34 Millennials Share The Reality About How Mean Their Parents Have Become

I'm in this comment and I don't like it 😭😢

In regards to mortality and anxiety over it, take this to heart: If you stand with one leg in Yesterday and the other leg in Tomorrow, you p**s on Today. :)

And being a grumpy arsehole will change anything, or what's the logic?

Some of it is unwillingness to embrace change too. I see it with some people I know who are that age. "Can't do this anymore, moan moan moan!" Sure you can, you just do it on your phone or tablet, instead of going to a physical store. "Oh I don't want to do that!"

As an old person, yeah, no.

Very well stated. I relate to it strongly. Thank you.

Until about a year ago I used to be in severe pain 24/7. I was never rude or mean to anyone even though I would actually pass out from pain and exhaustion during the day. I know several other people that have become my friends that dealt with the same, occasional moodiness definitely happened but not anything like cutting contact with people or shouting at someone. Young people also experience loss and I don’t know anyone that took it out on others. I also don’t know many grandparents that are like this even though they’re probably in even more discomfort than our parents. I think it’s time we stop making excuses for older people.

You totally made that up. The only reason we get our phones out at all is to show off our photos.

Yes, this is my experience with my parents as well. A few years back my mother died from dementia and had serious personality changes. Now my father is going the same route. I am horrified and sad at the same time.

As my mother slid into dementia she got VERY mean and angry. Once she got past the point of argument and denial, she was nicer.

Very true! I'm experiencing the same thing.

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There's a so far unproven but still researched theory that this is connected to general satisfaction about the life they had in general and the level of fear they feel for death. People who are at peace with their life and feel at least some happiness and satisfaction about their life choices mellow out. The ones who mellow know they're going to die eventually and can deal with that fact. They've accepted it because they're more or less at the right point in life and have done mostly what they wanted to do in every given situation, even if it didn't turn out great all the time. The current (still inconclusive) research points to the possibility that they made their life choices based mostly on intrinsic factors. The research shows a tendencial connection between rage in older age and building your life choices on extrinsic factors and peer pressure. Those people seem to have followed a patt they believed was the right path, without actually thinking about their own preferences.

I wouldn't be surprised if those very same people flipped roles in a different environment with the right stimulus. That nice old couple become the rabid, rage monsters, and the grumpy old coots are the sweetest people you'd meet.

This is very well put. It's easy to be drawn in when you hadn't given these issues you're reading about any prior thought. It's your first and only exposure to the topic and becomes fact. It's really sad.

It's a big problem with the lack of genuine fact checking and "truth" on social media (god I hate that that sounds like I agree with Elon or Trump). I had an aunt who would see all the horrible stories that get passed around on Facebook and other social media and just assume they were true (because why would someone lie?) then she'd pass them onto my Mum who would sometimes pass them onto me. At which point I'd email her a link to Snopes debunking the story. After awhile my Mum realised that yeah most of the stories being forwarded were just scaremongering, but as far as I know my aunt never did. Not sure how you could clean up a platform where it's random people talking to each other, or even if you *should* do so. But there are times I think it'd have value running some sort of AI fact checker over every statement...

She sounds like a real pain to me. But I see where you're coming from.

I find that odd because I'm 73 and can easily see what is real and what isn't, and even if I can't, it doesn't take much research to find out the facts. At this point AI images are easy to spot - maybe not so much later on.

We have a "cease-fire" when I go over to my parents. My stipulation is NO NEWS being played and no political/religious conversations. My mom has turned into a MAGA nut and various ridiculous conspiracy stuff and it's just impossible to talk to her once she gets going. Thankfully the cease-fire usually works well but jeez... it's depressing seeing someone who taught me to be accepting of everyone become... opposite

Ditto my parents. From five pm til 10 just watching that garbage. They went from moderates to nut jobs. Very sad.

I feel as though I could have written this comment! I used to admire my mom so much- she was super smart, strong-minded, compassionate, very progressive (I can remember her excitement over the Mondale-Ferrarro ticket, and her subscription to Ms Magazine). Now she watches Fox News and doesn't even question the laughably outrageous things she sees there. It's like it's completely obliterated her critical thinking skills and I don't recognize her anymore.

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I watch Fox News Network. Greg Gutfield is my favorite! Oh, I also watch cnn and msn and the local news stations in my area. I'm very well informed!

I worked a few minimum wage jobs before joining the military, and it was never people Gen X or younger that gave me any trouble; the meanest, most entitled, most abusive customers were *always* boomers or older. The meltdowns I saw grown men and women having over the tiniest of things (my favorite example being a man in a suit, old enough to be my father, exploding when I told him where the main bathrooms were *before* the handicapped restrooms at the movie theatre) boggled my mind. On the flip side, younger people seemed embarrassed to take up any of my time, even if it was well within my job description and their request was entirely reasonable.

It's Def not that way in customer service. Younger people are by large more willing to just roll with it "Oh my coupon is expired, that sucks oh well!" But it always seemed older generations were the ones turning red in the face and screaming at the employees. Idk what to make of it, it's just my personal experience working with people.

Boomers bottle shît up and then blow up at someone they deem lesser than them, and then convince themselves that that’s somehow better than going to therapy.

I work as a cashier in a supermarket and the most entitled, rude and outright hostile people I meet are around boomer-age. Younger and really old people are usually more like “hey it’s fine, sorry for wasting your time” but when it’s a boomer they go “WHAT DO YOU MEAN MY COUPON IS EXPIRED I AM ONLY TWO DAYS LATE CALL YOUR BOSS RIGHT NOW GODDAMMIT YOU ARE TRYING TO SCAM ME” (yes this actually happened more than once and yesterday I was almost attacked by two older women because I didn’t allow them to walk away without paying for some products).

I was going to come in and say this, but you beat me to it. I'm 73, and I've never "had a go" at anyone if something doesn't go according to plan. I have a good sense of humour and can usually laugh it off (unless it's a deliberate and nasty person who is the issue.)

I think it all depends on Where you live, either City/Suburb of Small Town/Rural. These smaller communities, in my experience, tend to be friendlier and closer knit than those in bigger communities where neighbours tend to not even know or talk to one another. Therefore when things happen or go wrong, the smaller communities, who tend to know one another, neighbours step in with offers of help, or just show up and start helping etc, whereas the opposite tends to happen in the larger communities, nobody wants to get involved, looks away etc, because they don't know their neighbours and thus are very wary of them and reluctant to offer any help out of fear etc. Please note, this is just my Personal experience and from what I have also observed after spending years in many different size towns, villages, cities etc. I may be wrong, or just have been fortunate n living in the communities I have.

You’re the ideal example of what your entire generation should be like. Keep it up.

Good. Stay that way please.

My MIL is an amazing lady, the rare awesome Boomer. But pretty much everyone else in my family is the very definition of self-involved MAGA Boomer. There are some very awesome exceptions.