People tend to seek consistency in their attitudes, so when we hold two contradictory beliefs and our thoughts do not align with our actions, we may experience discomfort.
Whether we're aware of it or not, this inconsistency — called cognitive dissonance — can motivate us to seek ways to reduce the unpleasant feelings it causes, such as by rejecting or avoiding new information.
(You know that drinking too much alcohol is harmful to your health, but you do it anyway and rationalize it by pointing to your high stress levels.)
Interested in how all of this manifests in everyday life, Reddit user Independent_Ad_3915 asked everyone else on the platform, "What's the worst example of cognitive dissonance you've seen in real life?"
Here are some of the answers they have received. It sounds like we're pretty good at lying to ourselves.
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Ugh. I had a (now ex) best friend who had a pregnancy scare. She was super pro-life, very conservative Republican. I asked her what she was going to do and what support she needed from me, and she said she was considering getting an a******n if she was pregnant. When I seemed surprised, she said, "well, it's different for me. I'm not a s**t like those other girls. I'm not ready for a baby. It's different..." We stopped being friends after that. I couldn't handle it anymore.
Yes, I'm sure it's 'different' for all the conservative politician's wives, daughters, girlfriends when they can afford to go interstate for a medical procedure.
People who purport to live their lives like Jesus, and yet are hateful and judgmental, and non-accepting which is the exact opposite of what the man was about, historically.
And to think their god is the one true… 3.000 “active” gods on this planet. At least 18,000 different gods, goddesses and various animals or objects have been worshipped by humans long time before humans invented Jesus and god.. to think your young god is the one, that is the hight of ignorance.
We got in touch with Independent_Ad_3915, and they were kind enough to take a little time and have a chat with us about their post.
"I sat down thinking about what would be a good question that everyone could associate with in some meaningful way," they told Bored Panda about its origins. "I remember thinking, 'What is your happiest memory? Or, biggest recurring thought? Or, biggest self-delusion?'"
"I then decided on a question that focuses on how someone views the thoughts of others."
Brexit voters who live in Spain and other parts of the EU. Voting to kick out foreigners without realising that they are the foreigners is peak cognitive dissonance.
This was the stupidest thing we have done recently, OH seeing all the Brits living in Spain, moaning that they are getting screwed over, YOU VOTED FOR THIS!! It is your fault!
Illegal immigrants are taking our jobs!
I wouldn't have a problem with illegal immigrants if they would work instead of coming here to live off of welfare!
Said within minutes of each other out of the same mouth.
If it’s been said once, it’s been said a thousand times. We are all immigrants. The USA thrives with immigrants.
The Redditor noticed that there were a lot of references to American politics in the answers. "Some people were just putting in 'Democrats' or 'Republicans' as their answer."
That might be due to the fact that over the past years, Democrats and Republicans have both grown increasingly likely to view members of the opposing party through a negative lens.
A 2022 poll found that majorities of Democrats describe Republicans as being more closed-minded, dishonest, immoral, and unintelligent than other Americans; majorities of Republicans describe Democrats as each of the above, with the further addition of lazy.
Republicans blocking Obama's nomination of Merrick Garland to the SCOTUS because, by their argument, "It was too close to the election (more than a year away), and we should let the people decide the next president first before we name a new SCOTUS member."
Then, within *3 months* of the 2020 election, RBG dies and Republicans rush in and confirm their nominee as fast as they can before the election to make sure it's stacked with another conservative in case Biden wins.
There is just no excuse for that blatant, absolutely transparent level of hypocrisy.
Such defines the American right-wing.
People who have generational wealth, but then claim they “pulled themselves up by their bootstraps” and “worked their a*s off to get where they are,” while claiming everyone else is just lazy.
"Pulling oneself up by one's bootstraps" is literally impossible. You cannot physically lift yourself up by pulling on the thing you're standing on. So the delusion that they've self-levitated is popular with these toxic people.
"I don't think there is a world where people can fully live true to any belief system," the author of the post said. "Because the reality around us will give us particular situations that will force us to compromise or even betray those beliefs in some way."
"Most people aren't even aware of that; however, they are overly strong on the power of belief and the ideal of 'I am right.' And what you think in your head does not match facts on the ground is where cognitive dissonance will occur. That does not mean there is no higher morality or ethics that people should aspire to."
"To put it simply, people need to accept that the reality in their minds and the real world rarely match each other 100 percent on every topic," they added.
“This weather is crazy!!! It was never like this when I was a kid.” meets “climate change is a hoax.”
For those of us who work/have worked in retail during the holiday season:
"I can't believe they have you working on Christmas Eve, Boxing Day/insert holiday here..."
It's you. It's because of YOU I'm working. Cuz you're here, shopping on a public holiday. 🙄
I'm not all sure about that. I go if it's open. If it's closed, I'm fine. It's the owners who wants to earn money. Because, if it's closed, they won't earn anything. And people will always complain. Just close that stores. At least the employees will benefit from that.
But interestingly, cognitive dissonance can sometimes be a tool for personal and social change. Drawing a person's attention to the disparity between their behavior and their values may increase their awareness of the inconsistency and empower them to act.
For example, a 2019 study noted that dissonance-based interventions may be helpful for people with eating disorders. This approach works by encouraging patients to say things or role-play behaviors that contradict their beliefs about food and body image, creating dissonance.
The theory behind this approach is that, in order to resolve it, a person's implicit beliefs about their body and thinness will change, reducing their desire to limit food intake.
So a lot depends on the circumstances.
Conservatives decrying they want government to leave them alone while supporting bans on gay marriage, access to women's health, etc.
One that really f****d me up hard, the right thinks it would be okay to deny their child anti biotics if their religion told them too.
Modern Christianity in the USA. It’s literally the opposite of what Jesus taught.
My mom who rushes to do all the chores herself and then complains when nobody else does them. And then if someone else does it she complains that it’s not being done the way she does it
"This is what happens under socialism" Republicans talking about something happening now under capitalism
I will NEVER forget this interaction with a human equivalent of a papercut:
“So, are you getting the vaccine now that you’re pregnant?”
“No! I don’t know what it’ll do to my baby” (IMMEDIATELY takes a drag from a cigarette)
but she DOES know what cigarette smoking will do to her baby..see, there's a difference 😜
Simultaneously a Chinese bioweapon and just a cold
not just a bioweapon, but also manufactured by billgates as an implant from the illuminati AND also created by 5g radiation. it is in fact four incompatible things. /s
My husband who knows the extreme trauma and is devastated that I suffered so much from being a child victim of abuse and yet angrily defending Mormonism’s unapologetic declaration that clergy shouldn’t have to report abuse when a member confesses it. He’s a securities attorney with high morals and ethics and yet excuses the LDS church of hiding billions of dollars from the govt and their members in shell companies. He supports the homophobic religion despite the fact that he loves and accepts and supports his 2 queer daughters. He could be a case study on brainwashing
This OP is a stronger spouse than I could ever be, remaining married to such a hypocrite
Conversation I had with my former step dad:
Me: Ignorance is not knowing something, right?
Him: Yes.
Me: Willful ignorance is knowing you aren't informed but doing nothing to change it, right?
Him: Yes.
Me: So arent you being willfully ignorant about evolution by not bothering to research how it works?
Him: (instantly offended) Listen. I don't need to research evolution to know that it's impossible for a frog to transmutate into a bird.
Me: I agree, it's not possible. Transmutation isn't evolution, that's a term used for alchemy to change gold into silver and isn't mentioned in evolution at all. Real evolution takes millions of years and happens because of gradual changes in DNA.
Him: (storms off) I aint got time for this
Some subjects you can’t talk with some religious people about, they have chooses to be brainwashed and dumb. Nothing will ever change that.
An American flag next a Confederate flag. They were opposite sides of the same war
My neighbor flys a confederate flag and a trump flag. I just want to move
I had one of those neighbors, so I put up a Klingon flag. Got accused of being in a cult, and of course they didn't recognize the irony. 😂
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As a non-American, it baffles me to see people flying the Stars and Stripes and the confederate flag together. Like, do you want the states to be united, or do you want them to separate? How can you believe in both?
The worst part is they claim it's "heritage, not hate" but the heritage is all in hating black people and owning them. Definitely hate.
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The confederate flag should be designated as a symbol of hate. People who fly it are racists and stupid (their 'side' LOST)
Uhgg, my neighbors are prime example of this type of behavior. It's even worse considering we live next to. Gettysburg.
# 2 of Life's Little Lessons apply to most of these. "Do not be the sort of person you complaint about."
you mean like the german nazi flag and the german republic flag? or what? can you name some examples please...? I mean other than at the UN where they simply fly all flags?
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Republicans who spout homophobic rhetoric but then are found on Grindr.
My mother told me that many years ago, our family had the children taken and forced to go to a Catholic boarding school. She told me that they cut their hair, beat the kids if they spoke their native language, and forced them to read the Bible and forced out our native belief. The term I've heard is, "They sewed the Bible into their hands." They even outright m******d many kids while not telling the parents anything. I was already horrified, but then my mother told me that we're a Catholic family that believes in Jesus...
Person: I don't like black people because so many of them commit crimes and are in jail for dealing drugs.
Me: But your son got ten years for major drug dealing.
Person: Yeah, but that's different.
It's different. The black person would have received more than 10 years
My mother, an immigrant, talking about immigrants taking over our country
The type of mindset that desperate human beings are "illegal" because their paperwork isn't in order is f*****g gross.
People on government disability payments talking about cutting welfare
They're not talking about cutting 'their' welfare but other welfare like single parents, dole etc
LGBTQ people who vote republican.
(Although to be fair, I think it's more about class and race privilege for them. Still idiots, though.)
People complaining about other peoples driving while comitting the same errors but its ok because "they are in a hurry"
My ex-boyfriend's mother would sit on her front porch and complain about the neighbors. "Look at those busybodies, sitting on their porch gossiping about everybody. Did you hear that her daughter..."
She'd also insist her son drive her to the stores first thing after every holiday, so she could buy stuff half price "before the greedy people get there."
I admit I moan about the supermarket being really busy, my daughter points out that I'm one of those people.
Whole family dies from covid
*covid isn't real, God just decided it was time to bring them home*
When the pandemic started, a friend of mine got really obsessed with the fact that you can't leave your home or go near people without a mask etc.
Only thing is it never reflected in his own actions. He judged others but did not follow guidelines himself. He worked at a grocery store at the time and refused to wear a mask his boss told him to wear, meanwhile complaining about people coming to the store without masks and putting his health at risk.
Teachers supporting policy makers who want to cut education funding
SO's grandmother died this year, of cancer, that she had for 10 years. She refused to get treated, refused x-rays because she believed x-rays would give her cancer.
The year before the pandemic I moved to Germany and had visited home (US), I was going for a swim at the public rec center I used to frequent and ran into one of the regulars. Telling him about my move to go to grad school and how college in Germany is cheaper.
While sitting inside the public, city owned rec center, he says "they can just keep that socialist c**p to themselves."
My alcoholic husband who is completely off the rails and rapidly drinking himself to death and tearing my and our kids' hearts apart, sitting in his chair rambling on about how sorry he feels for a friend who is dealing with a loved one's drug addiction.
As an alcoholic I know from experience that he won't recognize it in himself until Alcohol or him being drunk does something to completely and utterly f**k up his life.
My parents are libertarian and hate the idea of socialism.
They constantly talk about how much they love the library.
dictatorships and tyranny that dictators and tyrannists try to pass off and label as communism isn't actually communism. It's just tyranny and dictatorships, masquerading as something else. A lot like religion actually.
I don't know, like 15 f*****g years ago there was a study or poll that came out that said that a higher % of college educated people watch comedy central than watch fox news.
And my mother has never, ever laid it down. Any time we discuss anything she accuses me of "getting my news from comedians", just because I use to watch Jon Stewart, and now occasionally watch John Oliver.
When the news dropped that Exxon had insider memos knowing they knew about climate change, and their hand in it, my mom and I had a discussion.
I cited articles from Reuters, Bloomberg, and the BBC.
My mom literally pulled up Exxon's website, and basically said "See? Exxon says it is fine and they are innocent", and then at the end of our discussion, still came at me for "getting my news from comedians", when I was the only one who actually cited a news source....
"there was a study or poll that came out that said that a higher % of college educated people watch comedy central than watch fox news." Comedy Central is less biased and often more accurate than Fox news.
Farmers who survive on government subsidies complaining about the “welfare state”
I hate some farmers. "I just want to make a living" meanwhile they have 3 50,000 dollar trucks millions of dollars in heavy equipment, enough food to feed their family for an entire life time in one sitting, but still they are barely getting by.
My mother showed me a snapshot from her own childhood that showed, in general, her father lying on a childs bed, her sitting next to him between him and the wall. Her brother sitting on the floor in front of the bed, playing with some toys:
"This is my favourite picture from my childhood! All my siblings always whining and claiming we were abused. It's such b******t. See? It's just a quiet, calm, happy snapshot of a perfectly normal family. Every time one of them starts up about being abused, I remember this snapshot and know that we were fine. Just fine!"
And so I looked at the picture and asked, "What about the handgun?"
Because my f*****g grandfather (the wildly violent, gambling, womanizing, utter piece of human garbage) was literally laying there in his kids' room with a handgun in his hand. We aren't Americans. So like... yeah. That s**t ain't normal.
She had been looking at that picture for HALF A CENTURY, always patting herself on the back that it was proof that her desperate need to insist everything was OK was in any way accurate, and never in all that time, had she apparently ever seen the handgun.
Mind blown.
Best part? Within a year, she tried to show me the picture again, again telling me about how it was her favourite and proof that her siblings were full of s**t...
So maybe she did see the gun.
anti-vaxxers dying of preventable diseases
thin out their numbers! https://getyarn.io/yarn-clip/f2d94771-a153-4381-a819-c76c19567172
A neighbour complaining about increasing homelessness and then talking about how she can barely afford her mortgage payments on her rental property ever since interest rates rose higher. "I'm not allowed to raise the rent past a certain amount so now I'm paying the mortgage out of my pocket!"
I met a woman whose brother was killed in combat in Iraq.
His pointless death made her....become even more of a Republican.
Because Nancy Pelosi didn't do enough to stop George W. Bush.
My family who constantly make fun of and poke holes in the doctrine of other religions. My family are all Mormons.
It's true of nearly all religions - "We're right, so everybody else is wrong". It's what made me realise, aged around 16, that my own beliefs could not be 'correct', cos that would make billions of other people, from hundreds of different versions of religions, all wrong and therefore condemned to hell. Yeah, right.
People that vote anti-a******n and then vote to eliminate free school lunches
My mom (who has admittedly come soooo far since this era) used to point out the “trashy” Russian ladies in the grocery store and say that they were using food stamps “paid for by her, and still have an attitude”
Meanwhile we literally were there purchasing groceries on WIC benefits lmao. Glad she’s overcome her issues there lol
In most cases you have to meet work requirements to qualify for food stamps. We need food stamps because companies don't want to pay their employees a living wage. Certain politicians side with the businesses over the common employee and say we shouldn't force a specific hourly wage or demand benefits because they're conducting business, which is theirs to run.
My uncle refuses to acknowledge or give credibility to ANYTHING animated.
"It's a f*****g cartoon it's not real!"
"So if we take the factual events of WWII and animate it, it's not real anymore?"
"Exactly!!!”
*Face palm*
Uncle starts watching "Once upon a time, Life" and suddenly his red blood cells disappear in a poof logic
Nepo babies who actually think they've gotten to where they are in life because they earned it by being so great when in fact their mommy got them the job.
Have a neighbor (in America) with some odd allergies note they prefer to by European market items because of better labeling and more strict control of what goes in the products. While they have their don’t tread on me flags and complaining about mistrusting the government.
Well sure, don't trust the US government. Some other governments are ok.
Working class tory voters.
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'cognitive dissonance' is a term used in psychology to refer to a stare of inner distress at being unable to reconcile two opposing beliefs held simultaneously. I don't think the ppl in most of these examples are experiencing distress, but rather are suffering from denial or ignorance. Perhaps the post should be retitled "disturbing examples of everyday hypocrisy".
You actually expect a BP "author" to use correct words now????? They can't even post actual facts! LOL!!! (You're 100% right, of course).
Load More Replies... There is a word from George Orwell 1984 that applies to all of these. The word is "doublethink". Which means holding two opposing opinions at the same time without seeing the conflict between them.
Sadly, a lot of 1984 has come horribly true. Publishers are literally rewriting new editions of books to remove forbidden words. The worst dystopian fears of the esrly to mid 20th century have been realised and exceeded and nobody seems to be concerned.
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People who talk environment issues but then waste them like they are going out of fashion, you know, like the 'celebs' who are always spouting green this and that but fly in private jets to a birthday party while telling everyone else they shouldn't travel.
My parents drilled into me that I should pursue a career with full union benefits. And I did. Whenever I use my PT0 or FMLA my mother delivers unto me all levels of hypocrisy that I'll lose my job, that I should be at work etc. etc. Cripe lady, this is the benefit of the career you jerks led me too!
I just came to say, not all Republicans are delusional crazed hypocrites. I'm more right than left, but I wholeheartedly believe women should be in control of their own bodies. And most importantly, I CANNOT stand Trump.
I would've never clicked this link if I knew how ultra political and hateful it was... 😳
I saw a woman wearing a shirt that said, "Keep the GOVERNMENT out of my MEDICAID!" Like, ma'am, I'm not sure where you think Medicaid comes from, but I have some news for you that's going to blow your mind.
When my "flat earther" friend uses NASA satellite imagery to "prove" that the wildfires in Canada were set intentionally.
people whining that THEY just take a few pictures and a few short clips at concerts and then put their phones away. Yeah just like 95% of the people with phones at concerts. You're part of the problem.
The sad thing about these 50 items is so many of our friends, neighbors, co-workers, family and maybe ourselves fall into these levels of B.S. No scientific or psychological examinations/explanations are going to change these wise "Thunkers"
This article is nothing more than a liberal echo chamber with fictional stories. The majority of these are just people lying to take an jab at those who oppose their views.
'cognitive dissonance' is a term used in psychology to refer to a stare of inner distress at being unable to reconcile two opposing beliefs held simultaneously. I don't think the ppl in most of these examples are experiencing distress, but rather are suffering from denial or ignorance. Perhaps the post should be retitled "disturbing examples of everyday hypocrisy".
You actually expect a BP "author" to use correct words now????? They can't even post actual facts! LOL!!! (You're 100% right, of course).
Load More Replies... There is a word from George Orwell 1984 that applies to all of these. The word is "doublethink". Which means holding two opposing opinions at the same time without seeing the conflict between them.
Sadly, a lot of 1984 has come horribly true. Publishers are literally rewriting new editions of books to remove forbidden words. The worst dystopian fears of the esrly to mid 20th century have been realised and exceeded and nobody seems to be concerned.
Load More Replies... People who talk environment issues but then waste them like they are going out of fashion, you know, like the 'celebs' who are always spouting green this and that but fly in private jets to a birthday party while telling everyone else they shouldn't travel.
My parents drilled into me that I should pursue a career with full union benefits. And I did. Whenever I use my PT0 or FMLA my mother delivers unto me all levels of hypocrisy that I'll lose my job, that I should be at work etc. etc. Cripe lady, this is the benefit of the career you jerks led me too!
I just came to say, not all Republicans are delusional crazed hypocrites. I'm more right than left, but I wholeheartedly believe women should be in control of their own bodies. And most importantly, I CANNOT stand Trump.
I would've never clicked this link if I knew how ultra political and hateful it was... 😳
I saw a woman wearing a shirt that said, "Keep the GOVERNMENT out of my MEDICAID!" Like, ma'am, I'm not sure where you think Medicaid comes from, but I have some news for you that's going to blow your mind.
When my "flat earther" friend uses NASA satellite imagery to "prove" that the wildfires in Canada were set intentionally.
people whining that THEY just take a few pictures and a few short clips at concerts and then put their phones away. Yeah just like 95% of the people with phones at concerts. You're part of the problem.
The sad thing about these 50 items is so many of our friends, neighbors, co-workers, family and maybe ourselves fall into these levels of B.S. No scientific or psychological examinations/explanations are going to change these wise "Thunkers"
This article is nothing more than a liberal echo chamber with fictional stories. The majority of these are just people lying to take an jab at those who oppose their views.
