had asked a second time, he would have been classed as desperate or harassing her. So, in other words, he was in a lose-lose situation!
actually i think he still got a win out of it by not trying again
Load More Replies...Theres "hard to get" in a flirting situation. And theres hard to get were you blow the guy off and expect him to try again. Different things
Load More Replies...What do women want? I thought No means No. we've been taught that since we were toddlers, but now they want to flip the script
No will always mean no when you are talking to a mature human being. Women like her have the brain power and the maturity of a green pea.
Load More Replies...Half Way
I have to add, this is also true for platonic friendships. Had a "friend" who'd see me only if it's convenient for her, even if I'd go well out of my way for her. It didn't take me long to figure, I'm too old for this.
I hate when people do that. I have been living in this country four years and I am still waiting for most of my friends and family to ever visit. I only got three visits (my parents for three days and my best friend that is awesome). But then they complain if I dont visit or go to their weddings.
Load More Replies...“If a dude doesn’t want to come to me for the first date, he’ll never come for a relationship.” - Jokes on you girl, it’s easy to make a man come. (Ba dum tssss)
Coffee and a walk is the perfect first date. Park somewhere close so if you don't like the date, you are out on the walk and oh what do you know, here's my car. Have a good day! Byeee.
I agree. It's about getting to know a person, not who can impress by spending money or got to a huge amount of effort that probably won't be sustained. Simple things, sharing common interests and humour.
Load More Replies...I really hope we can move away from this dichotomy as the older generations leave us. Old school parents taught their sons to pay and their daughters to demand. This reinforces the idea of women as property, and is really no better than prostitution. If you want to be treated like a human being, ladies, don't act like trophies.
The Cat Isn’t What He Should Be Getting Rid Of
The cat has been there before her and judging by her being jealous of a cat, the cat will be there after she's gone
Seriously. Besides, what kind of person sees a guy who loves animals and thinks "dealbreaker"? A guy who's kind to animals and kids is at the top of the list for me!
Load More Replies...Same thing happened with my (now ex) boyfriend. My cat and I still laugh about it
As a multiple pet owner, I understand the guy's affection and attitude toward his cat. Boyfriends or girlfriends who have problems with their significant other's pets don't last long. Pack your bags, honey. You're not his girl.
One of my nephews worked out a deal with his ex: he gets to drop in to visit the cats.
Load More Replies..."Do you think I could suggest he get rid of it?". Do you think we could suggest he gets rid of you?
When I met the lady who's now my wife, she had a cat that she loved more than anything. When she decided to invite me to her place for the first time, it's because she wanted me to meet him, the glorious Pascha, king of Bengals. The 3 of us lived very happy together for a few years until he very sadly passed away at the too young age of 8 (kidney malfunction).
The cat meeting is a big test! You passed with flying colours and sounds like you fell in love with him too. I'm sorry for both of your loss. :( I hope you now have some more furry friends running around! <3
Load More Replies...We were curious to find out where the line between genuine niceness and fake 'niceness' was for the moderator. Here's what they had to say: "Personally, for me, the line is drawn when you can tell that someone is being passive-aggressive; when you can sense the subdued maliciousness in their words and actions. If your gut is telling you that something is not genuine about the person then they probably are not genuine. I think we've all experienced a few relationships like that in our lives. I do not see there being a large grey area between the two. You know when someone is being kind or not."
According to CTFOE_is_free, one of the things that new members need to keep in mind if they decide to join up is to read and follow the subreddit rules. "We have a strict No doxxing policy, as we work to respect and protect the privacy of the subjects of the content as well as that of the posters."
I Went On One Date With This Girl And She Spent The Whole Time On Her Phone Drinking Coffee I Bought Her
Dude dodged an entire f*****g army worth of bullets/missiles...
Load More Replies...Gross, what an ugly trash bag. I bet she’s super insecure and overcompensating.
Imagine wishing a life changing illness on someone because she can't handle rejection.
hahaha awww because he didn't beg for another date. wow. Some girls are so thirsty I can't even....
Back Off Girl
that's because of the small genetic pool. 50 years is a good result for 3 chromosomes
Load More Replies...Yeah, because apparently only she is allowed to like her boyfriend's pictures
Load More Replies...I had something similar with my cousin's wife, which I did not know at that time. I moved in the same country and town with them, after I haven't seen him for 15 years and his wife did not allow him for more than a month to see me, because I am a woman, the fact I was his cousin didn't matter. We are still not friends and we'll never be. :))
Are you not friends with your cousin or his wife?
Load More Replies...Ugh, don't you hate it when your boyfriends FAMILY likes his photo?
It impresses me how people pay so much attention to a stupid button on the internet.
"He was my cousin long before he was your boyfriend. Checkmate."
A Message To All Nice Girls Who Might Have A Screw Loose
Or maybe... confront him and talk about it ? Then make a decision ? I understand this is meant as a kind of joke with a twist, but it's not good advice, either way.
Sorry, no. It's very good advice. Talking to someone about a significant issue in your relationship with them is far better done when you're calm, and have had a chance to think it over. Losing your s**t and becoming incoherent doesn't help anyone.
Load More Replies...Don't do that. Over boiled water makes terrible tea. Boil it and as soon as its boiling make the tea! Terrible tea will not help.
What’s the source on this? I don’t see how it can taste different. I never boil my tea water all the way because I want to drink tea, not wait 20 minutes for it to cool and then end up drinking cold tea.
Load More Replies...It’s a waste to throw perfectly fine boiled water on a guy..just put venomous snake in his bed.. duuuh
I thought it meant boil it figuratively and then when he is asleep wake him up too talk to him abt it. It’s no cause my mind works that way, it seems like that type of post.
And while you sit and drink your tea you can formulate a plan on how you want to deal with the situation. Therapy? Another chance? Leave him? All viable options
According to the creators of the subreddit, the 'Nice Girls' community is like the ‘Nice Guys’ online group, but different in that they focus on women instead. Bored Panda has even written about them before. You can check out that post right over here once you’re done enjoying this list. Spoiler alert: proclaiming that you’re nice doesn’t make it so. The proof is in how you act, not the mild-mannered facade you show the world.
“For all the self-proclaimed ‘nice girls.’ For the women who complain ‘guys are only interested in [promiscuous women].’ For women who complain that men are shallow for not dating overweight women, while also demanding that their man have washboard abs. For the women who hold others to the highest possible standard, but have no standards for themselves,” the r/Nicegirls creators explain what their group is all about.
A Nicegirl Daydream
The hag who wrote this (@AishiaDeal) is also black and felt comfortable with her dumb stereotypes.
Load More Replies...Now it seems that the "nice girls" believe that they themselves can read minds...
She’s so insecure and wanted him to hit on her as validation. You can tell by how much she photoshops her photos (@Aishadeal on Twitter). She thinks she’s a motivational speaker
I don't think so.. besides the fact that you made that presumption of of only only one paragraph, some said that she (op) was black her self. O don't think she is a nice person though, I agree
Load More Replies...Now That's A Logical Leap
Laughter is not good for my tummy pain right now, but that reply was funny as heck.
People who post stuff like the above are also the same people who whine about no one wanting to date them moments later.
And then post something like "OK finally done with this bs!! All guys are jerks! OVER IT!!!"
Load More Replies...Not all men cheat. Not all cheaters are men. Plenty of us girls cheat and that doesn't make it any better for anyone to.
I Feel Like Me Sleeping Is Causing Riots
Over 5000 messages whilst someone is sleeping. Either the guy slept for weeks or the girl is super needy and excessive.
It's probably 5 or 12 or so, though. And if any contained anything (question, personal statement) just a 'hello' IS weird. Not that this sounds like a blossoming relation.
Load More Replies...Once dated a woman who would text me all day long, then complain when we had nothing to talk about in the evening !
I don't know if I'm more scared by the fact that she sent 5,396 messages, that she counted them all, that she still has cellular data, or the fact that she didn't think of calling or giving it a rest.
One of the main reasons everyone I know, KNOWS I turn my phone off at night. I don't provide bail or a ride home from jail & if you're in an accident? There's not s**t I can do about it at 3:30am.
I can never, ever understand why people don't turn off their cell phones. My sister was pissed because her phone kept "dinging" (a night owl friend of hers, who doesn't work). I said, "turn off your phone". She told me she used it for her alarm. O.K. Why not get an alarm clock? (I did buy her one. She doesn't use it). Not feeling sorry for her anymore.
Load More Replies...The main focus of the subreddit is to shame these ‘nice girls’ in all their glory through images, articles, videos, and everything else. “This sub is not for female incels. This place is not for crazy girls. If you swap the genders and it doesn't belong on r/niceguys, then don't post it,” they explain.
What’s more, the moderators point out that their community is “not a women hating subreddit.” They encourage members to be polite and “refrain from making sexist comments or being a bigot.” They have a zero-tolerance policy regarding things like that, so mind your manners. Yes, there’s a certain unsurprising irony there that a group about shaming people who are supposedly ‘nice’ actually requires folks to be nice.
However, just because r/Nicegirls deems these women worthy of being shamed doesn’t mean that they’re having an all-out war with them. Members of the group can’t post any identifying information about people: this way, they’re protected from internet users who might want to criticize them or insult them. After all, just because someone’s ‘nice’ now doesn’t mean that they’re not learning to be actually, genuinely nice. I’m a big believer that people can change if they set their minds to it.
So You Know It's Wrong, But You Did It Anyway?
Oh boy, and I bet that she still doesn't get the irony after being called out on it.
Of course not, she was just 'conducting a study'!
Load More Replies...Is that your boyfriend that goes to a different school and we've never met him?
This is what bothers me about the whole "women's movement, feminism, whatever-it's-called thing"... it seems as if women are trying to thrive while demeaning men and that's not ok. We're just going to the other extreme and doing what we don't like about what some men do and say. (I'm a girl) if we're going to fix this "inequality" we also have to take into consideration that men have feelings and should be allowed to express them and get rid of that whole "men don't cry," "men pay for everything," etc. BS
Women have definitely internalized abuse that they experience -- but this behavior absolutely should not be misconstrued as feminism. Just because someone is a woman, doesn't make them a feminist, and here are your examples of those people.
Load More Replies...If she knows the definition of "palpable" I would honestly be shocked.
Ive never understood the obsession with tall men. There are attractive people of all different heights. Ive always leaned more towards guys closer to my height im short so i always felt awkward with someone super tall that i have to look up to to talk with.
You are right, being the same height as your partner is a complete blessing
Load More Replies...So I Broke My Leg, And She Wanted To Go On A Date....
She could have gone to see him, or bring food..what is wrong with people
Well, according to the other posts, that's simply illegal! The guy should always go to the girl! It apparently should simply not happen the other way around! (Much sarcasm)
Load More Replies...If she treats her 'boyfriends' like that when they're injured, imagine how she treats family members...
Whatever happened to "I broke my leg" being answered by "Wow, that sucks! You okay?"
"I Just Said Goodnight, But I'm Gonna Throw A Tantrum If You Say Goodnight Back"
Oh yeah coz men can read our minds and know exactly how we are feeling. How about stop playing games and tell him.
Women like this do not speak for us all. She clearly has the maturity of a 12 year old
Less I'm just over 12 and I'm WAY more mature. Try a 6 year old
Load More Replies...People can't read minds! If you're upset, tell them you're upset! It's that simple
Sounds like this is the "Try Harder When I Say No" Girl from the above post.
"What I understand is that you pulling these kind of mind games on me is your way of signaling that you have decided to break up with me. I respect your decision. Good night, and take care." *Turn phone off*
Urban Dictionary defines 'nice girls' as women who believe they're the best choice to be someone's girlfriend. They're deemed by the internet to be manipulative, have self-esteem issues, and can be passive-aggressive. They also have problems with jealousy and being self-centered. Especially if rejected.
The "I Don't Want Anything" Classic
Ugh another one playing stupid Games. If you say you don't want something then expect to not get it.
"Excuse me, I ordered a boyfriend with telepathic abilities."
I absolutley hate being ignored when I say I want/don't want something. I find it disrespectful when somebody keeps asking as if I don't know my own mind. Having said that, I am now gaining a new perspective on things while I read all those stupid posts and I'm starting to see where those people are coming from.
(Whoops) trying things like this on me will leave you hungry and I'll just think you are stupid.
Load More Replies...Spanish Girls Are Her #1 Enemy
Better to just burn it instead of unpacking
Load More Replies...it bothers me that the f slur isnt censored on this website when a lot of other things are. especially since this word in particular can be triggering to members of the lgbtq+ community. there should at least be a trigger warning.
if bored panda blocks f**k on pots they should block this kids on this sight don't need to know how to use that foul slur
Well I'll be damned. I did not expect her to out herself as a homophobe as well as a toxic peice of s**t...
so, she's not only harrassing you, but she's also a racist homophobic cow. you didn't dodge a bullet, you dodged a f*****g bazooka.
you just summed up my opinion on the people on this post
Load More Replies...We Have The FBI And Then We Have This
What an absolute f*****g bitch. There is no sugar coating how I feel about people doing s**t like this.
I agree 100%. People like these should burn in hell forever.
Load More Replies...What did I just read!!!!????wow,I wish there was a version of Thanos' gauntlet to disintegrate people like this woman.
Please, please do that and let him know how you stalked him as well. Let us know what he has to say.
Guys often have different views on being stalked .. he may have insecurity issues and a (assumed) pretty girl giving him attention may flatter him too much.
Load More Replies...What makes her think she's better than his wife? The girl in the OP don't seem to be a good choice.
And this ladies and gentlemen is an example of a shallow human being. When you wouldn't date them at their worst, you don't deserve them at their best. So please, miss, go sit in a corner and think about what you said!
Usually, I never understand a wife constantly fighting off "other women," he's the one that made the vows. And then this wench....
Wow. I hope she gets with a hot guy who marries her, has kids with her, then dumps her for the first trashy “nice girl” that hits on him
I don`t know if he can -or wish to- do better than his wife, but he surely can do better than you!
Usually, 'nice girls' are women who get others to pity her into dating her. In short, they're the female version of 'nice guys,' with all the drama and seething hatred you'd expect to see from them. Both 'nice girls' and 'nice guys' feel like they deserve to be in a relationship with anyone that they want or anyone that so much as smiles at them.
Double Standards Are Great !
F**k that s**t. There is ZERO excuse for cheating whether you are male or female.
Cheating doesnt matter whether you are male or female. Male or Female yall will still be scum to the other partner.
If someone cheats, trust is broken forever. Leave the relationship and start over with a whole new person. Don't take a cheater back. Cheating is a series of choices, not mistakes.
There’ll Be Blizzard In Hell Before I Stop Eating Cinnamon Toast Crunch For Breakfast
Foxxy, you're in my head with all of these posts so far. Lord have mercy, I despise these kinds of people, but I heart you for being right there with me
Load More Replies...Summary: A guy being a human is a no no. Would probably appreciate a guy that lives in the forest and fights bears.
Only he's going to get eaten by a bear when he mistakes it for a tree because he hasn't eaten breakfast and also he can't see jack.
Load More Replies...Did that lady just say I am gay because I can't see? Could've been called worse though... Her boyfriend for example.
My man Frank Grillo rocking his glasses and giving his opinion. 05ea481830...637e9d.jpg
So a man can't eat? A man can't watch movies?? Or see? You expect him to twiddle his thumbs while he waits for YOU?
No, he can't watch his movie he's supposed to sit next to you watching your rom com. Or... maybe that's also gay. I don't know anymore. Maybe work on his car, or that's to working class?
Load More Replies...Oh crap, I skip breakfast, didn't know it was a guy thing. And he watches movies alone, sometimes. And wears glasses. On the other hand, I generally order dessert. Whew! Marriage saved by profiteroles!
Load More Replies...So wearing glasses is a little gay? Ever heard of medical conditions?
From the "logic" that brought you "only guys over 6' 1" are attractive" comes "Further things you cannot control that I reserve the right to say are sexy or not." I have a headache...
Load More Replies...Something tells me those girls must get laid whenever they want to be able to say abysmally stupid s**t like this with so much confidence.
We Aren’t Dating
This isn't a "Nice girl gone cringy". She's an obsessed psychopath.
Load More Replies...Yeah. You'd think the guy would know if he's dating someone or not.
Load More Replies...I don't get why it's not blocked half-way. Where do you find the emotional energy?
I know it was probably accidental, but "you don't know this" is actually a pretty great line.
They also believe that the world owes them what they want just because they're 'well-mannered.' The moment things go south and they don't get what they want, they rage at the world and proclaim that it's not fair that things are this way. Whereas a genuinely nice person is kind to others without expecting a reward, a self-proclaimed 'nice girl' or 'nice guy' hides the fact that they're really just after the reward. Usually, the reward they have in mind is romantic or [ahem] something more.
Not Sure If This Counts But...
Oh no, once again. It reminds me of that thing where you stare at nothing in particular...then it happens to be exactly where a person is.
Actually she is not an ass, she stood up for herself respectfully after a guy stared at her and she was not sure how to interpeet it. This was confidence without cockiness.
He is an ass, too. Stares and think she has to give away her food just by looking at it.
I'm Sure Nick Appreciates Your Support!
What's not cool is acting like you are innocent when you are in fact not.
"I have never acted innocent" "and will admit my flaws". Ironier and ironier.
Load More Replies...i guess it makes sense they just suck at punctuation that is vital to the overall meaning of the sentence. lots of people say 'when he's faithful' as them appreciating their partner for being faithful. i'm guessing that the 'like' at the end means 'like what?', and the like at the beginning is unnecessary.
Load More Replies...If you are looking elsewhere then obviously you are in the wrong relationship..
My Ex Girlfriend Wanted To Meet For A Drink And I Said No As I Was Visiting My Terminally Ill Grandmother. She Said My Grandmother Was Lucky Be Dying Because She Would Be Ashamed Of Me. Then Put This Message On Her Instagram
She seems to have already been an ex tho. Which makes it worse.
Load More Replies...She is clearly talking about herself, except for the last bit.
"Im ToO nIcE a PeRsOn" ok sure then why did you blow up at your now-ex bf when he was VISITING HIS DYING GRANDMA IN THE HOSPITAL? and then POST THIS?
No. She really isn't too nice a person. Saying a dying grandma would be ashamed of you is not nice-person stuff at all.
The Gentleman’s Journal suggests that the difference between nice and ‘nice’ depends on how honest we are with ourselves about our intentions. For instance, they explain that you should be generous, but that you shouldn’t use your generosity as a bargaining chip for other things. That means that why you’re doing something is just as important as the fact that you’re doing it.
Don't Get Me What I Ask For
Come on, you cant be THAT unappreciative! You should be grateful you even have a boyfriend with that attitude
That last sentence... This pathetic contrary 1 year old...
The worst part of these posts is you would think most people would see this and comment something to let them see their ways, but instead you will see 25 other girls commenting "YESS!!" "girl I told you to leave that jerk!" "he obviously doesnt deserve you"
Um, ACTUALLY... What you say SHOULD say what you mean. Otherwise? It's YOUR OWN DAMN FAULT! People are NOT mind-readers! DAYUM!
Restoration 100. Smh My Head
"Don't die after I kill you!".... Agreed, prison, I hope.
Load More Replies...What does "Smh My Head" mean? I thought "Smh" already meant "Shake My Head". Also, why is "stabbing him in stomach" in quotes?
News headlines use this when a source is quoted literally (duh-- that's their purpose), but our usage of ironic "air quotes" elsewhere makes it read weird. [If it turns out a false accusation, the news isn't liable for slander, is my hunch for the reason.]
Load More Replies...This happened in Mexico. She found out he was going to leave her, so she stabbed him, he ran from her, but she caught up with him, he tried to kick her off, but she held on to him and kept hugging and kissing him and telling him she was sorry. This got filmed by cameras outside a motel. Thankfully people noticed what was happening and helped him, he didn't die, but the images became a meme. https://images.app.goo.gl/T6qtVSrBWjy6W7TE8
My Ex Sent Death Treats To Me On My Birthday, This Was What Happened Afterwardss
What are death treats? Are they chocolate with poison in them.? Can I still eat the chocolate on the outside? So many questions.
However, you are more statistically more likely to die on your birthday than any other day of the year . . . although that is seriously messed up.
One thought in particular raised by the Gentleman’s Journal stuck in my mind: “Do be kind. But don’t do it just because you think you ought to.” The implication here is simple: being kind is vital. However, making the decision to be kind because you believe it’s the right thing to do is the key here.
Abuse Ain’t Cute
No kidding. There would be hell to pay if the roles were reversed
Load More Replies..."Hey people, I am a physically abusive person! It is funny because women are always right and men's feelings do not matter!"
Sad part, she can beat him a million times in public and no one would bat an eye. He beats her once in defense and he is the lowlife scum wife beater.
That's not f***ing funny. No one, and I mean no man, woman, non binary, child. Anyone, should flinch from another person and especially have them make fun of you for it.
As a domestic violence survivor this is NOT okay. Men can be victims just as much as women.
Nice Girls Don’t Exi-
That's insane, I think she needs professional help. Super stalkerish. Hopefully she was charged.
Someone did the math, and assuming she slept 7 or 8 hours, it meant 1 message per minute, i think, or something around that number. Possible to do it, but crazy.
Load More Replies...I don't think I've sent that many texts since I bought my phone over two decades ago.
Just done the maths and I think the ball park figure is 1 text every 3 minutes for a whole year....
And that's if she doesn't sleep...1 every 2 minutes if she gets her full 8 hrs
Load More Replies...You Are But A Pawn Which I Control
"They" are glad you give them your permission... You're like Groundhog Day and high school combined.
Load More Replies...So she just wants a man to be in emotional agony over her while she enjoys her life and his suffering. Got it.
Basically she isn’t interested in having multiple men, she’s interested in getting off on hurting one guy. Her relationship goal is to cause harm to her partner.
She wants a cuckold... preferably one who can afford to keep her in the manner in which she expects to be spoilt.
She literally just said that’s not what she wants. She doesn’t want her guy to be okay with it. She wants to hurt him. Cucks like it.
Load More Replies...So she wants to cause emotional pain to her partner. Is she a sadist?
Being nice, polite, and kind just because you feel pressured to doesn’t make you nice. It makes you ‘nice.’ After all, kindness under duress isn’t really kindness, is it? But what do you think, dear Pandas? Why do you think ‘nice girls’ and ‘nice guys’ act the way that they do? Where do you think the line between actual kindness and fake kindness lies? Can we tell which is which from a distance? Share your thoughts with everyone else in the comments below.
Okay, Thats Not Toxic At All
Can men use that as an excuse too? if they hit women and they don't die, then it's okay right.
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, to use another obviously stupid untruth.
Load More Replies...It's Only Okay If I Can Go Through Your Phone
If you can't trust your partner and have to go through their phone then maybe it's the wrong relationship for you or you need help with getting over your trust issues.
I hate that people don't give their partner any trust in a relationship. Like, having go through their phone, it pisses me off. Or those who will open their camera to see what they are doing on their phone.
Load More Replies...Uhh I have sensitive data on my phone that grants me access to resources, that if mishandled could lead to lawsuits and jailtime. If my SO can't understand that then it won't work.
Heh! Not a problem for us. *Hears text message on phone* Hey, Hon, can you see who that was since your near my phone? She says, "Ugh...its your boss again". Another time... *She shoves her phone at me* "I screwed something up, fix it" We both have full access to each others phone.
I wouldn't ask to go through my gf's phone even if she was faithful. She might have stuff she might not want to share.
Both my hubby and I know that at any time we can pick up each others phone, either to answer it or even check it if necessary, and the only thing he will find is our son asking what I am doing for lunch.
Damn... I Don‘T Even Know Her
If that was how it worked, suicide would be called xhzkillifortinghorteniztaerokkqviurtzio (the q is silent)
Load More Replies...Threatening to cut yourself just to get attention is gaslighting and toxic. It's not funny nor cute. There are some people out there who are actually dealing with monsters and fighting private battles. It's not a joke and not ok. Please DON'T normalizes this.
Well said. As someone who's dealt with exactly that kind of thing (BPD), I would *never* use it as a tool to manipulate others. Hard enough to deal with that kind of stuff without people like this creating more stigma.
Load More Replies...And the winner for emotional manipulation goes to the unhinged woman above.
THAT IS NOT DEPRESSION. I hate when people say they ahve it when they do not. It is the worst feeling in the world. I attepted scuicide five times, and it is neevr something to joke about
My ex was bi-polar and when he got upset (me or just life, it didn't matter) he would stop taking his medication TO PUNISH ME. I got hip to the game pretty early on. He threatened to kill himself all the time - basically shoot himself in the head with his .357 I'd finally had it. So, HOLD ON! I went downstairs to the empty bedroom, spread a plastic shower curtain on the floor and asked him to please not miss - and then I walked away. Of COURSE he didn't shoot himself, it was all part of his little power trip manipulation game. His behavior only got worse (we had him committed twice) and I divorced him.
Don't ever let anyone hold you hostage with threats of suicide. You don't owe your life to an emotional blackmailer.
Bitch, I have legitimately considered doing what you have threatened to do. You are a low-down, psychotic, manipulative, no-good hoe and I hope you burn in hell
It’s Almost Like They’re There To Workout?
Wow... they are focused on working out at the gym? I have never heard of that before
And yet a lot of women complain that they can’t work out without being hit on. Hence why we have female only gyms.
Gym memberships are expensive, I'm paying for one to work out... Not find a date
Wait... what? They're using the gym for what it was built for? How rude!
so you expect us to stop working out to look at you? strange
It's the gym. No one really goes there to get a date. That's what the internet is for.
Why do you think they come there for? They aren't going to waste their time on girls like you.
Another "I Don't Want Anything" One!
Like, to the point that it's a slogan/catch phrase, right? "No means no"...
Load More Replies...No means NO. And we wonder why some men keep trying after being told no when there are these mixed messages. Just stop with the bullshit games.
But if he loved me, he would've figured it out! /s Seriously though, when did we lose our ability to communicate?!
Load More Replies...So when a guy propositions a girl and she says "No", that really means "Surprise me"?
Sometimes for fun I tell my husband to "bring me back something I can't live without". He usually will bring back my favorite snack or sweet or a small surprise... he hasn't figured out yet that I am always referring to him.
The Truth Comes Out. My Former Best Friend, Who I Ended Up Dating And Then It Killed Off Our Friendship When Things Went South
What do you mean, words matter??? (sarcasm, just saying)
Load More Replies...- I don' like you, I like the attention you give to me - So you don't like me and like the attention I give you? - No, it's not like that at all!
None of it was that bad until she said “wtf” to him repeating back her own words.
I appreciated the honesty but then to act like it wasn't said or meant ...
Feel Like This Belongs Here
If it was the other way round out would be a different story.
It probably is. Quora has a big problem with people creating accounts to ask questions like this, goading people into the obvious replies. Why, I don't know. But there are a LOT of trolls on Quora and this is their usual format.
Load More Replies...And Breaking Worth 40$ Isn't Cruel?
Yeah, keep on telling yourself that after your boyfriend breaks up with you, and you're sitting home alone fuming.
Thing is, I bet he's a little insecure and can't see his worth. Stay with her and they both remain unhappy. Such a shame for both really.
Load More Replies...As someone who was married to a video game addict, I can understand the frustration. The difference is that I never acted on my impulses to break his XBox... instead, I knew when he chose video games over me it was time for us to go our separate ways. He agreed and we are still friends who just so happen to be exes.
I always found it best to seek someone with your same interests. I had a relationship for 5 years and we were both gaming addicts. Got along really well. Some people have their vices and hobbies. Little extreme to choose video games over a partner but the partner shouldn't throw at ultimatum at them.
Load More Replies...I have a feeling this woman has numerous restraining orders against her
On the contrary most of my friends were gamers and married non-gamers. They reduced their play time accordingly, but never gave games up. Similarly I married a gamer and now one of my favourite things is watching her play, but I'm not afraid to ask her to stop for a while if something needs doing.
Load More Replies...This Is The Second Time I've Ever Talked To Her, What The Hell
Yes, but I do think there are quite a few young people who behave like this on social media and via electronic correspondence...
Load More Replies...hAvE FuN FaTty (Child, he ain't gonna change it for someone like you. btw he is gonna have fun without someone like you).
Nice Girl Has Trouble With Her Spelling
I hate it when the cycle path is twisted, you can't accelerate to a nice speed!
Load More Replies...This girl should move to AmsterDAMN cos they got so many cycle paths she'd fit right in!
Is she like that Dutch lady who married the Berlin Wall?
Load More Replies...God, I love auto-correct- cycle path is much more amusing than psychopath. Can somebody please buy her a dictionary for 1st graders?
Nice Girl Gets Called Out
Trust me. Wifeless and down the pub with friends? They'll be fine...
I'm 50-plus and still fine with it... recovering from all that alleged shagging!
Load More Replies...A local pub with a few mates is a great thing, every dude above 30 needs a local pub, I miss it a lot.
Pub culture is a part of life in some countries, and it's fine. Everyone goes to the pub, even children with their families. So the retort to her post is irrelevant to her point, which is about being shagged out and wifeless, and having no one in his life but his alcoholic pals.
She probably doesn’t want to be alone, whereas she’s thinking the men she sees at the bar want to be single and just have sex only. Hypocritical but not entirely nonsense. She’s saying that people think it’s sweet now to just fuçk everything in sight but one day you’re gonna wake up and have fücked all the women you want, but be empty and alone. I don’t think thats necessarily true for everyone but it is true for many. Many / most people don’t want to be alone, but they spend their 20s and 30s messing around and playing games.
wifeless, OH NOES...what would I ever do if that happened to poor me...most probably, just happy by myself, just as much.
It Do Be Like That
"Why do you guys always take thing so litterally?" (Proceeds to teach the dude how women never mean what they say and you'll always have to do the opposite of what they are saying....)
Found On Facebook. I Pray This Was Posted As A Joke
I am a chunky introvert and I love it. If somebody told me to change, I'm leaving.
Both of their responses are pathetic really. If someone asks you to do something in a relationship and your response is either “no, you have to love me how I am OR, yes, but so do you” then you’re just having a pointless argument. When your partner asks for something, if it’s in the interest of your relationship then you should just do it. Not qualify it by saying “you too” or “you should leave then.”
Well, You Asked For It
She was actually reckoning that he'd be a "gentleman" and insist on paying for her because "that's what gentlemen do".
Load More Replies...This nonsense, again. A man paying for a date isn't about a woman not being independent. She has the ability to pay for her own food. Women aren't dating men for dinner--we can pay for groceries ourselves. A man who pays for your food is a man who is stepping up and knows how to treat a woman. Let him. They enjoy it, the ones who are serious about you. Don't start thinking you need to prove independence to anyone by not letting a man pay for the date, ladies. It isn't about that. The dudes with no coin and nothing but resentment WILL try to shame you for it. Ignore.
In my opinion if your on a date you should always split the bill
Girlfriend Cheated On Me. Broke Up With Her Then She Sent This
she was kind enough to omit that remark... didn't want to sound like she was putting herself over
Load More Replies...You can be smart and pretty, and good at everything, but if you are disloyal, you are worth nothing!
Exactly this! All those awesome qualities down the drain just because you want to lie / cheat. What good is it to be good at everything if you’re bad at keeping your nasty vulva in your pants?
Load More Replies...Regrets, I've had a few But then again, too few to mention I did what I had to do And saw it through without exemption I planned each chartered course Each careful step along the byway But more, much more than this I did it my waaaaaaaaaaaaaaay
Well.. I guess that was his plan. To never meet someone like her again
"You will never find anyone else like me!" "Yeah, that's pretty much the point here."
This whole idea that you need to be 'replaced', as if it's worse to be single than in a shitty relationship.
YOU'RE THE EXACT F**KING OPPOSITE OF WHO I WANT IN A RELATIONSHIP, FOR HELL'S SAKES
God Dammit! This Guys Always Tryng To Flirt With Smiley Emojis!
Apparently love heart eyes emojis on her part are toootally okay, though.
Load More Replies...says the girl who sent not one, not two but THREE heart eyes emojis? lol
3 in one post, or four if you count all of her messages. Soooooo she crazy
Load More Replies...OMG I had this with a co-worker/neighbor when we first started hanging out. I'm gay and married so def not interested in her. But she was freaked out when I sent her a smiley face emoji bc her husband does not approve of guys sending her emojis. Totally creepy.
I use smileys all the time, guess I am flirting with everyone. I have no shame lol.
What A Wonderfully Nice Attitude! It's A Wonder Why She Has Trouble Dating!
Imagine a man creating a female height chart like that. What kind of names would you call him? Now apply those names to this lady!
Seriously what is this obsession with how tall men are? As a short woman I like short men. We can alt least have a face to face conversation.
I don't get it either. I'm fairly short, and I really don't want to get a step ladder to kiss a guy or feel like I'm going to be smothered during sex.
Load More Replies...I’m 5’4 and my husband is 5’5. I get shît all the time from women who say he’s so short. Single women. They’re all single. My husband is wonderful and treats me like a queen.
Yay, I'm a 50-odd year old boy! Go have fun with your "kings", gal.
“Boy” height on this chart seems ideal. To me that’s still quite tall but without any of the inconvenience of being over six feet.
Load More Replies...Lmao according to this chart my man is a goblin but I would bet half my stock portfolio that if she saw him she’d clamor for his attention and then get mad when she can’t get it. Girls say this shît about men’s height until they realize it isn’t short men they dislike, it’s unattractive men. You can’t convince me someone would rather date a tall, rude, ugly, unmotivated man over a short, hot, sweet, motivated man.
5'5 is a dwarf and a goblin? A Dwarblin? I am a Dwarblin?!
She could be the most beautiful girl of the world, but she will never be treated a queen with that attitude.
I had to use a converter to see just how tall this "king" is - 182,3cm. That ain't even tall here. This girl is just giving her best to inflict hurt on as many people as she can.
The Duality Of (Wo) Men
"He Should Either Talk To Me Or Be Asleep"
Well, thanks for sharing publicly. If you can't be an example be a warning, they say.
This isn’t a Nice Girl. That’s not what the term means. Plus if she thought he was actually lying then why wouldn’t she ask about it? This is why Instagram and Facebook and such are inappropriate intrusions into people’s lives, especially in a relationship. The fact that it’s even normal to use these platforms is fùcking mind blowing.
Denied My Friend Request? I'll Show Up At Your Job
Wait did she hack into his profile coz you can't see people's friend requests if you go to their profile from your own account.
There's usually a "friend request pending" on their profile, so she didn't have to hack his account
Load More Replies...Why wouldn't he accept your friend request? Maybe because he doesn't want to interact with you?
The Thousands Of Likes Disappointed Me
She Broke Up With Me, Blocked Her On All Social Media’s And Has The Nerve To Send Me This. I Have Nothing That She Owns
This sounds familiar. My bf's ex stole EVERYTHING from him when they broke up. She took every roll of toilet paper, zip ties, rubber bands, clothespins... if it wasn't nailed down she took it. They broke up because he found out she was stealing from stores, so wasn't surprised when she stole from him... he was just happy to get rid of her.
What's familiar about it? Where does it say she wants the toilet paper? She wants her things back. Where are you getting that she is a kleptomaniac? How odd.
Load More Replies...The police won't even get involved in this. It's her word against his. Best she can hope for is that police will advice her to go to court and have a judge decide.
They actually will get involved in this. Her possessions are her possessions, and she has the full right to obtain them. Keeping her possessions after she has asked for them back is committing theft. So it isn't a question about her word against his, her possessions EXIST and she has a right to them.
Load More Replies...Apparently she didn't take everything when she left, which is why she is asking about her things and even getting an officer involved. Sounds like he is hanging on to some of her things out of spite.
When Your Boyfriend Acting Single
The woman is in a one sided relationship where the other person doesn't even know.
Load More Replies...You Know, Why Respect Boundaries?
He doesn't need to know... (as it was so brilliantly pointed out in another post!)
So I Get Sex Whenever I Want, Right?
I like the weight loss add at the bottom - new diet: waiting for someone to pay for my food!
Or better still: Ditch the b!tch and lose at least 165 LBS in 5 minutes.
Load More Replies...I don't subscribe to this notion... Relationships are "give & take" and partners should share in (most) everything, There's nothing wrong with a woman paying for a man's coffee, meal etc. especially when both partners have jobs.
You can get a boyfriend like that but you have to be willing to be a trophy girlfriend / there for sex.
UGH. This girl is sooooooooooo materialistic! (Materialistic people are a pet peeve of mine.)
Those Damn Unattractive People Staying In Loving Relationships
Nice joke. In the end, although everyone says personality is all that matters, you will be dumped because your looks are not to his liking.
Load More Replies...I've seen good looks disappear the very moment someone opened their mouth
This may sound weird but - you put that beautifully!
Load More Replies...If that's your attitude, then you are the real ugly one... inside!
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder... and no one is going to be holding you with that sh*tty attitude.
There’s a plethora of unattractive people though. You couldn’t possibly expect everyone to stay single. By sheer numbers, that’s a stupid thought. Never mind the egotistical nature of it.
She’s Single, Fellas
Step 1: stop offending people Step 2: work on sorting your self esteem. Needy.
Treating her right when she shows that kind of behaviour would be illegal since spanking can be counted as an assault. Wouldn't be likely to shut her up either, so you can't win anyway.
More Personalities Than A Swiss Army Knife
As a person who actually has dissociative identity disorder (aka multiple personality disorder) this woman can f**k off into the depths of satans a**s.
Hey, at least she recognizes that she has a multiple personality disorder.
I doubt it. I think she's actually making it even harder for people with DID to be understood by making a serious condition a joke.
Load More Replies...Just Another #nicegirlsproblem
And that's also how she looks at his phone when there's a text message from another girl.
If you use Black China as your meme template, you already lost.
Btw, She Lives In Another Country
If that’s your girlfriend it makes sense. Or a potential lover. She’s asking to be exclusive.
If she lives in another country it just makes it easier to break up the relationship.
But she wants to be able to hang out with whomever she wants. Guy or girl... Awful.
Because Your Guy Friends Need To Be Attracted To You, Obviously. If Not, You’re Ugly
Obviously this is someone that needs constant attention and validation. There is no way I would want any of my hubby's friends to find me attractive, that is just awkward.
You're not wrong about her state of mind, but for what it's worth I think she meant "guy friend" literally as "friend of mine who is male" not "my guy's friend". Still weird that she thinks so little of friendship, though.
Load More Replies...I don't mind that my gal friends aren't physically attracted to me... and I don't feel ugly because of it. Contrary to popular (fallacious) belief, men and women CAN be platonic friends.
I don't think she has any more guy friends. I hope she doesn't.
She never even considered that all the friends respect the relationship she has with their friend. It has got nothing to do with how she looks.
Low self-esteem and misguided knowledge (being "cute" is all they want. Only pig men who only want sex, and they are not the man to be with) Looking for attention but doesn't want to confront it by telling them to not respond.
Nice Girl vs. Nice Guy
He's up in every girl's Insta and you're worried about buying him a gift? Girl. Buy yourself some dignity and leave him where you found him.
I mean it’s not like guys introduce themselves as hi I’m jay, I’m a shitty ass dude.
Insanity - doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result . . . .
Gatekeeping To Its Best
She needs some of that humble pi from the bragging post....."not everyone will get that" lmao jk
Load More Replies...so, uh, basically you're trying to shame women who do this (who actually aren't many, unlike what you said) huh? F**k you.
this is the very essence of the "not like other girls" mindset.
Load More Replies...'or other girls to get attention'??? wtf? I don't think lesbians/bisexuals make out with each other to 'get attention'...
If I’m enjoying a kiss, the last thing I’m thinking about is other people.
Load More Replies...Girl, whose attention are you trying to get? If he wants you, he'll find you.
“I’m NoT LiKe tHe OtHeR gIrLs” Shut the fûck up. You’re not because you can’t be. There’s a loooootttt of that on Bored Panda.
So we are discovering that the REAL problem is that people are assholes, male/female, makes no difference. I do see several incidences of sexism however and it just shows that both sexes fall victim to toxic sexism (yes EVEN THESE assholes are making themselves victims by perpetrating sexist views) We really need kids to be taught how not to be assholes before it's too late..
I'm convinced that some of these people are straight-up mentally ill. Because HOW are they like this???
Load More Replies...I realize this smacks of victim blaming, but if you are training him to think no does not mean no, what do you think will happen when you do mean it? Seriously, these women set everything back. If this is the primary type of women some men have to deal with, is it any wonder we have problems teaching respect?!? What really concerns me is that some of these women are raising sons
Such a good point. I wonder who it is that raises men to be rapists? These attitudes sure don't help..
Load More Replies...The problem with me reading these is it makes me feel like I'm this perfect girlfriend which I'm obviously not. Something to work on...
At least Pamela24 can admit she may have some issues and isn't perfect. I applaud her. I hope the best for her in her relationships.
Load More Replies...I once read an article about a girl who would put nicotine patches on her boyfriend every time he slept at her house, so he'd confuse nicotine withdrawals with just not being with his gf and if that ain't the most toxic s**t you've ever heard...
That’s deeply insane, but I’d also watch a movie about it.
Load More Replies...I'd love to know the ages of these people. All of these people seem like they're in their early teens to very early twenties. The immaturity is palpable.
Tbh, anyone who has to tell you they're nice..... Probably isn't nice.
I don't think you understand what "nice guys" are like. These women are assholes. Only one of them said the guy was missing out on her bad behavior.
So we are discovering that the REAL problem is that people are assholes, male/female, makes no difference. I do see several incidences of sexism however and it just shows that both sexes fall victim to toxic sexism (yes EVEN THESE assholes are making themselves victims by perpetrating sexist views) We really need kids to be taught how not to be assholes before it's too late..
I'm convinced that some of these people are straight-up mentally ill. Because HOW are they like this???
Load More Replies...I realize this smacks of victim blaming, but if you are training him to think no does not mean no, what do you think will happen when you do mean it? Seriously, these women set everything back. If this is the primary type of women some men have to deal with, is it any wonder we have problems teaching respect?!? What really concerns me is that some of these women are raising sons
Such a good point. I wonder who it is that raises men to be rapists? These attitudes sure don't help..
Load More Replies...The problem with me reading these is it makes me feel like I'm this perfect girlfriend which I'm obviously not. Something to work on...
At least Pamela24 can admit she may have some issues and isn't perfect. I applaud her. I hope the best for her in her relationships.
Load More Replies...I once read an article about a girl who would put nicotine patches on her boyfriend every time he slept at her house, so he'd confuse nicotine withdrawals with just not being with his gf and if that ain't the most toxic s**t you've ever heard...
That’s deeply insane, but I’d also watch a movie about it.
Load More Replies...I'd love to know the ages of these people. All of these people seem like they're in their early teens to very early twenties. The immaturity is palpable.
Tbh, anyone who has to tell you they're nice..... Probably isn't nice.
I don't think you understand what "nice guys" are like. These women are assholes. Only one of them said the guy was missing out on her bad behavior.
