“I Started To Like Pink Again”: 50 Women Recall The Instant They Just Knew He Was ‘The One’
Interview With ExpertSometimes, you see a couple and just know they’re perfect together. It’s that effortless connection, the way they laugh at each other’s jokes, or just the way they look at one another. And it makes you wonder, how did they know they had found the one? Well, today, we’re diving into exactly that!
Someone on TikTok asked, “Women who are happily married, when did you know your husband was the one?” And the internet delivered—with a whopping 26.8 thousand replies filled with sweet, unexpected, and downright heart-melting moments. Keep reading to see what these women had to say!
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On our first date he stopped on the freeway to help a kitten when he got back in the car I said “wow you must really like cats!” He said “actually no I’m allergic but if I can help I do” he’s the most generous loving person I’ve ever met. 💕
When my abusive dad was yelling at me and he took my hand walked out of the house with me and said "I will never let him speak to you like that ever again"
Instead of worrying about him cheating, you're worried about him dying.
This. I'm a very strong, independent woman who was single for decades by choice. Now I can't imagine life without him.
Sometimes, when you see a couple, they look like they’ve walked straight out of a romantic movie. They’re completely in sync, finishing each other’s sentences, sharing secret smiles, and just radiating that we’re-perfect-together energy. It’s the kind of love that makes you wonder—how did they know? What was the exact moment they realized they had found the one?
And as any good love story tells you, there’s always a sign that points you toward the right person. Sure, you could take a compatibility test or analyze star signs, but isn’t it more intriguing to hear real stories of how people just knew? Whether it was a tiny moment of kindness, an unexpected connection, or a simple realization that they never wanted to be apart, these signs are what make love stories truly special.
He tried to find my cat and looked under every car in the neighborhood and sent me photos “is she luna” all night long (imagine how many cats are in İstanbul)
Sounds like a very sweet and generous person but if this ever happens again, please give him a photo or description of the cat.
I felt at peace every time i saw him. No stress, no anxiety, no butterflies.
This. I'm an introvert and I never felt the "drain" when I was with him, We're married 16 years now
When my dad was fighting for his life with neuro cancer my husband (boyfriend of only 3 months at the time) sat outside in the waiting room for hours everyday to support us during our worst days ❤️🩹
To understand more about these little yet powerful signs, we spoke with relationship coach Ketki Bedekar. With experience working with over 500 clients, she has guided many couples through their journey, helping them navigate love, connection, and the ups and downs of relationships. She shared her insights on how people recognize the one and what truly makes a relationship last.
I asked myself a question “do i want my kid to have a father like him?, do i want my daughter to have a partner like him? Do i want to have a son like him?” The answer is absolutely Yes.
He adopted my down syndrome little sister after my parents passed away.
I'm guessing that they both adopted the little sister and not just the boyfriend/husband?
I noticed myself becoming softer because I felt safer, seen, heard, cared for, there was more laughter, dancing, creating, praying and growing.
Ketki explains, "When I work with couples, a big part of the process is looking back at their past. Understanding where the relationship started often gives us clarity on where it’s headed. Many times, couples are struggling in the present, but when we discuss the early days, they reconnect with the emotions that brought them together in the first place."
when he looked me in the eye and said “loving you isn’t hard, it’s a privilege” and i believed him. (13 years together 🥰)
Oooh. Quite like that one. Good chat up line after twenty years with my other half!
He drove 18 hours to take me in a date, returned 5 times more. At the end of each one of his stays, he took me to the grocery store to stock up my fridge (i was a single mom)
"We talk about how they met, how their bond grew, and the little moments that made them fall for each other," she continues. "It’s always fascinating to see how much of love isn’t about grand gestures, but about those tiny, meaningful moments that make all the difference."
When his actions spoke louder than any words I’d ever been told before. He continuously kept showing up for me & loving me in ways I would have never thought to ask for💌 it will feel RIGHT I promise
i got covid and he came over in a hazmat suit with all my fave food and gifts, took care of me all night and cleaned my room 😭
"One of the most common things I hear from couples is how much they appreciated the little things. You’d think it’s always about something big—like an extravagant date or a once-in-a-lifetime trip—but often, it’s something small."
"The way their partner laughed, how they always saved the last bite for them, or how they instinctively reached for their hand in a crowded place. Love is built in these everyday moments."
When I met him he was pretty deep with alcohol, I never asked him to stop drinking or to change anything. He stopped drinking and changed everything to be the best version of himself. He’s amazing
When I met his friends, family and colleages and everyone knew everything about me, it felt like I was immediately part of them 😭
He’d buy food for EACH homeless person we encountered & talked to them. He also helped EVERY INSECT AND ANIMAL in the streets. Literally put a worm on the side of the street so no one would step on it
"It’s those simple things that make you realize you’ve found something special," she adds. "When your partner feels like home, when their happiness becomes as important as your own, when you feel a sense of peace just being around them—that’s when you know. It’s not always fireworks and grand confessions; sometimes, it’s just knowing deep down that you wouldn’t want to go through life without this person."
peace. just like that. he’s making my life easier, happier. no drama, no stress, no crying myself to sleep. just peace 💗
When I met him, he felt like home. I felt like I was being embraced by the arms of my loving parents.. idk how to explain it.
Exactly! All my life crazy homesickness if I wasn’t with immediate family but never with him, he is my home (married almost 5 months together 7 years). We were long distance so it mattered a lot!
If I cough in the middle of the night he wakes and pats my back and asks if I’m okay. He never remembers, it’s just muscle memory 🥹
I'll be sitting be there quietly on my laptop, when MrTribble, lightly jolted from sleep, will suddenly mumble something polite like "I'm sorry, I didn't catch that" or "I'll make you a cup of tea in a minute". He'll sometimes go right back to sleep. It's fascinating how courteous and considerate he remains when not even fully conscious!
"I once had a couple who told me they realized they were meant to be when they discovered they both had a habit of making up ridiculous songs for everyday things," she laughs. "It sounds silly, but it was their thing, a connection that was uniquely theirs. These small, seemingly insignificant moments are often the strongest signs that you’ve found your person."
When i had a deep sense of confidence that no matter what, he wasn’t going anywhere. That deep feeling of security. I had never felt that before.
This one is interesting. Speaking as a man here. I have never been in a relationship where I felt like love was unconditional. And when I speak with therapists, they tell me the same thing. Romantic love is conditional. I wonder about creating this burden of unconditional love sets up an unrealistic expectation. Even for me and my girlfriend, I can tell by the way she looks at me that she loves me, and I honestly love her. But I'm pretty sure if I started being a jerk, or got in the way of her relationship with her kids, she'd split (and rightfully so).
Not my story, but my client said: “I looked at him & had this feeling that I knew I wanted our future daughter to know what it feels like to be loved by him & our son to be raised by him” 😭
Idk why but the wording of this really irks me. Wouldn't you want both your son(s) and daughter(s) to be raised and loved by him?
I never asked, never begged. He never made me feel stressed or questioned. He is patient with me and loves me the way I am. He gave me the peace I had been dreaming of
"There are always signs," she concludes. "Sometimes they’re obvious, like an instant connection or an undeniable chemistry. Other times, they sneak up on you, hidden in the way your partner remembers your coffee order or how they check if you got home safely. Love isn’t about finding the one perfect person—it’s about recognizing the person who feels perfect for you."
Not married, but engaged. During the dating stage I never felt anxious waiting for a text back or scheduling. He made me feel so secure from the very beginning 🫶🏻
I saw a comment that said “I started to like pink again” and that is it. When I realized this guy was taking care of me in ways which allowed me to make time to tap into my femininity.
I felt this 100. Ive never been a touchy feely person. I didnt like people touching me or hugs. But with him im constantly wanting to cuddle with him or touch him.
When they care about your feelings more than anything and would sacrifice anything for you. They put in effort to meet your love language every day and want to protect you and provide. They apologize
Hm, this is difficult. I don't want a person-doormat, who would drop friends or family for me, or get into the debt. I want a partner, who will accept my request, and then discuss it with me, if it is irrational/illogical, rather than running to sacrifice his left kidney because I asked for designer house (not that I would ask one, too much work taking care of it)
Well, if nothing else, these stories are a sweet reminder that love is real and that the one might just be out there for you, too. Maybe all you need to do is wait for a sign or notice the little moments that are already happening. Do these posts remind you of someone? Share them with that special person!
He planned thoughtful dates fourteen nights in a row after our first date. He said he didn’t want to give any other man a chance to see me. We’ve been together ever since.
If that were to happen to me today, I'm not so sure that I could handle going out on a date, every single day for 2 weeks straight. Maybe if every other date is a nap/cuddle/movie at home kinda thing, then I might survive. Haha
When I started to be completely vulnerable and let my guard down on all topics and realized he still loved me and maybe loved me even more for being so honest!
I didn’t have to beg for bare minimum. He is always intentional & says things like “how can I take the load of off you.” 🥹 in our talking stage he was never disingenuous & always followed through.
No bad gut feeling. No anxiety. No back and forth. It just logically, spiritually, and emotionally felt right
It’s when you meet them and you don’t really question if they are the one because the shoe just fits. You feel safe and they love you to the core of who you are. It’s a look on their face.
It was immediate. Our first conversation felt like we time warped into another dimension where only the two of us existed and our souls aligned.
I was giving him a spa night and was giving him a facial. While I was massaging his face he started bawling and said he never thought God would bless him so much and he was so grateful✨
Once, my partner was gone earlier to bed than me, I came in and tucked the sides of his cover under him (like you would do with kids). He, a sturdy mountain of man, started crying, "Nobody was ever that nice, soft, considerate with me in the last... 40 years. My mom used to do this when I was small."
When i accidentally opened his notes app and saw two years worth of notes of things he loved about me & of all the good memories he had of him & my family. (We’re married & have a son now❤️)
When he made me realize that he was the first man to ever make me feel completely safe, loved, and truly happy. 5 years of unconditional love and everytime he walks in the door I feel peace🙏🏽🤍
He knew i struggled with some trust issues du to previous experience,toxic stories so he made me handle his phone during the first date and made me guess the passeword, it was my birthday from then❤️
On our first date. He was so soft spoken but made me laugh so much. I felt an overwhelming amount of contentment and calmness I had ever felt. I texted my sisters “Omg guys I found my husband”
As someone who is always very anxious and pessimistic; everything about him was easy going, familiar, and safe 🥺
When we started dating, he woke up at 5am, left house at 5:45, so he could arrive at my house at 6:30 and sat outside and waited me till whenever I want (7 or 7:15) so he could drive me to work 😌
I had to read this twice lol, because i was initially confused why he would wake up early, leave (your) house to only then wait outside... Sorry my brain did not comprehend him leaving his house instead.. LOL
When we had a tough time he said “don’t worry, i’ll make everything possible for you, just trust me.”
i become a girly girl, i used to be a boy in every relationship i had back then.
Since the day he came to my life he started taking the weight off my plate. Made life easy for me 🥺
Where can I find a man who will take my weight? Not just off a plate but all the excess weight off of me. It would definitely make my life easier and all this time I thought diet and exercise was key. 🤦🏻♀️
When I heard him praying over me while he thought I was sleeping. I don't even say such detailed prayers for myself.
He has the mentality of us vs the problem. He always validated my feelings and tries to talk it out instead of avoiding or attacking me
We were dating for 6 months when he got an amazing offer in another country. He was willing to let it slip to be with me but I told him to do what’s best for his future. So he proposed and we moved 💕
If you feel peace in everything: money, household, relatives… it’s him. He will always protect you
Whenever im stressed especially when i have finals and projects due , he would stay up all night just to make study guides and flashcards for me so i can wake up with more time to study. I love him🤍
When he slept on the floor of the ICU for a week while I was recovering. He wouldn’t leave my side until one of my parents was there with me.
I hate staying in the hospital, I attract medical mistakes, but he came before and stayed after visiting hours as much as he could get away with - just made sure he was there if there was any possible time I didn’t have to be alone. My bf (now husband) washing my hair for me in the hospital is a very special memory for the both of us.
I used to be a huge kpop fan, esp. Girls Generation. My ex-bf (before my hubby) always tell me that all the merchandises i owned was pointless & encouraged me to sell it - which I eventually did. Fast forward when I met my husband - every time I shared my love for kpop not only he was excited, and he told me “please don’t sell what’s left - I want our future daughter to share what you love”.
He asked me if he wanted to go to NYC for our first date, I asked him: isn't it difficult to drive in NYC? He told me: I do it all the time, don't worry. After a while I realized that he actually hated driving in NYC, but he only did it to make me happy, since then he continues to do things that even if he doesn't like it, he does it just to make me happy.
not married yet (sept 14th!) but when I was at my absolute lowest mentally- he picked me up and bathed me, dressed me, and prayed over me. I didn’t ask - I knew then 👩🏽❤️👨🏾🤍
When he made me feel loved without trying. When i no longer had to translate every thought or feeling I had. I knew when I was with him I was understood and seen for everything I am. And for once I wasn’t too much, I was simply enough.
we were only dating a few months at the time. Covid almost took me out. This man was my caretaker during that time and never left my side. Hes always showed up for me and remains my calm during the
When I started to be so caring and loving and in my full feminine energy and at peace and all he do is work hard for me and our family even stress he took it away from me
I started liking bright colors on me
As an 'always black clothes' girl, wearing a bright red t-shirt at the moment, I can relate!
He just popped up in my life on one random day, out of nowhere with no mutual connections. I talked with him for 20 minutes and felt like I had known him for 20 years.
When i found a whole book written by him of how much he loved me and how he can be a better man,to help me with my traumas, also a promise to himself “to give her the life she always dreamed of” 🥺
He made me feel at HOME. He made me feel loved , understood and seen ❤️❤️. ( I am not actually married nor in a relationship , I’m just speaking it into existence)
He’s always put me #1, never made me doubt our relationship. He is my safest person. He is so so gentel. Most importantly, he saved me from darkness.We’re getting married this august 💖
i always thought love was only fire & thrills. my exes were that. but love is also calm & peace. my husband shows me both passion & safety🤍
He always talk calmly even when he is mad. He will take a breath sit down ask me to sit, will start to talk calmly. Also auper clean and organized. Opposite attracts
I’ve found the one person who brings out my inner child in the safest most fun ways, always wants to have the difficult conversations that old me would run from. You don’t do that w anyone.
For the first time in my life, I felt comfortable with needing someone. I allowed him to take care of me. I finally was able to let my feminine energy free. My soul felt safe.
We’re currently engaged, I knew he was the one when he video called me at Sephora to shop makeup for me, I’m dark skin and I could hear him describe my skin tone to the sales rep.
I’ve been in love. But he makes me feel like I’ve never being loved before, I’m a completely diferente woman since I meet him, more kind and feminine, relax and cherish
we were 18/19...the first time we ever got to be alone together instead of making
advances at me like others, he pulled his phone out so we could play chess, he's really good at it-
We where in New York City I had gotten my period and was having extreme cramps he found me pads and medicine and comforted me on the train ride home so much that I fell asleep we were teenagers
Several reasons: he listened, made me a better person, those butterflies went away, I started to like pink, smile more often, set boundaries, appreciate my parents and started to love them more…
I started to fall in love with myself and life again and he is the only man I’ve ever wanted marriage and kids with. He single handedly put me back together after being shattered by friends, family and toxic past relationships for my whole life prior. We aren’t married or even engaged yet, but after 2 months of dating I knew he was the one for me. About to celebrate 4 years together. I’ve never met a more patient, kind, loving and understanding man, I truly thought they didn’t exist or that I was worthy of having such a man, until him 🥹
I knew it in the moment he looked me with those big brown eyes and told me I was the smartest most beautiful person he’s ever met
From the jump he took me out of dates instead of just “hanging out” when it was cold and snowy outside he made a pathway with his foot prints so I didn’t have to walk through all the snow 😂
When I realized that he does everything to make my life easier and not harder, and i seen him cry in prayers for me❤️
He literally did anything just to be with me. I insisted at first, but he proved his love over and over again, even leaving his toxic parents behind (who wanted him to marry another woman which is their friends’ daughter), just to be with me. He fly alone to my parents’ house (who live in another island) to ask their permission to marry me. My dad refused at first because of his toxic parents but he managed to convice my father. Now we’ve been together for 15 years and we have a son. 💕
he actually apologized for his mistakes & changed, just peaceful, no drama, and treats me like the queen i am, since 17/18, we’re now 25/26 y/o
Waited until marriage and pursued me all the way. Never pushed me or rushed. Very respectful patient and good to my family. Very slow burn which is what I never knew I needed so badly
If I could, I'd personally thank each of these men for being great, it's totally NOT the standard today. My one goal in life is making some girl/woman feel this way. I often feel like I have too much love in me and no one to give it to.
I wish I hadn't suffered through 24 years of abuse thinking I'd found "the one". It feels like it's a bit too late (I'm 43 now) but maybe I'll be able to find someone again. I just hope he likes dogs. And cats XD
It's never too late ^^ Good luck with your healing!
Load More Replies...The moment I saw him I thought "I want to marry this man". We didn't speak to each other, we didn't know each other. I went to work that day and after work he was waiting for me. He asked me to drink a coffee together. This was 20 years ago and we are 19 years happily married.
When he first came to visit me in the flat I was sharing he noticed a shelf was broken. I said we were going to get it fixed as soon as we worked out how! The next time he came he brought a bag of tools and fixed it for us.
When I sprained my ankle, we lived in a rental that had a bathroom only on the first floor. Our living space was up 1 flight of carpeted stairs. He saw me struggling to go up and down with the crutches so he decided that it was safer for him to just carry me…my (now) husband carried me down then back up for 7 straight days (when he was home) until my ankle healed up enough I could go without the crutches. Any doubts I had before that were absolutely silenced afterwards.
This felt so much better for my soul than what regularly pops up
Technically he's a talking stage or a situationship right now but i really don't care what the label is because he's just him. We've been friends for about 2 or 3 years and just about 3 weeks ago i cried at praise and worship on a retreat, he just held me for the rest of the time and when it ended i was still cuddled up against him and he just held me. I half sat up and he moved my hair behind my ear and asked if i was okay. I said yes but he stuck close to me for the rest of the weekend. Ever since then, we've been hanging out all the time and he's just so sweet and caring. But the moment i knew i would spend forever with him was when he asked if i was okay. He didn't rush me and it was so sweet and intimate and i just felt like he cared. It was instinctual too, like i was crying and he just wanted to make me feel safe.
For me, it was when we were apart. I was out with friends one night and I saw something happen that I thought was hilarious, and all that I could think about was how much Tom would have laughed at it and I couldn't wait to tell him about it.
Aw, this was so nice to read! We get a lot of the dating stories that make people of sense want to apply for permanent hermit status, so this was a really nice reminder that some people have wonderful experiences too.
So does this mean that romance is actually a real thing? Like, the stuff you see in manga and movies can occasionally be found in real life? I'm 48 and have never been in love - never had the opportunity. Never dated in school (no guys ever made a move), became disabled at 20 and pretty much lost my life because of it. So, no boyfriends, no husband, no relationships, no kids, no career, no purpose, really. I finally had my first kiss when I was 35 and lost my v-card at 41 thanks to a random pity hook-up with a pizza delivery guy. My greatest fear is dying alone, except for my cats, who will have to feast on my body in the month it'll take for my landlord to find me. It's why I've come to loathe romance as a genre because... nothing that nice could be real, right? I used to have a pessimistic shell over a tender optimistic core, but I think that core has shriveled up into a bitter little pea.
If I could, I'd personally thank each of these men for being great, it's totally NOT the standard today. My one goal in life is making some girl/woman feel this way. I often feel like I have too much love in me and no one to give it to.
I wish I hadn't suffered through 24 years of abuse thinking I'd found "the one". It feels like it's a bit too late (I'm 43 now) but maybe I'll be able to find someone again. I just hope he likes dogs. And cats XD
It's never too late ^^ Good luck with your healing!
Load More Replies...The moment I saw him I thought "I want to marry this man". We didn't speak to each other, we didn't know each other. I went to work that day and after work he was waiting for me. He asked me to drink a coffee together. This was 20 years ago and we are 19 years happily married.
When he first came to visit me in the flat I was sharing he noticed a shelf was broken. I said we were going to get it fixed as soon as we worked out how! The next time he came he brought a bag of tools and fixed it for us.
When I sprained my ankle, we lived in a rental that had a bathroom only on the first floor. Our living space was up 1 flight of carpeted stairs. He saw me struggling to go up and down with the crutches so he decided that it was safer for him to just carry me…my (now) husband carried me down then back up for 7 straight days (when he was home) until my ankle healed up enough I could go without the crutches. Any doubts I had before that were absolutely silenced afterwards.
This felt so much better for my soul than what regularly pops up
Technically he's a talking stage or a situationship right now but i really don't care what the label is because he's just him. We've been friends for about 2 or 3 years and just about 3 weeks ago i cried at praise and worship on a retreat, he just held me for the rest of the time and when it ended i was still cuddled up against him and he just held me. I half sat up and he moved my hair behind my ear and asked if i was okay. I said yes but he stuck close to me for the rest of the weekend. Ever since then, we've been hanging out all the time and he's just so sweet and caring. But the moment i knew i would spend forever with him was when he asked if i was okay. He didn't rush me and it was so sweet and intimate and i just felt like he cared. It was instinctual too, like i was crying and he just wanted to make me feel safe.
For me, it was when we were apart. I was out with friends one night and I saw something happen that I thought was hilarious, and all that I could think about was how much Tom would have laughed at it and I couldn't wait to tell him about it.
Aw, this was so nice to read! We get a lot of the dating stories that make people of sense want to apply for permanent hermit status, so this was a really nice reminder that some people have wonderful experiences too.
So does this mean that romance is actually a real thing? Like, the stuff you see in manga and movies can occasionally be found in real life? I'm 48 and have never been in love - never had the opportunity. Never dated in school (no guys ever made a move), became disabled at 20 and pretty much lost my life because of it. So, no boyfriends, no husband, no relationships, no kids, no career, no purpose, really. I finally had my first kiss when I was 35 and lost my v-card at 41 thanks to a random pity hook-up with a pizza delivery guy. My greatest fear is dying alone, except for my cats, who will have to feast on my body in the month it'll take for my landlord to find me. It's why I've come to loathe romance as a genre because... nothing that nice could be real, right? I used to have a pessimistic shell over a tender optimistic core, but I think that core has shriveled up into a bitter little pea.
