30 Times Brides Rightfully Called Out Their Bridesmaids For Ruining Their Weddings
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Your wedding is supposed to be the happiest day in your life. But with all the pressure for it to be perfect, stress and sleepless nights, things more often than not go sour. Blame it on the bad weather, lack of planning, mercury in retrograde, or bridesmaids… speaking of whom, that's who this post is really about.
You are probably familiar with the corner of Reddit called “Wedding Shaming” where people gather to roast failed weddings, from tacky dresses to indecent behavior. With 312k members, it’s Reddit’s destination to blow off that steam if you just returned from a wedding you’d much rather have missed. This time, brides are sharing the worst bridesmaid stories that happened during their weddings both on the subreddit and this Ask Reddit thread.
The stories below make you wonder how important it is to choose your close friends and family members so you don’t end up with a stolen spotlight and a bad memory.
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Bridesmaid/Sil From Hell From Dear Prudence
Clearly 20 year old sister has serious mental issues. It's not even funny. It wouldn't even be funny on Halloween.
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I’ve never visibly and audibly gasped at a bored panda post as much as i just did, jesus christ help me. what a psychopath. and the parents!! ‘she’s just edgy’ wtf! did they laugh?? that’s f*****g disgusting
I came here to say the exact same thing. My jaw actually dropped. What a thing to do.
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Someone who comes from a toxic family, clearly favored over the other sibling, and likely to have a personality disorder (anti-social, narcisst, borderline, etc). It sounds to me that the uninvited sister has been allowed to act this way, too long. I see a pattern of bullying. Does this sound about right?
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I can’t even find any way to explain why a person would do such a thing. I’ve tried. The only explanation I can create is she must be suffering mentally. That’s actually horrific, honestly.
Says a lot about his side of the family. Shame he had to find out this way. Still, on the plus side, it’ll cut the cost of the wedding by 50%. Always a silver lining 😉
Be edgy if you want to get a reaction. Don't act shocked when the reaction hits harder than your shitty joke, though.
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My toe, that is such a cruel thing to do. Just disinvite the whole lot that thinks it's just a "prank." A death of a close one is very much devastating. I lost mu daughter when she was only 31. I will never forget and and it hurts to this day 7 years later!
I am so sorry for your loss. I hope that time will help ease your pain.
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Sister obviously did not think much less care that she would hurt feelings by her supposed "prank". Not funny. Especially that her only response was "it's not like it's her actual sister". I mean this is rises way beyond bullying to cruelty and the fact she doesn't see that is a huge red flag. Her family justifying her behavior is ridiculous. She has somehow gotten everyone but op convinced she did nothing wrong. As it's been said, I think she legit may have some mental health issues that make her feel this was warranted but I don't care how much you don't like someone you don't do this. TL/DR: Sister is AH, OP is NTA.
I think she did care about hurting feelings. She WANTED to hurt her.
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This groom is truly steppig up. He should continue going with his gut. His wife will thank him for it for years.
I'm always blown away by how often the parents or extended family take the side of the a*****e in these stories. I don't get how shitty your parents have to be to tell YOU to get over it. If I were her father I would tell her she should skip this wedding as a sign of respect and contrition for the horrible, despicable, unempathetic piece of s**t thing she did.
She’s just a dumb kid? SHES FRICKEN 20!!!!! Her a*s should know better. She needs help, for real, and the parents suck for enabling her!
came here to say this. 20 years old is NOT a f****n kid.
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And her parents, "You know she likes to be edgy..." For starters that's not edgy, it's tasteless and mean. And the reason she keeps acting like that is because they allow her to.
At least Cinderella's stepsisters didn't mock others about their sister's death.
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If the groom’s side of the family can’t see what’s wrong with what his sister did, it’s safe to just uninvite them all.
This woman is very odd. Obviously not quite right in the head. It‘s sooo unfunny that i believe, she wanted to hurt. She could fly to the moon, what would i care, but WHY is the whole family not going to the wedding?? Or am i misunderstanding something?They should buy that bloody woman‘s ticket to the moon!!! Betrayal!!
What? Are you asking why the OPs family was uninvited?? Because they were all supporting the sister with what she thought was a disgusting joke. They wanted the OP to just get over it because the sister is "edgy". So the entire family sided with the sister instead of the OP which is absolutely disturbing.
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Keep an eye on that sister. She has the casual cruelty of a serial killer
I would 💯agree with you. Your sister is not ten though her behavior clearly was. It was in such poor taste, insensitive and juvenile. Your fiance on the other hand ....pure class. Your sisters conduct is also a gross disrespect to her brother. If you don't put down Your boundaries now with your sister get ready for more of the same of your sister publicly shaming your fiance. She needs to grow the hell up. Dude stand your ground and move away if you can.
It seems to me like the sisters got some pretty serious mental and behavioral issues. Almost smells of Borderline. Clearly she has been able to behave in such a manner, as there seems to be zero consequences by her parents. If she would act that way at a bachelorette party, what in the hell is she going to do with the wedding?
😳she did what!? 🤦🏾♀️call me highly irrational, but I would've kicked her a*s if I was the fiance 🤷🏾♀️
If I were you I would be so ashamed of my sister and your family. You poor man! How bloody terrible for you and your intended. At. 20 years old your sister is NOT a child. She is a thoughtless B***H ! You stay with your opinion as you must be the only decent person in your family and you need to support your fiancée even if she says it’s OK, really, your right ! It’s not. Cash in your wedding plans and have a lovely, loving elopement. ❤️🌹
sadly, no one taught her about the consequences of her actions. good for you.
I hope this is fake story, because otherwise this guy has incredibly malicious, cruel sister and his family apparently isn't okay too. Who would make excuses for such a person?
I have to imagine it's legitimate. Slate has a pretty tight vetting process for the Dear Prudence column, and although a fake letter does make it through once in a while, they are usually aware of its inauthenticity, hint at it in the reply, and use it for instructive reasons. For example, the letter may be a work of fiction but the advice might still be useful and applicable to the broader audience so they will occasionally allow it as long as they are transparent about it.
Load More Replies... I remember this Prudie column from when it was first published and I audibly gasped at the skeleton revelation like I did just now when I read it again. It reminded me of Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka's Halloween party in 2011 where they served a meat platter, gruesomely displayed as a rotting human corpse, but they labeled it "Amy Winehouse". It was three months after her death. There are some things that are just not funny, nor kind or even necessary. These are two examples.
No cut her out of your wedding and life your family accepts doing nasty things and does not call her out she will continue her whole life
Let's normalize not standing up for toxic family members and stop making the people who stand up for their significant others the bad guy for setting up boundaries. That kind of behavior should never be tolerated so well done to this guy for standing his ground and speaking up for his fiance!
What the c**p is wrong with people? This was far out of the realm of funny, I don't know what to think. This is going to bother me for days. As much as I love my family, if this had happened to me there would be no fixing this ever. No amount of apologizing, no amount of money, or anything else could ever make it right or wipe the slate clean. If she asked for my forgiveness I would forgive her. But she'd have to take that and go on her merry way. If she never asked for forgiveness, I'd spend the rest of my life asking the Lord to ease my hard heart against my sister and pray for an answer.
Good riddance to bad rubbish! Good thing the trash (OP's family) took itself out!
Your sister needs mental help. That was not funny, cute or even Goth. That was designed to hurt you and your bride.. What makes it even sadder is the fact that your family is enabling her in her twisted behavior. I would NEVER trust her with a child or a pet.
There is a good side to this: your future in-laws are sane.
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I applaud you standing firm. I would at least not have the sis be a bridesmaid in the wedding anymore. She needs to learn that actions carry consequences. Though I applaud your bride for being so forgiving you definitely found a keeper.
The fact that your whole family is defending her is truly appalling. I would do exactly the same as you. Stand your ground! Your fiancee might be saying Let it go, but she it just trying to make you not stuck in the middle. I'm sure shes devastated by that. You are a great fiancee
You are absolutely, 100% right to stand firm on this. If your fiance wants to forgive, that's her right. She must have significantly more grace than I do. That doesn't mean you have to. There's some screwy stuff in your family dynamic. Some space between you and them will save you some angst in the future. Try not to vent to your fiance - she wants peace and you can give it to her.
I would've taken a step further and publicly disown the heartless brat. I'd say something like "I don't want the shame and dishonor of being related to someone like you, (sister's name). You are a cruel, heartless, cynical, entitled brat that should have been a miscarriage instead of plaguing this world with your awful presence." I may sound extreme, but unfortunately, that's exactly what I'd do.
Wow beyond bad taste. Who would even think up something so cruel besides like a serial killer.. I’d definitely no longer let her be a brides maid and if I did allow her to come I’d make her sit at the kids table to illustrate how childish she is.
This mentally ill young woman would be excused from being a bridesmaid and guest. Anyone who couldn't understand why her toxic behavior would not be tolerated, would join her on the disinvited list. Little "Lizzie" needs a psychiatrist/psychologist/therapist and in-patient care with medication.
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Stand up for yourself. I'm sorry that happened to you. Families that play favorites never change. You need to be your own hero sometimes.
What a b!tch!! Who would think of doing such a cruel thing?? She must have mental issues.
That was like a middle schooler trying to be funny! I'm glad that your fiance even said it was just a prank gone wrong because I'm sure inside she was crushed. If you or your fiance decide she can attend, I think she should only be a guest not part of the wedding party. If this is the hill you choose to die on, then stick to your guns. I don't think any of us would blame you but you do what's right for you and your fiance. You are not the AH so don't even worry about that part !
I...I...can't even. Why? Why would anyone DO something like this? This is one of the most horrible things I've ever heard.
It sounds like she’s been doing whatever she wants to her whole life, and you’ve finally had enough. Other people in your family may come to feel the same way you do after her next “prank.” Be open to reconciling with them. Because being under a narcissist’s thrall is a powerful thing, and that’s what this sounds like. Triangulation, gaslighting, etc. Do some research on narcissistic behavior and see if it sounds familiar (or borderline personality disorder, or even sociopathic tendencies, it’s all the same spectrum). My brother is a narcissist, and being in contact with him can be exhausting.
She's not a kid. She's 20 years old. She's the ahole! I wouldn't want her at the wedding even if she did apologize. I don't think she would mean it if she said it.
Let's assume for second that it was actually a prank gone wrong/bad assessment of how it would be taken. For the same of the argument let's assume that. But she isn't sorry. She said to get over it. That's not someone that deserves forgiveness
Sister is a stone cold b***h. She doesn’t deserve to be at the wedding
20 is plenty old enough to understand how insensitive that would be, so I don't see how anyone could say it was a childish joke. That's not a prank... It's cruel and wildly inappropriate. I think he's got a pretty sh*tty family for even suggesting he let it go.
Look I’m all for dark humour but Jesus Christ! Read the room first! And this isn’t even dark humour it’s just plain cruel!
I'll bet skeleton girl is a substance abuser. The legal & illegal drugs that are in play in the lives of many is astonishing.. A friend's daughter, on prescribed anti-depressants from her early teens, had had frequent mini-psychotic episodes by the time she was 21, including assaulting a police officer in a city street. It was destroying her life. She's fine now after being carefully weaned off all of the chemicals. It took a couple of years but now she a normal, sober girl whose family is getting to know her for the first time in years. And if a person on prescribed mind drugs also smokes pot or uses alcohol, then you have the potential for some dreadful, grotesque behaviour. All this talk of narcissism and personality disorder...can we first eliminate substance abuse/misuse as a cause of toxic conduct before going to mental illness? I believe that proper studies would show that generational drug & alcohol use are, in many cases, inseparable from narcissism and personality disorders.
this makes me so effing mad, op should fake their death than roll in on a wheelchair w/ a skeleton on their lap. but im just petty like that
What an evil and disgusting person! I would never want to talk to my sister again if she was that cruel. Like she willingly planned that out, spent money on it, and isn't even sorry that she hurt people's feelings. She knew not a single person would enjoy the stunt and happily did it. F*** her and the family members standing with her.
OMG, what a horrible thing to do! I cannot believe anybody would say, gee, it's just a joke. Stand firm, you are right.
My sister passed away 7 years ago. If someone did this to me, I'm fairly sure I'd have wiped the floor with them, then I'd have said, "I'm only having a little bit of fun". What an absolute b***h!
NTA don't forgive her or let your sister come, stay firm, that's in very bad taste
OMSTARS! kick them All to the curb! just imagine the trouble they would bring to the wedding! smdh
What some people do is leave an empty seat for loved ones that have died.
let me preface this by saying i realize most people aren't like me. that being said: i would cut off every single person that took her side, my parents included. i have no problem Xing people out of my life and not looking back. there are plenty of people who don't have parents or siblings or family, for a variety of reasons. i would be one of those people. my wife/hubby and any children we might have would build a happy, fulfilling life without any of them being in it. i'd block all of their numbers, block them on any and all social media, and proceed to live my life as if they all died. because, in my mind, they have. period.
The bride-to-be wasn't "forgiving" the sister; she was caving to the pressure from the groom's family because it was too much to bear. Luckily the groom is made of sterner stuff.
Oh my God & HELL NO! Do NOT back down from this... I'm gobsmacked & horrified... my heart actually hurts. Your sister is an obnoxious pig who needs to know there are consequences for doing something so unbelievably cruel & sadistic!
Your fiancée is the luckiest girl alive. Finding a person who will consider your feelings and emotional well-being more than some sh***y appearances of family at the wedding is extremely rare. How did you manage to become such a decent person after growing up in a family that obviously doesn't give a f*** for other people 's feelings? You're a great person. Thank you for giving your future wife, her family and people on the internet hope that there are still truely considerate people out there.
You are NOT the bad guy kid! Very proud of you for taking your fiancées side. It’s despicable what was done!
The sister should not be able to stand up with bride as a bridesmaid. She can attend the wedding only if she gives a heartfelt apology to your bride.
No. I wouldn't want her as a guest. Can't predict what her behavior might be. She probably doesn't even know what she may do. She's obviously mentally ill.
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There is no way I would let this go. Can you imagine what this spoiled brat would do throughout their lives. I would sit my fiance down and say thank you for your live and understanding, however I cannot allow her to disrespect you and your family this way. This is a deal breaker for me and I would never forgive myself for allowing this to pass with no repercussions. Trust me, I love you way too much for this nonsense, and let it go. Your parents can attend it not as they wish. So can your sister if she is truly contrite when she apologizes to you, your fiance and her family.
Today... we CHOOSE our family. If your family sucks, find a new one. You honour your husbands sisters memory by standing strong, you give his sister the family support she needed when her memory was used in such a heartless disgusting way. Never apologise for that. Stand strong. If your sister does not give you and your husband to be, a PROPER apology, then goodbye to her and whoever supports her.
Tarryn, (lovely name by the way), it's the groom's sister who was acting maniacal.
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This is not a joke. My stomach turned reading this. How can one be so vile!
You can tell you are the bad guy if your sibling doesn't want you at their wedding and you haven't apologized for such a horrible action.
Honestly what she did is terrible. If you do allow her to come to the wedding you should remove her as her maidly duties and she is just a simple guest with no special treatment.
Your sister is an incredible douche. That was the most thoughtless thing that she could have done. I say stick to your guns, if she ever offers a true heartfelt apology then I would reconsider but it doesn't sound like she is mature enough to do that. You are not out of line, she is just an a$$.
Drag her a$$ to an "intervention" and break her down by explaining all the ways her behavior has hurt you! Then, maybe, they'll be healing between family before the union.
To find out more about what it means to be a perfect bridesmaid and how common drama during wedding preparation is, as well as how to avoid it, Bored Panda spoke with the person who knows it all: Jen Glantz, the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire and The Newlywed Card Game, a 3x best-selling author, a voice of You’re Not Getting Any Younger podcast, and the brains behind Jen & Juice coaching, digital courses, & the Pick-Me-Up newsletter.
Glantz said that while we might think there's unity and peace inside of bridal parties, they are actually filled with conflict and drama. “That's because weddings are filled with decisions, pop-up challenges, and a lot of emotions. When you bring your friends and family into that equation and ask them to stand by your side, while also giving them a to-do list of things you expect them to do during your wedding adventure, it can bring a level of intensity that didn't exist before the wedding within that relationship,” she explained.
She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride
Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?
There Is A Whole Lot To Unpack Here
A lot of conflicts happen because of lack of communication and expectations, Glantz argues. “So much can be avoided if the person getting married clearly states what they want from their bridal party and the people in the bridal party openly share what they are able and willing to do before the wedding process even starts.”When asked about what it takes to be the perfect bridesmaid for the bride, Glantz said it's so much like being a good friend. “Before you even say yes to being a bridesmaid, have a game plan in mind,” she said.
Shaming My Bridesmaid For Shaming My Eating Habits
Fun fact: people who make negative comments on other people's eating habits are less likely to die of natural causes!
Time To Fire The Bridesmaid
A Perfect Time To Propose (Bridesmaid's Friend's Wedding)
Glantz’s advice is to reflect on a couple of things: “Understand how much time, money, and energy you can spend on this person's wedding adventure. Say no to things you can't afford or can't do. Be upfront and don't be scared to be honest about your expectations in the role.” Moreover, Glantz argues that “if the person getting married gets mad at you because you can't afford to take three days off work and spend $1,500 on her bachelorette party, then the friendship has bigger issues.”
With Friends Like These Who Needs Enemies 😬
My Sister Is Getting Married. This Is The Dress One Of Her Bridesmaids Bought
Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?
So either an attention seeking prat or the MOH knew the husband better than the bride thought…
“Also, as a bridesmaid, it's important to practice some selflessness in the tough moments. Be there for the person getting married and support them. Let things go that don't really matter so you can help your friend get through the wedding. For example, if you're getting your hair done on the morning of the wedding but it's not perfect, rather than holding up the wedding timeline for you to get it re-done and bringing attention to it (which can stress the bride out), fix it privately yourself and move on,” the life coach and Bridesmaid for Hire explained.
Oh Dear, Oh Dear! Seen On Facebook!
Drop her. A "first met" date in comparison to a wedding is like a candle to the sun. It. Is. Not. Her. Day. It is YOURS!
Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?
I’m surprised there was a friendship in the first place…or did the new guy turn her into this monster? Huge red flag.
Oh God. Found On Fb. Even Matching Pearls!
When it comes to deciding who you want to have as a bridesmaid, Glantz suggests thinking about this: “who would you want to get stuck in an elevator with for 4 hours? Those are the people who should be your bridesmaids. Pick people who make you feel calm and loved.” She added that it’s not a good idea to pick people because you feel obligated to.
For the bride who feels very pressured to have the most perfect day in their life, Glantz reminds that no wedding is perfect, just like no day in your life is. “Instead, think about practicing ways to go with the flow, handle emotions, and rebalance expectations before your big day comes to life.”
Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?
Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?
I’ll try to keep this short. My supposed best friend “E” was a toxic friend but I was still in the 16yr friendship at the time of my wedding, urgh.
I didn’t want a hen do & my hubby didn’t want a stagger so we just had a wee pre-wedding party, it was just cheesey good natured fun including games and stuff. I totally understand that’s not everyone’s idea of fun but, y’know... it was our wedding. She sat apart from us all, audibly making fun of everything we did but I just ignored her because she was always nasty & insufferably ‘cool’ & I didn’t want drama when my sister had organised it & we were having fun.
“E” has stretched ear lobes so I asked her if she wouldn’t mind wearing flesh coloured plugs and earrings to match the other girls. She said yes but on the day she said she’d lost the plugs I’d bought her and had in obnoxiously large black things that really drew your eye but I’m not a maniac, these things happen & I didn’t really care that much.... until I found out she’d been making fun of how she loved throwing the plugs in the bin and that I’m such an idiot, I’d believe her. Why wouldn’t I since I’d only asked her to do it for me as a favour because I liked the earring I bought my bridesmaids, I would never demand someone change their appearance for me.
On my wedding day, she waltzed into breakfast at the venue in her pyjamas with a bucket, claiming she had a migraine and was going to be spewing all day. I knew she was faking because it’s nearly impossible to fake a full on migraine while you’re walking about talking to people & laughing. I suggested that she can go lie down in one of the bedrooms but she aggressively said “I guess I’ll just have to deal with it but I’ll need to have a bucket at the ceremony”. My sister told her that wasn’t an acceptable option and if she needed to go home that could be arranged for her but she didn’t go home nor show any further signs of a migraine. She was snippy for the whole rest of the day & made a scene on the dance floor at night by doing an unplanned choreographed dance with her new friend to a song that we used to dance to when we went out at weekends as kids. It was a kick in the teeth although I was too happy to get upset. Our friendship was never the same after that day & she ended up finishing the friendship in a storm of drama just after I had my first kid. She’s an awful person.
I had a friend like that. Got mad at me for getting married and even worse after I had a kid because "I wasn't hanging out with her anymore." Life happens and it's not up to me to help you find your happiness.
Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?
She may have been embarrassed that she left things too late, or perhaps couldn’t afford them, but this is still a terrible way to treat people. But then why tell other people not to come? There has to be more to this…
“In the end, you're celebrating a new step you're taking in your relationship. That's all that matters. If the flowers don't look right or a bridesmaid is causing drama, let it go, focus on the good, and have a good time. You staying present and celebrating the good will outshine what goes wrong on your wedding day,” the life coach concluded.
Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?
I was pretty young when I got married, got engaged my senior year of college and got married the summer out of college. We’re in the South, so it’s not uncommon for that to happen.
Had a bridesmaid who had been a somewhat close friend. Her boyfriend (of 6 months, but they “had known each other for longer”) had not proposed to her yet, and she would consistently take her frustration about that out on me. Saying things like how they “deserve” to get married first since they knew each other longer than my now husband and I (which, I might add was false), saying nasty, damning with faint praise things to me. Insulting my body, insulting me in general, little caustic comments that would just hurt honestly. It got really out of hand. She finally stopped talking to me and would purposely leave me out of things that our friend group would do. She was a very homely type of person, and a big part of a Church crowd which made things so much worse imo. She constantly acted holier than thou and many people saw her “innocence” as kindness and assumed she was nice just because she was Churchy.
About a month or so later, I confronted her about it. I told her that I felt like our friendship was dwindling and I didn’t understand why. I told her how I felt and that if it was something I had done that I’d do my best to amend it. She flipped out saying “she wasn’t jealous but she just knew what was right and wrong”, inferring that her relationship was “better” somehow. It was absolutely mad. I asked her if she even wanted to be in the wedding at this point. She said she did, she really did and never even apologized. Looking back on this situation I should’ve never asked her in the first place. She suddenly went cold-Turkey ignoring me. I finally asked if she and I could talk and she acquiesced. I “fired” her from being a bridesmaid. I felt horrible about it. I truly did. At the same time, I couldn’t handle all the straight up bullying I was taking. I never once yelled at her, never once called her any names. She told everyone I yelled at her and called her a b***h. 😂 Even if I had, that would’ve been nothing compared to the s**t I endured from her.
My other bridesmaids were amazing and really took my side on this. She finally got engaged and married to that dude and I hope she’s happy now. Jesus she made my life miserable for a solid 6 months.
tl;dr lesson - if you choose to have bridesmaids, pick only the people you know you’ll be close to for years to come. And don’t let people bully you!
Groom’s Sister Is Told Prior To Wedding That Her Dress Choice Is Inappropriate. Sister Replies She Will Never Speak To Her Brother Again If He Goes Through With The Wedding. She Is Uninvited From Wedding, Then Shows Up To Wedding In This Off-White Cocktail Dress.
change the color by pouring champagne all over her. problem solved. (have her pay for the wasted bubbly).
Shaming Bridesmaid
I don’t think I’d mind having a good boy at my wedding or in the pictures…but I’d definitely like to know about it in advance.
Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?
Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?
I chose my sisters, which was the biggest mistake.
They fought me on every single decision when it came to the dress. Everyone they chose looked too casual or was very inappropriate for a wedding (think either a faux leather peplum dress from Guess, or a casual Wilfred dress from Aritzia). After I searched for weeks online and at stores, they finally agreed on one from Nordstrom which I had to order and take care of. They fought me on any "duties" or helping with any sort of prep. They showed up for 4 hours the day before. Argued on any placement of decorations and took off after I begged everyone to do a short rehearsal. Even though I told them I needed help. (Keep in mind they did not have to travel for the wedding, my husband and I arranged it so WE were the only ones who had to travel far). No bridal shower, no bachelorette party. They claimed they were too busy. A friend offered to throw one and they told her no, they would plan one...they never did. Two nights before the wedding, I told them I booked reservations for us and my mom at a local pub just to have something. I ended up having to cancel because they didn't want too. (My mom enabled and justified a lot of their behavior. And she wonders why I felt like they were the favourites growing up). The day of they did not help me at all get ready at all. My photographers were amazing who did everything from help me finish my hair and make up
(they even ran out to get me new lashes because mine got wrecked) and get me into my dress. And, at the reception, they made a toast...which was so awkward. It was basically about who should have been the maid of honour and basically being all about them. I remember looking out and peoples faces were just cringing. At the end I just focused on having fun the rest of the night and ignoring them.
Looking back, I should have not had them. I came pretty close to having a bridezilla moment, because I was just so fed up. All they did was go dress shopping with me once, they went out one afternoon to look for bridesmaid dresses which they didn't find any, I had too. They showed up a the hall for 4 hours to set up, and they showed up at the wedding. That was it. Anything additional I asked, I got told no. Or, any plans I tried to make to have a bit of fun before I was told no. I had a couple friends who step up big time the weeks before, and I felt so shitty because I should have asked them.
You would not have been a bridezilla even if you would have blown up!
Shaming Bridesmaid
A Mean Bridesmaid Picked It Apart Before The Bride Could See It. This Is The Only Pic I Took
Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?
I chose my best friend of 16 years to be my maid of honor. Big mistake on my part as she has a strong personality, can be very controlling, and is studying to be a lawyer, so she believes she can never be wrong.
About 4 months ago, my fiancé and I were thinking it over and decided it’d be cheaper and easier to just have a backyard wedding to save some money, as we were due to spend at least $16k at our current venue. I told my MOH about it, thinking she’d be supportive, but instead she just s**t all over the idea. She called it trashy and a “glorified graduation party”.
Thinking it would do no harm I asked her mom if it’d be a possibility for us to have the wedding in her backyard. Due to liability reasons she declined. The next day my MOH confronts me and calls me a sh**ty person and selfish for going behind her back and asking her mom. They don’t have the best relationship, but they still talk every now and then and I really thought it wouldn’t be an issue. I apologized over and over to my friend, while she repeatedly told me I was stupid and didn’t know how to use my f*****g brain and didn’t know what I was doing. I finally ended the conversation by basically kicking her out of the wedding party.
We’re now getting married in 3 months on the beach in Florida, with a small set of close friends and family. Either my friend doesn’t know, or she does and hasn’t bothered to confront me about it. I’ve only spoken to her once since our fight a few months ago - to wish her a happy birthday and she was a complete d**k to me. Sad to say I lost one of my best friends over my own wedding, because I didn’t agree with her.
And she called me the selfish one...
I do think it was weird for you to bypass her and ask her mother if you could use her backyard.
Bridesmaidzilla Can't Accept She's Not Moh, Insists Bride Is Lying About Her Relationship With Real Moh And Thinks It's Because She's "Hot".
Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?
I don't see a problem with this.. What happened to the bride's family? Her parents or siblings if any? The other bridesmaid was married. Married folks always sleep with their spouses? Single friends definitely can have a sleepover with the bride. But can't be expected the same from married people if the spouse is present right there! MOH was kinda shitty by having affair with photographer, but the other bridesmaid isn't at fault.
Brides Who Had Horrible Bridesmaids, What Happened?
I’m starting to wonder on what basis people choose their bridesmaids…
Laid Back Wedding In The Summer. The Bride Wore A Tank Top And Sarong. Her Friend Asked What Her Wedding Dress Would Be (And The Colors)
I don't think these comments are getting the issue is the bridesmaid turned up in the same outfit in the same colours after asking about it, not what the bride wanted to wear for her wedding
Groomsmen Plans To Propose At Bachelor/Ette Party. Group Is Split On Whether Or Not It's Okay. Comments Are All Bashing The Bride For Not Being Completely On Board. I Don't Think She's Wrong To Feel A Little Upset Though. What's Supposed To Be A Bach Party Is Going To Turn Into An Engagement Party!
as far as I know, its considered super rude to propose at someones wedding, i'm not positive that its the same for bachelor party, but I would assume that its still considered rude, as they are drawing the attention away from the couple, on what is supposed to be their day
Bride Needs To Find New Bridesmaids Asap
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I have a good nightmare bridesmaid story. It was at the wedding of a close relative. The woman in question got to be a bridesmaid because she was married to the Best Man (IIRC she made a fuss until she was asked) she wasn't especially close to the bride or groom herself. In fact they found her really annoying and tolerated her because she was the wife of a very good friend. I had made the wedding cake. I have also been fencing / demonstration sword fighting since I was about 15 and I have some nice swords. So brought one to cut the cake with style. The kids at the wedding were fascinated and I was letting them have their photo taken holding it under very close supervision. Cue the bridesmaid from hell coming over and trying to snatch the sword off one of the kids to have a go herself. I took it off her, and she had a tantrum because, "You'll let the kids hold it but not me and I am an adult." My response was, "There are three reasons for that. The kids asked first... 1/2
"...The kids listened to the safety briefing and didn't try to wave it about in a crowded marquee, and most importantly, the kids aren't steaming drunk before we've even got to the toasts." I spent the next hour (until the cake was cut) standing guard because she kept trying to steal the sword. After the cutting I locked it in my room. Fast forward to today. The bridesmaid from hell cheated on the Best Man (lovely chap who did not deserve that) and they are now divorced. The juiciest bit? All this time she has worked as one of Boris Johnson's "advisors" and she is now heavily implicated in the Partygate scandal. I shouldn't laugh. 2/2
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Some people just have a very shallow friendships. Almost every post is about it.
I just had my wedding in May. I am no longer friends with my maid of honor (and friend of 20 years) and my husband is no longer friends with any of his groomsman (also friends of 20 years). We learned they were literally bad mouthing us to our guest and friends during the wedding. They also got belligerently drunk and caused a scene,. My maid of honor takes the cake though by screaming “b***h a*s hoe!” At me in front of all my friends and family while my husband and I are waiting to do our grand exit. There was stuff leading up to the wedding as well, but to do what they did during the actual wedding was pretty despicable. We will now never be able to look back at our wedding photos without having those awful memories. It feels gross to even see her standing next me in the photos.
Renew your vows. Get a photographer and have a elaborate shoot and make it into a book. Send copies of the book to your loved friends and family. Send a middle finger to the as.s.hats and celebrate your love.
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Seriously, just don't invest thousands of dollars into a huge wedding. There is so much pressure for everything to be fairy-tale perfect and it won't be. You can't control everything but especially the weather and OTHER PEOPLE. I had a huge wedding first and a simple ceremony the second time around. You can have something beautiful with a small ceremony. Maybe in a beautiful public park or a swanky hotel, invite immediate family and/or a few of your closest friends. Nice dress but not wedding gown and no bridesmaids dresses to worry about. Hire a photographer and and officiant, and have a bouquet of flowers. Make reservations for a nice restaurant for everyone afterwards. Still spending a little money but not breaking the bank and because of the simplicity you won't be a nervous wreck.
I think that’s how weddings used to be. But now it’s become a billion dollar industry that the mentality is like everything else more more more. I want a simple dress for mine and to elope and have a great day afterwards. I don’t want to be stressed worrying about random s**t I don’t give a damn about.
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Apparently a lot of people don't know there friends until their getting married.
Will there be an article about groomsmen ruining the wedding for the grooms too? Reminds me of my husband who's groomsman was terrible.
It’s sad that the majority of people don’t know the basics of writing these days. I struggled to read through each one of these. I normally don’t complain because it’s usually just one out of every few posts that’s poorly written. But these were just all trash.
As a professional writer, I must agree with you. What happened to capitalization, Or to punctuation? Does sentence structure not mean anything anymore? I sometimes misspell words, or leave off letters at the end of a word: for example, "an" rather than "and". And for this I apologize. A neurological issue that formerly affected only my balance, is affecting other areas of my life. I do try. Which seems to be the case here.
Load More Replies... I have always wondered why the bridesmaids are expected to full on BUY their own dresses and shoes. Tux rental maybe, though it should still be in the wedding budget, but why ask a woman to put down hundreds of dollars on a dress she's only going to wear once. I know in an ideal world she could just say the role is out of her price range, but as we see here, so many interpersonal relationships would be ruined if she declined.
There are a number of places in this area (central MD) where you can donate formal clothing and they will loan them to poor income students/adults for prom or other occasions so they can go and have a good time.
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See this right here...this is why I eloped 21 years ago and have never regretted it. My family is large and full of drunken a-holes and I wasn't funding a kegger for them to beat the c**p out of each other. Save your money people! Go to your local courthouse have a nice little party after and invite people who actually care about you and your marriage. Don't start out your life together in debt. Use the money you'd spend on the wedding and put a down payment on a house. You'll have a much happier and healthier relationship in the long run.
My parents were married in their synagogue with just family, which was very small. They were married for 68 years when my dad dies. Fancy wedding does not equate to happy marriage, and vice versa.
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When my sisters bff got married she wanted to ask my sis to be MOH. But the brides mother wouldn't accept that. The MOB asked one of her own friends to be her daughters MOH. The friend accepted and neither of them would let her have any say in her own wedding. The girl didn't even really love the groom only accepted his proposal to be able to get away from her controlling mother. She was 19 and he was almost 30. Weirdest wedding I've ever been to.
I guess I'm the weird one, lol. My friend, who was a co-worker and the best man, proposed to his gf at my wedding reception. They stepped outside, then came back in about 10 minutes later. They both kept it VERY quiet until all the major events were done, then took me aside and broke the news, even apologizing for doing it that day. I was delighted! I even set up with our DJ to play their song and a low-key announcement. It just made the reception more fun.
Not my wedding but my youngest brother's. Now SIL is a really cool laid back personality to the point she really should stand up for herself as people sometimes walk all over her. Backstory, SIL had a small country themed wedding at an outdoor venue - think orange burlap and recycled compost flatware and plates, simple but very well executed. The bridesmaids had an earthy color pallet to choose from and the only strict condition was the girls had to go to a specific dress maker that was a family friend to get measure and decide on what style of dress they wanted. Day of the wedding, SIL forgot two batches of cupcakes in the freezer at home - brother and SIL went with homemade cupcakes instead of traditional wedding cake. My brother had to make an emergency trip back to their apartment which was an hour and a half away so he didn't know about the fiasco until it was too late, so don't get mad at him.
Cue the most ballsy ovaries I have ever seen/heard of. Bridesmaidzilla, lets call her Abby, had lost a significant amount of weight and had gotten a boob job - a jump from an A cup to a D cup - done from the time she was fitted for the dress and the wedding. So naturally when she put on the dress the day of the wedding it didn't fit well and this girl began to ball her eyes out and telling my SIL that she would not be seen in such an unflattering dress - especially now that she looked really good, mind you she lost the weight and got the boob job after the fitting and conveniently forgot to go back and get refitted. Abby is throwing this woe is me fit two hours before SIL is suppose to walk down the aisle. SIL, the amazing saint that she is, actually sits down with Abby and tries to comfort her and tell her that the dress isn't that bad, but Abby digs her heels in and tells SIL that she needs to find someone else or come up with another dress as Abby will not be seen in that dress.
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I am SO glad to be solitary and single after reading all this...
I have a good girlfriend who has a lot of insecurity issues. When I got engaged she didn't talk to me for two weeks because she "had to process that you got engaged before me." At my bachelorette party she got drunk and spent the whole time making fun of me, trying to contradict me, and pointing out all of my most embarrassing stories from our shared past. I think she was trying to "prove" to the other women (whom she was jealous of) that we were so close that she knew me better than anyone else and could make fun of me without it bothering me. Then her boyfriend's wallet got stolen from their hotel the day of my wedding and she blamed me for recommending a "crappy hotel" (it was one of the nicest hotels in the area). We didn't talk for a long time after those displays of crazy...
I have a good nightmare bridesmaid story. It was at the wedding of a close relative. The woman in question got to be a bridesmaid because she was married to the Best Man (IIRC she made a fuss until she was asked) she wasn't especially close to the bride or groom herself. In fact they found her really annoying and tolerated her because she was the wife of a very good friend. I had made the wedding cake. I have also been fencing / demonstration sword fighting since I was about 15 and I have some nice swords. So brought one to cut the cake with style. The kids at the wedding were fascinated and I was letting them have their photo taken holding it under very close supervision. Cue the bridesmaid from hell coming over and trying to snatch the sword off one of the kids to have a go herself. I took it off her, and she had a tantrum because, "You'll let the kids hold it but not me and I am an adult." My response was, "There are three reasons for that. The kids asked first... 1/2
"...The kids listened to the safety briefing and didn't try to wave it about in a crowded marquee, and most importantly, the kids aren't steaming drunk before we've even got to the toasts." I spent the next hour (until the cake was cut) standing guard because she kept trying to steal the sword. After the cutting I locked it in my room. Fast forward to today. The bridesmaid from hell cheated on the Best Man (lovely chap who did not deserve that) and they are now divorced. The juiciest bit? All this time she has worked as one of Boris Johnson's "advisors" and she is now heavily implicated in the Partygate scandal. I shouldn't laugh. 2/2
Load More Replies... Some people just have a very shallow friendships. Almost every post is about it.
I just had my wedding in May. I am no longer friends with my maid of honor (and friend of 20 years) and my husband is no longer friends with any of his groomsman (also friends of 20 years). We learned they were literally bad mouthing us to our guest and friends during the wedding. They also got belligerently drunk and caused a scene,. My maid of honor takes the cake though by screaming “b***h a*s hoe!” At me in front of all my friends and family while my husband and I are waiting to do our grand exit. There was stuff leading up to the wedding as well, but to do what they did during the actual wedding was pretty despicable. We will now never be able to look back at our wedding photos without having those awful memories. It feels gross to even see her standing next me in the photos.
Renew your vows. Get a photographer and have a elaborate shoot and make it into a book. Send copies of the book to your loved friends and family. Send a middle finger to the as.s.hats and celebrate your love.
Load More Replies... Seriously, just don't invest thousands of dollars into a huge wedding. There is so much pressure for everything to be fairy-tale perfect and it won't be. You can't control everything but especially the weather and OTHER PEOPLE. I had a huge wedding first and a simple ceremony the second time around. You can have something beautiful with a small ceremony. Maybe in a beautiful public park or a swanky hotel, invite immediate family and/or a few of your closest friends. Nice dress but not wedding gown and no bridesmaids dresses to worry about. Hire a photographer and and officiant, and have a bouquet of flowers. Make reservations for a nice restaurant for everyone afterwards. Still spending a little money but not breaking the bank and because of the simplicity you won't be a nervous wreck.
I think that’s how weddings used to be. But now it’s become a billion dollar industry that the mentality is like everything else more more more. I want a simple dress for mine and to elope and have a great day afterwards. I don’t want to be stressed worrying about random s**t I don’t give a damn about.
Load More Replies... Apparently a lot of people don't know there friends until their getting married.
Will there be an article about groomsmen ruining the wedding for the grooms too? Reminds me of my husband who's groomsman was terrible.
It’s sad that the majority of people don’t know the basics of writing these days. I struggled to read through each one of these. I normally don’t complain because it’s usually just one out of every few posts that’s poorly written. But these were just all trash.
As a professional writer, I must agree with you. What happened to capitalization, Or to punctuation? Does sentence structure not mean anything anymore? I sometimes misspell words, or leave off letters at the end of a word: for example, "an" rather than "and". And for this I apologize. A neurological issue that formerly affected only my balance, is affecting other areas of my life. I do try. Which seems to be the case here.
Load More Replies... I have always wondered why the bridesmaids are expected to full on BUY their own dresses and shoes. Tux rental maybe, though it should still be in the wedding budget, but why ask a woman to put down hundreds of dollars on a dress she's only going to wear once. I know in an ideal world she could just say the role is out of her price range, but as we see here, so many interpersonal relationships would be ruined if she declined.
There are a number of places in this area (central MD) where you can donate formal clothing and they will loan them to poor income students/adults for prom or other occasions so they can go and have a good time.
Load More Replies... See this right here...this is why I eloped 21 years ago and have never regretted it. My family is large and full of drunken a-holes and I wasn't funding a kegger for them to beat the c**p out of each other. Save your money people! Go to your local courthouse have a nice little party after and invite people who actually care about you and your marriage. Don't start out your life together in debt. Use the money you'd spend on the wedding and put a down payment on a house. You'll have a much happier and healthier relationship in the long run.
My parents were married in their synagogue with just family, which was very small. They were married for 68 years when my dad dies. Fancy wedding does not equate to happy marriage, and vice versa.
Load More Replies... When my sisters bff got married she wanted to ask my sis to be MOH. But the brides mother wouldn't accept that. The MOB asked one of her own friends to be her daughters MOH. The friend accepted and neither of them would let her have any say in her own wedding. The girl didn't even really love the groom only accepted his proposal to be able to get away from her controlling mother. She was 19 and he was almost 30. Weirdest wedding I've ever been to.
I guess I'm the weird one, lol. My friend, who was a co-worker and the best man, proposed to his gf at my wedding reception. They stepped outside, then came back in about 10 minutes later. They both kept it VERY quiet until all the major events were done, then took me aside and broke the news, even apologizing for doing it that day. I was delighted! I even set up with our DJ to play their song and a low-key announcement. It just made the reception more fun.
Not my wedding but my youngest brother's. Now SIL is a really cool laid back personality to the point she really should stand up for herself as people sometimes walk all over her. Backstory, SIL had a small country themed wedding at an outdoor venue - think orange burlap and recycled compost flatware and plates, simple but very well executed. The bridesmaids had an earthy color pallet to choose from and the only strict condition was the girls had to go to a specific dress maker that was a family friend to get measure and decide on what style of dress they wanted. Day of the wedding, SIL forgot two batches of cupcakes in the freezer at home - brother and SIL went with homemade cupcakes instead of traditional wedding cake. My brother had to make an emergency trip back to their apartment which was an hour and a half away so he didn't know about the fiasco until it was too late, so don't get mad at him.
Cue the most ballsy ovaries I have ever seen/heard of. Bridesmaidzilla, lets call her Abby, had lost a significant amount of weight and had gotten a boob job - a jump from an A cup to a D cup - done from the time she was fitted for the dress and the wedding. So naturally when she put on the dress the day of the wedding it didn't fit well and this girl began to ball her eyes out and telling my SIL that she would not be seen in such an unflattering dress - especially now that she looked really good, mind you she lost the weight and got the boob job after the fitting and conveniently forgot to go back and get refitted. Abby is throwing this woe is me fit two hours before SIL is suppose to walk down the aisle. SIL, the amazing saint that she is, actually sits down with Abby and tries to comfort her and tell her that the dress isn't that bad, but Abby digs her heels in and tells SIL that she needs to find someone else or come up with another dress as Abby will not be seen in that dress.
Load More Replies... I am SO glad to be solitary and single after reading all this...
I have a good girlfriend who has a lot of insecurity issues. When I got engaged she didn't talk to me for two weeks because she "had to process that you got engaged before me." At my bachelorette party she got drunk and spent the whole time making fun of me, trying to contradict me, and pointing out all of my most embarrassing stories from our shared past. I think she was trying to "prove" to the other women (whom she was jealous of) that we were so close that she knew me better than anyone else and could make fun of me without it bothering me. Then her boyfriend's wallet got stolen from their hotel the day of my wedding and she blamed me for recommending a "crappy hotel" (it was one of the nicest hotels in the area). We didn't talk for a long time after those displays of crazy...
