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30 People Share About The Worst Parents They’ve Ever Met That Made Them Think ‘Those Kids Are Doomed’
Not everyone is meant to be a parent. Some choose to stay childfree to dedicate unlimited time to their careers, some prefer children of the feline or canine persuasion, and others know that their personalities are best suited for the “fun aunt/uncle” role, rather than the disciplining mom or dad. Opting not to have children is always a valid choice, but unfortunately, the same cannot always be said for the opposite.
Below, we’ve gathered some of the most heartbreaking stories Reddit users have shared about the worst parents they’ve ever met. We’ll warn you right now, these accounts are not easy to read, pandas, so if you need to grab a box of tissues, go right ahead. Be sure to upvote the stories that make you even more appreciative of your own loving parents, and if you have kids of your own, it might be a good day to give them an extra squeeze.
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#1
As a teacher, I see this literally every day. But I currently have a student who is the sweetest kid ever, but her dad is ... not. He’s abusive, always angry, and she is never good enough. He openly admits that he wants her to do well in school so she can pay to support him cause “that’s what kids do”.
There’s currently an investigation going on with an armed robbery that he was involved with. I’m currently waiting with all the adoption paperwork ready to go since she has no other family if he goes to prison for 30+ years, which is likely.
I’m going to do everything in my power to make sure she doesn’t go into foster care.
Brenda 2 years ago
Even in prison, he'll have to agree to give up his parental rights for her to be adopted. Unless the state revokes his rights. Either way, I sincerely hope you will be there for her
Michael Largey 2 years ago (edited)
I doubt he'll give up his parental right. He no doubt still hopes to have his kid support him when he gets out of prison.
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Stephanie Did It 2 years ago
He sort of got his wish, since the whole community of taxpayers is now paying to support him. I sincerely hope the adoption goes through smoothly.
Marcellus II 2 years ago
Yeah at over $100K/year ($106K in California 2y ago, https://lao.ca.gov/policyareas/cj/6_cj_inmatecost ).
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BluRaven 2 years ago
You are a wonderful person for helping her now and in the future! I adopted my two in alittle similar circumstances as wards of the state—it’s such a frustrating process and but just don’t stop doing what you’re doing, it will work, and she deserves you as a loving family. These kids are individuals forged in constant fire and are all the more worth it for seeing who they become with truly safe homes and people -much love and understanding on this journey ❤️
Miriam L 2 years ago
I dug through OP's Reddit history and he doesn't mention her again. Whatever the conclusion of the story is, I think he's protecting her privacy and I respect that
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Clover 2 years ago
It must be though being a teacher and being a witness to all of this. Thank you for caring.
Colleen Kostenko 2 years ago
You are an amazing person! I really hope it all works out for you.
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#2
My son's daycare class has a kid in it who's missing an eye. He has an eyelid/lashes/etc, just was born without the tissue used to see with. He's a completely normal looking kid, it just looks like one eye is always closed and instead of the roundness of an eyeball behind is flat since it's missing. There's nothing scary, or weird, or gross about him.
I once watched a mother scream and throw a tantrum at pick up time because the teachers insisted he wouldn't be moved from the class as there's nothing wrong with him being there. She swore up and down that this kid was scaring her child and the daycare teachers should do more to 'protect her baby from people like that' and her child shouldn't have to be around 'freaks' and he should have to go with the special education kids.
Her kid seemed fine with this other kid, but his mother was horrified by him interacting with someone who wasn't her idea of normal and she lost it when the teachers refused to give into her weird demands about it. I can only imagine what f****d up prejudices this kid is going to have thanks that vile woman.
Stephanie Did It 2 years ago
More likely, poor kid will grow up chronically embarrassed by this nut.
Karma Black 2 years ago (edited)
It could go either way. This is also how my womb donor acts in public. Behind closed doors, she's also extremely racist and antisemitic. I grew to despise this behavior from a very young age, and grew into someone who does their best to fight for equality. Her son, on the other hand, is somehow even more of an extremist; and a violent one, to boot. NC for six months and counting. Best six months of my life.
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Penny Kemper 2 years ago
You know people don't necessarily get prejudices from their parents. I remember always thinking my dad was wrong with his prejudices, even before I was a teen.
Remi Flynne 2 years ago
Yes. My father was racist (was because he's dead, not reformed). You can learn to be as far from what they are as possible.
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Lizzie Lola 2 years ago (edited)
I grew up in an isolated place in NE OH (literally less than 3000 people and the next place over had Amish/Mennonites). There was a well-known woman (not that everyone didn't know everyone 🤣) who had hooks for hands. I remember being in Elementary school and she came to show us how when she extended her arms, they opened, closed when she pulled back. This kid's mom would have been blasted out of the area.
Debrina Blackmoon 2 years ago
Both eyes! hands, nose, feet, whatever else.
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Thegoodboi 2 years ago
W....T...F....This lady is nuts. WHat does she think?? The child has "lose your eye syndrome" and they're going to spread it??
#3
I have an ultra-conservative (distant) family member who’s taken her anti-welfare, personal responsibility, tough love philosophy so far that she’s charging her 5-year-old rent. Apparently she gives the child a list of chores to complete, then pays her a small allowance, then takes all the allowance back to cover the girl's “bills”.
One time the little girl wanted to make some special treats for a party they were going to have at their house (don’t know what it was for), and she (the mom) replied, *“Ok, how are you going to pay for that?”* (I wasn’t there, my cousin told me this.)
I should add that this woman does not struggle financially at all. She has some bank-related corporate job and a very large, nice house. But she will by god make it VERY CLEAR to her small child that every inch of space she occupies and every bite of food she takes has a COST and must be EARNED.
Mary Rogers 2 years ago
They wouldn't care. It's screwed up for sure but not something that qualifies as child abuse under the law.
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Heather Daugherty 2 years ago
she's teaching her child that her very existence & security is transactional. what if her child were disabled? how would she have "earned her keep"?this makes me so sad...
Deborah B 2 years ago
I'm all for giving kids chores to earn an allowance, but the second half of that is that they get to experience spending some, and putting some in a savings account. The rent thing is bizarre and wrong. I remember walking to the bank on Friday after school with my siblings to put $1.50 into my savings account, and then spending the other 50cents on sweets. We had these little paper bank books, recording all our transactions, and we all had things we were saving up for. Then when you got birthday money from grandparents, you had to decide whether to buy something now, or put in into the bank so you could get what you were saving for sooner. I saved 3/4 of my money, my little brother saved a quarter, then had a tantrum when I bought a $100 china doll before he could afford his $60 skateboard We all got an extra maths lesson, and my brother made the very painful decision to buy less sweets, and save more.
AliJanx 2 years ago
My cousins were promised a set allowance each week and chores that were their responsibility. For each that wasn't completed by the end of the week, a dime was removed. They are the best money managers I know...and learned real quick that they needed to get their chores done! I think they received extra dimes for additional chores, too.
Joshua David 2 years ago
I think teaching children the value of a dollar is important. 100 percent it's a very necessary and responsible thing for a parent to do. BUT, this is absurd. You're conditioning your child to be abused by a corporation. What about teaching your child that one can be responsible AND be able to treat themselves guilt free at the same time. We wonder why the world is so fd.
#4
My aunt and uncle are terrible parents. Such awful people that we’ve cut almost all contact with them.
Aside from their terrible parenting of their first child, they’ve completely destroyed their second child’s chance at a life.
He was born with water on the brain (I know there’s a proper name for it but I forget). The doctors wanted to put a shunt in to drain the water and avoid damage. The parents refused for some reason, so the kid ended up with some slight brain damage. It probably wouldn’t have been too bad. He’d always be behind his peers and he’d be delayed but he had a good chance of being somewhat independent one day and living an overall happy life.
Of course in order to achieve this, his parents would have to work diligently with him to catch up delayed development, and likely have him in some sort of developmental therapy and the likes (which I know the gov. and my uncles work benefits would’ve helped cover, not that money was an issue anyways). Instead his parents decided to ignore his problems completely. They never spoke to the family about it and we’re all pretty sure they think we don’t notice that the kid is a bit different.
Anyways, he just turned 10 and isn’t potty trained which he absolutely has the ability for, they just never bothered teaching him. He can’t read at all, which again he is technically capable of, just nobody has taught him. He can’t speak clearly at all, I can’t understand him although I know he is trying to say valuable and competent things. He’s been removed from countless schools because his parents refuse to put him in the special ed classes or get him any extra help. His parents are also super cold. They never hug or praise their kids. He is extremely violent and never receives any discipline. I can see him becoming a serial killer or something in the future because he loves torture, weapons, and dead animals. It’s probably from the lack of affection his parents gave him but I know whatever happens to him in the future isn’t really his fault. He was never taught anything in life and it’s so sad.
Stephanie Did It 2 years ago
A discreet conversation with Child Protective Services may be the best thing you can do for him.
Quarryville 2 years ago (edited)
Child neglect: A form of child abuse, child neglect is an act of caregivers that results in depriving a child of their basic needs, such as the failure to provide adequate supervision, health care, clothing, or housing, as well as other physical, emotional, social, educational, and safety needs.
Alexandra Nara 2 years ago
when Kids are born with a disability, some parents seems to freeze. A stent in this little newborn fragile head seems to be cruel at first, so they maybe tend to be in hope they could make it without. Later on the stress and guilt of this decision leads into absolut denial and - yes- neglect. This is no excuse but seeing the need of an educational supportive guide for parents at their difficult decisions- so a first failed one, maybe made out of fear,doesn't lead to another. PS. Been there too, my mother lived in denial that taking some meds during pregnancy probably led to my severed hearing,so when she found out ( she didn't know better during pregnancy) she just didn't tested my hearing- so I lived 18 years in my own almost silent world, failed on learning languages etc. nowadays she can't watch me handling my hearing aids- so full of shame,that she denied her failed decision 18 years long - while I already forgave her.
Alexandra Davis 2 years ago
The family ignoring this are just as complacent in the abuse as the parents.
MellonCollie 2 years ago
Now I would like to know what CPS think of THAT!! Because that is very abusive.
Lizzie Lola 2 years ago
It's called hydrocephalus, and he's probably violent, in part, because of his frustration with his life.
Yvonne Gardner 2 years ago
So the other members of the family knowingly sat by and did nothing for 10 years? Oh, but, they almost cut off all contact with them...so as to not make themselves uncomfortable. Despicable. Absolutely disgusted by this.
DeeDee M 2 years ago
You need to turn them in to CPS. That is YOUR families responsibility for witnessing this abuse. Same goes for his teachers at school, it's called being a mandatory reporter. At least as far as the teachers are concerned. Witnessing a child being neglected or abused and doing nothing to stop it makes you all complicit. Turn them IN. I can't emphasize that enough. You may still save his life. For everything you've witnessed, imagine what they're like behind closed doors.
#5
A woman posted a video to a local Facebook group I'm in last night. The video was captioned "teaching my 9 year old gun safety!"
Within the 14-second video the child:
- points the gun at her face while struggling to pump it and...
- proceeds to lose her balance, swinging the gun around wildly and briefly pointing it at the camera
Mom just kept on filming, because of course she did.
Mary Rogers 2 years ago
There is actually a company in the US that makes real rifles for small children. Pink for girls and blue for boys. I am not kidding.
Katie Lutesinger 2 years ago
Stupidity of this sort is why more than one adult has been shot dead by their own toddler.
Niki A 2 years ago
OMG..... ok, so my dad began with me at 5.... but I wasn't even allowed to touch a gun until I could show I understood a few things. The first rule is A GUN IS ALWAYS LOADED POINT IT AT NOTHING YOU AREN'T PREPARED TO SHOOT. Good god this woman....
Zedrapazia 2 years ago
I really hope they do the safety measurement of never letting a loaded gun lay around somewhere or they'll need a sad, tiny little coffin one day.
Labellesouris 2 years ago
OMG...she would belong to the idiot portion of the population. The local police need to be made aware of this nonsense. They will pay her a little visit.
karen Young 2 years ago
Gun safety at our house ( dad worked at prison) . Here is my gun- it is locked up for a reason. Touch it and you will be dead.
Penny Kemper 2 years ago
Well if mom gets shot by kid doing these things, we'll just call it survival of the fittest.
Cthulhu Kitty 2 years ago
That is not teaching gun safety. That is neglect and honestly gives a bad reputation to parents that actual do teach their kids proper gun safety, which is needed if there are guns in the home
#6
I worked with a guy who's about 5 years older than me. I was 20 at the time so he'd have been about 25. Still lived at home with his parents because mom wasn't ready to "let him go." He had a 9pm curfew and ALWAYS had to have permission to "go over to a friend's house."
I was nice to him because I felt bad for him and I guess in his mind, that meant we were friends so I got to know him slightly better than you would a standard coworker. He did have a learning disability (so helicopter mom's got a valid concern) but he wasn't r******d or slow. He was a fully capable adult.
The first time I met his mom I KNEW there was no hope for this guy. She CONSTANTLY controlled his every move. He couldn't eat certain foods because they'd "give you gas" or "I don't think you'd like that anyway," and he wasn't allowed to do ANYTHING without her permission. He had his license, but she drove him to and from work. She even ended up getting a job in the same building, though a different department, and I suspect it had nothing to do with "carpooling to save gas money."
Last I heard, he FINALLY was able to get his own apartment, but I still see them around town together. I NEVER see him on his own. She'll even go with him to the bathroom at the county fair... And I'm 27 now so he's gotta be around 32ish.
Helicopter mom ruined that guy and he's gonna be so screwed when she kicks it and leaves him behind.
DarkViolet 2 years ago
How is that poor guy going to function on his own when his mother leaves this earth? No disability is worse than having a parent that refuses to let go.
Remi Flynne 2 years ago
I've seen the result of some of this. I worked for a charity and some departments would employ people in clerical positions who needed help adjusting to the world for the first time without their parents. One man was in his 50s by the time he was free of his controlling parent. He didn't even wash without being told to. That wasn't the charity's function btw but it was something an individual manager within the charity started up.
Load More Replies... Mary Rogers 2 years ago
I knew someone like this and it was really sad. His mom would push him to go to school, get a job, get a girlfriend and THEN sabotage him every single time he did so She would insist he had to do stuff for her when he was supposed to be in classes, causing him to drop them. She would call his boss and complain that he was not being "treated right", and get him fired. And she would come between him and whatever girlfriend he had. She insulted and belittled him, and then wondered why he had no confidence and couldn't be a man. She even had the weird idea that insulting him was supposed to motivate him to become a man. I don't think it ever occurred to her that SHE was the one holding him back. Eventually he got fed up with her games and moved far away to be near his sister. That was probably the best decision he ever made and I inwardly cheered when I heard about it.
Sunshine Lady 2 years ago
One girl I know is the same way with her mother. Poor woman (the daughter) is almost 40 and still not married. She was in a relationship with a friend of mine, he proposed, she said yes, but her mother said no. Her brother was telling their mother everything the daughter does, how long is she out of home. He got married (until that moment he was living with his sister to save money from rent) and after he moved out, their mother moved in.
Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago (edited)
FYI: We don’t use that “R” word anymore, OP. It’s offensive.
Heather Menard 2 years ago
My neighbor always keeps her kids home from school because she has anxiety and can't stand them being away from her. Her oldest is 18 never leaves the house. He dropped out of school at 16. He will always be a drain on society because of her.
Robert Trebor 2 years ago
I had a friend who was a nurse in the San Francisco area, and she specialized in helping people learn how to do things for themselves when the helicopter parent finally died. She was, at that time, working with a 40ish man who had never made a decision about what to wear; mom had always laid out his clothes in the morning, "These are for work, and when you get home change into your play clothes." He didn't know how to tie his necktie. She did that for him. My friend worked with him for several years showing him how to decide what to buy in stores, by reading labels, how to decide what to wear. Wow.
Sharla Burkland 2 years ago
Stop saying r******d. It is a slur. I can’t believe grown adults still say this word.
Izzy Curer 2 years ago (edited)
Mental retardation is a legitimate thing. It's more Pc to say Intelligectual disability, now, but this is a very recent change and older individuals are still going to say the former sometimes without meaning it as a slur. That's what it used to be called.
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Erika 2 years ago
I’m almost 19 and I always have to ask for permission to go out somewhere with ppl I know (usually my mom/dad).
Eastendbird 2 years ago
Is there a reason for this? Because that sounds weird and unnecessary.
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Patricia Stilwell 2 years ago
Close; it's Munchausen's by Proxy. But that's not what is going on here.
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Janet Horwith 5 months ago
All mother's who have sons are inherently evil. They live for that special boy that alchemized from their body, and they own that boy. He shall have no conscious thoughts or any escapable life from Mommy Dearest. I knew a gal once who found out her 34 year old fiance was still being breast fed by his Mommy. She caught them in the act when she came home sick from work. Needless to say, she packed up and left him. His mother was related she had her baby boy back.
#7
I know a couple who are extremely religious. I have zero problem with religion, although I am not particularly religious, myself.
This couple has three children, the oldest is 5. They have decided not to send their children to any established school because it would introduce them to bad and ungodly things. Also, they are adamant anti-vaxxers, so their kids wouldn't be allowed to attend public school in the first place.
They have decided to homeschool the kids and only teach out of the bible. No math, no science, only bible stories.
I'm not even sure if that's legal or not.
Mary Rogers 2 years ago (edited)
If this is in the US, then no, teaching only out of the Bible is not legal. You can homeschool, but you still are supposed to cover all the normal subjects and work with the local school district. That said, children can and do fall through the cracks. Sometimes the government isn't keeping track of who is in school or on homeschooling. Or the laws are such that someone can start their own "private school" for just their own children and no one actually checks to see if they are actually teaching the kids. I heard of a case like that, the kids were being kept at home and were physically and mentally abused, and were not being taught any school subjects at all.
The Mom 2 years ago (edited)
Actually, in many states you can teach from anything you like. Following a standard public school curriculum is not required. However, most states require yearly testing/review to prove the child is advancing per public school standards. Yes, many do fall between the cracks but the same can be said for public school. I home schooled mine in two different states. In the states we were in you had to report yearly to the county board of ed that you intend to home school and you had to file a yearly progress report. This progress report had to be obtained by an outside school board approved entity. I was reported by neighbors in second state for not sending mine to school. The local school investigated and found I was in compliance. Oh, also, most states require the parent have a Bachelor's degree.
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️Crystal️ 2 years ago (edited)
My parents did this, though they didn't jump on the antivaxx bandwagon until I was older, so I did get my childhood vaccines, along with that bible thumpin' education that was really just brainwashing me into a cult of condemnation. I am still struggling to learn that I am deserving of love from myself and others. Fun fact: all that isolation and conservative propaganda and 'protecting me from the world' didn't change the fact that I am gay. I was so sheltered that I hardly knew what gay meant when I realized, at 13, that I'm attracted to women. When I read in the bible homosexuality is a sin, I tried to unalive myself because of the shame. I hid it until I was an adult, out on my own, and I am glad because my parents did not take it well. ******Edit to add that I did discover a couple years ago how the words were mistranslated/manipulated to say homosexuality is a sin when they don't actually mean that. In my youth I was taught that the English translations (especially good ol' KJV🙄) were the infallible word of God and not to be questioned. I still believe in a God but I am so disgusted by how much the church has propagandized scripture and used it to justify abuse so I just can't be apart of that institution and I now consider myself an ex Christian. If anyone would like to hear long but fascinating lectures on how those scriptures were twisted and also the cultural contexts, please look up Kathy Baldock on YouTube.
Shyla Bouche 2 years ago
The bible says nothing against either female masturbation or homosexuality. Think of the time in which it was written. People knew next to nothing about the human reproductive system. They did know that tab A had to fit into slot B to make a baby. As many children died in infancy and childhood, people needed to have a lot of them, to insure some would live long enough to make new babies. Also, please think of the area where the bible was written: mostly desert. Having a well dry up was a big deal. Water wasn't an infinite resource. People died when wells ran dry. Back to reproduction. The people did not know quite what or how made the babies -- they just knew where the semen had to go. If tab A goes into slot A, or no slot at all, there can't be a baby. If semen is squandered like that, the well might run dry-- no babies. THAT is why (male) homosexuality and masturbation are condemned in the bible. Nowadays, we actually need to severely reduce human population. We don't need every couple to have large families in the hope of keeping the race alive. Had people truly known enough about the human reproductive system, they would have known that there was nothing to worry about. Men don't run dry like wells do. It had NOTHING to do with sexual preference, just the need to make enough babies.
Load More Replies... adam yauch 2 years ago
Religion is okay! Couples with children are okay! School is okay! This is not.
DuchessDegu 2 years ago
As I just heard someone say (in a different context but I think it fits here) "God is awesome, the problem is his fan club"
René Sauer 2 years ago
Luckily in Germany school is mandatory. You could get fined or even face jail time if you don´t send your kids to school. I think in one extreme case the parents even faced the possibility of losing their kids completely.
Piper 2 years ago
This is awful. The majority of homeschooled children are better educated than those in public schools. I homeschool my youngest, she attended what was one of the top 3 school districts in the us and was very behind (she does have learning disabilities). As a result of Covid and me realizing she was not being challenged and given 2 work sheets a day, I took over. She is now working at grade level for everything except math, which she is behind only 1 grade level. Her knowledge of other subjects which she would not get exposure to in a public school setting is more than many adults (she attends an outdoor science program one day a week and can tell you all about local plants, eco systems, interplay in animals, identify animals by scat and tracks): she is also mastering sign language on her own. We get to go to museums and do a lot of hands on learning. She would be languishing and labeled in any other environment.
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Brittania Kelli 2 years ago
I was religiously home schooled for a few years and parents purchase bible based curriculum from religious education companies. So it meets education standards and is a bit broader than being just the bible. They reference biblical stories and leave out things like evolution. So you still learn math, but instead of a lesson being, 'Suzie had four apples and she gave away..blah blah' it's more 'Noah had four planks of wood,' sort of thing. So, yes, culty, but it does follow education laws.
Sunshine Lady 2 years ago
That's not ok. We have 3 kids that we will probably homeschool, but the oldest is preschool in our country and we are teaching on the approved materials. Also all of them have the mandatory vaccines and a few additional ones. Christianity says nothing against education and vaccines.
Joe Publique 2 years ago
Now change 'Bible' to Quran and imagine right-wing media losing their minds. Ahhh, America. Where the right to be stupid is more important than the consequences of that stupidity.
Michael Largey 2 years ago
These parents must love having their children at home because that's where those children are going to be the rest of their lives. There'll be no danger of them ever actually getting a job and moving out.
#8
"I'm going to pull her out of school in the 8th grade and then homeschool her because I don't want her in an environment with boys"
Idk why he chose 8th grade.
Rata Robinson 2 years ago
To be blunt and cynical, he's probably going to abuse her himself - why is a dad blocking his daughter from meeting other males...
XenoMurph 2 years ago
That's a huge leap. "probably"?? That's a terrible assumption,
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Penny Kemper 2 years ago
And lots of people send their kids to all girl or all boy school, hello
Lakota Wolf 2 years ago (edited)
So that they then have NO IDEA how to properly socialize with members of the opposite gender(s)? So then they get thrust into the adult world with ZERO knowledge of normal everyday interactions with their peers of the opposite gender(s), aside from any siblings they may have? I'm sorry, but sending a child to an "all-boys" or "all-girls" school just to "protect them" from the opposite gender(s) during puberty is the WORST idea. The other genders exist, your child is going to have to learn that and get used to it. It is far better to TEACH your child proper conduct and restraint, rather than rely on "avoidance". This also applies to sex ed.
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Just Another Girl 2 years ago
To be fair…..in exactly 8th grade I started getting a little too boy crazy. Had my parents not pulled me out of school and home schooled me,I’d have been pregnant by 16. It worked out ok….I’m not quite 40 and very well adjusted with a well paying career and have had a very normal, happy life.
jill 2 years ago
I’m hoping your parents weren’t anticipating pulling you out from earlier grades for that reason lol, im really glad you’re doing well now though you deserve it!!!
Load More Replies... flippin berry 2 years ago
Ummmmmm... does he realize that girls' schools exist? Not that I am agreeing with this guy, but at the very least his daughter should be able to receive an education.
#9
My old best friend SCREAMS at her son. For everything. Not eating fast enough? Scream. Didn't hear her. Scream. Cries? Scream. Hes the same age as my daughter. I had to stop letting my daughter around her because i don't want my children exposed to just screaming at a 5 year old.
Brittania Kelli 2 years ago
Yep. When moms are anxious, stressed, depressed it often gets misdirected to the kids. They need help and taught healthier coping mechanisms.
Load More Replies... Rebelliousslug 2 years ago
Do any of these people say anything to the parents? Like…for the sake of the poor children involved? Record her doing it and let her see what she’s doing to her child.
Liam Walsh 2 years ago
Do they mean actual screaming or yelling at them? There's a difference. Neither pleasant admittedly. I think I'd be very messed up by someone who just kept screaming at me. I mean effing hell, use your words.
LilliVB 2 years ago
I can understand (not condone, but understand) a parent that every once in a long while looses their cool and yells at their child, above all if the child misbehave or does anything dangerous, wrong or similar. Parents are humans and they can have a wrong behaviour. Apologize and try to do better. But constantly screaming for everything? This is abusive
Dilly Millandry 2 years ago
I'm confused. Do they really mean shouting? Screaming is "to give a long, loud, piercing cry or cries expressing extreme emotion or pain" or "make a loud high pitched sound". Screaming is non-verbal. Not that I'm condoning any of it - just that actually screaming at a child is going to be even worse than yelling at the poor thing! At least yelling contains words they hopefully can understand. Although I suppose that does depend on the words!
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DuchessDegu 2 years ago
My neighbour does that, but her kid is not even 2. She knows exactly what she's doing as she only screams at the poor child when husband or grandparents are not around.
Blue_Mouse 2 years ago
I don’t mean to be rude but if I were in your situation, I would try to help your ex best friends kid
Janet Horwith 5 months ago
Her hormones have effected her mentally. Get that kid away from her.
Sammie 19 2 years ago
Help me clean it up and he always helps me. I asked him why he asked why I never yelled at him and he told me that his mum, my daughter, was always yelling at him and his siblings plus his dad. I told him that she is under a lot of pressure and she is finding it tough without support from his dad. She works full time, does 90% of the childcare and 100% of the housework. That maybe he could help her a bit. Load and unload the dishwasher for example or pick up toys from the floor because then she isn't as stressed and she will be in a better mood. He said he hadn't realised she did all of that without help. That he was 9 now and that he was big enough to do those things. He even helped his 7 year old brother with a homework question that my daughter and I had absolutely no clue with how to solve it. He called me secretly a few days ago and told me that his mum isn't shouting at them has much as before and she thanks him and gives him hugs each time.
#10
We had neighbors who believed in “free range parenting”. Essentially they didn’t believe in any rules or boundaries. The kids walked into our house one day when we forgot to lock the front door. Had to stop letting our kid play with them after the day I caught them throwing rocks at passing cars. Luckily they sold their house and moved.
Huddo's sister 2 years ago
That's not what free range parenting is. Very first thing that comes up on google is ""Free-range parenting involves teaching a child skills and acting as a guide if a child makes a mistake,"
Lizzie Lola 2 years ago
THANK YOU! I'm a free-range parent, and my kids wouldn't have DREAMED of doing this when they were young.
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Leolynn Cauthron 2 years ago
I grew up ‘free range’. What you described was BAD parenting not ‘free range’ parenting. We were taught manners and respect. We knew not to damage others property or tresspass (mostly). ‘Free range’ was playing outside all day every day unsupervised but knowing what was right and wrong and what would happen if we did something we shouldnt. (We got out butts whooped if we did anything too bad and parents found out. We certainly never walked in a neighbors house without knocking and never threw rocks at cars or anything similar). It was a great childhood. I feel sorry for kids today.
Robert Trebor 2 years ago
Saturdays my 10-year-old me in the late 1950's might be five or six miles away on my bike, with no flight plan filed with mom. sack lunch in the basket, watch out for traffic, have a good day. Be home for supper.
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The Original Bruno 2 years ago
When I was a kid, we were all children of "free range parenting." There was no other kind. Of course, that didn't mean we went into any unlocked door.
JoJo Anisko 2 years ago
I have a neighbor whose 4yo daughter just opened the door and walked into my house, multiple times. I am very uncomfortable with her parents not being concerned about this.
Mary Rogers 2 years ago
That sounds like child neglect to me if they are not keeping an eye on her. That's too young to let her wander about. You should contact Child Protective services.
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Parent was not a verb when I was a kid. You HAD parents. Parent was a noun.
Joe Publique 2 years ago
I remember the days when all kids were 'free-range' but few of them behaved like the self-entitled little twerps running around today.
Janet Horwith 5 months ago
I have a female sibling who has children raised without discipline. Four of the most stupid kids ever. She herself is a s**t and only had kids for more welfare money. Her children are pathetic. I don't feel sorry for them, I haven't seen them in over 15 years and want to keep it that way. They all still live in the same little house with her, her 500lb husband, grandkids and virtual filth.
Illustrious G 2 years ago
Oh my gosh, I think my former neighbors moved next to the OP! 12 year old boy just walked into our house looking for my bf’s son who stayed with us on weekends. The kids were also “home schooled”, though the kids literally just ran around the yard all day. Parents were absolute trash people with literal piles of trash in the yard. Ugh, it’s been YEARS since they were my neighbors but it still gets me fired up to think about it!
#11
couple i know have 3 kids under 6, and will smoke weed, dabs, cigs with the kids on their laps.
kids are always naked, even when strangers are over and often are running through the halls of
their apartment building naked and alone. here’s the worse part, “jokingly” getting the 5 year old to smoke weed, how the story went was the 5 year old said he wanted to smoke, his dad “jokingly” packed a bowl, held it up to the kids face and lit it, and as he said “ little f****r sucked it back and coughed out a huge f****n cloud, thought the kid was gonna puke he was coughing so hard”
( cps has been called but i don’t think anything was ever done since they still have the kids)
Katie Lutesinger 2 years ago
Yeah, it can really screw up a developing brain, so I've heard.
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Cthulhu Kitty 2 years ago
Might need multiple reports, keep reporting for the same thing, as long as they are different occurances, days, times. CPS is always very overworked and they have to triage. The more reports the more likely they will do something. Source:. Therapist for over 20 years and have made dozens of reports
Kate Jones 2 years ago
I used to work with a girl who dated a guy with 5 kids, all under 14. They used to smoke in front of them and she even helped the 14 year old start smoking. I'm so tired of hearing the whole pot culture BS. I've smoked pot and I understand it's a lifesaver for a lot of people. But I'm tired of hearing that it's harmless. It alters you. And you're teaching your kids that it's okay to get into something that alters them because it's easier than dealing with life. It's also crazy expensive. This girl would always be short her rent but always had her pot money. And there is an addictive quality for some people. My dad smoked pot and he would literally never go out because he couldn't function unless he had his weed right after work and he couldn't drive. After 6pm we knew not to bother talking to dad because he wouldn't be able to have a cogent convo with us. We never had friends over. It does affect your kids, even if it is 'just pot'.
Debrina Blackmoon 2 years ago (edited)
So no one here cares about them being unclothed and free to roam probably anywhere unsupervised?! Except maybe Cthulhu Kitty. I like to think otherwise.
whatever 2 years ago
Sounds like that Dave Chappelle piece about being stuck in the back of a limo in a bad part of town and seeing a baby standing on the corner selling weed. He shouted out to the baby that he shouldn't be selling weed and the baby told him to shut up and that "he had kids to support".
#12
My cousins kids. He believes in ALL the conspiracy theories, anti-vax, chem trails, Illuminati, you name it he believes it. He made his wife quit a 6 figure income job so they could go and ‘live off the grid’. 5 years later they are raising three kids in a tiny caravan in the middle of no where struggling to make ends meet. Last year they made their kids throw out all their Christmas and birthday presents because ‘they don’t want them to have anything new or from big corporations’. They plan on Home schooling their kids for their entire education even though neither of them finished high school. And to top it off their children are never allowed to hear anything negative towards them. So they have asked the family to refrain from saying ‘no’ and from telling their children to stop doing anything because they are, and I quote, “free souls”.... My entire family agrees those kids are f****d
Karma Black 2 years ago
It's possible, but not easy. They both most likely took on some sort of apprenticeship in a trade.
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Katie Lutesinger 2 years ago
I worked with a guy once who told me how when he was a kid his mother joined some cult which taught that children shouldn't have possessions. So she forced him to burn his own teddy bear. I felt so horrible for him that when I found an abandoned teddy I fixed it up, washed it, and gave it to him as a present. I saw him playing with it later on that day (we were both working in childcare so he was using it in a game with one of the kids. It was sweet).
WonderWoman 2 years ago
This one is BULLSHIP!! you don't get a 6 figure income with no high school diploma. Unless OP thinks this is six figures. $1000.00
Joe Publique 2 years ago (edited)
Nonsense. I know several people who make six figures despite not even graduating from high school. The lack of a high school diploma =/= a lack of self-discipline, motivation, drive, or intelligence.
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Kate Jones 2 years ago
The thing about these conspiracies is that some people have this conflated idea of how much anyone cares about them. You think every call and everything you do is recorded because you have this egotistical idea that anyone cares. As someone who worked in the government for a while I promise you....they don't care. They are all too busy with political BS and personal BS to care about you. They can't even catch serious terrorists but you think they're spending time and money listening or following you? To learn what? No one cares. I promise Bob living off grid is not a high target asset, lol, unless he's doing something illegal. And even then. The only thing you have to worry about is advertising. Because that's how money is made. Companies will absolutely follow your behavior online and they don't want you to change it- watch porn, go to weird sites. They simply want to know how to advertise to you. And you generally give them that info for free. No one has to steal anything.
Kate Jones 2 years ago (edited)
Just adding that the real way to counter any government overreach is to be as educated about it as possible. All of these people who are super anti-government often times don't know anything about the government. They just listen to what other idiots have to say. That's how you nd up with people like Alex Jones and Margorie Taylor Greene who, often, don't even believe the stuff they're touting but know they can confuse and scare dumb people into believing it in order to get your vote. If you want to truly fight the system-get educated. That doesn't mean book smarts entirely. Get yourself educated and learn about the system you're against. Know it inside and out and then make a logical judgement about it. You can't fight something with ignorance. And so many of these people are volunteering to be ignorant.
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Kyla Eisler 2 years ago (edited)
Calling bs on this story. Didn't finish high school but had a 6 figure job? Yeah right
#13
I try not to think this - I work in child protective services and that means I have to find every possible way I can to reach parents to change behaviors, lifestyles, etc that threaten the safety or wellbeing of their children.
With that being said, the most frustrating for me was a mother who was emotionally and mentally abusive to a daughter who has mental health issues.
The mom, daughter, and brother were all survivors of an extremely physically abusive father (mom's ex), the children at a very young age that very clearly caused them immense trauma that manifested as or exacerbated existing mental health issues (violent outbursts, inability to regulate emotions, several other things all piled together - **I initially had listed ADHD here but several commenters are correct in stating this is not caused by trauma. I apologize for that misinformation. In this situation it was definitely exacerbated by her trauma, both past and ongoing, though - both in terms of not getting proper treatment/help and in terms of added stresses).** I became involved years after that man was out of the picture.
Mom spent the entire time I was involved with the family essentially blaming everything on the daughter's outbursts and as much as said with her daughter present (and old enough to understand) "she was forced on me when he took off his condom" with regards to whether the daughter was planned or an accident. I spent several days working with this family and not once did I hear the mother say anything resembling love, affection, caring, kindness, or understanding towards her daughter and the vast majority of the time the mother was trying to elicit sympathy from other adults in terms of how difficult the kid was to manage. She made multiple disparaging comments about her daughter as if she wasn't present in the room, coldly ignored her for large periods of time while sitting right next to her, etc. She very obviously still had her own trauma from the abusive ex and seemed to transplant all of her negativity towards him into her behavior towards her daughter. We had statements by police officers involved after one of the violent outbursts by the daughter that the mother told them (in front of daughter) "take her away, take her anywhere, I don't care where she goes, just get her the hell out of my house.
The daughter wasn't even a teenager.
I have no idea what happened following my involvement (I'm mostly investigative) but yeah...that kid's got a rough future ahead no matter which of several possible scenarios plays out .
Widdershins66 2 years ago
Emotionally unstable personality disorder (EUPD) = childhood trauma.
Yvonne Gardner 2 years ago
That little girl is going to end up dead before she's 20. Either by suicide, or some horrific situation that the mother puts her in.
Penny Kemper 2 years ago
So why did you take her away if that's what the mom wants? I know you try to keep families together, but if she wants it and you see she doesn't love and care for her daughter, why is she still there? You rather let the girl endure more neglect, mental abuse? Smh
Brittania Kelli 2 years ago
The person who posted this clearly says he is investigative, they gather the information and present it, they don't make the decisions.
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Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago
Even after all that, no one took the kid away from her? What the actual f**k? Someone, some distant relative maybe or another qualified person who would provide the love, care, and treatment the child desperately needs. Someone.
Debrina Blackmoon 2 years ago (edited)
Wow, you're a big fucktard s**t pile! Like all the other evil assholls+.
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The professor for the Psychology in Parenting class I'm currently taking at school. She is the worst helicopter parent I've ever seen. She has every behavior of her children planned and a punishment ready to administer when she doesn't get the result she wants. She even talks about how she manipulates her husband into performing certain behaviors. I can't even touch on how manipulative she is; it's kinda scary. She thinks all this micro-parenting is going to create some well-rounded, super smart, and mentally stable person but I think she's the mother of a future psychopath. She's one of those "participation trophy" and "Everybody wins" type people. I actually feel worse for her future grandkids. She's going to be the mother-in-law from Hell, I can just see it now.
Karma Black 2 years ago (edited)
She's not just the mother of a future psychopath. She's CURRENTLY a sociopath.
Shannon Donnelly 2 years ago
This is exactly why so many people don't see the value in a college degree anymore. Not only is it absurdly expensive, but the people teaching the classes aren't qualified to be walking dogs, no less teaching future generations how and what to think.
Cthulhu Kitty 2 years ago
I used to baby sit for a child psychiatrist, worst parent ever. Would never set any boundaries
aubergine10003 2 years ago
The sociopath who lives above me with his husband and their 3 adopted kids is also a Professor of Psychology... they are truly f***king up those kids, screaming at them (and at each other) constantly...
Portia Snell 2 years ago
Just say my nephew and nieces are Black, Gwin. We all know that’s what you hint at when you say adopted.
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My brother’s got 8 kids with 7 different women. It would’ve been 10 with 8 but his twins died at childbirth. His baby mamas have a Facebook group where they all go to talk s**t about him and his inability to pay child support. We joke about them unionizing. It’s pretty funny.
Susan Green 2 years ago
I don’t find this funny at all. He’s a deadbeat dad, who’s probably going to get more women pregnant.
Tamra 2 years ago
I agree, it's not funny. It's sick and irresponsible. If our government can force women to have babies, how about they force men like this to have vasectomies? Don't pay your child support - automatic vasectomy.
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Katieathome 2 years ago
Not funny at all. I have a cousin who has 5 girls by 5 different women and I don't find it funny at all. He is not involved in their lives, he's a drug addict. My aunt is raising 2 of the 5 and keeps in contact with all of her granddaughters. It's not funny when people make kids that have to live with the consequences of their parents actions. This is sad for the children.
Angi 2 years ago
No he definitely has the money to pay for his kids but that was what I thought until I read the second part.
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Shannon Donnelly 2 years ago
Completely agree. We can blame the deadbeat dads all we want, but these women agreed to have unprotected sex with these losers, knowing they're not just taking the chance of getting pregnant, but also catching who knows what STI. Then they're surprised when the pregnancy test comes up positive?? Did you miss Sex Ed all 4 years in HS?! Or did you believe him when he said he was infertile & didn't need to use a condom, even though he's got 7 kids?! As much as we may not want the responsibility, women end up in charge of the birth control, because if we don't take charge of that, we end up responsible for the babies we're given. Women need to MAKE BETTER CHOICES.
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That's not funny at all, and losing twins at childbirth is one of the worst things I can think of as a parent. It must be horrific for their mother.
Sunflower_Bee 2 years ago
Him and my aunt would go together great she has like 10 kids with like 6-7 different guys. And she is possibly pregnant again and she is over 40! She has custody of one kid (he is like a year now) and all but one are taken care of by their fathers (the one is taken care of by my grandparents because the father is a psychopath) the fathers except the one all hate her so I have this in my life just the roles are switched.
#16
I used to work at a pawn shop several years ago. One day a particularly trashy couple came in to pawn a few DVD’s and some fake gold. They had their son with them and he couldn’t have been more than three years old. So while his dad is at the counter and mom is wandering around the little boy walks over to the bike display to check out the bikes. When Dad notices this he yells “HEY” very loudly and the boy immediately starts running back towards the dad. The mom sees the little boy running back to his father and assumes he’s being yelled at for running around the store. She looks at the dad and says as casual as can be “just hit him.”
I don’t think I’ll ever forget thinking in that moment “sorry kid, you’ve got very little chance of being normal.”
MusicalNerd 2 years ago
I really appreciate how you wrote ''very little chance'', because a lot of the other replies here seem to assume there's no chance at all.
Annie 1973 2 years ago
Heartbreaking 💔😭 I'd have tried to get their name and address and maybe check into them, befriend on social media, so you can get the proof you need to report them for child abuse
Meow Billa 1 year ago
well, if I as a child would be there my parents had already hit me multiple times and I just get to know that it was abuse
Samyan Elrod 2 years ago
Ya at my work this customers son was throwing rocks and the mum said "get here or ill smack ur bum". I was making coffee and I was just like 😳
A. Starhawk Hunt 2 years ago
When I worked in retail, one time I was happily doing some chore to be near the exit when a mother and two young (6 & 8?). She was dragging the younger girl by the arm and both girls were crying. As she passed me, she whisper shouting “You don’t hit in public!). I wonder where one does hit? At home, I guess.
Kate Jones 2 years ago (edited)
This whole culture of kids we're creating because mom and dad are on drugs/alcohol or are simply incapable of taking care of them is such a nightmare. I know this is a controversial statement, but I believe that anyone who has had their kids taken by CFS for drug or violence related issues should be forced to go on surgical-style birth control. IUD, or the implant. You can't come off of it unless you can prove you've been clean or are in a stable environment for X amount of time. No child should be forced to live in that and we're creating more and more of these insane people who were raised by freaking wolves and we wonder why we're in the state we're in.
#17
My son has a friend who was held back a year in school because his father wanted to “buy” an extra year to give his son a better chance at earning a football scholarship. The dad believes that since his son will have another year to grow before high school football, he’ll have an opportunity to start for all 4 years and will earn a scholarship to a good football school.
The boy is also the 5th child in his family. All of his siblings are sisters and the son knows that his dad kept trying until he got his boy that he could groom into a football star. That’s a lot to live up to and my mind immediately went to Todd Marinovich when I met the dad.
Judes 2 years ago
But does this even make sense? Where I live sport teams are aged based, not year of education based, so holding back a kid one year in school would make no difference to what sports teams they can apply for. A coach is going to evaluate him against kids born in the same year, not kids a whole year younger. Maybe it's done differently in other countries??
René Sauer 2 years ago
And did anybody ask the boy if he wanted to play football? My guess is no.
Shannon Donnelly 2 years ago
Holy s**t! Imagine having to repeat 8th grade a second time because your dad is too stupid to understand that middle school and high school football absolutely do not work the same way college football does... SMFH
DeoManus Argentem 2 years ago
It's not always done just for sports. My sister and I were born in late summer, so it could have gone either way as to when we entered "real" school. My parents opted to send us to "pre-first" grade (a year between kindergarten and first grade.) We always "hated" them for it (it meant we graduated high school a few months before our 19th birthday) because we kinda thought it meant an extra year before we could start "our real lives"... But now I can see the wisdom of it - we were almost always the leaders, and made top grades without even trying in both HS and university. My sister participated in many team sports, but I had little interest in anything outside of golf/tennis, and my parents really had nothing to do with that unless we needed them to pick us up (drive) late, lol!
GrowingThruConcrete 2 years ago
I have a friend who seeded both her boys- enrolled them a year later in kindergarten so they'd be bigger than the other athletes and more successful at high school sports.
Gozer LeGozerian 2 years ago
You kinda wish that kid wants to become a dancer or actor. How great would that be.
Beachbum 2 years ago
Same thing happened to a dude my son played football with. I mean his dad was a retired football player, played on the Bills. His son was a natural football player, he held him back almost for the same reason. He said it was because he was not mature enough.... Kid got a scholarship to Auburn, f****d that up, then went to U of L, pretty much messed that up too. Just a spoiled rotten kid
Bridgette Helms 2 years ago
This happens all of the time where I live. It's so unfair to kids who are following the rules. I live in Phoenix
boone williams 2 years ago
Shall I be the only one to point out that's a picture of lacrosse players rather than football? Does anything even matter any more?
#18
The mother who threatened my life. I am a teacher.
T'Mar of Vulcan 2 years ago
A mother in a wheelchair (who has been seen walking around, but who uses the chair because she gets disability and child grants for the kids she keeps having) threatened to "frak up" a colleague of mine (we're teachers). How she planned on doing that without getting out of her chair I don't know.
Genericist 2 years ago (edited)
You do realise that needing a wheelchair doesn't necesssarily mean you can't walk at all, right? Out of the 1.2 million wheelchair users in the U.K., approximately one third of them are ambulatory users. What this means is that they do fall under that umbrella of being disabled and do need to use a wheelchair but are capable of walking in some circumstances. I don't know about this specific woman, but please don't make the mistake of thinking if a person can move out of their wheelchair they are faking. It's an extremely damaging misconception. It's like saying if you can run 10 metres this means you can run a marathon every day.
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Eastendbird 2 years ago
I'd be surprised if there was even one teacher who wasn't threatened with violence by a parent at some point in their career.
Michael Largey 2 years ago
I was never threatened with physical violence by any parent in forty years of teaching. Not even close. Of course, I was 6'4' and 225 pounds, so that may have helped a little.
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HelluvaHedgehogAlien 2 years ago
When I was in middle school, a classmate’s mum once screamed at a teacher in front of everyone for not giving her pretty, precious and angelic baby girl a higher grade in exams, despite she was just giving up on schoolwork. The mum still thinks she’s some kind of genius
Joe Publique 2 years ago
Parents are the reason I left the teaching profession. On the whole, the kids were great. But the parents were awful.
#19
The only reason I know the names of the kids across the street is that their mother is constantly screaming at them from her perch on the porch.
A quote from earlier: "Eden! Eden! Come here! No! I *just* told you to stop being so stupid!"
EmBree 2 years ago
Reminds me of the divorced woman from my hometown that started dating a priest. They were out at an event and she started calling for her kids. "Come here! Children come to mama!" The kids kept on playing and she kept on calling until she snapped. "Listen you little shits you better f*****g come here now!" The kids instantly dropped everything and lined up beside her.
Detroit Citizen 2 years ago (edited)
As a person who was teased/bullied and called stupid/r******d, I can confirm being called that will have life long effects. Im 46 and I still struggle. Three days ago a coworker said I looked effing stupid (We dressed up at work for a inner company celebration), and she said I looked effing dumb. We work in a major national hardware store chain. This was said in front of customers. It triggered a PTSD reaction that i wasnt even aware of. I spiraled for a couple days. Today Im back to my normal self.
Erica Knapp 2 years ago
I'm so sorry this happened to you!!! That's not ok....the word "stupid" is not allowed in my house or any other place as fat as I'm concerned. I wish you well...hugs and good vibes from Texas!!
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#20
I was at a child's birthday party once and was pushing a big group of kids on the merry-go-round. This one or two year old boy, not from the party, started meandering his way toward us with no regard for the large metal spinning disc he was about to walk into. I slowed the merry-go-round (much to the dismay of the kids on it) and went to lead the boy away. He then said something, I don't really remember what, that indicated he was thirsty. I looked over at the lady who had brought him there and waved her over. It took a while to get her attention, since she definitely was not looking our way at all. She eventually got up reluctantly to come toward us and it turned out to be his grandma. Once I told her that he was thirsty, she started to pour her Mountain Dew energy drink down his throat with no hesitation. I stopped her and said I had plenty of bottles of water from our party and I would get some. She shrugged and accepted one, let him drink a little, and then walked away from him again to go back to smoking her cigarette about 10 yards away.
It was pretty upsetting to imagine the possibilities of how that kid's life was going to be. I know it's not a huge deal, and I'm not a parent so I try my best not to judge others, but force feeding a child sugar filled energy drinks on a hot day in replacement of water seems to be the first sign that the guidance in that family isn't going to be the best.
Oh, and on a similar judgmental note, I know a kid whose first words were "Chicken Nugget".
Fluffy Griffin 2 years ago
Both my twins first words were "apple". I know it's healthy, but come on. Can i get a mama?! Second word was "no". I'm not sure mama even made top 10.
Moreta Lynx 2 years ago
My husband's half-brother's first word was, and I kid you not, the F-bomb.
Sanguinius 2 years ago
I'll never forget watching my friend and his wife force their very young (she was maybe...3?) daughter to eat Burger King for the first time. She clearly hated it. The look on her face said "This is not what my body wants. Please don't make me eat this." but they made her eat it anyway. She's now 10 and at least a bit overweight. Her mother is huge so I think it's only a matter of time before the little girl is quite large is well.
A. Starhawk Hunt 2 years ago
My son’s first word was obscene and done in the presence of person who’s language taught him that word. By now , you will have figured out that the word was firetruck, if you get my gist. Great first word. Well,, first in English at least. Came to realize he’d been spending so much time with his usual babysitter, a lady from Swaziland. She spoke her native language to him and he had probably been talking to us in Swahili…..he lost the Swahili, but kept the potty mouth..
#21
I worry about my cousin. His parents were in their late forties when he was born (oops!) and both already had grown kids. Safe to say they’re over the whole parenting thing at this point, and the kid is only 9. They just kind of accept that he doesn’t like/isn’t great at school and do nothing to help him improve. He’s such a sweet kid, and I hate that he’s not getting the kind of support he deserves. It seems so unfair.
Annie 1973 2 years ago
Is it possible to take him under your wing so to speak? Try to get him the help he needs. indifferent parents can be just as bad as abusive parents when it comes to how the child feels or acts
Lesley Melville 2 years ago
To be fair, it's not an "old parent" thing. Just a "s****y parent" thing. I had my first and only baby at 36 but have 2 grown stepdaughters I helped raise and 2 grandbabies.
Terran 2 years ago
Well, the OP doesn't say it's an old parent thing, but good parents, who get an additional child by accident later in life might turn out as terrible parents for that child. They have decided long ago, that their parenting time is over and will only do the bare minimum. That's of course no justification, but that's what it is.
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My aunt, of all people. Her sons are 21 and 19 (he'll be 20 in July). She still babies both of them, and I can tell they hate it. She applied for a good chunk of her oldest son's internships, and her youngest son she still restricts food from, thinking he's overweight (he's more than 6 feet tall - people that height can weigh 200 lbs. and still be healthy).
MusicalNerd 2 years ago
(For anyone who's scrolled this far: I'm stopping reading, and this is a reminder you can do that, too.)
P.L. Packer 2 years ago
At 21 and 19 they are adults and are allowed to tell their mother to back off if so inclined. Sounds like they will gripe about her helicopter parenting but won't do anything to stop it because they like the attention. That door swings both ways.
Beatrice Fairchild 2 years ago
If their over 18, they can legally get a restraint order.......
#23
I've spent some time in the family law court system as a lawyer. That family in Breaking Bad that stole the ATM machine and Jesse goes over there and finds that kid....it wasn't terribly unrealistic to me.
Michael Largey 2 years ago
Can anything seem unrealistic after you practice family law for a while?
Joe Publique 2 years ago (edited)
Friendly reminder: The "M" in ATM stands for 'machine', so there's no such thing as an 'ATM machine'. :)
Kate Jones 2 years ago
It's seriously not. My last apartment, the people upstairs were those people. They fought constantly and were drug addicts. One night they got into another fight and she threw a tv at him so I called the cops about the noise. He saw the cop car lights pulling in and literally held his 7 month old baby outside of the window by his leg and threatened to drop him. There was a stand off for about 20 minutes. When the cops finally raided the apt, there were needles and trash everywhere. I thought that was rare but...I've lived in 3 other apartments with similar problems. The guy I live above now beats his gf on the regular. They fight constantly. He has a breathalyzer thing in his car because he's not allowed to drive unless he blows into it and isn't drunk. He's had so many DUIs that the car won't turn on unless he can prove he's not drunk and he lost his job because he literally can't do it. So they just blast music and get drunk all the time and she works.
Kate Jones 2 years ago
Just adding that the only unrealistic part of the show was that that disgusting place they lived in was a house and there's no way they could have afforded that in real life. The apartment complex I lived in was 2K for a one bedroom. I will never understand how people who are drug addicts or aren't working can afford to live where they live. I work 50 hours and struggle to pay my 2K a month apartment.
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FeelingFrisky 2 years ago
What season and episode was that... anyone know? I don't remember it.
#24
Oh god. It's my time to shine. Kid A: 8th grade girl. She was in honors English but missed almost every day of school due to a "medical issue." Mom got a doctor to sign off that she had some sort of injury that makes her incapable of attending school. Meanwhile, the kid is posting all over her social media about all these just jitsu tournaments she competes in. Kid eventually was switched to my class after the last teacher refused to accept homework which was clearly done by mom (in mom's handwriting and everything). She has missed every single day of school since being switched to my class. I have never met this kid and she's been enrolled in my class for several months. The best part? The school and district can't/won't do anything about it because mom sued the school about her son and somehow has the district paying for him to attend a private school. She's threatened to sue over the daughter too, but I don't really see how. Mom also works for my school district and gets a stipend to teach her "sickly" daughter from home. Kid B: 8th grade boy. Mom has accused every teacher this kid has ever had of being "out to get her son" since kindergarten. I was warned about her and her kid before school began. I was told to never call home without an administrator present and basically that there are no consequences for this kid because he is "special needs" and mom has threatened to sue. This kid does nothing other than disrupt class. On the few occasions I've gotten him to work, he's been completely competent and fully capable, but there's no punishment for doing nothing, so he chooses to mess around instead. The kid will ask to go to the bathroom and instead spends 20-30 minutes just wandering campus, peeking into classrooms whatever. I've had to have campus supervisors find him and bring him back more times than I can count. Sometimes he wanders out of the room without permission. But legally I can't stop him due to his "needs." The kid pissed all over the boy's bathroom once. No consequences. He took another kid's phone and chucked it outside on the concrete in the middle of class, smashing it to pieces. Sent him to the office and they sent him right back. He's been in multiple fights. The school actually suspended him for once. Now mom is saying that due to his "needs" he should be exempt from suspensions. . . . I could keep going all day. But those are probably the two most out there. I got all the crazy parents this year.
Ottoman 2 years ago
It looks like autocorrect threw "just jitsu" in there, and it's cracking me up more than it should. "I heard you do jiu-jitsu." "Nah, just jitsu."
Joe Publique 2 years ago
Funny addendum, my Jewish friend is a practitioner of Jiu-Jitsu and she often cracks jokes about it.
Load More Replies... Penny Kemper 2 years ago
Truancy is a law and not up to the school district. They whole family would go to court over it. It isn't even up to the school. The state makes the laws
Becca Kuehn 2 years ago
I have an adult son who has Down Syndrome so I have to say it... The child HAS special needs he ISN'T special needs.
#25
In high school, I remember seen a mother dragging her kid to where the teacher was and slammed her kid's exam on the table and said "I don't understand!, my kid got 60% at first, then he got 70% and 80%, so he was improving. Now he's got a 65%!??!?! what the hell???"
Jesus...The teacher had the best poker face I've seen in my life during all of this
Rebelliousslug 2 years ago
I think I’m missing something here…was she misinterpreting the test scores somehow?
Michael Largey 2 years ago
He child's scores rose from a 60% to an 80%, but the next score fell to a 65%. Her disappointment was reasonable. Her approach was not.
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censorshipsucks 2 years ago
maybe it's an average? If you add all those scores up and the 60% first score weighted higher, then it can push the average to 65?
Kate Jones 2 years ago
There's this misunderstanding with parents that teachers are tutors. You didn't hire them to give individual training to your kid to improve in a certain area. The teacher teaches the material to the best of their ability and helps where they can individually, and it's the child's responsibility to absorb it. Sometimes they simply can't because their minds work differently or sometimes they aren't putting the work in to learn it. That's where a tutor would come into play. A person you hire and pay to help your kid learn something that regular training isn't enough for. If your kid is struggling it's because they need more help. If ALL of the kids are struggling, that could be a sign of a bad teacher/lesson plan. But if you're little Johnny is the only one struggling with a subject, he may need more help than the teacher can give during regular school hours. Teachers aren't there to privately tutor your child.
#26
My friends mother home schooled him because she didn’t want him interacting with females...
Katie Lutesinger 2 years ago
20 years later: WHY HAVEN'T YOU GOTTEN MARRIED AND GIVEN ME SOME GRANDKIDS?!
Bec 2 years ago (edited)
Right? I have a coworker in his 40s, kind of eccentric who's mom is like this.
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censorshipsucks 2 years ago
was going to say when he goes to buy his first AR15 everyone will be all like "he was such a quiet kid"
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Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago (edited)
Well, there’s a girl in this article whose father plans on homeschooling her when she hits 8th grade so she won’t interact with boys. She and this poor boy sure have s****y parents in common, so this might just be a match made in heaven. Once they’re 18 and their parents can no longer tell them what to do.
Some guy 2 years ago
But for God's sake, let's teach them about consent, condoms, etc. before we introduce them!
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Michael Largey 2 years ago
I attended one. And it crippled my ability to relate to women for a long time.
Load More Replies... Kate Jones 2 years ago
Oh great, "it puts the lotion on it's skin or else it gets the hose again" is in some poor girl's future.
#27
One of the office ladies proudly proclaimed shes too lazy to teach her son anything so she is going to pay other people to. Oh boy.
The Original Bruno 2 years ago (edited)
Careful: she's about to invent "school." (I know what the OP meant; I'm just being facetious.)
Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago (edited)
Or tutor, or governess, or private teacher. Or, and this might be a stretch, public or private school? Because, you know, it’s not mandatory that you homeschool your kids.
Load More Replies... Niki A 2 years ago
These are the kinds of parents who tell me "I pay you so I don't have to!" Heffalump, you do not pay me enough to teach your child EVERYTHING.
Crazy Cookie 2 years ago
Gotta love using heffalump as a legit insult. Winnie the Pooh is the best.
Load More Replies... Fluffy Griffin 2 years ago
I dunno.. I'm on the fence with this. I've got anxiety and other issues, and I am afraid to teach my kids some things because I might not know the "proper" way to do things and don't want to teach them wrong. Some of its irrational, some of its legit. I love paying other people to teach my kids stuff.
Fluffy Griffin 2 years ago
Example: I can swim and roller skate but I'm not great at either and mostly self taught. Signed my kids up for both and I am learning from THEM.
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Carbonel 2 years ago
I’ve recently heard teachers say that one of the biggest problems they are facing these days is parents who thinking that teaching their kids anything/everything is all down to them (the teachers) and parents play no part in it.
Some guy 2 years ago
Until it comes to sex ed or evolutionary biology -- then it's "Don't teach them that! They should [not] be learning that at home!".
Load More Replies... Joe Publique 2 years ago
Sounds like she's already teaching him something whether she likes it or not....and it's not good.
René Sauer 2 years ago
Being actively proud of that is weird, but what´s the harm in her paying tutors to do so?
#28
My sister in law. Her and her boyfriend are the most selfish people i have ever met. They live with her mom, who is mainly the person who takes care of her 2 year old but she spoils him and he is extremely bratty. He hits, bites, and spits in the face of every kid that comes near him. He throws giant tantrums for up to an hour sometimes that usually end in him getting what he wants. His mom hardly ever interacts with him even though she lives in the same house, she is usually just on her phone. Once when I stayed the night at their house i went to the kitchen at like 2am and he was awake begging for his mom to put him to sleep and she ignored him and continued to just watch tv. Her age isnt even an excuse (like her mom likes to claim) shes 29.
Wondering Alice 2 years ago
I assumed it ment OP's husbands sister at first, but im not sure as you would think she would then refer to SIL mum as my MIL. I dont think boyfriend and girlfriend relationships are refered to as in laws
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#29
I know a kid who was allowed to get tattoos for his 14th birthday, from a friend of the family who needed the practice.
Katie Lutesinger 2 years ago
"Are you over 18?" "Yes." "Good enough for me - get in the chair." That episode was great. I don't think it was the pilot, though.
Load More Replies... René Sauer 2 years ago
Hm... I don´t know. Most stories here are pretty clear on the sh*tty parents part, but this one is not IMO. Allowing a 14 year old to get tattoos is questionable (and from a beginner no less), yes, But other than that they could be the most loving parents in the world as far as we know.
Some guy 2 years ago
But, having been a teenaged boy, I don't think a 14-year-old is qualified to decide how he wants to present himself or what impression he wants to create FOR THE REST OF HIS LIFE. For myself, if I'd made a decision like that at 14, I 'd be regretting it to this day.
Load More Replies... Carrie Roettger 2 years ago
Wwe let our daughter get her lip pierced at 15. She came to us and told us she wanted a piercing and had been doing some research on different ones. She showed us everything she'd found out and had decided that a lip piercing would be the best one for her. She listed out all the reasons and showed us the information (from professional piercers AND even doctors). She put so much work into and has such reasonable arguments and thought that we just felt she deserves to have it done. We found a reputable place that had good reviews and health department scores and took her ourselves. We even paid for it for her. She was such a responsible young woman and has just continued to grow into a wonderful woman with a daughter of her own.
ZombieSushi386 2 years ago
My husband got his first tattoo at 14, his mom and brother also got matching ones.
Katie Lutesinger 2 years ago
I guess practising on, say, a slab of pork belly was out of the question.
#30
Mom with 7 kids by 5 dads. Children 1, 3 and 7 share a father.
Kristal 2 years ago
Yeah, no. This has too little information to judge the treatment of children. This woman could have been ra[p]ed by one or multiple men. We don't know the story. This is just shaming a woman for having multiple s3x partners at this point.
Display_Name 2 years ago
My former mother in law had 5 kids by 3 different men. First dad died of an aneurysm, second died of vehicular homicide, and she made the third one a widower.
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Clown fish 2 years ago
And that's bad why? Just because the dads are different doesn't make a bad parent
SadieCat17 2 years ago
I think the point being made is that the mother was with multiple men (and having unprotected sex) with gaps between the same one. Probably meant a possibly mentally insecure/unstable mother or toxic family dynamic they're being exposed to. I truly have nothing against women with kids from different men and it's often for the best for her to leave, it's just the back and forth in this case that worries me.
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Alicia M 2 years ago
But was she a bad mom? This does not make any mention of her parenting abilities. Seems the point of this post is to s**t shame the mom without providing any other information.
Tamra 2 years ago
I agree with you. Every story like this is followed by comments condemning and judging the mother, and ONLY the mother. Where are all these men who are creating children and not helping to raise them? Men are not held as accountable nor held to the same standards when it comes to child-rearing. Not nearly enough, anyway.
Load More Replies... Michael Largey 2 years ago
There was a county clerk in the news like this. She refused to issue marriage licenses to gay couples. Claimed that it was because of her respect for family morality.
Chris Ironside 2 years ago
This 100% doesn't mean someone is a bad mother or can't/won't raise the kids well! Get real.
tamèreestchaude 2 years ago
Don't downvote!!! But if it was a man who had children by multiple women, it wouldn't even be on this list.
hitex 2 years ago
This is a common strategy when u don't want to work but live off child support instead. I once represent dad who had a kid who was mom 's 5th kid with 5th different dad. None of other dads had kids either so she was getting 20% income from 1st 4. My client got custody of her 5th so that last one backfired a little on her 😂
#31
High school ex bf. His self esteem was below the ground. His mom sold Herbalife products and made him drink their shakes and just their shakes for breakfast and for lunch (a 17 year old boy, who was the captain of the volleyball team, mind you). the woman slept with every man she met, was having a serious relationship with a married man and hated girls who weren’t white (aka me). She told him she would choose to which uni he’d attend and what he would study and who he would marry. Everyday I’m grateful I dodged that bullet. (Mother in law I mean, the kid wasn’t bad at all).
#32
My daughter was in grade 0. And the three local schools had a fun "sports day" for their grade 0s. Sports day meant you did a 40meter dash, then obstacle course, then a egg/spoon run etc. All with your own class. So no competition between the schools. This one dad kept yelling instructions to his 5year old "Elbow him, trip her, knock them over" So much for the fun
--- 2 years ago
Here, one year of preschool was transferred to primary school as grade 0
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#33
These former friends of ours. It's really sad. The girlfriend intentionally got pregnant immediately after my SO and I announced that we were having a baby. She stopped taking her BC and lied, and then let it slip shortly thereafter. Apparently she didn't like the attention in our friends group being taken off her and onto us. So that's a great reason to bring a child into the world, right? It only gets worse from there, as both of their main concern seemed to be "How are we going to get rid of this kid as much as possible?" before the poor thing even arrived. And the father would sit around laughing out loud at all of the abusive things he was going to subject the child to, how he "wasn't going to let him grow up to be some pussy" and would slap him around and refuse to hold him when he cried to "toughen him up". The baby arrived a few months after ours and as far as I know, they mostly leave him with the mother's parents and do their thing. Before I cut them out of my life for being total a******s in general, they were constantly posting pictures on FB of things like them force-feeding him thick rice cereal off a spoon when he was SIX WEEKS OLD, frequent photos of the two of them in some distant vacation spot with no sign of the baby, pictures of them stuffing him into a duffel bag for some unknown reason, and the father basically saying that if the government came to take his guns, he'd rather they take the kid first. BYE A**HATS! To every who’s saying to call CPS, I wanted to. I don’t know their address though and when I tried to look it up on the property appraisers website they weren’t there so they either rented or are living in a relatives home or something. I know the city they live in and their names but we weren’t that close with them for obvious reasons. When we would all hang out, it was never at their house. Is there another way for me to find out without making it extremely obvious that I’m the one who called? ETA 2: Okay it’s worth a try I guess. I will give CPS a call and see if names and city are enough to go on. I really feel bad for that baby. He’s about 1.5 years old now and hopefully still okay. I haven’t seen or talked to them in months.
Brenda 2 years ago
They will never know who called CPS as they aren't allowed to tell them. You can also report them anonymously to CPS, you don't HAVE to give them your information. Dates, times and exact descriptions of what you PERSONALLY have witnessed is what you want to tell them. No hearsay. First, check their Facebook pages to see if any of the things you described are still posted. Copy anything you can find for CPS records. Good luck.
Lauren S 2 years ago
Regarding reporting to cps, you can report things like if you typically see them at a certain park on Saturday mornings or if you have soccer practice at 5 on Tuesdays. You don’t have to know first and last names and addresses. Or so I’ve been told. It makes sense to me. Basically, if they can locate the family in some way they can proceed from there.
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#34
We weren’t allowed to watch Stewart Little because a parent refused to let their child be exposed to talking animals.
The Original Bruno 2 years ago
Strange. Probably indicative of some kooky brand of religion. But worst parent you've met? What magical isle lost in time do you live on?
Florence O'Grady 2 years ago
What does this lady think about the series "The Chronicles of Narnia" by C. S. Lewis?
Michael Largey 2 years ago
Then I hope they maintained complete silence around their kid, because people are also talking animals.
#35
Two of my dad's old coworkers, a married couple, were both extremely obese and led a pretty unhealthy lifestyle in general (eating fast food nearly every day, etc.) Eventually they had a baby, and basically fed her anything she wanted and very unhealthy snacks. That kid is screwed.
Lakota Wolf 2 years ago
That's what happened to my cousin. Obesity runs in my family (I'm adopted) and my cousin's parents are both morbidly obese. My cousin's grandmother (her mom's mom) had diabetes due to obesity and got gangrene in one arm and had to have it AMPUTATED. I have memories of a family gathering when I was 12ish and my cousin was 6ish, and her mom brought her over a heaping plate of food... we're talking like 2x a "normal" adult-sized portion. Three full-size tacos, two scoops of rice, two scoops of beans, and she says to my 6-year-old cousin "Clean your plate, sweetie!" We've seen multiple family members die young to obesity-related health problems. My little cousin is currently 34 years old, is morbidly obese, has fatty liver disease, is pre-diabetic, and has so many hormonal and health issues that she is a wreck. She cannot even breathe properly any more. I love my cousin and I do not know what to do. I'm watching her slowly die.
DuchessDegu 2 years ago
That's so sad, and very avoidable. I'm quite big myself so not saying everyone has to be super fit, but when you're on the verge of really serious diseases it's the time to get a grip
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Mom is in labor, CPS is standing by to take the baby. She's had no prenatal care, is addicted to drugs, and this is her 6th pregnancy. The previous five have already been apprehended (the 4th and 5th were also apprehended at birth). Father is unsurprisingly not present for birth.
️Crystal️ 2 years ago
Apprehended is typically used to mean arrested so I am picturing CPS slapping tiny cuffs on the baby as soon as that umbilical cord is cut😂😭
Katie Lutesinger 2 years ago
"Somebody get the baby sized cuffs!" "Will these do?" "Uh, those are testicle cuffs."
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Judes 2 years ago
As soon as the mother has given birth, the child will be taken from her and either adopted or fostered.
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Didn’t meet the parent, but I witnessed someone get rear-ended in rush hour the other day. I hear a woman screaming - not from pain, but from anger - and she gets out of the driver’s side of the car that was hit and opens the back door (to get something out?). Then a child who looked to be around 8 years old leans out of the back passenger window furiously screaming, ‘WE’RE GONNA F**K YOU UP! GONNA F**K YOU UP!!’ I promptly drove away.
#38
My 30 year old former roommate had a kid accidentally when she was 19, and watching her parenting made me... Sad. She doesn't have the emotional maturity to show him she loves him, and expects him to bridge the gap between them. She just doesn't know how to give without taking. One time she honestly looked into giving him up to the state. He kept making suicide jokes at school and causing problems for her. I sat with her trying to explain why she had to take responsibility for her kid. I even said something like, "People like you who have children and choose not to put the effort into raising them are why the world is a s****y place". I honestly don't know if she'll ever grow up and get her s**t together, but I hope she does, for the kid's sake. After living with him, I love him, and I hope he can rise above her childish, negative attitude. I tried to offer him as much support as I could, but after a bunch of personal problems between me and his mother, it became worse for me to stay.
and_a_touch_of_the_’tism 2 years ago
And this is why abortion should be safe, legal, and accessible.
#39
Mom that tells her 10 year old son when it’s peepee time and walks him to the bathroom and helps him
Stephanie Did It 2 years ago
If it were a dad doing that with a daughter, it would be viewed SO differently!
Vallen 2 years ago
My mom just started letting my 9 year old brother go to the public restroom by himself, it’s not weird, she’s just trying to protect him from any sketchy guys. Because, as we all know, there are horrible people out there. And she only did it because he said he was finally ready to go alone, before, he was to scared to go to the public restroom by himself so she would take him into the girls restroom and wait for him. However, the part where she tells him it’s pee pee time and HELPS him… yeah, that’s a bit creepy.
#40
When I was in college, I volunteered to work the cafe at a community center that happened to be hosting a homeschool meetup. There was this mom flipping out at kid that had to be 2-3 that was just being squirmy before praying for the meal. She was slapping her hands together an inch from his face while yelling “reverence! reverence!” in beat with her claps like he was misbehaving dog. As more of a grown up now, I wish I could go back and say something to her or anyone about it. I was really naive then about taking initiative when seeing something that looked close to abuse.
Snake Queen 2 years ago (edited)
Would you like it if I came up to you and started yelling “reverence! Reverence!” While clapping in your face? No! You would probably find it rude and disturbing, as well as offensive. And besides, why would she be making a joke of it if she was religious? And from the context overall, it”s quite obvious that it wasn’t a game. EDIT: this is in response to Penny Kemper
Wombatish 2 years ago
Ugh my mega pentecostal neighbor tells her daughter to 'be sweet' to correct her and I just sit there flashing the various FLDS documentaries behind my eyes. I look for opportunities to show a different path (I'm educated, I wear pants, I'm not beholden to my husband/father, etc..) but honestly she might already be in too deep. It's sad.
#41
Honestly, I grew up with a lot of these kids, and partied at a lot of their houses, but one family stuck out in particular. The parents in question often held parties that they "supervised" and supplied alcohol for with the reasoning that kids were going to do that stuff anyway, and it was better they had a safe place to do it. In reality they were alcoholics who didn't work, and just wanted people to partake in their misery. They wanted drinking buddies instead of guiding their children. Granted, most of them have now become adults and overcame their parents' selfishness and toxicity, but not without a a fair amount of trauma and dysfunction
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
alcohol age limits exist for a reason. In EU it is normal to let kids 16+ drink if they want, and in medieval times any age was ok. But we aren't in medieval times.
#42
We went to a pediatric dentist who still brushed her kid's teeth for him. He was 12.
The Original Bruno 2 years ago
Strange. But she's a dentist. A little wierdness isn't going to ruin a kid for life.
The Queen 2 years ago
So, because they are a dentist, they get to treat a 12 yr old like a toddler?
Load More Replies... Huddo's sister 2 years ago
I wonder what age the poster thinks is too old, because many people stop brushing their child's teeth for them too early. I agree, 12 is too old, but I was told by a children's dentist who came to the preschool I was teaching at that you should keep doing it until they are at least 8.
#43
my aunt’s girlfriend’s sister is such a helicopter mom. she used to cut his food for him until he was about 9. she used to ask if there were bones in everything (even if she knew there weren’t any bones in the meal). when he goes to the bathroom she waits outside. he still wets the bed
Vallen 2 years ago
My mom still cuts up me and my little brothers food, and he’s 9 and I’m 14. But then again, he whines when she doesn’t, and I have braces so it’s easier for me to eat that way. So I guess it is different. And you didn’t really specify his age, but even now, as a 14 year old, my mom still waits for me outside the bathroom. And my little brother used to wet the bed up until this year because he had bladder issues that we didn’t know about.
Insono 2 years ago
Right but why aren't you guys cutting up your own food? At that age you should be plenty capable of doing that yourself
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I met parents who didn’t let his kid get into other parents cars for car pooling as it was too much of a liability issue. These parents also have a zero violence tolerance for video games. Mind you but this kid is in high school for Christ’s sake.
Con O Cuinn 2 years ago
My aunt tried take away my Christmas present when I was 11 because she thought it was "inappropriate". It was Street Fighter for the PS1, technically a 12 age game but come on. We were in my granny's house, so after I refused and my parents refused, she moaned to my granny. I can't remember what she said to her, but my granny could be quite cutting. The result being said aunt storming off and missing Christmas dinner.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago (edited)
Nah I agree with this one - the first part at any rate. Most people drive like idiots and I won't even trust the school bus driver if I can avoid it (our buses are really small). We've got literally two (2) friends who we trust to drive our kids because they are not idiots. Anyone else, nope. As for games, we let them play anything as long as it is not those stickman fighting games as they are mindless. Also not a big fan of 3d type shooting games as they're just prepping you for military. Anything with brain required and strategy required is fine. Running thru a maze collecting guns and shooting people - you just need to be cannonfodder to be that.
Penny Kemper 2 years ago
So. Neither of those things sound bad. How do those things hurt the kid?
Me. 2 years ago
It will lock the child out of many popular games and affect their social life.
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What do you think ?
Eastendbird 2 years ago (edited)
Worst situation I ever dealt with: She was a heroin addict, sent her kids (two primary school age girls) to school unfed, in dirty, torn clothes and with shoes where the soles were falling off. We (teacher at an inner city school) got social services involved. They were great, really tried to help the mother and the kids. Checked up on them regularly, arranged parenting classes and drug rehabilitation support for mum. Nothing worked. Eventually the kids were taken away and put into foster care. On the day that mum agreed to give up her kids and to allow them to be adopted she said to me "Well I lasted 6 years as a parent, that's one more year than my mum." Let's hope the kids can break the cycle, they were adopted by a lovely couple and moved out of the city. Often wonder what happened to them.
whatever 2 years ago
Our ex. next-door neighbor is in her 60's and raising an out-of-control 10yr. old granddaughter and a toddler who's got obvious development issues because two of her heroin-addict dead-beat daughters would have lost them to CPS. She's obviously overwhelmed and doesn't discipline them so I can see where the 10 yr. old is going to end up like her mom. It was like watching a future train-wreck unfold.
Load More Replies... Lauren S 2 years ago
As a parent, I always feel like I’m not doing enough, worried I’m making a wrong choice for my son, etc. But this article made me feel better about my parenting skills. Very sad article, I feel bad for the children. I’m feel bad for the teachers and friends of these children! The children will struggle so much when they don’t have to. Also, braggy mom moment, as I put my son to bed tonight he told me I make him feel safe. He said he always feels safe when he’s with me. He said he sometimes feels safe, sometimes doesn’t feel safe when he’s not with me. Paranoid mom moment, what’s going on that he doesn’t feel safe sometimes when I’m not there!?! I’ll talk with him more tomorrow about it of course. We’re on vacation at the moment so I literally have him with me 100% of the time right now. I’m trying to decrease my anxiety about this now enough so I can go to sleep.
Katie Lutesinger 2 years ago
For what the opinion of a total stranger is worth, I think you sound like a really sweet person and a good parent. And it's normal to worry like that. I'm 37 and my own mother still worries about me and fusses every time I get into trouble or am wearing something she thinks will make me look bad!
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Rapunzel With The Loced Hair 2 years ago
The saddest thing I have seen is a video of a South African police woman who was making her 12 year old son have sex with her, and she was filming it. Who knows how long she has been doing it for? My heart still breaks when I think about that little boy.
Mike Crow 2 years ago
The mother of my sons girlfriend screams at her daughter and threatens her with calling the police if she misbehaves. Then she try’s to buy her daughters love with expensive gifts. She also blames all of her shortcomings on everyone but herself. More than once my son and his girlfriend asked if she can move in with us and away from her mother.
Katie Lutesinger 2 years ago
I knew a kid once who was the result of a teen pregnancy. His mother was the sweetest woman you could hope to meet and was doing her best with him, but his father was deadbeat loser who kept getting arrested for getting in fights on the street - often in front of the kid and his little sister. Sadly the kid hero worshipped him anyway and was absolutely furious with his mother when she finally put an end to the dad's shared custody or whatever it was. He was a bully who constantly picked on a really sweet Indian kid who just wanted to be friends and one day yelled a racial slur at him. And I think we all know who he learned THAT from. It was so depressing.
Cheryl Sarnoski 2 years ago (edited)
This list is terrible but there's more tenacity in children than you think. I grew up horrible my mom was a non functioning drug addict who rotated abusive men. I decided early that I'm breaking the cycle. I mean at 4 I was determined to never become like my mother. I became a voracious reader because education wasn't going to be an option for me. I also understood early, at 8, that no one loved me so I was going to love me and no one else nurtured me so I nurtured myself. I make sure to do thing everyday that makes me feel grounded and fuzzy. Now in my 40's I'm independent to a fault but I've made a good life and I surround myself with only kind people. I can also declare that I broke the babies too young, violence, severe drug addiction, sexual assault, cruelty, poverty, intolerance, multiple toxic relationships cycle completely. I came out of this damn proud of who I am.
Michael Largey 2 years ago (edited)
Two stories from my teaching days. (1) A student is caught cheating on a test, and a parent comes in for the obligatory conference. Mom sails in, sits down, and smiles, saying "Ok. How are we going to get around this?" (2) Father, who owns a car dealership, comes in and asked that his son's math grade from last school year be raised "so to make him more marketable to college". Us: "When you take a car as a trade-in, do you roll back its mileage to make it more marketable?" Dad: "of course not!" Us: "Isn't that what you're asking us to do?" He had trouble recognizing our comparison, but it's so tricky debating moral philosophy with a used car dealer. (Twenty years later, that son now runs the business and is driving it straight into the ground.)
Eastendbird 2 years ago (edited)
Worst situation I ever dealt with: She was a heroin addict, sent her kids (two primary school age girls) to school unfed, in dirty, torn clothes and with shoes where the soles were falling off. We (teacher at an inner city school) got social services involved. They were great, really tried to help the mother and the kids. Checked up on them regularly, arranged parenting classes and drug rehabilitation support for mum. Nothing worked. Eventually the kids were taken away and put into foster care. On the day that mum agreed to give up her kids and to allow them to be adopted she said to me "Well I lasted 6 years as a parent, that's one more year than my mum." Let's hope the kids can break the cycle, they were adopted by a lovely couple and moved out of the city. Often wonder what happened to them.
whatever 2 years ago
Our ex. next-door neighbor is in her 60's and raising an out-of-control 10yr. old granddaughter and a toddler who's got obvious development issues because two of her heroin-addict dead-beat daughters would have lost them to CPS. She's obviously overwhelmed and doesn't discipline them so I can see where the 10 yr. old is going to end up like her mom. It was like watching a future train-wreck unfold.
Load More Replies... Lauren S 2 years ago
As a parent, I always feel like I’m not doing enough, worried I’m making a wrong choice for my son, etc. But this article made me feel better about my parenting skills. Very sad article, I feel bad for the children. I’m feel bad for the teachers and friends of these children! The children will struggle so much when they don’t have to. Also, braggy mom moment, as I put my son to bed tonight he told me I make him feel safe. He said he always feels safe when he’s with me. He said he sometimes feels safe, sometimes doesn’t feel safe when he’s not with me. Paranoid mom moment, what’s going on that he doesn’t feel safe sometimes when I’m not there!?! I’ll talk with him more tomorrow about it of course. We’re on vacation at the moment so I literally have him with me 100% of the time right now. I’m trying to decrease my anxiety about this now enough so I can go to sleep.
Katie Lutesinger 2 years ago
For what the opinion of a total stranger is worth, I think you sound like a really sweet person and a good parent. And it's normal to worry like that. I'm 37 and my own mother still worries about me and fusses every time I get into trouble or am wearing something she thinks will make me look bad!
Load More Replies... Rapunzel With The Loced Hair 2 years ago
The saddest thing I have seen is a video of a South African police woman who was making her 12 year old son have sex with her, and she was filming it. Who knows how long she has been doing it for? My heart still breaks when I think about that little boy.
Mike Crow 2 years ago
The mother of my sons girlfriend screams at her daughter and threatens her with calling the police if she misbehaves. Then she try’s to buy her daughters love with expensive gifts. She also blames all of her shortcomings on everyone but herself. More than once my son and his girlfriend asked if she can move in with us and away from her mother.
Katie Lutesinger 2 years ago
I knew a kid once who was the result of a teen pregnancy. His mother was the sweetest woman you could hope to meet and was doing her best with him, but his father was deadbeat loser who kept getting arrested for getting in fights on the street - often in front of the kid and his little sister. Sadly the kid hero worshipped him anyway and was absolutely furious with his mother when she finally put an end to the dad's shared custody or whatever it was. He was a bully who constantly picked on a really sweet Indian kid who just wanted to be friends and one day yelled a racial slur at him. And I think we all know who he learned THAT from. It was so depressing.
Cheryl Sarnoski 2 years ago (edited)
This list is terrible but there's more tenacity in children than you think. I grew up horrible my mom was a non functioning drug addict who rotated abusive men. I decided early that I'm breaking the cycle. I mean at 4 I was determined to never become like my mother. I became a voracious reader because education wasn't going to be an option for me. I also understood early, at 8, that no one loved me so I was going to love me and no one else nurtured me so I nurtured myself. I make sure to do thing everyday that makes me feel grounded and fuzzy. Now in my 40's I'm independent to a fault but I've made a good life and I surround myself with only kind people. I can also declare that I broke the babies too young, violence, severe drug addiction, sexual assault, cruelty, poverty, intolerance, multiple toxic relationships cycle completely. I came out of this damn proud of who I am.
Michael Largey 2 years ago (edited)
Two stories from my teaching days. (1) A student is caught cheating on a test, and a parent comes in for the obligatory conference. Mom sails in, sits down, and smiles, saying "Ok. How are we going to get around this?" (2) Father, who owns a car dealership, comes in and asked that his son's math grade from last school year be raised "so to make him more marketable to college". Us: "When you take a car as a trade-in, do you roll back its mileage to make it more marketable?" Dad: "of course not!" Us: "Isn't that what you're asking us to do?" He had trouble recognizing our comparison, but it's so tricky debating moral philosophy with a used car dealer. (Twenty years later, that son now runs the business and is driving it straight into the ground.)
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