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It’s no surprise that every stage in life comes with a different set of worries and challenges. What might come as a surprise, though, is what said set often entails.
Those who’ve already stepped into the third decade of their lives know that adulthood is no exception. Whether it’s finances, health, or other important matters that continuously remind people of themselves—often accompanied by a headache—there’s always something to worry about. If you’re wondering what that something is for different people, scroll down to find out what things our readers were not prepared for in adulthood.
Seeking to learn more about what worries people as adults and how best to deal with it all, Bored Panda turned to an expert in adult development psychology, based in the School of Human Sciences at the University of Greenwich, Dr. Oliver Robinson, who was kind enough to answer a few of our questions. Scroll down to find his thoughts in the text below.
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#1
That you don't realise when you're supposed to be an adult. All of the sudden you're just middle aged everything hurts and you still feel like you're waiting for this adult thing to happen
Guigsy Gwiggins 1 year ago
Once you pass 40 your perspective really starts to change and you start asking yourself all these questions and realising a lot of $h!t
LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 year ago
I feel that. My dad had an accident when I was 18, and my 20s and 30s were swallowed up in staying living at home to help care for him, working for the family business and never getting a real job or finishing college, etc. Then suddenly my dad died when I was 38 and I was like.... oh c**p, I have NO idea how to do ANYTHING XD
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Cathy 1 year ago
I don't know I feel like it came around when I was 40 or so? I think it is amazing BTW. I don't care about other people's opinions anymore, people listen to me, I like things neat and tidy now, I finally have some money. It isn't all that bad. I just wish my knees would try harder to participate 🤣
LizzieBoredom 1 year ago
I knew I was an adult when a problem arose, and my first instinct was not to call a grown-up.
Captain Awesome 1 year ago
I slept wrong Thursday night and my knee has been screwed up since. How do you mess up your knee sleeping?!?
Alex hayes 1 year ago
Coming from an abusive home I've always had to be an adult so I never get comments like these
Thomas Hunt, Jr. 1 year ago
The adult mentality. Not all of us end up with it. Before you know it, middle age has struck and you're left wondering why all these aches and pains are taking so flirkin long to pass on.
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#2
No matter how old I am I’d feel so young inside.
Auntriarch 1 year ago (edited)
I've been 26 for forty years now. My mother has been 18 for seventy years.
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marianne eliza 1 year ago
I no longer wonder if ones sex life is as much fun after 60. Wooo doggie! What fun.
Forrest McCanless 1 year ago
61 on the outside; still doing and thinking the same stuff as seventeen; just down the same street and spending most of my time in my workshop. Lucky boy. Wife and I sit up and giggle at the neighbors.
LizzieBoredom 1 year ago
What are you making in your woodshop? Binoculars?
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keyboardtek 1 year ago
Old age in general is such a shock. I still wonder why my parents never complained about their aches and pains. They certainly had enough of them to justify complaining.
Scott Rackley 1 year ago
This. What is not so good is forgetting you can't just snatch up that 20 lb piece of metal at work like you used to could, and proceed to try.
#3
When they rearrange the grocery store.
Donna Peluda 1 year ago
They do that so you wonder around the shop aimlessly and buy more stuff.
keyboardtek 1 year ago
And now with failing eyesight, reading all the product labels that have ten different font styles and font sizes, with ten different colors of graphics, takes my brain forever to find what I am looking for.
LizzieBoredom 1 year ago
IF YOU MOVE THE CAT FOOD AGAIN WALMART, I'M GOING TO BRING ATTILA (my cat) AND I WON'T BE RESPONSIBLE FOR THE CARNAGE.
Hannah 1 year ago
This is so traumatising. This morning I spent a good five minutes becoming increasingly distressed because jam was moved to a different aisle but the signs hadn't been changed. HOW DARE THEY?
Michael Largey 1 year ago
When my mother-in-law's grocery store rearranged some things, she started shopping at a different one, saying "Here, at least I know that I don't know."
Petra 1 year ago
Yep, someone who won't have to do any of the work itself or listen to the complaints.
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Wolf Hungry 1 year ago (edited)
My mom changed supermarket because this: " Im not going anymore the change things every week,I dont find anything"
“Adults have an infinite number of potential worries, so the key to adult life is how not to worry about any of them. Worry doesn’t help anything, so is best dispensed with completely,” Dr. Oliver Robinson told Bored Panda in a recent interview. While not worrying is easier said than done, it might be helpful to at least try and stay calm and collected in situations that adulthood throws at you.
#4
Being virtually the only person left in your life who remembers anything about your childhood. It’s disorienting
Corvus 1 year ago (edited)
It's somewhat scary when you realize the world you grew up in is gone. Just... gone. It didn't really hit me until one day when I was passing through my late grandma's neighbourhood and saw how much had changed.
София Харитонова 1 year ago
Yes. I'm going through that phase now: my grandmother had died recently and she was the last one of my relatives who remembered my childhood. I just feel so... alone. I have a wonderful husband but it's just not the same.
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Auntriarch 1 year ago
Looking at an old photo and realising there's no one left to ask who that is.
Lene 1 year ago
My bf and I are both born in 1984 and now that we have kids we often talk about kids' shows we watched as kids. And some are still available for streaming! So... we show our kids one of the old shows every now and then. It is just MAGIC! especially mid-kid loves the old shows. For my fellow Danes out there, the shows that are most popular with my kids are: ude på noget, et lille øjeblik, Super Carla, and Omsen og Momsen. 😍 my kids also prefer the old Smurfs cartoons over the more recent computer animated ones. But I do realise that some shows are simply too slow for big-kid. And Super Carla is in black/white.... the amount of confusion my kids had about that...lol. they thought the TV had broken or something. 🤣
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 1 year ago
Definitely! I grew up in the '80s and I just watched an old episode of SCTV where the TV station gets taken over by the USSR and there's no way anyone younger than 40 would get the jokes.
nottheactualphoto 1 year ago
As the station promo said, "You're watching Second City. Why?"
Load More Replies... Robin Roper 1 year ago
My dad is 97 and the only person who really remembers his childhood is his sister who is 95. I listen to his stories over and over, sometimes it gets weary but they are his stories so I listen. BTW - he's in great physical and mental shape.
keyboardtek 1 year ago
But the good thing about old age when your memory starts to fade is that it becomes harder to remember the cringey and awful episodes of your life.
Linda Riebel 1 year ago
I'm the last family member standing. Alumni newsletters are lists of obituaries.
#5
The older you get the more invisible you become.
Jill Rhodry 1 year ago
Became de-sexualised around 40ish - learnt how to smile and have a spring back in my step out in public again - let my grey mane fly and became completely invisible around 50ish - it is soooo liberating.
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Auntriarch 1 year ago
All the people I need to be able to see me, can. The rest generally pick up on the old lady dressed like Iris Apler
Tamra 1 year ago
Upvotes for the iconic Iris! Back when I was a metalsmith and jewelry designer, I made quite a few bold pieces inspired by Iris Apfel, and also Tony Duquette, but never reached his masterful style.
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Ąåřţđęşịɠŋȿ 1 year ago
I heard that when I was younger and thought that was ridiculous... but now... eh, yeah. Were's Waldo?
devotedtodreams 1 year ago
There was a time when I thought this would be awesome someday. Nowadays, it's a problem because people don't effing look where the hell they're going, so you end needing to slalom your way from point A to point B. It's like professional slalom skiing, minus the skis and snow!
According to a recent Ipsos poll, now, in 2024, people tend to worry most about inflation, poverty and social inequality, and crime.
“As adults, we have to face a world where actual tragedies and potential threats are a daily occurrence, to ourselves, to those we know and to the wider world. Happiness is necessarily not a good fit with being aware of the facts of the world, and ironically, trying to be happy as an adult, while being aware of the suffering of others, can create anxiety,” Dr. Robinson pointed out.
“However, it is entirely reasonable, and indeed much recommended, to be calm and composed as an adult in the face of what we learn on the news, or issues and illnesses in our lives or the lives of those we know.
“The first step to staying calm and composed, and thus being of help to others in crisis, is not aiming to be happy. If happiness comes in quiet moments in your life, that is of course a good thing, but happiness genuinely manifests more reliably when you don’t aim for it. A calm and composed person thinks carefully through problems or issues, and does not need to worry.”
#7
How expensive it is to just exist. Even after doing all the things I was told to be “successful” like getting good grades and going to college. Also the mental breakdowns, anxiety, and depression.
Ąåřţđęşịɠŋȿ 1 year ago
I struggle with that daily. It's like, "Come on, man. Can I get a break?!" Nope, ya dumbsiit. No breaks. No mercy. Get used to it. Well, I haven't yet. Still crying for breaks. No money. Cancer, Job, house repairs, getting old aches and pains.... The only break I see coming is in the "Sweet Release" that Al Bundy fondly referred to...
Steve Hall 1 year ago
Guess we all grew up thinking mom and dad had a money tree hidden in the back yard.
Captain McSmoot 1 year ago
Government-created inflation and false supply & demand will do that to us.
#8
The entitlement of some people.
Tiffany Marie 1 year ago (edited)
I call these people with personality disorders or cluster B's. One of the easiest ways you read a PD is by their entitlement and then lack of empathy. It's fairly easy to assess a person by a few characteristics. Then by that you pretty much understand their entire nature. I can sniff out a narcissist in seconds. Histrionics too. Lots of people suffer from PDs or PD defenses. It's actually really empowered my life and kept me from being a victim especially since I'm a people pleaser. I'm not a people pleaser anymore and I call people out on their behavior. Narcissists will just keep gas lighting you though. Or explode. Meh. I was able to walk away from a groomer early on and now I'm even stronger at seeing people. -Entitlement is a HUGE give away with how utterly broken they are. Underneath they have the saddest self esteem. - Be thankful you're not them, because you have a chance at actual happiness and fulfillment in life. .. Also tell these people "NO!" And set boundaries. They hate it. Lol. Leave them, stay away from them and find someone healthy. Otherwise it'll always be "What about MEEEEEEE!!!!"
Load More Replies... LizzieBoredom 1 year ago
There are some things in life I will never understand like remote controls, cat language, or expecting privilege (You were born in the same crappy subdivision as I was Eugene. Get over yourself).
Thomas Hunt, Jr. 1 year ago
Snits. A wide variety of character flaws and people fit I to this category. When in doubt, snits.
Even though such things as your health or the well-being of your loved ones are relevant at pretty much any stage of one’s life, once they reach a certain age, the troubles people focus on the most seem to differ with each age group.
According to the expert in adult development psychology, the main worries for young adults, for instance, are focused most on the future, both their own future and the future of the planet. “They have the burden of trying to carve out a life in a challenging world, and each big decision can be a worry. Their life is full of decisions that change the future. The key issue here is anxiety and feelings of being marginalized.
“Middle-aged adults worry about getting old and the tiring combination of raising children, work and other societal commitments. The key issues here are burnout and tiredness,” he continued.
“Older adults’ main worries are loneliness, losing status and meaning, and losing a place in the world. The key issue here is loss of meaning and purpose.”
#9
Not knowing what to cook every day.
ElfVibratorGlitter 1 year ago
I eat whatever looks like it's about to go bad in the random food I bought. Not very creative. 🤷🏿
LizzieBoredom 1 year ago (edited)
I don't know. It's always exciting to see if you will get botulism or not!
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Remi (He/Him) 1 year ago
Doubling the amount you make on one go and eating the second half as a dinner next day helps some
Load More Replies... Multa Nocte 1 year ago
True. If you set a menu for each day of the week it gets boring quickly, although I believe that many people used to do that when I was younger.
Lene 1 year ago
Do you mean like "soup Sunday" and "meat Monday" and "fish Friday"? I think I heard about that but, like you, I think it was more a thing years ago. It seems that nowadays people do weekly meal plans. Which I really want to do but it hasn't worked in this house for more than max. 3 weeks. Lol. I admire aaaaall the people that just make it work for them 👍
Load More Replies... marianne eliza 1 year ago
Yes! I caretake my 93 year parents and they have such different likes. Mom will eat everything and love it. Dad is meat and potatoes, no visible signs of vegetables allowed. Since I like to indulge mom, as she gets more infirmed, that means I'm pretty much cooking 2 meals. But thank goodness for leftovers.
MotherRobinson 1 year ago
Great idea! When you have time and money for it.
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Vira 1 year ago
A few things that helped me: cook one large meal once a week. Anytime I'm up for it. Huge batch of spaghetti sauce, and store noodles in a bag in the fridge separately. Or a big pasta salad (don't have to heat up for leftovers so even faster). One whole chicken. Veggies and meat for tortilla wraps. A huge batch of channa masala. Something like that. Also I buy one or two "instant meal" choices. PB&J. Hot dogs. Crackers & cheese. No they aren't as healthy, but I am not an over eater, so pick one that works for you. I love heating my hotdogs in the air fryer. So easy. Those two things are usually good for up to two weeks. Then I don't have to cook every day, or even think about every day.
#10
How childish and petty bosses and other adults can be. Some even going out of their own way to ensure others are miserable.
keyboardtek 1 year ago (edited)
Those people were the a******s you encountered since childhood. They grow up to be the bad bosses because they all enjoyed bullying.
robin aldrich 1 year ago
I never understood why people waste more time trying to make other people look bad at their jobs. Than doing their own jobs.
#11
That after 40, you have to decide if you’re having indigestion, anxiety attack or heart attack when you have a slight pain
Mike F 1 year ago
I had an ex BIL who used to do that, he didn't merely have a headache, he was having an aneurysm.
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Sally Horrocks 1 year ago
From personal experience, I felt far more frightened when having the panic attack than I did with the heart attack!
Load More Replies... cerinamroth 1 year ago
Don't get me started on literally *any* of the symptoms of the perimenopause being misinterpreted as early-onset dementia, cancer, etc. etc.
Steve Hall 1 year ago
Also don't underestimate your gallbladder's ability to get your attention.
Ghostpotato 1 year ago
Sometimes I worry I will miss something serious because I'm just so used to random aches and pains everywhere all the time...
rumple slunkskin 1 year ago
Well it WAS just indigestion, but the questioning led to anxiety which ultimately caused the heart attack.
“One of the great pathologies in modern society is the belief that the meaning of life emerges through hard work and corresponding public success, and that if you work harder and harder, suddenly the meaning of life is solved,” Dr. Robinson said.
“But for most, it is actually love and relationships that bring meaning to life. This was brilliantly evidenced by research on terminally ill patients, where they were asked about their regrets. Two of the main regrets were working too much and not spending enough time with friends. When faced with the end of life, as these terminally ill patients were, the meaning of it becomes more clear.
“So slow down and make sure that your life is well balanced between relationships, family, exercise, leisure and work. For those who are not working, make sure to find activities that give social connection and purpose, such as social hobbies.”
#12
Adults seemed so grown up and mature when I was a child. As an adult... Boy was I wrong.
#13
That life is just about winging it. You never know the answers to everything or have the solutions to everything.
keyboardtek 1 year ago
The entire universe is based on winging it and random interactions of molecules. The human brain is probably the only life form that uses any level of planning and intention. It is us against the universe.
#14
Needing to sleep then not being able to.
Mia Black 1 year ago
I just had four days off but woke up more than two hours BEFORE my alarm would go on at a workday....I have sleep issues ever since I remember, sometimes better sometimes worse but this year is somehow special. There seem to be no breaks. Frustrating. Especially after two very stressful years. This year I wanted to recover at least a little because the stressor is gone but noooo, my body (and/or mind) decided to act this weird...tsk
Anyone-for-tea? 1 year ago
I don’t work anymore due to illness, but I still wake up earlier on a Sunday than any other day! And on the rare occasions I set an alarm, there’s nothing more frustrating than waking up before it. Funny how nearly everyone does this.
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Leigh James 1 year ago
Add perimenopause or menopause to the mix; one never sleeps enough or well again.
Mike F 1 year ago
I just got my 2nd shingles shot and the following day put in the ac units. I thought I was dying because I was suddenly so tired I couldn't hold my eyes open and PAIN from the injection site and the rest of the body from the heavy ac units. I went to bed early thinking I'd just sleep until I woke up, no sleep. Not a wink. To quote a friend "this gettin old $hit ain't no joke".
Mary Gillis 1 year ago
I totally get this. If I can't fall asleep, I'm tossing and turning all night, I do have d***s I can take but I know how addicting they can become. I have no idea how 8 hours of solid sleep is supposed to feel like and I'd give anything to find out.
#15
That apparently not all adults matured past high school
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 1 year ago
Al Bundy syndrome. He did four touchdowns in one game and married the head cheerleader. Married With Children was such an underrated sitcom.
The Doom Song 1 year ago
From Friends: " yeah I always wanted to date Chip in high school. I didn't realise I'd go in a date with Chip in high school"
Leap of Faith 1 year ago
Some of them never matured past the age of two. Donald Trump a case in point.
#16
Body aches and pains. Chores, never ending chores. Bills, never ending bills to pay! Adulting is hard.
Tabitha 1 year ago (edited)
And along with those aches and pains you have diminished energy. I used to be able to be active from sunrise to sundown and get so much done in one day, which left me with a lot more leisure time since I got everything done so fast. At 63, I now have to divide up my chores over several days, with rest periods in between, just to keep everything in order and completed. I know, I probably should’ve always paced myself, but I didn’t really have to so I didn’t. I liked getting everything done in as little time as possible, so I would have just that much more time where I didn’t have to do any work and could relax and do fun stuff I wanted—-not needed, not had—-to do. I miss that energy.
veirdbuttrue 1 year ago
I find the diminished energy really hard to deal with, it's so surprising to me that I just can't do all the things I used to easily do!
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Gossameringue 1 year ago
I know this'll be downvoted, but the verb "adulting" is pretty nauseating. Gen X'er here, but we called "adulting", 'growing up' and didn't make such a big deal out of it.
nottheactualphoto 1 year ago
Thank you. I realize that any noun can be verbed, but it's getting out of hand lately. Like how people don't give presents anymore, but they "gift" them.
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Kate Jones 1 year ago
I agree with the chores. I'm so tired of my days off being filled with cleaning or needing to get something done. It's because I have pets. If there was one bit of advice I could give... as wonderful as they are to have, don't get pets. They cause destruction and mess. Unless you have kids or other people to help you, then there's going to be hair, litter (with cats), toys everywhere, poop, puke...the list goes on. Pets are a lot of work. I always thought I would always have a pet because God knows I love mine more than anything, but when they pass away, I think I'm done having any. It's just too much cleaning and repairing. If you want a nice, clean apartment...don't get pets.
#17
How much it will hurt when you lose your parents.
Isabel Galvez 1 year ago
My dog died 12 years ago and I still feel her by my side when I go for a walk.
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Settled for Infamy 1 year ago (edited)
Even when prepared, it was 100x worse than I'd imagined. I still need my Dad...
nottheactualphoto 1 year ago
When my dad died, it wasn't really very surprising. But it was still a punch in the gut.
Load More Replies... Tabitha 1 year ago (edited)
Depends on your parents. Mine were c**p people who should never have gotten together and should especially have never had children. So I’m actually happier now that they’re both gone and burning for eternity. I’m the baby and only girl, and I’m now 63, so losing my four older brothers one by one has been the most difficult thing so far. I only have one brother left before I become the sole survivor of that particular household from hell.
Anyone-for-tea? 1 year ago
I’ve wondered how I feel when my dad passes away. He’s 85 and in reasonably good health as far as I know. He’s not a terrible person, just treated me terribly when living in my house, so now I have no contact with him. My siblings and I think he is a bit narcissistic and I think he’s depressed with anger issues. But still he’s my dad? I’m glad you have relief in their passing though, but sorry to hear about your three brothers.
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Liza Ann Gabor 1 year ago
Yes. Today is my mom's birthday. She would have been 79. She always loved that she and Cher had the same birthday.
Roland Nijveld 1 year ago
Same..today is my dad's birthday. Wpuldve been 74. He just passed away a month ago
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Rachel Ratty 1 year ago
There is no escaping the pain - but my brother told me it hurts so much because you cherish the parents you had and what you had with them - some people never have that type of relationship with their parents - that makes us the lucky ones because we had that and we were lucky to have it - dam - makes me want to start crying again (bit its a good cry after some time) - and he is the younger of us the profound little so and so :)
Jason 1 year ago
Lost mine when I was younger. Better to have loved and lost and all. Was extremely close to my mom, but wouldn't have traded the time I got to spend in life with her for anything
Load More Replies... geezeronthehill 1 year ago
Watching as your friends start dying off. First a couple (wtf? She was so young! ), then a cluster of them (whoa! Heart attack. Cancer?) Lately you wonder if folks you haven't seen in years are still on this side of the grass. Are you the last of your peers?
Linda Lee 1 year ago
I googled a friend that I ran around with in high school and found his obituary. I looked up another friend and found their obit. Third friend, same. Painful.
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ManuelQue 1 year ago
I'm just past my mid-sixties. My Dad died of melanoma in 1996 at the same age I am now - my sister in 2006 from late stage MS(she was 48) and my mom in 2021 from a form of Parkinsons. At least she got to 88. Then there was a year when my two best friends, two cats, an aunt and many others I knew ended their journey on this planet. I got some counselling; I'm involved in another bout of it to get my resilience back. Those of us left behind are forever affected. We're a sad and lost lot. Hugs to you all.
robin aldrich 1 year ago
You try to prepare yourself. But you never are prepared for when it actually happens.
Wendy O'Shea 1 year ago
Oh, yeah. I lost my Dad, suddenly, and I felt like the floor was pulled out from under me and I was in a bubble. I wanted to be anywhere than where I was at the time. I wanted to live down in a snowbank and sleep. I did NOT want to die. My Mom died 6 years later after suffering from cancer and a stroke in the end. She lingered for several days in a coma. It was very different. For my parents, my Father went the best way, no suffering, even if it was really tough for me.
Guigsy Gwiggins 1 year ago
This ridiculous circle of life. Not looking forward to losing my last parent and wouldn’t impose that on a child. That doom cycle ends with me
#18
That you still can’t have as many horses/dogs/cats as you want - or live in a castle.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 year ago
When I was a kid, my mom tried to get me onboard with becoming a "famous actress" by telling me I could have a huge house with as many pets as I wanted. Turns out SHE just wanted me to become a famous child actor so that SHE could get the money and never have to work again XD I do have four pets currently - two cats and two dogs - and they are a LOT of work, but I wouldn't trade them for anything XD
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 1 year ago
Enya lives in a castle alone with a dozen cats and that is awesome.
Multa Nocte 1 year ago
I think the thing that is the worst is that you outlive your pets. That is so painful.
marianne eliza 1 year ago
Or have a flying car. Dad said they have them by the time I could drive. Which occurred in 1976.
Lotekguy 1 year ago
Try thinking about the utility bills, maintenance and cleaning time and expense. Also the lack of privacy if you have servants doing the work. Plus the nuisance of gawking and trespassing tourists. Or, like Meghan Markle, it may come with intolerable in-laws. Feel better about not living in one?
#19
That you can have the time or the money but never both at the same time.
kitteh floof lover 1 year ago
or you have the time and the money, but your chronic illness won't let you enjoy them
#20
How much bras hurt your body by the end of the day, even if they're properly fitted.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 year ago (edited)
My fellow people with large-ish breasts: the MINDD brand bra is the BEST bra I have found in my 42 years of life. I am largeish-breasted (38DD) and I loathe underwire bras. They have caused me so much pain over the years and I've even gotten skin sores from the wires poking/chafing/etc. The MINDD bras might SEEM a little iffy since they don't have underwires, but they are WONDERFUL bras and I can *WASH THEM NORMALLY*. They are pricey (what bras aren't? sigh) but they are VERY worth it.
The Doom Song 1 year ago
I only wear sports bras. They are comfy as f**k, no under wire, support the girls and are a hell of a lot cheaper
DefinitelyNotTheDuolingoOwl 1 year ago
Same here. Problem is when I want to wear a shirt with narrow straps/ interesting cutouts, bc sports bra straps don't really hide well. Small price to pay, I guess
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Aroace tiger (she/they/he) 1 year ago
I actually cant not wear a bra it makes me uncomfy if i dont. Mine r comfy thank goodness
CanadianDimes 1 year ago
Yes, same. I've only ever had an issue with discomfort when they get too old. I prefer underwire too - never found it uncomfortable.
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Sabrina Bowen 1 year ago
This one I must disagree with. I'd wear a bra 24/7 if I could. Even a poorly fitted bra is more comfortable than going w/o. I'm a 38H, a bra is the only thing that saves me.
Moosy Girl 1 year ago
I’ve only just for the first time ever gotten properly fitted bras, after years of having underwires break and poke me. Turns out my band size is smaller and my cup size is way bigger than I (and the store I went to my whole life) thought, from E to FF/G! The difference is so amazing, I can now walk/run without holding my chest, and bend over without worrying about getting slapped in the chin by an escaped boob!
Jas Warner 1 year ago
I don't think I've reacher that age yet. I can't take off my bras because it just feels weird and uncomfortable.
Worst Cop in Britain 1 year ago
Oof, definitely not universal. Maybe OP's undergarments aren't as fitted as she thought.
#21
The idea of working hard, always trying to do what is right,that you win in the end. So very wrong. The good does not overcome all the evil. So hard for me to accept.
ColdSteelRonin 1 year ago (edited)
It's paid for my house, 2 cars and various playthings. I'm a tradesman and hard work has given me everything I have. By the way, how's the reporting gig? Reported on a NO MAAM rally lately? (married with children fan)
Load More Replies... ColdSteelRonin 1 year ago
So.... You think 2021 to 2024 has been good times?
Load More Replies... #22
Realizing how many people youll have to deal with throughout life that are so incompetent.
RabidChild 1 year ago
Incompetent or half-assed. Some people just do not take any kind of pride in their work.
Mike F 1 year ago
OK, if you deserve $$, but you're being paid a portion of that, are you half @ssed or just earning what you're being paid? 🤔
Load More Replies... Thomas Hunt, Jr. 1 year ago
Unless you are like me...and turn your back on society. Then you don't have to deal with incompetent pieces of bleepity bleeps
Leap of Faith 1 year ago
Ya know what gets me? The incompetence of some people with regard to punctuation.
keyboardtek 1 year ago
And then they run for political office because they can't do any job responsibly.
#23
How things that clean other things also need to be cleaned?!
Charles Kormos 1 year ago
Anytime you clean anything you are just making something else dirty.
Carianne Sanders 1 year ago
The washing machine can be total filth and gunk if not maintained!
Gossameringue 1 year ago
Found myself both dishwashing the scrub brush AND scrubbing out the sink.
Virgin Panda 1 year ago
Reminds me of Friends, where Monica has a hoover for her hoover but wants another one 🤣🤣
#24
Watching your parents age. Seeing them go from young parents to elderly grandparents is….both beautiful and painful.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 year ago
Never got to see this with my dad, the only non-abusive parent I had :( He had an accident when I was 18 (he sustained catastrophic brain damage in the accident and became near-vegetative) and we took care of him at home for 20+ years. He died in 2021. I wish he was still here, but my dad was "gone" long before he actually died. My mother, who is a toxic narcissist and abusive.... she's 79 and STILL somehow puttering around, strong as ever, powered by pure evil.
cerinamroth 1 year ago
Wishing you peace and contentment from now on, for the rest of your life.
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Edward Loopyderm 1 year ago
Realizing that you're almost the same age as your Dad was when he got his cancer diagnosis, and how you'd feel if it happened to you. And thus how he must have felt. Too young for this :( He was around 64.
Puck 1 year ago (edited)
The shifting rolls from them taking care of you to you taking care of them. It goes in small steps, but suddenly you find yourself handling their administration, going with them to (medical) appointments, talking about wether or not they should still be driving (not). Feels natural and strange at the same time.
devotedtodreams 1 year ago
My Dad died at just shy of 66 years old of colon cancer. That disease turned him into a shadow of who he had been, and it hurt so much to see (and feel, when I hugged him). I wish he could have grown old(er) with my Mom, but alas... My Mom's in her 60s, and in those moments I realize how old she's getting, I get scared for the future. She's aging gracefully because she's still young at heart, but her body has begun telling her she's not 40 or younger anymore. She doesn't like it, and neither do I. The least I can do for all she has done for me and all the love and support she has given is support and love her as best I can, however much time she still has ♥ But God almighty, I'm gonna miss her so much when her time will be up... like Dad, but even worse...
#25
That women are not allowed to get old. They are expected to stay young, thin and perky forever.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 year ago
Then you hit age 40 and you realize "Wow! This is stupid! Why do I give a rat's patootie about what OTHER PEOPLE think about how I dress?" and you start wearing men's cargo shorts (pockets!!!!) and cute t-shirts with cartoon cats on them. You don't care that you weigh 150 lbs but "should" weigh 115 lbs (according to your boyfriend, who can shove it.) Hair frizzy? If you don't care, then don't care about what other PEOPLE think! Don't feel like putting on makeup today? THAT IS OKAY! Take care of yourself and your hygiene, yes, but your MENTAL health re: your clothing, appearance, etc. is also excruciatingly important. I did not learn that until my early 40s. I spent 20+ years trying to be the cute, thin, well-dressed, fashionable girl that I thought my boyfriend wanted. Now, if he loves ME, then he loves ME, and not what I wear or how perky my tiddlywinks are.
cerinamroth 1 year ago
AMEN! Louder for the younguns in the back! If anyone not-so-subtly indicates a weight loss regime I might be interested in, I usually say I'm training for the mental health Olympics just now with my very own personal trainer (my therapist). Once I've got my "invisible health" up to scratch, I'll have the energy to tackle my physical health. It's already improved a lot. Also, I can't recommend going silver sister enough. All of a sudden, I am invisible to men apart from my husband, who loves my new-look hair and the confidence it gives me! Also naked swimming has helped me accept my body and see its strength. I love it more than I've ever loved it and that's after two kids and multiple surgeries and scars.
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Johnny McFearless 1 year ago
I just saw the most stylish elderly lady, early to mid 80s, in the street and thought to myself- god, I want to look like this queen in my 80s and have her sense of fashion
Lin Andrews 1 year ago
There is a freedom from this as we age! Im going to do, be and wear what I want to!
Heather Gomez 1 year ago
A few years ago I buzzed all my hair off. My friends thought I was so brave. It was so freeing! 10/10 highly recommend (I do have ridiculously thick hair) and I'm about to do it again. Also quit shaving my pits because it's just a pain. If you don't like my armpits when I'm wearing my tie-dyed men's undershirt (WAY cheaper and better made than women's tank tops) just don't f**king look!
Mike F 1 year ago (edited)
Where? I need to go there. I'm an old, fat, slob and only admired by my dog!
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...or become invisible. If they don't, they still will be treated like they were.
Captain McSmoot 1 year ago
Didn't a lady above in the post about adults becoming invisible just comment about how freeing this was?
Ąåřţđęşịɠŋȿ 1 year ago
honestly, 'kind' of thing for men... only men are babies in their heads. They don't handle it as well. Can you say, "mid-life crisis?"
marianne eliza 1 year ago
And as soon as a man gets a baby off a woman, they start looking for a hard body.
#26
That you may end up being the most “adult” person you know and other “adults” will look to you in “I need an adult” moments.
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 1 year ago
That's happening and it's freaking weird AF for me. My canned response is, "Just eat some tacos and you'll feel better".
#27
Everything going up so much faster than my rate of pay.
keyboardtek 1 year ago
The rich elite billionaires are money sucking pariahs. But our political parties still give them tax cuts and all the breaks, while never increasing minimum wage or workers salaries. They ultimately are the cause of inflation as they have to maintain their profit margins at the consumers expense.
#28
The Development of allergies at almost 30 when u never had them
Screaming_Icecream 1 year ago
Yeah! As a kid, I always played with cats, stroked, hugged and kissed them and whatever, and nothing bad ever happened! Now I just sit nearby a cat at the vet's waiting room, and I'm all in tears, snot, my whole body itches and I have troubles breathing. But I still love cats and would like to pet them once in a while...
Cathy 1 year ago
Just grab an allergy pill once in a while and go the the cat café!
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Bamamom2boys 1 year ago
I've had cats since I was 24 (51 now), found out 5 years ago that I'm extremely allergic to cats. At the time I was tested I had 3 cats. I told the doc, give me shots; I'm not getting rid of my cats!
sturmwesen 1 year ago (edited)
On paper I have a dog allergy... but I only react to those with a lot of fat in the coat. As for cats: the wrong one can kill me without an inhaler. It depends on breed, gender and outdoor/indoor. Not every cat produces the devils protein in their spit.
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BF is 40 and suddenly developed a "beer allergy"and can't have soy sauce with normal salt amount anymore. Poor dude
Croissanterang 1 year ago
Beer and soy sauce... it's not a gluten allergy, is it?
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Genevieve Smith 1 year ago
Yep. Suddenly, after having had cats my whole life, close to my 50's and I am now suddenly allergic to cats. Still doesn't stop me from having about 32. And a dog! And a hedgie.
Leap of Faith 1 year ago
Try lactose intolerance at 70! The allergies I developed at 30 pale in comparison.
Thomas Hunt, Jr. 1 year ago
Got food aversions at 15. Allergies to pollen and c**p at 40. Thx a lot life!
#29
That I could afford all the video games but never have time to play them
Lene 1 year ago
When we expected our first kid my bf bought some playstation games for him to play when the baby was asleep when he was on his paternal leave. And now.... 7 years later... the games are not even unwrapped from the plastic they came in. Lol.
Nano Iders 1 year ago
I feel guilty when I play videogames. Like I should be using that time to do some adult productive thing to finally achieve success in life.
Miranda Veracruz de la Joya Cardenal 1 year ago
This applies to gamers. Young: no money, yes time, yes energy Adult: yes money, no time, yes energy Senior: yes money, yes time, no energy
marianne eliza 1 year ago
Yeah. Life is either 1: having enough money but not enough time, or 2: having the time but not the money.
Wolf Hungry 1 year ago
My brother get a xbox as a gift from a friend.In 10 years he played like 10 times 😑
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 1 year ago
I have about 500 titles in my Steam account alone. No freaking way I've played much less finished all of them.
Michael Largey 1 year ago
I didn't buy anything at the last Steam sale. I'm waiting to finish not playing the games I bought at the previous one.
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Getting up in a morning with more injuries than u went to bed with
Aroace tiger (she/they/he) 1 year ago
...i did this today... im young... im not gonna age well, am i?
🦄 Unicorn Princess 1 year ago
Especially when you are a sleep walker and you wake yourself up by falling and hitting the ground or random furniture without being able to brace yourself or break the fall.
marianne eliza 1 year ago
As a kid you get hurt falling out of a tree. As a late middle-ager, you get hurt sleeping wrong.
Gossameringue 1 year ago
Seriously. Like, "Why is THAT part hurting? I haven't used that muscle in 7 years!"
Donna Peluda 1 year ago
Ooooh yea. Every small injury I had when was young, playing football (soccer) riding of road. Excesses at work, lifting, it all comes back to haunt you when you wake up in the morning
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 1 year ago
Yeah but that's because I tend to claw my own face in my sleep. Damn nightmares
#31
Getting to grips with the reality that nothing really matters and we are all going to die eventually sooner than we expected - we’ll be buried with our very big dreams, expectations and life ambitions that we slowly, every year, gave up on trying to attain. On the flip side, the realization that health and the small moments with loved ones is really all that goes with you to the grave.
ColdSteelRonin 1 year ago
Everybody checks out and we're all just renting. Figured that out at age 5 when my great uncle Herb died. A hard lesson at any age though
Sven Horlemann 1 year ago
This should be higher. Yes, enjoy all the little moments, remember them, cherish them. They'll grow on you.
Thomas Hunt, Jr. 1 year ago
I still prefer isolation. I don't keep in touch with family. They don't understand me and I'm tired of trying to fit into their mold. If that means dying alone, I'm perfectly fine with that.
#32
How much effort it takes just to take care of yourself and stay alive
Thomas Hunt, Jr. 1 year ago
Again I'll say...turn your back on the world. Then you'll be forced to realize things. Once you get that down, it's easy.
#33
Even when you treat others the way you want to be treated they could not return the favor
Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! 1 year ago
Could not? No. Would not, yes. Some people just don't care. Some people are too damaged. Some people are too busy. It's when you find those few that WILL that really makes trying worth it.
Sven Horlemann 1 year ago
This is a harsh truth, yes. But. I still live like that, because it feels right.
SweetCheesySpaghetti 1 year ago
Perhaps they don't want to be treated the same way you want to be treated. Better rule of thumb - treat others they way they tell you they want to be treated.
#34
How boring it can be. You work, take care of other people, eat, sleep, then wake up and do the same thing the next day and the next. The monotony gets broken when something c****y pops up but you still have those regular obligations.
keyboardtek 1 year ago
Retirement is mostly mundane boredom punctuated by episodes of medical procedure terror.
Worst Cop in Britain 1 year ago
Good thing I won't be able to afford it then?
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Thomas Hunt, Jr. 1 year ago
No kids here...but once you get beyond the horrible monotony, you can find peace and pleasure in it. Take it from the guy who has been living in isolation for 25 years.
#35
You gotta buy YOURSELF gifts Or no one will
Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! 1 year ago
On the other paw, you know better than anyone what kind of presents you like, and what size/color/flavor/platform you want it in.
Lene 1 year ago
You need better ppl in your life, then. I love to buy gifts to myself but that's just because I'm a silly person. Lol. I still get Christmas presents (in plural!) And birthday presents (also in plural!). Lol. Of course it helps that I have plenty of things on my wish list that are very cheap. :) specific pens and notebooks, specific chocolates, venus fly trap-plants, and stickers and sticky notes. I guess that it may be an age-thing for me that those cheap things on my wish list have snuck in. My bf once wanted to make a joke where he hid my real present (a book, I think) and he just gave me a sheet of stickers (thinking I'd be disaapointed and then he could give me the real gift). I was so excited about the stickers that he was disappointed that I got equally excited about a book and some stickers. Lol.
CD Mills 1 year ago
My late husband was bad at buying gifts, he wasn't a materialistic person so he didn't pay much attention to material things. Like home decor, fashion, and things like that, not even in our home, whatever I wanted/liked was fine. He told me that he wanted me to have what I wanted and would probably get the wrong thing so I bought my own birthday and sometimes xmas gift. He wasn't lazy or pulling weaponized incompetence, he was honestly lost at what was a good or c**p item and price had nothing to do with it. He could shop for food, he ate every day but he never decorated a house. He didn't have a picture on the wall when we married. He would often surprise me with plants, I filled the house and yard with them, that was the only thing he felt he wouldn't get wrong because I love plants so.
Mike Beck 1 year ago
My favorite gifts? YOU handle the dishes tonight. YOU decide what we're having for dinner this time. My absolute favorite? Take me at my word. If I say xyz then I meant xyz. Not "except for", not "what if", but xyz. Best example is when I had my wife all but shave my head; I had to take them from her and start trimming myself before she would accept that "no guard" meant exactly "no guard". First she argued about what I meant, then she tried to compromise by using a shorter one, then I took it away.
#36
Having to remember 20+ different passwords
Hannah 1 year ago
Ah yes. Required number of characters; this one requires a SPECIAL character, something upper case, lower case, a number. I can see why people write them down.
Alex hayes 1 year ago
I have a system so I always have a different password but they all have the same structure so I can always figure them out when I forget. Reverse white hacking?
Linda Lee 1 year ago
I do this for my work passwords that have to be changed every 30 days.
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David Paterson 1 year ago
If a password is written down, someone has to break into my house to get it. Saving it on computer is equivalent to not having a password.
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Ąåřţđęşịɠŋȿ 1 year ago
That is where programs like LastPass or RoberForm are priceless. You can create nearly unbreakable passwords and not have to remember but one.
devotedtodreams 1 year ago
Mine are "remembered" by a password-protected Word document - that particular password is not written down ANYwhere. Otherwise, I'd have no chance.
Danish Susanne 1 year ago
Yes I always laugh when people are surprised that I don't remember their phone number but must rely on my mobile. I tell them that I have to remember as many passwords as I used to remember phone numbers.
Thomas Hunt, Jr. 1 year ago
Now see, that's why you memorize 4 or 5 at maximum characters allowed. Get those down and then expand. Get enough and you can cycle through em.
#37
That you are alone and you will never feel safe and secure . The constant worry about everything
Sarah Suelzle 1 year ago
I have felt this way my entire life with only a few brief respites here and there 😐
#38
Having to work for a living, forever.
keyboardtek 1 year ago (edited)
The only people I personally know who were able to retire early with a lot of money chose not to have kids. They saved a ton of money and now travel in a motor home in their retirement years, have a paid off mortgage, and generally are very comfortable. They did not have a single regret not having children.
Ąåřţđęşịɠŋȿ 1 year ago
I'm often asked if I am retired. Are you fuucking kidding me? I can't afford to retire?
#39
Learning how to navigate childhood traumas
Captain McSmoot 1 year ago
We don't navigate things that go away. It's precisely due to the fact that they are truly real and very present that we must navigate them.
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robin aldrich 1 year ago
Ooohhh...someone else needs a big hug and help getting through those...( I'm not a qualified therapist, but I'm really good at giving hugs.)
Thomas Hunt, Jr. 1 year ago
Due to issues I can't let go of past traumas. Something my family can't understand. I've tried everything short of hypnotism (which I won't do).
Kelly H. Wilder 1 year ago
EMDR has been helpful for me for some trauma. It doesn't erase what happened, but it makes reliving it somehow a bit easier. This is not the best way to say it, but these particular traumas do not have the power over me they once did.
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#40
If you do not agree with EVERYTHING other adults say they hate you.
Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! 1 year ago
If someone hates you for having a different opinion, that person is not an adult, no matter what their chronological age. Adults recognize and enjoy their differences. For instance, I believe in God. Most of the people on BP whom I consider friends do not. We still enjoy meowing/barking/chirping at each other. We still read what each other has written, and often find things to agree on. It's ok to disagree. You can still be respectful of people; you can still enjoy each other's company, and you can still celebrate your differences.
Captain McSmoot 1 year ago
If Covid showed us anything it's that adults don't exist then...
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Multa Nocte 1 year ago
If you stay around people like this you do have a problem. That is why we have feet - to walk away.
robin aldrich 1 year ago
Especially if they're safely anonymous and hating from behind a keyboard.
keyboardtek 1 year ago
I used to think that was mostly the poorly educated people I met. But I encountered a few highly educated successful people who were so arrogant. They thought that because they were successful computer software coders that they had superior knowledge about everything and only their political view was the correct one to have.
#41
Still worrying about my adult children's safety.
#42
You never become an adult, you're only cosplaying one. But no one tells you that as a kid becsuse they are busy cosplaying.
Multa Nocte 1 year ago (edited)
I think the difference here is that many children believe they have to grow up to be totally independent and self-sufficient as an adult. Once you learn that you don't have to do everything yourself, that there are people and organisations out there that help you and that you are part of an interdependent ecosystem, that changes your perspective. The belief in "total independence" is where the problem lies. I am guessing this is tougher for men than for women because of cultural expectations.
keyboardtek 1 year ago
That assumed you live in a country that has community support structures. In America that would be considered Socialism, which is considered evil. Then the church based charities often require one to belong to their religion. So charitable of them!
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ColdSteelRonin 1 year ago
That's BS. I'm an adult with responsibilities, I provide and care for my mentally ill sister, work a steady job and pay my bills on time without err. I also tell fart jokes, play video games and say "that's what she said" way too often. We're all feeling our way through our existence, but it ain't cosplay it's about being responsible
Gossameringue 1 year ago
What does this mean? No, I'm not cosplaying an adult. I am one. I deal with things and make decisions without handholding. I rely on people when I have to but understand that others rely on me to do things.
#43
You need 20 years to learn stuff. That is outdated in 5
keyboardtek 1 year ago
God had only ten rules for the whole world. My wife has 150 rules just for the house.
Danish Susanne 1 year ago
But in those 20 years you should have learned how to learn whatever new you need to learn.
Michelle Forbes 1 year ago
That by the time you've grown and learned from experiences etc...you're old and probably almost dead. The person you become and look back at how you would do things differently because you now know better....thanks life...that's handy 🤷🏼
Thomas Hunt, Jr. 1 year ago
Unless you were into computers in the early and mid 80s when everyone else considered it a fad. Then technology ends up being candy before you no matter the year.
robin aldrich 1 year ago (edited)
And as a Boomer that isn't even including the technology I need to keep up with.
#44
No one told me becoming an old adult would hurt so much
Geoffrey Scott 1 year ago
A guy I know (87), told me(62_) after asking him about pains when I wake. "No...what you worry about are NEW pains"
Thomas Hunt, Jr. 1 year ago
And how easily it is to break bones...or how long it takes to heal.
robin aldrich 1 year ago
A previous comment about being young mentally!! . Because I don't feel old but my body reminds me that I am.
keyboardtek 1 year ago
I often wonder why my parents never complained about their aches and pains. Maybe I belong to the wimpy generation.
#45
Life itself? How hard it is to be an adult? Being lost and not knowing what to do ?
DotC 1 year ago (edited)
I was looking for the one that said how rare it is that I knew who I was and what I wanted to go to school for since I was 14. I am still in that field. And what kind of partner I wanted since 25. When I got divorced at 51, I found my list from 25. It's 75% the same. I have not met anyone while dating that knows who they are or what they want out of life.
#46
That there really are no more “special days”. When you get to be an “established” (over 30) adult, nobody really gives a crap if it’s your birthday, Mother’s Day etc. But you are still expected to make them special for other people.
Charles McChristy 1 year ago
You think over 30 is established?! BAWHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! Boy are you in for a surprise...
#48
Credit scores!! How easy it is to lose points, how hard it is to get them back and how they control everything!!
ElfVibratorGlitter 1 year ago
And they actually don't make sense. Like if you maintain a healthy credit limit, your debt ratio looks bad, open more credit cards... credit score improves.
#49
The mailbox only contains bills and junk mail. Now I know why my parents never seemed to care about getting the mail while my sister and I fought over who got to go get it
#50
People depend on you all the time. Family, friends, pets, work, neighbors, society. It’s ok, but also quite daunting when you just feel like curling up in the corner with your blanket and a book and have quiet time.
#51
How everything snap crackles and pops and your in constant pain and everything irritates you.
#52
Having to unlearn all the toxic beliefs and behaviors that were forced on you growing up so you can start to heal from your childhood trauma and become a healthy, functioning adult. It's so much work. But so worth it. Been in therapy for 14 years now. I am a much more whole and self assured individual who has self love and sets clear boundaries.
Multa Nocte 1 year ago
It is true that if you grew up in a toxic environment you do have to work actively to make your life better. It's a lot of work to get out of toxic beliefs and patterns, but it is well worth it.
keyboardtek 1 year ago
I rejected the religious dogma that was being shoved down my throat in Catholic elementary school. It was obviously illogical nonsense even in fourth grade. But as an adult some of it still controls my behavior and contributes to my anxiety.
#53
How much u actually turn into ur parents... I always said I wouldn't yell at my kids like my mom... then I yell and sound exactly like her.... same phrases and everything... I be about to blow my top and just walk away because y yall got me sounding like this... I was supposed to be a cool mom
SweetCheesySpaghetti 1 year ago
Every time I get loud with my son, I have to remind him that I don't like acting that way, and that I'm sorry I lost my composure, but my big feelings got ahead of me. It has been WORK trying to teach him the difference between yelling because he's a nuisance and yelling because I'm human and sometimes lose my grip. My parents always made me feel so unloved because they yelled so much.
Multa Nocte 1 year ago
I'm always bemused that people I knew growing up who hated their parents turned out to be just as toxic, but in different ways so they could argue that they were different than their parents.
CD Mills 1 year ago
You can break the cycle, I did. Luckily I didn't turn into my mother, we were polar opposites, always. I also refused to do to my kids what my mom did to me, I was parentified at a young age, she was irresponsible, narcissistic, and selfish. She never took responsibility and packing up the car and running away was her cure for every problem. I've spent my life trying to grow responsible humans for the world. Mentally and physically strong people who know how to work alone or in a group. My kids brought lots of stray kids home, friends that needed help, and we helped who we could, how we could. I planted roots and flowered.
#55
All the changes your body goes through as you get older. I wish someone would have told me so I could have been more prepared.
Michael Largey 1 year ago
I've lived 25 years longer than my father did and 40 years longer than his father did. Like Mickey Mantle said, "If I had known I would live this long, I would have taken better care of myself."
Sven Horlemann 1 year ago
...yeah, but everyone older tells you. You just don't listen. Because, being young, you cannot relate. I can relate... N O W.
keyboardtek 1 year ago
I wish doctors would give us a booklet that tells us what body problems are normal once we hit 65 years old. I wake up with a new pain, it lasts for months, go to the doctor, and get told it is normal for my age.
#56
That as an adult, you still don't know what you are doing. it's all a lie
Michael Largey 1 year ago
Becoming an adult is when we stop realizing that we don't know what we're doing.
#57
It’s harder to meet people and start relationships once your done with school
Lene 1 year ago
I strongly recommend, if you have little kids, that you talk with the moms in your kid's day care or kindergarten. I am pretty introverted and usually think I'm an annoying and sorta dumb person... but we're a group of 4 moms in my kids' kindergarten that just end up talking and talking and talking a few mornings every week and I feel pretty safe with them! And I am seriously thinking about proposing that when our kids go to school we should still meet up perhaps just once per month and chat and get something to eat. I hope it will work out!
Mia Black 1 year ago
I find it easier. (Was bullied since kindergarten, if that matters). Today we are able to reach out to others via internet. We can find new people through hobbies and interests rather than through seeing people day to day. We just have to find things to enjoy and meet the people who share this. Not all friendships will hold but we can still keep the hobby and also make new friendships. What holds some back is the fear to lose a friendship but we have to be grateful for all what we got, be happy for good memories and all what we can win. If we don't try it we possibly don't get friends. And one of the most important thing is to be honest. To oneself and to the New people and friends. My opinion. Must not work for all but maybe a good thought
sturmwesen 1 year ago
seems like mit people meet friends at work or while doing hobbies (unless they are hobbies you do at home) like climbing, at the dog park, game stores,...
#58
The lost ability to run. I so admire seniors who can run.
Sven Horlemann 1 year ago
Struggling myself now, after breaking my fermoral neck. Got still really awkward problems. But running is so important to my mental health.
#59
Mostly about boundaries, but that is not only adult, it's a human issue. And respecting yourself as well as others. Never allowing anyone to make you feel less worthy.
#60
I wasn't warned about the fact that being an adult means having your back hurting all the time.
keyboardtek 1 year ago
Physical education in school should not be about competitive sports. It should be about how to lift properly, how to maintain good posture while staring at a computer for hours, the importance of daily stretching and core strength for spine health. Unfortunately we do not learn any of this until we injure ourselves and the physical therapist starts to educate us.
Captain McSmoot 1 year ago
THIS! Screw all that dumb talk about people complaining they were never taught to do taxes in school. Firstly, yes, you were; you just thought it was boring and tuned out. It was call math class. Secondly, kids and teens need to be taught the importance of movement.
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#61
That safety and "being safe" were not the same. That parents, partners, friends, family...were just titles and that when you get older, there is no such thing as certainty.
#62
Being an adult (and the expectations that go with it) and feeling like an adult are two totally different things.
#63
The feeling you get when people around you are starting family’s and it feels like yesterday you were all kids lol like why are we all having “teenage (mid twenties) pregnancy’s “
#64
That I would always feel like I am two steps behind, mentally exhausted and feeling like I am not good enough.
Jill Rhodry 1 year ago
You are good enough, you are worthwhile, you're just right. Please try not to compare yourself to others, you're on your own journey and the only person you compare yourself to is your past you.
#65
The emotional intelligence and aptitude needed to get through this life and the fact that many of us don't even know the amount of work necessary to achieve it.
#66
You will likely receive more love and support from strangers than you will from your own friends and family.
#67
When you young you trust everyone but by the time your middle age you will not trust anyone.
Multa Nocte 1 year ago
Nah, with time I believe you get better at judging this (unless you are someone who seems to thrive only when things are predictably toxic and who seems to think that "predictable/negative" is better than "new and scary").
Michael Largey 1 year ago
What makes the OP think young people trust everybody? Grade school quickly taught me that even the good people can't be relied on.
#68
I’d be able to provide for myself all by myself if I went to college. I’d never have to worry about money if I got a college degree
keyboardtek 1 year ago
Well one still has to have some knowledge that is employable. An English degree will only get one a job teaching English.
#69
Your grown kids will still stress you out!
#70
How difficult it actually is to get pregnant
cerinamroth 1 year ago
Not always. I have every sympathy for anyone having trouble conceiving, but for us it was first time lucky each time. I had my first aged 35 and my second aged 39. So, I am not saying it's always that easy, but equally it is not always as difficult as the OP is suggesting.
What do you think ?
Kate Jones 1 year ago (edited)
How not having children affects not only you but the people in your life. If you know you don't want them, you need to prepare yourself for other people's reactions to that now, including your family. I never really wanted kids. And there's this societal fear if you're a woman that if you don't couple up and have a baby then your life is meaningless. So people end up in bad relationships and full of regrets because they can't just be okay with being by themselves. And a part of me wishes I had a baby, if for no other reason than giving my parents a grandchild. I know I can't have a kid for someone else. But it's still hard- they're obviously sad about it and it affects them. They worry about me being alone when they're gone and I get that. Society doesn't know how to deal with this choice. I'm so tired of being called a cat lady or 'aren't you lonely?' And no... I don't have an amazing job that I chose over family. That's not the only reason to not have them. And no, I don't have dozens of friends that 'fulfill' me. I just didn't want kids, at least not by myself. And I wasn't going to pair up with someone I didn't love just to make a baby I wasn't sure if I even wanted.
Poultry Geist 1 year ago
How hard it can be to scroll bored panda but if I drop my phone ,try to catch it, and accidentally hit the screen I am at the top of the page again 😭
David Fox 1 year ago
The new lingo/street talk......I just don't understand what kids are saying nowadays.
Mike F 1 year ago
Urban Dictionary saves the day. I've had it on my home screen for years.
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Cathy Lemay 1 year ago
How fast you arrive at your so called senior years. You're just going along and minding your business and someone offers you a senior's discount. You, however, should take it. It's a weird feeling because I always said to myself that I'd do this or that down the line but down the line is here and there were things I never got around to. I'm not dead yet but I will never have the nerves to drive now. (for example) Times winged chariot never slows the F down does it?
Sweet Taurus 1 year ago
How stressful it is making big decisions. Am I making the best possible choice? Do I choose to do it now or wait and see if something changes. Or when you finally do make that decision and it ends up being the wrong one even though you were absolutely positive it was the right decision.
Raphapablap 1 year ago
How quickly time passes. When I was a kid, school terms seemed to go on forever. My kid has nearly finished school for the summer and it doesn't seem that long ago that she'd just started that year/grade.
Papa 1 year ago
When I was young I remember older people telling me that time goes by faster as you get older. I thought they were crazy. They weren't.
Load More Replies... CD Mills 1 year ago
All of them. My mom wasn't an adult when she passed away at 83 a few years back. She wasn't ever adult-like, she ran from every problem that popped up her entire life. She wasn't responsible with money and more than once we snuck out of town owing back rent and utility bills. I had to figure out adulting on my own.
Kate Jones 1 year ago (edited)
How not having children affects not only you but the people in your life. If you know you don't want them, you need to prepare yourself for other people's reactions to that now, including your family. I never really wanted kids. And there's this societal fear if you're a woman that if you don't couple up and have a baby then your life is meaningless. So people end up in bad relationships and full of regrets because they can't just be okay with being by themselves. And a part of me wishes I had a baby, if for no other reason than giving my parents a grandchild. I know I can't have a kid for someone else. But it's still hard- they're obviously sad about it and it affects them. They worry about me being alone when they're gone and I get that. Society doesn't know how to deal with this choice. I'm so tired of being called a cat lady or 'aren't you lonely?' And no... I don't have an amazing job that I chose over family. That's not the only reason to not have them. And no, I don't have dozens of friends that 'fulfill' me. I just didn't want kids, at least not by myself. And I wasn't going to pair up with someone I didn't love just to make a baby I wasn't sure if I even wanted.
Poultry Geist 1 year ago
How hard it can be to scroll bored panda but if I drop my phone ,try to catch it, and accidentally hit the screen I am at the top of the page again 😭
David Fox 1 year ago
The new lingo/street talk......I just don't understand what kids are saying nowadays.
Mike F 1 year ago
Urban Dictionary saves the day. I've had it on my home screen for years.
Load More Replies... Cathy Lemay 1 year ago
How fast you arrive at your so called senior years. You're just going along and minding your business and someone offers you a senior's discount. You, however, should take it. It's a weird feeling because I always said to myself that I'd do this or that down the line but down the line is here and there were things I never got around to. I'm not dead yet but I will never have the nerves to drive now. (for example) Times winged chariot never slows the F down does it?
Sweet Taurus 1 year ago
How stressful it is making big decisions. Am I making the best possible choice? Do I choose to do it now or wait and see if something changes. Or when you finally do make that decision and it ends up being the wrong one even though you were absolutely positive it was the right decision.
Raphapablap 1 year ago
How quickly time passes. When I was a kid, school terms seemed to go on forever. My kid has nearly finished school for the summer and it doesn't seem that long ago that she'd just started that year/grade.
Papa 1 year ago
When I was young I remember older people telling me that time goes by faster as you get older. I thought they were crazy. They weren't.
Load More Replies... CD Mills 1 year ago
All of them. My mom wasn't an adult when she passed away at 83 a few years back. She wasn't ever adult-like, she ran from every problem that popped up her entire life. She wasn't responsible with money and more than once we snuck out of town owing back rent and utility bills. I had to figure out adulting on my own.
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