It’s that time of year when most people set New Year’s resolutions, resolving to break bad habits and form new ones that will hopefully see them become a better person, whether that be intellectually, emotionally, or physically.
One person turned to Reddit to ask netizens which habits are thought to be bad, but are actually good for you. Over a thousand people responded with some surprising answers. Here’s a list of some of the most fascinating.
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Being lazy from time to time. Sleeping in. Just doing nothing. There are so many "hustle" adds and posters everywhere. My GF and some of my friends fill so much their schedule that there is barely any time for rest or enjoying a book or a game or smth. Me, having pretty busy everyday life I always make sure to have atleast 10 or more hours a week to do nothing productive. Enjoy life, nature, friends, alone time, watch stupid videos, play games.
I have a really hard time with this. I was raised by “must always be productive, relaxing is unacceptable” parents, to put it mildly. I feel guilty doing self care. I found crochet helps a lot though. I can let myself watch tv and relax as long as I’m being “productive” and I don’t have to feel guilty, because hey, look, I made a scarf!
Social media is the main instigator of this. People see everyone else doing so much and having so,much fun that they almost treat it as a competition that they themselves must also accomplish as much or have as much "fun". Personally, on my days off, i have no problem setting my introveet butt on the couch and watch a movie or 2
I've always had "lazy bum" days, at least once a week, where I just lie around the house doing nothing productive. Just doing what I like to do at the time. Great way to shed off the stress of the work week.
It's my day off today and I'm currently having a "golden girls" binge watch!
Crying actually helps ease pain, physically and emotionally.
Very true, its always nice to just have a good cry and get all the emotions out.
And if you can't cry and get the negative emotions out that way, they'll still find their way out -- they'll just f*ck with you physically. I have a very hard time even forcing myself to cry, and the last time I went through a huge negative event, it turned into IBS and half my hair fell out. Fun times, but not.
Load More Replies...An emotional response is hardly a habit! If you are someone who cries easily, go for it. We all handle pressure and problems differently. Nothing wrong with a good cry (bar the tears make my face sore as I've got stupidly sensitive skin!).
Crying isn't always negative. It is simply a way of expressing all kinds of emotions including pain, sadness, anger, frustration, but also happiness, and some people will find something so nice or so beautiful that it is overwhelming. Crying is my default emotion. I cry at for all the reasons I've already mentioned and I also cry at movies, TV programmes, books, hormones and sometimes for no reason at all, but I rarely cry at funerals.
Years ago, I read that a study had been done on the chemical make up of tears. and they contain excess hormones/natural chemicals that the body creates and we interpret as emotion (e.g. adreneline). so they are one way that the body rids itself of excess
Swearing – Turns out, letting a few choice words fly is a great way to reduce stress and even dull pain. So really, you’re not cursing—you’re just practicing verbal therapy!
Believe it or not throwing a few F bombs does make you feel a bit better.
My friends laugh at me when I swear. Apparently, I can put together a string of words that just crack people up and I end up laughing too. Called someone an "absolute donkey whomper f**k brain" in traffic...hilarity ensued. It IS therapeutic. Still don't know what a donkey whomper is tho. Or any idea why that emerged from my mouth. Lol
What about saying "expletive deleted!" Does that fulfill the same function?
Yeah, but some people just need to learn how to do it appropriately and not randomly curse every other word for no reason.
Because it offends you? Why do other people need to change their ways to keep from offending you? Why don't you try to practice more tolerance? It's language, nothing more. This is a 2 way street; nobody needs to adjust themselves to protect your feelings. If you don't like it, that's on you.
Load More Replies...People who use substitute swear words are worse. It's too perfect. It's weird. Not real somehow. Btw. No, I don't swear around kid.
The reality is swearing is sometimes the only accurate word to express one's feelings.
Every single one of us is a creature of habit. We do things on auto-pilot all the time, whether it’s making our morning coffee, tying our shoelaces, or commuting to and from work. These automatic behaviors are our brain’s response to ‘the habit loop’, a concept popularized by Charles Duhigg in his book The Power of Habit.
According to Duhigg, every habit consists of three parts: the cue (the trigger that initiates the behavior), followed by the routine (the behavior itself), and then the reward (the benefit gained from the behavior). Recognizing this loop is crucial in modifying habits, whether they’re good or bad.
Shaking/vibrating your leg when you have to be sitting for a long time, gets the blood moving, better than being completely stationary for hours.
I mean I guess, but I would rather just go for a walk instead of having anxiety and/or stress.
Restless Leg Syndrome is not always caused by anxiety or stress. Even if it were, going for a walk is not a cure-all for it.
Load More Replies...When we play any table games and I have to wait until my next turn comes, I do tabletop drumming with my fingers, my form of fidgeting, as I am a pianist. It drives my wife nuts.
Hate that s**t when sitting in a meeting. Clam down for an hour, cause I don't want you beating on the table with your legs. You can go out and run and beat on all the s**t you want after
There's a lot of reasons people do this. Muscle twitches, skimming, subconscious movement, for example. It's just someone moving their legs. Your irritation may be valid to you, but you can't control everyone and that must make you super mad, too. You just can't control people like that, though.
Load More Replies...Yeah but if you do this although you spend your life stationary in front of a computer is considered 'weird' by the people with no brains.
Staying up late. Some people have different circadian rhythms and it makes evolutionary sense that in order for a population to thrive you couldn’t all be asleep at once.
I'm a night owl. I have more energy and my brain is more functional at night so I usually sleep from 3 am-7 am then nap til 11 after
Same, except I don't get to nap anymore. Waking up in the mornings is painful. No matter how tired I am later on, I get that burst of energy and awakeness at night.
Load More Replies...Yaps, I have 0 to NO energy in the early hours of the day. Like I'm becoming somehow functioning around 10 am, but most likely at 11 am. Dumbarse me, once accepted a job from 6 -14. The job itself I liked, the colleagues were good, but after roughly 3 months I was just a shell of myself. I couldn't adapt my biorhythm , simply not. I had to quit. But hey, from early afternoon till midnight I'm your man! Luckily I have a profession, what allows this ... I would be really miserable at the "normal" 9-17 jobs. To add: it's 2 am over here.
Also be aware that your circadian rhythms can change over the course of your life. I used to be a night owl and chose my professional path in part because of the late hours. But now I typically go to be around 9 and wake up by 5. My father is the exact opposite. He woke up before dawn until he was in his 60s. Now, at 98, he goes to bed about 2am.
I have a biphasic (aka 'natural') sleep pattern - common among mammals and non-industrial societies. One chunk early in the night, up for a couple hours, then another chunk in the morning. Total amount of actual sleep is 7-8 hours, but takes around 10-11 hours to achieve it. I just don't have 'unwinding time' in the late evening, I have it in the middle of the night.
I was working night shift for a while and really enjoyed it... Unfortunately i had to leave I live in Scotland and the lack of light in winter for very bad for my mental health. I had to settle for a 9-5 and sleep in until the last minute .
'For very bad for . . .' right, cause that makes sense.
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Taking a nap during lunch breaks.
Some look down on it but I get a lot of energy from it.
A 20-30 minute nap around midday (or midshift, if you do shift work) is actually recommended as part of healthy sleep habits, even if you're getting a good, solid 7-9 hours at night.
I've said for years that a ten minute nap during the day seems to do as much good as two hours at night.
Load More Replies...I love a good power nap. Ten or fifteen minutes and I feel totally refreshed.
In the UK if you work for more than 6 hours a day, you're entitled to an uninterrupted rest break of at least 20 minutes. All of the companies I worked for gave us an hour. It's nice to have the time to eat, relax, chat, go out for shopping or just a walk.
Load More Replies...In his article for Psychology Today, Judson Brewer (M.D., Ph.D.) writes that these 3 components show up every time we hit the vape pen, eat some candy, or check our social media feeds when we’re stressed. In fact, every time we reach out for something to appease ourselves, we consolidate the learning, and it eventually becomes automatic.
Deciding to end bad habits and create new ones isn’t simply a question of discipline. The concept of self-control has been disseminated for decades, even though researchers at Yale have demonstrated that the brain networks linked to self-control are the first to derail when faced with triggers such as stress.
Talking to yourself, although it can be taken as a sign of loneliness, also helps you concentrate and organize ideas, of course, without overdoing it.
I talk to myself and also my dog like he is a human. Pretty much all day long I talk to him about complex problems. Always thought I was just crazy.
I talk to my dog all the time. I love talking to him whilst we are out on our walks. People look at me funny sometimes but I don't care. I'm happy and my dog is happy
Load More Replies...I sing on my walk to school everyday, its quite nice and I enjoy doing it.
I like singing to all the songs playing overhead at the grocery store. I also like shopping alone.
Load More Replies...I do this a lot. I see other people talking to themselves. I don't pay them no mind because they're in their own world not bothering anyone.
I like to talk to myself. It is the only way I can have an intelligent conversation.
Of course I talk to myself. Sometimes I need professional advice.
"Without overdoing it"? Are you telling me I'm crazy if I talk to myself more than a certain percentage of the time? ('Of course not, he's not saying that, you're fine.' 'Okay thank you, I kinda felt personally attacked there. You're my best imaginary friend.' 'Aww, thank you -- you're my best real human friend.')
It can also help you to remember something. I often run through the next 2-3 items out loud on my to-do list so I'm less likely to forget what I'm doing.
Remember, talking to yourself is normal. Also, arguing with yourself can be normal. However, if you argue with yourself and lose? Then, you might have a problem.
Saying NO.
Although even if you say it in the most tactful and respectful way, many people will still think you're being rude just for saying it.
Load More Replies...100%. I've found that in most cases "No, thank you" is better but that, too, is a whole sentence and requires no further explanation or qualifications. And when "No" is the appropriate full sentence "No" is the only thing I"m going to say.
Load More Replies...This, I very need to learn how to do this. The only people I’ve ever been able to say no to are idiots that I know won’t do anything to me.
Same. We are so conditioned to bend to our parents every command. It's scary to say no to my mom. She gets really upset then comes back with a counter offer or more forceful way to make it impossible to not comply. Boomers are masters of manipulation, I swear.
Load More Replies...The picture and "saying no" reminds me of this "red zone" assembly thing we had in college about
Being less than 100% productive at work. Pacing yourself is important for mental and physical health.
I can do really well one day, and just not be doing well for the rest of the week. Being "inconsistent" is a running tradition in my reviews. But that's just being human. Trying to be more consistent has been getting me in more trouble, so now I don't push myself past my limit for the day. It's been working in a way where I'm getting in less trouble and getting better results at work.
In her article for Healthline, Ann Pietrangelo suggests a range of daily habits to add to your routine if you want to live a happier, healthier life. Some of these include smiling, exercising, getting plenty of sleep, eating with your mood in mind, breathing deeply, keeping a gratitude journal, and avoiding comparing yourself to others.
Pietrangelo goes on to list a variety of weekly, monthly, and yearly habits you could pick up to enhance your wellbeing. These include things like decluttering, making the effort to see friends, taking a break from your phone, taking yourself out for a meal or a movie, giving back through volunteering or babysitting for a friend, and reevaluating your goals.
Gaming (in moderation). Studies have shown it improves problem solving, critical thinking, multi tasking, decision making, hand-eye coordination, spatial awareness, memory, and concentration.
Those games are older than many of the readers here lol
Load More Replies...My partner will often play COD if he's had a super stressful day at work
From observing my daughter, the primary effect of gaming was to detract her from reading books. She grew up to a be a very illiterate adult.
Cutting people off.
This one needs some clarification, because that's just being rude whether it's driving or conversing.
Depends on why you were cut off. I can think of multiple examples where that would be acceptable in either occasion.
Load More Replies...I think it means going no contact with toxic people but the wording and photo could mean otherwise. Sticking your hand in someone's face mid-sentence and walking away would be quite bewildering.
Ignore BPs photo choices the majority of the time and focus on the words! I agree - no contact with toxic people for sure!
Load More Replies...Let's play "what do you think is happening in this photo?" Hahaha
People do this to me all the time, for many years. Even family. It's gotten to the point I've developed an inability to finish my sentences because I'm always expecting to get cut off. Then people get annoyed and call me rude because I'm stumbling on my words. If I cut off someone while they're talking they hate it. So I don't understand the double standard.
Pretty sure thats not what theyre talking about here. If you ignore the photo, its much more likely theyre talking about cutting toxic people out from your life
Load More Replies...Cutting toxic people out of your life is one of the best things you can do for the sake of your mental health.
Trusting your gut instinct. Saved my life and drastically improved my test scores time and time again.
My instincts are c**p. If I don't think it through, I almost always regret it
This is one of those things you notice when it helps but don't when it was superfluous.
It's also one of those things that people who had stable childhoods seem to think is universal. My most common issue is wondering how I'm supposed to feel.
Load More Replies...In tests, exams, and quizzes, don't talk yourself out of an answer unless you're positive that your initial instinct is definitely wrong.
Instinct is not much mare than a guess. Gut feelings are caused by one's emotions. Emotions vary from hour to hour. Making a decision on the hour of the day you feel great is just a 50/50 guess.
In his article for HelpGuide, Sheldon Reid writes that, rather on focusing on giving up an existing bad habit, it’s typically easier to replace it with a healthier one. This lets you use habit loops to your benefit - basically, you want your actions to be motivated by positive rewards rather than negative ones.
Although one popular myth suggests it takes around 21 days to form a new habit, research has revealed that an average time of 66 days is how long it takes for a new behavior to feel automatic. If you’re looking to break a bad habit, Reid suggests exploring your reasons for the behavior change, setting the right goals, and identifying the triggers of the bad habit.
Some people consider pacing a bad habit but it can help with thinking. Doing everything last minute is only a bad habit if you don't finish or get things done on time.
People with ADHD often require the stress to enable them to perform the task
Load More Replies...Doing everything last minute is a bad habit because you’re more likely to overlook something and make mistakes. For most professions, whether it be lawyers or doctors or financial advisors or teachers or or or..., I do NOT want someone who does everything last minute.
Oddly it works wonders with me, no time to hesitate or think twice or trying to improve something that doesn't need it.
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Not being friendly to everyone you meet makes sense; some people just aren't good to begin with.
But don't be a douchebag to others just because you are having a bad day
Don't take what a douchebag does personally, it will make you have a bad day.
Load More Replies...You should be civil with everyone you meet, until they give you reason not to be. And the best choice then is usually to walk away.
So simple yet so many people seem unable to master it. 99% of it is just saying "please," "thank you" or "excuse me." It really shouldn't be impossible for most.
Load More Replies...Being rude makes me feel bad. Kill em with kindness. You will ruin a dbag's day by being super nice then they will by being rude. One time a lady threw a 6 pack of Pepsi at my head when I used to work at Target because the ruder she was to me, the more sweet and chipper I became.
I love playing this tactic. I think of it as a version of 'gray rock' but more 'pink rock'.
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Cracking your knuckles. I do this all the time. It's completely harmless, but it can be really loud, which can annoy people, especially if you do it without thinking. You also end up having to deal with people saying "ItS bAd FoR yOuR fInGeRs!".
It isn't actually bad for you, it doesn't cause arthritis, and it releases pressure in the joints. Here's a article about it: https://www.medreport.foundation/post/to-crack-or-not-to-crack-debunking-knuckle-cracking-myths
Actually it is bad for you. But it's not the "crack" that's bad. The repetition is bad. And CAN cause rsi, but not arthritis. The "crack" is where you're popping air bubbles in the synovial joint fluid.
Load More Replies...I don’t know if it’s a me thing or what but whenever I crack my knuckles they don’t usually feel better, they feel the same and then I just end up cracking them more often.
What is bad for your knuckles is any repetitive motion. After 35 years of using a battery powered screw drill in my job, my index trigger finger has been twisted by arthritis.
How do you get your keyboard to alternate capitals like that. Mine doesn't work that way.
Okay, two things. 1) Here is an auto caps generator: https://caseconverter.tools/alternating-caps-generator/ for you in answer to your question BUT 2) It can be very, very hard to read for some people with certain sight problems. So please, please bear that in mind. One of my issues is that I get bad ghosting/shadows on words. For instance, when a number is the same digit repeated eg 333 - I can't always tell how many threes (or whatever number) there are. It also means that the (bloody irritating) alternating capitals text is hard for me to read. I worked for a charity helping blind and visually impaired people, many found it an issue or an irritant. If you do take that into consideration before using, thank you.
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Being picky. Learning to say no sometimes is a good habit and shows you know what you really want or need.
So, whether you’re in the habit of shopping online, texting your ex, or doomscrolling deep into the night, the good news is that, with some mindfulness and commitment, you can switch out these harmful behaviors and replace them with ones that give you an advantage in life.
Do you relate to any of the so-called bad habits in this list that are actually good for you? Upvote your favorites and leave a comment on the ones that resonate with you most!
Cleaning junkie. It helps. Therapeutic. Although looks obsessive from outside.
Procrastination.
You don't need to procrastinate. You can always wait and procrastinate tomorrow instead.
I’m currently procrastinating packing away the Christmas tree. Maybe I’ll just leave it up for next Christmas.
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Chewing gum. It reduces stress and improves your concentration.
It helps to loosen mine, especially when I've been clenching it from stress.
Load More Replies...So is it still a myth that my father told me about swallowing gum? That it does not get digested and will clog up your appendix and cause an appendicitis?
Not giving a tip just "because you have to and you have to feel bad if you dont give one".
Everyone should start boycotting restaurants that require tips. They should pay their employees a good wage instead of expecting the customers to pay their employees for them. Like, what's next, customers will be expected to cook their own food too?
Boycotting restaurants if the servers depend on tips would mean not eating at any restaurant, ever, in some parts of the world.
Load More Replies...Depends... If you're at a sit-down restaurant being served... Tip. If picking up take out... Your choice.
Also depends which country you are in. Some don't expect it and some actively dislike it. Check before travelling on these things. https://www.exoticca.com/uk/magazine/where-in-the-world-should-you-not-tip/
Load More Replies...I'll tip on good service or if I can afford it. Luckily, I don't live in the USA, and our waitstaff get paid an hourly wage, just below min wage, but not so drastically. I still maintain it's the restaurant's job to make sure their staff are paid fairly. It's like in the USA they want to make sure their waitstaff don't make enough money or over a certain amount, so they pay very low and make the waiters live off whatever change the customers toss at them. If waiter makes $30, $40, $100/hr on tips, all the power to them. They should be allowed that. That's not what I hear goes on the USA with large tips. But as a customer, I pay what's owed and any gratuity is a gratuity. I'm not responsible for any staff payroll. I don't figure their taxes and vacation pay. That's their boss's job. A customer tips in confidence that it will go to the person the tip intended for, but sometimes that's not the case. Also, in my region, I find if I tip for certain services I don't get treated well when I return, such as salons. The staff there get paid well and you pay the bill for the service they provide, anyways. I guess a tip comes off as insulting, as if you pity them or think they don't make enough money.
Look -- tipping sucks. It's a terrible tradition, and should be outlawed. (And I say this as someone who's worked several jobs where I got tips.) But if you don't tip, you're only screwing over people who make very little per hour (with a few minor exceptions), and the businesses couldn't care less if you don't tip their staff -- it has zero effect on them. So either tip, or don't go places where you know a tip is expected.
Ladies,and gentlemen, I present to you: The Problem!
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Working out (too hard), currently sitting around frustrated with a bombed out shoulder that probably because I wanted slightly better cardio.
Most of the time I’m able to do whatever I need to… until I’m not lol.
This is not a "bad habit" that's actually good for you. It's a bad habit that can injure you.
Going in the basement and breaking things. Good way to vent without having outburst to others and my cardboard box collection always fits in the recycling bin.
I mean as long as you’re breaking things that were already kind of broken or need to be broken (like a cardboard box), then go right ahead.
There have been studies which suggest that giving in to your anger does nothing to help it subside.
It can help to vent it out in a way that doesn't hurt anyone and can help stop doing things caused by holding it in, such as teeth grinding and snapping at people.
Load More Replies...We have "rage rooms" in the UK. Go in. Smash a bunch of stuff. And leave. :)
Fasting. so many idiots at my work say im damaging my body, ruining my metabolism or some nonsense
they remain ignorant of autophagy lol.
NO. In short, autophagy is cellular renewal due to metabolic changes your body experiences during fasting.
Load More Replies...Depends how long you fast for, if you fast for more than like a day or two at a time then its not the best for you.
By day 3 you will probably stop feeling hungry, and that can be very dangerous.
Load More Replies...If it works for you, great, do not force it on to others or call them ignorant. It is simply not for everybody.
He's not forcing it on anyone. Everyone else is forcing "don't fast" on him. Why do they get to force their views on him? Because that's what you're actually saying here
Load More Replies...Studies vary as to the effectiveness of fasting, but they tend towards showing well-managed intermittent fasting as providing overall health benefits. This *of course* has caveats, like any health advice. Nobody with current or historical eating disorders should be attempting to fast, and if you have underlying health conditions you should check with your doctor whether this will affect your medications or illnesses.
Load More Replies...Autophagy means that the cell dies and digest itself by a regulated manner (instead of falling apart, hence propagating inflammation). BTW, over 18 h fasting, the body starts to degrade proteins of the skeletal muscle to maintain normal blood glucose levels (we can make sugar out of amino acids but not from lipids), as some cell types and organs only consumes sugar (brain, lens, red blood cells, testis and a few more.)
One word .... Ramadan. My muslim colleague is in a different state of mind in that period. I find it stupid, but his choice, but it is freaking annoying, when he is not capable to work properly, because he is hungry as fck, and I have to do double work. Like, dude, your religious believes are fcking me up, and it is not okay!
That is just your work colleague. I grew up surrounded by Muslims who fast and on the whole, they are lovely people. You will always get the odd d******d in any community though.
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Never ever speaking to the police.
I agree, and it's weird to me that you were downvoted. Of course there are times when it's necessary to speak to the police.
Load More Replies...What? I think it depends on where you live. Not all police forces are as corrupt and uneducated as the US police.
Depends on if you are getting the policing done to help you. Police could not be corrupt at all and still nab an innocent person over misinformation.
Load More Replies...Even for basic interactions like if a street is closed where may I cross? etc. they've always been super rude and borderline aggressive to me. Here in the U.S. law enforcement see's you as a criminal as a default. Calling the cops for help is sure way to get arrested or detained till they sort out a clear cut situation. This is based numerous bizarre interactions with LEO's.
Multiple instances of police killing people sho had called 911 for help.
Load More Replies...Could be if you spoke to them once, you'd realize they are people just like you. Too many people don't like the police simply because they've been caught doing something they shouldn't be doing in the first place - and they know it.
Every cop I’ve known socially has been a sanctimonious a-hole with a superiority complex but ymmv.
Load More Replies...It's fine to do this in the UK , especially if you need help with directions for where you want to go. The UK cops are the most polite and helpful in the world, based on my experience as a student there for 6 years.
The UK is where ACAB started originally. I think youve just been lucky
Load More Replies...You can speak to them by telling them you are recording their actions and will pursue legal recourse if you do something wrong.
Do you mean 'if they do something wrong'? After all, lots of police wear body cams now, so if you do something wrong, they're probably recording you.
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