Blurting out something negative or insulting during a date can be a major faux pas and can cause significant damage to your potential relationship. But not everyone can avoid it.
So when Reddit user Batmanstitty posted a question on the platform a few days ago, asking everyone "what's the worst thing a person has said to you while on a date?", many came forward with pretty memorable and ridiculous statements.
No wonder 67% of Americans who are on the market say their romantic endeavors aren't going well!
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It was all going really well until she saw a group of people with various disabilities when we were going for a walk and proceeded to tell me how, while she had nothing against the disabled, they made her physically ill because of how "messed up" they are and she wished there were limits on how much they could be out in public.
I told her, as a person with an invisible disability of my own, that she made.my skin crawl and that she should be limited on how much she can be in public.
There was obviously no second date.
Outwardlly I still look fine, well..a little wrinkled, but inside i have a damaged nervous system from chemo that sends out random pain signals 24/7 and only 40% lung function. If i'd have been on a date with her I wouldn't have been able to get away fast enough.. literally.
I don't think turning invisible is a disability. I mean, you can use that to sneak into movies for free!
I would have asked if people with mental health problems, like yourself, should also stay home since being with her made you sick
When I was growing up, adults instructed us to look away from disabled people. So, I had to "train" myself to look, speak, and interact with disabled people. Lo and behold, I found out they have all the normal reactions, expectations, loves, and needs as non-disabled people.
I kind of disagree with the "as a person with an invisible disability" qualifier. I mean, "as an actual human, this makes my skin crawl" would work more broadly.
Load More Replies...She needs a psychological evaluation. Ignorance can only be blamed for a certain amount. Spiteful witch
We were about the same height and he said I could never wear heels around him. Little did he know, I can do what the f**k I want.
So what? If they're not to your taste don't wear them. Simple.
Load More Replies...When you peel away all the layers of this sentiment, it boils down to men being socialized to believe they must be bigger than women, stronger, taller, and - this is the important part - able to overpower us. That's where this particular hang up comes from. A few years ago I was in a relationship with a guy who was several inches shorter than I am and he had a serious problem with it. I did a bit of research on why so many men have this problem and was surprised to find actual studies that drill down to the heart of it. So it's really an indication of fragility. Men who are not bothered by this (looking at you, Jason Statham) are very secure with themselves.
My ex- told me I should change my outfit before we were on our way out the door. I did. I changed into my pj's and parked my butt in front of the TV. I didn't pay for the tickets...
It really depends on the situation. If you are going out for a nice dinner at a fancy restaurant your stained housecoat and curlers really aren't appropriate.
Load More Replies...How does you wearing heels change anything? I have never understood that kind of idiotic mentality. My wife is now slightly taller than me, I am slightly older than she is and have less hair than I used to have. I am still the same person, she is still the same person. She looks great in heels. That guy was an a*s, you done did the right thing! :-)
Sounds like you are comfortable in your own skin. Wonderful place to be.
Load More Replies...My 5’11” 15 year-old daughter’s boyfriend is 5’7”. Neither care. I mean he literally has to crane his neck to look at her. Again, neither care.
Both me and my partner are vertically challanged, I wish she would wear heals to the shops so we can get the stuff off the top shelf. I had to ask a teenaged worker to reach up for me the other day i said "excuse me, can you get that down please, my legs don't know how to be as long as yours" 🤣😂🤣 at least I miss the cobwebs on the path I guess
My ex was like that too because we were the same height. I complied because I prefer flat shoes anyway, but what irked me was that when his Napoleon complex was in full swing again, it didn't matter how often I told him I loved him just the way he was. It meant the world to me that someone outside my family loved me at all (if he ever really did, looking back), but it seemed my feelings were never good enough for his ego.
Thank goodness he is an ex. I hope all is well for you now.
Load More Replies...I'm almost 5 foot 8" tall... The guy I'm dating better not have a problem with me in heels, either
That depends..... on whether you are going to try to drive in them or not!
Load More Replies...As a tall woman, I have always been self conscious of my height in heels (6’1”+). My husband is 3” shorter than me. He loves me in heels. It puts him at perfect boob height.
Yes, and he can choose not to have you around him. That's how choice works.
We managed to get in touch with Batmanstitty and they agreed to have a little chat with us.
"I have thought about this question before," the Redditor told Bored Panda about the origins of their post. "[I was] wondering if people have had bad experiences like myself while dating, and it definitely blew my mind to see the response I got from everybody."
"The stories are honestly insane to read and to know people actually dealt with weird, scary, and mind-blowing dates," they added.
After ordering a really expensive meal and drink, after I had offered to buy dinner. Plate: 50 dollars. Drink: 25. Like holy s**t. I will admit I went with it until:
“I want to date someone like you but not you, I was going to tell you earlier but I was hungry” then she went and made plans with another dude for after our meal.
I went to the bathroom and then snuck out when our food was brought. I dunno how she paid for that because I ordered something equally as expensive.
I know you cant force attraction, but f**k you b***h.
I blocked her as I left.
How about take the high road and pay your part at the bar and then sneak out?
She lied, and had him also order food under false pretenses, therefore she is responsible for both portions of food.
Load More Replies...Should have paid for his own food in my opinion, by not doing it makes him as bad as her.
No. She didn't eat his food and neither did he so she should only be charged for one meal
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“If we do this long term, I’m gonna call the shots, you won’t work, you’ll stay home and raise the kids, you won’t be allowed to leave the house and only have friends over that I approve of, you’ll have life 360 on your phone with me being the only one to access it, and we’ll sell your car too so you have money to buy the heels I want you to wear and the makeup you’ll wear everyday” so I took a hard pass
My first long term relationship ended just before our wedding-we'd been talking about having children and his plan was that he would allow me to work until I became pregnant, and then I'd leave work and be a housewife. His mother would move in with us to help with the baby. At this point, I was earning three times what he did, and he couldn't see that it was unreasonable to expect me to give up my career based on his opinion only. His mother was an evangelical "Christian" who hated me and the thought of her poisoning my baby's mind with her warped morality was too frightening, but he refused point blank to discuss it, so we broke up. Thankfully my taste in men and my ability to assess them improved hugely with time.
Right? Like “Yes master, I shall be your humble slave and do whatever you please. Would you like your shoes shined too, sir?”
Load More Replies...Yes. My first fiance told me that I could work until I became pregnant, and then I had to stop work and be a housewife, and his mother would move in with us to ensure the baby was brought up properly (she was an evangelical Christian, the type that servers working on a Sunday after church dread seeing). I broke up with him over it, he was very fixed in his mind about it.
Load More Replies...And yet, women still put up with this. Many of these men go on to cheat because they know their wives have no choice but to stay, now that they've trapped them into not having lives of their own.
Likely stems from childhood abuse, which leads to low or nonexistent self esteem. We accept the love we think we deserve.
Load More Replies...After going through the replies, the Redditor noticed a trend that many stories were by people who dabble in online dating, using apps like Tinder, Bumble, etc.
That might be due to the way people look at these services. A whopping 43% of men say they are using the apps to casually date (while 42% are downloading them to find a long-term partner).
Alternatively, 48% of women say they are using dating apps to find long-term partners and 37% use them to date casually.
“You know that cancer is a hoax perpetuated by big pharma and the government preying on the uneducated, right!?!?” He says to me, a cancer survivor who’s life was f*****g derailed by cancer…
Yes, ficken that fücking cancer and that stupid-ignorant of an idiot! I lost both parents from cancer. But, I'm so very happy for the OP for surviving. Yay!
Load More Replies...I wonder why we had cancer before "Big Pharma" became a thing, though? So weird....
I was thinking the exact same thing. These asshats who spout this absolute bs somehow either (conveniently) forget or are totally ignorant of the fact that the same devastating illnesses /diseases have been with us since before written records. I'm going to quote a Bible verse that says,... there is nothing new under the sun, that was written a very long time ago and it is true now. Now I'll be closing my shutters, I'm sure that the folks with the pitchforks and torches will be be here shortly, lol.
Load More Replies...If anyone said that to me, I don't know what I'd do (but it wouldn't be pretty). I lost my father to cancer, it's no goddamn hoax. The nerve of some people...
i lost both parents and the love of my life to cancer. i likely woulda gone super stabby...
Load More Replies...That's almost up there with "you know they have a cure for cancer but are hiding it because they want to make money". First off, there will never be a "cure for cancer" since cancer is not one disease. There are several, and they will need different cures. Second, pretty much everyone I know has lost someone they love to cancer. Including whoever "they" are. So they allowed someone to die often in terrible pain when they could have cured them?! And all of those who say "I would never do chemo or radiation" who have never had to decide that? Get back to me when you sit across from a doctor and hear "you have ___ cancer".
I had cancer at 25. Never smoked. Never did anything that would cause harm to my body like that. It was genetic. A nearly 2 inch tumor in my upper left hilar, stage 2, Hodgkin' Lymphoma to the point where my skin was constantly burning and itching, and no matter what I did, I couldn't stop coughing.
‘You don’t want any more kids? Don’t worry, I’ll change your mind and you’ll enjoy carrying my child.’
There was no second date and I ended up having to block him everywhere.
Another date I would have just up and left in the middle of
Right! I would have left soon as he said that. No comments, no nothing, just leave.
Load More Replies...He's about to learn that her mind is rock-solidly made up and he ain't getting a child with her or even just her. Smh...
I would stand up and leave immediately - wow, where do you find all these idiots?!
Women are also more likely to see risk – both physical and emotional – when it comes to dating; when those who say dating has become harder for most people in the last 10 years were asked to describe in their own words why they think this is the case, women are twice as likely as men to cite increased risk.
For their part, men are more likely than women to say technology is a reason dating has gotten harder. Overall, 47% of Americans say dating is now harder than it was 10 years ago, and this thread illustrates it pretty well.
"What are you, a F****t?" Because I declined to sleep with her on the first date... I don't sleep around, it's not for me. All power to you if that's something you enjoy, but don't pressure someone into it by questioning their sexual orientation. I also don't find it particularly attractive to be calling people slurs because you didn't get your way.
Calling someone gay because they do not want to sleep with you is the definition of CRINGE. How pathetic.
I thought it said fu¢ktw@t. Either way, walk off and never look back.
Load More Replies...The worst part that she used “gay” as an insult. I think I would have shrugged and said “I am now.” Edited for spelling
The shrug and "I am gay for you, just you" would be better.
Load More Replies...I once had a beautiful girlfriend who was a minor player on Baywatch call me that when I told her I wanted to break up
Okay ladies how many times have you been called a lesbian, because you turned a creep down for sex?! Yup, goes both ways apparently.
Plenty actually and it's just as gross no matter who is saying it to whatever target.
Load More Replies..."I was reading about plus size models today. What do you think about plus size models considering you're a bigger girl?" I am 5'4" and 125 lbs. He was not being sarcastic. Dude had the most warped sense of body image I've ever encountered. Joke's on him though because his head was shaped like a lightbulb.
I'd be shocked if it could even spark to begin with.
Load More Replies..."I was reading about LED lightbulbs. What do you think considering your head is shaped like one?"
There is not enough aloe vera on the planet for this burn. 🤣
Load More Replies...I had a similar experience. I was 5'5" and 127. The guy said "You're heavier than I thought you would be". I told him to go down the street to the graveyard and dig himself up a date.
No definitely not. Dude thinks size 4-6 is plus sized. I was 5’2” 120 in my 20’s and wore size 4. This guy thinks anything over size 0-2 is plus sized
Load More Replies...honestly one of my biggest issues is how we view bodies in this world. Like BMIs are awful. I have a 0.44 waist- to-height ratio and visible ribs from feet away and I have a BMI of 27. honestky this is all irritating.
I made my sister's ex boyfriend cry after I lost my s**t at him because he kept body shaming her and questioning her meal choices/portions. He comes out later, after a cry, and goes "I don't appreciate the way you spoke to me" and I said "I don't appreciate the way you make my sister feel like s**t, when you stop I'll speak to you nicer" he went back inside and cried again. The bloke was unstable he used to be a surf life saver but got injured and put on weight himself and now projects his hate on everyone else.
Good job for sticking up for her! I'd have planted my foot in his a*s.
Load More Replies...So I'm 5'4" and when I was 125lbs I was a size 3-5 depending on the clothes. Dude is a twàt
I was told my my entire school and family that I was FAT as heck when I was a teen. I was 5' 5" and 130 lbs. I developed an eating disorder and am now morbidly obese, fighting it every day to try to get back down again (have yo-yo'd four times)!
I had to triple check to make sure I didn't write this comment. Sad that we both went through this same situation :(
Load More Replies...Op, did you tell him about his head shaped like a lightbulb? I hope so, and tell him that the bulb seemed to be burnt-out.
“Stop pulling away when I try to kiss you because people are looking and it makes me seem rapey”
wistfully after 2 wines... "God, you are so amazing, such a shame you look like that."
Ah thank you, pour me some more wine so I can tolerate being with you ...
So drink a bunch of wine together before you tie the knot.
Load More Replies...I'd be like "Whatever kind of look YOU were going for, you missed."
"So, aren't you going to invite me to your place? I bought you lunch. You kind of owe me." from a guy I met ONCE and had breath so bad I am surprised it didn't melt the fork.
heyyy… come to think of it my friend said I owe her my Icecream because she gave me mozerella sticks… 🤔 Come to think of it…. She never actually cared and always interrupted me
Load More Replies...Why do some men think women owe them things when they do something for them. If you truly are interested in getting that from them, put in the effort to make them want to with you. They arent a prostitute where favors are exchanged for money and items. Build up a relationship with them first, woo them, etc
I don't know what the going rate is for the services of a sex worker but I hope it's more than the cost of a lunch.
Load More Replies...Had a similar first date experience from guy who kept hinting to spend the night - his breath practically singed my nose hairs...
I hate guys who assume you want to sleep with them because you're being nice to them and you agree to hang out with them.
Or guys that you smile at because it's part of your customer service job, who interpret the smile as 'I want you so bad'
Load More Replies...I literally jumped out of a moving car to get away from someone I went on one date with who said to me (while driving past my condo building, I asked where he was going), "I'm finding a parking spot so we can F, we're gonna F right?" Um nope. One of the worst dates I was ever on and this entitled jerk thought he could get himself some. He spent most of the night telling me he couldn't understand why he was a virgin. He didn't even pay for dinner like the guy who bought the lunch in this story...I did. Not that would have made a difference. lol
The other problem is for what this @ss had to offer I bet it wasn't even the cost of the ice in her drink.
First date, I order a mocktail and he says, “I’m not going to pay for your drinks unless there’s alcohol in them.”
"Run, run, RUN! And when you're finished, run some more!"
Load More Replies...If you like Roofi coladas............waking up in a daze. Then date this guy
Lol I totally just sang this to the tune of the "Pina colada" song lmao
Load More Replies...Yikes!!! As a 55 year old widow entering the dating world again soon these are terrifying and sadly, in line with what I have seen on a dating website I browsed out of curiousity.
I have given up on dating sites after the year I was seriously trying to find someone, I went on over 100 coffee dates, and the only people that got more than 2 dates I met through other means, mostly while volunteering. In 10 years online, only 1 person I dated beyond 2 dates, he lasted 7. Festivals, parties, dog park are best place to meet, especially if volunteering since you have a built in group to hang out with.
Load More Replies...And I hadn't planned on a second date with you so let's just call it a done date
- asked me the worst crime I’d commit if I would get away with it. I said steal a few million from a bank. They said they’d “dahmer” someone
can you reply again to ensure we know you're still alive? pls? that's messed up
The original poster is not on Bored Panda - all of these are from Reddit or elsewhere so they won't see your comment.
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"I don't mind that you're... you know." *waves hand vaguely at my body*
"...a corporeal being and not an ethereal gestalt entity"
Load More Replies...Norwegian? 3D? Dressed? Don't keep us in tension!!
Load More Replies...Today I saw a woman with braids in a deep, deep purple. Was so close to telling her how awesome her hair is. Alas, I am an introvert and said nothing.
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We had a fun night having a personal date and then we pull up to his house for his birthday party, where I’m about to meet his family for the first time. He turns to me and says, “Oh btw my parents don’t like Mexicans.”
I am Mexican.
Well, not his fault his family's racist (seems like he's not, good for him), but should've warned beforehand...
While I think he should have warned her before, he obviously doesnt have a problem with mexicans, though if he wants to be in a relationship with one, he should think hard about his relationship with his parents and how it would work out. He's only issue here, not dumping this at the last second, rather than advanced warning and giving her a choice about meeting with them or preparing.
Possible/probable that he has partly the mentality, and 'dates' a mexican but doesn't take it as a serious relationship with any perspective, 'just mindless fun'.
Load More Replies...It's the way the pattern on the shirt is laying on them.
Load More Replies...I'm kinda torn on what to think about this one, unless it's not apparent that she is Mexian. I'd call it a yellow flag. (1) he warned you, (2) he brought you home ANYWAY. Like I'd read this as shoving it their face that he doesn't accept their racism. Which is cool, but still gets a yellow flag because well, it sucks to be the person shoved in anyone's face for any reason.
It wasn't what was said, but what was not said, because her face was buried in her phone screen the whole evening. She was shocked when I told her that we would not be going out again.
You should’ve told her via text what an idiot she was while she was sitting right there in front of you!😂
Ugh I hate when people are just so addicted to their phone that they can't even tear themselves away for one second. It's extremely frustrating
She was shocked because your relationship status hasnt been updated yet
Not exactly a date, but at a dance when I was a teenager I sat down for a breather after I'd been dancing for a long time. Right then a slow song started and a couple girls came up, one of them introduced me to her friend and asked me to dance with her because nobody had asked her to dance yet. I felt really bad for her and said heck yeah, everybody deserves to dance. She spent the whole time talking about how I'm such a piece of garbage for sitting down when there are girls like her who haven't been asked to dance. I kept trying to change the subject, she just ignored me and kept trash talking me, so I walked away mid-dance.
If they didn't come to dance but trash-talk instead, they don't belong on the floor...
"If you want to dance, try the ballet. "Cause you're tutu toxic for me."
Cant imagine why nobody asked her to dance, she sounds like a barrel of laughs
He asked me how frequently I would want sex if I were in my ideal relationship. I said 2-3x a week. He told me that means I'm a sex addict and that sex more often than once a month isn't really required for intimacy or connection between partners. (Hey, if that's his level of drive, cool.... but no need to shame someone for having a higher drive than yours.)
This is a person who is clearly asexual - which is fine. There are lots of people for whom sex is a physical invasive turn off but only want love ave companionship. Just identify that in your dating profile and find like- minded people.
Once a month sounds sad. Like your negotiation how many times you have to do it cause you don’t like doing it.
To paraphrase a 70s movie: She: We have sex all the time--two or three times a week. He: We hardly have sex at all--two or three times a week.
Read some research recently that guys should ejaculate 21 x/month to avoid prostate problems. You are welcome.
Yes. I worked for a doctor who sent home written prescriptions saying: More sex. He wrote these for guys with prostatitis
Load More Replies...When I was with my soon to be ex-wife, we had sex every night, when we woke up, and extra during the weekends. Thousands of times. And she still found time to cheat on me!
Her phone rang. She answered it. I expected it was a friend calling to see if she wanted to be saved.
She got concerned and hung up and said “that was my ex. He got arrested. Can you bring me to the police station?”
So I did. I even helped them fill out some paperwork so he could get released. I took them to his car and she looked at me. I laughed and said “The date was over hours ago. Go” and she got out and they drove away.
Why would this be terrible? My ex is the father of my children, he doesn't have family living close. (Not that I'd expect him to ever be arrested). Also, is it wrong to be on friendly terms with your ex? I'm a bit confused why her helping out her ex would be bad?
I don’t think OP thinks it’s a bad thing! He went along with it, after all. I think the point is that she ended up leaving with the ex, so it’s safe to assume there wasn’t a second date. Lol
Load More Replies...After explaining the call, which she really didn't have to go into detail, she should have excused herself and got an UBER.
You can bring someone as much as you can take, such as "bring a coat" or person.
Load More Replies...Your job is to sit there and look pretty. (After I shared an opinion about something)
It's nice when they tell you up front what kind of a person they truly are.
"I can tell you are an only child because you have major personality flaws".
I like to think of my personality flaws as matching the personality flaws of only the right person.
Wait...I'm an only child. Lol. I always laugh in Bob's Burgers when Gene says "I didn't want to be an only child, they're always weird". lol
This reminds me of my 19 year old self rambling on to my now husband about spoiled only children. He is an only child.
On a date with my wife, 12 years in. "I don't think I love you anymore".
Out of the blue.
Yes. That's why I say love is a commitment, not a feeling. The feelings wax and wane, but if you have a partner with whom you share mutual respect and you're both committed to putting in the work it can be mostly good. Psychologists study this stuff. There is a "honeymoon period" in a new relationship that lasts between 12 and 24 months (IIRC). After that, the relationship has to be based on something other than the "warm fuzzy feelings". And this isn't exactly new knowledge either. This is why traditional marriage vows talk about commitment so much 'in sickness and in health until death do us part', rather than talking about the feelings. I don't know where this idea came from in western culture that love is a feeling, only a feeling, and that if you're in love, it will all magically work, and if you don't always feel those feelings, then it isn't meant to be, blah, blah blah. That's not realistic; it's a fairy tale.
Load More Replies...I was with my ex for 13 years. During which time he had cheated in me numerous times, stole money, emotionally abused me and despite my warning him that one day, It'd be like a light switch turning off and I'd be gone. He didn't believe me. The second time he got my car repo'd in 3 months after buying Iphones and big screen computer monitors, It happened. I walked into the living room and told him, " The rent is paid till the end of the month, but I will be out by that Friday." There was just a cold spot in my heart where I had once loved him. Never looked back. Best choice I ever made!
I’ve been that person who’s fallen out of love, after 17 years of marriage . It’s not easy to be the person that ends things, sometimes being in a public place means you have a least a fighting chance of being able to actually have a real conversation. And it still hurts, nobody really wants to break someone’s heart.
“You know, you’d be really pretty if you didn’t have that whole jew nose thing going on. Have you thought about getting it fixed?” This was after the movie and make-out. I’m ashamed to say that 17 yr old me didn’t tell him to f**k off like I should’ve. It just gave me an insecurity about my nose.
Not sure why you got downvoted. Are there pro-nazi people hanging out on bored panda today?
Load More Replies...With people like that, even if you did one cosmetic procedure, there would then be a constant list coming of things they don't like. Find someone who loves you for you.
When I was 17 a date called me 'Chief" because of my nose. I'm proud to have the nose of my father and grandfather.
"Jew Nose Thing"? What? Do they have powers, like Samantha from Bewitched, that're nose activated?
"A lot of people think my brother is gay. But he's not. I know. I've seen his penis a few times. And he's not gay. His penis doesn't look gay. I mean, he got hard."
1. I paraphrased.
2. The girl saying it was 18 and her brother was 25ish.
3. Mega-religious family.
He may not be gay, but there’s a whole other issue here if he gets hard around you! And exactly what does a gay penis look like ?
I guess since she is a girl and he got hard, therefore he can't be gay? The real questions is why he was naked around her, why he is turned on by his sister and why she is so comfortable talking about it...
Load More Replies...Tip: Don't date people from mega religious families. They always have some messed up secret that eventually comes out...
This sounds more like a cry for help. It sounds like her brother was molesting her and people noticed his lack of interest in dating, not realizing the real reason why. A bit of a leap I know, but it's not unheard of.
He got angry when I said I did not want to go further than kissing and denied him putting his hand under my shirt. His argument: "I have a relationship with your whole body! Not just your head!"
I wonder if they'd change their tune if you also said the same thing and whipped out several toys or something. I have a relationship with ALL of you, and that includes your butt!
First date from a dating app. I could tell he was maybe a touch too desperate based on the texts we exchanged. However, he was also whip smart and almost finished with grad school, so I still agreed to go out. We didn’t have a spark, which I noticed immediately. On the other hand, he was oblivious to it. No big deal. Then, he suggests a walk after dinner. I agree like an idiot. On that walk he proceeds to tell me that his ex girlfriend cheated on him, that he thinks he’ll always love her, even though she cheated on him with his best friend, and she gave him an STD. And the worst thing I ever heard on a date was, “But don’t worry- it’s one of the ones that clears up on its own." NOPE
The only STD I know of that "clears up on it's own" is pregnancy and only women get that! (Just joking... please don't downvote me!)
That is so wrong! It usually takes at least 18 more years till people get rid of the consequences from unprotected sex
Load More Replies...That's why I always let the girl go after me. If it wasn't for aggressive girls, I'd probably still be a virgin, instead of having three great grandkids
Remember folks, there's a big difference between intelligence and emotional intelligence!
I told him I would like to just pay for myself and he pay for himself so I don't feel uncomfortable ordering what I want. Fine. He dislikes every option we had to eat out except the one place I don't like. Whatever, I'll deal with it. We go, he orders seafood and several cups of wine. The check comes eventually and he stares at it and says "so you're paying? I didn't bring my wallet." I was instantly pissed off. On the way back to his house (I parked my car there and then we carpooled together to the restaurant) he stops at a Arby's and asks if I want anything and I said no then proceeds to bust out his fkn wallet and pay for his meal. Heated. Then he blew up my phone when I didn't want to go on another date and didn't respond back with "well, it's your loss"
EDIT:I'd like to change my answer. It was 10 years ago, I was extremely drunk and me and this date I had a were playing a drinking game in a group of my friends and roommate. He said "never have I ever molested my sister" then took a drink. My roommate physically threw him out of our apartment and I passed out on my couch.
Gesturing to the waitstaff, "Excuse me, I need the ticket for my meal. I'm paying for what I ordered and ate. My date will be paying for his." Pays check, tips well, walks to desk and ask for a cab to be called.
The whole post read like something out of Mad Magazine.
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After what I thought was a good date, we went for a couple of drinks, at the end of the night she told me "wow you really are a great guy, I just wish u were good looking"
Look, I kind of get the idea. I have dated guys briefly that seemed nice and sweet and everything but I just wasn't physically attracted. And yes, that is important too and nothing I can switch on at random. "Good-looking" always means good-looking to the person's tastes. And that I think is okay. But to say something like that out loud is beyond cruel and mean.
Wow you really are a nice girl. Too bad you're as shallow as a dried up lake
"Wow, my boyfriend would love this place!"
Edit: This was about 25 years ago. I'm very happily married (obviously to a different woman) and things are awesome. But to all you folks getting stuck with bad dates, I see you and I wish you the best.
Sounds like a rather immature way of telling you that she wasn't into you.
"you're ugly and your art sucks"
Got me both from the outside and inside..
Their attitude is ugly and as long as you enjoy making your art then it is awesome!
“are you calling the cops on me bc i drugged you?”
I was roofied before—thankfully my friend was able to get to me before he did. But it was frightening; I barely remember anything except suddenly not being able to stay awake or stand up or even move my arms. People at the bar thought I was “drunk” but my friend happened to arrive shortly before the drug kicked in and said “You were literally coherent and not drunk fifteen minutes before you passed out.” She got me home and I was sick for days. We don’t know who it was, since it was at a party. Scary stuff.
I am so sorry this happened to you. And that's a very good friend you have there. Hope you're doing well now ❤
Load More Replies...What’s the point of women if they don’t give me a BJ whenever I ask for one? In case your wondering, he asked 40 minutes into the date, I said no and left.
OMG just get yourself a Fleshlight. Women are not a collection of holes surrounded by human.
Ya, but comments like his are about power and subjugation, not sexual gratification. It’s more likely he has a sexual dysfunction than not & has a so-so sausage.
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Do you hate black people? (she was black) "no I wouldn't be here if I did". Well I hate white people, and I'm here "why are you here?" Well white dudes turn me on, I still hate them though. "Where do you see this going?" I don't know?
We did not talk much after this exchange, we split the bill.
Disgusting how someone can be so openly racist but because it was aimed at a white person it doesn't matter
Anti-white racism doesn’t have that systemic aspect, so it’s not as big a deal on a societal level as anti-Black racism, but on an individual level it is just as bad, because it will harm relationships and just generally makes one an unpleasant person.
Load More Replies...My husband is in Iraq. Noped right out on thar one
She's a cheating b***h that screws around while her husband is serving his country.
Load More Replies...Yep, same with promiscuous men and women enlisted in the army. I heard sometimes it's like high school drama times 10 with a lot of them being married.
Load More Replies...I read it as, he was on a date with a girl who told him she had a husband but he was in Iraq, so he left.
Load More Replies...On a first date, a guy told me all about his past struggles with alcoholism and how he got sober. As he was on his 2nd beer. That’s gonna be a no from me
Decades ago, I had a date take me out for dinner, he had a few beers and then suggested we go to an AA meeting. I asked him why he drank beers if he was going to an AA meeting later and he said that the beers didn't count. Needless to say, I made up something I needed to do that night and asked him to take me home (but I had him drop me off a couple blocks from my actual address).
She said to me..” people say I have bad breath..” I was way ahead of that statement as those people dead right. I was already asking for the bill so I could go home and burn a tire to get the smell out of my nose.
Right, or gum disease, deep crevices on the tongue, cavities, or tonsil stones, ( a surprisingly large percent of the population has them), diabetes- ketones smell pretty awful, kidney, liver disease….
Tonsils stones smell like skunk spray and many people don't even know they got it!
Load More Replies...Brush your teeth, people! (I only say this after reading so many stores in BP about people who don't brush their teeth regularly. But if you do brush, believe your friends about how bad your breath is and get help from your doctor.)
There are other potential reasons her breath could be bad, possibly a medical issue, that brushing wouldn't fix.
Load More Replies...After a mediocre date in every way - “On the next date, I would like you to not wear heels so I’m taller than you”. There was no second date
In fact high heels will be the only thing I'll have on. Sorry you won't be there
"You're absolutely right, there will be no high heels. Or me."
I was in recovery from my eating disorder. The dude came over to watch a movie and eat pizza (this was our second or third date). We were talking about fitness and he grabbed my bare thigh and jiggled it while asking how I could say I worked out. Other highlights include him drinking too much to drive home after assuming this was a hook up and then calling me a puritan for making him sleep on my floor. He also wanted me to pay for the $300 parking ticket he received. We didn’t have another date.
uber is fairly new. this may have happened long before uber.
Load More Replies...I hope you know my kid will be more important than yours if this goes anywhere If we start to get serious you're going to have to get rid of your dog
"I'm not even picky anymore, I'm just looking for somebody to knock me up." First and LAST date.
Just go to a prostitute or something. Stop bothering innocent people
That his mother was here, she was looking forward to chatting with me and would be drinking mango juice.
The jerk forgot his wallet but remembered to bring along his mother. Apparently the latter is still his blind date MO.
"Sometime I feel like I think like a serial killer" This was after we just watched a horror movie and it was our first date.
"Nah, the math is all wrong. What's the odds of finding TWO serial killers on the same date?"
This girl askked me out, I wasn't even too interested in her, but since it's so rare for a girl to ask a guy out, I figured I'll give her a chance and go on a date with her. We made plans to eat at a specific restaurant at 7pm. I get there on time and I text her to let her know I'm there. Around 20 minutes later, she texts me back apologizing and saying that she fell asleep but that she is on her way and she'll be there in 20 minutes. I waited around 20 minutes, go to a random petco nearby to look at the animals and kill time. She hasn't texted me so I wait around 20 more minutes. At that point I decide to text her to see how she's doing but the message doesn't go through and I found out she blocked me.
I got a majority of my exes by them asking me out (I'm a guy). I was super shy and never had the confidence to ask. Heck my wife asked me out on our first date, so sometimes they do work out.
Went on a date with a guy who bragged about hiding in the closet to watch his roommates have sex whenever they brought a girl home.
Sounds like a frat boy. They do that c**p all the time. Usually film it.
“I can’t commit to you because you’re not a Christian, but we can have sex.”
Please don’t stereotype- not all Christians are like that, it sounds like you had a bad experience or two but that doesn’t mean that’s how we all are
Load More Replies...Me: (having a nice time over artisinal margaritas) Excuse me. Going to run to the ladies' room. Him: And I'll slip something in your drink heh heh.
Before leaving for the ladies' room, toss the drink in his face, will ya?
Rape jokes at a date, that's the way to go! ... Home without company
“You’re pretty cute for a black guy.”
"I like your teeth. Because they're the only things in your head that aren't rotten."
After hanging out for about 16 hours at her place, talking and later making out, she tells me: "Hey did you know I have a boyfriend?"
Took me 10 seconds to realize what she said and ask WTF.
I'm real sorry for her boyfriend. Hoped he dumped her faster than a case of diarrhea
Or just leave it up. He'll know a man's been there."
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*"I don't think I can get it up but would you mind coming home with me anyway?"*
Decades ago, a guy showed up for our date with a black eye and some bruises. He was usually pretty hot but for obvious reasons he was very much not hot that night.
Turned out he'd taken a bad tackle in rugby that afternoon. I offered to rain check our date but he said no. Anyway, by mid-meal he was slurring and seemed like he was going to fall asleep. The entire restaurant was looking at him. I asked repeatedly if he'd like to leave and he kept shaking it off and trying to rally for a little bit longer.
He kept starting random new conversational threads with me, like he couldn't follow the conversation we already had on the go. His laughs were delayed, even if he made the joke.
Anyway, he asked me to take his wallet and pay the bill, which I did, and when I gave his wallet back he hit me with that stellar line.
I took him home with me because I thought he'd been pregaming and was too drunk to drive himself. Fortunately my roommate was home, she said he probably had a concussion and I had to wake him every 20 minutes for water and to check his speech.
I'm sorry but you were the bad date. Concussion is incredibly dangerous and mimics signs of inebriation. It can also kill a person if it's not properly taken care of you can actually die of subdural hematoma.
Sounds like he tried to soldier on but had already taken one-too-many hits, and not just the rugby tackle... Yipes...
Worst date - showed up for a blind date. Meeting at a bar. Walk in and 12 people are sitting at the table with him. Wtf?
You gotta meet the entire family before the wedding, don’t you? Sounds like the troupe of her saying yes to date means he decided she was his girl for life.
Awful when they bring friends without telling you. Like I get why. But give us a heads-up. Nothing worse than turning up for a date and getting an interrogation panel
"My doctor said my new antibiotics affect my birth control. Or that the birth control affects my antibiotics. Not really sure, either way. It doesn't matter."
That's exactly how I got pregnant with my son, fortunately I was married and my husband was more than ready to have our third child. It was just a little closer to the 2nd one than we planned as they were 15 months apart. It would be incredibly horrible to throw that out on a date that you and act so careless about it, that's nuts.
Load More Replies...This is how my friend got pregnant, except she was not informed about it by her doctor, but the doctor later said "ups forgot to mention that"...
I really don't get straight people who act like not being on top of birth control/protection is no big deal. I don't mean people who actively want a kid, but people who say they "weren't trying" but then kept having unprotected s*x. In this case, the only way the birth control not working wouldn't be a big deal is if she previously had her tubes tied/removed.
Tried to get me to join a MLM scheme. Turns out, he was targeting single moms through match dot com. When I ghosted, he acted surprised! On my voicemail, of course, because I ghosted him.
I would have put out a broadcast message to all the other ladies informing the world!
When the revolution comes…something about a wall and all the MLM scammers.
Out of no where she asked me “Is it weird that I want to have a threesome with you and (my sister’s name)?” Um, yeah kinda.
"can we wrap this up i have another date at 8" i f*****g hate tinder
Totally acceptable, but kinder ways of phrasing. “So, hey. I’m not feeling the connection. I assume you’re not either. We may be enjoying each others company a little, but how about we not waste any more of each others time and effort and call it a night?”
Spent 90 min with one woman. She talked the entire time. Anytime I would try to say something she would interrupt me then had the nerve to say you don’t talk much. When I tried to respond to that, she interrupted me again. Said on her profile she smoked on occasion, had 6 maybe more cigarettes in the 90 min and basically told me her entire life story including why she can’t have sex or have children. Finally someone messaged her and she had to leave, dropping her off and she says “ You’re not calling me again are you?” I didn’t want to lie but I said “ no no I will “ deleted her number and blocked her
Why not just tell her the truth, since she already knew. "No, I won't."
It could be anxiety, but honestly, it also sounds like someone on stimulants.
This was my thought. She thought the nose beer would give her courage and turned her into the prime example of someone having had a few too many lines or bumps.
Load More Replies...Anxiety & stress I get. Totally. But the “ you don’t talk much” criticism is a level of arrogance and lack of self-awareness that’s not congruent with anxiety or stress. The entire description of her is textbook Cocaine.
Load More Replies..."BTW, we should probably hurry, I'm lactose intolerant" after eating grilled salmon for dinner, followed by a massive slice of cheesecake for desert washed down with a glass of chocolate milk. The drive back to her place from the restaurant was NOT pleasant. There was no second date.
Once overheard it said " it's more of an inconvience than intolerance."
Lactose intolerance farts are the worst. My late husband was lactose intolerant. However he was smart enough to never consume milk products around me until long after we were married, and it was once in a blue moon. What was this woman thinking?
While laying in bed after the date and after we had hooked up she informed me of an std.
I mean, hey, it's trashy, but it takes two to decide on consensual unprotected sex.
“I want you try to get me pregnant tonight.” And no this isn’t some cute way to come on to me or tell me she was down to clown later. This was followed by about 10 minutes of her telling me I’d have no parental obligations, how she felt she was running out of time, persuading me why she was in a good position to take care of a kid on her own, why she wanted to randomly do it via one night stand instead of other means…”You paying for dinner is way cheaper than IVF!” We had been having a great date up to that point too. I thought she was kidding, but she insisted she was serious. It bummed me out. She was smart, had a good job, very attractive. I could not understand why she was going about having a kid this way when she would make someone so happy. Oh! Btw, if I WANTED to be around she was okay with that too, I just didn’t have to be if I didn’t want to.
I dont whether im messed up or normal but that's actually a good plan to me IVF is expensive and more complications
My good friend did something similar in 1993. She leans toward ace, but can enjoy sex. She’s more of the mama bear to her friend groups, not very romantic but a nurturer. She was 27 at the time & very financially stable due to inheritance. She taught art part-time at a day school. Came to visit my collage town for the summer, met an Adonis of an athlete, had a fling with him for two+ months. Learned as much as she could about him/his family. Stopped birth control and purposefully got pregnant. Never told him. She’s an awesome mom. She became friends with fathers sisters, let them know, slowly let his family know then him. Knows family medical history/genetics. The son, almost 30, & father are now good friends. Involved. She & father worked out his resentment for what she did. All is good.
Load More Replies...As a woman who's also running out of time, no, you don't get it. IVF is too expensive and there aren't very many decent people to marry anymore. Honestly if I had a great career I wouldn't want to be married at all, since marriage for women usually turns into being a f*ckmaid.
why is this comment downvoted? my partners cousin did this when she was running out of time (probably patience too) to find a man. she met a guy and was upfront about her intentions and has been a happy mother for 12 years now
Load More Replies...This happened to me a few times over the years, but I'd had a vasectomy that I kept quiet about until after the first date (I wanted first impressions to be about something other than my daddy potential) so the joke was on them.
Back when I was a much younger lad, a friend who wasn't ever exactly a girlfriend asked me to give her a baby for her next birthday. I mighta, but I never thought she really wanted me as part of the package, so I noped. In retrospect, I still don't know if it was a good idea or a bad idea.
That my body looked good, but my face was plain
It's a shame that people put so much influence on how a person looks. The beauty inside a person is the only beauty that will last. #raisedbyablindmom
the judge? gotta respect a judge's opinion
Load More Replies...I do prefer a nice body over a pretty face. Others prefer the opposite. But if there's no personality, none of it matters
We were smoking a doob, and she said, "the doctor thinks I have Hep C."
Sorry but I have to leave right now. My phone is ringing at home and I have to answer it
Talked about how much money her family had. I guess she thought it mattered or was trying to impress but it didn’t.
Listed all the reasons he was getting divorced, and how toxic the relationship was
Sounds a lot like Coming Attractions if you are foolish enough to stay
What was supposed to be a first date, she was a no-show. I waited outside the restaurant for over an hour like a sucker. Shortly after I left, I got an email from her telling me how much fun she had watching me from the parking lot, and how funny it was.
Went on one blind date. Were to meet at one spot at the park, I'm wearing the striped shirt, he's wearing a red shirt. We see each other form about 25 ft, lock eyes, we both shake ours heads and we both walk away.
There was a guy that I was kinda sorta flirty with, and vice versa, though we hadn't even kissed yet. One of the weirdest things he did was when we were hanging out once he asked me if he could use my chapstick, which I had left on the table. Before I could answer, yes or no, he takes it and rubs it all over his lips-- and is like 'thanks a bunch, my lips were so dry'. I was like 'Uh, oh you can keep it,' and he's like 'no it's fine, have it back.' Well, readers, he had a massive cold sore on his lip at the time. As soon as he left, the chapstick went straight in the trash, haha. I get them myself so I wasn't judging him for that but to forcefully use my chapstick during an active infection was super weird. Who does that? lol. My current boyf knew him and said he thinks it was a weird power play-- but all it did was turn me way off. It kinda makes me laugh to think back on though.
I wouldn't have wanted it back anyway. It grosses me out when people share drinks and chapstick with each other, who knows if they are getting sick or something? (I will let my immediate family try a sip of my drinks, but mostly to avoid offending them. Inside I still cringe a little, and at least wipe off the straw as of the germs aren't still there 😅)
Load More Replies...This is why you meet in a public place and drive yourself. When your date starts waving those red flags you can make your escape before they waste any more of your time.
Damn. I'm so glad my last first date was over 10 years ago. One of my worst dates was not really a date, but he came to where I was working (my 2nd job) as a waitress and proceeded to get drunk, belligerent and racist. Then tells me that my job was s**t and no woman he'd date would work as a waitress. That was my 2nd damn job. He was exhausting.
To be honest, if he started spouting racist nonsense, it wasn’t the drink that made him racist. And you’re being generous if you assume he wouldn’t have acted racist eventually even if he’d stayed sober.
Load More Replies...'Do you still menstruate?' About ten minutes after he arrived an hour late, then spent the rest of the evening putting all eight hands up my skirt. Last date I went on. Sadly the menopause removes your ability to spend the evening admiring a man who's showing off because there are no eggs left to fertilise.
Thought I'd add another. Dated a pretend Vietnam vet. He was a cop and liked his machismo. Would shudder when he heard a helicopter, still not a vet. Called me one morning, come over I've got a surprise! So I do. He's got a warm bath run wants me to get in. WHAT? I gave you crabs. This will kill them. I got in. I got out. I ran away.
What was supposed to be a first date, she was a no-show. I waited outside the restaurant for over an hour like a sucker. Shortly after I left, I got an email from her telling me how much fun she had watching me from the parking lot, and how funny it was.
Went on one blind date. Were to meet at one spot at the park, I'm wearing the striped shirt, he's wearing a red shirt. We see each other form about 25 ft, lock eyes, we both shake ours heads and we both walk away.
There was a guy that I was kinda sorta flirty with, and vice versa, though we hadn't even kissed yet. One of the weirdest things he did was when we were hanging out once he asked me if he could use my chapstick, which I had left on the table. Before I could answer, yes or no, he takes it and rubs it all over his lips-- and is like 'thanks a bunch, my lips were so dry'. I was like 'Uh, oh you can keep it,' and he's like 'no it's fine, have it back.' Well, readers, he had a massive cold sore on his lip at the time. As soon as he left, the chapstick went straight in the trash, haha. I get them myself so I wasn't judging him for that but to forcefully use my chapstick during an active infection was super weird. Who does that? lol. My current boyf knew him and said he thinks it was a weird power play-- but all it did was turn me way off. It kinda makes me laugh to think back on though.
I wouldn't have wanted it back anyway. It grosses me out when people share drinks and chapstick with each other, who knows if they are getting sick or something? (I will let my immediate family try a sip of my drinks, but mostly to avoid offending them. Inside I still cringe a little, and at least wipe off the straw as of the germs aren't still there 😅)
Load More Replies...This is why you meet in a public place and drive yourself. When your date starts waving those red flags you can make your escape before they waste any more of your time.
Damn. I'm so glad my last first date was over 10 years ago. One of my worst dates was not really a date, but he came to where I was working (my 2nd job) as a waitress and proceeded to get drunk, belligerent and racist. Then tells me that my job was s**t and no woman he'd date would work as a waitress. That was my 2nd damn job. He was exhausting.
To be honest, if he started spouting racist nonsense, it wasn’t the drink that made him racist. And you’re being generous if you assume he wouldn’t have acted racist eventually even if he’d stayed sober.
Load More Replies...'Do you still menstruate?' About ten minutes after he arrived an hour late, then spent the rest of the evening putting all eight hands up my skirt. Last date I went on. Sadly the menopause removes your ability to spend the evening admiring a man who's showing off because there are no eggs left to fertilise.
Thought I'd add another. Dated a pretend Vietnam vet. He was a cop and liked his machismo. Would shudder when he heard a helicopter, still not a vet. Called me one morning, come over I've got a surprise! So I do. He's got a warm bath run wants me to get in. WHAT? I gave you crabs. This will kill them. I got in. I got out. I ran away.
