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There is a vast valley with steep slopes and a raging river winding its way through the bottom that separates the people who are genuinely nice and those who only proclaim themselves to be ‘nice.’ Most of us know from experience that guys who are actually nice act very differently than those who are ‘nice guys.’

However, this post isn’t about nice guys. No, this one is about nice girls. Or rather—‘nice girls’ who believe they’re entitled to ‘perfect’ partners while dripping with hatred for the world and showing their true colors when things don’t go their way. In fact, there’s a place where they get called out: the r/Nicegirls subreddit that proves that fake ‘niceness’ knows no gender boundaries. See for your yourselves, dear Pandas. Be sure to read on for Bored Panda's interview with one of the moderators of the subreddit, user CTFOE_is_Free.

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What A Sweetheart

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Selfishness and altruism aren't as black and white as you might think. According to research, human history has shown that some forms of selfishness can be considered to be "healthy" while some altruism can be "pathological." Healthy selfishness led to higher levels of psychological well-being and a "genuine prosocial orientation." Meanwhile, pathological altruism was associated with vulnerable narcissism and selfish motivations for helping others. If that sounds familiar, it's the scientific basis for the difference between nice and 'nice.'

Moderator CTFOE_is_Fee told Bored Panda that the reason why some women are 'nice girls' is a combination of a few factors. "Some of them are too immature to realize what they're doing. Others are that manipulative on purpose. Lastly, some do not even realize what they're doing," they explained.

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But Why? Smh Entitled Queens Lol

But Why? Smh Entitled Queens Lol

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Sowieso
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This kind of messaging is why men think they should try harder, and how you create an unsafe feeling for a lot of woman. Because a man will take away from this that no means yes. And that you have to keep trying, even though the woman made clear that she is not into you. It's a dangerous game to play!

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The Cat Isn’t What He Should Be Getting Rid Of

The Cat Isn’t What He Should Be Getting Rid Of

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Sum Guy
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The cat has been there before her and judging by her being jealous of a cat, the cat will be there after she's gone

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We were curious to find out where the line between genuine niceness and fake 'niceness' was for the moderator. Here's what they had to say: "Personally, for me, the line is drawn when you can tell that someone is being passive-aggressive; when you can sense the subdued maliciousness in their words and actions. If your gut is telling you that something is not genuine about the person then they probably are not genuine. I think we've all experienced a few relationships like that in our lives. I do not see there being a large grey area between the two. You know when someone is being kind or not."

According to CTFOE_is_free, one of the things that new members need to keep in mind if they decide to join up is to read and follow the subreddit rules. "We have a strict No doxxing policy, as we work to respect and protect the privacy of the subjects of the content as well as that of the posters."

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I Went On One Date With This Girl And She Spent The Whole Time On Her Phone Drinking Coffee I Bought Her

I Went On One Date With This Girl And She Spent The Whole Time On Her Phone Drinking Coffee I Bought Her

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A Message To All Nice Girls Who Might Have A Screw Loose

A Message To All Nice Girls Who Might Have A Screw Loose

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Saint Thomas
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or maybe... confront him and talk about it ? Then make a decision ? I understand this is meant as a kind of joke with a twist, but it's not good advice, either way.

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Ripley
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sorry, no. It's very good advice. Talking to someone about a significant issue in your relationship with them is far better done when you're calm, and have had a chance to think it over. Losing your s**t and becoming incoherent doesn't help anyone.

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Toasty
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Um, if your boyfriend cheats on you, throw his worthless ass to the curb and find a new one, then drink some tea.

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Joe Reaves
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't do that. Over boiled water makes terrible tea. Boil it and as soon as its boiling make the tea! Terrible tea will not help.

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Mewton’s Third Paw
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What’s the source on this? I don’t see how it can taste different. I never boil my tea water all the way because I want to drink tea, not wait 20 minutes for it to cool and then end up drinking cold tea.

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Johnny Døpe
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s a waste to throw perfectly fine boiled water on a guy..just put venomous snake in his bed.. duuuh

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Lilly Rose Poppy
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I thought it meant boil it figuratively and then when he is asleep wake him up too talk to him abt it. It’s no cause my mind works that way, it seems like that type of post.

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Lisa Shelton
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And while you sit and drink your tea you can formulate a plan on how you want to deal with the situation. Therapy? Another chance? Leave him? All viable options

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Alditekim
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Boil, boil, boil, then you got steams. Can't make tea with those. Or can you?

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Noemie Houtekie-N'Da
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I uh, thought this person would say throw it on him, but I wouldn't do it, I promise and swear!

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KieLeaHar
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11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Confront them. Always. You can always tell when someone is lying about something like that.

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Sarah Grape
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

having tea first to calm yourself is a good idea. just dont forget the last step- breaking up with him. he proably wont even be that mad. he obviously doesnt love you anymore, so it wont be a loss for you either

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Dingo Person
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm sorry but my mind is f-ed up like that but I would never do it promise

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Anonymous Panda
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I thought she was going to say thst not because I would od it just cuz I thought she would because I figured she was the toxic girl in this situation at first.

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bi panda
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I thought she was a crazy hoe so that's what I thought she was gonna say...

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Tin Woman
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I say no to talking it over, but I also say no to damage him. Just leave and try to upgrade.

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elfin
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why let it boil and boil? It's not going to continue to get hotter. Make your tea already.

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Ravenwolf
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Okay the only reason I thought she was going to say "throw it on him" is because the rest of these people have been really bad and I was expecting the worse.

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Evie Lewis
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I thought it was gonna be the hand in the warm water trick 😅

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Evie Lewis
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I thought they were gonna do the old hand in the warm water trick

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mr. cheeto chester
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

onestly i am not crazy but when she said boil boil & boil i thought u would

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Ezigma
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What do you expect from someone who can't put correct sentences together?! Lol brings a whole new meaning to 'dumb bitch'

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How is she a hoe when he’s the one who cheated? And you’re the one who set it up to sound like there would be violence by suggesting he needs to be asleep for you to do the most basic task (drinking liquids).

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JessRS
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

the person is using hoe as a term to refer to girls/women but in a colloquial way and not as an insult. We do this a lot in Spanish with several curse words but we don't necessarily use them as insults.

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According to the creators of the subreddit, the 'Nice Girls' community is like the ‘Nice Guys’ online group, but different in that they focus on women instead. Bored Panda has even written about them before. You can check out that post right over here once you’re done enjoying this list. Spoiler alert: proclaiming that you’re nice doesn’t make it so. The proof is in how you act, not the mild-mannered facade you show the world.

“For all the self-proclaimed ‘nice girls.’ For the women who complain ‘guys are only interested in [promiscuous women].’ For women who complain that men are shallow for not dating overweight women, while also demanding that their man have washboard abs. For the women who hold others to the highest possible standard, but have no standards for themselves,” the r/Nicegirls creators explain what their group is all about.

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A Nicegirl Daydream

A Nicegirl Daydream

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Now That's A Logical Leap

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Laughter is not good for my tummy pain right now, but that reply was funny as heck.

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The main focus of the subreddit is to shame these ‘nice girls’ in all their glory through images, articles, videos, and everything else. “This sub is not for female incels. This place is not for crazy girls. If you swap the genders and it doesn't belong on r/niceguys, then don't post it,” they explain.

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What’s more, the moderators point out that their community is “not a women hating subreddit.” They encourage members to be polite and “refrain from making sexist comments or being a bigot.” They have a zero-tolerance policy regarding things like that, so mind your manners. Yes, there’s a certain unsurprising irony there that a group about shaming people who are supposedly ‘nice’ actually requires folks to be nice.

However, just because r/Nicegirls deems these women worthy of being shamed doesn’t mean that they’re having an all-out war with them. Members of the group can’t post any identifying information about people: this way, they’re protected from internet users who might want to criticize them or insult them. After all, just because someone’s ‘nice’ now doesn’t mean that they’re not learning to be actually, genuinely nice. I’m a big believer that people can change if they set their minds to it.

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So You Know It's Wrong, But You Did It Anyway?

So You Know It's Wrong, But You Did It Anyway?

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Foxxy (The Original)
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh boy, and I bet that she still doesn't get the irony after being called out on it.

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So I Broke My Leg, And She Wanted To Go On A Date....

So I Broke My Leg, And She Wanted To Go On A Date....

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"I Just Said Goodnight, But I'm Gonna Throw A Tantrum If You Say Goodnight Back"

"I Just Said Goodnight, But I'm Gonna Throw A Tantrum If You Say Goodnight Back"

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Foxxy (The Original)
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh yeah coz men can read our minds and know exactly how we are feeling. How about stop playing games and tell him.

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Urban Dictionary defines 'nice girls' as women who believe they're the best choice to be someone's girlfriend. They're deemed by the internet to be manipulative, have self-esteem issues, and can be passive-aggressive. They also have problems with jealousy and being self-centered. Especially if rejected.

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The "I Don't Want Anything" Classic

The "I Don't Want Anything" Classic

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Foxxy (The Original)
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ugh another one playing stupid Games. If you say you don't want something then expect to not get it.

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Spanish Girls Are Her #1 Enemy

Spanish Girls Are Her #1 Enemy

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We Have The FBI And Then We Have This

We Have The FBI And Then We Have This

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Foxxy (The Original)
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What an absolute f*****g bitch. There is no sugar coating how I feel about people doing s**t like this.

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Usually, 'nice girls' are women who get others to pity her into dating her. In short, they're the female version of 'nice guys,' with all the drama and seething hatred you'd expect to see from them. Both 'nice girls' and 'nice guys' feel like they deserve to be in a relationship with anyone that they want or anyone that so much as smiles at them.

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Double Standards Are Great !

Double Standards Are Great !

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There’ll Be Blizzard In Hell Before I Stop Eating Cinnamon Toast Crunch For Breakfast

There’ll Be Blizzard In Hell Before I Stop Eating Cinnamon Toast Crunch For Breakfast

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They also believe that the world owes them what they want just because they're 'well-mannered.' The moment things go south and they don't get what they want, they rage at the world and proclaim that it's not fair that things are this way. Whereas a genuinely nice person is kind to others without expecting a reward, a self-proclaimed 'nice girl' or 'nice guy' hides the fact that they're really just after the reward. Usually, the reward they have in mind is romantic or [ahem] something more.

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I'm Sure Nick Appreciates Your Support!

I'm Sure Nick Appreciates Your Support!

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My Ex Girlfriend Wanted To Meet For A Drink And I Said No As I Was Visiting My Terminally Ill Grandmother. She Said My Grandmother Was Lucky Be Dying Because She Would Be Ashamed Of Me. Then Put This Message On Her Instagram

My Ex Girlfriend Wanted To Meet For A Drink And I Said No As I Was Visiting My Terminally Ill Grandmother. She Said My Grandmother Was Lucky Be Dying Because She Would Be Ashamed Of Me. Then Put This Message On Her Instagram

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The Gentleman’s Journal suggests that the difference between nice and ‘nice’ depends on how honest we are with ourselves about our intentions. For instance, they explain that you should be generous, but that you shouldn’t use your generosity as a bargaining chip for other things. That means that why you’re doing something is just as important as the fact that you’re doing it.

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Don't Get Me What I Ask For

Don't Get Me What I Ask For

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Come on, you cant be THAT unappreciative! You should be grateful you even have a boyfriend with that attitude

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My Ex Sent Death Treats To Me On My Birthday, This Was What Happened Afterwardss

My Ex Sent Death Treats To Me On My Birthday, This Was What Happened Afterwardss

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One thought in particular raised by the Gentleman’s Journal stuck in my mind: “Do be kind. But don’t do it just because you think you ought to.” The implication here is simple: being kind is vital. However, making the decision to be kind because you believe it’s the right thing to do is the key here.

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Nice Girls Don’t Exi-

Nice Girls Don’t Exi-

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Foxxy (The Original)
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's insane, I think she needs professional help. Super stalkerish. Hopefully she was charged.

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Being nice, polite, and kind just because you feel pressured to doesn’t make you nice. It makes you ‘nice.’ After all, kindness under duress isn’t really kindness, is it? But what do you think, dear Pandas? Why do you think ‘nice girls’ and ‘nice guys’ act the way that they do? Where do you think the line between actual kindness and fake kindness lies? Can we tell which is which from a distance? Share your thoughts with everyone else in the comments below.

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Okay, Thats Not Toxic At All

Okay, Thats Not Toxic At All

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It's Only Okay If I Can Go Through Your Phone

It's Only Okay If I Can Go Through Your Phone

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Foxxy (The Original)
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you can't trust your partner and have to go through their phone then maybe it's the wrong relationship for you or you need help with getting over your trust issues.

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Damn... I Don‘T Even Know Her

Damn... I Don‘T Even Know Her

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It’s Almost Like They’re There To Workout?

It’s Almost Like They’re There To Workout?

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Sum Guy
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow... they are focused on working out at the gym? I have never heard of that before

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The Truth Comes Out. My Former Best Friend, Who I Ended Up Dating And Then It Killed Off Our Friendship When Things Went South

The Truth Comes Out. My Former Best Friend, Who I Ended Up Dating And Then It Killed Off Our Friendship When Things Went South

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Feel Like This Belongs Here

Feel Like This Belongs Here

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And Breaking Worth 40$ Isn't Cruel?

And Breaking Worth 40$ Isn't Cruel?

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, keep on telling yourself that after your boyfriend breaks up with you, and you're sitting home alone fuming.

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This Is The Second Time I've Ever Talked To Her, What The Hell

This Is The Second Time I've Ever Talked To Her, What The Hell

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Nice Girl Has Trouble With Her Spelling

Nice Girl Has Trouble With Her Spelling

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