We often hear the notion that you should try everything at least once, especially when peer pressure comes into play. But it's not really valid, or healthy. Still, there's some expectation that people should just universally want to do some things that are considered 'milestones'.
Well, one user on Reddit was wondering what people absolutely refuse to try even once, aka their "anti-bucket list" items. There's no need to have an excuse not to do something - "No" is a full sentence - though these people still made some very valid and interesting points.
Maybe they're missing out on the hype, maybe they're protecting their sanity, but over 4k people shared their biggest 'nopes' in this thread, and Bored Panda selected the most popular answers. Scroll down and and let us know if you find these relatable, or maybe they are actually on your bucket list? Either way, don't forget to upvote your favorites, and make sure to share what you would never ever try in the comments below! And if you want to read more stories on a similar topic, here's our post on things people actually did, but would never do again.
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Having children. I'm not passing on my fibromyalgia or any of my sucky genes. I have my own under control very well, but I just can't put someone else through that. I refuse. Plus I'd rather have freedom, than take care of children. I don't hate them or anything, but mom life isn't for me. Neither is married life.
Climbing mount Everest. Too cold, not enough oxygen, too many dead bodies. I don't get why people feel the need to do it/try, but I sure don't, ESPECIALLY after watching Everest. Nope.
I’m glad I read this cause I was thinking I’d do this but this list changed my mind ;)
Cave-diving. Crawling through very small, dark spaces and chances of getting stuck and suffocating down there. With almost no way of calling for help, if u did it alone. Even if you were with someone there is still not much time to get help if you are stuck. No sir, I am never gonna do that.
Cigarettes. My grandfather passed away from lung cancer and was a heavy smoker back in the day. The fact that he didn't smoke for so long before he was diagnosed really shows how bad smoking is. The thought of cigarettes and even seeing others smoke repulses me and I never want to try one.
As an ex-smoker, I can say this to whoever feels like trying: don't. It's the stupidest vice ever. You'll be literally paying to slowly make yourself sick and possibly have a gruesome death. All just for a short stress/anxiety/boredom relief. Smoking will always hunt you. It is always lurking around your subconscious mind waiting for the right trigger to come back with full force. It will never leave you; you just learn to ignore it and replace it with something healthier. But it's there. I willingly paid for it to be there. My biggest regret. Get a hobby instead. Learn EFT or meditation or other ways to deal with stress and anxiety peaks. Thank you for reading my TED-talk. Merry Christmas!
Spelunking! I'm so claustrophobic that even thinking about being in a tight cave gives me the chills.
An open relationship.
Yup. I feel sorry for the horse back there that got dumped.
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I feel the same way. Totally cool with those that practice it but just not for me
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Hmmm, I'm struggling to see the difference, doesn't it eventually lead to the same place?
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If someone was able to steal you or your partner away from the relationship, how strong was it to begin with? I love my partner and I want to be with him, but I don’t own him and I don’t own his body. I ask that he be faithful emotionally and be respectful of me and our relationship, but otherwise I recognize his autonomy and independence. I want him to be with me because he chooses to be- not because I locked him down. But each couple has the right to decide what’s best for them.
I don’t think open relationships ever work out in the long term - sooner or later the green-eyed monster always raises its head
Not true at all. It's more common in queer, leftist and neurodivergent spaces but a lot of people are happy in polyamorous relationships and couldn't be monogamous if they wanted to. I myself just recently ended things with my boyfriend (not over polyamory - his mental health just wasn't in a good enough place for dating and it was mutual) with whom I had an open relationship and we had no problems with it. I myself didn't end up seeing anyone else while we were dating, but I liked the freedom I had to explore things if I wanted to. I have no idea if he saw anyone else, and I don't care at all. It didn't affect the way he treated me, if he was, and I have no interest in denying my partner something that makes them happy.
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Been there. Done that. All was great until the wife decided only HER side of the relationship was “open.”🙄
I'm genuinely sorry you had that experience. That's the cheater using "open" as a cheat code while still trying to control your availability, it happens far too often, and it smears the healthy open relationships that DO happen. I hope you are in better relationships now <3
Load More Replies... I would be interested in how many elderly poly families are kicking around? Poly sounds great when everyone’s junk is on fire and we need lots of external validation. What happens when sex becomes secondary or tertiary and we need someone to care for us as our health fails slowly over decades? Is there a poly chore wheel where we find out which partner is on adult diaper duty each day of the week? Dunno, not sure if poly folks have thought this one through sufficiently.
"What happens when sex becomes secondary or tertiary and we need someone to care for us as our health fails slowly over decades" Then you take care of each others like mono partners would. That's what you do when you love someone. Why would it be different?
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I have quite a few poly friends. They are all very happy and committed I'm their relationships. I almost got involved in one until the guy had to ask permission from the two other women.
I don't get this either. If you want to be involved with other people, then why be in a relationship at all?! I don't see the point of it.
Why not? You get all the perks of a loving relationship and more.
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I did try it, and there was *always* at least two or more deeply hurt and unhappy people, and at least one occassional random psychopath. No thank you.
Sounds so pointless...why BE in a relationship when you want to fool around with bunch of others? Don't get it.
It's definitely not for everyone, but I also don't understand the hate/anger/judgment some people have for those who choose to be in poly and/or open relationships. Like... it's not your relationship. Let people do them. Some people do really well in poly relationships and some don't and that's fine.
Imagine when people find out that people in open relationships, or other forms of polyamorous relationships, just *gasp* COMMUNICATE WITH THEIR PARTNERS TO WORK THROUGH FEELINGS OF JEALOUSY?!?! This isn´t targeted at OP, but more people in the comments btw. You don´t have to want a poly or open relationship, but holy sh*t don´t demonize them.
Wish I could upvote this more than just bringing it out of the negative. IDK why someone's downvoting all of this.. You're absolutely right, poly/open is a thing that either works for someone or it doesn't. Apparently right now it's still just a "bucket list thing to try," (🙄) but I hope that someday it will be recognized and respected as a way that some people just are.
Load More Replies... I so agree with this. I think it's complicated enough with just trying to be a couple let alone letting a third person in one's life in such an intimate way. Things are bound to go awry for sure.
“hi, I’d like to sign up for the relationship that devalues me, please. It’s on my bucket list”. Y’all are weird. . .
If you feel devalued, that is a you problem. Plenty of people find extra value in this.
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This is rude. I'm mostly polyam and honestly this is very rude.
Someone not wanting to be in an open relationship hurts your feelings? Grow up. (And here comes the downvotes)
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No, cheating is when you go behind your partners back and do something with someone else. An open relationship is when all parties agree that they and sleep with/kiss/go on dates, etc with other people. Some people like it, some don’t. Depends on preference
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Cheating is non-consensual. A lot of queer and neurodivergent people are genuinely happy with relationships that openly and consensually involve non-monogamy.
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SURSTRÖMMIMG
Or as others know it, the Swedish rotten fish.
It really just tastes salty, smells more foul than I have words to describe though
Going on a cruise. I get seasick really easily. Like REALLY easily. I’m also very introverted so the idea of being stuck on a boat with a bunch of strangers while barfing myself to death sounds like torture.
I also don’t want the ship to sink. I’ve had a fear of being anywhere in or near a body of water ever since I was 5
Drunk driving. I live in Wisconsin and the number of people who do it is astounding to me.
Anything involvinf height like bungee jumping ect
Drinking alcohol. I don't like saying this because it sounds whiny, but i've had too much problems in my life and i'm afraid i would find alcohol as a solution and get a bigger problem.
Energy Drinks.
Main reason: they smell awful to me. I don't care if they taste better than they smell, they'd still probably taste horrible.
Sky Diving
I did skydiving twice. You are attached to your instructor's front side. You take off the plane backwards, so the instructor literally "pushes" you out of the plane... like "ok, set ready GO!" And off you are. Yes, terrifying. The first few seconds when your body is registering that is falling are the most violent. You can feel all the cells in your body screaming, and there's nothing you can do to help them. Then... then you feel nothing because suddenly you... float. In other words, you reached constant acceleration so you no longer feel you are falling. And that feeling is amazing, it can't be described. It's like being in a rollercoaster: adrenaline, speed, body sensations, the vacuum in your stomach. But it doesn't last long as the parachute needs to open after a minute or so. Then gliding with the parachute is just... out of this world. You see the world below so big, so magnificent, so green, so pure... and all is silence around you. Pure crystal clear silence.
Deep sea diving. I know whats down there, and id rather not go say hi.
As a diver...i'm going to say that you don't know what's actually down there. It's amazing, peaceful and just another world. I've introduced so many people to diving and even just snorkeling that regret ever having the view that the ocean is a terrifying place and that they would never dive and they couldn't wait the go again. But yeah yesterday's dive with sea turtles was truly terrifying and horrible experience 😛
That stupid amusement park ride where you look like you're bungee jumping to your death. No, thank you.
Weed. My roommates are major pot heads and they're always trying to get me to smoke with them. But I'm just not interested. That's some of the grossest s**t I've ever smelled in my life. To each their own, it's just not for me.
Lobster. Not vegetarian but the thought of how its cooked and breaking it open to get to the meat gives me the heeby jeebys.
Karaoke. Not enough alcohol in the world.
To be clear, I have nothing against karaoke, I just know full well that I would suck at it. Ergo, not on my bucket list.
Coffee, I hate bitter things and I know by the smell I won't like it.
Having kids. I don’t want to f**k up my body and my mind. I have terrible anger problems when it comes to dealing with people and I don’t want to physically abuse any future children so it’s best that I don’t have them
And I will never try pineapple. It’s a very scary fruit for me
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I’m not making fun of anyone or anything, but the I find the phrase of an anti-bucket list very funny.
I call my anti-bucket list my "rhymes with bucket" list
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New Year's Eve at Times Square. You're locked in with a bunch of people for hours, you can't leave even to pee, and it's probably gonna be cold AF. I'll watch the ball drop on TV at a friend's house, merci beaucoup.
My anti-bucket list is as long as or longer than my bucket list. And I'm okay with that. Then I'll live long enough to maybe get to everything on the actual bucket list!
If you don't do any of those stuff you are also restricting your view but somethings like smoking and Instagram are real s**t
Weed. I have a chronic psychotic illness akin to schizophrenia. Psychosis is very easily triggered by marijuana. So as much as my curiosity wants to try it, it could absolutely unravel my brain from the inside out.
My anti-bucket list: 1) Travel to the USA. David Bowie summed it up nicely "I'm afraid of Americans." 2) Get a driver's license and own a car. Public transport has been good enough and the more I hear about the struggles people with cars are having it's becoming less appealing and attainable. I'm not even the first person in my family to forgo it. 3) Plastic surgery (elective). I hope to never need surgery in my life, let alone an elective one that alters my appearance for life, and could potentially end up botched or fatal. 4) Own a big house. That kind of upkeep, maintenance, cleaning, anxiety about what could go wrong at any moment would take up any quality of life I have left to spare.
Never ever going skiing again. The last time I went, I broke my leg and was in a cast for around 10 weeks and a boot for another two weeks. That first week in a splint was the most painful week of my life. I don't care what you say or what you offer me, I'm not risking going through that kind of pain again.
Never skied, but I did surf. Not after riptide tried to end me. Dragged me over coral, shredded skin and suit. It was a bloody long walk back.
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Wow. I have to agree with nearly 100% of this list. I'm far too old now to have babies, plus I had to have an emergency hysterectomy when I was 26. I had two children, but both are dead now, and there are no grands. Doesn't bother me in the least; I never want to get married again, not after the disaster I was married to for nine years. As for the rest....yeah, I can do without those things in my life, and very happily without them.
A lot of the comments down here would have been so much better entries than how this list wound up. For a largely liberal leaning site, I'm really disappointed to see poly/open relationships even appear as a "line item to try." Might as well put "being gay" on here as well. *To be clear, being gay is perfectly normal and natural* and so are other relationship structures. I'm at least encouraged to see that a lot of the readership have better suggestions about things one may not want to try
Having kids. I don’t want to f**k up my body and my mind. I have terrible anger problems when it comes to dealing with people and I don’t want to physically abuse any future children so it’s best that I don’t have them
And I will never try pineapple. It’s a very scary fruit for me
Load More Replies... I’m not making fun of anyone or anything, but the I find the phrase of an anti-bucket list very funny.
I call my anti-bucket list my "rhymes with bucket" list
Load More Replies... New Year's Eve at Times Square. You're locked in with a bunch of people for hours, you can't leave even to pee, and it's probably gonna be cold AF. I'll watch the ball drop on TV at a friend's house, merci beaucoup.
My anti-bucket list is as long as or longer than my bucket list. And I'm okay with that. Then I'll live long enough to maybe get to everything on the actual bucket list!
If you don't do any of those stuff you are also restricting your view but somethings like smoking and Instagram are real s**t
Weed. I have a chronic psychotic illness akin to schizophrenia. Psychosis is very easily triggered by marijuana. So as much as my curiosity wants to try it, it could absolutely unravel my brain from the inside out.
My anti-bucket list: 1) Travel to the USA. David Bowie summed it up nicely "I'm afraid of Americans." 2) Get a driver's license and own a car. Public transport has been good enough and the more I hear about the struggles people with cars are having it's becoming less appealing and attainable. I'm not even the first person in my family to forgo it. 3) Plastic surgery (elective). I hope to never need surgery in my life, let alone an elective one that alters my appearance for life, and could potentially end up botched or fatal. 4) Own a big house. That kind of upkeep, maintenance, cleaning, anxiety about what could go wrong at any moment would take up any quality of life I have left to spare.
Never ever going skiing again. The last time I went, I broke my leg and was in a cast for around 10 weeks and a boot for another two weeks. That first week in a splint was the most painful week of my life. I don't care what you say or what you offer me, I'm not risking going through that kind of pain again.
Never skied, but I did surf. Not after riptide tried to end me. Dragged me over coral, shredded skin and suit. It was a bloody long walk back.
Load More Replies... Wow. I have to agree with nearly 100% of this list. I'm far too old now to have babies, plus I had to have an emergency hysterectomy when I was 26. I had two children, but both are dead now, and there are no grands. Doesn't bother me in the least; I never want to get married again, not after the disaster I was married to for nine years. As for the rest....yeah, I can do without those things in my life, and very happily without them.
A lot of the comments down here would have been so much better entries than how this list wound up. For a largely liberal leaning site, I'm really disappointed to see poly/open relationships even appear as a "line item to try." Might as well put "being gay" on here as well. *To be clear, being gay is perfectly normal and natural* and so are other relationship structures. I'm at least encouraged to see that a lot of the readership have better suggestions about things one may not want to try
