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“I Got Booed Out Of The Restaurant After I Said No”: 30 People Share Their Experiences And Opinions On Public Proposals
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Being publicly proposed to is a lot like being asked to play an instrument in a family gathering. Your hands are shaking, everyone’s watching, and you know that saying no might not be an option at this point. Otherwise it might really hurt the person you love, whether it’s your partner or grandma who initiated it.
Reddit user u/Gilded_Violet turned to the members of the ‘Ask Women’ community to learn how they really feel about public proposals. After being asked how the lack of privacy impacted the experience and their response, the ladies didn’t hold back their opinions. We have collected some of the best answers depicting just how cringe a public proposal can be. Scroll down and enjoy.
Bored Panda has reached out to u/Gilded_Violet and they were kind enough to answer a few of our questions. You will find their thoughts below.
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#1
I’d die of embarrassment, personally. Technically my husband did propose in a public place (a rooftop bar we like) but knew the whole “get down on one knee in public” thing is neither of our styles, so he just kind of discreetly slid the ring across the table and asked if I’d marry him. That was nice: It still felt private and personal.
rodger coghlan 2 years ago
I took my gf to a family party and introduced her as my fiance; on the way back (traveling at 85 mph) she said "you have not proposed to me..." so, at 85 mph, mile marker 35 I proposed and she accepted. We never did get married but stayed together for about 20 more years before we split
Elizabeth Joy 2 years ago
That’s what I wanted - no strangers, just relaxed morning in bed or something - but he did it in front of strangers and I tried to physically stop him from going down
The author of the post told Bored Panda that the reason they decided to ask such a question was witnessing a public proposal themselves. “I attended a New Year party, where one friend proposed to their girlfriend. The woman was clearly uncomfortable, asked if they could talk about it in private, but everybody just accepted it as a 'yes.'”
“This really bothered me,” said the redditor. “I felt like she'd been trapped into marrying him. It made me wonder about other women's experiences and perspectives regarding the topic.” They added that after the proposal, they reached out to the girl to show support; however, she did not reply.
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#2
Very much not fun. I got boo’d out of the restaurant after I said no. Don’t do it people
Jill Rhodry 2 years ago
This!!! It shows it's nothing but manipulation, the proposee is socially coerced into saying 'yes'.
Weasel Wise 2 years ago
It isn't "nothing but" manipulation, I think it's often times dummies who don't think much outside of their own world and realize this might not be the grand, romantic gesture of 'displaying my love for everyone to see' that the dummy intends it to be. For anyone considering proposing in front of an audience (family or strangers, it doesn't matter), don't do it. It's a beautiful and intimate gesture between committed adults and should be shared between just those people. If it's that important to you to display your love publicly, you'll figure out a better way and you can make THAT awesome.
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Lawrencium 2 years ago
My new goal if I ever see this happen and she says no is to cheer. "You go girl! You deserve WAY better!"
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Per-Ole Sjuve 2 years ago
I think this whole thing goes hand in hand with the massive white weddings. Men might believe that women expect these kind of shows to go with the insane wedding productions. Both are weird and unnatural in my opinion.
SilverSkyCloud 1 year ago
just yell "i caught him in bed with my sister last week!" thatll turn the tide lol
ROSESARERED 2 years ago
I was proposed to in a restaurant...so many people were yelling no, no, don't do it and so on. I was screaming inside 'NO', but because it was public I stupidly said yes. Wish I had whispered in hus ear straight after ' keep smiling, but no, we are not ready to get married' . Controlling bustard, and selfish. So thankful we didn't get married but the planning was in full swing. Hindsight is wonderful....wish I had the guts like the op who posted, and said no straight away, would have saved alot of time and heartache.
#3
I’m not a fan. I was proposed to downtown, in the middle of our city, and there was a ton of people around watching. After my partner at the time proposed, he turned around and took a massive bow to the crowd. Fast forward and we are not together anymore lol
Noyfb noyfb 2 years ago
“Took a massive bow to the crowd.” How shocking and disgusting. What a hopeless, self-centered d**k!
Pandapoo 2 years ago
Yep, if she (or he) had married him, their world would have revolved around him.
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crazydogmama 2 years ago
Reminds me of the woman running a marathon, and in the middle of running, her boyfriend ran out and dropped to one knee right in front of her, stopping her, ruining her pace, and forever making that marathon about *him*. Disgusting.
The OP emphasized that no one should feel forced to answer in a certain way. “All healthy relationships are predicated on open communication and mutual consent. I'd like for everybody to know that they don't have to be coerced into a marriage. They aren't alone, and there's no shame in backing out.
“It takes time to feel ready for marriage,” they added. “One shouldn't be rushed into an immediate decision, simply because their partner has made theirs.”
When it comes to their own experience with marriage, Gilded_Violet shared with Bored Panda that their engagement wasn’t public. “Luckily, I've never had a public proposal. My partner and I have always had a private relationship. His proposal reflected that.” They also joked around saying that they wouldn’t want to have another proposal, but if they were to have one, they’d prefer it to be private as well.
#4
My SO proposed in public but not by a crowd. We were the botanical gardens (where we had our first date) on a very dreary December day, we wandered outside to escape some of the crowds and he popped the question then. It was the best time and spot since he hid a bunch of rose petals in his pocket so he could toss them up when I said yes. After the hugs and kisses, a little train ride was going by for bringing kids to and from Santa and a woman shouted a congratulations. If there had been people around, I would have been very shy and self conscious during even though my answer wouldn't have changed. It was nice to have that more private moment as he popped the question. Also to that woman who congratulated us, thank you ❤️
Daniel Atkins 2 years ago
I did something like this It was a Botanical garden and if anyone saw it they were a ways off.
Bruce Horton 2 years ago
Similar story here. We had already shopped for the ring. My surprise was to go to the jeweler a day early and give it to her at a coffee shop. I have no idea if anyone else even noticed. I only had (and 22 years later still have) eyes for her.
#5
Hate it. My husband did this. He planned for my whole family to come down to his moms house and she asked me to come over one day to help fix her tile and I said sure… I walk in and my mom dad sister brother niblings his mom dad sister everyone staring at me and my DH on his knee and all he said was “will you marry me?” And I said yes bc I do love him and then he asked why I didn’t cry??!! Lol ummmm bc everyone is looking and you didn’t say anything sweet? He also didn’t make sure I was showered and dressed nicely.. like I thought I was doing house work dude lol
I did have a talk with him that while it was very sweet to invite everyone I do NOT like that. Marriage is for the couple not everyone else
April Stephens 2 years ago
"Marriage is for the couple not everyone else" is a debatable claim. Marriage is a public social and legal institution. But yeah, I wouldn't appreciate that proposal from the story either.
Severus Snape (she/her) 2 years ago
I'm happy that her hubby realized what he did wasn't really ideal.
OmBoyGanesh 2 years ago
“marriage is for the couple not everyone else” - ya, but a lot of weddings tend to be ostentatious, narcissistic, self-aggrandizing “Disney on Broadway” productions “all about the couple.” So why would they want or need me to be there? I’ll be happy for the relationship, supporting & propping it up before and after the ceremony. As a guest, I’ve really nothing to contribute to the wedding other than some weird, tertiary form of inauthentic validation. No thanks!
#6
My ex proposed to me in front of my entire family, including all of my extended family who was visiting for my cousin’s funeral. It was terrible timing. He sang a song (poorly) and asked in front of everyone. I had already previously told him no because he needed to get his shit together (get a job/have goals in life). He didn’t, but I felt obligated to say yes. We ended it a month and a half later when he still didn’t have anything together. Thank God we never got married!
Ember 2 years ago
I’m guessing that’s why some men choose to do it in public, so you can’t say ‘No’.
Duolingo’s one lover 2 years ago
But also even if that happens the good thing is that finally women are realizing that you CAN break up after that. Sometimes they don’t realize it because of how manipulative the other person is.
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Jack O'reilly 2 years ago
wow, and I thought doing it at someone else's wedding was bad enough, but at a funeral? I'd have died of embarrassment.
Roland Nijveld 2 years ago
"but I felt obligated to say yes" People really need to start saying what they want and not say what the other wants to hear.
Marcellus II 2 years ago
By (for example) Scottish law your "yes" is a binding, verbal contract?
#7
It really puts you on the spot. I got stage fright and blacked out my spouse's entire proposal because we were being watched like a play. And the script said I had to say yes
Weasel Wise 2 years ago
Cut, cut, cut! We have to do it again! She didn't cry like she was supposed to after he asked. Take two aaaaand....
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Anyone-for-tea? 2 years ago
The more I think about it, the more archaic it seems that a man has to propose to a woman. As if the woman is the passive party in all of this and it is the man’s decision ultimately. I feel as I’ve gotten older, it should be more of an agreement between both parties, that’s were they would like to take their relationship. Then, if you want the romantic proposal, agree to give whoever wants to surprise whom with that opportunity, but when you both know the answer already.
tw 72 2 years ago
Same with a huge, budget-busting wedding. Yeesh - put that $$ down on a house.
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#8
My stepdad proposed to my mom at her work in front of everyone, but he also CALLED THE LITTLE LOCAL NEWS STATION! She was so, so embarrassed. They have since divorced
#9
I was proposed to in Disneyland. Definitely a high pressure situation. I ignored my gut and said yes. To no one's surprise the relationship didn't last.
Kaitlyn Lindsay 2 years ago
I was also proposed to in Disneyland but thankfully my guy knew I wouldn't want a public scene. During the fireworks when no one was paying attention to the people he pulled me into a secluded spot in Ariel's grotto and got down on one knee.
#10
Not me, but I had a teacher once who went to Vegas with her boyfriend. He proposed in the chapel with the officiant or whatever at the altar and her entire family, whom he'd flown in. Even as a teenage dork, that seemed like unacceptably high pressure
Daniel Mattock 2 years ago
So hang on, this guy had already booked the wedding at the chapel before proposing?! Think he missed a vital step there
Pamela Blue 2 years ago
OMG! I can't think of anything worse. Anyone who says this is not manipulative is nuts. He made darned sure that she HAD to say yes. He planned and organized the damned wedding without even asking her first? WTF??
AK to LV 2 years ago
Plus not even taking into consideration what she would want for a wedding, skipping all the pre wedding and wedding stuff, not having one member of her family there for a 'wedding'. Guy is an idiot.
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Zoe Vokes 2 years ago
I guess he convinced her family that it would be romantic - surprising her with a wedding in Las Vegas (the most romantic wedding imaginable). Nobody thought that tricking her into getting married was self centred and rude. What if she had a dream wedding? An ideal wedding dress? Nope, it’s 100% his choice.
#11
My bf at the time proposed at my bday party in front of everyone...I felt that I had no option but to say yes even though he was manipulative and not a nice person. We broke up shortly after but it was not pleasant when everyone thought we were happily getting married. Privately in a public place like at dinner or something could be very thoughtful but not public as in everyone is watching you
Lambda Omegamoo 2 years ago
They don't usually show their true colors right away. Most of the time, it is one or two red flags once in awhile. Many narcissists take their time. Imagine being like Cindy Brady learning what red flags even are.
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Not quite a proposal, but when I was a new student my senior year of high school, a guy who I'd known for a week asked me to homecoming at a pep rally in front of our school of ~1,200 students. After he sang the national anthem, he gave a speech about how he’d recently been lucky enough to meet the person he’d been looking for his whole life, how he’d fallen in love at first sight, and how he couldn’t wait to spend the rest of his life getting to know…ME. He asked me to stand up, and everyone's heads turned to face me. I did, and he proceeded to ask me if I wanted to go to homecoming with him (which was like two months away??) It was mortifying and so embarrassing, and I ABSOLUTELY said yes due to the pressure and everyone’s expectations. Then he ran over to me and gave me two dozen roses (it was first period). All day everyone was coming up to me to talk about it and asking me how long we’d been dating. I kept telling people we barely knew each other. It was so awkward and embarrassing for me. I ended up saying no a week later
Mario Strada 2 years ago
Sound like one of those high school nightmares. I still get those, although I get more "I am the only server in a restaurant" dreams. I haven't waited tables for 30 years.
New Everywhere 2 years ago
Guaranteed he'll blame her for his poor dating life after she said no..."But I was a nice guy!"
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David Leick 2 years ago (edited)
Singing the national anthem first was a really nice touch. /s
#13
I was publicly proposed to in front of maybe 500 people during Christmas church service. I hate attention. We are divorced
Rosie Red 2 years ago
I was proposed to at the airport coming back from vacation. It lasted 2 years.
Zoe Vokes 2 years ago
And there were no romantic times during the vacation that were most suitable? No standing in front of a beautiful view? No happy moments as a couple to be spontaneous? No candlelit dinner?
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My ex proposed to me after I got off a plane…. In the f****n airport. Then got mad I didn’t kiss him.
It was so embarrassing…
9 animals and counting 2 years ago
My ex did the same but I landed at 1 am and the airport was deserted. Very happy marriage ensued until he had a psychotic break and lost his mind.
#15
I think it’s important to know the type of person that you are proposing too and definitely have a discussion about dream proposal. My ex proposed to me at Disneyland during the fireworks. I absolutely f*****g loved it and felt like an absolute f*****g princess. 10/10 would do it again
Kaitlyn Lindsay 2 years ago
Me too! Mine wasn't really public though because he pulled me into Ariel's grotto, which I'm glad bc I don'tvlike attention
Sheila Carty 2 years ago
I don't understand discussing the proposal. I've always thought it should be a surprise. Planning it just makes it seem like you're already engaged and this is just for show.
#16
I'd honestly be wondering if this was a man I want to marry. If he knew so little about me that he'd make a public production out of an intimate moment...yeah, no. Just no.
and_a_touch_of_the_’tism 2 years ago
Yep. My dad proposed on the side of a road in Massachusetts where they liked to walk. If I ever propose, I’m going to do it in private, probably somewhere pretty and botanical.
Disgruntled Pelican 2 years ago
My husband thought about proposing in public but knew neither of us wanted a fuss made so instead, he proposed at home with cupcakes from our favorite bakery in front of the Christmas lights. Intimate moments like this in a pretty/important place is magical.
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Pixie T 2 years ago
My partner and I went away for a weekend to celebrate 1 year together. I had a feeling she was going to propose and was on edge the whole day / evening hoping it wouldn't be in public. We got back to our hotel that night and she'd made a heart from rose petals and the ring was in the middle, then she'd written will you marry me in lipstick on the mirror. Obviously I said yes, I was worried for nothing. She knew me well enough to keep the proposal private
#17
My husband proposed in public but no-one apart from our friends saw. It was the last night at a festival and we were watching a big firework show. I looked round at him and he was on one knee. It was honestly amazing. If loads of people had seen in a restaurant or something then I'd have died.
and_a_touch_of_the_’tism 2 years ago
See, that’s not too bad, because even though it’s public, it’s not getting the attention of a lot of people. It also depends on the person getting proposed to.
#18
It was awful. My ex was all about attention on himself. I had driven hours to watch him perform at a college basketball event. I almost didn't go, but I got a lot of pressure from his sister to go watch him. It was a big crowd, and his family was all there. When the performance took a shift and I realized what was happening, I was so ready to bolt. I knew I was being filmed and everyone was watching. It was one of the worst moments of stage fright in my life. In hindsight, I should’ve realized that my feelings were not important to him and took that as a sign as to how the future would be with him. Later on, my family asked why I didn’t tell them how the proposal happened and I admitted it was because I was so embarrassed by the whole ordeal that I didn’t want to tell anyone. Anyway, he’s about to marry the woman he cheated on me with. And I have no doubt it’ll be just as much of a 'look at me' kind of event he loves. Oh, and the person who took and posted that awful public proposal video won’t take it down because it’s 'their most liked video ever.
Bored Potato 2 years ago
Wow. Violating personal boundaries for likes is an absolutely s****y thing to do.
Bo'owowo'uh 2 years ago
That's disgusting, and illegal since you didn't give consent to be filmed
#19
Public with a ton of people around is a big nope and would definitely make me have second thoughts. With that said, my now husband proposed downtown Milwaukee in a park when it was cold and raining. Not a soul around and it was beautiful 😃
Lambda Omegamoo 2 years ago (edited)
Same. Both my boyfriend and I absolutely Love rain, but he is also 6'10" with arthritic knees... and the kind of person that pushes through pain just to put a smile on my face. The ONLY thing that would make me upsetti when he proposes, is if he did the whole knee thing. We Besides, isn't the kneel a symbol that the stander is "above" the kneeled/ on a pedestal? We are equals, so the kneeling feels cringe to me.
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#20
Totally fine IF and only if: 1- the recipient has expressed they're okay with public proposals and would enjoy one, AND 2- both people have discussed marriage before, and the asker knows the recipient would say yes to a proposal. Anything other than that is a no-no. Also don't propose at any other even of personal significance (graduation, finishing a sport event, etc).
your friendly cyclops 2 years ago
look I've seen some videos where people propose at weddings like no its my day not urs
and_a_touch_of_the_’tism 2 years ago
Yeah it’s really tacky, with the possible exception if the married couple agree to it. I think it might be kinda cute then, like the bride tosses the flowers to the person and their SO proposes.
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pink_panda 2 years ago
I have no idea why someone would propose if they haven't even talked with their partner about whether they want to get married.
Lola Rogers 2 years ago
I agree that people should decide to whether they want to be married by discussing it together. What I don't understand is why once you've talked and decided to get married there is then this ritual of proposing marriage. If you've already decided to get married, then why 'propose' it?
#21
I don't like them. I think it's cringy and I feel bad for anyone that it happens to, unless they really wanted it that way.
I just don't understand why everything has to be videoed, and made a public event. Some things are ok to keep private.
#22
Not for me. I was proposed to in front of the castle at Disney and soooo many people were around us. I’m introverted as [hell] and would have loved more privacy for such an intimate moment. I felt like I had to say yes and be all omg gleeful, which isn’t me. The whole thing wasn’t me. She’s my ex now
#23
I was publicly proposed to — twice. I’m a massive extrovert and even then, it threw me off. I knew the proposals were likely to happen, but I had no clue it was going to happen in public. I can’t imagine how introverted people must feel when being proposed to in public
Jill Rhodry 2 years ago
If it's a public proposal that's not wanted a) they don't know you well enough, b) don't care and want the public adoration or c) it's downright manipulation.
#24
I always envisioned a private, intimate proposal to reflect my personality. I told my husband multiple times that I did not want a public proposal, especially not at a restaurant. However, he ended up proposing to me at a restaurant and invited our parents. It was hurtful because he completely disregarded everything I asked for, which wasn’t much to begin with. He said he didn’t think I would mind because he invited our families and because it was a restaurant we both enjoyed. It was several years ago, but I still get disappointed when I think about it
Ember 2 years ago
After completely disregarding your feelings on the matter, you still married him?
Syrah 2 years ago
Maybe they can ask for a divorce in public to even the playing field?
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Yvvie R 2 years ago
Ugh. On New Year’s Eve 1999 my idiotic boyfriend proposed on one knee in front of everyone including all my friends. I said yes because everyone was full of joy but didn’t want to marry him. We didn’t get married and I still look back and cringe that he put me on the spot like that.
Wysteria_Rose 2 years ago
"I know you didn't want this but I invited more people to be there to witness it, so that's better, right???"
#25
The only reason people propose publicly is cause they dont know the answer and want to use social pressure to force them to say yes to avoid a scene and humiliation. If someone proposed to me in public. Ild refuse. Cause how f*****g dare they attempt to use social pressure to force me to say yes to avoid causing a scene and embarrassment. And if they dont know me well enough to know my feelings on this, there is no way in hell ild marry them.
#26
It depends. My husband proposed to me on a bench in the middle of the city center where we used to live. We were out with our son (then 2), and we went to sit down so he could eat an apple. I don't think anyone noticed that there was a proposal going on. After I said yes, we did ask some Italian tourists to take a picture with the polaroid camera that my husband secretly brought along.
#27
Ours was in front of a ton of friends, after I'd been very clear about being ready to marry him if he ever felt ready himself. I loved and hated it. It felt like a special event, but I also was not excited to be photographed and be the center of attention. I knew based on his behavior that it was coming, but I still couldn't cope with that many eyes on me.
#28
Very, very much not my thing. I’m an introvert and hate being the center of attention among people I don’t know well, let alone a crowd of literal strangers. Being put on the spot like that sounds like a nightmare.
#29
If you are ready to propose marriage to someone, you either know them well enough to know if they are into public attention like that, or you dont know them well enough and shouldn't be proposing. If my partner were to propose infront of anyone but my kid, i might just drop dead. I hate having that kind of attention on me
Lisa Simpson 2 years ago
This! Know your partner before you propose (or don't). My husband and I agreed on not proposing because we both think it's cringy and unnecessary. But hey, to each their own...
Luuta 2 years ago (edited)
I proposed to my wife to be on her doorstep, BECAUSE it was so cheesy. She was at college at the time living in rented accommodation. As soon as the door opened I got down on one knee and blurted it out. No grand gestures, not even a ring. Did I know her well enough to do that? Actually, No. I just kept getting signals from her... Ask me or, or I'm not going to bother seeing you again, purpose, or we're over... It was all done very subtly, but it terrified me that I'd lose her. I wouldn't have said anything at any point if she hadn't given me these gentle nudges and we would probably not be in contact anymore, because I have low self esteem and couldn't and still can't imagine why anyone would want to know me, let alone date and then marry me. I think we had a lot of things in common regarding our childhoods and that meant we kind of came to know each other very well without words, but if you asked me a dozen questions about what she liked, I wouldn't have a clue.
Luuta 2 years ago (edited)
And we're still married 30 years later. We did have a rough patch because I wasn't used to living with anyone or even socialising, so it was a huge wrench and I had trouble adjusting, but I saw a therapist and got my head together. If you have to gaslight or emotionally blackmail or humiliate someone into accepting your proposal, there's something very wrong with the relationship. Relationships are private and personal, not to be put on display and used as a spectator sport.
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They're fine if the person proposing knows that the answer will be a yes and if the one being proposed to would be comfortable with it happening in a public settings. My husband proposed in the restaurant bar where we first met, I found it sweet that he specifically chose that place, it being public didn't bother me.
#31
They are so awkward and embarrassing for everyone involved. I don't want to be put on the spot in front of a crowd of strangers who are expecting me to say yes. I want to have a private and intimate moment with my partner where we can share our feelings and thoughts without any pressure or judgment. Public proposals are just a way for people to show off and seek attention. They don't respect the other person's feelings or preferences. Women who have been publicly proposed to, I feel sorry for you. You must have felt trapped and coerced into saying yes, even if you had doubts or wanted to say no. You deserve better than that.
#32
Personally not for it thankfully my husband never did but I remember a guy we were friends with did it as a joke at a shopping mall and I was mortified.
#33
I HATE IT. I had my 21st birthday party hijacked by a 'proposal.' We were already engaged, both our families knew, and we were just waiting for my ring to be finished. But I guess he wanted the whole thing made more public. The party was at a nightclub with easily a thousand people. We divorced almost as quickly as we married. All the photos from that night scream 'engagement party,' and I’m left with no untainted memories of my 21st birthday
#34
I was proposed to on stage before my favorite band played. I was too young to understand this at the time, but I should have trusted my gut and said no instead of worrying about how he might feel if I said no in front of all those people. In short, it ruined my night. I was expecting to see my favorite band perform, and ended up having a pit in my stomach and not enjoying the show at all. And we divorced three short years later (by my prompting, FWIW)
Strings 2 years ago
These all remind me of the video I saw of one proposal. In a mall, guy had like a whole mariachi band there. She didn't just say "no"... she grabbed (I believe) a ukulele from one of the band, and hit her beau over the head
SheamusFanFrom1987 2 years ago
She went Jeff Jarrett on him. Right response, I'd say XP
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In my personal experience, it put me in a bad spot, and I said yes when I probably would have said no otherwise. My parents were there, it was overcrowded, and there were multiple people proposing all around us. Looking back, I cringe at it all
OurLadyOfLunch 2 years ago
I need WAY more of this story. Why were there multiple proposals going on at once?
#36
I think it's super sweet as long as the proposer knows their partner loves public proposals and would love to have it happening to them, *and* both have discussed wanting to get married soon. People who put their SO on the spot is doing something manipulative, whether they intend to or not. I would personally not want to be proposed to in public.
#37
My experience? I wasn’t even a proposal. But gosh. Not my thing. I walked out. I don’t like to be put on spotlight.
#38
Friend's experience, she knew about it, helped in plan for it all, accepted the proposal and got the gifts and all. 2 years, they broke up and went on with other partners. So not really sure if I believe public proposals anymore.
What do you think ?
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
Looks like it's majority "no thanks" from the ladies, good to know.
Anne 2 years ago
I'd think it a bit of a red flag to be honest if someone likes the big public proposals. It's such an intimate moment, don't you want to hear what your loved one is saying, look in the eyes without sixty cameras pointing at you..
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TK 421 2 years ago
Someone I know from high school likes to do the knee drop to the women he’s dating as a prank. He’s still single.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
not surprised. One of my brothers had this disability. It took him a decade to stop doing it.
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morticia_b85 2 years ago
Been proposed to twice in my life. Public proposals are not good. Learn more about your partner and if you feel the person you're proposing to would say no...then don't propose. Simple. It's not romantic infront of a wagon load of strangers recording and photographing you. It's mortifying.
Ephemeral Mochi 2 years ago
We really need to un-normalize proposing in front of crowds or at special events.
JayWantsACat 2 years ago
To me, public proposals obviously seem to be less about the relationship and more about the spectacle. If you need an audience of (mostly) strangers to make you feel special about an actual special occasion, maybe you need to work on you first.
OmBoyGanesh 2 years ago (edited)
My partner and I were sitting in my family’s hotel lobby, enjoying the sun setting over the ocean as is our routine, talking about (his love of) Star Wars and my ideology that the Empire or Order were less harmful & evil than the presumed heroes. He quietly injected “will you marry me?” into the discussion. Very public with people moving about, yet he recognized this was a valuable question & answer that belonged solely to us. A moment that we could covet and remember forever. Much more meaningful & endearing than had he made a public spectacle.
Noelle R 2 years ago
I deflected a proposal. We were in my living room and I remember we weren't facing each other. He randomly asked me what type of diamonds I like, I immediately knew why he was asking but played dumb. Without turning toward him, I said that I don't like diamonds because of the blood diamond trade. Some time later, I played dumb again when he confessed that he'd been looking at diamond rings when he'd asked the question.
Annette Easton 2 years ago (edited)
I was proposed to in public, and I hated every moment of it. And it was kind of worse than just "in public". My best friend was coming in from out of town, she and I and some of my family were going out to a comedy/musical dinner theatre that kind of interactive. My now Ex lived also lived out of town and decided that he was going to come as well. I wasn't too happy about that because I'd been thinking about breaking it off for a while. Well not only did he propose at the dinner but he'd apparently arranged with the show to work it into the performance, so there was the cast singing a lovely song and a spotlight on me with him proposing. I was mortified. We'd had conversations about getting married and had agreed that we had some issues that had to be worked out before even considering taking that step and yet there he was, taking that step. In public. In a spotlight. With my best friend and family there. Where I couldn't say no. We did get married - and then divorced.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
Looks like it's majority "no thanks" from the ladies, good to know.
Anne 2 years ago
I'd think it a bit of a red flag to be honest if someone likes the big public proposals. It's such an intimate moment, don't you want to hear what your loved one is saying, look in the eyes without sixty cameras pointing at you..
Load More Replies... TK 421 2 years ago
Someone I know from high school likes to do the knee drop to the women he’s dating as a prank. He’s still single.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
not surprised. One of my brothers had this disability. It took him a decade to stop doing it.
Load More Replies... morticia_b85 2 years ago
Been proposed to twice in my life. Public proposals are not good. Learn more about your partner and if you feel the person you're proposing to would say no...then don't propose. Simple. It's not romantic infront of a wagon load of strangers recording and photographing you. It's mortifying.
Ephemeral Mochi 2 years ago
We really need to un-normalize proposing in front of crowds or at special events.
JayWantsACat 2 years ago
To me, public proposals obviously seem to be less about the relationship and more about the spectacle. If you need an audience of (mostly) strangers to make you feel special about an actual special occasion, maybe you need to work on you first.
OmBoyGanesh 2 years ago (edited)
My partner and I were sitting in my family’s hotel lobby, enjoying the sun setting over the ocean as is our routine, talking about (his love of) Star Wars and my ideology that the Empire or Order were less harmful & evil than the presumed heroes. He quietly injected “will you marry me?” into the discussion. Very public with people moving about, yet he recognized this was a valuable question & answer that belonged solely to us. A moment that we could covet and remember forever. Much more meaningful & endearing than had he made a public spectacle.
Noelle R 2 years ago
I deflected a proposal. We were in my living room and I remember we weren't facing each other. He randomly asked me what type of diamonds I like, I immediately knew why he was asking but played dumb. Without turning toward him, I said that I don't like diamonds because of the blood diamond trade. Some time later, I played dumb again when he confessed that he'd been looking at diamond rings when he'd asked the question.
Annette Easton 2 years ago (edited)
I was proposed to in public, and I hated every moment of it. And it was kind of worse than just "in public". My best friend was coming in from out of town, she and I and some of my family were going out to a comedy/musical dinner theatre that kind of interactive. My now Ex lived also lived out of town and decided that he was going to come as well. I wasn't too happy about that because I'd been thinking about breaking it off for a while. Well not only did he propose at the dinner but he'd apparently arranged with the show to work it into the performance, so there was the cast singing a lovely song and a spotlight on me with him proposing. I was mortified. We'd had conversations about getting married and had agreed that we had some issues that had to be worked out before even considering taking that step and yet there he was, taking that step. In public. In a spotlight. With my best friend and family there. Where I couldn't say no. We did get married - and then divorced.
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