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Bride Places Incomprehensible Demands On Her Best Friend Of 25 Years, Destroys Their Friendship
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Bride Places Incomprehensible Demands On Her Best Friend Of 25 Years, Destroys Their Friendship

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You’d think the mere fact that a friendship lasts 25 years can be a testament to mutual loyalty and respect.

But as the story of Mumsnet forum user Poshpaddington shows, numbers mean nothing. It’s how you treat each other that matters. And when her bestie’s wedding was approaching, the woman crossed too many lines.

From hair extensions to shoes and even a hotel room, as the bride’s list of demands grew longer and longer, so did Poshpaddington’s doubts about their relationship.

This woman was asked to be her best friend’s bridesmaid

Image credits: Jonathan Borba / pexels (not the actual photo)

But the role came with an ever-increasing set of demands

Image credits: X L / pexels (not the actual photo)

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Image credits: Valeria Boltneva / pexels (not the actual photo)

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Image credits: Poshpaddington

The relationship feels very much one-sided

It’s true, there’s a lot of pressure when it comes to organizing a wedding. The venue has to be beautiful, the music must hit all the right notes, and the photos have to come out sharp.

But reading the story, the bride still sounds excessive. You may have even asked yourself why the author of the post would accept such behavior in the first place.

Well, Dr. Stephen Betchen, who specializes in marriage and family therapy, says that many of us are in the position of being mistreated by (someone they consider to be) a friend.

Part of the reason might stem from our formative years. “If you tolerate friendship abuse, there’s a good chance your threshold for other types of abuse is high,” Betchen explains. If we have suffered from any form of abuse in our youth, we’re more at risk of seeking it out and staying in it as an adult.

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Also, “If you have a fear of being alone or of being on your own, you’re more likely to have trouble letting go of even the most negative person in your life,” the therapist adds.

Many people who have experienced loss or abandonment as kids hang on in an effort to cope with or repair a childhood loss.

Whatever the case might have been, the author of the post did bring up her worries about the preparation for the ceremony. If her bestie had valued the relationship as much as she did, most likely, they could have pivoted towards a new and better dynamic. But the bride repeatedly refused to empathize with her.

“True friendships are built on interdependence,” therapist Sam Louie writes. “It’s not one way but a relationship where both can rely on each other as needed. Healthy friends also do not exploit or manipulate others into always caring for their emotional needs.”

And people picked up on it. So it’s probably no surprise that many reactions to the post had a suggestion attached to them to not even attend the wedding.

Image credits: Gerard Barray / pexels (not the actual photo)

People who read the story have been absolutely appalled by the bride’s behavior

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Hi there! I am a Visual Editor at Bored Panda. My job is to ensure that all the articles are aesthetically pleasing. I get to work with a variety of topics ranging from all the relationship drama to lots and lots of memes and, my personal favorites, funny cute cats. When I am not perfecting the images, you can find me reading with a cup of matcha latte and a cat in my lap, taking photos (of my cat), getting lost in the forest, or simply cuddling with my cat... Did I mention that I love cats?

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lenka
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My god. Don't wait until the wedding is over. Drop her like a hotcake and run for the hills.

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Chez2202
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If that was me I’d be cancelling the room and getting a refund then I’d tell her to go f**k herself.

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Bexxxx
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There’s always at least one person claiming “fake” on literally every story that’s ever been posted to Reddit lol

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lenka
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My god. Don't wait until the wedding is over. Drop her like a hotcake and run for the hills.

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Chez2202
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If that was me I’d be cancelling the room and getting a refund then I’d tell her to go f**k herself.

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Bexxxx
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There’s always at least one person claiming “fake” on literally every story that’s ever been posted to Reddit lol

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